I wouldn't do it

I wouldn't call it hormonal [2008-07-07]
I would just call it typical. I would often see small changes in my children Not to say all other children are bad, I have one niece that was a wonderful influence on my kids.

No, I wouldn't. [2008-07-06]
While you may know these boys like they were your own, what if they have Also,what about her reputation? I know times have I wish you the best with this.

I wouldn't call anyone "retarded." sm [2008-06-19]
It is just pejorative and shameful. The President of the United State may not be the best speaker in the world, but he is certainly not mentally retarded. Calling him that is just uncalled for. Quitefrankly, you may not like him or agree with him, but please don't continue to call him retarded. It is also disrespectful to those that are truly mentally challenged. :(

You wouldn't happen to be a bio-mom would you??? [2008-06-10]
That sure would explain a lot of your behavior and comments. The OP is doing nothing wrong by wanting a FAMILY and not a part-time husband. Leave her alone.

Yes, in my opinion, you have every right to be and I wouldn't be doing ANY favors. sm [2008-06-04]
Friends and family just don't morally do things like that to each other.

Thanks! That's why I wouldn't want [2008-05-13]
it to be a set date - just in case I didn't have the funds in there.

I wouldn't do it [2008-05-12]
I'm pretty sure the hospital can't actually take anything from him. In his shoes and being elderly, before I did any of that stuff I would look into reverse mortgage. He could perhaps get enough to pay all of it or very close and then make payments on the remainder.

I wouldn't want to. I'm angry that our system is set up so that this innocent man could not b [2008-04-14]
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you wouldn't think it was so sick if you had GID [2008-03-27]
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Huh? How did you break a tooth there that you wouldn't have (sm) [2008-03-23]
anywhere else?

C'mon ladies-God wouldn't have given you maracas if he didn't want you to shake 'em! sm [2008-03-14]
The blonde dance instructor in Dirty Dancing. I love it.

I wouldn't want to make policy on this issue [2008-03-11]
With my own cats, though, I have always harness trained them. You put a harness on them instead of a collar and hook the harness to a long leash that's clipped to the clothesline. They can run up and down the length of the clothesline and it seems to satisfy their need to be outside. They can chase butterflies, watch squirrels, and sniff all the good smells that are out there. I didn't want them running loose because there are too many things that are dangerous and could hurt them. I also didn't want them getting into neighbor's trash. I'm not in favor of cats running loose b/c it's too likely they'll get run over or otherwise hurt, but I'm not sure it's as bad as the article states. Atleast not with domestic cats. Sounds to me more like a feral cat problem. They need to know for sure before making laws that might not even fix the problem.

She probably wouldn't have made it though airport security with the crack pipe anyway.... LOL [2008-02-11]
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I wouldn't have quit - I'd have reported her for creating [2008-02-04]
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Don't say anything behind someone's back you wouldn't [2008-02-02]
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The gender wouldn't be an issue with me, because [2008-01-30]

Well, which one do you like better? I wouldn't put too much sm [2008-01-29]
emphasis in the relationship of the man who isn't as interested in you. If he's acting like that now it might be a sign that he's not ready, has ulterior motives, or just not that into you. Good luck!

I would not appreciate it, but I wouldn't be "mad" about it. [2008-01-16]
My golden is on a strict diet of dry dog food only. Any sort of table food or human food is a no-no. She has allergies to some people food. That would be the only reason I would not appreciate anyone feeding her, but then again, I don't leave her outside very long. She is a family dog and a house dog.

I would not appreciate it, but I wouldn't be mad about it. [2008-01-16]
My golden is on a strict diet of dry dog food only. Any sort of table food or human food is a no-no. She has allergies to some people food. That would be the only reason I would not appreciate anyone feeding her, but then again, I don't leave her outside very long. She is a family dog and a house dog.

I wouldn't even bother with a playlist for holiday music [2007-12-28]
Your iPod can sort your music by song title, album, artist, and genre, etc. Just click into genre and choose to play only holiday next year. That's how all of your Christmas music will be sorted. If genres aren't listed in your music menu, you can go to the first menu, then settings, and then make sure that genre is selected. You can even select shuffle and then play just one genre, and all of your holiday music will be shuffled. I like the genre settings. If I'm in the mood for jazz, I select just that genre, or I can select rock, country, or whatever. It's a nice feature.

