Are you always so self righteous and condescending, or is it

Are you always so self-righteous and condescending, or is it [2008-05-12]
Who are you to judge and belitte people who work hard, and are doing everything they can to make ends meet? Oh wait... let me guess. You're one of those MTs whose husband has a six-figure income, right? And your MT income goes towards life's little frills.

how condescending can a person be? [2007-01-20]
After I had a surgery 2 years ago, I gained an incredible amount of weight - not water. Last May I started going to the pool and doing water aerobics every single day for 2 months and changed to a low-fat diet. I did not lose weight, but I was replacing fat with muscle, which is the first step with the amount of weight I was dealing with. Then I started getting one URI and sinus infection/ear infection after another. All that exercise kicked my GI tract into hyperdrive. Now I have IBS and colitis. I can I have pain every single day. I no longer have hunger pains as normal people do, so I really do have problems knowing when it is appropriate for me to eat. I My pay has been cut in half. I had to quit my second job and only work part time now instead of full time - all because I wanted to get healthy and in shape again. The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues.

I think he's a self-righteous busybody who should mind his own business. SM [2006-10-11]
Most of the people I know celebrate Halloween. They understand where it came from. It has nothing to do with evil. It's a celebration of dead soles and the hope for a mild winter and plentiful spring and summer seasons. What's evil about that?

I don't know [2008-09-18]
about making a marriage stronger. My family history sort of makes a statement against that. My grandfather was married to 2 women at the same time. My grandmother gave him an ultimatum either his 6 children, who he loved to pieces, or this other woman, he chose his children.However, they had a horrible marriage. My mom and dad divorced when I was 8. My dad remarried 4 times. My mom remarried once, and divorced. She had big time issues with trust, which I think is what destroyed her second marriage. Her second husband was a gem, but mom just could not trust him. He felt smoothered. He was a wonderful stepfather! I just don Yes, I have been tempted as I think everyone is, but to me, especially in my case, if you really love a person, and you have already hurt them once by cheating, how could you ever do it again!!!! No matter what the temptation is. No matter, if this woman, has long beautiful black hair and green eyes, blah blah blah. I am not trying to sound all righteous here, but if I were unhappy in a marriage, I would end it, then move on. I wouldn Having been through it, and seeing what it does to relationships, individuals, and children - - it is a horrible situation. If I decide to leave this marriage, I do not think I would ever marry again, let alone date. It has really crushed me. It has crushed my self-esteem. I have gained over 100 pounds in the last six years since my husbandlast affair. I justdo not feel attractive, and some ofthis has to do withthings he said to me. Okay, I needed the vent ;-(. Thanks for listening. As you can tell, this is weighing heavy on my mind today. They say time heals, well it has been six years, and so I do not know about that statement.

Kindergarten teacher [2008-09-10]
My little one just started kindergarten this year, and already I am getting flak from the teacher. She called me to tell me that my daughter is having problems putting papers in her folder, and that it seems like her hands get flustered when shes trying to do tasks like this. She also tells me that I need to make her do things around the house, like clean up her toys, take her dinner plate to the sink, etc. (all of these things that she has been doing for a while now!), so of course I just say okay, not wanting to seem like a smarty pants by telling her she already does these things. After I got off the phone I gave my daughter papers and a folder and told her to put them inside. She did, without a problem at all. Well, I was dropping her off this morning and I was walking her downstairs to her class and I had her lunch box in my hand from when we got out of the car, and they have this basket that they put the lunches in that sits outside of the door. So as I am walking out I just put it in the basket and go to leave, and the teacher (who was heading towards the classroom) makes it a point to stop in front of me and tells me that I need to let her do these things on her own and not to do them for her. It took all I had not to explode in her face! If I happen to be carrying her lunch box and just put it in the basket myself, I see no problem with that. Its also the demeanor of this teacher that I dontries to be helpful and nice but is actually condescending and rude. I wanted to say, Lady, why don't you get your nose out of my business and go teach the class? UGH. She just drives me up one side of the wall and down the other!!

crying (over you), Roy Orbison and [2008-07-26]
you've lost that loving feeling by the righteous brothers.

guess what [2008-07-01]
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that. Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.

OMG! Please tell me you didn't send this [2008-05-08]
While I fully understand wanting to protect your kids and trying to deal with the bullying this is definitely a letter that would create a bigger problem (at least that is the way I read it). If I was the receiver I would be outraged. If my kids were being bullied, I would call the parents and introduce myself and tell them about our kids being in the same school then very politely and gently tell them what has been happening to your kids. When I read this letter I was picturing myself being the receiver and found myself infuriated. It is very condescending, and is basically telling the parents they are really lousy (can't write the true word) parents. There has to be a better way to deal with this.

