Is this inconsiderate or what

Is this inconsiderate or what? [2008-07-03]
My son-in-law stopped by our house on the way to work this morning. My hubby was pulling out of the driveway and I saw him give a bag to my husband and he left. My hubby brought the bag to me and said I was told to give this to you until tonight. He said my SIL was going to have a surprise for our daughter this evening after work at a local restaurant but didn I opened the bag and there was ice cream and pickles inside (?). Well, the first thing we thought of was pregnant and needless to say, our first grandchild, the look on our face was shock, disappointment, and happiness at the same time. We just stood there staring at each other, wondering what the **** was going on. My hubby went on to work and called a few minutes later, saying my SIL had text messaged him and said for me nor my husband to call OUR daughter or him today. I have sat in tears most of the day. That jerk (and he is a jerk) just told us our daughter is expecting our grandchild but not to talk to her today. What is the surprise about? He already knows, SHE already knows, we already know. So I guess you have to know my SIL to know he is a controlling person.....my daughter just hasn My husband has been so upset all day about this. Shouldn We are told by him to keep this inside all day. They are going to see his parents tomorrow at their lakehouse and I suppose tell them together, even though I have a feeling he This is a day my husband and I should be so gloriously happy and we feel sad too. We don I have just seen my daughter and she said nothing and I can This is my baby having a baby and we don Our son was here and saw what we saw and he was so happy to be an uncle, grinning from ear to ear, but can I have to say I am so angry with him right now. You have to know how controlling he has been. My daughter wouldn Are you kidding? What sick pleasure does he get from spoiling all this for us by it not coming from her, the pregnant one, standing there. Our child. We still don After all, they already know, we already know, so why haven I have to say my husband is so upset by this right now, he has called from work several times today and could not even focus on an important meeting this morning. To be honest, I am not at all sure how I will react once we are together this evening. Is this just a dumb way of doing this or has anyone else had this happen like this? We are just dumbfounded about it all and think this is avery cruel way of doing this.

Not trying to be inconsiderate [2007-04-09]
As a Christian I am called to love my neighbor as myself, of course I am flawed, that is the whole point of grace. However, since I am called to love I wanted to share my thought of we all need Jesus, hope you have a great day! P.S. Not trying to start any arguments.

Anonamiss, you are a sweet person too [2008-11-16]
and you I I had a neighbor drop 2 elderly ponies offin my pasture under the pretense of needing a place for them to stay for a week until she sold them.I fed and cared for them for half a year before my husband called her and demanded she come pick them up. They went to a really good home at a therapeutic riding stable that same day, thankfully, but it turned out she was trying to get money for them all that time and HER husband didnUGH. I would have kept them myself if it came down to a choice between that and letting them go back to her. Blondie, men don Women are caretakers by nature. I think your husband and his friend are inconsiderate and immature, but my husband is like that too. So glad to know the dogs don't hurt the rabbits!

Thank you for you comment.......sm [2008-11-11]
and I wish you all the best. People who think that they can deliberately destroy their lives, are inconsiderate, selfish and unthankful towards people who love them. Self-destruction is a sin, because it is a slow suicide.

I don't mean to seem judgmental but [2008-10-21]
the fact that you have kids and your husband waits until the evening to sleep is really inconsiderate. You need to have a heart-to-heart with him. He Maybe you could compromise -- like spend 1/2 hour with him in the morning when he gets home and then he sleeps until the kids get home and you can all spend the evening together.

One of my pet peeves is when [2008-10-10]
people leave their grocery cart smack dab in the middle of the aisle while they search for something. It's so inconsiderate! Another one: The person in front of you on the escalator steps off and stands right there at the top/bottom looking around. Uggh.

Is it hard to find considerate people these days? sm [2008-08-18]
seems like no one is considerate of anyone else anymore. I dropped a few friends because of it. A recent friend is being inconsiderate also, husband wonders why I still do things with her. Well, you know, you can People are late, don The way of the world these days I guess.

barking [2008-07-31]
Our inconsiderate neighbors let their two loud labs bark constantly. Visited them and asked nicely if they would bring them in within a reasonable amount of time or at least yell 'shut up' out the window. Things would improve temporarily, then back to the noise. Animal control was not very helpful -- said they would have to drive by and catch the dogs in the act, but then wouldnt even come out. What finally helped was calling and Emailing both the mayor's office and several city council members--Two councilmen contacted these rude inconsiderate neighbors and kept following up and putting pressure on them until it finally dawned on them that their dogs were their responsibility and their unfortunate neighbors have a right to enjoy their house in peace. Unbelievable how inconsiderate and irresponsible people can be.

