During the summer I work early a.m. for the majority of my lines usually 4 9 a.m.

AMEN Eileen!! That's why I work like I do also (sm) [2008-08-04]
However, in the 17 years I I've always gotten up, had a shower and gotten dressed ... transcribing in my PJs would just lead to depression I think ... I made showering and dressing a priority when I first had babies too ... especially after I read that new moms who didn't take time to do that small step had more problems with PPD. I try to get some sunshine every single day too, even if it However, I need to find more time to exercise but I It's so easy to let yourself go but I've always scheduled manicures, etc. at least monthly and try not to make transcribing my life (some weeks it's harder than others).

SAHM wanting to work. [2008-05-15]
I currently work prn as a Radiology Transcriptionist and would like to contribute more to the family income by working from home doing this. I have applied to several places and on here and don't hear anything back. Whats the deal, and what do I have to do to get hired?

Don't work for them... [2008-04-11]
but was offered a position, accepted the position, did not hear back for a couple days, emailed them again, and got a response that the position was filled. Thanks for nothing.

?'s about balancing work and kids [2008-04-02]
I would love to hear what others do in the same situation... In the past few months I have picked up more work. I am now working a minimum of 5-6 hours a day although usually more. I figure if I have to I can most of the time get my work done in 5-6 hours. So... I have a 2 yo, 9 yo, and 10 yo. My job is flexible. I can work the hours as wish as long as I get my required work done. I have two dilemmas... Summer vacation: All kids home. Will be bringing older two to a summer camp from 9-12 daily. It involves getting them up and ready from about 8-9 and dropping them off. Will be back by about 9:15. I will still have the 2 yo. Of course, I would also love to have some free time to spend with my kids in the summer (is this asking too much?). So it would be ideal to get my hours in as early as possible and have some time in the afternoon free. I also don I am thinking maybe getting up super early, maybe getting a sitter in the morning? Anyone else in this situation? Then, return to school in the fall...The older two will be in school so that part of the dilemma is solved. My 2 yo will be attending preschool 2 mornings. I am thinking maybe getting someone to watch her in the afternoons. Maybe a nanny? Anyone have any experience with nannies? Where do I look? Any help would be GREATLY appreciated. I am sure there are others who have been in these situations. I like hearing about what other MT Any hints, advice, tips, etc are great.

work and kids [2008-04-02]
Is working at night an option? I have a 12 yo, 9 yo, 6 yo, and 4 yo. In the summer I have to do most of my work at night because they are all home. You might try a splitting it up - working a few hours in the morning and then a few hours at night. It definitely can be challenging but it can be done! Good luck to you!

During the summer I work early a.m. for the majority of my lines usually 4-9 a.m. [2008-04-02]
If I have not hit my line count, I typically pick up the rest at night after the kids are in bed. We do the day camp, summer activities and classes, swim lessons, etc., but I could never get into a good rhythm in the short periods between getting everyone ready to go and playing chauffeur all day long. It really is easier for me to split my shift and work when there are not other things going on.

we lived with his parents one summer [2008-03-29]
and he did exactly nothing to help around her house. i remember when we were dating, his mom used to bark at him and his brother to do the chores but he would always wait until the last minute to do them. we had an apartment when i was pregnant the first time and he was the same way then -- but i was also a very nagging girlfriend and super depressed back then. we separated because we felt living together was hurting us. now i feel i've improved, i don't complain about anything ever and i'm very forgiving, but he seems to have gotten worse and almost expects me to do everything like it's common sense or something. his mom is very critical too however, the way he speaks to me, she speaks to her husband... i wish he'd paid attention to his stepdad growing up because that man is suzy homemaker, lemme tell ya. on top of working overtime, he still finds the energy to help keep the house clean, care for the dog, do all the lawncare and volunteer his time. my hubs just sits around it seems... and then calls me lazy. i found a local moms club but i'm afraid to ask him for the 20 bucks it costs to be a member because any money i ever want to spend, he thinks is a worthless purchase. needless to say, i've armed myself with the advice of suze orman and as soon as i start working, i'm opening my own bank account. right now everything is in his name and i have no access to any of it. granted i was a bad spender in the past but i'm much better at that now. i don't buy a single thing without asking him first. his mom also did everything for his 21-y/o brother who just moved out... to his dad's. ha. i guess the most extreme measure i could take would be to stop doing everything for him -- stop cooking for him, stop doing his laundry, and stop washing the dishes he uses. think that would make him realize he was taking me for granted? i don't mind doing all these things, i just don't want him on my back if i miss something every now and then. the chores i can handle, the criticism i can't.

