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LOL glad I gave you a reason to vent! [2008-10-17]
You needed that! I donrights as they see them away....I JUST WANT MINE BACK!

Need to vent sm [2008-07-01]
My 8-year-old daughter was bit by a dog a few months ago by a neighbor The bite has healed, but the emotional scars haven My daughter is now absolutely terrified of dogs, and cats now, too. She won This is obviously out of the picture now. Our medical bills totaled over $800 before insurance. We gave them the bill, wanting $800 because we pay for our insurance on a weekly basis, and they shouldn We thought that was more than fair because of the trauma my daughter suffered. Well, today, they tried to give us a check for $87! Yes, that I was so insulted by this, and hurt! All that my daughter went through, they tried to give her an $87 check?!!! They only want to pay our copay! Well, I typed up a letter and returned their check, informing them we will be contacting an attorney. So, instead of the $800 we wanted, I'm sure they'll have to pay a few extra thousand for pain and suffering, and also for the lost wages because we had to miss work because of this. I can Thanks for letting me vent!

Another smokers' vent thread [2008-04-04]
**this is a vent***Have you ever been lectured about smoking in person?There is not a smoker in America who does not know that smoking is bad for you and a terrible habit. I really donyes, but they.

Have him vent to YOU at the end of the day, not the girls. [2007-11-28]
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When you post a vent on public board, must be [2007-10-31]
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I just need to vent! My 15yo son is going through a tough time. SM [2007-09-10]
Lately, my son has been hanging with the wrong crowd -- a crowd known to be into pot and drinking, etc. One of the guys in his group is 23 years old. I have been doing everything in my power to keep him from this group, restricting him to home after school, not letting him leave the house, but he has become rebellious and basically just walks out even when I tell him to stay. On Friday, I received a call from the local police telling me they had found my son They said they didn The police office, however, notified the school and the school in turn called me. I immediately jerked him out of school and took him for a drug test which was negative -- thank goodness! Still I I have set him down and told him he is grounded untill further notice and I have come up with a list of who he can hang out with and who he cannot. One of the boys I am allowing him to be friends with has a single mom and she is basically doing the same things I am doing trying to keep him on the straight and narrow. We both communicated very well with each other. However, over the weekend my sister and brother-in-law involved themselves in my business -- which they do quite a lot especially since I literally live three houses down from them. My brother-in-law absolutely hates me son. He is an jerk to my son every time my son is around. My son cannot stand him either ever since he was 3 years old and my BIL slapped him upside the head when we lived with them. My BIL is a jerk to his own kids, slamming my nephew into walls and choking him, etc. Anyway, my BIL comes to my house with his chest all puffed up saying he did not want my son around his son (my nephew). He basically acted like he was father of the year and started to lecture me on what was wrong with my son. This infuriated me. He even went as far as to say he did not want my son at his house because he thought he would steal from them! My son has never stolen anything from anybody -- EVER! Before I had a chance to respond my phone rang and he was back in his car and gone. Then he proceeded to talk to the woman whose son I have allowed my son to stay friends with and filled her ear with a bunch of crap and now she is forbidden her son from coming to my house or hanging outwith my son. My sister involved my mother and my mother tells me that my sister didn Thing is, my sister hasn She has just communicated with my mom and that's it. Anyway, I've just been so upset about all of this and I've been debating on whether or not I should call my sister and tell her what I think of her husband and to tell her husband to mind his business and stay the heck out of mine. Thanks for letting me vent!

in-law vent [2007-08-22]
I agree, you need to calm down and donexactly what was said to your niece. Don't wait and stew over it either, go to her house when your BIL is there and ask them both up front exactly what was said and after they give their story, tell them how your niece is interpreting that conversation and that they need to have another talk with her. It appears that you do not care for her to begin with and may be interpreting more into this situation than need be because of that fact. If she did say exactly that, then I would assume she will be looking for a new sitter, though it will only deprive you of a relationship with your niece, but you can just visit with her at their house. Just don't cut all ties or burn all bridges because you will be the one to suffer the consequences, not them.

and an in-law vent - need advice [2007-08-21]
My husband and his younger brother have a business together - his brother and his wife have 2 kids an 8-yo girl and a 5 -yo boy. The girl (niece) spent the night a week ago because my in-laws needed a sitter - I told my husband I had to work - so he would have to look after her. Well, as soon as she got here she said, auntie, i need to tell you something. I said, what? then she proceeded to tell me that her mother (my SIL) told her that if her uncle or our son (he is 21) tried to touch her TINKY that she was supposed to call her mother. I was dumbfounded. I didn Had she said her mother had talked to her about this situation or anything else, I would not have thought anything about it, but when she said her mother said her uncle or her cousin - I was burning mad. I realize this happens - it happened to our daughter when she was 4 - but this niece has spent the night numerous times and this has never come up - why now - and why so specifically? Should I say something to my SIL and BIL about this. I told my husband I thought he should address it with them since it was obviously a slam against him and our son - ??? thoughts, please?

