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I was so sad when my daughter went from 2 naps to 1 nap at about that age. .sm [2008-02-20]
I think I needed it worse than she did! I am glad your situation has improved!

Maybe mom and dad should have sex in daughter's [2008-02-16]
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I have a 16yr old son and 14yr old daughter. sm [2007-08-13]
I constantly get Okay, Okay, Mom, I get it. Like I am being dismissed. This comes even when my kids ask a question and all I am trying to do is answer it. I remember my SIL complaining about my neice who is now 18 and the way she would talk to her. I kept thinking, I can never imagine my children ever speaking to me that way. Well it just took a couple of more years and it began. Some days are worse than others. My husband and I have both taught our children to be respectful, and honestly are always being complemented by other adults in our community, teachers, adults at church, coaches, etc. I truely think it is just a phase. I am not saying that it is acceptable, and I not saying all children talk like this, but I can see that my son is beginning to get a little better as he gets older. We all know that kids think they know everything and parents are just clueless. I have started seroiusly repramanding my children and what hurts the most is taking away the computer, cell, and especially for my son the car keys. It is good that you are trying to nip this in the bud early. My SIL decided to pick her battles and while my niece is wonderful to be around, I still can't stand the way she and her sister talk to my SIL, but are always respectful to everyone.

My daughter had this problem. We [2007-05-25]
told her that new babies needed the binkies and since she was a big girl now she needed to give hers up for them. She alsosaw a pediatricdentist for a checkup and he said to get rid of it NOW. I had a bunch of them in the house because you lose one but buy 3 more to replace it. It was crazy. What we did was we told her she had to get rid of them and every day when she woke up she needed to pick out one from her bag of binkies,say good-bye to it and throw it away. Choosing one to throw away was the hardest part. That was the first thing she did each morning until they were gone. I hid one for safe keeping in case the crying was going to be unbearable the first night w/o one but she got through it okay.

Mariah Mikayla is my adopted daughter's name - we picked part of it...nm [2006-08-01]
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My son is Kyle Wayne (middle his GD and dad have), daughter is Hailey Reanne (middle is a [2006-08-01]
combination of my mother-in-law's name and my mom's middle name).

son's name is Jayden Stephen and daughter's name is Madisyn Maye [2006-07-23]
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My daughter is Julia and if I had a boy it was going to be Alexander. sm [2006-07-21]
Hubby liked the name Julie, I liked the name Jessica, so we compromised. Good thing to because we have 2 Jessicas in the family and she has a lot of Jessica friends, along with several named Ashley and Brittany, but no other Julia.

My daughter's name is Kimberley & my son's name is Chandler - nm [2006-07-20]
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My daughter is 5 and getting ready to start Kindergarten this fall. So there is a light at the [2006-07-15]
end of the tunnel! I anticipate that come September my line count will increase substantially. I know how expensive day care can be even part time, but I did put my daughter in part time day care from about age 3 to 4 and a half. My daughter is very VERY social and it was great to be able to take her to play with other kids three days a week, but it was still $75 per week. When she turned five I took her out of day care because I started fixating on the fact that my time with her was limited because she was going to be starting school soon. She's my last baby! So to keep her busy home with me I have a lot of art supplies and I have set her up with her own desk in my office. There is also the family PC in the office that is loaded with educational games (and a couple of barbie games). So if she gets board with coloring or painting, she can turn on the PC and play some games. I know there are super mom's out there that will chastise me for saying this, but I also have a large movie collection just for my daughter. I know, I know, I shouldn't let the TV babysit my kid, but those movies come in handy for that hour or two after lunch when she's getting a little sleepy, but thinks she's too big for a nap and many a time my little one has fallen asleep watching her favorite show giving mommy a couple of very wonderful, quiet, and productive hours. And finally, I have shown my daughter my line counts to help her learn her numbers and I have told her that if she helps mommy get her line count above say 1-2-0-0, then she gets a special treat that day. It really works too. She likes me to check my line count periodically throughout the day and if I'm not at my desk or talking on my phone she says get back to work mommy! That's just some of the things I do.

2 year old daughter [2006-07-12]
I work IC whenever I can throughout the day (which isn't often) haha...mostly work late nights, as long as my work is back in 24 hours.

