My husband...

Yea, but do I say hey by the way, your husband [2008-07-03]
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maybe you daughter told her husband not to tell anyone so they could do it together -- then [2008-07-03]
he found he could not stand not being able to burst out with it, and came up with the hint-in-a-bag...technically keeping his promise to his wife. (Guys are stupid when they try to think.) (and/or) perhaps your daughter wanted at least one day (or whatever) to get used to the idea and wallow in it just the two of them. maybe?

That's why I have a husband....nm [2008-06-30]
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I wish my husband still liked to kiss like that... [2008-06-19]
We've only been married for a year and he's quit doing all that stuff.

My husband just did..... [2008-06-16]
He has had many root canals and crowns. We are now going tomorrow to get one of them completely removed. It was crowned but has decayed underneath to consistency of jello, so off it has to come. Other than dental implants, nothing else to do at this point. He has front teeth that I'm sure will have the same problem before long, as these have been capped for years after root canals. The pain gives him fits. I know this is tough for you.

My husband has done nothing to me [2008-05-27]
He is very loving and supportive and respectful. I would not tolerate anything less. I was in a mentally abusive relationship before when I was younger. Thankfully, my mother had enough sense to pull me out of it. That man went onto marry and abuse his next 3 wives. I would see his name in the local newspaper in the police log for domestic violence. What this man is doing to her is considered mental abuse. I would ponder that your husband does not treat you in such a manner. Judging from your other responses on this board, I get the feeling you wouldn Either that or he's made you so miserable, you feel the need to make others so as well. As I posted above to Ms. Done, I was a child in a loveless marriage and it My parents were both excellent providers and I love them, but I wish they would have just ended it when it was over instead of dragging us through it. The sleep I lost worrying about whether they were going to kill each other was more than I could take. I went out of my way to make sure I did not end up in a loveless marriage. Ms. Done has been put down enough. If your suggestion is to stay in the marriage, that You know nothing about her to make such comments as spoiled. You should think before you type. Some of the other comments you

Fo Done: Is it right to leave a husband... [2008-05-27]
My answer to your question, in your case, is: No. Maybe now you reject your husband so much because of this letter he wrote you, but I am sure that he regrets it and he wrote it in a state 'when he was out of his mind'. He apologized! It is very seldom that men apologize. Give him some t i m e to prove (oh my, I really think in this case it is prove, because it can be replaced by 'showing', but if the majority says it's proof, ok, then it's proof, I am confused now) that he wants to treat you better, give him another chance. Don't forget, but forgive. I am the only one who advises you to stay; I cannot believe this. All others give you their own 'horror stories', much worse than yours. Is this giving advice? Counseling? Keep in mind, you can often give it a try, make it a little better, day by day, it takes only o n c e to leave and this is it, it's final. Maybe if you stay, down the road, you will thank me for telling you to stay. But......if he starts to physically abuse you, leave immediatley. Now I am already expecting comments like.... 'emotional abuse is even worse than physical abuse....etc....' It depends on the grade of verbal abuse; some people regard even criticism as emotional and verbal abuse.

My husband recycles (scraps). sm [2008-05-22]
My husband...cycles/scraps and makes good money at it. If you have a scrap yard near by, your kids may want to check it out. You have to be 18 to get into the yards so you would have to go with them. This is more than picking up bottles along the road. He picks up things like TVs, vacuum cleaners, anything with a motor in it...ceiling fans, etc. You name it he has scrapped it. You have to break everything down into different components...copper with insulation, clean copper, cast iron, cast steel, aluminum etc. You have to take the freon out of A/C units and refrigerators. Scrap copper is $3 a pound here in Michigan. I don't know where you live or what your kids have in mind, but it is a dirty job. I always tell My husband...here else can you get dirty and get paid for it. And my favorite part of his scrapping is watching the guy who runs the crane with the big magnet on it. I want that job when I grow up. LOL. Good luck to your kids.

My husband... [2008-05-09]
He was driving truck when this happened and had only been home in the morning. Midday he took a nap and dreamed his wife died. He said that day was the weirdest day. He can still tell me what the weather was like, what the air smelled like, what he ate, and particularly the dream. This was all back in 1994. She did die that evening, completely unexpectedly. She was only in her early 40s. Their son found her. Freaky stuff.

my husband survied [2008-05-02]
a heart attack and i realized just how much i love him!