Okay guys, thanks for the input -- sm [2008-05-06]
I felt 100% better after I vented that. I wish I would have stopped myself sooner, but I There were a lot of comments I would have liked to have made to that woman and didn As for winning and losing, yes I was irritated and yes it was selfish of me to want my kids to win that one (I guess that means I But more than anything, I absolutely did not appreciate being talked to by her in that condescending manner. I still do not like the woman and never will, but I will make sure the next game I will be as far away from her as possible and not to take it so seriously. You guys are right and I thank you for the reality check. My kids are still #1 to me and always will be no matter what the scoreboard says. As an aside, I never put down any of the kids, on either team, but in retrospect, I think my behavior over the incidentwas a childish. Gotta work on that!

Yes, agree.....sm [2008-05-06]
It really doesn't matter that you see it as an argument between you and this annoying lady (everyone has one of those in every sport and school). What the kids saw was you arguing with the ump and making rude, condescending remarks towards him. It doesn't matter that you didn't say anything to the kids. It's not just that you're not allowed to insult kids, you're also not allowed to argue or insult the ump or the coaches. The children all know this. Seriously, does anyone ever see the kids start arguing with the ump? Arguing with the coaches? Regardless of what else happened that's what the kids (especially your own as they hear their own parents the loudest) heard going on.

Here is an excerpt (sm) [2008-04-17]
from the Salt Lake Tribune written by an FLDS woman. She explains exactly why she dresses the way she does. So, out of the mail bag, I offer you this from an FLDS woman:I thought I would send you some ramblings about our fashions. Since much of what is out there is incorrect. And Rebecca Walsh wrote a column about FLDS fashion that presents some misperseptions. First, the idea that underwear makes you hot. It does not. Your body adjusts to the temeperature changes better with a covering of underwear and clothing. Clothing protects the skin from the heat of the sun. You are actually cooler being covered than being naked when it comes to sunshine. And cold? That extra layer is marvelous in winter. Wearing long underwear is in preperation for our temple ordinances. And we see it as a priviledge.Clothing is a way of control? Apparently Carolyn (Jessop) thinks so. I am free to dress as I like. I think dresses are romantic. They bring out the femine side in me. Our bodies are sacred. And they are not to display before the world. That is the reason we cover them. Not because we want to be compelled to stick together. What a foolish idea.Our hair: Women need long hair. Our mothers in Heaven have long hair. This was revealed by the Prophets. It is our desire to be like these mothers that makes us not want to cut our hair. Hair left hanging is hot on the neck. It keeps the heat against the skin as much as a layer of insulation would. That is why most women braid their hair or put it up in a bun or twist. The wave? Color choices are limited to pastels (the spirit of God cannot reside in anything colorful).''?! We choose pastels because they are peaceful colors. The Spirit of God is the Spirit of Peace. And we desire to be a peaceful, calm people. However, the Lord has made all of the colors of the rainbow, and His Spirit is upon all of his creations. Even the brightest, red poppy. Our motive is not isolation but simplicity. And that is beautiful to me.

the "wave" [2008-04-16]
Read about this on some news article. They believe the higher the wave the more righteous the woman. Looks like 1985 to me, but whatever.

Now how in the world did have time for bingo? [2008-02-14]
Look lady, I'll spell it out: --you are terribly selfish and self-righteous,unforgiving and stubborn. --you obviously have not put the emotional needs of your children first, regardless of all your assertions otherwise. --money is more important to you than your son. --none of here are jealous of your broken home. --since you have been answering all these responses all morning with no emotion at all, you probably have a mental disorder. Now go back to lala land to your dear hubby who you are so very sorry you did not meet years earlier. And use your answering machine to avoid further conflicts in your cushy life. Enjoy your vacations.

and now you *will explain slowly*???? sm [2007-11-08]
Now this post you just made is incredibly condescending - *explaining slowly* - as if we are the village idiots.....please leave this thread - you already took this thread down to your level of denigration....and now it's time for you to GET_OVER_YOURSELF....