I have two kiddos - 14 yo son and 5 yo daughter. [2006-07-12]

One daughter, 19 months [2006-07-10]
She is an adorable, energetic handful. I love her to death but she keeps both her daddy and me EXTREMELY busy. My hats off many times for mothers of more than 1! :) My work hours are usually during her 2-hour nap and 3 hours or so after she goes to bed. I work approximately 25 hours a week with a 24-hour TAT time which is wonderful! She will start Mothers Day Out in September 2 days a week and I am really looking to it! I feel like I'll be able to give her more of myself when I have a chance to take care of me a little bit more. The hardest part of being a WAHM is not having much time for yourself. I think this is probably true for all mothers though. Another thing I struggle with is always thinking that I could be working and making money instead of playing Legos, watching Teletubbies, etc. I feel guilty about feeling this way! Anyone else deal with this? Glad to meet you all!

I have four children - oldest son would be 19, daughter 18, son 16 and daughter 7. [2006-07-08]
I also have a kid-in-law that I claim. She is my ex-husband's baby, and she is 3.

working at home [2008-07-24]
I love working at home for the reason that can go out with my husband and daughter for lunch, dinner or breakfast, as I have my own accounts and they give me a week to get it done and it works great for me. Yes, they are still on tapes and one of them I do doctors notes. This all works out great for my family. We are totally blessed by the Almighty God.

working at home [2008-07-23]
I work at home also, but one of the private accounts I work on requires me to go to the office twice a week to pick up tapes. Maybe that is a good thing. During the summer my husband and daughter go with me and then we grab lunch out together and do whatever errands we have to do. It really is a change and I love it.

You're responding to him as if you are a child [2008-06-04]
This man is your husband, not your father. Either you were brought up to think you had to had a place for everything and everything in its place or you're trying to please him WAAAY to much. If he can't accept that you have enough to do with two children and the day to day housechores, then that's his problem. Why make it yours? If you keeping acting like his maid and servant, he will continue expecting it, so, I say to you, you need to change that behavior NOW. You will forever be treated like a child if you continue to act like one. You do not need his approval. Actions speak louder than words, so if he makes a comment about something being in the wrong place, etc., just say, Yea, I see that. My husband used to do this (been married over 27 years) without really thinking how he sounded. I put an end to that when my daughter was a baby. Did I want her to grow up to be someone servant? If he ask if a certain shirt had been ironed, I informed him he had many others in his closet and if that one was an emergency, he knew where the dry cleaners was located. Feeling guilty over failure to do dishes (too tired or exhausted)or leaving something cluttered is something you have to realize isn't an emergency, and he sees you constantly jumping around pleasing him, believe me, he will take advantage of that. You sound like you are trying to justify being a mom and staying at home. I have a daughter and a niece who before they were married, I certainly never left it a mystery as to my feelings on this matter. They both work hard jobs and neither husband EXPECTS everything to be spotless or at their beckon call. They know they can easily pitch in and do it themselves or they can shut up. The girls didnperfect little wives, whatever that is. You get over it and I guarantee, he will get over it, once he comes down off his high horse.

SAHM/WAHM and fairness, respect [2008-03-29]
I wouldn't call my position as a current SAHM terribly difficult. My toddler, while quite rowdy and misbehaved some days, is fairly content to entertain herself while I do housework. My newborn is a quiet one. My house is small and cleans rather quickly. There is a place for mostly everything, so there's not much clutter aside from my daughter's toys which migrate from her room to every other room in the house. I have to do laundry at my mother in law's because we don't have a washer/dryer, so my kids get to visit with their nana and papa while I wash the clothes. We have a fenced-in yard and there is a park two steps from my house so I don't have to pack the kids in the car to take them someplace to play. Some days I finish the housework so fast that I'm bored unless I'm creative and can find something for me and my toddler to do together (which is what I should be doing anyway). However, I do absolutely everything around my home, including on the weekends. My husband seems to think that because he works outside the home, he shouldnjust another bill. I take the girls to their wellness appointments. I change out the garbages. I keep up the garage and the yard. I check the mail. He puts our toddler to bed most nights because I'm nursing our newborn, but since he works late often I've been able to practice putting her to bed quickly enough so my newborn doesn't interrupt us by crying. He takes the garbage to the curb (most of the time). He's put the dishes away a handful of times. If I ask to go somewhere for some time alone, he'll watch our toddler for an hour or two (I don't ask for this often, but maybe I should?). He spends whatever he wants on computer games and fast food... I get nothing to spend on myself or the kids unless it's an absolute necessity. When I worked part time and was pregnant, I did everything. When I gave birth, he was forced to learn how to put our toddler to bed, so that's why he does that now. I try to sleep in but I can't with a toddler loose in the house and a hungry newborn. I'm feeling pretty run-down and lethargic lately, cooped up and lonely, insignificant and like I can't get anywhere. I'm about to start MT training and of course will still be expected to do everything around the house without any help and without any forgiveness should I miss something. I'm worried that even once I start working full time and the kids are in daycare, he's not going to lift a finger to help me out -- I'll have even less time after work to do all the chores on top of caring for the kids. I'm not looking forward to the arguments that will ensue if I fail to do the dishes one day or let the livingroom get a little cluttered. HeI better take care of that quick before he sees it as opposed to hey look there. one time when I was pregnant and started a valid argument with him about another topic, he resorted to pointing out my lack of housekeeping skills (which had nothing to do with the subject) in order to throw me off and upset me. I want to contribute to our household because we've been living off his income alone since January, but I feel that even working full time won't make him appreciate what I do for our children and our household. I am not ungrateful that he is our only income currently, but the only reason for this is because I just gave birth. Had I not done that, I would still be working right now, but there would still be an inequality in our relationship, and I don't know how much more I can take before I just shut down and shut him out completely. Any confrontation about how I feel leads to a shouting match and finger-pointing, so I just don't say anything at all. We just got married in October and I already see it going downhill if this continues. Any advice? How can I put it to him that I'm his wife and the mother of his children, not his 24-hour maid? That even though I'm not working, I still deserve respect and time to myself and a little money to spend on what I want? That when I am working, we need to split the chores because it's not just my house, it's his too? Or should I just repeat this whole last paragraph?

