I don't want to falsely accuse...

I don't want to falsely accuse... [2008-05-11]
I havenit doesnmatch at all then maybe they donneed totalk to him. Like I said, if I donbut it's just too much of a coincidence that it happens the same time as the note with the same racial slurs that he used on the kids as well as getting punched by a black kid just a few days prior. My son did go to school the next day and of course everything was okay. I just get so nervous because of everything you hear these days. No one is safe anywhere. Thanks for all your input. I really do appreciate it. I'll keep you posted if they ever do find out who did it.

She's falsely accusing me of [2007-09-17]
making her put that photo of herself as a little girl as her Avatar. I adamantly deny such charges though. I merely suggested . . . honest . . .

I agree with your new husband (sm) [2008-11-16]
When she lied to you in the beginning, that said it all. Especially to go so far as to not be able to believe you would accuse her of something like that. I would have to cut my losses and count myself as having one less friend. She stopped being your friend the day she chose to secretly see your husband.

If my husband keep "checking" on me to see if I was working, I would throw something at him. [2008-10-01]
Seriously. That is ridiculous. Especially since you are working and he is not! How dare he accuse you of doing something that you have to hide? Get an answering machine. Don't answer the phone, or let him do it, since he has so much time on his hands. Keep a glass of water on your desk, and throw it on him when he opens the door. (Don't do this if he is violent, and if he is violent, you have a lot more problems than you realize.)

Tell me what to do... [2008-09-22]
I have been divorced for 5 years now. My kids spend every other holiday with their dad and all summer long, since he lives out of state. This last trip over the summer they were gone for two months. After about a month there my son tells me that he wants to come home (he is 7 and A daughter thats 5). I make him stay. I tell him that its daddy's turn to see you and that he misses you very much. Now, since he has been home, he says he does not want to go for Christmas. My ex is remarried and has another child. Mind you he only married her because he got her pregnant. He was over in Iraq when the baby was born, so he is not on the Birth Certificate. So, when it comes to putting baby on tricare, they would not recognize the child since he was not on BC so the get hitched at a justice og the peace. Now I don't care what he does with his life as long as he remains a good father. Well, my son doesn't want to go back. I always said that when he was old enough to make up his mind, if he didn't want to go I would not force it. Today, my sitter calls and tells me something my son said to her. He said that when he was with his dad, he spilled his daddy's drink by accident and daddy got really mad. He pushed him into a wall and cut his ear. She stated that his sister said it did happen. I ask him about this and he gets so defensive. I did not accuse him, I just said WE need to have a talk with him. But he blows up anyway. Ever since the divorce and his new family he doesn't call but once or twice a month and on his BDU's he has his other daughters name and says he keeps her close to his heart. Well what about the other two kids he has. Out of sight out of mind. He has never paid the court ordered amount of child support either. He goes in to the finance office and changes the amount whenever he feels like it. He is now over 4k behind. I have tried calling his commanding officer, but no luck. I can't afford an attorney. I am filing a petition for modification of child support because he is a major in the military and should be paying more. He does not help with extra activities or docotrs bills. He does nothing put pay what he feels he should be paying. Please help!

Not judging honey, believe me, I speak... [2008-08-23]
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being inthe same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it. I am get a good chuckle out ofsome women who accuse other womenof living off their husbands and where would you be without his money. I can make my own money, but my husband doesnthat i needto work and doesnlive debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know? Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.

This comes from Money Magazine e-article. See link inside. [2008-07-19]
http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/SavingandDebt/ManageDebt/Your5MinuteGuideToManagingDebt.aspx When the collectors are knocking If you've gotten in so deep that debt collectors are at the door, know your rights: Debt collectors may not harass, oppress or abuse you or any third party they contact. (See Make a deal with debt collectors.) They may not falsely imply that they are government representatives or that you have committed a crime. They may not tell you that you will be arrested if you do not pay your debts. I hope this helps.

I don't want to falsely accuse... [2008-05-11]
I havenit doesnmatch at all then maybe they donneed totalk to him. Like I said, if I donbut it's just too much of a coincidence that it happens the same time as the note with the same racial slurs that he used on the kids as well as getting punched by a black kid just a few days prior. My son did go to school the next day and of course everything was okay. I just get so nervous because of everything you hear these days. No one is safe anywhere. Thanks for all your input. I really do appreciate it. I'll keep you posted if they ever do find out who did it.

also being from a small town... [2008-05-09]
I would call and speak to the principal directly about what you heard. You can do this anonymous if you want, just don't use your phone as they very often have caller id now. I think it is up to the principal to decide if the comments of your child/friends have any merit. The principal should have ALL information and he/she should go from there. To me, my first and foremost priority would be my child. As for this child being falsely accused of something...well...maybe his parents should have taught him to be prepared to deal with the possible consequences of his actions. All kids make mistakes but sooner or later this individual will have to answer for his remarks and take responsibilty for himself - from my point of view, the sooner the better. I would definitely want to know if my child was speaking to others in this manner. I would not want to jump to conclusions but if your gut feelings say to keep your child home from school, do it. Missing a couple days from school is not the end of the world and I am certain he will not be the only one.

