It sounds to me as though you are doing

sounds phony to me too...great career in fiction writing...nm [2008-06-29]
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Sounds strange to me [2008-06-23]
What self respecting guy keeps borrowing money? Although I don't know his circumstances, that alone would make me leery. You don't want to get involved with someone needy like that IMHO. I'd sever the ties with this dude.

It sounds like you probably would like to see the Harry Potter books burned too [2008-06-03]
People like you are why I have a problem with religous nut cases. The last time I knew God = love. God loves all his children no matter what. You are just filled with judgement and self-righteousness. I believe that if someone is being physically abused of course remove them. If they are living the ways their religion believes and it is not hurting anyone leave them alone. So what if they wear funny clothes and their hair looks funny to outsiders. What gives one religion the right to dictate how another lives. Yes I know polygamy is illegal, children marrying and having sex with adults is disgusting in my opinion, but we should try and understand each other. I heard a quote one time that said Don. We are not The Creator and we should not be judging people. Let the courts handle it when they've got something legitimate and solid to work with.

spyware? Sounds like what companies use [2008-06-02]
to shadow in to fix technical problems. Also, many services and hospitals have this ability to keep tabs on their work/workers. I had one use it to break in and type a message to me when they needed a stat. but, sounds like your hubby needs to take up golf or something.

Haha! Hubby-Prozac sounds like a plan! - nm [2008-05-29]

Sounds like he is trying to tell you something (sm) [2008-05-29]
We had a little gal that did this. She had been using the litter box very well and then one day years later decided to actually wait for me to come through the room, run over to some dirty laundry (yes, we are slobs) and squat and do her thing. I got the message, fortunately, and sure enough she had a UTI. I would say take him to the vet. He is an older cat, and they do tend to have more health issues than younger ones, just like their humans!! Good luck HC

Sounds good [2008-05-24]
Thanks for the input. I really don

Sounds like she is trying to get attention to me and it is working. sm [2008-05-18]
Can you not call and speak to the counselor yourself rather than your son? I couldn't confront the mother either but the counselor could if she saw it fit.

It sounds to me as though you are doing [2008-05-07]
an excellent job at handling this situation. Your daughter sounds like a sweetheart! Teaching your daughter not to tolerate being treated poorly by friends is a wonderful way to elevate her self esteem even at this young age. Youfriendship will soon fade away as they grow in different directions. You sound like an awesome mom to me!

sounds like she may be lonely....? [2008-04-30]
xx

That is entrapment.....sounds like they [2008-04-22]
My chidren were not allowed cell phones at their school but I had them take them anyway and turn them off. If they needed it for an emergency (so much school shootings) or to call me after school for a reason, they had it. I understand kids abuse these things, using them during class, etc., and that is wrong but I look at them moreso now as a backup for trouble.

Sounds like you are afraid of something! [2008-04-18]
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Sounds like friend of mine [2008-04-18]
A friend once told me that when she goes to a restaurant she and her husband get down on their knees and pray at their table. I asked why they do that. Her response was We are setting a good example for everyone to see

god that sounds like some third world country [2008-04-17]
if the women they knew how the rest of America lives they wouldn't stand for it, especially rebellious teenagers!

Not at all...it sounds like you want to brag sm [2008-04-15]
about your willpower and your abilities to make sure you are not a doormat. I actually do not have it the worst and I know it. I don't have it the best either. I am somewhere in betweeen. But I found inspiration in this and I wanted to share it with others who might need it. You apparently do not need it- so why do you see the need to be the devil's advocate? I don't see that there was a need for a devil's advocate at all. You just wanted to tell everyone that you are not a doormat, you don't need the psychobabble because you are so perfect. Well GOOD FOR YOU - enjoy it. Does feeling good about yourself cause you to put others down?

