Am very sorry for your loss

the weight loss one, "you just CAN'T [2008-12-04]
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loss [2008-12-03]
My sister-in-law died at 52 of lung cancer with brain mets. She had neck pain for five years before and thought it was from a car accident, but it was the tumor. Christmas was her favorite holiday. My husband quit smoking on her birthday for motivation.

I'm very sorry. It must be a sad loss. [2008-11-17]
xx

So sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences. nm [2008-11-17]
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I am so sorry for your loss. sm [2008-11-17]
It is never easy to go down that road, at any time, let alone after 22 years. I hope your Fred had a good, long life. My 4 cats and I will keep you in our thoughts.

I'm sorry for your loss...sm [2008-11-16]
22 years is such a long time to have a pet. I know he was a member of the family.

I am so sorry for your loss...sm [2008-11-13]
what a terrible thing to happen. You are right to dread the holidays. I would too.

I'm so sorry for your loss [2008-11-12]
My older brother committed suicide also, a long time ago now, but I remember how hard that was. Time helps but it never goes away completely. So sorry. :(

Post on Weight Loss board. nm [2008-10-29]

Anyone with anemia and hair loss? [2008-10-01]
The reason I ask is because I have been having hair loss and the doctor just told me I am slightly anemic. I now have to take iron and I am trying to get more info from anyone who has this? I also have a hiatal hernia, that probably needs to be fixed, and googling this stuff, it could be all related... Any info from anyone that has experience with this is appreciated!

Loss of smell and taste [2008-09-16]
Thank you so much for responding. It is bothering me somewhat as when I mentioned this to my primary care doctor he didn I will be seeing the ENT doc on Friday and hopefully I can get some answers. I guess I will have to get used to eating food and not being able to enjoy the flavor. I also read on line about smells, spoiled foods, gas fumes, etc. Thanks again and I am glad you are doing well otherwise.

Loss of taste and smell (SM) [2008-09-16]
Hello all - I was wondering if anyone on this board has ever lost their sense of taste and smell due to an upper respiratory infection and/or chronic sinusitis. This happened to me about 3 months ago and I assumed I would regain my sense of taste and smell but I haven Any suggestions as to treatment would be greatly appreciated. BTW I will be visiting an ENT specialist soon. TIA

Shouldn't this be moved to the Weight Loss board? [2008-08-19]

Weight Loss Board is Live Now! [2008-07-31]
See Menu on your left. If you are unable to see Weight Loss Board link in the list, Push Control + F5 on your keyboard to refresh your browsercache. Thanks,MTStars Support.

thanks for that info. it's inspiring to know about people's stories of weight loss. sm [2008-07-24]
a big majority of my problem is in my head, the way i think. i like to think of my self as being a positive person loving life, but i do have my days where i get down, especially about my weight. but i look at every day as a new day and i can always start over. i'll check out this website, thanks so much!

I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your beloved pet [2008-07-02]
That was so sad to hear your story. The worse part of it was that your beloved pet died and I feel such sympathy for you and what you must be going through. What has this country become when so many people are sue happy. DH and I have talked about wanting to start a business growing veggies and raising talapia fish to sell but I said in today's day and age there is no way I will sell anything anyone eats as there are too many people out there waiting to creat a law suit. Makes me ashamed to live in a country with so many scam artists out there trying to make a quick buck. You know what, whether your dog bit her or a bone scratched her, there were no marks or anything. If her foot was mangled or something I could understand but please - give me a break. I'm glad for you it wasn't any worse (money wise), but am deeply saddened you lost such a wonderful pet. I still grieve for my cats (and they died 8 years ago). I hope things get better for you and hope that person will get her comeuppance.

hormonal imbalances and sleep loss - can you help? sm [2008-06-30]
Hi, ladies. Five weeks ago I began experiencing severe middle insomnia for the first time in my life. I will sleep for 3 hours, be awake for 3 hours, and then maybe sleep for another hour before it is time to get up. I also cannot nap no matter how tired I am because I tried that several times. Ambien CR no longer keeps me alseep, nor does Lunesta, and I am not big on having to take a sleep aid every single night for sleep. I have tried melatonin, which also has not kept me asleep. I have been told I have hormonal imbalances (am nearly 44), am on no HRT, and wonder what anyone might suggest for sleep until I can get myself squared away on some hormonal therapy. My poor husband...He has been a saint through all of this, but I am not sure how much longer I can work, keep up with the house, etc., with missing so many hours of sleep each night. Pretty desperate here.

