Sounds like his mother was this type of

Aww, sounds like she wants company! Can you work something out where she understands (sm) [2008-09-19]
you need quiet and she needs to save the questions for dad... but maybe some silent companionship is ok? I bet it would be something she would remember always. Unless she is a pain in the butt of course. I was just thinking she is lonely. Not your problem, I know, and you have to do what is best for your own family, that is number 1, but sometimes certain adults besides the actual parents make a big difference in a kid I can think of some from my own childhood for sure.

oops that time off comment is from another post. Sounds like I'm totally in left field with that [2008-09-19]
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Sounds like his mother was this type of [2008-04-01]
wife/mother and that is all he knows. My ex was like that (his mom was SAHM and did absolutely everything) and he found out real quick that was not the real world, especially as I was working 40+ hours a week. I truly believe you both need to sit down and let each other know your expectations. Since this has been going on forever, it is going to take time for you both to come to some sort of compromise. You can only do so much before you run yourself into the ground. Then you are no good for anyone--him or your children. Plus, your kids need to know that if and when they have families, it takes 2 to run a household, not just the mom.

It sounds like he was this way before you were a SAHM, [2008-03-29]
and probably was this way before you married him. You cannot do everything yourself and you should not try. (He may not even know what he needs to do to help you and is just lashing out because he is stressed too.) You need to speak with him about this, but I'll leave that advice to others that have gone through similar situations. (I am a SMBC and do do everything myself, but I also do not have anyone complaining about my choice to fingerpaint with my child instead of scrubbing the floors.) In addition, maybe you can find a group of moms to get together with and socialize while the kids play, something like a Mommy and Me that would allow you to bring both your kids. Something that would get you out of the house where your kids would be safe and you could interact with other adults. You sound isolated and stressed. Just out of curiosity, what is/was his relationship with his mother like? Is she one of the do-everything for her family moms or did she delegate responsibility to her spouse and kids?

Yeah. Would U type out flatus or pffffft? [2008-02-15]
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Sounds like you need to be the parent... [2008-01-29]
I have four children ranging in age from 19, 7, 5 and 3. All of my children, aside from the teenager, are in bed by 8:30 every night, not only for school, but because this is my time to catch up on work, spend time with husband or just unwinding. It's called a routine. If a two year old is wanting a movie during the night, something is wrong with the picture. You put them in bed and tell them that's where they are staying. Children will try to fuss, cry, temper trantrum their way out of anything, but if you let them know right from the start what you expect they will be happier and so will you.

It sounds as if [2008-01-28]
you have your hands full, but I bet you love every minute of it!

Did you see post on Main Board about mother who [2008-01-20]
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That sounds like the perfect schedule, but [2008-01-18]
It doesn't work for me. My daughter is in preshool and I work while she's gone for four hours then I take a break and work another 2 hours after my older one is home and then because I have another 2 hours to put in to make up my 8 hours a day and a second job I work from 9:00 p.m. until 4:00 a.m. I've been doing this for years. Whatever works for you may not work for another. Everyone has to get a schedule that works for them.

That's what it sounds like to me too [2007-08-30]
That's just crazy. I was in the hospital for a whole week and was no where near ready to go back to work. I don't know about her but my c-sections were painful and I could barely move for weeks.

It sounds like you are looking for support [2007-06-24]
it doesn But then again, if you are getting the $1000.00 a week from the father, that must have been what caught your eye, so maybe you could cut your hours back. It does sound like something will suffer either your work time, your own children, or the ones you are inheriting. I think you Would the father consider hiring a nanny to help you?

Can you insert a line and just type above the error? nm [2007-06-13]
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Hmm, sounds like a boy thing...have 3 myself, but little girls. THEY do things like sm [2007-06-12]
wash the hamster with my expensive shampoo, then blow-dry him....drop an apple in the toilet and flush Gotta love Keep breathing!