Did not work for my 2-year-old... [2008-01-31]
He just gets himself all worked up and throws up all night long if we are not careful. We have gone through a few nights with no blankets as they were either being washed or waiting to be washed. our 1-year-old hasn't done this yet, but he doesn't have the tummy issues the older one has.

I do!!!!! Or I would have taken on work outside the house. [2008-01-30]

Can you do 24 hours of work in a day? [2008-01-19]
I am being given 2-3 days worth of work in 1 day.

You are right, and no one can should be expected to work a schedule of 20+ hours of work in 1 day or [2008-01-19]
work 7 days a week. Especially when you have children at home, who are more important to you than all of the money in the world and any career in the world. The one thing a parent will regret most in life would be not being devoted to the love and care of their children.

NO, she cannot subcontract work if client says NO [2008-01-18]
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I work at home for my kids [2008-01-18]
They are the whole reason I work from home. Also, I donchildren, not adults. When I prayed for them, decided to have them, I knew they would need constant care, love, dedication, etc. They are my responsibility and I desire to spend time with them and watch them grow. My problem is I have a client who, when they contracted with me, new my situation, new I was a mom working from home. My circumstances haven't changed. I am still the same person, doing more work than I did when I started, loyal to a fault, hard worker. The client's situation has changed. They are producing more work than 2 MT's can do in one day and they are the ones who don't want to do anything about it.

mt work... [2008-01-14]
Maybe you could do your other job and then work on your MT job for awhile to get your speed up? Your husband cannot have it both ways..he needs to allow you to get going and it takes time. Email me if you like....we can chat...

How about ADVICE..not advise..too early here.. [2008-01-08]

Work from home [2007-10-29]
While I was in school, I found this site to be helpful: www.ewomanweb.com It has tons of information related to working from home.

Honest work from home job. [2007-10-24]
I am currently doing a Transcription course from home, its taking longer to complete than I thought. Can anyone give me info. on honest at home work?

I did as you are doing , work while naps and - sm [2007-09-27]
at night. No I did not get a lot of sleep and was pretty tired most of the time. I would basically work 9pm-2am; and during naps (unless I napped too due to exhaustion). I did not make much then; still don that is about all I did then. I was a newbie and doing acute care, though some days I did more than 500 lines, just those were rare. If you czn do that then that should be an extra $800 or so a month which should be helpful....but don't forget about taxes. Good luck.

work from home [2007-09-26]
I have been working for a transcription company for a year with on the job training. The company hassincegone downhill as to accounts have gone elsewhere and other things. I am looking for any ideas as to a company that would hire me. I am a stay at home mom trying to make some money and take care of her family. Any suggestions.

work [2007-09-10]
I have 4 children. My two older ones 8 and 5 are in school and get home at 3 and i have a almost 3 year old and 1 year old at home with me all day. You have to make priorities when it comes to work. I know about the feeling guilty but if you have your room all set up that the kids can play while you are working you need to work. Even if you just do an hour, play with them for an hour, then go back to typing for an hour. That is the only way you will get anything done.

Legit work at home sites [2007-07-31]
Liveops.com is a legitmate site and so is West Telemarketing (http://www.workathomeagent.com/default.asp) for work at home inbound telephone agents. I was a supervisor years agofor West when we lived in San Antonio. I supplement my income with Liveops currently and once you get your talk time (your are paid for actual talk time, 25 cents perminute--not wait time) up you can average about 15 an hour.Call volume is high on weekends, evenings, and early a.m. You take inbound orders for those 1-800 and 1-888 infomercials you see on television. It is extremely easy because you read from scripted screens using your own computer. For liveops, you must have an analog dedicated phone line. You don These are IC positions and they both offer free direct deposit of your pay checks. The training process for livesops takes longer and is more detailed than West plus liveops requires you to pay $30 for a background check. West does a background check but they do not charge you. They do a background check for credit card fraud because you will have access to credit card information from callers.Good luck!!

work sites [2007-07-18]
I was able to unsubscribe, but I had to call them. It was no problem. They took me right off and quit billing me.