yes her husband is in the military. [2008-04-24]
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My husband was doing me a "favor" by helping me hunt down [2008-04-23]
a new ergonomic keyboard a few years ago and he called our local Office Depot... Asked the person on the other end if they had any erogenous keyboards. I was choking back the laughter and trying to get his attention to correct him but he's the kind of guy that HATES to be interrupted for ANYTHING so he held up his hand to me and gave me a dirty look, then repeated the question to the person on the other end who was no doubt having a fit of laughter themselves, transferred him to another department, where he repeated the question AGAIN. By this time, I could not control myself any longer. I was laughing hysterically and he finally hung up the phone because he was mad at me. Then I explained to him what he was asking for and he was really mad. I just said, aren't you glad they didn't say that they had some and you reserved one to be picked up later today? I could just see him walking to the service counter to pick up the erogenous keyboard he had set aside! LOL

My husband told me I sound like a you know what when I yell. . sm [2008-04-20]
He said he just couldnJeff, it Then he would yell at them! I can't believe how well it is working!

My husband yells at me for yelling at them. [2008-04-19]
He says I sound evil. I told H then he should cook and clean the house after he works all day and not do anything enjoyable. I will just throw my crap on the floor along with the kids and that is were it will stay until he picks it up. I wonder how bitter and evil he would sound. I have told my kids in a calm voice that if I have to pick up these toys it will go in the garbage and you are not going to get anymore. I have followed through. It may sound mean but then again, it isn They will expect others to pick up after them too and you know that isn

This is America. Your husband does not have the [2008-04-18]
right to tell anyone whether they can or cannot go anywhere, whether to your town to visit you, or anywhere else for that matter. I would just tell him that she is coming. If he doesn't like it, so what!!!

ABUSIVE HUSBAND! [2008-04-18]
YOU ASKED! I think you need, at the very least, to get professional couple counseling. This is clearly spousal abuse and you need to learn why you have letting it go on so long. If he won't go (and I'd bet money he won't), then go by yourself and learn why you have put up with this for so long. I am sorry you are hurting, but you have the power to change all this. You could start, at the very least, by reading self-help books about assertiveness training, spousal abuse, self-esteem,etc. Good luck! (By the way I was in private practice as a psychotherapist for years, and am a medical transcription teacher now.)

I think my husband and I were. sm [2008-04-15]
We thought it was being an involved parent. We knew her teachers (yes, she is an only child). We were band boosters, went to all of the games and concerts. I was the cookie mom a few times for the Girl Scouts. We stayed on her to do well in school because our state had college scholarships that could give her a free college educations. She graduated with honors, started her freshman year in college. We wanted her to live at home to save money, the college is in town. She lasted 1 semester, and during Christmas break, she said she wanted to go west to visit a girlfriend. Once there, she decided to stay there, met a young man she had talked to on the phone for about a month before Christmas, got engaged, and got married within 3 weeks of meeting him face to face. She said she needed to grow up on her own, wanted to be independent. Needless to say, her dad and I are devastated, but are keeping the lines of communication open, because we love our daughter. We thought we were being good parents. However, our priest advised us, just because we had a plan for her, doesn't mean she had the same plan for herself. She plans on going back to school, but she just needed a break. I just wish she hadn't eloped. Well, that's my helicopter parent story.

My husband and I still have these [2008-04-14]
days, but we It seems to be a cycle and I seriously believe men have PMS. It may be that he I I know I got really irritated when My husband...uld say - let Instead of me explaining that we didn We ended up arguing but not about the point. After a couple of months of this cycle, I sat him down 1 night and showed him the books. I told him that we weren I even let him take it over for a while (of course that didn He seemed to understandand we worked out a better budget to allow us some fun together, which we desperately needed. My point is, that it sounds like the problem may be that your fiance is stressed about making ends meet and may even be a little scared about providing for you once you I would suggest that you sit down and talk it over with him when he You might want to consider setting a budget you both agree on and sticking to it prior to getting married. Learning how to communicate now will be key in making your marriage work. I I can talk to My husband...out anything - and I mean anything. We don Congratulations on your wedding!!

Update: I am waiting for doc to schedule an abdominal CT for me - sent my husband a message saying [2008-04-10]
that they will be scheduling me for a CT today or tomorrow. His answer: 10-4, I hope you get your health in order. Exercise please. I am having abdominal pain, back pain, bleeding, etc. but I guess if I exercise it will fix all that.

would you tell your husband this? [2008-04-08]
Tonight i told my oldest son i was proud of him, he did his chores today and took care of his little brother for me while i was working w/o complaints, evening making his dinner w/o me even knowing it! I told him he would be a good father one day. He said, not like daddy...he First off, hubbyis27 and still works with his mom at a gas station out of town about 30 m away. But in his heart he is a musician. He has tried for over a decade to make it without a whole lot of success. this is very frustrating to him. Secondly, he has chronic pain from a backinjury and now it is discovered he has TMJ and is presently suffering from that. Also, he has anxiety and does All of this combined has made him a frustrated, irritable and mostly miserable person. He IS playing at the Whiskey in LA on the 4th of July which i am hoping this turn things around for him at least in one direction. My question is this: Should I tell hubby what my son said? I Maybe i'm just the pushover??

