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update [2008-03-31]
thank you all for your encouragement and advice.
we haven't been going to church regularly lately and i've realized maybe we need it, so i packed the kids up and we went to church (he came too, usually i get up and get the kids ready and tell him an hour before i leave that if he's not ready by then i'm leaving without him -- he sleeps in on weekends, as i said before).
so we go to church and guess what the sermon is about... marital disharmony. our pastor listed some things that cause disharmony and one of them was unrealistic expectations. i listed mine as expecting him to be home more often to spend more time with us. he asked if i wanted us to spend more time together, and i said yes. so he convinced his mom to take the girls and then took me out to dinner, and told me he would try to do something with me once a week.
another thing the pastor said was not to criticize differences, to embrace them and celebrate them. he didn't make any comments about it but i'm hoping if he paid attention to the expectations part that maybe he paid attention to this too. i've told him before that i can't take constant criticism, it breaks me down and makes me feel worthless.
i do realize keeping my mouth shut for the sake of peace and quiet isn't going to get us anywhere. one day it's all going to add up and i'm not going to know what i'm doing here anymore.
if he can keep making little steps like he did yesterday, then i can keep setting an example and look forward to his slow maturity.
i do have some childhood banks my mom gave me recently, filled with coins -- i'm going to take them in to be counted asap.
Update on 1-year-old [2008-02-06]
It seemsthat the situation was only temporary, thank god!!!! He is back to sleeping until at least 5 gets a small bite to eat and back off to sleep until about 7. But, he has decided he will only be needing the one nap a day.
I hope letting everyone know that my woes are over for now doesn't back fire. (LOL)
Don't ya love how life is so unpredictable!!!
Thanks to everyone that let me know that I was not alone.
Jenn
UPDATE on this...... [2006-10-24]
I am FURIOUS! My mom just called and said I ordered his cake. I asked when was it going to be ready and she said tomorrow - his actual birthday - which I had told her we were planning on something over the weekend. We were not having his birthday party on my son's actual birthday because my husband has to go for outpatient surgery tomorrow for a lymph node biopsy and removal- it is feared that he has lymphoma. So now she is just planning a get together with my son, her and my dad...she is making it all out to be something HUGE in front of my son about HER having this party for him....how wrong is that?!?!?! I am so upset and mad!
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