Would like to vent a little if everyone can stand another in-law story. [2007-08-20]
A few weeks ago we were having a visiting choir at our church. We were feeding dinnerthem after the performance. During Sunday school we discussed what each person would bring. We wanted to do sandwiches, salads, and desserts. I volunteered to bring chicken salad and pimento cheese sandwhiches. MIL is in the same class and heard myself and hubby say it twice. She chose to bring the same thing. Okay, not a big deal, but this is what happened yesterday. Earlier in the week my MIL gave me a church cookbook from another church. While we were talking I flipped through the cookbook (this is the size of a hymnal) and saw a reciepe for blueberry pound cake. It looked delicious and I even said I have fresh blueberries in the fridge, this will be great for the picnic on Sunday. I also made a couple of other things as everyone always brings 2-3 dishes. Walked in to church yesterday and my MIL announced she had made blueberry pound cake from the new cookbook. I did not say a word, but caught hubby in parking lot and told him to put the cake back in the car. We had a neighborhood block party last night so I knew I could take it there. Honestly, her cake was a bit dry, I truely think due to the reciepe and not her cooking. I guess it worked out becuase I went home and used a few more berries to make a sauce which helped the cake and it was a big hit at the block party. I know this is really minor, so please don Thanks for listening.

Just a vent [2007-08-02]
I went to register my daughter for school this morning. I was in line to pay for her books when I noticed the man in front of me is listed on our local sexual offender registry for child molestation. He was there to register his daughter for kindergarten. After he left, I made the secretary aware. I came home, looked him up again just to be sure though I thought I was and sure enough, it was him. I called our local police department because I wanted to be sure of the laws. It was my understanding that offenders were to be a certain distance away from public parks, schools, etc. He told me I was correct, though there is a gray area... he was at the school to register his daughter and he is also welcome to attend school functions!!! Is it just me or is this not concerning??? I told the police officer I can I have this horrible picture in my head of attending one of my daughter I realize the odds are slim but it still bugs me. I also realize there are many more sexual offenders than listed in the registry and have discussed this openly with my children but it still upsets me!!

just have to vent about illegals......sm [2007-06-29]
we had a 9-month pregnant mother and fetus that got killed this week in an auto accident. emergency section didn hit by a drunk driver who was 15-yo and illegal. he lied and said he was 19. well of course they are trialing as a minor, but you know what he was an adult enough to lie about his age, bigolly charge him for the age he wanted to be!!!!!!

Glad you were able to vent sm [2007-05-05]
When I was talking to my Step-Mother about this board she agreed that it was a great site to be able to go to and complain without having to actucally talk to people. BTW,Hats off to you for all you have accompolished without the help of your mother. Feel proud and know that you will be a better mother for having to go through that. You have lucky kids.

Can I vent for just a minute? [2007-04-06]
My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens I love to cook, I just don My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago.My MIL worksMon.-Thurs.in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response I don Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don (Sigh) I feel better now.

I understand the need to vent.... [2007-04-06]
Relatives can really get on your nerves -one of the reasons we live 500 miles away from my relatives and 750 miles away from my husband's relatives. They're great in small doses, but not as a steady diet. So I really do understand....but I think itusual thing. Obviously, for whatever reason, your MIL and SIL donwhat we do every time. Next time family visits, after your renovations are done, why not ask your MIL and SIL to bring a salad, side dish, dessert, whatever? And, as suggested here, there Just because your MIL doesnSometimes you just have to go ahead and do something and not ask for permission - especially since your MIL seems (on the basis of this one incident) to be a bit of a control freak. If she says anything to you, you can just say, I thought it would be nice to have a bit of variety or I didn (true in my case ). Whatever works for you. And HAPPY EASTER!!

My vent...why is it a not a good idea?? [2007-03-11]
The reason is to conserve energy.You might even save a few bucks. But on the other hand, I

Please excuse the typos - boy did it feel good to vent. [2007-02-15]
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Male harassement vent.... [2007-01-18]
I wasn't sure were to post this... My sister was just at the bank and while she was leaving she noticed a male banker staring at her. A couple of minutes later she gets a phone call from this banker telling her if she ever needs anything to call him. She asaked if he does this with all the people that bank and he said no just the pretty ones. He did NOT help her when she was there so he had to have had the banker that helped her reopen her account and get ALL of her information. This is soooooo BAD ! She lives alone. How can this man do this I believe he was a manager or something not just a regular employee. UUUHHHHHH!!!!!! My mom use to be a banker so I told my sis to call her and see what she should do but my mom is pretty passive so I'm not sure what she will say. This makes me so angry to think that he has ALL her information UHHHH! This is sooo wrong! My sis is only 21 and lives alone. She has already had one scare at her apartment and I'm sure she will feel unsafe once again. I don't know why this man thinks he can do this! I just had to get this out.