HE'S usually 'at a loss for words', as well! [2008-06-19]

So sorry for your loss. [2008-06-14]
Handsome fella. What is his name? You obviously cared for him deeply, and I am sure your fur-friend knew this. Again, so sorry for your loss.

Am very sorry for your loss [2008-06-14]
It is so sad to lose a pet. We lost our two cats in 1989 (both died within 3 months from eacher other - were brother/sister). It is so hard and to this day I cannot talk about them as it chokes me up and I start crying as though it was yesterday and I feel such sadness (you would think after 9 years I'd be over it by now, but it still hurts - and now I can see why my mom never got over my baby sisters death). In amongst our research we wanted to know if pets go to heaven and came across some wonderful web sites. Here is a link to a site I just came across as my MIL just lost her cat. I hope it helps you during this time. http://www.dopetsgotoheaven.com/

I'm so sorry for your loss. [2008-06-14]
What a gorgeous boy he was. He reminds me of one of the shelties we had when I was growing up. Ginger was mostly my mom's dog, and all the kids had moved out by the time she lost her. She took Ginger's jingling collar with her on her walks for a long time.

Terrible terrible loss [2008-06-13]
I'm in shock. What a horrible loss for all of us. He was the voice of reason and spoke it like it was. My heart goes out to his family and friends. You can hear how everyone on the news is in shock. The news will never be the same without him.

It is sold in pill form for weight loss, [2008-06-10]
so I would take it that way.

Female hair loss [2008-06-06]
I I Of course, for the last few years I was on Zoloft, and now that I have stopped it we are hoping I soon will once again have a full head of hair, but just in case... How do you handle it? Wigs, scarves? My hair has always been my one vanity, so this is somewhat disturbing. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks in advance, HC

I am so sorry for your loss... [2008-03-30]
it is so hard to loose our family member when they have been through thick and thin with us, giving us all their love. You should not feel guilty and have nothing to feel guilty about - you gave her a great life and she knows that. You did all you could (and more) to make her comfortable and she passed on knowing you were there with her and she no doubt felt it was a nice way to go....with her family in her own home. My thoughts are with you.

You may want to see a doctor if you [2008-12-03]
haven't already. I had tinea versicolor many years ago. My experience was that I noticed the pigment of my skin was changing - having the usual color with sort of white spots all over. The doctor told me it is a fungal infection. I never had problems with irritation, burning or itching, just the loss of pigment. He gave me a body wash that I had to use 3 X a week. You apply it to the body and then wait for 20 minutes and then take a shower. It took close to a year to get rid of it. Although I am not a doctor, it doesn't sound like tinea versicolor but more like an allergic reaction to the wire of the bra. I would see a doctor to find out exactly what it is.

I had my own store. Got a following almost became [2008-12-02]
But the fees added up so much that is listing fees,final value fees, that I made about 33% after paypal took their fees too. Then, I shipped all over the world too so I'd be sure to make sure the shipping costs were right or I would get burned there. Then, there became the people who would want their money back even if the listing said only store credit. Customer is always right. So, by the time you count the money I spent on the item to begin with (usually something I thought I would naturally make money on), the fees, the time spent taking pictures, the digital battery, etc. I had a gigantic loss this year. Plus, if you buy on e bay, you should watch your selling, because you just might spend all your profit, which comes out to about 5 to 10 bucks an hour. I loved doing it, don't get me wrong. I met people from all over the world. I sold a dress to the Prime Minister of a University in England, and other interesting people. I still have friends on there who are sellers too. But, I had to close down shop because the fees just got to be too much for me. I would rather sit and type and have free time doing artistic things and having hobbies. Some of my friends who have a following on e bay and have been selling for years range in the 25K a year range, and they have a business license, and charge state tax. Don't forget as well, you have to pay income tax just like any other IC job. Just was not worth it to me. Good luck to you.