Moderator, I am not the one who continued that argument. I made one comment which was SM [2008-04-09]
deleted. I am almost in tears over this. You have made a terrible, terrible mistake. I make no crude remarks to moderators, ever, ever. I am the one who posted about the beautiful dog at the ASPCA and talk of almost nothing else. I want you to check your addresses and personaly apologize to me. You have made a grave mistake in what you jus posted.I have thanked moderators in the past and have actually posted a few days ago saying I don't understand why people have to be so mean. You need to be accurate before you accuse me.

I've personally sat down with groups of TG people [2008-03-29]
It was a therapy/support group that I attended with my son/daughter. I was the only parent there. My child was never molested or had any such issues you think are common to gay people you are acquainted with. None of the TG people I have spoken with expressed concern about any past abuse. The main issue that everyone had in common and kept discussing was the crushing rejection they received from society and their family. Many were shocked and envious that I as a parent was at the meeting, because their own parents would no longer even speak to them. If a child is born with gender issues, we make it very clear to them the minute the issue arises that we donnormal for so long (after WE forced them to), punish, ignore and hate them, cut them out of the family, weep and moan from the shame of it all and what people will think of them and us. We even tell them we'd prefer they were dead! Because we'd rather deny and eliminate our own child than deal with THIS problem. How very sad for us all. We need to focus on what is wrong with US that we would react this way to a loved one with a very tough problem. Only then can we work on how society sees it.So for every transgendered person you hear of - know this - they are dealing with a horrible backlash from the people they love AS WELL as the gender issue. Most of them contemplate suicide daily (statistically 50% do commit suicide - the other half that die untimely deaths are murdered). Despise them if you wish, your opinion won't make it go away. The next transgendered person born could be your child or grandchild, your neice or nephew, your best friend's new baby. I pray they will each have someone in their lives that will love them anyway, who doesn't choose gender as more important than the human being.

it sounds horrible, but [2007-12-08]
in truth, it wasn't something to be totally humiliated by. I did something wrong, I knew the policy, I expected the outcome. I knew my mom was tougher than most. Actually, the guy didn't hit as hard as SHE did, so I gladly suffered his paddling. When she complained she was getting in trouble on her job for having to come watch me get paddled, I told her to stay at work next time. Boy, that steamed her! LOL! She became a teacher and got a paddle with pinholes drilled into it and kept it at home over the summers. I joined the swim team and stayed at the pool every day in the summer after that! When my kids were in elementary school, we were asked to sign a form to allow paddling, and they also included that there would always be a witness so no one could accuse them of abuse. They left the option of the parent(s) being the witness to each family or choosing a teacher instead. I'd rather hold the paddler responsible by my witnessing it not know exactly what type of punishment was being given. Some people hit harder than others, some kids are more sensitive. Neither of my kids got paddled, but I knew the procedure and assigned myself as the witness.

trying to help here! [2007-11-22]
I am NOT from the N/O area, but I ama southerner and a big time pecan pie maker/eater.. Just have to ask this.. did your husband or anyone else eat any of this particular pie with/without the same reaction you had? Just wondering if you have suddenly developed a nut allergy maybe? I would feel bad for your housekeeper trying to do something nice for you and then being accused of making you sick, but that is just me... guess I am more on your husbandside on this subject, but just hate to accuse anyone who might be an innocent victim when there are so many GUILTY PEOPLE running amuck these days!

Thanks for not telling me I'm a bad person!! (sm) [2007-11-20]
I so much wish that my kids would want to go - I would love to have her have them over as much as she wants if they were happy about it. That would be wonderful! I am kind of afraid to mention it to her because I am pretty sure she will accuse me of spoiling them or that I just don't want to share them but that is far from the truth. I want them to go - if they will go happily - but it is really hard to have them crying and begging and make them go anyway. I will try to talk to her though...we'll see what happens!

I would refer the poster to look down [2007-07-14]
the page where she on this date asked my friend again when we were going to take this to email, and stated she found it more odd than cute. Don't accuse me of trying to start trouble. She responded to an email that my friend submitted to her. I think the subject was I feel sorry for you, or something to that effect, then the post again about it being odd under that. Then mine which starts out PARDON ME.

I truly apologize, too. [2007-07-14]
Good Lord, I am actually crying now. This is going too far. I am so very sorry for sounding mean to you. I regreted saying that don't you accuse me thing after I submitted the post. You are a good person to come back with you note. Let's be friends. Life is too short. Thanks again, and I am so sorry if I hurt or offended you or anyone by that.

More about HERMAN MUNSTER! [2007-07-11]
Got to thinking yesterday after the whole BAT incident and talking to HERM in the hallway, and some things are not quite adding up! First, let me say I am not saying one thing against him. He is nice, and HELPFUL! However, he is not the most masculine fella I Yesterday we were talking about our apartments. He said when he saw mine yesterday that I have it fixed up really nice. Then he started to talk about his. He pointed to an air conditioner in his window and said, That He never corrected himself and looked quite serious. He told me about a year ago that he works very late downstairsat night and referred to himself as a VAMPIRE because he is up ALL NIGHT. Then yesterday said he has had SEVERAL BATS in his apartment! Then there was thetime he was looking between his blinds at me when I was on the porch!!!! Now one might accuse me of an overactive imagination, but I have one thing to say . . . . HELP!!!!!!!!