Wouldn't gluten-free be tough to do? [2007-12-23]
But it would certainly be a huge convenience for people who shouldn't have gluten. I wonder how many people are even able to be compliant with a gluten-free diet.

I definitely wouldn't stick around! Once a cheater, always a cheater. [2007-12-15]
I'd be done with him. If he has done it once, he can definitely do it again.

That is very true! And most of these people wouldn't say these things [2007-12-11]
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I wouldn't make them go... [2007-11-20]
while it is wonderful your MIL likes to take them maybe you can nicely explain to her that they are getting older and their interests have changed...my parents like to show my kids off too and I stopped that real quick...maybe have your husband talk to her since it is his mother...kinda've hard to talk to MILs sometimes...

No I wouldn't make them. [2007-11-20]
My kids don't like my mother, I don't much like her either. One of my son's LOVES to go over there and hang out with his papa, the other doesn't. We may go visit as a family but I don't force my older son to stay there if he doesn't want to. As for calling a grandmother the B word, sometimes they are. Just because you are old doesn't mean you deserve respect.

I agree with you so much! sm [2008-08-30]
I have two children and thankfully don't have those kinds of problems - but they all have their issues they need their parents' help with. But I have a brother who sounds very much like the son of OP. When he was 11 my stepfather kicked him out. His father and stepmother came and got him - I remember him crying and begging them not to send him and I cried and begged them not to make him go. When they started to put him in the car he spread his arms and legs and held onto the doorframe of the car fo dear life. His stepmother ran a nursing home in her house and my brother was required to bathe elderly patients at the age of 11. At 12 hey sent him back to live with us, and by 15 they had shipped him back to live with his dad and stepmom. At 16 he got a job at McDonalds and saved his money to buy a car. A few months later as a punishment his stepmother took the car and wouldn't let him have it back. He had worked and saved his money and earned it. He never felt loved his whole life. No one ever just focused on him and loving him and letting him know that he was valued. He became an alcoholic. He got several DUIs and finally had his license permanently revoked. Now, he has married and has 5 children. He is 35 years old and though he never graduated from high school and has no driver's license he is the manager of a crew that installs AC ductwork into high rise buildings. He does all of the planning and is very intelligent and manages many people. But he has to have someone drive him everywhere he goes. He never ever visits my mother and rarely calls her. He doesn't acknowledge her birthday, mother's day, etc. She can't understand why. She cries over it every holiday. You get what you pay for.

Suggestions for moving across country? [2008-08-29]
So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years. They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth 08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long And now that I The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don Is this a crazy idea? I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move... Any thoughts, suggestions, advice? Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home? Thanks for the input and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :) This is Allyson Ayn!

I've done it too a couple of times. [2008-08-29]
I moved from OH to FL when I was 19. I wanted to get away from the snow! I had the best time and wouldn't trade the experience for the world. I lived in Atlanta for 5 years, moved from there 5 years ago. The area was way too congested for my liking. Just to go to the grocery store was bumper to bumper traffic. As a matter of fact, there was traffic any time of the day or night. Even when you leave Atlanta and go 1 hour in any direction, you are STILL in traffic! It was ridiculous. The other thing about Atlanta that we did not like is that because of the rapid growth, we had trouble hiring anybody to do anything. We would get estimates for work on our house. They would want the money up front and then say we. It was awful. We ended up always hiring illegals (which there is also an abundance of in Atlanta and surrounding area) who always did a good job and always showed up! It even took 6 weeks to get a phone line put in. I could rant and rave for a long time about Atlanta but you get the picture. I really cannot recommend it. On the other hand, I am feeling a little jealous of your freedom. Do it while you can! Good luck.