Wow! Was a nerve hit??? [2008-11-24]
I didnLeave it to Beaver. That's just not the case. By the end of the 1960s and into the 1970s the pendulum had started to swing so far toward women having careers that we were often belittled for choosing to be home with the children. Remember Hillary Clinton's cookie baking comment during her husband's first campaign? In fact, stay-at-home moms were the norm for only one brief period in our history right after WW II in the post war boom times. There was a pretty awful recession in the 1970s, and I remember gas rationing and long lines at the pumps. My mother had to work two jobs, and my father, who was in construction, was often one of the first to feel economic ups and downs in his paycheck. But we had dinner together every night at the kitchen table. Before the stay-at-home mothers of 1950's t.v. fame, most mothers worked. They had to. Only the very privileged stayed home and waited for Ward Cleaver to come home from the office. My grandmother, who lived to be 94, God bless her soul, was born in 1908. Her mother died during the great Spanish flu epidemic in 1918. My grandmother was the eldest of four children, and at the age of 10 she became the woman of the house. She stopped going to school so that she could cook and clean and took care of her father and siblings. And no one thought that was wrong. It was expected because there really weren't any government social services -- no welfare, no foster care. Eventually, when her father's depression over the loss of his wife became so great that he couldn't manage to bring home an income, people in the neighborhood just took over. The two eldest children went to live with other families. The two youngest went to an orphanage. My grandmother's father just drifted away and his children never saw him again. My grandmother married at age 20 and had four children during the depression. Talk about having it hard. When I was a young mother trying to make ends meet and I'd cry to my grandmother, she brought me around to reality. She told me what it was like for her to raise children during that time. Many a night she cried over whether or not she could even feed her children or if they would have a roof over their heads. And she wasn't alone. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, was in the same boat. The Great Depression was enormous. She and my grandfather worked wherever and whenever they could. They brought home a dollar or two at a time and fed their children buttermilk and potatoes. They didn't sleep, they worried all the time. Today, my grandmother's washboard hangs in my kitchen on the wall next to my dishwasher. It reminds me that I have no right to ever say that things are harder on us today. They aren't. Generally speaking, most Americans have so many more advantages, choices and opportunities than those who came before us. Yet many in my generation and the one or two generations behind me are just whiners and crybabies who don't think about the big picture. They even dare to say they have a harder time as parents today. Please. Not even close! Every generation seems to believe that, but just a short trip through a history book proves otherwise. I'm not that very old. But I've raised my children and I raised them well. I know what it takes to do that. It takes self-discipline, sacrifice and consistency. And you know what? That's exhausting. Parents today are tired. So what? All parents are tired. Offer it up, as the old nuns used to say. The kids have homework an hour a night. So what? They should have homework, and parents should make sure that it gets done, because education is important. There are parent-teacher meetings to attend, coaches association meetings, scout meetings, dance lessons, school recitals, etc. etc. etc. So what? Balance it out, quit what can't be done, do what can. Work because you have to. The kids have to be fed. It's still easier than it was a generation ago, two generations ago, three and on and on. We're parents to young ones for only a short time. Which reminds me, let's not forget about birth control. Most of us have 2-point-whatever children these days. I'm the youngest of 7. Most of the families in my neighborhood when I was growing up had 4 or more children. Today women can choose to have as many or as few children as they want. That means that we parent for far fewer years than the generations before us. I'm done with day-to-day parenting after just 20 years, and in fact, it got much easier on my day-to-day schedule once my boys were in high school. But my mother had children at home for 34 years. Imagine the number of cloth diapers for 7 children for year after year after year. Yes. I had it far easier, and I know it. So when I was exhausted raising my two boys, I just sucked it up and kept at it. The OP, I think, probably didn't want to be as blunt as I'm willing to be. She IS helping by babysitting her grandchildren while her children work. I'm sure she loves her children and grandkids, but I'm willing to bet that if she dared to say to her children the things I've posted, her children would react just as you did and she'd end up cut off from her family. To the OP: I hope it helped to vent a little, and I want you to know that I understand.