My husband's ex wanted him to pay (of course). but he.have made... [2008-04-03]
their daughters work, apply for scholarships, grants and loans.

My husband's ex wanted him to pay (of course), but [2008-04-03]
he hadhis daughters work, apply for scholarships, grants and loans. He paid over $1000 a month for child support (now finally done since the youngest daughter is getting married) and didncollege. College is a privilige, not a right, and more kids need to contribute to their own schooling.

My husband has 1 of his ears pierced [2008-03-31]
and he is just about the sexiest thing I have ever ran across! When we first started going together he had an earring- somewhere over the years it is not there and I told him the other day want him to get another 1- he is 1 heck of a man and a manly 1 at that!

My current husband is just the opposite... [2008-03-24]
In the 8 years we have been married he has paid over $97,000 in child support for his2 children.His youngest daughter is getting married (and will be giving up the rest of her child support) and the child support will finally end. There aredads and moms outthere who do pay their support. I hope you all get the back money owed to you. My ex owes my 2 daughters between 20-25 thousand. I never counted on it in the first place and when it sporadically came in I was happy, kind of like a bonus every now and then.

my husband and i laughed til we cried! [2008-03-23]

In your opinion, is there a benefit to forcing children to [2008-07-03]
My son is at camp for a week. Last night was family night. He cried and begged me to take him home but My husband...d his leaders refused and said it would be a big mistake. My husband...s an Eagle scout and doesn The places they were sleeping were these three sided buildings with open fronts. They were full of bugs, spiders, bees, etc. They did not have a campfire to scare any critters away. They have see stray cats, racoons, etc. But my son He wasn About half the other boys there in his room (of about 8) cry themselves to sleep every night. They are not homesick like we are told, they are miserable. I don But I don't see it.

My sons have been in Scouts for some time now...sm [2008-07-03]
My youngest (11 years old) was in Cub Scouts for about 3 years and crossed over into a newly chartered troop. My oldest son (17 years old) joined the troop also, mostly out of necessity (we needed his warm body in order to have enough boys to charter). My youngest loves it and my oldest is kind of lukewarm about it. I have also been a leader at the pack, troop, district and council level for over 4 years now. We are basically a scouting family and love it. With that said, however, I will say that scouting is not for everyone, and everyone does not get out of scouting what is there for them to learn simply because everyone is not interested in learning those things or because of poor leadership within the scouting unit. In your case, it sounds to me as if the latter may be true. You didn't say how old your son is or how long he has been in scouting, but it sounds to me like he has a very poor leader if he makes them camp this way. Some overly self-glorified scout leaders try to turn scouting into junior Army training which is not what it is meant to be. If there is another pack or troop in the area, you might consider changing and see if that improves his scouting experience by a new leader and better camping conditions. When we camp, each boy has his own tent (can be bought at Walmart for about $15) and we always have a campfire in a designated fire ring that burns pretty much all night. Each boy is safely enclosed in his own tent that zips up which greatly reduces the chances of spiders, snakes, bugs, etc. Of course the boys have to be trained to keep their tent flaps zipped closed at all times so that nothing gets in. My advice from a scouter's viewpoint is to talk to your son and then you and your son and husband talk to the scout leader and see what can be done to improve the scouting experience for your son as well as the other boys in the unit. If the leader does not want to chanage his ways to more closely follow the scouting ideals, then find another troop or pack to join. Sounds like there is a LOT of room for improvement here. Here is a link that may help, too. http://netcommish.com/askandy.asp

thanks for your reply (please see msg) [2008-07-03]
I hope you don't mind, but I just pasted your answer and sent it to My husband...he is staying the last two nights of the campout and will get my email that is printed out by the staff at the camp facility. I also know that the leaders read the emails before distributing them and I thought your answer was awesome! I want my son to enjoy scouting, not be miserable. If he is going to be miserable, I would rather he not do it at all. I am a Brownie leader for my daughter and have a full-time job so I don't feel I can dedicate a lot of time to Boy Scouts as well but I think I am going to tell My husband...d the other leaders that if things do not change, and My husband...sists on making my son go to the campouts, I will be going as well.