Regarding our posts about suffering below (sm) [2007-08-18]
I am the one who said that I am a Christian but that I don I also disagree with Christians being self-righteous - thisarticle/video shows that Christians and Muslims should be able to live together in harmony andwe should all realize that when we become too intellectually/religiously arrogant, we forget the whole point. http://www.cbn.com/CBNnews/214912.aspx

To my 7yo [2007-07-09]
Sincerely, it is very nice that you are able to do what you want work wise. However, not everyone has the options you and your husband had as far as the PT work when your first kid was born. For many female MTs, they are the main breadwinner in their families and the husband is disabled, or has seasonal work, etc., and the MTs furnishes the benefits for the family. This is the case for the majority of MTs that I know. I think the tone of your posts could be interpreted as condescending. You may not mean it to be, but it S/L you are saying you made the right choice to build your whole life around your kids and stay with them no matter what. You seem to be patting yourself on your back about what wonderful sacrificing parents you and your husband are. Personally, I would feel suffocated if I were your kid. Kids are not the end all and be all - they are a wonderful part of life but they are not the sole purpose for it. Your kids are supposed to fit into your life, not shape it. The fact that your username is my 7yo informs me speaks volumes about who is in charge in your home.

Michael Moore [2007-07-03]
Unfairenheit 9/11The lies of Michael Moore.By Christopher HitchensPostedMonday, June 21, 2004, at 3:26 PM ET Moore: Trying to have it three waysOne of the many problems with the American left, and indeed of the American left, has been its image and self-image as something rather too solemn, mirthless, herbivorous, dull, monochrome, righteous, and boring. How many times, in my old days at The Nation magazine, did I hear wistful and semienvious ruminations? Where was the radical Firing Line show? Who will be our Rush Limbaugh? I used privately to hope that the emphasis, if the comrades ever got around to it, would be on the first of those and not the second. But the meetings themselves were so mind-numbing and lugubrious that I thought the danger of success on either front was infinitely slight. Nonetheless, it seems that an answer to this long-felt need is finally beginning to emerge. I exempt AL Franken's unintentionally funny Air America network, to which I gave a couple of interviews in its early days. There, one could hear the reassuring noise of collapsing scenery and tripped-over wires and be reminded once again that correct politics and smooth media presentation are not even distant cousins. With Michael Moore's Fahrenheit 9/11, however, an entirely new note has been struck. Here we glimpse a possible fusion between the turgid routines of MoveOn.org and the filmic standards, if not exactly the filmic skills, of Sergei Eisenstein or Leni Riefenstahl. To describe this film as dishonest and demagogic would almost be to promote those terms to the level of respectability. To describe this film as a piece of crap would be to run the risk of a discourse that would never again rise above the excremental. To describe it as an exercise in facile crowd-pleasing would be too obvious. Fahrenheit 9/11 is a sinister exercise in moral frivolity, crudely disguised as an exercise in seriousness. It is also a spectacle of abject political cowardice masking itself as a demonstration of dissenting bravery.

OK. This is weird and maybe should be under the Confessions topic. [2007-06-26]
But I love the Godfather. I mean, I really LOVE that movie and Godfather II. I've watched those two movies a zillion times, director's cut, saga, DVD extras, you name it. (Not so fond of part III.) I'm not sure why I love it so much. Maybe my upbringing? I wasn't raised by mobsters, but I was surely raised in an Italian household. (I don't need the subtitles to know what's being said in Sicilian/Italian.) I like the complex theme, seeing Michael Corleone go from a righteous good guy to a powerful mob boss, twisting the admirable quality of protecting family into the distorted mess that brings him to his ultimate realization of his own guilt. When I have I have the time, I get out some nice primitivo, some good cheese, lovely chewy bread and roasted peppers and watch those movies.

You are so wrong [2007-04-28]
As a former teacher, I'm appalled at your ignorance. Teachers start at salaries lower than truck drivers. Of course it varies from region to region, but generally it is about $28k to $29k. Some of these positions require a master's degree or a specialist degree, which is above the Bachelor's degree. As far as the hours teachers work - they are really never off duty. They have papers to grade, meetings to attend, clubs to sponsors, committees to serve on, parents to phone, write, email, and and websites to update daily. Then, there are the workshops and/or college courses they have to attend to keep their credentials current. Summer vacation? Who teaches summer school? Who works 1 or 2 jobs to supplement the lack of income for the 2 summer months, to keep up the student loan payments, take a college course or a workshop mandated by the school district or the state dept of education? Then, there is the fact they aren't allowed to be human. If a teacher is seen drinking in public, smoking in public, or smacking their own child's bottom, they are bound to be pilloried by some self-righteous citizen. You need to shadow a teacher for a week and then coime back and tell me how easy the job is and how well paid they are. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it and we wouldn't have the teacher shortage we have. Did I mention the number of teachers who are assaulted and permanently injured by their students every year? I'm waiting for 60 Minutes to do a story about that instead of the extremely rare but so publicized cases of teachers having sex with their students. Anyone else notice that it's the female teachers who get the publicity? I know a lot more male teachers having sex with their students - of both sex - than female teachers.