I have a friend of a friend [2008-02-08]
Their daughter is 11 and she still sleeps with her parents and has never slept in her own room...NEVER. Can you imagine? Needless to say they only have one chid.

In the same boat [2008-02-01]
My 18mo daughter has a problem with waking up at 3 in the morning to play, too. Not sure what is going on. Most days she is a super sleeper, even still taking three or four hour naps in the day, while still sleeping all through the night. But about once a week, she wakes up in the middle of the night, playing with her dollie in her crib. We just let her go and she usually falls back to sleep.

now I am scared of the things to come... [2008-01-29]
my daughter is 17 months old and knock on wood she doesn't start wanting to play at 2:00 in the morning...my son never did that but they have two totally different personalities...but if she does wake up I will send her your way for donuts and milk---LOL

How do you keep it together? [2008-01-22]
I work at home as an employee and have a 3-year-old daughter and a 1-year-old daughter. I I How do you get your work done, keep your kids happy, keep your house clean, stay organized? Any hints, tips, anything? Prayers? lol

nick names [2008-01-18]
Try to keep in mind what the child will be called as a nickname. If you like Karygan, then know that people will call her Kary (carrie) - and if you Also research the name My daughter I too like different names. Inamed my son Kaleb (pronounced Kawlib- emphasis on first syllable)Antonio but then his father and I reconciled (I did ask his dad at birth if he wanted me to name him after him and he said no, so okay then),I had to change his name at 3 months of age to Robert(lastname here)IV, no middle name

That sounds like the perfect schedule, but [2008-01-18]
It doesn't work for me. My daughter is in preshool and I work while she's gone for four hours then I take a break and work another 2 hours after my older one is home and then because I have another 2 hours to put in to make up my 8 hours a day and a second job I work from 9:00 p.m. until 4:00 a.m. I've been doing this for years. Whatever works for you may not work for another. Everyone has to get a schedule that works for them.

I love old-fashioned names too [2008-01-18]
My daughter has two friends, sisters, named Emma and Olivia. I think those are beautiful names! My daughter is now 9, and back when she was born I wanted her to have a really different name. Of course, now I feel bad for her because she always has to tell people how to pronounce her name and they always spell it wrong.

that is why we have the freedom to pick the names we want for OUR children.... [2008-01-16]
...nobody liked my son's name (Jayden) when I had him almost 9 years ago and I changed my daughter's spelling (Madisyn) because it is very common...glad you like common names but some of us do not...

Potty woes here, too [2008-01-15]
That Here, I have been worried that he is the only 2 1/2 year old on the block still in diapers. We started taking him to the potty about every 1-2 hours when we were home one weekend, taking his diaper down, sitting him on the regular toilet seat. Every time he goes, he gets a tootsie roll (his 1st love). He goes generally every time we put him on there, though has never pooped on it yet. He claims NO every time we suggest it. We put him on it before every bath and first thing in the morning. Like I said, he always goes, but then throughout the day also may have several poopy diapers (he doesn We have tried pull-ups a few times, and he pees right out of them. It is like chasing after a new puppy, cleaning up puddles all day. Forget THAT!! Everyone says he will take off, but we are still waiting. I can I don You will be wasting your time and energy to do so. My sister tried forcing my niece around 1 1/2 years old, and she took about 3 years to train. Good luck!!