Is this inconsiderate or what? [2008-07-03]
My son-in-law stopped by our house on the way to work this morning. My hubby was pulling out of the driveway and I saw him give a bag to My husband...d he left. My hubby brought the bag to me and said I was told to give this to you until tonight. He said my SIL was going to have a surprise for our daughter this evening after work at a local restaurant but didn I opened the bag and there was ice cream and pickles inside (?). Well, the first thing we thought of was pregnant and needless to say, our first grandchild, the look on our face was shock, disappointment, and happiness at the same time. We just stood there staring at each other, wondering what the **** was going on. My hubby went on to work and called a few minutes later, saying my SIL had text messaged him and said for me nor My husband... call OUR daughter or him today. I have sat in tears most of the day. That jerk (and he is a jerk) just told us our daughter is expecting our grandchild but not to talk to her today. What is the surprise about? He already knows, SHE already knows, we already know. So I guess you have to know my SIL to know he is a controlling person.....my daughter just hasn My husband...s been so upset all day about this. Shouldn We are told by him to keep this inside all day. They are going to see his parents tomorrow at their lakehouse and I suppose tell them together, even though I have a feeling he This is a day My husband...d I should be so gloriously happy and we feel sad too. We don I have just seen my daughter and she said nothing and I can This is my baby having a baby and we don Our son was here and saw what we saw and he was so happy to be an uncle, grinning from ear to ear, but can I have to say I am so angry with him right now. You have to know how controlling he has been. My daughter wouldn Are you kidding? What sick pleasure does he get from spoiling all this for us by it not coming from her, the pregnant one, standing there. Our child. We still don After all, they already know, we already know, so why haven I have to say My husband... so upset by this right now, he has called from work several times today and could not even focus on an important meeting this morning. To be honest, I am not at all sure how I will react once we are together this evening. Is this just a dumb way of doing this or has anyone else had this happen like this? We are just dumbfounded about it all and think this is avery cruel way of doing this.

Your little girl - sm [2008-07-02]
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it. About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain. I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasnmagic cure for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable. This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine. Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an attack of conscience and do the right thing by your family.

Thank you sm [2008-07-02]
I really appreciate your kindness. I I wasn Some people suggested therapy. This may be what she needs, but I came from a family that never did any therapy, and I guess that's why I never really considered it. My husband...ggested maybe visiting a pet store to see the puppies, but not anytime soon, though. I didn I just wanted them to take some responsibility for what happened, and suing them seems to be the only way they will take this seriously. I definitely don't want this to happen to another child, or adult for that matter. Again, thank you for your kindness. You made my day!

I would think your ex-SIL was [2008-07-02]
also my cousin. The thing is when she actually did get PG, no one believed her not even her own mother. Even still after she had a baby, every single time I see her she tells me that she missed her period, she is nauseated, her husband is trying to get her PG, her husbandjumped her last night. Then I get a third degree about how Iknew when I was PG.UGG...

Beach [2008-07-02]
Just keep a sharp eye on the children in the ocean with the boogie boards. The ocean current is strong. I found this out when we went to Myrtle Beach and my 10-year-old was on an inflatable raft. The current carried her rather far. It was a good thing My husband...uld swim. It happened so quickly but everything turned out all right.

Thanks, but I planning on being [2008-07-02]
right in the ocean with them or My husband...ll be. We But thanks for the reminder. Glad to hear your situation turned out okay.

Was definitely 40, what a crappy year that was! [2008-07-01]
My then-husband and I had justseparated, filed for divorce, just a few days before my birthday.I told my best friend about what had happened. She told meshe had planned a surprise 40th birthday party for me, and had invited about 30 people, all the plans were laid, she didn I told her to just go ahead and have the party, we would come and just act like everything was OK, wouldn My ex got very very drunk, was a huge jerk, and then left me stranded at the party. Everyone wanted to know what was going on, I just didn What aday! LOL. Can look back at it and laugh now, though. 25 was my hardest, as far as worrying about my age. You know, that song got to me, Younger women, from 18 on up to 25. Ha. Now I

Maybe that's why your scared. Your thinking [2008-07-01]
too big (moving out of state). Money? If you Hope there are no children involved. Being scared is not a reason to stay with your husband. Why continue to be miserable? I feel sorry for you. Sounds like you live to please others and the heck with your own feelings.

Is this possible? [2008-07-01]
Okay. I have an in-law who is in her 40s, had a partial hysterectomy (just left the ovaries), hasn Did I miss something here? How is this possible? Yes, I understand that the ovaries still produce eggs and they can be fertilized if sperm would get to it but from everything I've seen, there is no way she could possibly carry it to full-term....nor should she want to as it is very dangerous not only to her but the unborn child(ren). I just wonder if she doesn All I know is I hope to God this isn She is just not fit to be the mother of the 2 teenage girls she has let alone a new baby or twins. Sheesh! I truly hope this isn't possible!!!!!!!

