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Good for you:-) We have a wonderful... [2008-09-03]
lunch lady as well. She works hard to make everything healthy and enjoyable for the kids. I donbonus for making it under the lowest budget, but she does a great job managing the food for our children---and we really do appreciate it!!
Awesome Idea! [2008-09-01]
Great way to make a kick-@ss living! :)
Good! She should have never been [2008-08-29]
out in the first place! She is such a lying piece of you-know-what!
Good topic- sm [2008-08-28]
In my lifetime I have had a Pembroke Welsh Corgi (best cow dog EVER), purebred ChowChow (real sweetie) two giant mutts (brothers), they were some kind of lab/shepherd mix. Both of them were with us for almost 17 years.
Also had an Irish Setter and this dog was a nut.
When my son was very small and we lived out in the country, he would todder down our long driveway. The dog would follow him and keep a watchful eye.
If the dog thought my son was getting too far from the house, he would gently knock him over and bark at us.
Pretty soon, baby boy would get up and head further down the driveway. After a few feet, the dog would again knock him over and bark at us.
This would go on a few more times until finally the dog would knock him over and just lay on top of my son and start howling like crazy... COME GET THE KID!
We had it on video but I don't know what ever happened to it.
I guess he is being good now [2008-08-26]
he is scared sh*tless that the one person who is supposed to love and protect him above all others is ready to send him off to live with strangers.
Another idea... [2008-08-26]
What if you took his favorite privileges away (video games, TV watching, bicycle, whatever) and told him he could not have them back until he could change/control his behavior. Then investigate ways to help him change his behavior for the better.
If you can do this without an argument and state it as matter of fact, then the onus is on him to change his behavior. If he wants his stuff back bad enough, he'll change.
I would like to point out it
definitely helps me if I don't argue and just maintain my position.
another idea [2008-08-24]
Actually according to top scientists the earth IS in a cooling age right now. He and other scientiest (many) say we're on our way to an ice age.
Anyway...I have another recipe....So so simple and so good.
1 reg size package of cream cheese and one can of chile (with or without beans - your choice).
Mix them and heat til hot and bubbly. MMMMMMMMMMM I can eat the whole thing by myself.
thanks, good idea too. - sm [2008-08-24]
Yes, it is only when he drinks too, more than normal. He drinks every day about 9-12 beers a day, when he hits the 12-14 mark which luckily is not often that is when it gets nasty around here. Per se I am not afraid of him, though I get a bit jumpy on the nights he gets mean. I am going to hope for the best in the long run that we can talk this out w/o any violence, that we go to counseling, he goes to get medication for his depression (he self medicates with the alcohol obviously)...have tried to get him to do this a few times, he gets the pills but refuses to take them, and obviously that he quits drinking. The most he has gone in the 14 years I have been with him is 3 weeks w/o drinking. Life could be very good for us if all that falls into place. He is constantly calling himself a loser, so that is my main reason for being afraid to tell him I guess, just another notch in his self-perceived life of failure. But I like your opening statement. More to think about.
anybody have any good dip recipes [2008-08-23]
I bought a couple bags of those cornchips called scoops. Last night I made guacamole but now I Anyone have any good ideas of things I could use them for?
Not a good way to lose weight [2008-08-22]
nm
good ideas! [2008-08-21]
and less cleanup which is always a pain without a dishwasher. lol
I wonder if there is a scouting cookbook...there probably is.
I think I will look up under scouts too and i bet that will give some good camping ideas for kids activities too. Thanks!
How about good ideas for upcoming marriage [2008-08-20]
Any good ideas for someone getting married in the next year or so? A second marriage and not planning to have much of a ceremony. (Where, what to wear, etc.)
Thanks for any ideas.
Thanks to all - beef was so good [2008-08-20]
Marinated 2 hours and it was good. We only ate half so will have other half tomorrow and then will see what it's like when we marinate 24 hours. This was kikkoman teriyake sauce (sp?) It was so delicious and will be doing this more. Thanks to all for the time length to marinate.