I have used this site and found real work a real work at home job. [2007-07-09]
Hi, Before I started doing Medical Transcription I used this website and found it useful in many ways as well as getting a work at home job through the site.They are a Christian owned company and down to earth. I also liked that they were upfront and honest about things. Here is the website: http://www.workathomeaffiliation.com I hope it helps out. Kay Professional Medical Transcriptionist

Are there any work at home jobs [2007-07-05]
besides transcription out there that are not some kind of con?? I really would like to supplement my income, without having to do more transcription, a few hours a week. Thanks for any info if there is any. Have a great evening

I went through the same thing last summer [2007-05-30]
and decided I wasnMommy and all that good stuff and vowed that we were not going there again! I am going to spend the days with my kids! Good luck figuring out what works best for you. I truly know where you're coming from. I'm 41 with a 6 and 7 yo.

Teenage neighbor problem [2008-08-29]
I am a WAHM of a 14 YOG. I live in an upstairs flat. Downstairs is a single father of a 15 YOG. My daughter goes to regular school. The teenager downstairs does cyberschool. The problem: Her dad goes to work all day and of course she is left home alone. Her laptop is on a wireless router that gets signal throughout the house. She does her schoolwork everywhere, at all hours of the day and night, including at my house while I am trying to work!! Her father thinks its great that she can just go upstairs and I can help her with her work anytime. I live in such close quarters I don If this family lived a couple of houses down, it may be different. I have my own child I need to worry about with schoolwork and quite honestly, I think he should be the one helping his own child, not me. Any advice?

MDI-MD... [2008-08-12]
Check out MDI-MD out of Baltimore, Maryland. I have been with them since April of this year after leaving Medquist and very happy with them so far. Part-time is 700 lines a day or full-time at 1200 lines (but can do more - you tell them how many lines you want) and you have a 24-hour period to complete your work, no set schedule. Love it!

No regrets however my kids are now older (sm) [2008-08-04]
so I I liked being available for them (still do) during school holidays, summer time, those days when they're sick, etc. and wouldn't have traded it for the world. I don What I like best about doing this from home is the flexibility I have to schedule doctor's appointments, manicures, etc. Good luck!

Wanting to switch companies [2008-07-27]
I am an experienced MT currently employed as an IC for a small transcription company in Nebraska.I do enjoy working for this company; however, I especially love that I do not have a set schedule. I am contracted to type a minimum of 1000 lines in a 24-hour period - VERY easy. Does anyone know of any other companies like this? Thank you for any suggestions!

Been there...done that [2008-07-24]
Please don't beat yourself up. I've been exactly where you are and it's not a hard place to end up. I could have written your post. I lived in my PJs and sometimes wore them for days, no make-up, and the same issues with even basic daily hygiene, i.e. showers. The best advice I can give you is what worked for me and that is to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! I had to put MTing on the back burner and actually took a job close to home as a waitress! Believe it or not, it did wonders for my self-esteem. Most people would consider serving the public a degrading position or demotion from what I had done before. I needed the structure, a time-clock, and just basic interaction with other human beings. After close to a year, I am back at home working once again as an MT. Public service can be difficult, but it was just the boost I needed to get my mojo back and appreciate the fact that I'm in a field that allows me to work at home. Believe it or not, I miss the people so much, I'm considering going back to waitressing a few nights a week. I actually even made more waitressing than being an MT! Give it a shot. Waitressing may not be your first choice, but I would definitely advise finding any type of job that will get you out of the house. It will give you a reason to fix yourself up and dig the make-up bag back out. Please feel free to email me if you'd like to talk. Good luck to you!

Truthful advice [2008-07-23]
I just recently got married and I am working in-house at our local hospital. I LOVE getting out of the house and going to work every day. I love what I do and want to stick with it. We will probably not be having children for at least a couple of years as my husband has a year left in college to get his business degree. I want to be able to stay home and raise my children, but I have seen what it has done to my mom. She sits at home all day in her PJs and type, type, types. I am just wonderng if any of you have any regrets about deciding to do transcription full time from home in order to be there for your children? This may sound a little selfish, but I donsometime to think about it, but it has been a topic that I have really been thinking about lately.What I would really like to do is stay at home with them until they are all in school and then try to get a job out of the house while they are at school. Have any of you made this transition? Any advice would be appreciated. I would just like a heads up before making any decisions. Thanks!

working at home [2008-07-23]
I work at home also, but one of the private accounts I work on requires me to go to the office twice a week to pick up tapes. Maybe that is a good thing. During the summer my husband and daughter go with me and then we grab lunch out together and do whatever errands we have to do. It really is a change and I love it.