Gotta vent about a public school situation....sm [2007-01-04]
There are 2 kids in my daughter We have a horrible teacher who basically doesn The school board leaves it up to the individual schools. My husband I are strongly considering home schooling her since she's learning more at home with us since we started tutoring her than she is at school. Yet, at this very same school, they have 1 teacher per 7 students for the ESL class of kids that don I'm willing to bet that these kids are either illegal immigrants or their parents are illegal since they don't know the language at all (in our area of the country). It

Need to Vent. [2006-12-26]
Sorry I just need to get this out before I explode. I am so mad at my DH right now. I opened my box that he had duct taped all up. I was hoping for something special, well it was a really ugly robe. It is red and has flowers on it. I have never worn red, and don't like flowers on my clothes. Why DH picked something like this is beyond me. That is all I got, nothing from the kids, nothing else from DH. I just feel like crap. I am so sick and tired of taken second to his stupid cars. He hasn I

Got to vent. I just found out that a major supermarket [2006-12-13]
chain where my husband works will be open on Christmas Day. I think it is absolutely disgusting that they would take this major holiday away from their employees. There is absolutely nothing in a grocery store that is so important that it has to be bought on Christmas Day. For pete's sake, if you don't get it before Christmas Day, you don't need it very badly.

Considering all the ridiculous responses to this vent..sm [2006-12-13]
I guess the devil is doing his work...causing conflict! Hope you have a great Christmas, Wannie!

Your deserved vent [2006-12-01]
As a former elementary school teacher, I asked myself 2 very obvious questions - WHY ON EARTH DIDN'T THEY GET A PERMANENT SUB FOR THOSE KINDERGARTENERS? And, WHY DIDN'T THEY HAVE THOSE KIDS REPEAT KINDERGARTEN? Promoting them to 1st grade under those circumstances is setting them all up for failure. If I were you, I would pull her out and home school for a year or 2 until you get her caught up to her grade level and put her back in public in 2nd or 3rd grade when her skills are developed. You will be amazed at how much progress she will make with 1-on-1 attention from you. Best of luck to you and the little one!

I need to vent about our public school....sm [2006-11-30]
My daughter is in the 1st grade. While in kindergarten her teacher became ill and was out of the classroom more than in it for over a month and then ended up having to leave permanently after being out for 2 months. During this time they had parapros in the classroom but all of the kids in her class got behind because of the inconsistent teaching. Finally in March they split the class up and moved the kids into other classrooms, but by the end of the year each of the 15 kids were behind their peers because of the true instruction time they had missed, through no fault of their own. Now fast forward to 1st grade. Some of the kidshad managed to catch up but others haven't, including my daughter. She is now reading on a level 3 and should be on a level 5 or 6. Math-wise she is way behind as well as her reading level is below normal. She is currently in a classroom with 27 kids and has ADD, but it is very easily managed when she is given tasks in small increments and visual cues to work with (i.e. write math problems for her and she can do them but ask her to do them in her head and she struggles). My husband I met with the school yesterday because of the concerns about her being behind and in the student support team meeting, consisting of the school system psychologist, special education teacher, her teacher, principal and vice principal, we were told that they don't have the resources to work with her to meet her needs and that by the No Child Left Behind federal laws they don't have to address her needs individually until she is 6 months to a year behind her peers. Why do they WANT kids to get this behind before helping them? We know she is smart - she has an IQ of 92, but she needs to have the distractions caused by the 26 kids in her classroom removed and they won't do anything about it because all other 1st grade classes have 26 kids, and the only one that doesn't have that many is a class full of kids that are learning English. We are working with her at home but it's ridiculous to send her to school 7 hours a day and then tutor her at home because the teacher won't take 2 minutes to explain instructions on a task to her. I told them that I don't want her to have to go to special education in the future because she's behind and that I'd prefer that a way to get her caught up and kept on level with where she would be should be what the goal is - not wait until she's very behind. Their response was well over theupcoming Holidays we can send home LOTS of things for you to work on with her. Home schooling isn't a good option for her and her psychologist has agreed that she needs the classroom interaction with other kids. If it weren't for that I'd home school her in a nannosecond, even if that meant giving up everything outside of my regular work day to educate her. I've talked to a couple of private schools in the area and one school wasn't really any better, has 1 teacher per 20 kids in 1st grade. The other school could take her and has currently 5 kids per teacher for 1st grade with good test results . It's ridiculous that we're being forced to consider paying for private school because the public schools don't care. I'm sure others have run into these same type of situations. What did you do - continue working with the public schools, turn to home schooling or private school?

Sorry you are feeling so down (sm) [2008-11-20]
First of all, relax. You need to go to a doctor and get on an antidepressant? No insurance? If you can get the money to go to the doc for one visit, you can get them to prescribe an antidepressant that is on Walmart's $4 list and get it for $4 a month. Call United Way and see if they can direct you where to get help with your rent. Don't worry about whether or not you have cable, you'll be okay without that unless you need it for your job? Don't worry about not being able to give Christmas gifts...just explain that you don't have the money. People will understand and your grandson can have it explained to him. I have the same isolation issues that you do because of the job. Can you go to a temp agency and see about getting a job outside of your house so you can be around people more? There is a website called Exercisefriends.com where you can meet people in your area who want exercise buddies, maybe just someone who is starting out trying to walk every day or something like that (not sure what your fitness level is). Or advertise on Craigslist for a walking buddy (but be careful of course when first meeting the person). I met one of my best friends this way and have known her for 4 years now. If you want an email buddy feel free to email me. I think everyone is struggling right now and it is hard. I would be happy to have you vent to me via email all you want. :-)