I'm not really sure. [2008-07-01]
She said she was and then went to the doctor who said she was too. I don I was just under the understanding that you could get pregnant but the woman Now, I have heard of some rare cases where they have attached to organs, but that is at a huge risk for the mother and the unborn fetus with internal bleeding being a huge complication and more often than not they are miscarried. However, with her not having a menstrual period for 13 years.....I I don My MIL said she wouldn There are much more deserving people who want a baby so bad and can This woman is just a complete ignoramus. She is just white trash. I hate to say that....but she is. She lies. She smells of BO and tobacco. My sister-in-law met the supposed father of her twins in an internet chat room. He is a truck driver. Now that she told him she is pregnant, he won What the heck? I mean really! Should I just call Jerry Springer and get it over with? LOL

I think it is a combination of things. [2008-07-01]
For one, parents don Secondly, some people just aren Thirdly, people are just lazy. I have told My husband...at he needs to teach my stepson something useful that he can use later in life like wiring something, building something, etc. My husband... smart enough that he pretty much does everything around here. In fact, he is currently putting up a fence for our horses. To pay to have that done would have cost us 3K more than him doing it himself. Needless to say, we opted to do it ourselves. I truly hope that he doesn At 14, kids don You start them young and they think it is fun.

We just got a Garmin Nuvi 350 [2008-07-01]
We My husband...d I are both directionally challenged. We always seem to get lost. We haven We also looked up local stuff on it and it was very accurate. We got it from QVC, that way we have 30 days to try it out. If we don Can We ordered it the other week when everything was on easy pay for 5 payments. The total cost (shipping and a dash mount) was $305.00 After reading the reviews, we opted to get the bean bag dash mount, so we could put it in either vehicle.

I believe they do sm [2008-07-01]
Unfortunately, we believed them when they said they would take care of everything and that we didn't have to worry about anything. We filed a police report, and the hospital filed a report with the health department, but the dog wasn In fact, just a few weeks after the incident, the son of the homeowner had the dog without a leash right next door to our house! I had to ask him twice to put the dog up. My husband...ld me next time don

The end of a friendship [2008-07-01]
My girlfriend came over one day and was chatting with me on the sofa. I had just gotten home from the hospital from having a hysterectomy and she came to pick me up to go see another friend of hers who was in the hospital having just been diagnosed with ovarian cancer (I couldn't drive yet). My 2 dogs started scuffling over a bone and my friend got an extremely tiny, a little larger than a pin prick mark on the back of her ankle (either from one of the dog's teeth or a sharp end of the bone, hard to tell). I gave her antiseptic wash, a bandage, said I was sorry and thought that was the end of it. We went to visit our friend. Awhile later, I answered the door to be served with a summons. We were being sued by my friend. I want you to know that this bite did not even bleed. She had a tattoo right in the area and when she took pictures of the bite for her attorney, it was very, very hard to see a mark at all. So, anyway, by the time it went to court (and here is a very ironic thing, the day My husband...d I got up and ready to go to court, my sweet Barney, my Schnauzer, died). Well, between pictures of the injury and her poor performance on the stand (oh God it was unbelievable the way she tried to beef up the whole story), the jury came back with a guilty plea for us. They had to, because our dog or the bone did bite her. They awarded her the amount her insurance did not cover and I believe 1 or 2 missed days from work. It came to about $1,500. We saw her in the parking lot when we left, she was crying. She was expecting the big payday and it didn't happen. However, the 10 year friendship did end. We were Girl Scout leaders together for most of those years, our daughters were best friends, but I could never want to be friends with someone who would do such a thing and consider it well, after all, the insurance will pay. So be careful what you are expecting. Expect the whole thing to take a long time to get to court and the results to be perhaps less than you expect. Now, maybe your daughter is significantly scarred by the dog bite. I don't know and don't want to offend you with my story. Also, hopefully you have pictures that you took right away when it happened. You will probably need them. Plus you will have to be able to find a lawyer who will take it to court for you. My ex-friend's lawyer was about as inept as could be. I almost felt sorry for her.