Names and life [2008-01-15]
Remember the studies about the treatment of, potential for success and likeability of people based upon their names? Take that into consideration. I am sure there are articles on the net about it. I only have one strangely named child and that was because I promised a friend I would not name her Kay, which was her name that she did not like, which I was planning to do. I still wanted to name her after this person because of the respect we felt toward her and the fact that her name sounded like such a happy name as was the person herself. We named the baby Kayce instead. Close, but not exactly the same. Could you try stuff like that with other names you like? I really do like the name Mya Avery. My daughters have a friend with a child named Justice, but she spells it Justys. I don't care for the name, but the child herself is lovely. I too have my all-time favorite names and two of those are Katherine and Alexis for girls, and two for boys are John Michael and Ryan Allen. Another friend of my girls has a daugther named Madison and she is as lovely as is her name. If I ever get a granddaughter my daughter plan to name her Deanna Katherine. I hope she arrives soon because though I love all the boys, I would dearly love to buy a Christmas dress for a girl and a little fur muff and mittens. Those little red Mary Janes are nice too! Good luck and whatever you name the new baby I hope you enjoy her or him.

I agree.... [2008-01-01]
if you already regret your decision now, then chances are in the long run you will regret it even more...especially with finding reliable child care...I have an 8-year-old son and a 16-month-old daughter and while working at home has its challenges I wouldn't trade it for the world...plus I don't trust many people to watch my children...good luck...

My son was completely trained during the day [2007-12-29]
but I still put pull-ups on his at night and every morning he woke up wet. I finally realized that it was still warm so it happened just as he woke up. I figured that he knew it was okay since he had on a pull-up. As soon as I put underwear on him at night it stopped. He knew to get up and go to the bathroom first thing each morning. I can honestly say he never wet the beg again. Now my daughter.....another story.

Bribe her!! [2007-12-27]
It worked with both my kids. My daughter loves jelly beans and MandMs, so we had a little gumball machine filled with candy. Everytime she went she got to turn the handle and get her treat. My son did not care about candy, so we bought Matchbox cars (the store brand) for him at the dollar store. I tried stickers with both of them and they did not work. Each child is different. Good luck, I know how frustrating it can be!

Potty training woes... [2007-12-21]
My 2 1/2-year-old daughter will not potty train! She likes sitting on the potty, but she won I bring her in there when I go and show her what it We had a toddler potty that we started with, and she didn She asks to go on it, I put her on, she asks me to sit there and watch her, and she just talks to me about stuff...I say, go potty..., go poopy..., make water..., listen for the tinkle... etc. She will then get off the potty and pee on the rug. I have a sticker board with Dora stickers that she can put up everytime she goes...there are no stickers on it. Any suggestions as to what I can do? She is very big for her age, and I found size 7 diapers, but they are getting a little snug...I can It does not bother her to be in a poopy diaper, and she does not like it when I change her and use wipes...

I can relate sm [2007-12-21]
There are no easy answers. Toilet training takes a great deal of patience and for some kids, a very great deal of time too. There isnfully trained at 18 months. For one thing, children are not physically capable of holding urine until they are AT LEAST 28 months old. If you don't believe me, see the paragraph above. I have heard that they are not ready to train until they can ride a tricycle, going forward, on their own with some speed. I found this to be true of only one of my now grown kids. Take her out and get her some pretty big girl panties and let HER pick them out. DOn't get the sponge center training pants because they feel like a diaper. You want thin, regular panties because when they wet and the cold air hits their fanny it will shock them. Know that they will get stained and horrid, but it is in the name of progress. Don't make night time dryness an immediate goal. Strive for daytime potty training first and exclusively, diaper at night. Don't make a big deal of this. The child will tell you when they are ready to let that diaper go. Mine did and none of my 3 wore a night diaper much past age 3-1/2. Don't get into a power struggle. Stickers may not be enough. I had a pediatrician tell me to use M&Ms, 2 for a pee, 5 for a poo when my daughter was being stubborn. The advice is NO OTHER TREATS and make her work for the M&Ms or whatever very small sweet treat you use. I thought this was dead wrong, I didn't agree, but I was desperate because she was going to be 3 in less than a month with no progress. I needed M&Ms for only a couple of weeks because she got used to using the potty and got tired of the M&Ms. If you use a little potty seat, a good idea, take the little guard thingy off of it so it looks like a regular tiny toilet. Those guards are treacherous. And um, toss the seatbelt out too, they are just cruel. As for not minding a loaded diaper, some girls are like that. I finally gave up on my girl and let her sit in it until she asked to be changed. During the first week of this nastiness, her godmother came to visit. She walked in the door and had a fit over the smell, traced it to the kid and told her she smelled horrible, disgusting, awful and asked her how she could stand to be that way and furthermore, little girls who pooed their pants didn't go in HER car for Happy Meals. She never would sit in it again and shortly afterwards decided the best way to handle poos is on the potty seat. I am reminded of what I have heard several times. Your child WILL learn, she WILL get out of diapers because no kid wears diapers to school. This is not true, but once they get there someone will laugh and that is the end of the diaper.