I agree with the posters below. [2008-11-20]
You need to move closer to family and see a doctor. You can also find the local social services department and they will provide free medications for 6 months. you will have to see one of their doctors but and fill out some paperwork but that's the only catch. Depression is higher around the holidays. The weather, finances, family, on top of every day stresses can be overwhelming. Being in this antisocial job doesn't help either. I have often thought of getting something a few days a week just to get out of the house. I think it would do anyone good. Know that things could always be worse and they will get better. Your grandson is young, he doesnwhere as this is a common occurrence in kids. I thought it was only my child but since have found many others are the same. Keep your head up and do what you can. It's ok to cry and vent to others. Don't keep it all bottled up inside. You will be surprised to find who your true friends and family are when you open up and really need them.

very displeased with 2 of my friends right now [2008-11-15]
We all work for the same company. Our employer offers three types of employment: Full-time, part-time and on-call. Well, work has been low and the on-call gals have been asked to halt production and allow those of us full and part-timers to meet our quota. They know I work full time, as I must, being the sole-provider for my family. They both have husbands and only work on-call for spending money. So, of course, I ran out of work today. Friend number one calls and tells me she I don I asked her why she was working, knowing work was low, and she stated to me that with the holidays coming up she needs a much larger paycheck this next time around. ARRGHH! I already talked to our supervisor about the two of them. I feel that since we are friends, I should not have to be the one to tell them that they are taking food off my plate. I I know there Thanks.

Coupons [2008-10-22]
Clip coupons from your local newspaper or print them online. Also see if any of your local stores double coupons. Freds doubles coupons on Saturdays and Kroger always doubles coupons (up to a certain amount). If you can catch things on sale and double a coupon on it you can get stuff free a lot of times. If you shop online, check the internet for coupon codes for the store before you check out. A lot of times you can get free shipping or a percentage off your purchase, especially for national chains like Best Buy, Toys R Us, Target, etc. Check stores you normally wouldn I findgood deals onhousehold necessities (toilet paper, dishwasher detergent, etc) at our localfarm supply store. See if your power company offers real-time billing based on peak and off-peak times. It If you can On the really cold nights I hang heavy blankets or towels over all the windows to help keep the heat in and avoid the cold air radiating from the window. My grandparents used to shut off part of their house and just heat half of it. Of course, they were empty nesters and had more house than they needed, but it could still work for any rooms that aren I have vents in my pantry and my closet that I shut off every winter. No sense in heating rooms I Instead of cooking enough to eat for a day or two, make up a bunch and freeze some. I It saves a ton of time and saves power because instead of cooking 5 or 6 small batches you I have a thing that goes on the exhaust hose of my dryer to vent it into the house instead of blowing the heat outside in the winter. It also adds lots of moisture to the air. You can also justtie piece of pantyhose over the end of the hose, just make sure to keep the lint cleaned out of it.

Tell 'em siser... [2008-09-27]
So when they get tired of being fluffy, they come here, rouse things up, and then go back and report that this board is childish, but of course that I actually would rather be here as there are a lot of different topics and you don Go moderators!! Keep up the good work here on Stars... Sometimes ya The funny part is instead of them calling themselves miserable, they come over, copy paste and then make a thread out of a borrowed post from here...

I don't know [2008-09-18]
about making a marriage stronger. My family history sort of makes a statement against that. My grandfather was married to 2 women at the same time. My grandmother gave him an ultimatum either his 6 children, who he loved to pieces, or this other woman, he chose his children.However, they had a horrible marriage. My mom and dad divorced when I was 8. My dad remarried 4 times. My mom remarried once, and divorced. She had big time issues with trust, which I think is what destroyed her second marriage. Her second husband was a gem, but mom just could not trust him. He felt smoothered. He was a wonderful stepfather! I just don Yes, I have been tempted as I think everyone is, but to me, especially in my case, if you really love a person, and you have already hurt them once by cheating, how could you ever do it again!!!! No matter what the temptation is. No matter, if this woman, has long beautiful black hair and green eyes, blah blah blah. I am not trying to sound all righteous here, but if I were unhappy in a marriage, I would end it, then move on. I wouldn Having been through it, and seeing what it does to relationships, individuals, and children - - it is a horrible situation. If I decide to leave this marriage, I do not think I would ever marry again, let alone date. It has really crushed me. It has crushed my self-esteem. I have gained over 100 pounds in the last six years since my husbandlast affair. I justdo not feel attractive, and some ofthis has to do withthings he said to me. Okay, I needed the vent ;-(. Thanks for listening. As you can tell, this is weighing heavy on my mind today. They say time heals, well it has been six years, and so I do not know about that statement.

My hubby and I love each other very much [2008-09-17]
But he is very egotistical, and he knows it. He is also a genius (literally) and has a hard time sometimes understanding that we don't understand! I always tell him he is a genius with the common sense of a gnat (in a very loving way). He has been having rough times at work and the talk we had last night was about his crappy attitude. He actually acted a little better today. He is in NO WAY mentally abusive to me nor does he mean to be. BTDT, not doing it again. Your right, life is to short, which is exactly why sometimes I keep my mouth shut. I love him, and I know he loves me. What is that old saying, something about choosing your battles. When he gets on one of his rants for lack of a better word, I just listen patiently, then I'll pick him apart later if I feel the need LOL. Everyone needs a vent now and then, doesn't mean life is all bad. Having to raise 3 teenagers at the same time, now THAT is abuse LOL.