Fashion Bug - Good prices, very comfortable! - nm [2008-08-20]
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Good luck is all I can say...... [2008-08-19]
We don otherwise, they don't do their job. My mother has watched neighbors get one dog after the other, the puppies are leashed and literally die before her eyes of parvo. She repeatedly calls animal control, which are the police, and they don't do a thing. The dogs eventually die a miserable death and nothing is done to the owners at all. My brother finally flat out told one of her neighbors he would take a little mommy dog who had already had puppies after puppies and was starving to death. In 110 degree heat she doesn't even get water except from him who sneaks her some. They handed her over but she was already ate up with heartworms and died shortly thereafter. Our animal control is a joke...they won't even go into the yard to check out the animals. They say they can't.....so what the heck are they there for?
I just hope yours runs things better than ours...find out the laws in your state and be prepared to push those laws if you see nothing is being done.
Good luck!!!!!
What a great idea! [2008-08-17]
I don't live where I grew up and now live in the boonies with no pizza delivery or anything. Thanks for the idea ladies. I never thought of having something shipped to me. I'm sure my family could probably do it and save a little on shipping costs too. It's certainly less than planning a trip home when you really want something you remember. :)
I know one thing - a BLUE screen is NOT good [2008-08-16]
nm
Here is a good site [2008-08-15]
http://www.yardsalequeen.com/yardsale.htm.
Good luck.
thank you it sounds good nm [2008-08-09]
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I have no idea whether the mom [2008-08-05]
had any issues with the fact that she was being deployed. There was nothing mentioned in the social history about caregiver issues, psychosocial stressors, etc. So, I I guess I was just questioning what the maternity policy is in the service dept. I guess I just thought when you had a baby in the military, you were given the option of being discharged or being stationed in the USA. Since your hubs is in the Air Force (bless him by the way), could you tell me what the maternity policy is for female officers? Are they only allotted 6 or 12 weeks (for a healthy newborn delivery)? Can they request to be stationed in the USA for a period of time after that?
I have kids, and I just can Of course, any age would be difficult, but an infant is so dependent on her mom. Wow - what an eye opener and definitely some food for thought today.
ok, good. :) [2008-08-04]
I try to make a habit of keeping my mouth shut on things if I don't agree. I don't think anyone comes here for negativity. :)
I understand the situation with hubs. Mine is the same way and my family is very different. Mine lives 8 hours away and I talk to them more than he talks to his family who is 10 minutes away! All I can say is its his decision, not mine...crazy when I think about it though.
Good luck with your son. I hope everything works out, I'm sure it will.
Sounds like you found a good therapist sm [2008-07-28]
we went through a horrible spell last year - daughter 17 wanted to get married a month before she turned 18, my husband supported this idea - she just graduated in May, no job, no license, no means of support and husband to be was just graduating, etc. They are good kids but very young. Husband supported her all the way and I was the bad guy for making her think things through hoping she would slow down a bit, etc. Therapist made her dad get more involved but they did marry and now she rarely if ever speaks to me - she looks at me as nonsupportive. Does not matter I busted my butt to see she had the wedding she wanted,etc. I I believe parents should always be a team.
good deal, oh the relief! nm [2008-07-28]
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That sounds like a good book. [2008-07-26]
I just finished ObamaAudacity of Hope
His book was really good [2008-07-25]
He has nice quick little stories constituting his book with words of wisdom thrown in. His book has really changed some of my outlook on things--I have three kids nearly the same ages as his children and a husband who is 2 years older than Randy Pausch. (I'm quite a bit younger.) One (or both) of us possibly could be in a situation like his--you just never know, so live your childhood dreams and leave something for your kids to be proud of...
Anyway, I wholeheartedly recommend his book. I haven't been picking up books too much (except to study), but I was drawn to his book sitting there in the new section of my library's shelf. I'm glad I took the couple of hours to read it. It's a quick and interesting read.