Sounds more like a helicopter kid... sm [2008-04-15]
Fly away son! heehee I have kids like that too. I would LOVE to have an evening to myself but usually, just when I think I might get that.... ALL of the kids change their plans and I end up with mine PLUS extra kids. Another mother and I were having this conversation a few days ago. I go to the kids games and school events but I try try try to get them to do a little more out there without me. They have to do it sometime right? Instead, my house is always full of kids. I swear, I don't know how many I really have. I know I only gave birth three times but I usually have three times that many at my house. They all call me MA. This makes me really confused in crowds. I hear MA and I look, even if I go somewhere alone! Usually, if itothers hollering at me. My house is chaos all the time and I have no idea why they love to come here. Maybe just to rattle me? Sick sense of humor my kids have... must be my fault! LOL

sounds the same [2008-04-14]
Your hubby sounds a lot like my fiance - though my fiance wasn't in the military - he has been on his own for over 20 years - raised his son himself and did everything from cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, etc. . He also has a hard time relaxing - always on the go. I'm just the opposite - I love to relax! lol. . I tell him sometimes - it wouldn't change the course of fate if washing the dishes just had to wait. . he doesn't think that is amusing. . his motto is get the work done first, then relax. . but there is always something that needs to be done, so relaxing is put off - He can finally - about once a week - sit down and watch a 2-hour movie with me. . and he loves playing with the new chocolate lab we just got- but most of his hobbies have to do with working on the farm or doing a fixer up project. . We are very opposite in those ways but seem to have a lot of other things in common, so I think we will be fine - just need to communicate a little better. . . As for the house - we are getting a lot of ideas from our Amish neighbors as far as what kinds of material we need, how much, etc. . we will have to find plumbing and electrical contractors - Amish aren't much help in those areas. LOL. . and my fiance can do a lot of the physical labor himself. We are figuring the cost of building the house will be about $70,000 and it should be worth over twice that just because of the money we are saving by having a lot of the material and doing some of the work ourselves. . plus, we have the land. So I think it is going to be wonderful - of course, he says we should live in it for about 10 years and then sell it and build another one - but I hate to move, so we will see. .

Keeping that part of my life separate sounds best - [2008-04-14]
I have been asked on dates but just have not been interested. I feel stuck just wishing we could all be a normal family again (the 4 of us). I even think ahead to when I'm a grandma down the road and still can't picture me with a new man! I don't know, maybe I'm just destined to remain alone unless I met the guy who was a perfect fit with my kids.

Sounds like you are not yest interested [2008-04-14]
in another relationship. My kids were 3 and 8 when I was divorced, I felt funny about bringing any man around for a while, if I dated I only saw them the weeks I did not have the kids (my ex and I have joint with having them every other week). I have been divorced 12+ years and they only met 2 guys I went out with, the first I dated for 2 years, and the present BF I have been for 8 years. If and when you are ready then you will get out there. But in the meantime, go out with friends, don't just sit at home. If you are in a church, go to all their social events, volunteer time at the local hospital or libraty, whatever. You never know when you must might meet someone to change your mind. One thing for sure, if you are staying home all the time you will never get a chance to meet anyone, they don't come knocking on the door.

Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm [2008-04-10]
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!

Sounds cool. [2008-04-09]
I wish I could find it in a grocery store. I don't get to the mall often, but I'll try.

I have to add though, that it sounds like the kids were abandoned by both parents (nm) [2008-04-04]
x

Your daughter sounds wonderful.. [2008-04-04]
what an accomplishment for her. You raised her right!

Sounds like hubby wants it concealed [2008-04-02]
Do take into placement into consideration as far as how often youvs how often you I have 2 on my upper arms and now if I want to do something classy sleeveless attire is out. I also have one on my ankle. They say the ankle is one of the more painful places to get a tat; but my vote is the inner upper arm for hurting the most (mine wraps all the way around the arm). Just remember - the pain is temporary, the TAT is forever.

sounds great [2008-04-01]
I have always thought that would be a fun thing to do - and you have the perfect job for that!! I love to travel -I'm glad you all are able to do that. .