Here's my problem....sm [2008-11-21]
My dad is irresponsible and is in financial debt and doom. There is no way he can make the money to pay the bills he has accumulated. He has borrowed money he shouldnt have. Well the situation is... He has been knowing if he didn He refused to pay it. Every time he would get acheck he wouldn Well he kept not paying it for 2 months. Well yesterday they turned them out. It is freezing here. It is going to be in the 20s tonight. He said I don Well he was told and told to pay it and wouldn So now what does he do? As soon as he gets off work he comes to my house cause he don I can So I can He also said he had no money for food because he had to use it all for diesal for his dump truck. So I offered him food too. He also rumages through my cabinets for snacks. I feel like I am the parent and he is the child. My husband drives a big truck and he has been gone. When I tell him what is going on he gets aggravated because he is sitting at our house and all. He said he is a grown man and needs to step up and take care of himself but he is my dad and I can My husband will be home either late tonight or first thing in the morning and this is not going to go over too well with him. I am at a loss.

Us too - sm [2008-11-17]
On 11/13 we had to say goodbye to our 19-year old cat named AhAh. We've lost many over the years, and each one hurts as if it was the one and only. So sorry for your loss.

loving pet [2008-11-17]
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved pet. I'm glad you enjoyed his company and love for many years. This is the caveat of having our loving pets - it's so difficult to lose them. We will join with all of them one day, when it is our time...how could we not. They provide us with so much love and good company.

Yes, God bless Fred, and God Bless you in your kindness and love...sm [2008-11-16]
We had to put two of our pets, to gorgeous cats that had been our babies for 16+ years, in much the same story, they had gotten to the point where they were suffering and would suffer more. Horrible, heartbreaking decision, hurts like heck, but I do believe there have to be darling pets in Heaven, I cannot imagine how it would be heaven without them, they are so precious and give us so much love and happiness! So sorry for your loss!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart! [2008-11-16]
We will be leaving the space between our pillows where Fred slept each night empty in his honor. I truly appreciate the love and support you all have shown. Only those who have walked in our shoes can understand the depth of the love and the enormous loss we feel.

Gay Marriage Legalized in Connecticut [2008-11-13]
NEW HAVEN, Conn. � Same-sex couples began marrying in Connecticut on Wednesday after a judge cleared the way, a partial rebound for gay-rights activists still enraged over the vote last week that cost them the right to wed in California.Protests spread across the country over the loss in California, but in New Haven, bubbles and white balloons bounced in the chilly autumn air as well-wishers cheered the marriage of Peg Oliveira and Jennifer Vickery. They wed outside City Hall, next to a statue commemorating the Amistad slave ship's struggle for freedom, less than two hours after a judge made gay marriage a reality in Connecticut.

How many of you have a backup plan [2008-11-13]
if your spouse were to lose their job? Assuming the MT rate of pay isn I don We have no backup plan. My in-laws already have their other son (and family of 4) living with them due to job loss. My family lives in another state altogether. I don I just don Should we have some sort of plan in place? Do most people? Our savings has dwindled to nothing this past year with all the increased expenses and we have cut back all we can. There's nothing else to cut other than house/cars/utilities.

grandparent's death [2008-11-07]
I think you should tell them. My first close loss was my grandfather was when I was 12. It was actually unexpected. I believe they are old enough to understand and they would probably be more disappointed if someone slipped up and said something or they overheard it rather than being told up front. That way they can have some time to process it and hopefully can enjoy the time they have left with their grandfather. Please know you and your family have been lifted in my prayers.

Sometimes you won't lose much 1 week but BAM sm [2008-10-31]
you lose a bunch the next week; sometimes it is water-weight related, other times related to your period or hormones. Some weeks I didn't lose anything, only to have a 4 lb loss the next time! Just be sure to start being active (even if it is only walking to the end of your block) and drink your water!