Alright kiddo.....pull yourself up and outta [2008-07-22]
I know the feeling all to well BUT I just have to get up, get dressed (out of PJs) and let your mind know you are going to work. Considering your shift, sitting in PJs is fine but when you get up the next day, you really need to get a shower and GET DRESSED! It will do wonders to help how you feel AND go outside EVERYDAY. Your body really needs sunlight. This very well is leading to your depression, not to mention just lack of walking outside those four walls. Make an appointment NOW girl and go get that hair cut. That will make you instantly feel better, remind you of who you are and that the world does not completely revolve around your job. Your children really need to see this for themselves. It will and is affecting them to see you like this and not for the better either. Sending your teen to the grocery store is a great learning experience for him, teaches him responsibility BUT they would probably like to spend a little time with their mom, cleaned up and dressed. Go get a burger and fries with them or just walk the mall a little. Just changing your routine a little will make you feel better and make your children feel better as well. Your stress level will probably go away if you remove yourself from your home more not to mention the great benefit this will have on your children. Think of them......they tend to fall into a pattern of what they see a parent doing and they could privately be worrying about you as well, which is not good for their stress level either.

I totally agree... [2008-07-22]
This is what I would do: In the morning either before or after your sleep time, go ahead and get a shower and get dressed even if that is in sweats or comfortable clothes. Wear these same clothes to cook dinner and into your shift. I think the problem is that you're working 3rd shift and I think that is the cause of the PJ situation. I read a book that my 8-year-old wrote around Motherpajamas. I had not really looked at it that way, but I guess she does see me in lounge clothes moreso than everyday clothes. I also work full-time at home, but not third shift. You may also want to consider getting involved in something even if it is a painting class or something you like to do. I know this costs money, but your sanity will be saved in the long run. I am fortunate enough to have gotten involved with some of the parents from my kids Even though it is not over and beyond socializing, it is something, i.e., coffee for an hour on a weekday. It is very, very easy to get homebound in this profession. I cringe at the thought of going out on a Friday night with all of the traffic. I am only 37, this is not right. So, I am also letting you know that you are not alone. Hang in there, and like the other poster says get a haircut. Plan a dinner out if possible with your teens and make it a point to step outside a few times during the evening just to gulp some fresh air. I water the flowers. Is there something that needs done outside that you could do this? Hugs to you...

Online Externship for SAHM/Navy wife [2008-07-04]
I am still a student in my MT program and I need to take an externship before I can graduate. Does anyone know of companies offering online/work from home externships?

I am in shock. Are you living in 2008 or [2008-06-25]
1958. Is this real? Every able body in the household should contribute. You do work. You just do it at home. You need to take some time out for yourself and decide if the verbal abuse is worth the trouble. You must remember your children will see and hear how he treats you and this is abuse to them also. Don't you think you are worth so much more? You must think of your children and your mental well being. I refused to live this way years ago and my two daughters and I did just fine and with no child support. I raised two wonderful women, now 24 and 30, and both college graduates.

internship or not? [2008-06-23]
....I am a newbie, and as most of you already know, it is incredibly hard to find work as a newbie. I just wanted to get some opinions on internships with companies. I have also been offered a paid position with a medical transcription company that will monitor my work until I am able to go at it on my own. Is an internship more beneficial or should I just take the paid job? I know some may think this is a stupid question, but I want to make the right decision, as this will be a huge step toward the career I have been wanting for a very long time.

first step [2008-06-14]
Brooke: I want to commend you on going to church and the strides you are making to show a good example. But that may not be quite enough. It sounds as if your husband has an inkling that he needs to make some changes . However, I do still think that the suggestion for martial counseling with your pastor is important. From some of you have said it does sound like there are a few more seriuos issues than him simply taking you for granted. You make it sound as if he is controlling all the fiances and your behavior and actions through that. Now I understand being frugal but you stated he can spend what he wants but you afraid to even ask for 20 dollars to joint a Momgood now. But remember, again you are to be viewed in terms of good or bad or imply you deserve certain treatment do to past mistakes. In the end you shoudl provide for your future. I think every woman does need a saftey plan for financial security. Working part-time would provide you money to buy some things for yourself and also to join group. You need social support. Right now you are essentially isolated other than your husband and family. What about joinign a MOPS group through church? I am not sure, but dont' think there is a charge. You need a group of supportive peole other than your husband. Keep going to church - maybe your husband might get into the men's minsitry. This could serve two-fold. He could see and model from Chrisian men how they interact aand also how they treat their wives. It would also give him a social outlet. The two of you going out without kids is also good. remember so a combinatin of things. One thing (such as date night or occasional church service) isn't going to work. Pray together. Have yourchurch family pray for you. I undersatnd divorce is not an option. I salute your committment to your marriage but your husband has to be as committed. It cannot just be about YOU making changes. So pray for his change of heart and try to actively involve him. YOu must communicate with him. Not yell, no walk on egg shells. If you are afraid to talke to him why? Has he been abusive/ Were you abused in the past by someone? AGain if this the case you need immediate intervention. Bottom line God asks men to love their wives but he did not say control their wives or belittle their wives. Women should suport and love their husbands as head of household but not be afraid of them or cower to them....