My sons have been in Scouts for some time now...sm [2008-07-03]
My youngest (11 years old) was in Cub Scouts for about 3 years and crossed over into a newly chartered troop. My oldest son (17 years old) joined the troop also, mostly out of necessity (we needed his warm body in order to have enough boys to charter). My youngest loves it and my oldest is kind of lukewarm about it. I have also been a leader at the pack, troop, district and council level for over 4 years now. We are basically a scouting family and love it. With that said, however, I will say that scouting is not for everyone, and everyone does not get out of scouting what is there for them to learn simply because everyone is not interested in learning those things or because of poor leadership within the scouting unit. In your case, it sounds to me as if the latter may be true. You didn't say how old your son is or how long he has been in scouting, but it sounds to me like he has a very poor leader if he makes them camp this way. Some overly self-glorified scout leaders try to turn scouting into junior Army training which is not what it is meant to be. If there is another pack or troop in the area, you might consider changing and see if that improves his scouting experience by a new leader and better camping conditions. When we camp, each boy has his own tent (can be bought at Walmart for about $15) and we always have a campfire in a designated fire ring that burns pretty much all night. Each boy is safely enclosed in his own tent that zips up which greatly reduces the chances of spiders, snakes, bugs, etc. Of course the boys have to be trained to keep their tent flaps zipped closed at all times so that nothing gets in. My advice from a scouter's viewpoint is to talk to your son and then you and your son and husband talk to the scout leader and see what can be done to improve the scouting experience for your son as well as the other boys in the unit. If the leader does not want to chanage his ways to more closely follow the scouting ideals, then find another troop or pack to join. Sounds like there is a LOT of room for improvement here. Here is a link that may help, too. http://netcommish.com/askandy.asp

Try to put aside your animosity towards your SIL [2008-07-03]
and be happy for your daughter and yourselves. Some people are ignorant and thoughtless, just don't know better. It sounds as though you wish you had a different SIL but your daughter chose him and it's her life now. I would try to put differences aside tonight and make it a special and happy celebration.

See message..... [2008-07-03]
Well, I have to say he definitely isn't thoughtless. Matter of fact, it seems he over analysis and thinks things out waaay too much. My daughter just rolls her eyes at it. What we felt for our SIL was not aminosity. We thought a lot of him at first, and felt he always had our daughter's best interest at heart. What we do know to be true, however, is that after the engagement the person we saw changed into someone who became manipulative, overbearing, and controlling. He just manages to do it in a way that seems harmless enough, but there's just something about it that doesn't feel right. Our son saw the same thing and he spent way more time around them than we have. He does come from a family in our community where some believe they are right up there with God, but unfortunately never have had to deal with them one on one. We have asked ourselves the same thing....why has our daughter not seen this. Our son tells us he has seen her chew him out before but never where she thinks anyone can hear. He's waaaay to interested in her girlfriends, as we have come to know, since they have been married. He thinks her girlfriend's problems/situations are his as well,as if he should be involved. We have just overlooked many many things but I have to say, we have done it for our daughter. We have been nothing but pleasant around him but he can be very rude and pompous acting. So if that sounds like we wish we had a different SIL, we just wish we had the one we saw before the marriage. His dad said he can be a little too over zealous about things, which may be the case here, but this just isn't thoughtful at all. Oh well, I guess we'll see tonight.

Gah...some people... [2008-07-02]
My ex-SIL used to say all the danged time that she was pregnant, once with twins, then a single, oops...twins again, on and on. Inevitably she'd always end up *miscarrying* for one reason or another! For this situation, however, I wouldn't believe it til I see it...some people just really get on my nerves with their attention-seeking behavior...I think they need therapy. Do please let us know when she stars on Jerry Springer, this sounds right up his alley!

That is just wrong. You are assuming these people were going sm [2008-07-02]
to do the right thing - and what makes you think they would? the dog should have been impounded, they should have contacted the hospital for payment information - did they? No. The victim has to pay or her credit is screwed. Her insurance could refuse to pay - they could investigate the dog bite and see who the culprit was - but they choose to pay - so not fraudulent. The people have not done anything it sounds like and now you are very quick to jump on this mom who obviously made a few mistakes and just wants to know what to do next to correct them. Wow.

Lucky you! [2008-07-02]
Man that sounds like a great time! I really don't think you will have a hard time. I bet your kids will just enjoy themselves. Be safe!