last night the tests were back from the "air" testing...sm [2008-08-29]
They tested the air in the trunk to see if there was really human decomposition. They didn As of last night they were still waiting on the DNA results of the hair samples from the trunk also. Apparently they can tell if it was from a dead/decomposing body and of course whether or not it was the baby Maybe those came back. Oh! The guy who posted her bond said last night that he was going to revoke it. I'll bet that's it. It was so obvious right from the beginning that she was a lying sack of sh**! First of all, what mother just looks for her missing baby for a month without calling the police? or even telling her own mother? Then, what kind of freakin Not only that but she also had a FEW boyfreinds during it all. Men would be the last thing on my mind and Imight be drinking but it sure wouldn I I wouldn Even with the lame excuse that she gave about some babysitter taking her. If that were the case, then I I I There isn That poor baby girl doesn Casey will get what she deserves in prison though, I can almost guarantee that. And I don The women in there will give her the justice she deserves! You can bet on it!

I can't say [2008-08-26]
from a mother's point of view what to do, since I'm not a mom yet. But I can tell you from the point of view of a little bratty bullying girl (ME!) that when I was younger and I bullied my brother and neighborhood kids, it took about three times of my dad getting a hold of me with the yard stick that I learned it didn't pay to be mean! Did I like it then? No. But i'm telling you, I thank my dad everyday now for whooping my behind when I needed it. Timeouts for me were jokes. If you took something away from me, I could care less. My dad also took me to counseling (I had a lot of problems with my stepmom and they figured it was my fault, not hers.) You may want to try a different psychologist. I got a bad vibe from my psych in the first meeting and I wouldnchildren should be seen and not heard types and I wouldn't answer any of her questions. I know we arenobnoxious the mother will bite or sometimes even kick the foal. With lions it's the same thing, they mother will swat a cub. I think deep down our primitive instincts demand a hierarchy in the home. Right now it seems like your son thinks he is at the top of that hierarchy, whereas he should be at the bottom. From this behavior of beating on his older brother, it is like he is trying to fight for that spot. The problem is, when he gets that spot, who's spot is he going to go for next? Like I said, I'm not a mother, but I just thought I would offer my advice from an ex-bully's point of view!

Please....totally different things. They will know [2008-08-25]
We once believed in Santa, tooth fairy and all others. We believed they were all relatives (grew up in a small town where everyone knew everyone and what everyone did, so why wouldn't Santa, the tooth fairy and God all know each other). As time went on and we grew up with our parents and church guidance we recognized the difference between all of them. I'm sure as parents they will know what to tell their kids, and whether their kids believe in God or not will be their choice. There's nothing wrong with a little fun.

Nope, not me [2008-08-25]
I'm just little ol me. I've worked for the same company for 3 years and love my job so I wouldn't be able to give any information (useful or not useful) to anyone. Also for new MT questions...I leave that for the QA or more experienced MTs to answer. I do try to stay positive. In fact one time my SIL told me that my attitude on life is way too positive and wondered if I ever get mad. :-)

Oh and DON'T back down. Make sure he follows through sm [2008-08-25]
If you decide it is too harsh and slack off he will learn that you are not going to stick to your word and that he can get away with things. I wouldn't make it anything that takes 4 hours, like sitting a chair. But make it something that will bug him enough that he will remember it next time he raises his hand to hit.

Ouch - my husband had to come clean to me too sm [2008-08-24]
I was very upset. Physically sickened, the whole range of emotional distress. Then I realized that it wasn't just about him or about me, it was our family. The kids would really suffer. Believe me, it was no easy thing for him either. I had helped him get out of a sticky financial situation before, right after his divorce from his ex-wife. I thought everything was all good. I could not have been more wrong. So after the initial shock of it wore off, we sat down and discussed the situation. There were still tears of frustration, anger, and all of that from me but there were also some tears from him too, having taken it so far and keeping me in the dark. He knew exactly what he had risked but realized it a little too late to fix it on his own. He had no choice but to come clean. He was absolutely drowning in it but he decided it was better that I hear it from him, rather than having collection agencies start calling constantly. Your husband needs to hear it from you. Maybe if you printed these discussions and had him read through them it might ease it just a little. I wouldn't expect miracles but wouldn't you rather hear it from him if the tables were turned? Our marriage was pretty rocky before this happened too. It's still not the best but we are trying to make it work. Financial infidelity is probably as hard on a marriage as cheating. The deception and sneaking around -- trying to cover your tracks. You may not realize the exact depth of stress you are putting on yourself with trying to hide this. You said you love him. That's the biggest thing. The crud will only keep getting deeper until you start shoveling. Come clean with him and let him help you figure out what to do. Telling him the truth is going to be the hardest part. Good luck to you.