I agree, but then again (sm) [2007-04-23]
I think that woman who falsely acused the Duke students of serious crimes should be put in the stocks on display for a few days. She'd feel similar to how they felt ... for a whole year!

Ever notice that if you do 2000-3000 lines a day...sm [2007-04-12]
that people don't want to believe you? I transcribe 2800-3000 lines a day in an 8 hour shift, 65 character line. I've been in the business 27 years, type 150 wpm and pretty much keep up with the dictators speed. Some folks try to accuse me of sneaking in lines outside of my shift to make myself look good... but these are people that typically type 60-80 wpm, stop every few minutes to take care of kids, neighbors deliveries, etc. and wonder why they can't meet minimum production standards.

a believer in God, personal relationship with God [2007-04-09]
My spirituality comes from many places... Mother Teresa said: People are often unreasonable and self-centered. FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. BE KIND ANYWAY. If you are honest, people may cheat you. BE HONEST ANYWAY. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. BE HAPPY ANYWAY. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. DO GOOD ANYWAY. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. GIVE YOUR BEST ANYWAY. For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. IT NEVER WAS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY. ----------- And that, my fellow MTs/MEs, is something we all should contemplate! Have a GREAT week!!!

Yeah, except for the ones in jail because a 17-year-old [2007-02-23]
girl with a crush falsely accused them; happened to someone I know.

OMG! Um..... [2007-02-13]
Maybe you need a class in reading. I said the OP (not you!) needs to find another solution. If you didn't understand that, I don't know what to tell you. You said that because I chose this to stay home that I could not make it at a real job outside the house and that I am not professional. Have you seen my work? No! Do I have a baby in one hand while typing with another? No! My kids are at school while I work! I've had a job outside of the home, many, and got promotions pretty quickly because my work was professional! You make so many assumptions yet know so little. You need to get off your soapbox. I am not lazy. I do my job plus some everyday. I do the cooking, the cleaning and get my line counts done with a good QA score....and I am still here to get the kids off the bus. What are you going to say next now? What are you going to accuse me of next? You are so full of it.

Been to counselling [2007-02-12]
We have been to counseling. Both DH and I right after our first dd was born. It was mainly about MIL and her enmeshment in our marriage. The counselor made H mad because he �took my side and want him to can his mum.� He told H he needed to put me first. H does have a good paying job, plus he had a little side bus. of mowing lots to help support his family. The counselor says since was doing all that then I should be able to quit job and keep my child at home. H waited until we were out in the parking lot and said that if I quite my job some of our stuff was going to have to go and it wasn�t going to be anything of his. He said he wasn�t going back to that quack. So, I turned out a MIL message board. They told me about emotional incest. DH found all my post and forward it to his mommy and when mommy confronted me she made it sound as if I had accused all their family, aunts, uncles, cousins of having one big orgy. She said that they are just a loving little family and my family was unloving, uncaring blah blah blah Then she wanted to know why I felt so insecure in the marriage. I went to a female counselor. She said that unfortunately that this kind of relationship that H and MIL share is getting more and more common and it is not a good thing. She said this self-centeredness, codependency is all a product of that kind of parent/child relationship. She recommended a book that I read called Emotional Incest and show it to dh but I didn�t because I know he would get mad and again, cuss me out, tell his mommy and accuse this woman of being a quack and then here we go again. Aside from this behavior, I know the only one I can change is myself. I am insecure. I almost believe that is why dh married me because I had doormat written across my forehead. I am getting better but I have a lot to do. I would leave in a jif. It is just a survival issue for me. It is not just me, I have 2 kids to think about. Two small ones at that.

Does anyone remember the TV show The Fugitive. [2007-01-30]
At the beginning of the show there was a prelude that went something like: The fugitive, an innocent victim of blind justice, falsely convicted for the murder of his wife, reprieved by fate when a train wreck freed him on route to the death house, freed him to run and hide in lonely desperation,___________________________, freed him to search for the one armed man he saw leave the scene of the crime. Can anyone fill in the blanks. I have been racking my brains trying to remember the rest.

Here's the Fugitive beginning narration [2007-01-30]
As quoted from this site: http://www.tvacres.com/begin_police.htm [Voice of William Conrad on regular opening] The Fugitive...a QM Production...starring David Janssen as Dr. Richard Kimble, an innocent victim of blind justice, falsely convicted for the murder of his wife, reprieved by fate when a train wreck freed him on route to the death house, freed him to hide in lonely desperation, to change his identity, to toil at many jobs, freed him to search for a one-armed man he saw leave the scene of the crime, freed him to run before the relentless pursuit of the police lieutenant obsessed with his capture...Tonight

sounds like a plan (sm) [2006-10-26]
You might want to discuss it with him first so he doesn't accuse you of being sneaky and not being sensitive to his needs (lol). I was in pretty much the same boat and did what you are contemplating. Guess what? My now ex put HIS money in a separate account (not accessible to me) and I STILL ended up paying all the bills!!