Sounds just like me when I was a child. [2007-04-04]
I had a twin sister in the same room and everything. I remember one time I felt like ants were in my bed. My parents did not indulge my anxieties too much, but I did drag the cat into bed to protect me. Unfortunately, when he stretched out one paw I decided he was cuffing at ants in my bed, so he wasn't much help. I still don't like spiders, and had one crawl across my eyelashes for real one night. A couple of nights later, DH ended up with 2 spider bites on his forehead. But I digress. I would make a point to let her see you fixing the problem. I'd go around the house and use caulk and that expanding STUFF (an expanding caulk) to close up any cracks around fireplace, mantle, plumbing pipes, etc. If you live in a dry climate, you could spread diamateous earth (not the kind used for pools though) around the house. This is something that any hard-shelled bug/spider is killed by because it shreds their exoskeleton when they walk on it. But as soon as it rains it starts washing away. This stuff is harmless to pets and people except that you don't want to inhale it, so you would wear a mask while putting it out. Then you could tell her you had solved the problem of spiders/bugs getting into the house. I'd also try to help wear her out with exercise so natural relaxation can kick in at night. Good luck.

sounds about the time I started vomiting, mine wasn't morning sickness, just certain foods/smells [2006-11-10]
would trigger, and then learned to avoid them. Good luck and keep us posted!

Your mother is trying to help! [2006-11-02]
Your mother is trying to help because she fears your son will feel shafted on his birthday. My Mother would have tried to do the same thing. But I can tell you this, that I lost my mother after a 3 week illness one month ago, and if only I could experience those days again! You may be misunderstanding your mother's intentions. If your mother did not care, then there would be no cake at all! Good luck on the biopsy situation and after it comes back take a day as a family, you, your husband and your son, and enjoy yourselves even if you just go to the park! Life throws us curves, but the love and support of family keeps us strong! Hang in there! God's strength be with you!

I paid a "grandma" type to come to my house. [2006-09-26]
she was retired so didn't need more than $4/hr. She read to my kids, fed my kids, played with my kids and loved every minute of it.

Sounds like too much to me... [2006-09-22]
at that age, maybe only cereal. Feeding solids too soon can cause food allergies. JMHO, of course. I didn't start my babies on anything but cereal and maybe a little fruit mixed in, until they were at least 6 months old, and then very gradually. Baby needs formula or breastmilk more than anything for the first year really.

What I've done...sm [2008-11-15]
With the experiences IWell, ANYBODY can do what you do. You just type. Most people are fascinated when they find out what I do and ask a lot of great questions and then say, Well I could never do that. Then there are the handful that have the attitude that makes DH say what he says. Itype without training. Of all the people I've given the website info to, only one actually came to my house and looked at my office setup and looked through my course materials, took the course, graduated and is now a working MT. She GETS IT. My DH and my family GET IT. I don't know how you explain it to someone who probably won't get it. You know? It's tough when people think anyone can do what you do.

how do you describe MT work... [2008-11-12]
I donbecause it sounds like fun or those who don I can How can I explain this job to them? Most people do not realize that I had to actually complete MT school, which takes 18 months to 2 years+, and that even though I had a doctorate, it did not matter in this field, I still had to do the MT school because I did not have MT experience?? I have one friend in particular, who is a medical assistant and thinks she can just jump right into being an MT and will be great at it because she has experience. However, I had experience as a PA and have a doctorate and STILL learned quite a bit...seriously it just drives me crazy lately when someone says oh, you work from home...can you get my sister a job? She wants to work from home too... or something along those lines. Sorry if I Thanks in advance!

I believe it is all a state of mind [2008-08-31]
kind of thing. Some days I would love to stay in my pj I have 5 children that I homeschool every morning. I have a K, 2nd, 3rd, 5th, 6th graders at home. They are the reason I do this job so that I can be home with them. I work 4 days per week, part-time and the kids have piano lessons, dance lessons, school work, etc.. We manage to get everything done in a day. They also know that when mom is working it is time for them to do something quietly and they cooperate very well. It can be done and it does not have to be hard.

Wanting to switch companies [2008-07-27]
I am an experienced MT currently employed as an IC for a small transcription company in Nebraska.I do enjoy working for this company; however, I especially love that I do not have a set schedule. I am contracted to type a minimum of 1000 lines in a 24-hour period - VERY easy. Does anyone know of any other companies like this? Thank you for any suggestions!