If it was really significant, I would [2008-07-01]
think the final cost would be more than $800. My niece was mauled by a dog and spent about a week in the hospital. She was 4 years old at the time. It was the saddest thing seeing her in that hospital bed with her whole head swollen up. The dog bite ripped out a couple of her still-forming permanent teeth and she ended up with quite a nasty scar along one cheek. Most of the stitches were in her scalp. My sister and her husband had to sue the homeowner It took quite a while to sort it all out. They ended up with a settlement that would after 15 years of very modest growth pay for her college and also any future medical bills. She has had revision of that scar on her face, but she is 19 years old now and still hasn She ismissing bone where theimplants need to go and so will need grafting to be able to accomplish it. She was not emotionally scarred forever by the incident. She is fine, and it didn Just keep loving your daughter and shebe back to her old self. Money won Try not to let your anger overtake you. I know they are responsible, but there is no need to try and take them for as much as you can. You could conceivably ruin their future. Accidents happen. What exactly were the circumstances surrounding the bite?

If it was really significant, I would [2008-07-01]
think the final cost would be more than $800. My niece was mauled by a dog and spent about a week in the hospital. She was 4 years old at the time. It was the saddest thing seeing her in that hospital bed with her whole head swollen up. The dog bite ripped out a couple of her still-forming permanent teeth and she ended up with quite a nasty scar along one cheek. Most of the stitches were in her scalp. My sister and her husband had to sue the homeowner It took quite a while to sort it all out. They ended up with a settlement that would after 15 years of very modest growth pay for her college and also any future medical bills. She has had revision of that scar on her face, but she is 19 years old now and still hasn She ismissing bone where theimplants need to go and so will need grafting to be able to accomplish it. She was not emotionally scarred forever by the incident. She is fine, and it didn Just keep loving your daughter and shebe back to her old self. Money won Try not to let your anger overtake you. I know they are responsible, but there is no need to try and take them for as much as you can. You could conceivably ruin their future. Accidents happen. What exactly were the circumstances surrounding the bite?

We just bought a Prius and I will NEVER own anything but hybrid now! [2008-06-30]
We took our Prius from Philadelphia to Yellowstone Nat'l Park. Two weeks of driving, 5300+ miles on 10 fill ups of about 10 gallons each time. In fact, I filled up in Pittsburgh and am still driving around here at home on that tank of gas. Pretty much all of that trip was on interstate highways across the plains and up into the high mountains, and we still got close to or over 50 mpg. Our town mileage is even higher! It husband and 6 son are very comfortable driving this car. It's quiet, handles very well, and has lots of nifty gadgets for the base model, which is what we bought. The downside is that there is an 8-month wait for one in our area, and they just recently upped the price a few hundred dollars. But we love it, and found it to be great on the highway AND in town.

hormonal imbalances and sleep loss - can you help? sm [2008-06-30]
Hi, ladies. Five weeks ago I began experiencing severe middle insomnia for the first time in my life. I will sleep for 3 hours, be awake for 3 hours, and then maybe sleep for another hour before it is time to get up. I also cannot nap no matter how tired I am because I tried that several times. Ambien CR no longer keeps me alseep, nor does Lunesta, and I am not big on having to take a sleep aid every single night for sleep. I have tried melatonin, which also has not kept me asleep. I have been told I have hormonal imbalances (am nearly 44), am on no HRT, and wonder what anyone might suggest for sleep until I can get myself squared away on some hormonal therapy. My poor husband...He has been a saint through all of this, but I am not sure how much longer I can work, keep up with the house, etc., with missing so many hours of sleep each night. Pretty desperate here.