Above all, I hope his death was peaceful and as painless as possible and that his wife and children have wonderful memories of him.
In a perfect world [2008-09-05]
What is your idea of a perfect world - it can be anything from the craziest of crazy ideas to very simple ones. Here's my ideas:
1. No more pharmaceutical commercials. Let our doctors tell us what meds we need, not us tell our doctors we think they should give us.
2. Pharmaceutical companies would not rule the doctors (okay sort of part #1, but a little different).
3. No more stup!d commercials that demoralize our intelligence like the pepto bismol commercial, free credit report, and about 95% of the other commercials.
4. Every child would be considered a gift from the gods (whatever one you believe in), and their lives would be treated as precious as they are and there would be no killing or abuse of young children. If parents cannot handle having children they would bring them to the nearest safe place and say I canthem (instead of killing and burying them out where no one can find them). Then couples who can
5.The government would tell us the truth about why they are spraying chemicals (chem trails) into the atmosphere and poisoning all of us.
6. The goverment would tell us what I think we are all adults and can handle the truth.
7. Hollywood actors actresses would quit announcing to everyone all the lavish money they are spending on themsleves (mansions,$12,000 coffee table, etc) and instead we would hear that Brad Angelina spent that $12,000 to help the hungry and needy.
8. They would turn all the abandoned buildings into housing for the homeless.
9. People wouldnonly because of what political party they belonged to, and politicians would keep the promises they make while they are campaigning (haven't met one yet that did).
10. Lawyers would not be trying to re-write the constitution.
11. All people would be considerate of their neighbors and not mow their lawns after 8 pm in the evenings or before 8 am in the mornings.
12. Everyone could pick whatever time you wanted to start working and quit working.
13. We would have an alternative reliable transportation method instead of plane, train, or automobile similar to the transporter you see in Star Trek. So if you live in Washington state, you could still go to Maine for dinner and be back by 9pm.
14. There would be no more gangs. The people who want to be part of a gang would now be part of an Infantry unit. They would learn out to use weapons but they would use them responsibly.
15. There would be no more bullies in the school system.
16. There would be no animal abuse. Every person would take care of animals and love them, and if caught being cruel to an animal you get branded or something so that everyone in public would know that person is cruel to animals and they would be ashamed of what they've done.
17. No more reality shows. Enough with American Idol and Survivor.
18. Scam artists would not try to swindle money out of people (especially the elderly).
19. Everyone would grow food in their yards and neighbors share with others.
Husband wants to put dog down (sm) [2008-09-05]
My husband wants to have our dog put to sleep. Last night he was saying we should have our dog put to sleep....he has said this in the past too. The dog is not sick or in pain or anything. He is getting old...he is 14, we have had him since he was tiny. He does have a few skin issues and needs sulfur shampoo, he has a habit of picking at the carpet at times when he is mad or not feeling good. But he is fine. He still runs, literally, to the door when he needs to go out. He never goes near the road, just a good dog. So he thinks we should put him to sleep now, just because he is getting older and might start having health problems? Where is the respect in that? How can you have a dog for that long and not love him? I just donI can It makes me feel like he would do the same to me when I Or if I ever get sick.
Bring him in. My BIL had this a few weeks back... [2008-09-05]
went in, had cath done and had two 70-75% stenosed arteries, CHF, 10% function and may need a transplant. They stabilized him with meds and he is at home with a cardiac vest. He has not felt well for the past year, but kept putting the doctor visit off. Of course, they told him that had he come in sooner it wouldn't be this bad. Good luck.
I've come to the conclusion that [2008-09-05]
I No matter how much or how little I sleep, I don That works great in the summers when my kids are off school, but come September, it Last night I went to bed at 10, but took about an hour to fall asleep. I got up at 7:15 this morning and got the kids off to school. It I usually feel refreshed after one of those. Man, do I miss the summer hours. The work is always plentiful at night, but I've got to get back on the kids' schedule now.