I realize this is a private matter, but [2008-08-24]
is there someone close to the both of you that could be present when you tell him. Ordinarily, I would recommend meeting him in a public place, but in this case, since it is a financial affair, I wouldn However, if there is someone you are both close to, perhaps you could have them present (even if only in the other room) while you tell him. Another possibility may be to discuss this with your in-laws first. Again, I wouldn Depending on their reaction, perhaps you could all sit down together and they could help you work this out. If all else fails, call your attorney and schedule a meeting where he will mediate. I would not tell this man alone in person. It doesna safe thing to do.

It did to me. [2008-08-21]
It gave me bad headaches, and I am pretty sure it made me gain weight. As soon as I went off of it I lost a bunch of weight. Google it and read some of the message forums. Unless it has changed in the last six years, then I wouldn't recommend it. Then again, some people may have a different experience. It may depend on the person. I have the Mirena IUD and I love it. I never have to remember to take a pill. I am not sure if this would be an option for your problem though. I have very very light periods if any. That is supposed to be normal though.

Well............. [2008-08-21]
she asked how much is too much. Only she would know that. I was just suggesting maybe she ask herself if it is something she thinks/obsesses over. If not, I wouldn't think twice about it. I think we know the difference between ice cream and alcohol.

We got married [2008-08-20]
in the country by my husband's nephew's backyard pond. It was beautiful. I walked down on a long white aisle runner and stood under a decorated trellis. Wouldn't have traded an outdoor wedding for the world.

Alcohol...... [2008-08-20]
I personally don't drink with every meal but I do have wine now and then. A girlfriend of mine and her husband have a glass or two of wine just about every night with dinner and have for years, but I wouldn't say they have a problem. I suppose you need to ask yourself if you didn't have it, would it stay on your mind until you had it.??

in the country [2008-08-19]
at my husband's great uncle's house out in the woods in Ruston, LA - on a Sunday - the preacher came to the house. . we wore jeans and wouldn't allow any family other than the great aunt & uncle and a cousin. . we were strange. . We did let some great aunts bring punch and cake later.

I would call the police for sure and [2008-08-19]
state to them you feel there is abuse going on. You can remain anonymous. I once went to look at a puppy for sale and the breeder brought him out into the living room. The puppy wouldn't even come out from under the table. It was so scared. I left there thinking I'd never seen a puppy act that way and it weighed on my mind. A few days later I read in the paper this man had been arrested for cruelty to animals. Trust your instinct and report this.

Life was fun up until about age 8, [2008-08-17]
and then it started getting more complicated. From those early years I remember wonderful summer nights in Wisconsin with the windows open and cool breezes coming in, the June bugs hitting the screens, summer pajamas. I remember riding bikes and pretending they were horses. I remember shopping for fall clothes when we were lucky enough to get some instead of having them all hand-made from ugly Jiffy patterns. I remember the WI State Fair and winning 3rd and then 2nd prize in the twin contest there. I remember vacationing in cottages in Vermont when I was 4. I remember climbing our maple trees and being about 50 feet high and that was a normal thing to do. I remember my first kiss from a boy when I was 3 and he was 2. He tried to talk me into walking down the sidewalk to watch a store being constructed and I had to explain my mom wouldn't let me do that. From later years I remember good times camping with the girlscouts and the time we found a secret place to go near our house where there was a grove of sumacs you could sit under to get away from the world.