Well, now it's my turn to tell my story...(Beware..this is long) [2008-06-29]
Well, I just don I was 26 years old when I met and married My husband...t will be14 years ago this August. I was a platinum blond, Swedish, 26-year-old, voluptuous virgin waiting for my prince to come. I had never dated because I was too fearful and shy. My mother always told me that my prince was coming. She just didnthe prince of darkness. It has been a nightmare, although he says it has been great with only a few bumps along the way. He is abusive in every way including verbally, mentally, emotionally, some physical although very little (not an excuse, just telling it the way it is), what I feel is sexual abuse with me but not the children,but the worst by far is his financial abuse. He has told me many, many times, Who do you think YOU are? What do you think...that you I can find a dozen more women like you. I have three children, now ages 14, 13, and 11. 14-year-old has ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder. My husband...just like this although he has never been diagnosed and never would be because in his own words, I am perfect just like God made me. There is nothing wrong with me. The problem here is you. My credit is down the toilet. Credit score is about 500. His is 800. Through the years, when the children were babies I had to feed them dry cereal with a cup of water because he wouldn One very hot night in the summer, I had to feed them generic hot dogs and pink beans, which were some kind of bean that slithered out of the can in a gelatinous material. The kids werewere dry heaving at the table. One day when I was about 8 months pregnant with my last child, he came up to me and said, Well, I I said what He said (very matter of fact), I I won If you want something, get off your f______fat a__ and get a job. I had a 6-month-old and a 1 1/2-year-old and 8 months pregnant with the third one. What!! Get a job!! Are you crazy?? He said, Oh well. Famous last words. That is all I ever hear. He has ripped out phone lines, denied us food and clothing. We have two cars. He used to hide the car I would drive around the neighborhood so I couldn He would even take the carseats. One time when I was pregnant, I had no money so my girlfriend needed a babysitter a few hours a week. She lives in Connecticut, which is about 45 minutes from my home. She could only pay $45 a week but I would drive up there four days a week to watch those kids just to get that measly $45. One day when I was leaving to go, I wanted $2 for an ice cream cone (I was pregnant at the time and that was my thing during that pregnancy). I asked him for $2 and he said no. I reached into his wallet and took $2 anyway. So he came after me. I took out the butcher knife but he ran outside to get to the car first so I couldn I put away the knife and ran out the back door to try to get to the car first but he got there before me. I reached in to try to grab the car keys out of the ignition when he rolled the window up as hard as he could. I was screaming at the top of my lungs. I thought he was going to break my arm. I was able to backhand him and he unrolled the window. A little while later I ran to the neighbors to call the police because he ripped the phone lines out. I was there for about 15-20 minutes calling the police, family, and my friends to come and help. When I got back to the house, he had taken both cars (hid one in the neighborhood) and went to work. He left my 9-month-old and 1 1/2-year-old children all by themselves (and at the time I lived on a very busy street where cars would drive by at 50 mph). When I walked in, they were sitting on the living room floor screaming at the top of their lungs. The next morning I was in the shower and I lifted up my arms to wash my hair when out of the corner of my eye I saw something on the underside of my arm. It was a jet black bruise about four to five inches long by about two inches wide. It was literally jet black. I was stunned. When I called the police, I told them what was going on with his abuse. I told them I was pregnant with two little ones at home. I told them I had no food. I told them and showed them the bruise and I told them I wanted to press assault charges. They said, He did that to you? I said yes. I said, I want him arrested for assault. I told them where he worked. They turned around and told me that because the incident happened the day before that there was nothing they would do and that they weren They told me to just let him lie low for a while. This happened in 1996. We are not talking the 50s here. This was just before they handed me a pamphlet on battered women and battered women The pamphlet said there does not have to be any sign of physical abuse. If you are in a situation where you simply fear for your safety, the person can be arrested. And I am sitting there pregnant with ahuge, jet black bruise underneath my arm from where he rolled my arm up in the window. This is just a few tidbits of the life I have had with him. There have been some good times and good vacations but mostly bad. We have fought so bad for years and years that I know the toll it has taken on the kids. The guilt I have is insurmountable. If he buys groceries, I have to pay him back. If he pays the phone bill, I have to pay him back. If he buys me anything or gives me a $10 or $20 bill, I have to pay him back. Most of the time, I am not allowed to go into a store with him. I went with him once to Wal-Mart and I put a $2 box of sweetener into the carriage. That was it. I am now not allowed to go into a store with him. He screams at us that he pays the rent, therefore, it is his house and we have to learn to live the way he wants us to and we should be catering to him. If we don He has told me for years that he is a king and that the house is his castle and that he has allowed us to live with him because he is kind, loving, and gracious. He will only buy oneChristmas gift for his kids and no stocking stuffers or tape or wrapping paper or anything like that.I have to do that with what I get paid to do MT work. He doesn When they were little, I would tell him that the children needed some cool clothes for summer. He would take their little pants and cut them off and then take their turtleneck shirts and cut off the turtle neck and cut off the sleeves and say, There you go. There Or he would just tell me, Go ask your sister to buy them some clothes. He has threatened to kill me and the children if I leave. He has told me that he would kill me and the children before I would ever see child support. He has a sex fettish where he wants it all the time, every day multiple times in a day if he could get it (not that he does, mind you. I stopped that crazy crap a long