Been there...done that [2008-07-24]
Please don't beat yourself up. I've been exactly where you are and it's not a hard place to end up. I could have written your post. I lived in my PJs and sometimes wore them for days, no make-up, and the same issues with even basic daily hygiene, i.e. showers. The best advice I can give you is what worked for me and that is to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE! I had to put MTing on the back burner and actually took a job close to home as a waitress! Believe it or not, it did wonders for my self-esteem. Most people would consider serving the public a degrading position or demotion from what I had done before. I needed the structure, a time-clock, and just basic interaction with other human beings. After close to a year, I am back at home working once again as an MT. Public service can be difficult, but it was just the boost I needed to get my mojo back and appreciate the fact that I'm in a field that allows me to work at home. Believe it or not, I miss the people so much, I'm considering going back to waitressing a few nights a week. I actually even made more waitressing than being an MT! Give it a shot. Waitressing may not be your first choice, but I would definitely advise finding any type of job that will get you out of the house. It will give you a reason to fix yourself up and dig the make-up bag back out. Please feel free to email me if you'd like to talk. Good luck to you!

Truthful advice [2008-07-23]
I just recently got married and I am working in-house at our local hospital. I LOVE getting out of the house and going to work every day. I love what I do and want to stick with it. We will probably not be having children for at least a couple of years as my husband has a year left in college to get his business degree. I want to be able to stay home and raise my children, but I have seen what it has done to my mom. She sits at home all day in her PJs and type, type, types. I am just wonderng if any of you have any regrets about deciding to do transcription full time from home in order to be there for your children? This may sound a little selfish, but I donsometime to think about it, but it has been a topic that I have really been thinking about lately.What I would really like to do is stay at home with them until they are all in school and then try to get a job out of the house while they are at school. Have any of you made this transition? Any advice would be appreciated. I would just like a heads up before making any decisions. Thanks!

I totally agree... [2008-07-22]
This is what I would do: In the morning either before or after your sleep time, go ahead and get a shower and get dressed even if that is in sweats or comfortable clothes. Wear these same clothes to cook dinner and into your shift. I think the problem is that you're working 3rd shift and I think that is the cause of the PJ situation. I read a book that my 8-year-old wrote around Motherpajamas. I had not really looked at it that way, but I guess she does see me in lounge clothes moreso than everyday clothes. I also work full-time at home, but not third shift. You may also want to consider getting involved in something even if it is a painting class or something you like to do. I know this costs money, but your sanity will be saved in the long run. I am fortunate enough to have gotten involved with some of the parents from my kids Even though it is not over and beyond socializing, it is something, i.e., coffee for an hour on a weekday. It is very, very easy to get homebound in this profession. I cringe at the thought of going out on a Friday night with all of the traffic. I am only 37, this is not right. So, I am also letting you know that you are not alone. Hang in there, and like the other poster says get a haircut. Plan a dinner out if possible with your teens and make it a point to step outside a few times during the evening just to gulp some fresh air. I water the flowers. Is there something that needs done outside that you could do this? Hugs to you...

first step [2008-06-14]
Brooke: I want to commend you on going to church and the strides you are making to show a good example. But that may not be quite enough. It sounds as if your husband has an inkling that he needs to make some changes . However, I do still think that the suggestion for martial counseling with your pastor is important. From some of you have said it does sound like there are a few more seriuos issues than him simply taking you for granted. You make it sound as if he is controlling all the fiances and your behavior and actions through that. Now I understand being frugal but you stated he can spend what he wants but you afraid to even ask for 20 dollars to joint a Momgood now. But remember, again you are to be viewed in terms of good or bad or imply you deserve certain treatment do to past mistakes. In the end you shoudl provide for your future. I think every woman does need a saftey plan for financial security. Working part-time would provide you money to buy some things for yourself and also to join group. You need social support. Right now you are essentially isolated other than your husband and family. What about joinign a MOPS group through church? I am not sure, but dont' think there is a charge. You need a group of supportive peole other than your husband. Keep going to church - maybe your husband might get into the men's minsitry. This could serve two-fold. He could see and model from Chrisian men how they interact aand also how they treat their wives. It would also give him a social outlet. The two of you going out without kids is also good. remember so a combinatin of things. One thing (such as date night or occasional church service) isn't going to work. Pray together. Have yourchurch family pray for you. I undersatnd divorce is not an option. I salute your committment to your marriage but your husband has to be as committed. It cannot just be about YOU making changes. So pray for his change of heart and try to actively involve him. YOu must communicate with him. Not yell, no walk on egg shells. If you are afraid to talke to him why? Has he been abusive/ Were you abused in the past by someone? AGain if this the case you need immediate intervention. Bottom line God asks men to love their wives but he did not say control their wives or belittle their wives. Women should suport and love their husbands as head of household but not be afraid of them or cower to them....