Had the same problem [2008-07-30]
Neighbors would leave their dog out literally at all hours of the night and it would be waking me up AND my kids. I called the police department, animal control and just went back between the two of them. It was absolutely ridiculous, but about a month goes by and I got the dog barking on video several times and animal control finally came and picked the dog up. People can be so inconsiderate.

Actually it is answering the one who said should be canned, creating hostile [2008-02-05]
work place- yours was not a good working situation also. I think people, unless in your situation, just do not realize what a problem others have. It is not something you try to do by making so many trips to the bathroom. People working for others sometimes just have to suck up things and as my mother would have said, consider the source- if you are rude, crude, inconsiderate, lacking manners- a person fits this category and you just take with a grain of salt and overlook others like this.

A funeral is not the time or place for your friend to take a stance over something done 10 yrs ago. [2007-12-10]
I donthink about saying anything right now would be selfish and inconsiderate. He has had 10 years to deal with this issue. Why now?? I really tried to look at this issue from all angles and to be honest, just really donget it. I can't understand why anyone would feel the need to change a name they have had for at least 18 years. If my daughter changed her name, I would be absolutely devastated. Unless she was in the Witness Protection Program, I would continue to call her by the name she was given after 26 hours of labor and delivery. I'm not sure I could call her by another name even if I wanted to. It may not sound like much, but your friend is really asking a lot from people. Old habits DO die hard and this is so much more than just a habit. If a friend of mine did this and it meant THAT much to her, I suppose I would try to make her happy. Without knowing all of the details, it's hard say for sure. One thing I do know is that if your friend is going to address this, he needs to wait for the appropriate opportunity. The timing he chooses could have a significant impact on the outcome. Do you mind me asking why your friend did something this drastic?

A few weeks back I posted about calling the police s/m [2007-09-23]
about dark barking next door to me. If you remember, I was feeling a lot of guilt and sadness in the beginning because I love dogs so much and did not want to do anything to make things worse for them. Well, at first my very verbal neighbor was very compliant and I almost never heard a bark for the first two weeks. Now since Wednesday (my day off, thankfully) the large dog who sits at the back door wanting back in the house is being kept out almost the entire day again. Wednesday morning was terrible. I kept looking out the window seeing him sit by the door, and any noise that I make in my kitchen or the guy downstairs might make obviously gets him going again. If you remember, this young guy next to me got furious, was waving his arms and screaming at me in front of the police. I don He does not bark continously, but on and off for hours and hours, sometimes with a minute or so break. It is warm, nice sunny weather here, so the dog is not in extreme heat or cold. They take him in at night. I have been going through a depression that is impossible to describe. I canthings will be terrible. Ilive here alone. Thank you just for listening. The dog is notthe problem. He is a beautiful dog and just wants to go in. Hedeservesa better life. They also have two Daschunds and they are inside most of the time.The big dog is not tied and has a smallyard to run in while he is out.

Just a suggestion - sm [2007-09-23]
What if YOU offered to take the dog? Dogs are wonderful companions to everyone, especially those suffering with depression. That way, you know the dog is properly cared for and you have a companion to help you with your depression too. Maybe they have just taken on more than they can handle with three dogs. I agree with you that the neighbor is absolutely inconsiderate but they might be open to you adopting their poor pooch.