time ago), and I am just supposed to stop all that I am doing and fulfill his needs (even though sex for me offers virtually nothing other than soreness,swelling, and boredom and has always been like this). If I don I am very overweight, I smoke like a chimney, my credit is destroyed, I don I have less now 14 years later than I did before I married him. At least before I married him I had my own very nice car and some clothes. I don My clothes are tattered, stained, and worn. And...I had dreams of what my life was going to be like when I got married. But it certainly was not a life like this. My kids are older now and they are seeing their father for who he is. He blames me and tells me it is all the bad stuff I am telling the children. I keep telling him it is what they have seen for 14 years. They beg me to divorce him. My youngest, who is 11, was diagnosed last year with severe ulcerative colitis. He has had a flare now for the past six weeks with at least ten bouts of diarrhea with blood every day. He talks about depression a lot and always asking me what it is. When I got the call last year from his pediatrician telling me to take him to the hospital for a possible blood transfusion (this was when we got his diagnosis), Ialmost fell on the floor from fear. I called My husband... work to tell him he needed to come home. He said, I can I have to work. He said, Don His red blood cell count had dropped to 7.2 froma normal of 12 because of his bleeding. He came to the hospital when he got out of work. He showed up at 6:00 p.m. We went outside and talked for a bit and then about 20 minutes after he showed up, he said, Well, I have to go home to eat and shower. I When I got angry, he said Hey, I I need to rest. Besides, there We still didn I didn I was scared to death. But he had to go home to eat and shower and rest!!!! I think that was the beginning of the end for me. I once read something on these boards that someone posted saying Marriage is not supposed to be a good deal for one and misery for the other. That is what my life has been. My marriage was a great deal for him...kids that he never has to pay for (I mean nothing...not school projects and believe me there are a ton of them, not clothes, not shoes, notebooks, backpacks, nothing), free sex, and a wife that he doesn I believe in my soul that my marriage was a good business deal for him. If you knew My husband...ou would laugh at that statement because he is extremely uneducated and talks like a mentally retarded person. People in the past have actually asked me if he was mentally retarded. He thinks that if my son would drink lots and lots of water, that that will cure his ulcerative colitis and makes fun of me and insults me and everyone else. Itell him he is a moron and he doesn His abusive mother made them drink nothing but water. She would not buy them anything or strive for a better life. They lived in a nightmare life. So now he gets very angry when we woncure everything. He tells us that he is trying to show us how to live right but we just won He tells this to other people too including our landlord. He has the most disgusting habits. He picks scabs and eats them, he has eczema and psoriasis so he is one huge flake, which he enjoys picking off chunks and dropping them in a pile on the floor, he passes unbearable gas (like every two or three minutes that has such a horrid stench it makes all of us nauseous) and then flips out if we spray a room spray. He will actually grab the can and scream that this is his house and we are all just disgusting to live with and just impossible to live with. He just had a fight with my 12-year-old daughter tonight because he was passing tons and tons of gas and she sprayed a room spray. He got up in her face screaming at the top of his lungs at 11:00 at night that this is his house. He will pass gas all he wants and that he won She was crying and begging me to divorce him. She kept saying, You said it would be better for the family if you stayed married to him but it It won Well, I could go on and on. It has been 14 years of this but I think you get the picture. I have no money. I don I have a son who is going to need ongoing frequent medical care and I am afraid he will cancel the insurance if I do anything to get rid of him. I have a great fear for our safety. He has major problems with having to give up his money so to haveto pay child support will send him over the edge. He is a pathological liar so you can He told me, I would never allow anyone to judge me like that. You can tell the judge to kiss my balls. He seems to expect the absolute highest standards from the children and I but he doesn Never has and never will but will shove it down my throat when he doesn Well, any advice. I really am looking for legal advice for anyone else who has been through this. I know I need to get rid of him...for the kids sake. They need to see that life is not like this and not all men do this and that you don My daughter, who just turned 13, says to me she hates men with a passion. I told my niece that I felt like I was dying. I never, never, never, never leave my house except to go to Dunkin Donuts up the street to get a coffee. I haven And that is three hours probably once every two months. I am lonely, isolated, and ragingly angry. I want to go back to school but when I talk about that, he poo poos it saying I should go back in five or ten years or 15 years when my bills are paid and I can afford it. HELLO????? I am going to be 43 in October. Maybe I should just wait to go back to school until I Well you get the picture. If you By the way, when I bring up any of his abuse to him, he tells me I don Funny, he always remembers every time I swear at him though. Has never forgotten a single time.

My roughest birthday was.... [2008-06-28]
When I was 34. I donspecial for my b-day. Oh yea, the last time he took me out to eat specially for my b-day was 1989, but dinner was a disaster so after that I just said forget it. Usually we have pizza delivered. So I'm now 48 and I'd give anything to turn the clocks back about 28 years. So much I would do differently and so many things I wouldn't do.

Looking for help on where to start [2008-06-28]
over. I I would prefer to live in warmer climate year round. Any ideas, sugesstions would be appreciated. This has been a long time coming and I Thanks for your feedback. Please fee free to Email me if you would prefer.

my 43rd [2008-06-28]
I had been divorced from My husband... 22 years for a total of 3 months - he died on my birthday. . It was accidental or possibly a homicide - not much of an investigation. . Anyway, I had to drive 2 hours to my daughter's college dorm room to tell her the next day - that is definitely the worst b-day. .