Counseling with pastor? [2008-04-01]
There is a fine line between constant criticism and verbal abuse. I don For girls, you don For boys, you don I think it's great that you are about to start MT training and wish you all the best. If you want to make things work with your husband, it seems like you may benefit from an objective third party. Your pastor This may be a good source to have someone to go to couples therapy with, especially if cost would be an issue which it sounds like with your husband. I would also sit and discuss your finances with your husband at some point. Not having access to household funds except through him is not responsible. If he were to have an accident and get laid up for awhile, how would you pay the bills? Just some things to think about.

Sounds like his mother was this type of [2008-04-01]
wife/mother and that is all he knows. My ex was like that (his mom was SAHM and did absolutely everything) and he found out real quick that was not the real world, especially as I was working 40+ hours a week. I truly believe you both need to sit down and let each other know your expectations. Since this has been going on forever, it is going to take time for you both to come to some sort of compromise. You can only do so much before you run yourself into the ground. Then you are no good for anyone--him or your children. Plus, your kids need to know that if and when they have families, it takes 2 to run a household, not just the mom.

don't lose your sense of self... [2008-03-30]
Wow, I totally feel for you! Have you thought about writing him a letter - maybe something like what you just wrote to all of us.. maybe on paper he will see it a little clearer... and if not, honey I would STOP doing ALL of it! Marriage is a PARTNERSHIP remember and by the way, it's not 1950 anymore. It takes two to keep things going and him providing the source of income, although huge and I'm sure you are greatful - is not the only thing that defines a man as a husband or a dad for that matter. My husband and I both work, we both contribute financially, and actually, I made more then him last year - that said, us women/moms will always do more then them, my husband does help and he does share in most of the duties... he has too. In our early years together I once had to tell him that I wasn't his maid, cook or sex slave and that that if I was going to feel alone in our relationship, well, then ALONE is what I would be and his ass would be gone. Needless to say, he heard me loud and clear and while we work very hard everyday to keep our marriage strong, it is work on both of our parts. Your husband has to help more... he has to realize that the longer this goes on, the more you end up resenting him! and truly is this they way you want your children to see you for the next 20 years? Get out of the house, role pennies to get the $20 bucks to get into the local moms club... do it for yourself, it sounds like you need it! Keep you chin up and fight your hardest to get through to him!