I am 123 pounds down and have been for 3+ years [2008-10-30]
I went from 235.5 to 115. I did gain some weight in the middle of my weight loss, but I was baking a 9 pound 1 ounce baby during that time. I was at my prepregnancy weight within 3 days after delivery. The weight loss on WW was the best thing I've ever done for myself. Good luck!

God bless Bella! [2008-10-25]
There are no words to express how sorry I am about the loss of your sweet Bella. May she rest in peace.

I was not out buying designer clothes or stuff for myself - sm [2008-10-25]
in my case it was we, mainly him, spent way more than we make. Everytime one of his cards got a large balance (he never looked at the statements and I pay the bills) I would tranfer it over to one of my cards, which again he never looked at, and I had a P.O. Box for--so in my case it was very, very easy to do, and with paperless statements today even easier. We had a lot of things happen in our life over the past 4 years which made the money/credit card issue much worse, easily added $40K onto it (at $89K now)--family death, serious child illness--still dealing with that some--, job loss on my part, private school tuition ($12K a year---no longer go there for the last 2 years), inability to pay bills and heavily borrowed on cards----d-u-m-b I know. So don't be so quick to judge, it is not always so black and white. Yes I did get a few things I should not have, but I know during some of this time I was depressed though not horribly so but enough so as to buy a few things I never should have, but for 95% of it it was my DH never denying himself anything (though he would have if he'd known, and now he is --granted not too happy about it---one tiny concession he has made is only 9 beers a day, down from 12, so maybe he can get 3 days out of a case of beer instead of 2.) So my days of robbing Peter to pay Paul are over. We plan to have an open book when it comes to finances once his are paid off, and mine are enrolled with a debt management plan--- then only use his cards for gas, and work stuff basically--I won't have any as they will all get destroyed and cancelled in the DMP, and will use my debit card for everything --which I do now anyway, so it won't be a huge change for me. I don't think she is lamenting, just realizing what a horrid mess she has to deal with, it is hard, and I have to deal with my DHs comments for years to come, he did a few zingers last night. I will be okay though and have to pay the piper, it is worth it not having to go through a nasty divorce and custody fight as I know it would not have been pretty.

I'm so sorry to hear about your baby. sm [2008-10-24]
No words can help you get over your loss, but know that I feel your pain. I have three bassetts, they are older, and no matter how long you've had a baby, it's sad to lose any pet. You are in my thoughts. You did the right thing.

A sad story...sm [2008-10-13]
I have a sad story to tell. My husband She was coming from a night out and was drinking and wrecked. She was ejected from the vehicle and suffered severe head trauma. She was put on life support and was found to be brain dead. Her parents had to make the decision to pull the plug. The doctor assured them she had no brain activity and could not breath on her own or anything. So they unplugged her yesterday. This young woman was I think if not mistaken 29 years old. She had 3 children ages 8, 4, and 2. They have no mother now. She was so disfigured from the accident that her boyfriend went in ICU to see her and hit the floor as he passed out from the shock of seeing her face. She never dreamed when she left to go out last Friday night that she wouldn I had the pleasure of knowing this woman for her brief time here on Earth. She will be so missed by her children and the rest of her family. The 8 year old boy is taking it by far the worst because he comprehends what death means and that he won The 4-year-old just knows mommy is in heaven but can The 2-year-old just doesn She just misses her mommy. Brief story about what the 4-year-old said to her mawmaw yesterday: They were going down the road and she had learned earlier that day her mama was gone to heaven. She was staring out the window at the sky because she was told that was where mommy was. She was just desperately hoping for a glimpse of mom I guess. Then she said mawmaw that And she pointed to the sun. It was shining really bright inside the car on them. It was a really sunny day. Her mawmaw says where baby? She said do you see the sun mawmaw? She said yes baby I see it. She said that She is watching me mawmaw. This is from a 4-year-old. Now if that don Pray for these children who have suffered probably the greatest loss they will know. And please don

My children lost their father when they were 8,4,3 [2008-10-13]
It is a very tough position to be put in as a parent. My advice for the adults is do not drag these children into what should be adult grief. Several members of my kids' father's family tried to do this to them. They are children and are resilient just the way God made them and thankfully for them! They have a right to live happily and without guilt because they are happy. I'm not saying your family will do this, but on top of everything else, it was hard to watch this being done to my children. I am very sorry for their loss and the loss to your family.