Dogs, fireworks, and... peppermint oil? sm [2008-07-02]
One of my dogs has a little bit of a problem with loud noises such as fireworksandthunderstorms. He doesnbut I happened toread an article about how using peppermint oil on the dogreally calm them,so I Ithas to be real peppermint oil (not the kind found in the grocery store in the baking section), so I went to a local health food store and bought a bottle. You put the oil on a cotton pad, then put some on each of the dog I did a Google search and found a lot of comments from people saying it worked for their dog. (Just type in Below isanother article I found while searching around. I know a lot of pets end up freaking out and getting lostthis time of year, poor things, so be sure you have an up-to-date ID tag on your pets, even if they will be inside the house. Dogs Fireworks Don't Mix! Every year on the Fourth of July America's skies are bright with fireworks, sparklers and Roman candles as we celebrate Independence Day. Bangs, explosions and bright lights are accompanied by screams, sirens and howling dogs throughout the country. Dogs do not like fireworks. Fact. Every year dogs along with many other animals experience fear and confusion, sometimes alone when their owners are away enjoying an organized event. It is not unusual for dogs to run away from home after being frightened by fireworks. Another problem for dogs is the fact that fireworks seem to be going off for a few days leading up to July 4th as well so there is no way of knowing exactly when your dog might be subjected to a loud bang. Below are some suggestions to help ensure that your pets can get through the fireworks unscathed. It is a good idea to bring any outdoor pets inside during the fireworks.Always remember how acute a dog's sense of hearing is. A loud bang to us can feel like a volcano erupting to a dog. It may be hard, but try and stay with your dog during the fireworks. Your presence will help to calm your dog and while the noise may still frighten them, they will feel better and recover much faster with you there. Always make sure your dog has his or her own special area where they can go to feel safe. Be it an indoor kennel or a place under the stairs, dogs love to have a den at their disposal. It sounds obvious, but try to keep the windows and curtains closed during the fireworks display as this will lessen the effect of the noise and bright flashes. Also, normal household noises such as the TV or music can help to distract from the loud noises coming from outside. Last but certainly not least, always ensure your pet has some sort of identification on him or her. It is a sad fact but many dogs do run away from home because of fireworks.Even dogs that have previously shown no fear of fireworks can occasionally take flight at the loud noises and flashes in the sky. Be prepared, your dog has never heard of Independence Day or The Fourth of July and he doesnHe needs your help to make it through the day.

Some advice -- been there myself, [2008-07-02]
First of all, congrats on almost paying off that mortgage! I would love to have a $350/month mortgage payment. I watch a lot of financial shows on TV, so I hope some of the stuff I learned can help you. 1. Pay yourself first. I know this sounds hard to do, but if you put a little back each paycheck to a savings account, you can avoid getting caught in the credit card circle again. It doesn We do $40 a paycheckinto2 club accounts, $20 into a Christmas Club and $20 into a vacation club. This really helps out when those times of year come around. 2. Pay your highest interest rate credit cards first and/or lowest balance first. You say you have a credit card in the 20% range for interest with a balance of $200. Try to pay that one off ASAP, while still maintaining minimum payments on the others. Once that one is paid down, I would start on the next lowest balance (since 3 of your credit card interest rates are in the similar 20% range). You should put the money you were paying on the $200 card (after it 3. Try to make your payments as soon as you get your bill for that statement; don Interest is figured on a daily basis, so the sooner you pay it for that month, the less interest you'll end up paying. 4. The $5000 that you are planning on getting would probably be best used by paying off the credit cards for 2 reasons: 1) The interest on your house is probably a lot better rate than those on the credit cards. 2) The interest you are paying on your house can be tax deductible. If I were in your situation, I would start out with the first 3 suggestions. After you get the $5000, I would follow through with number 4. Finally, any remaining balances left, I would try to obtain a home equity loan. Home equity loans are not second mortgages. The closing costs are much less, usually not more than $100, if any. The interest on a home equity loan would be better than any of your credit card interest rates, and again, the interest paid on a home equity loan can be tax deductible. When shopping for a home equity loan, try to find one with a fixed interest rate rather than adjustable (the market You should be able to find one with a rate somewhere around 7%. Good luck to you!

Maybe that's why your scared. Your thinking [2008-07-01]
too big (moving out of state). Money? If you Hope there are no children involved. Being scared is not a reason to stay with your husband. Why continue to be miserable? I feel sorry for you. Sounds like you live to please others and the heck with your own feelings.