SAHM/WAHM and fairness, respect [2008-03-29]
I wouldn't call my position as a current SAHM terribly difficult. My toddler, while quite rowdy and misbehaved some days, is fairly content to entertain herself while I do housework. My newborn is a quiet one. My house is small and cleans rather quickly. There is a place for mostly everything, so there's not much clutter aside from my daughter's toys which migrate from her room to every other room in the house. I have to do laundry at my mother in law's because we don't have a washer/dryer, so my kids get to visit with their nana and papa while I wash the clothes. We have a fenced-in yard and there is a park two steps from my house so I don't have to pack the kids in the car to take them someplace to play. Some days I finish the housework so fast that I'm bored unless I'm creative and can find something for me and my toddler to do together (which is what I should be doing anyway). However, I do absolutely everything around my home, including on the weekends. My husband seems to think that because he works outside the home, he shouldnjust another bill. I take the girls to their wellness appointments. I change out the garbages. I keep up the garage and the yard. I check the mail. He puts our toddler to bed most nights because I'm nursing our newborn, but since he works late often I've been able to practice putting her to bed quickly enough so my newborn doesn't interrupt us by crying. He takes the garbage to the curb (most of the time). He's put the dishes away a handful of times. If I ask to go somewhere for some time alone, he'll watch our toddler for an hour or two (I don't ask for this often, but maybe I should?). He spends whatever he wants on computer games and fast food... I get nothing to spend on myself or the kids unless it's an absolute necessity. When I worked part time and was pregnant, I did everything. When I gave birth, he was forced to learn how to put our toddler to bed, so that's why he does that now. I try to sleep in but I can't with a toddler loose in the house and a hungry newborn. I'm feeling pretty run-down and lethargic lately, cooped up and lonely, insignificant and like I can't get anywhere. I'm about to start MT training and of course will still be expected to do everything around the house without any help and without any forgiveness should I miss something. I'm worried that even once I start working full time and the kids are in daycare, he's not going to lift a finger to help me out -- I'll have even less time after work to do all the chores on top of caring for the kids. I'm not looking forward to the arguments that will ensue if I fail to do the dishes one day or let the livingroom get a little cluttered. HeI better take care of that quick before he sees it as opposed to hey look there. one time when I was pregnant and started a valid argument with him about another topic, he resorted to pointing out my lack of housekeeping skills (which had nothing to do with the subject) in order to throw me off and upset me. I want to contribute to our household because we've been living off his income alone since January, but I feel that even working full time won't make him appreciate what I do for our children and our household. I am not ungrateful that he is our only income currently, but the only reason for this is because I just gave birth. Had I not done that, I would still be working right now, but there would still be an inequality in our relationship, and I don't know how much more I can take before I just shut down and shut him out completely. Any confrontation about how I feel leads to a shouting match and finger-pointing, so I just don't say anything at all. We just got married in October and I already see it going downhill if this continues. Any advice? How can I put it to him that I'm his wife and the mother of his children, not his 24-hour maid? That even though I'm not working, I still deserve respect and time to myself and a little money to spend on what I want? That when I am working, we need to split the chores because it's not just my house, it's his too? Or should I just repeat this whole last paragraph?

It sounds like he was this way before you were a SAHM, [2008-03-29]
and probably was this way before you married him. You cannot do everything yourself and you should not try. (He may not even know what he needs to do to help you and is just lashing out because he is stressed too.) You need to speak with him about this, but I'll leave that advice to others that have gone through similar situations. (I am a SMBC and do do everything myself, but I also do not have anyone complaining about my choice to fingerpaint with my child instead of scrubbing the floors.) In addition, maybe you can find a group of moms to get together with and socialize while the kids play, something like a Mommy and Me that would allow you to bring both your kids. Something that would get you out of the house where your kids would be safe and you could interact with other adults. You sound isolated and stressed. Just out of curiosity, what is/was his relationship with his mother like? Is she one of the do-everything for her family moms or did she delegate responsibility to her spouse and kids?

all you moms who have infants and keep them home while you do MT [2008-03-27]
how on earth do you do it? i mean, my youngest is two months old and i can see just keeping her in her bouncer next to me or having a boppy pillow around my waist and setting her on it to nurse while i type, but what about when they get older and are crawling around? i wouldn't be able to keep my head buried in reports at that point... i can't even surf the internet for five minutes without my toddler getting into something, so what do you all do? many ads for MT schools include the idea that youtime with my kids, so i think that's misleading... especially for moms of infants and toddlers. my husband and i also do not trust many people to care for our children so finding a daycare we like will be tough, not to mention the cost.

Walgreens [2008-03-12]
I just posted this on the gab board too: I was wondering if any of you know how to shop and get tons of free items or nearly free from walgreens!? I just started2 weeks ago and iare no fees or whatever other people trying to make money do! =) Just passing on some fantastic ways to save money and get some pretty cool things.