So to answer your question, I think your body needs what it needs. I don Good night!
I've come to the conclusion that [2008-09-05]
I No matter how much or how little I sleep, I don That works great in the summers when my kids are off school, but come September, it Last night I went to bed at 10, but took about an hour to fall asleep. I got up at 7:15 this morning and got the kids off to school. It I usually feel refreshed after one of those. Man, do I miss the summer hours. The work is always plentiful at night, but I've got to get back on the kids' schedule now.
So to answer your question, I think your body needs what it needs. I don Good night!
I use a timer [2008-09-04]
so My mom got me into this... when I was home visiting she sat a timer in front of me so I couldn't search the internet until I worked a full hour, or 30 or 45 minutes, whichever I chose. Then I could search for a little while... and then right back to turning the timer on. Maybe you could get up and walk around, or watch some TV or something in your break time. It sounds silly and childish, but it actually works. I'll tell you what thogh, some days are just BAD. I promised myself to try to earn $100.00 every day... I was doing great the first three days of the month and now today im worn out. LOL. plus i blame it on politics and me wanting to follow that stuff... and discovering this board... etc.
I hope it gets better for you! and I am not a morning person AT ALL, but if you went to bed earlier do you think it would help? It takes a little while to get on that schedule but im seriously in bed by like 10 and up at 6... i get tired in the middle of the day... but once i got past the first couple with no naps, im finding it easier to get up.
Good luck!
PS how come so many people view posts but only a few answer!?
I swim recreationally - my DD is on the swim team (sm) [2008-09-04]
She is 7, so it is fun to race her in the different strokes. Sadly, the only one I can really beat her regularly is backstroke. Our whole family loves the water.
I wear contacts and cannot see a thing without them, so I either keep them in and wear goggles or take them out and wear prescription goggles. Good thing I don't really care if I look goofy!!
The kids may like those choices [2008-09-04]
but I don The salads and baked potatoes are good and probably the spaghetti, but everything else I would worry about. The Chic-Fila delivery is nice but probably should only be once a month. It it's that most of them don't get a nutritional meal at home.
You have a lot to deal with here. I suggest (SM) [2008-09-04]
you take 1 issue at a time. You have a good list started...prioritize based on safety and legal issues. Re the will, POA, etc., download some forms from the internet or buy some...they are widely available. Fill out one of them as a draft, leaving blanks where he needs to give input. Then take it to him, go over it with him, and ask what he wants in the blanks. Then compile a final for him to sign and take him to have it notarized, if needed. Then move on to the next thing on the list. I wouldn't make a big deal out of anything, just make dealing with one thing part of your regular routine when you visit him.
Re the house, spend some time making a safe, clean space in it for him to live his daily life...kitchen, one bathroom, to start. Get and install any grab bars or other equipment he might need. Get him a medical alert necklace for his birthday. I found one at WalMart that doesn't require a monitoring service...it dials 9-1-1 in an emergency.
This is just a start, but that is what you need to do, just start. I hope some of these suggestions are useful.
get up and jump up and down [2008-09-04]
Go take a walk for 10 minutes or so. Good luck!
My thoughts [2008-09-04]
It literally makes me ill to think of what has happened to her and that there is actually a human being on this planet that would do such a thing. I do believe she is guilty. I don't think many people have any doubt about that. Just trying to understand why someone would harm her and what was going through their minds at the exact time they were doing this. I can't understand it. I remember years ago that Susan Smith (think that's her name) some other poster mentioned her, but I remember when that happened I thought if parents can't handle having kids don't they know how many people would love to have kids. I thought if you can't take having kids anymore then please bring them to a shelter so they will be safe and other families who cannot have children (like me) would be able to adopt these. I don't get why people don't do that.