No uterus , no pregnancy I would think???- sm [2008-07-01]
sounds kind of weird. She sounds like a flake. I'd offer to go with her to her OB and try and get the skinny on that one!

Insurance sm [2008-07-01]
It sounds like you're a great friend and neighbor! Our neighbor never gave us their insurance information. Our situation is a different because in addition to physical scars, our daughter has emotional scars from this dog bite that will take a long time to recover from. I did some research on the dog bite law. Sometimes insurance companies will cancel the homeowners policy if there is a dog bite on the property. If they don I think this is why they didn We believed them when they said they would take care of everything. I guess we're just too nice!

i'm pretty sure it was a garmin my [2008-07-01]
daughter just said her boyfriend got -- that it will TELL you which way and when to turn, so you don't have to take your eyes off the road. Sounds pretty good!

Ummmm, I think her point is that they should pay - sm [2008-07-01]
all the medical costs. What she should do is get all the bills/records from the insurance company and write to the insurance company copying the dog owners. The health insurance company will then go after the dog owners for payment of the hospital bills. They are getting off scot free from their dog injuring someone, I think that is the point MT is trying to make. Also a health insurance company can drop you too just like home owners or car, so if they are po'd about having to pay for the kids care when the dog owner should have paid for this, they could cancel their insurance (for the victim's family) and then the girl's family is doubly screwed. It sounds like the dog was impounded, but at home (this is what happened here when my neighbors dog bit me, totally unprovoked, dog just ran up to me and bit...barely broke the skin but dog did not have up to date shots--owners lied about that--dog was quarantied at home for 2 weeks then was allowed out after that)--From the sounds of it that is what happened here. I was somewhat traumatized and did not like to go out walking much after that but I got over it, it helped that the dog in question got hit and killed by a car though one of the times it was out running loose. ---Insurance companies love to pass the buck, so this would get some results. I fell last year on some ice and spained my shoulder really good, my insurance wrote me asking me where I fell, etc. so they could see if they could get $ from someone else, I had to disappoint them as I fell on my own front porch steps, guess I am lucky they didn't go after our homeowner's insurance, LOL.

Big bunch of lies...look at all the inconsistencies in ages/virgin when married 14yrs ago, but has a [2008-06-30]
Please see a psychiatrist. You are obviously seeking attention by posting lies. Furthermore, you said he was your prince charming...then you said he talks like he is retarded and that people have asked you if he is retarded. What was so 'princey' about a man who sounds like a retard and has psoriasis all over his body. Why would you have married him in the first place? How does a woman who was a virgin almost 14 years ago end up with a child who is already 14? You make it seem as though you are always without food but you are extremely overweight after having what you described to be a perfect body 14 years ago. How did that happen?

I thought as I read on and on this is just way too SM [2008-06-30]
much. I definitely think this was an attention seeking behavior, sad as that sounds. No one in a free world would let a ridiculous situation like that go on and on and on.

So, why would a man [2008-06-24]
even need to borrow money from a woman? I can understand certain circumstances, but a little here, a little there, not paying it back before borrowing more... But that is what parents/grandparents/banksare for. I love you, I really do... Who is he trying to convince? Single men are perfectly capable of paying their own way and most men I know of are embarrassed if they have to borrow from a buddy and from a woman..O!M!G! Humiliated! My DH had a fire that destroyed his home 6 months before I married him. Believe me, insurance doesn He did not come out ahead and he lost all the tools of his trade, uniforms, etc. So, to add insult to injury, he not only had to find a new place to live, he had to replace everything just to maintain employment. His pride still kept him from asking for money. If there is something a man wants or needs, he will sacrifice or work to find a way. As for the love notes, sounds like he is practiced on how to get onto a woman How much practice do you think it takes to get that way? 1 woman before you? 20 woman? 100 women until he gets it just right? If you have become lovers, then it sounds as though whatever he had to go do get you emotionally strapped in for the ride, he has no problem doing. sex is the easiest way to get a woman sucked in. He may not even realize he is doing this.The psychology on this one is basic but deep.

Oy vey!!! [2008-06-23]
I think you hit the nail on the head with your last paragraph. He's probably, from the sounds of it, married...sorry hun, I'd cut him loose like yesterday!