No, you are NOT a kook! :-) [2008-02-26]
My mother named me for the meaning... my name, taken together, means pure as a lily and growing up I felt it a precious charge to keep... Giving your children a meaningful name can be your own private way to let your child know how precious they are to them. I don't expect the whole world to care what my name means... I love it that Mom thought that much of me and gave me something to live up to!

have to agree with Mom of many [2008-01-31]
I Believe me, I If a child gets away with it once they My 4-year-old used to get up around 3 a.m. and try to come into my bed but I just tuck him right back into his bed. He used to fuss and cry but he knows now that it won't work and his early morning awakenings are becoming less and less, down to once a week now. As parents we just have to be consistent right from the start and don't give in, even when we're exhausted and frustrated.

nothing new yet, I am leaning on [2008-01-27]
Mya Avery for a girl, and Ryder for a boy, no definite middle name picked for him, possibly Kingston or Kensington though. My hubby likes Mya, but really likes Peyton. I thought of Peyton Mya, but doesn Just have yet to find anything else to top that.I understandsome people choose namesfor their meaning and all, but it is not like someone is going to say,Oh, Dylan, I like thatname-- means from the water. Not ONCE in my son I think it is kooky to choose solely based on the meaning... What sounds goodto us is what is important. Any other comments??!! Thanks for re-responding!!

Some ideas [2008-01-23]
These might work for you. I went to college and had three children and a full-time job (transcription). My employer let me work at home too and on a flex schedule, just had to get the work done and I aimed for weekends, but you may want to work pm - that works too. I had to be at the hospital at set times too, 6:00 - 3:30 three days a week for clinical and then two days a week at school all day long from 7:00 to about 4:00. I had my mom (thank God for moms) pick up my kids from school (they were a little older than yours). I picked them up from her house after I got out of school, about 4:30. I went home and then fed everyone, then baths were early and some homework and everyone had to go to bed early. Like at 7:00. They could leave the lights on and play with a toy or talk for a half-hour and then they had a half-hour of reading time - quietly after that and they mostly always fell asleep that way. I then had a few hours to do my homework (nursing school has lots of it) and clean up the kitchen, maybe type for an hour or two. I went to bed early as possible and listened to recorded lectures until I fell asleep. I got up every morning at 4:00 a.m. for four years. Even on the weekends. I listened to recorded lectures at those times and cleaned the house, made lunches, and did the laundry. It is peaceful at 4:00 a.m. and things you study are best remembered if you study for some reason. On weekends, I made up enough dinners for the rest of the week and froze them, typed reports for work (cramming 40 hours worth in is not easy. I did it with a little bit done during the week on lighter days, but for three hours without fail on Saturdays I went to the library to work on school stuff alone - my mom again! It helps to listen to lectures (recorded) while you drive and while you get ready in the mornings. I had a study group too (three of us) and that helped a lot. We divided up all the material we had learned before exam days and exchanged our notes and study materials in that way. I was married, but my husband was gone on business five days a week, so he was no help. Just get a pattern going and stick with it no matter what (except illness). It is easier to clean in the morning when kids are asleep. Get rid of all the extra toys and knick-knacks - you won't have to dust them or put them away if they aren't there. Make sure you have a freezer and a dishwasher because they are your best friends. If you can't fix dinner, eat out or get takeout, but be sure it does not become your only source of food. Plan ahead and you won't have to do that often. Sometimes I cheated and took all the clothes to the laundromat because you can do it all at once (like in two hours) in case that has fallen behind. Sometimes I thought I would lose it, but I didn't. I survived and graduated, did not get fired from my job and my kids are all okay. Take vitamins. Learn to like coffee! I never drank it until then. Good luck. You can do it!