He's fighting again today. [2008-08-26]
This time with his younger brother because he doesn His younger brother isalmost 6 and he gets bored easily with video games. Once again, when he got mad, he resorted to violence by kicking his younger brother in his side. It left a red mark. He I didn I told him what the consequences were when he did something like this, ie serious injury to his brother, possible juvy hall for him, and how it can lead to worse things as he gets older. He just doesn I really wanted to fan his @ss, but what would that teach him? Just that violence begets violence. Why does he have to react so intensely? Why can My other 2 children don That That if I were a bad parent, which I definitely think at times, then all 3 of my children would act out, but they don Just him. He He goes to the youth church camps and has no problems whatsoever. He knows right from wrong, he just doesn It I think it Maybe family counseling or something. I know there I spend a lot of time with my kids. All summer long, I We do a lot together as a family and the 2 older ones get to go a lot of places with other people. My children are not neglected in any way. My husband spends a lot of time in the evenings with them, especially the 8-year-old. We know that he demands more attention and we try to give that to him, but this is getting exhausting. I know everyone here has been trying to help and I appreciate that. More than anything, I just need a place to vent. I think it I Maybe there is something to that. It seems to be true in animals. Again, thanks for letting me vent and offering up suggestions or insight. I do appreciate it.

punk neighbor kid [2008-08-03]
Awhile back I wrote that I wish there was a draft and the neighbor Got lots of messages telling me bout the terrors of other neighborhood kids. Just thought I This kid is 14 years old (is about as big as a full grown overweight adult) and his attitude is getting worse and worse. Seems like his parents don He calls his little brother the B word (usually what we refer to other women as), hehomee and home boy, uses the f word in about every sentence that comes out of his mouth. The other day was about the final point for me. He was usinghedge trimmers todo whatever he was doing. Well the thing wasnevery swear word imaginable in a single sentence. The lady two housesacross from mein the back yard yelled out to him - Hey watch your language. She was coughing and sounded sick and Ishe didn His reply to her was Shut the f up or I. I don All I could think of was where are his parents. They were there about 5 minutes before that. He also has a couple freinds of another color and when they are in the back yard with him he feels the need to do a whole routine like what you see in the movies. Well yesterday we happened to catch a movie on TV (by accident - it was on and we couldnNot sure if any of you have seen it but it is exactly the way the kid next door acts and talks. They call each other the B word (still didn I told my DH I have a good mind to go talk to his mother but that wouldnif I did I wouldn His parents talk to him like nothing If word talking to their kids). But the kids parentname (I won But when he asked why she called him that shestated because you don. They are constantly yelling at him. The other day he told his parents he wanted his room to remain completely dark and they said to him like your heart. Kind of creeped me out. Anyway...we have been planning to move for quite some time, but this was the breaking point to speed up our search. I believe hehead to the hills and to really search out what kind of neighbors in different area. We also get a lot of kids playing the base on their car radios so loud the stuff inside our house vibrates. Told my DH today where can we go live in peace and quiet without having to move to a 55+ park. I I wrote before I wished theymilitary school with a uniform and drill sergeants keeping an eye on him 24 hours a day teaching him respect. Being in the Army and going through basic training myself really taught me respect for others and how to be an adult. Anyway...just wanted to vent.

Dogs barking [2008-07-29]
Why do people allow their dogs to bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and bark and bark, etc, etc, etc. I am so sick and frustrated with my dense neighbors. They are inside, dog is outside and just let their dog bark. The dog barks starting around 4 pm and it goes all the way until it gets dark out which is around 8:30. The past couple days I have been so frustrated. Can Every once in awhile the lady will yell at itshut up, but then maybe 10 minutes go by and its back barking again. I feel like telling them why don I love the dog, it I Every once in awhile Ihow stupid he is (actually he is but ifI was a parent I would never say that to my kid). She once told him he has no brain and called him something I would not even repeat. They freely use the F word when talking to their kid. So with knowing the way they are I would never say anything to them about their dog. I just don - Wedisturbia. I was just so frustrated I had to vent somewhere. Everytime I say something to DH he tells me to be quiet cos their back yard is right next to our.

Yanking your hair out [2008-07-29]
You should try having MY neighbors!!!! Not only do their 2 dogs bark, but the people are NASTY and donNo one wants your junk lady, you people are gross. lol! Did I mention that they have 2 (maybe more?!) cats that are, once again, outside, and 1 of them craps in our front yard every stinking nite!!!!???They don They weren't a help in my situation, but they may be better where you live! Good luck and keep us posted! Thanks for letting ME vent! Now you got me going...lol to myself

Marie - I was ROFL reading your post [2008-07-29]
Sorry I know its not funny especially for you. That is totally disgusting. They sound like the nieghbors we had in Reno, but they didn't have pets - it was their stinking food and stuff they left all over. Why do people live like such nasty ho's. Well we may not have the dog poo but they did do something with their back yard and fertilizer and it really stinks and now we are infested with flies here. I won't call Animal control because they really are not cruel to their dog, they just let it bark all the time then it goes inside once it gets dark out. They do play with their dog too (its constantly getting loose and they are running up and down the street yelling for it - dog comes back). None of our neighbors have their dogs tied up, they just let them roam free. I like the solution that Jim Carey did in a movie called Me, Myself and Irene when he kept telling his neighbor to stop letting the dog poo on his lawn. He went over to his neighbors lawn and took a dump on it in broad daylight while the neighbor watched. I thought that was hysterical. Well sounds like you needed to vent more than I did. I'll count myself lucky reading about you. Four years probably seems like forever to you too. Wish you best.