We read and hear on the TV all these very strange things happened. Seeing as I type all day DH reads news and stuff and tells me bout these cases. Some young guy was driving down the road pulled over took his infant son out of the car and either beat him or just killed him. Someone saw this and the guy was saying something about the kid being posessed by satan. Another case some guy through his child off a bridge, some lady drowned her five children, and the latest DH told me about was some guy who was let out of some psychiatric hospital (I think), but went on a killing rampage. Walked into a store and shot a bunch of people, went somewhere else and shot some people, killed a P.O. and others. To bring it back to the story of Casey Anthony and what her mother has done (or not done maybe), but with all the very weird things going on does anyone have any idea why these things are happening. I sit here as a regular person wondering what is happening in the country. I've lived in other countries and sure they have crimes but not like here (as many or as horrendous). Is something going on that we don't know about. I read about the chem trails and wonder what in the world is in the poison that they are pouring on is. Is this what is making some people to absolutely lose their minds. What is wrong with our society.
Ideas for Low Energy [2008-09-04]
hi, just wanted to offer some encouragement, if possible, to say hang in there and we all feel like that sometimes. I think it i know that when i started having perimenopausal symptoms, i wasn another option is an herbal infusion made of stinging nettle: http://www.susunweed.com/Article_Energy_Stamina.htm
having energy is a very multifaceted issue, imho, which takes into account one i give myself comfort foods, and yes, coffee.i do an email here and there in between notes or in the middle of one for a very quick break (case in point). if i'm low energy for too long, i ask myself why that might be, which it sounds like you're doing. sounds like you're overworked and worried too, which doesn't help. trying to find ways to reduce stress is key. sometimes for me it's a glass of wine, or watching my favorite show once a week for a treat. whatever is FUN for you is key.
again, just my humble opinion, but itgratitude list on occasion, or a gripe list, whatever feels right at the time!
Good luck!
School lunches - [2008-09-03]
Child is entering middle school this year. Came home today with a lunch menu. Among the standard lunch are ala carte items including sports drinks, soda, pretzel with cheese, nachos with cheese, breadsticks with sauce, ice cream, etc. All of these items run abotut $1.50 a piece and of course the school encourages that you fill the student
Of course we will talk with him and let him know what is expected but was wondering if any of you have gone through this already? Do you find that its a problem? How did you handle it? Personally, I don It is a very good district but this has totally rubbed me the wrong way. I cannot believe they are offering this to 10-13 year old kids.
Where I work now there is a guy (sm) [2008-09-03]
with a voice that puts me over the edge all the time. It's soooo distracting, in a good way. :op
we were a charity...LOL!! [2008-09-03]
it was end of the week stuff like milk, juice, etc. she only brought home the good stuff at the end of the summer. getting those groceries really helped my parents sometimes!
do you watch the news? [2008-09-03]
I guess it's good not to, nothing good is ever on.
Also, his FRIEND would help for $200 [2008-09-02]
It sounds like he is not charging you, but he is going to need help and his FRIEND wants compensation. I mean, for someone that doesn't know you personally, to help for only $200, I wouldn't be complaining. Also, if your daughter knows you don't like him, most likely he knows you don't like him. He isn't going to jump at the snap of your fingers to help you if he knows you don't like him. I am sure he will set the furniture where you want it, but he isn't going to unpack all of your things and keep moving furniture around so in other words, you better know where it is going before he gets there. I have moved many times and I have had the same experiences. I don't expect someone to help me design my house for me. Just be appreciative that he said he would help because he could have just said he was too busy PERIOD.
If I were you, I would stop being a meddling mother-in-law and let your daughter have a good marriage with this man if she loves him, or you may be a contributing reason they divorce. Let your daughter be happy! I wouldn't say anything to your daughter if I were you.
What is the big deal??? They had to have [2008-09-02]
gas and he said he would put in 10. He did. When he gets gas for his car is his business. If he wants to stop every day for gas, how does that affect her??? If they fight over little things like that, doesn't sound like a good marriage to me.