Overwhelmed! [2008-01-18]
I am a self-employed WAHM-MT. I do not have a degreeMT, was trained 10 years ago by the same client I am contracted with now. They had 4 phys. when I started and it was myself and an in-house MT. I had 1 child then, who napped 3-4 hours a day, so I worked before she woke up, during her naps, and after she went to bed. 10 years later andseveral children later, they now have 6 drs. and 3 np They no longer have an in-house MT, just myself and another WAH MT. There is more than double the work, and less workers, but unfortunately they canmath and figure that out. They refuse to let me subcontract someone to help me. They refuse to hire someone else. They used to demand 24 hr turnaround, but now thank goodness they have at least realized that they can However, after 2-3 days they are complaining and calling me on the phone wanting notes typed and faxed. They refuse to telecommute, so I am still picking up tapes every day. I have a set amount of hoursI work a day, because I have a family to care for and there is only so much work I can do in a day. That is why I work at home. However, they don I have been working my normal M-F hrs, but I am so backed up that I still have 2-3 days worth of typing left on my desk by the end of the day. It is a vicious cycle, because for every 2-3 tapes I get done in a day, they give me 3-4 the next day. If I am still backed up on Fridays, they expect me to work on Sat and Sun, or on holidays, to get caught up. If I did this, I would be working 7 days a week. I told them I would like to avoid working on my days off. I don Apparently the other at-home MT does this for them, or at least they think she does, because they used that bit of information to try to manipulate me into working this weekend. I really am at a loss of what to do. I need the job, but at the same time, I have children who need me. I dona week. Does anyone else out there have this problem or feel this way? They will call me and want me to stop fixing my children It is like they want me to neglect my children, which I cannot and will not do. In the past, I have looked at finding another client, but most in my area want someone with a degree. If I don My husband is looking for a better job making more $ so I can either quit and find another line of work, but nothing has turned up so far. Does anybody out there charge extra for working over a certain amount of hours, or a certain amount of lines? Any advice? Well, I don Thanks for letting me vent.

Yes... [2008-01-18]
I have been through the same thing. I am a mother of two who has had some schooling, but mostly trained on the job. I am self-employed, as well. While working for a national, I was told that I couldn't take the time to feed my baby, or even have a bathroom break...YES I WAS TOLD THAT. So, I left and decided to do things on my own. What I do is sit down and list every activity we have going on for that week (we even play 2 basketball games on Saturdays and have lots of traveling to do that day) and fit work in. I typically like to work M-F, but there are times when I work on Saturday, as well. I have a 24-hour TAT, so as long as I get my work in on time, I am doing okay...still having time with my family and time for work, as well. As far as Holidays, I don't totally write them off of my schedule..if I have work available then after I spend time with my family and the kids have gone to bed, I work. It can be very frustrating, but once you find the balance between home (family) and work, you will feel free as a bird (and less overwhelmed). I sure hope this helps!

Marion Claire, Jacqueline Ruth, Catherine Brigid, Emily, Rachel, Rebecca, Sarah, Hollis, Meryl [2008-01-18]
For boysRaydell (pronounced Ray-dale here in the south),Xavier (pronounced like savior). Whatabout Matthew, Mark, Luke or John,Christopher, Thomas, James, Andrew, Seth, Adam, Patrick, Sebastian? Whatever name you choose, practice screaming it out the back door to see if you like the way it sounds comin Good luck and short labor to ya!Cat

As far as spelling goes you are soooo right [2008-01-17]
My name is Tereasa and the extra A was put on my birth certificate by mistake. My mother liked it and kept it there. Will never find anything such as a keychain, coffee mug, etc wtih that spelling. It is also never spelled correctly in programs, yearbooks, etc. When I was married my mother typed up the announcement for the paper. The paper called to see if the way she spelled my name was a typo.LOL

Local offices [2008-01-16]
I am very new at this game. I have been trying to get a WAHM type job so that I can raise my sons. I hope to have some in house daycare for them in the afternoons to help me out with time. Will most offices just take your resume and toss it to the side? That is what I am worried about them doing. I live in Michigan and have noticed more docs using the voice rec software. My husband is starting to think he spent money on nothing. I am out to prove him wrong. Thanks

I was going to give the same exact advise as the other poster. [2008-01-08]
but I wasnreal job or that you cannot make good money, but you can if you believe in yourself. Your hubby sounds a little on the controlling side and I WAS married to that until I smartened up and got someone who is so supportive of me, well sometimes TOOO supportive. Hewhat are you up to? as in money because sometimes I can really kick ...you know what..Best of luck to you and DO NOT GIVE UP no matter what anyone has to say. Be successful in SPITE of them..Good luck.