You're responding to him as if you are a child [2008-06-04]
This man is your husband, not your father. Either you were brought up to think you had to had a place for everything and everything in its place or you're trying to please him WAAAY to much. If he can't accept that you have enough to do with two children and the day to day housechores, then that's his problem. Why make it yours? If you keeping acting like his maid and servant, he will continue expecting it, so, I say to you, you need to change that behavior NOW. You will forever be treated like a child if you continue to act like one. You do not need his approval. Actions speak louder than words, so if he makes a comment about something being in the wrong place, etc., just say, Yea, I see that. My husband used to do this (been married over 27 years) without really thinking how he sounded. I put an end to that when my daughter was a baby. Did I want her to grow up to be someone servant? If he ask if a certain shirt had been ironed, I informed him he had many others in his closet and if that one was an emergency, he knew where the dry cleaners was located. Feeling guilty over failure to do dishes (too tired or exhausted)or leaving something cluttered is something you have to realize isn't an emergency, and he sees you constantly jumping around pleasing him, believe me, he will take advantage of that. You sound like you are trying to justify being a mom and staying at home. I have a daughter and a niece who before they were married, I certainly never left it a mystery as to my feelings on this matter. They both work hard jobs and neither husband EXPECTS everything to be spotless or at their beckon call. They know they can easily pitch in and do it themselves or they can shut up. The girls didnperfect little wives, whatever that is. You get over it and I guarantee, he will get over it, once he comes down off his high horse.

Thank you for your advice everyone. I am lucky in that my job is one where I have the full 24 hours [2008-05-30]
to do my line requirement and no set in stone schedule, so it has been doable. Also, line counts have been down and I I had my DH go in the attic and pull out the swing, which I had almost forgotten about, and that has helped a lot. Also, we hadn

I read that book long ago... [2008-05-21]
Really helped me understand why they are the way they are, but some stuff will not happen that she has me doing. They do need to be told things out right. I have found that my husband and I usually have very poor verbal communication skills, but using the computer to talk can help if you are trying to get away from the screaming and pointing. You need to stay on task when typing what you need from him (don't start ranting and raving). Words do come through on the screen, and since that seems to be his medium of choice it may just work. If all else fails, leave him alone with your children for a few days, if you trust him. Like you say he is home on the weekends. I know that it can be hard since you are nursing, but get a breast pump and get that baby use to a bottle. They still get all the benefits of you without you needing to be there. If he still belittles you than maybe marrying him was not the right thing to do and you need to search yourself to see what needs to be done. Beginning MTs have a lot of work to be done and the schooling work is not easy if you truly go through a good program. Do let him know that you are having second thoughts about this marriage as you thought you were getting a life partner, not a dictator. Hope this helps. My husband knows better. I can go forever without cleaning if he pisses me off. I started by not washing his clothes. He wanted clean clothes he could wash them himself, that was before children when we were both working. He got the picture then.

1-month-old schedule [2008-05-21]
Hiya. I have 8-year-old twin boys and an almost 1-month old girl. It has been a long time since the boys were on a napping schedule, so I was wondering if someone could refresh my memory as to when a nursing newborn can be set up on somewhat of a sleep-at-night, nap-by-day schedule and what a typical schedule might be. I went back to work one week after she was born, but am finding it really difficult to work consistently and get enough sleep for myself (homeschool the boys, one with special needs) with the baby up about every four hours. My boss is very patient anddoes not mind lesser line counts at this point, since I came back after only one week (despite emergency c-section), but I really want my line counts and paycheck back to normalas soon aspossible! Thank you!