If it's not happening, it's not happening. As for the money . . SM [2008-06-23]
I would be very suspicious of that, particularly from someone you barely see or talk to. Sounds either like he is married or a freeloader. or both. Save yourself the pain and move on.

Get it checked [2008-06-22]
To help you not worry. I had a lump once in the groin and it was because of a urinary tract infection. Although it sounds like yours is related to the bug bite. Better safe than sorry, I would just have the doc look at it.

Some puppies just take longer, and some breeds S/M [2008-06-19]
are sometimes know to be more of a challenge. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. Maybe your local animal shelter could give you some help on this issue.Just like kids, they are a responsibility and will sometimes cause you some aggravation, but the love and happiness you get from her will outweigh the training period, I am sure.

Wait a minute. She's only 7-8 weeks old...sm [2008-06-19]
You've only had her a week, and you expect her to be housetrained already? And you're already thinking about giving her up because she isn't? WOW! Boy are you in for a surprise - if you keep her, that is, which at this point I'm not sure is the best thing for her, unless you're willing to adjust your expectations and do a bit of a 'crash course' in puppies/dogs. And please be honest with yourself, because if you don't keep her, it's much easier to find her a home while she's still young. First of all, it's totally unrealistic to expect no 'accidents' from such a young puppy. She is *very* young. In fact, it sounds like she's doing remarkably well for being so young! It isn't *physiologically* possible for a puppy to be 100% pottytrained until about... 4 months of age, if I remember correctly. They don't have the muscle control to hold it more than... 4 hours, I think it is? (I'm going by memory, so I'll have to look that up.) So, my next question is, how long does she have to stay in the crate w/o a potty break? Because it is extremely unusual for dogs to soil their living area - unless they either have no choice and can't physically hold it anymore, (or if they came from a puppy mill/pet store where they had no other choice but to go in their cage and so get in that habit), OR if her crate is so large that she can go in one section and then go off to another section and be away from it. (If that's the case, you can use a crate divider.) But as young as she is, she probably just can't hold it for more than a couple hours at a time. I had a great site for potty training stuff. Let me find it and post again later. It does s/l you're doing everything else right as far as keeping her on a regular schedule. For now, I'd suggest that she commes out of the crate for a potty break at least every 2 hours, or immediately if you see her start to sniff around in her crate or otherwise act like she's going to go in her crate. BTW, she should have stayed with her mother and littermates until *at least* 8 weeks of age, which tells me you didnleave them hanging so to speak, because it's the puppy that suffers. Okay, enough of my ranting.

My thoughts [2008-06-18]
I I think that a wedding shower is generally geared towards the bride. Therefore, if this is her first wedding and not the groom If it is the bride If sheno gifts. However, it sounds from your post, that she It would seem to me that she I don I also have 3 kids and only had a baby shower for the first one; although, I have to say that I In those cases, I usually bring a small gift - diapers or an outfit and a gift for the big brother/sister.

I feel your pain...s/m [2008-06-16]
My 7-year-old has asked me several times if we could move away from daddy. It's hard when you are at a crossroads and your situation sounds a lot like mine. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you and your child!

the cicadas have landed [2008-06-11]
the cicadas have emerged and it sounds like a spaceship hovering over my house. It's driving me crazy!!

What troubles me most about your post [2008-06-10]
is the violence your hubby seems to display. I don I have, however, been in a relationship with someone who sounds a lot like your hubby. Thankfully, no children were involved, but when he got mad, he broke stuff, expensive stuff. I didn I would be most worried about his temper tantrums escalating into something more. As for the child I took him for counseling and learned a lot of insight from the counselor. There were things I was unintentionally doing to incite him without even realizing it. The counselor also pointed out that I had 2 other children who did not act like this, so not to blame my parenting skills. He was just a child who needed to be handled differently. I felt a lot of guilt the last few years, thinking it was something I did to make him this way, but it turns out, that I It's an ongoing process, but he's worth it because I love him so! I would suggest that you find a private counselor to help you sort this. I would not invite hubby along just yet. I also wouldn I would definitely let him know about the first appointment before the second appointment. It would probably be a good idea to discuss it when his son is not there. Good luck with your situation. I feel for you. Children can be stressful to any relationship, but the joy they can bring is many times over.