Question regarding mental retardation and other issues [2008-07-25]
My sister adopted a boy back in 1989 when he was just about a year old (from Paraguay). He She said he He was diagnosed before he ever went into grade school with mental retardation. Through the years my mom and sister were always defensive about it telling people thatspecial. Anyway....here it is 19 years later and he is getting worse and worse. Sis just called me from Maine on her last day of vacation and said he She said he has mood swings, happy one second miserable another. He won Whenever there is a thunder or lightening storm (which on the east coast is a monthly occurrence) he goes absolutely nuts...meaning, he runs around their house screaming at the top of his lungs make it stop, make it stop tell God I, then he runs around banging his head against the wall (btw - it rained every day they were on vacation). I went back 2 years ago and one night it started raining. Actually it hadn I was woken up early early that morning (bout 4 am) to the sound of screaming. My bedroom was on the first floor and they all were upstairs (they live in a 2 story colonial home). Anyway...I kept hearing screaming and screaming and I thought something happened to one of them so I yelled up to make sure they were all okay. Sis yells down that there are some dark clouds in the distance and she Hemake it stop, I can. I fell back asleep only to be woken by my nephew standing at the side of my bed saying I can It and his hands were clenched in fists. Then he started hittingpunching himself in the head. I could hear my sis and her husband talking upstairs so knew they were okay, but all I could picture was him standing over them with a knife after hethen stand there like that saying I couldn He Anyway...to make a long story short years ago they brought someone to the house to try and find out what I kept telling her he may need to be on medication, but they had no health insurance so never did anything about it. This morning she called me and said she is going to have some counselers from her church (she She said they charge but not as much as regular ones (outside their church - they charge according to what you can afford). Anyway...she said he is horrible horrible horrible, and she called him a little pri*k. She said even her husband said to her you and Dan don. She said he won They were giving him $50 a day allowance while on vacation this past week and he would demand it every morning before they had a chance to get out of bed. She said they would hide their wallets after he fell asleep because he just goes in and steels money from them. I asked her if I heard that right. I said $50 a day? I said if she held back his allowance for 3 days that would have paid for an hour of counseling. She said to me I dongoing to do it they tell me he I said would you rather have him diagnosed and on medication or know that he has something he needs medication for and he I said itand for her and her husbands sanity she Sis turned 50 this year and her husband is 64. I said this is not what they need at this time of their lives. Also, last October they adopted a little girl from China (she She would get a happy meal at McD At one time this week they asked him if he was upset because they adopted the girl and he said no. They asked what the problem was and he said nothing, leave me alone. My BIL seems to think that maybe Dan realizes that he I just told her either way, she has got to get some help for him because he could get worse and worse. Once I told her that I was worried about the safety of she and her husband if they didn Anyway...I don Sis has talked about some day comeing out for a visit and hanging out at our place, but there is no way in you know where my DH would allow that. I am very intolerable of my nephew. When I go back to visit her he gets on my nerves something really bad. The thing is he does things on purpose to urk them and then he But I get him back because I tattle on him to his parents. HA HA - Okay, I But after being around him for about 15 minutes is enough for me. There is nothing that is nice about that kid. I I love them dearly and they are the nicest kids (sometimes better well behaved than kids without disabilities). Anyway...because I know I can Nephew also has a bowel problem and goes to the bathroom in his pants often, so that woudn Anyway...don Always afraid of saying the wrong thing to her. Anyway...just had to vent about that. I do hope they get him some help but not sure if they will (it's been 16 years since they should have first gotten him help.

DOG BITE [2008-07-03]
I find this whole complete thread disturbing. This woman was coming here to vent her frustration and was basically attacked. How sad!!! I am sorry for your child. It is a terrible incident that I hope you win in court. Dog owners have a responsibility to take proper care of their dog along with keeping it on a leash. When you take on a pet you take on ALL INCIDENTS that this pet causes. If this dog had torn up property, not a child, and they just offered a couple of dollars for repairs, I would hope that something would be done to get the full amount. yes this is a child which to me seems a little bit more important than property. I would think they should be responsible for the whole $800. I want to know why who ever it was stated that she should get a fence in her yard? It is not her responsiblity to keep this dog out. It is the owners responsibility to keep their dog on a leash and under their control at all times. My suggestion would be EVERY single time this dog is loose you call the police or animal control until something is done. In Indiana there is a three strikes and your dog is out law basically. Call animal control and tell them about this neighborhood dog and your daughter. I would really suprise me if it is not picked up. Good Luck. Also, in the US, you can sue anyone for anything at anytime. That is the law. It is not like this woman and child are suing over nothing. A dog bite is a serious incident. This dog could potentially kill a small child. A friend of mine's mom has small dogs (under 10 pounds). One recently bit her child in a serious bite. The dog actually went for her 4 year olds neck!! Her mom was right there when it happened. The child did nothing wrong but bend down to pet the dog. Small dogs can do damage too.