Oh my gosh!!...sm [2008-10-12]
I am at a loss for words. I have never! And the parents just give in and make her happy! I would pull my hair out! I mean she gets the light and TV on all night and that is not good enough. That is more than a lot of kids get. Spoiled, spoiled, spoiled!

Anyone with anemia and hair loss? [2008-10-01]
The reason I ask is because I have been having hair loss and the doctor just told me I am slightly anemic. I now have to take iron and I am trying to get more info from anyone who has this? I also have a hiatal hernia, that probably needs to be fixed, and googling this stuff, it could be all related... Any info from anyone that has experience with this is appreciated!

Question [2008-10-01]
Over the last few years I have had a bit of hair loss on and off and some other symptoms. One of the other main symptoms has been petichiae on my lower legs. Have any of you had that? I thought it was due to circulation issues (no surface varicose but have spider veins and have read one can have deeper varicose that don't show). However, I think I have been eating better and getting more iron the last several months and have noticed the petichiae have subsided. Even the brown staining has pretty much gone away. My hair is better too. Just curious if any of you had petichiae as well.

Pay off 2 of the smaller cc and take a well - sm [2008-09-29]
deserved vacation with the rest. ----Or just bank it for an emergency like loss of job.

Really can't blame the govt on this one - sm [2008-09-29]
We all take responsibility for ourselves. Let's talk about the decisions we make and advertising. Some people see an ad for some kind of miracle weight loss drug. We know it isn't going to work the way the ad says it will but... still, some people buy it, the company makes big money. Same thing with some of these shady lenders. They may be sitting on a lot of foreclosures at a time but they will STILL make a lot of money off of the rest of the people. Now lets talk credit cards. Same thing here. I have a Discover card that I had paid off about 2 years ago. I still had a sizable balance on another card but my plan was to close the Discover and keep the other and pay it off too. When I called Discover to close my account after I had paid it off, they wanted to keep me of course so they offered me a fixed rate of 3.99% for three years on any balance transfers, no transfer fees, etc. Okay. I kept the Discover, transferred the balance and closed the other card. I am now 2 months from having it paid off again but....... even though I have requested numerous times that they NOT raise my available credit, they keep doing it. My available credit is now up to $14,000.00. Excuse me but I am NOT that stupid as to charge that much on a credit card, no matter what the interest rate is but..... Some people do it and end up in big trouble. The trick of it is that people need to be smarter than that. It's OUR money, OUR risk. Card companies don't give a rip if they over extend credit to people. They will find a way to squeeze the money out of them.

For my family [2008-09-25]
It has had an effect on some with job loss and problems finding a new job. Luckily for me and my hubs we have been able to hold ours. Gas prices are outrageous as well as groceries, I have noticed the same as you. We live in an area where you have to drive quite a distance for any work - hence my decision to work at home in transcription and take a paycut. Had I known nearly 10 years ago that it would cost so much in gas we wouldn't be living where we do...but that's hindsight and nothing I can do about that now. We have talked about selling our house and moving but that seems like a lost cause. Working at home has definitely payed off as every time gas prices go up, in a roundabout way I feel like I have gotten a raise. I am buying generic more often and we have cut back on junk food. No chips, ice cream, soda, anything. We just can't afford it. If I'm going to spend the money I want to spend it knowing we are getting nutrition packed in. we also grew a garden this summer to help cut back on produce costs.

Point [2008-09-24]
Who pi__ed in your Wheaties this morning? Geez. Someone was just venting, something we all have been doing. There is a difference between moaning and actually fearing the loss of a job and the loss of income we have all experienced with ASR.