SAHM wanting to work. [2008-05-15]
I currently work prn as a Radiology Transcriptionist and would like to contribute more to the family income by working from home doing this. I have applied to several places and on here and don't hear anything back. Whats the deal, and what do I have to do to get hired?

Here is what I would do... [2008-04-09]
Since you don I went to my local library and got the list of girls who had taken the babysitter course, which included CPR. They are mostly in 7th -9th grades. It is the perfect job for them, and you are home and available if there is an emergency. I have used my list several times, and have had much luck with it. It is an easy solutionversus hiring a nanny, who youin the fall, etc. Good luck!!

PeopleSupport [2008-04-05]
Anybody ever work for PeopleSupport? If so, could you tell me a little about it?

?'s about balancing work and kids [2008-04-02]
I would love to hear what others do in the same situation... In the past few months I have picked up more work. I am now working a minimum of 5-6 hours a day although usually more. I figure if I have to I can most of the time get my work done in 5-6 hours. So... I have a 2 yo, 9 yo, and 10 yo. My job is flexible. I can work the hours as wish as long as I get my required work done. I have two dilemmas... Summer vacation: All kids home. Will be bringing older two to a summer camp from 9-12 daily. It involves getting them up and ready from about 8-9 and dropping them off. Will be back by about 9:15. I will still have the 2 yo. Of course, I would also love to have some free time to spend with my kids in the summer (is this asking too much?). So it would be ideal to get my hours in as early as possible and have some time in the afternoon free. I also don I am thinking maybe getting up super early, maybe getting a sitter in the morning? Anyone else in this situation? Then, return to school in the fall...The older two will be in school so that part of the dilemma is solved. My 2 yo will be attending preschool 2 mornings. I am thinking maybe getting someone to watch her in the afternoons. Maybe a nanny? Anyone have any experience with nannies? Where do I look? Any help would be GREATLY appreciated. I am sure there are others who have been in these situations. I like hearing about what other MT Any hints, advice, tips, etc are great.

work and kids [2008-04-02]
Is working at night an option? I have a 12 yo, 9 yo, 6 yo, and 4 yo. In the summer I have to do most of my work at night because they are all home. You might try a splitting it up - working a few hours in the morning and then a few hours at night. It definitely can be challenging but it can be done! Good luck to you!

During the summer I work early a.m. for the majority of my lines usually 4-9 a.m. [2008-04-02]
If I have not hit my line count, I typically pick up the rest at night after the kids are in bed. We do the day camp, summer activities and classes, swim lessons, etc., but I could never get into a good rhythm in the short periods between getting everyone ready to go and playing chauffeur all day long. It really is easier for me to split my shift and work when there are not other things going on.

Counseling with pastor? [2008-04-01]
There is a fine line between constant criticism and verbal abuse. I don For girls, you don For boys, you don I think it's great that you are about to start MT training and wish you all the best. If you want to make things work with your husband, it seems like you may benefit from an objective third party. Your pastor This may be a good source to have someone to go to couples therapy with, especially if cost would be an issue which it sounds like with your husband. I would also sit and discuss your finances with your husband at some point. Not having access to household funds except through him is not responsible. If he were to have an accident and get laid up for awhile, how would you pay the bills? Just some things to think about.

don't lose your sense of self... [2008-03-30]
Wow, I totally feel for you! Have you thought about writing him a letter - maybe something like what you just wrote to all of us.. maybe on paper he will see it a little clearer... and if not, honey I would STOP doing ALL of it! Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP remember and by the way, it's not 1950 anymore. It takes two to keep things going and him providing the source of income, although huge and I'm sure you are greatful - is not the only thing that defines a man as a husband or a dad for that matter. My husband and I both work, we both contribute financially, and actually, I made more then him last year - that said, us women/moms will always do more then them, my husband does help and he does share in most of the duties... he has too. In our early years together I once had to tell him that I wasn't his maid, cook or sex slave and that that if I was going to feel alone in our relationship, well, then ALONE is what I would be and his ass would be gone. Needless to say, he heard me loud and clear and while we work very hard everyday to keep our marriage strong, it is work on both of our parts. Your husband has to help more... he has to realize that the longer this goes on, the more you end up resenting him! and truly is this they way you want your children to see you for the next 20 years? Get out of the house, role pennies to get the $20 bucks to get into the local moms club... do it for yourself, it sounds like you need it! Keep you chin up and fight your hardest to get through to him!