Need to vent sm [2008-07-01]
My 8-year-old daughter was bit by a dog a few months ago by a neighbor The bite has healed, but the emotional scars haven My daughter is now absolutely terrified of dogs, and cats now, too. She won This is obviously out of the picture now. Our medical bills totaled over $800 before insurance. We gave them the bill, wanting $800 because we pay for our insurance on a weekly basis, and they shouldn We thought that was more than fair because of the trauma my daughter suffered. Well, today, they tried to give us a check for $87! Yes, that I was so insulted by this, and hurt! All that my daughter went through, they tried to give her an $87 check?!!! They only want to pay our copay! Well, I typed up a letter and returned their check, informing them we will be contacting an attorney. So, instead of the $800 we wanted, I'm sure they'll have to pay a few extra thousand for pain and suffering, and also for the lost wages because we had to miss work because of this. I can Thanks for letting me vent!

Attention: Anon....website for stepmoms [2008-06-14]
Anon, I read your post about your stepson. I just wanted to let you know that I belong to a wonderful website that allows stepmoms to talk about their issues, give advice, share positives thoughts, vent, etc. I have learned a lot from the wonderful ladies on there. Here is the website if your are interested. www.stepsforstepmothers.com

I have often thought the same thing. SM [2008-06-10]
Maybe some of the people who post such harsh comments will one day be facing a similar situation and need to vent or get a positive word. We should all try to lend a shoulder and an ear.

The ripple effect or Karma [2008-06-10]
I feel for the people who come to get advice or even vent and they get such negative comments when the person giving the negative comments does not know the entire situation. I once posted wanting to know if anyone knew of any self-help books for people who are in difficult marriages and how to feel good about yourself and all I received were posts saying divorce, take the kids and leave, etc, etc. I was not in a situation that would warrant leaving. But I too have read the posts below and there really are some terrible posts from people. I often think about a news story I heard awhile back about some lady who posted something on the internet about some girl and how she wasnnasty-grams and hurting others. I do believe in Karma and the Ripple effect and one day this will come back and bite them in the you know what.

I'm so mad I could spit nails!!! [2008-05-06]
Okay, let me start off by saying, I I I have 2 boys playing little league this year on the same team. Last night they had a game against the 1 team I really wanted them to beat. I absolutely cannot stand1 of thekid She is at every sports function and likes to run everything. She is very pushy and will do anything to have her kid come out on top (suck up to the head coaches, offer to run the boosters, make ridiculous posters to hang on her front porch for the kids on the bus to see). You get the picture? Ordinarily I keep my distance from her because just the sound of her know-it-all voice gets on my nerves. Last night I stood in the same spot I always stand in. My kids were the home team and I was near the first baseline (my kids play first and second base and pitch). She ends up 3 feet from me. The first couple of innings were fine. Let me say that I do not boo the other team or make any remarks at all about their players. I am there to cheer my sons Now to the technicalities, the last 2 games we have been short an outfield ump. The only ump we had was the one behind the catcher. Usually when this happens, if there Last night, this guy volunteers, who happens to be this other woman As unhappy about this as I was, I said nothing. I figured he deserved the benefit of the doubt. He made several calls early on that seemed fair, so I pretty much dismissed the bias I thought he might have. Then about halfway through the game, we have a runner on first and third andour kid up to bat. He hits it and the runner on first goes to second while the runner on third goes home. The ball made it to the infield and the shortstop tries to catch the runner going to second. Our runner makes it second base just before the other kid does and the other kidends up on top of him and he drops the ball. Now, the outfield ump (gramps), calls our kid safe and we got a run in. The catcher ump turns around and calls the kid out, saying it was a forced play and he didn How he saw that from his distance is beyond me. Secondly, when he called the kid out after the fact, he gave no explanation for it. The coaches didn Now this is when I got a litte irritated. I yelled out that our kid was on the base first and the other ump called him safe. I I was not talking about any of the kids. I was stating that the other ump I probably did go on a little longer than I should have, but it not only cost us a run, it also gave us 3 outs to end the inning. At this point, the woman sitting 3 feet away, says Enough already! I turned and said I don I then turned back to my mom and the 1 coach and asked what the call was and why. This woman then addresses me by name and begins telling me the rules of baseball. Now mind you, this woman has never played baseball in her life (we went to the same school) and the only kid she has in baseball a son younger than my oldest. Furthermore, later on in the game, she had no clue what the infield fly rule is (and even I knew that one), my point being she doesn So after she starts telling me this, I looked at her and said I Needless to say, 2 bad calls later, we lost the game. I I realize this is only a game and it But this woman She I know I She had 3 kids before she even got married and milked the system for all she could. Now she The kids had to be quiet and they had to watch her shows. They weren Okay, I feel better. I just really needed to vent this one. I think the next time we play them, I will stand on the opposite side of the field from her and maybe wear earplugs, so I can't hear her either.