That one tiniest girl looks like even 14 is a stretch - more like 10! [2008-08-13]
melanine in wheat gluten meant for pet food, wouldn't have any problem at all, I'm sure, falsifying age documents if it means getting a gold medal, especially in THEIR OWN COUNTRY. The ambition to look good in the eyes of the world and their own country, not to mention the fact that how EASY would it be to get away with it in their own country as opposed to another country, and I'd be very, very surprised if all of those girls aren't underage. Of course, I applaud them on their excellent performances - they kicked our butts yesterday. But if that government truly does yank the kids out of school at 3 to be forced to be gymnasts, then it's possible the girls themselves don't even know their true ages. Might have been lied to about their ages as soon as they showed Olympic potential.

We have 2 guitars [2008-08-11]
and I must say it is addicting. I had to stop cold turkey about a month ago because we were playing it all the time. Here's me and my hubs up at 3 am playing guitar hero! It is great fun. My son saved up his money to buy it because we wouldn't and then we ended up going out for a 2nd guitar and 2 more games so we have 1,2, and 3. I really want Aerosmith now. Ever have an adult night and invite other friends? If you think you have fun, try that! lol People look at you like you have lost your mind but everyone seems to love it. I haven't laughed like that in a long time. Oh, and if you child has a DS there's a game for $19 at Wal-Mart that has the old Pac-Man and Galaga and other Atari games. Hubs and I love that one too. Of course its not enough action for the 10yo. lol

Thyroid nodule [2008-08-11]
I have 2, one on each side. I was pretty scared, too, and immediately hadthe left side biopsied because it was the largest but it was benign. That was 4 years ago. My doc (I worked for him then)told me not to worry about it unless I have trouble swallowing or breathing. I'm to that point now and know I have to get it taken care of, but am pretty scared. I haven't had an operation in 33 years and almost didn't wake up from it, but the left side has grown somewhat and know I have to take care of this, but I don't have a physician and don't care for our hospitals, yet don't want to go to a larger city hospital. My neighbor, who is an RN and works for a city hospitalhad the same thing and got hers taken care of right away with no problems. She was home the next day. Of course, she's 20 years younger than I am. Anyway, I wouldn't worry too much. The doc told me most are benign cysts and usually don't cause a problem. I

Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm [2008-08-07]
Boyfriend, spoiled, blah, blah. You are her parent. You need to provide her a place to live until she is old enough to do so herself. I would either allow her to move in with you and your boyfriend or I would rent her a place to live. She is not old enough to be expected to find a roommate and pay all her own bills yet. If you had done your job to begin with she wouldn't be spoiled or having such issues.

I agree with NCMT [2008-08-04]
I feel so badly for this child (and his neighbors). He needs love and positive reinforcement. What a terrible way to grow up. How is he supposed to know what's right and wrong if his parents are right there making wrong decisions with him. I also do not think it would help to talk to his parents. At this point you need to just remove yourself and your family from the situation. At the same time, an anonymous call to DSS wouldn't hurt. Someone needs to help this kid before he truely makes a bad decision that might end up more than words.

punk neighbor kid [2008-08-03]
Awhile back I wrote that I wish there was a draft and the neighbor Got lots of messages telling me bout the terrors of other neighborhood kids. Just thought I This kid is 14 years old (is about as big as a full grown overweight adult) and his attitude is getting worse and worse. Seems like his parents don He calls his little brother the B word (usually what we refer to other women as), hehomee and home boy, uses the f word in about every sentence that comes out of his mouth. The other day was about the final point for me. He was usinghedge trimmers todo whatever he was doing. Well the thing wasnevery swear word imaginable in a single sentence. The lady two housesacross from mein the back yard yelled out to him - Hey watch your language. She was coughing and sounded sick and Ishe didn His reply to her was Shut the f up or I. I don All I could think of was where are his parents. They were there about 5 minutes before that. He also has a couple freinds of another color and when they are in the back yard with him he feels the need to do a whole routine like what you see in the movies. Well yesterday we happened to catch a movie on TV (by accident - it was on and we couldnNot sure if any of you have seen it but it is exactly the way the kid next door acts and talks. They call each other the B word (still didn I told my DH I have a good mind to go talk to his mother but that wouldnif I did I wouldn His parents talk to him like nothing If word talking to their kids). But the kids parentname (I won But when he asked why she called him that shestated because you don. They are constantly yelling at him. The other day he told his parents he wanted his room to remain completely dark and they said to him like your heart. Kind of creeped me out. Anyway...we have been planning to move for quite some time, but this was the breaking point to speed up our search. I believe hehead to the hills and to really search out what kind of neighbors in different area. We also get a lot of kids playing the base on their car radios so loud the stuff inside our house vibrates. Told my DH today where can we go live in peace and quiet without having to move to a 55+ park. I I wrote before I wished theymilitary school with a uniform and drill sergeants keeping an eye on him 24 hours a day teaching him respect. Being in the Army and going through basic training myself really taught me respect for others and how to be an adult. Anyway...just wanted to vent.