I have lack of god as you put it, and [2007-04-10]
I hate to tell you, but you can be a good person and not believe in god. I'm not a criminal because I choose not to be not because I believe in god. Ireligious. Believing in god definitely didn't make them a good person. Why does everything have to be about god with some people? What ever happened to religion being a personal choice and a personal thing between you and whatever you worship? Why do you have to force it on everyone else? I don't force the fact that I don't believe in god on anyone else. I don't constantly tell them why there is no god and the reasons why I think that, but for some reason it's ok for other people to do the opposite to me and other's like me. What is it, if you hide behind religion it's ok to do/say whatever you want? If that's what having faith gets you, no thanks!

You don't have to belong to [2007-04-10]
organized religion to have a relationship with God. But I do believe he gave us the Bible to learn about Him. It says he wants our undivided devotion. That is a point that is very, very clear, but extremely out of style. In fact, it has always been out of style! I think our human nature wants to know God, but unfortunately also wants a god we can control and whose story we can write. I am guilty of those longings to have the power to control all things at times, but I do believe there is only one God and he is holy and righteous and all-knowing, and we are just the creations who don't have the right to decide what the Creator should be like from our tiny little perspectives. So I repent from that pride, and we humans come with a nature that doesn't want to do that. And that's why it's so hard to be a human, I believe.

This scenario... [2007-02-15]
Looks like you've got lots of good advice. I agree that you need to think of how it would make you feel if you're husband were doing this. You wouldn't feel good. It wouldn't make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Do unto others as you'd have done unto you. You shouldn't have this kind of secret between you and your husband. You need to remember what drew you to him in the first place. Remember the man you fell in love with and who has been there by your side for all these years. He deserves better than this. I don't mean to sound condescending either. I'm just hoping to help you steer clear of this because you are married, and you have a committment to your husband to be true. This isn't being true. JMO

you and above you ARE making FUN of obese people. [2007-01-22]
Not all overweight people are overweight due to an EATING problem any more than ALL people in hospitals have diabetes either. You just cannot seem to comprehend that sometimes being over weight comes from other variables, and that your opinions and comments are very condescending to those that do have those afflictions. You have closed small minds and judgemental attitudes towards the overweight. YOUR overweight problem may not be the same as the next persons, but you only see yours, so that is the ONLY truth. blind...so blind.

I'm not a Bible scholar, but I can try to explain what Matthew was saying... [2006-12-29]
He wasn't saying that everyone who goes to synagogues are hypocrites. In his time, he was saying that there are some people who went to synagogues who were hypocrites. Matthew's Gospel is written for a Jewish audience, or maybe I should say, from the perspective of a Jew speaking to other Jews. He is describing a situation that we still see today, people who proclaim themselves religious and call attention to themselves, but don't really live faith. In this particular verse, he describes something that his audience would be familiar with. They were Jews and they went to synagogues. They most certainly would have known people who called attention to themselves and proclaimed that they were righteous. Meanwhile, they really didn't live righteous lives. Today we know that scenario can refer just as easily to someone who sits in the front pew at a church on Sunday, but then spends the rest of the week being evil to his fellow human beings. We also know of people who proclaim Islam, but carry out terrorist acts. The Bible was written thousands of years ago, of course. So we have to try to think of it from that perspective, and then carry the lessons forward into the present time. Does that make it as clear as mud? :) Like I said, I'm not a Bible scholar, but I did want to try to explain it so that you wouldn't think there was a hateful agenda hidden in the verse.

to frustrated QA [2006-12-07]
Maybe the hostility from MTs is really resentment for your arrogance. You seem pretty condescending in these posts. Just because you have a QA position does not mean you are an expert in the English language or in Medical Terminology. I've gotten plenty of feedback from QA people that was wrong. The road runs both ways.

I would fake a heart attack before I put myself into that situation. Don't let me get sm [2006-11-18]
started on in-laws. I can't stand mine either. Ohh, it's bad. Hey, at least you have 1 who is a nuisance - I have 3! All DH's sisters...We are going to a friends (REAL friends) for Thanksgiving this year. My DH finally smartened up to their nonsense and really don't want to be around them either, thankfully. Good luck. My heart goes out to you because I know how you feel. There will be many on this board who will tell you to go, put a smile on your face, and obviously they've never been where you and I have been. Good luck in whatever you do and know that you are NOT alone. I can't stand evil, hateful, jealous, condescending, rude people one bit. My life is too precious to deal with mess like that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!