There is NOTHING wrong with sm [2007-12-21]
Having daily quiet time in the crib with some toys, whether a child sleeps or not. There is nothing wrong with setting a daily bedtime that is written in stone no matter whether or what time naps took place. It is setting limits, something you are going to be doing until your children are raised. Limits are seldom popular with kids, but they still need them. Whether you are working at home or not, you, as their mom, are entitled to a quiet time of your own each and every day. If you doncharge may come with listening to an adult tell you about what strangers are complaining about today, but it is still a break from your kids and something that feeds you as a person. I can only tell you that mine are grown now. I had rules like 8:30 bedtime until they were 12, and they got to 10:30 by the time they were in high school. It was 10:30 LIGHTS OUT and quiet. They could read or have headphones and music, that was fine, but it was about being quiet so I could sleep as I worked the end of the third shift. After a lifetime of firm rules (although very few rules) and consistent reinforcement of said rules, I got what I asked by the time they were 12 or 13 with little or no grief ever. The proof, as they say, is in the pudding. My daughter is studying premed on a 3/4 scholarship, my younger son is in college for a degree in software engineering and my oldest is married. They all excel with keeping a job and are popular with their supervisors because they have a work ethic and oh my, they follow the rules and don't push the limits! Okay, so I am a proud mom.

Both of my daughters stopped taking naps [2007-12-18]
at a very early age, about 18 months, so I can symphasize. I always envied my friend. Her children napped until they were 4. My daughter is now 4 and goes to bed around 9:00-9:30. If she happens to fall asleep in the car or if she's particularly tired and falls asleep, she'll be up until almost midnight (no kidding). I never had a live-in sitter, so I can't help you there.

My son stopped taking a nap when he was 18 months old and he is not a big sleeper now.... [2007-12-18]
my daughter is 16 months old and she only takes a 2-hour nap during the day and it is slowly becoming less and less so I know your frustration...

Don't Feel Bad [2007-10-24]
I had my daughter at 41, but I know it's definitely not for everyone. If someone said that to me, I wouldn't take it too personally. Maybe she didn't either. Just apologize when you see her. I'm sure it'll be fine.

Kids [2007-10-18]
It It seems like only yesterday I tried to work with my son in a baby carrier on my chest. Now he is 3! My kids are into educationalcomputer games. My 5-year-old daughter does great by herself (she started on a computer when she was about 2.) My son can run the games, but still needs help. He does fine if I am hovering over him, the minute I put my headphones on he needs help! Mama It helps when you can give them something educational to keep their attention for a while. As far as naps, my daughter does not nap. My son does in the afternoon for about 3 hours. I know that kids thrive on schedules, so if I were you I would go with a schedule that works best for you and doesn Oh, and remember, it is good to let them play by themselves a bit every day. It builds independence and confidence. My son is wonderful playing alone. My daughter was spoiled as the first born and she is very high maintenance! She requires our attention ALL THE TIME! So, if your kids are quite they are probably just enjoying some alone time! Good luck!

feeling guilty [2007-10-17]
Dear Feeling Guilty, Stop feeling guilty - you sound like a great mom. I don't have an answer for you, just have some experience. I have a 2-1/2-year-old great niece and 14-month-old great nephew that I watch once or twice a week. They, too, hate it when Mimi works. I think once they get to 2-1/2, they are pretty much set in their wake/sleep patterns. I don't have any advice on the nap thing, but if your daughter is content in her crib for a while in the evening it certainly won't hurt her, as long as she gets enough attention during the day. Have you asked your doctor for any tips? If you are working and taking care of two babies, my hat is off to you - what a heavy load to carry. Stop feeling guilty and give yourself a pat on the back.