I know there are a lot of animal lovers here, so I thought I would share... [2008-08-01]
Back in March I posted on this board about my lab puppy that died from parvo. After that happened, we bleached our house from ceiling to floor and poured buckets and buckets of dilute bleach on our yard. About a month later, I was approached by a neighbor who's boxer had had puppies and since the neither of the parent boxers were registered, she was selling them of $100 a piece. I've always wanted a boxer, but refused to pay $400 for a dog. So I jumped at the chance to get a boxer, but I was a little leery because of the parvo incident. So my hubbie and I again bleached our house from top to bottom and bleached our yard, pretty much killing the grass. We made sure the puppy had her first set of shots including a parvo vaccination and even made a point three months ahead for her second parvo booster. We brought her home and she did great. We thought we were successful at decontaminating our house. She was healthy and happy until about three weeks ago. She had gotten into the trash and got a hold of some raw chicken bones and then the next was lethargic and heaving like she wanted to throw up but couldn't. As luck would have it, it was time for her appointment for her shots and booster. So I get to the vet and tell her what was going on with her and even the vet agreed it was probably the chicken. So they checked her out and she had a temperature. So the vet said she couldn't give her shots, but they could do the flea treatment. Then vet asked me about doing a parvo test. At first I was like no way could she have parvo. She's been living in our house for four months now and is just now getting sick? But then I said just to rule out, let's do it. Well, she had parvo! I was just sick and crying. I didn't want my kids to watch another dog die, but I didn't want to euthanize her either. She wasn't as sick as the other dog had been. She hadn't had diarrhea, just a little vomiting. I just didn't know what to do. I couldn't afford the $600 my vet was telling me would be the cost to hospitalize her and give her IV fluids and antibiotics. So I took her home and gave the sad news to my husband. Then I got mad and said there has got to be something else we can try. So the MT in me took over and I got online and started researching. I found a couple of articles where vets had tried Tamiflu in dogs with parvo and that the Tamiflu had actually helped. It had shortened the length of the illness, hindered the spread of the virus throughout the dog's intestinal tract, and made the symptoms less severe. Basically, given a dog a better chance for survival. Luckily (LOL) my entire family had had the flu back in February and I happened to have some Tamiflu on hand that my husband hadn't taken. I found that the vets had given the parvo dogs 1 mg per pound to the sick dogs twice a day for five days which in my dog averaged to about 30 mg twice a day. My Tamiflu was 75 mg capsules. So I figured I had nothing to lose and everything to gain. So I did it. She wouldn't eat at first, so putting the pill in a hotdog wasn't an option. So my husband held her mouth open and I dropped a pill in and used a baby medicine dropper to squirt water into her mouth. Then we held her mouth closed and made her swallow. Day two, she seemed a little perky and actually got up to drink water on her own. By day three, she was eating tiny pieces of poached chicken and taking her pill on her own. Long story short, we are now two weeks out from Sugar I also wanted to share how my career as an MT probably saved my dog! Had I not had honed all those researching and investigative skills we need as MTs, I would have never found the information that ultimately saved my dog.

My kids get this in the summer at times [2008-07-31]
I tend to think it I wouldn Benadryl wouldn't hurt him, though, (and it might give you some peace and quiet -- LOL).