Need advice again - Dementia (sm) [2008-09-02]
Hi all. I just want to start off by saying that whenever I post on here I always get kind responses, and I may not always get a chance to say thank you. Wanted to let you know that I do appreciate it.
Here is my latest challenge. I have an uncle who is in his early 70 I grew up watching my grandmother, his mother, go through the stages of this horrid disease. I have a pretty good grasp of what we are up against. Thing is, I was a child when my grandmother started her decline, and boy things are different when you are an adult. I honestly don
Here is what complicates the situation. My uncle is divorced, has been for some time. He has no children. He has three sisters, my aunts, living. One is in her 80s, one is two hours away and not in great health, and the third is 12 hours away. The oldest cannot help, given her age, the one that is two hours away has told me that she really doesn
It gets a little more complicated. My uncle is a hoarder. He also has been notoriously bad about managing his finances for many years. His house is in a very bad state of disrepair. He is at the stage where he really needs someone to look over him, not live with him but maybe go in once or twice a week and help him with bills, meds, etc. However, his house is so bad that I truly fear it is going to fall down around him.
My questions: I know that he needs help, but I also know that he has to ask for that help (up to a certain point, which would be where we would then go to court and ask for a conservatorship). He is not at that stage yet. If something happens to him, no one has legal medical proxy, he does not have a will, he does not have an advanced directive. We have talked to him about the importance of doing this, but he does not want to listen, even though he admits he needs to do something. He also has not been formally diagnosed. I think he is afraid to get confirmation that he is suffering from the same disease as his mother. How do we help him? What should we do? What is the procedure here? I honestly am at my wit I donand have him thinking that we are wanting anything. I don It is his. But something has to be done. I want him to be taken care of when the time comes.
Any advice would be appreciated, as always. Thank you.
HC
Sure it would be nice [2008-09-02]
but there's no reason we can't discuss those here.
Seen any good one's lately? not me. too expensive to go to the theater.
Oh, but I did see the lake house...wow! That was such a good movie! I watched it about 5 times in 1 weekend!
Had mine done a year ago in May.... [2008-09-02]
and I would do it all over again. I was severely nearsighted, couldn My cornea was too thin to do the traditional Lasik, so instead I had something called E-Lasik, where instead of a flap, they just take that layer off and it regenerates. I had more pain with that procedure, but it was well worth it. I am now 20/20 in my left eye and 20/15 in my right! It did cost about $4000, but when you think about the price of contacts, solution and glasses it all evens out. If you are anywhere in PA I can give you the name of a GREAT surgeon who did mine, he's probably the best in the state!
Good luck!
Don't mind really [2008-09-02]
You know..It
I agree. One I LOVE is that milky minutes, lactose intolerant one. sm [2008-09-01]
I snicker every time. If you haven't caught it...
Family around the kitchen table. Mom finds poker chips that are UNUSED CELLPHONE MINUTES in the garbage with milk on them.
WHAT are THESE?
Umm leftover minutes from last month.
These are still good! You know what happens to my sister's unused minutes?
She loses them
That is right, she loses them. My sister would love to have these milky minutes.
Hubbie: Isn't your sister lactose intolerant?
I love word games and double entendre, and creative use of the language, oddly drawn verbal conclusions and other oddities (hazard of my work?) so this one gets me smiling.
I do not think you are overreacting at all. . . [2008-09-01]
He sounds like he is very young and immature. I have a problem with people who are not willing to help, especially when it is family. It sounds like you did a lot of the work already. Does your daughter know how you feel? If so what is her opinion? It does not sound like he is putting his best foot forward fora good start to this relationship either with you, or with your daughter. Best of luck to you.
If you want to let us all know your [2008-09-01]
whereabouts, maybe somebody on this board can help out. I know I would be willing if you were close by me, and my 17-year-old would be glad to help and recruit his buddies, too. Moving is such a stressful thing, but it can be fun when everybody pitches in with a good attitude.
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