Simialr problem here [2007-09-07]
My husband does the very same thing, and it just infuriates me and I think is the most inconsiderate thing anyone can do. I start telling him something and he goes into a new sentence, as if I was not even talking, and talks about something he wants to discuss. This hurts my feelings very badly, and it is as if I don't count. When someone does this it says a lot about what kind of person they are, and they are very self-centered. I always taught my own children growing up to make eye contact with someone when they are speaking to you, acknowledge what they say, and pay them the courtesy of listening until they are finished with their sentence. Then, you can say what you want. I think my husband was never even taught this. He also stares straight at the TV when I am talking to him and doesn't even pay me the courtesy of looking at me when I talk with him. If you are having this problem with your boyfriend now it speaks volumes about who he is, and you deserve better than that.

did you read the above article someone posted? [2007-04-08]
The Meaning of R.S.V.P. Let's Clear Up the Confusion I hope that this week's tip will benefit hosts and guests alike, because there seems to be a lot of confusion about the meaning of the above term. Lack of RSVP's - A Growing Problem I hear more and more often, and have found in my personal experience, that hosts often do not receive firm indications whether guests plan to attend their parties, even if R.S.V.P. is clearly printed on the invitation. This could mean either one of two things. First it could mean that rudeness is a growing trend in our society. Or, as I would prefer to believe, people no longer understand what the term means. Assuming the best, and that the decline in R.S.V.P.'s can be attributed to ignorance and not rudeness, I will clarify this for the record. What RSVP Means The term R.S.V.P. comes from the French expression r�pondez s, meaning please respond. If R.S.V.P. is written on an invitation it means the invited guest must tell the host whether or not they plan to attend the party. It does not mean to respond only if youregrets only is reserved for that instance). It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation. Why It's Inconsiderate to Not RSVP An incomplete list of respondents can cause numerous problems for a host including difficulty in planning food quantities, issues relating to minimum guarantees with catering halls, uncertainty over the number of party favors and difficulties in planning appropriate seating, among other things. So the next time you see R.S.V.P. on an invitation you receive, please call your host and respond promptly.

Check out article :) [2007-04-07]
The Meaning of R.S.V.P. Let's Clear Up the Confusion I hope that this week's tip will benefit hosts and guests alike, because there seems to be a lot of confusion about the meaning of the above term. Lack of RSVP's - A Growing Problem I hear more and more often, and have found in my personal experience, that hosts often do not receive firm indications whether guests plan to attend their parties, even if R.S.V.P. is clearly printed on the invitation. This could mean either one of two things. First it could mean that rudeness is a growing trend in our society. Or, as I would prefer to believe, people no longer understand what the term means. Assuming the best, and that the decline in R.S.V.P.'s can be attributed to ignorance and not rudeness, I will clarify this for the record. What RSVP Means The term R.S.V.P. comes from the French expression r�pondez s, meaning please respond. If R.S.V.P. is written on an invitation it means the invited guest must tell the host whether or not they plan to attend the party. It does not mean to respond only if youregrets only is reserved for that instance). It means the host needs a definite head count for the planned event, and needs it by the date specified on the invitation. Why It's Inconsiderate to Not RSVP An incomplete list of respondents can cause numerous problems for a host including difficulty in planning food quantities, issues relating to minimum guarantees with catering halls, uncertainty over the number of party favors and difficulties in planning appropriate seating, among other things. So the next time you see R.S.V.P. on an invitation you receive, please call your host and respond promptly.

don't have a *choice* to walk through smoke--sm [2007-03-05]
if you want to get out of or into the store. If someone HAS to smoke...go to your own car where it does not infringe upon someone else's right to not have to breathe it in and contract lung cancer. Body odor and bad breath do not inflict death and are easily taken care of with personal hygiene. Second hand smoke is just plain inconsiderate of others' health, but then why would you care about that. right?

Dear Abby has addressed this many times and I believe you are right [2007-02-27]
I I don I This is my second marriage and I've asked myself many times why I remarried. I love my family, but I do envy the single person, especially when my life and family are so difficult right now. By the way, I think your answer is excellent and a great way to shut people up. You could always say something like I'm single because I've chosen to be single and that's that. Good luck and I'm sorry for the inconsiderate people out there.

Jerk doctor, I agree [2006-10-17]
That was inconsiderate and unprofessional of the doctor's office not to call and remind you of the appointment, as 6 month appointments in advance are hard to remember. And the doctor was a jerk in treating you like that by being sarcastic. It's weird, doctors raise a fit if our transcription isn't perfect and turn around and scold you about how you raise your kid. I have had scarlet fever as a child as well as chickenpox and I'm still here and healthy so don't despair. Husbands just don't understand, just b/c we're at home all day doesn't mean we're not working. Hang in there.