What do you think [2008-04-17]
I typed this in word and am pasting here so really hope it doesn I wanted to post this and get some feedback from yuse (yuse is more than one you - ha ha). Iam nervous about tellingspouse that my sister would like to come out for a visit. About 10 years ago she wanted to come out and visit with us (she�s east coast I am west). He told me that would be fine, then after she purchased her �non refundable� tickets the next day he told me she couldn�t come. I was totally taken aback. I was shocked and I was hurt. How could he do that to me. Worse yet my sister was hurt and she figured that he didn�t like her. I told him she would stay in a hotel and rent a car and he kept saying no (funny how years later I thought who is he to deny her being able to go where she wants). Anyway...when I was upset about it he was telling me that she was manipulating me. I asked why he thought that (of course keeping the cuss words to myself) he said she�ll say anything to get you to do what she wants. I�m thinking at this point�who is this guy? Never in our whole time together had my sister ever asked for anything or tried to get me to do things, so have no idea where this was coming from. We had been married for 15 years at that point and I was just totally blown away by his response. He never took blame for what he did and after a few days he just acted like nothing happened. Then 6 years ago my sister said she would like to come out. DH said why don�t we go back instead for Thanksgiving. (I was thrilled beyond words). East coast is beautiful at that time. Txgiving came and he said lets go for Christmas instead being the holiday. Again I was happy and thought that would be better. Xmas came and he said lets wait until the spring when its nice and we can get out and if we go now we might get snowed in. Spring came and he said lets go fall, fall came and he said Txgiving, then Xmas, spring, fall, etc etc. After a year or so of asking I just gave up. Now here it is 4 years later and sister would like to come out with her new daughter she just adopted. Her hubs will stay back with their son and it will just be sister and niece. Am just really nervous to say anything to him right now because he is so unsettled as to what he wants to do for work (he is not working and doesn�t know what he wants to do), plus we are in the process of looking at moving to a different location (that So don�t want to give him any excuse for him saying no. I can�t bring up the past and what he did or how I felt because that will infuriate him. I would really like him to understand why I would like to see my own sister (I go back east about once every three years and even then its like pulling teeth � the last time I started crying because it had been 3 years before that when I went back and he got mad at me because he said I made him feel guilty like it was his fault I hadn�t gone back). So this year is my sisters 50th bday (and I just had a b-day - which we didn Sister and niece would be staying in hotel and renting a car, so its not like we have to have guests here (although I would like to have her over so she can see where I live � I�ve been away since 1980 and she�s never seen where I live. However I am waiting until he�s a little more decided about what he wants to do before I bring up the subject with him. I don�t know maybe I just needed to vent and maybe this wonAlthoughwhenever we talk about things he is more quick with words and can turn around a situation to benefit what he wants, and I get so upset and flustered that I just don�t think fast and lose arguments, so I just let it in one ear and out the other, but in the end I feel sad because there is nothingI can doto show being upset. The last time I did he basically acused me of doing something and then trying to cover it it. When I asked what in the world he was talking bout he said to me why don.Anyway�just wondering if others have spouses like this and how would you handle it. That's it...just feeling a little sad and felt like I needed some feedback.

Need advice - urgent!!! [2008-04-08]
I answered an ad yesterday on Craigslist to talk with someone who said he was crying out for help and I don I wanted to give him someone to vent to, but it turns out he is suicidal. I don't know who or where he is because it is all anonymous. His native language is arabic but he has lived in the US for a long time. He is heartbroken right now and thinks that suicide is a courageous way to get out of his situation. Does anyone have any experience with this and know what I can do to help him???

Another smokers' vent thread [2008-04-04]
**this is a vent***Have you ever been lectured about smoking in person?There is not a smoker in America who does not know that smoking is bad for you and a terrible habit. I really donyes, but they.

I had a possum in my ductwork [2008-03-10]
under my house and all it took to get her to leave was playing Vince Gill full blast down the heating vent. I was going to try hard rock, but the song was so good I left Vince on, and my particular possum turned out not to be a fan. :o>

Stand up! [2008-02-25]
Why do our companies never stand up to dictators like this? I have one who honestly sounds like he I call him smushmouth because all I can understand is smusha-smusha-smusha at any speed level. I had one at an old hopsital who had narcolepsy! He would literally fall asleep while dictating so you Drives me nuts. What kills me too is that one of my in-laws is from Russia. Her mom was a doctor there. She can Heck her English is 10 times better than half the idiots we get so how do THEY pass the test? Sorry needed to vent today!

Okay, now that you have clarified [2008-02-14]
some things... If your relationship with your daughter is so good, then why are you considering letting the machine take all the calls?Why not just call her back, even ifSHE sounded irritated, and say, Honey I I was a little out of sorts. That should patch up everything, unless one of you or both of you are extremely unreasonable. This is small stuff. Why all the drama? You should be able to fix this kind of stuff without coming here to vent. No one is perfect. Cut your daughter some slack. And you really should try to mend things with your son. What if he died in an accident? Could you live with not having mended things? They way you told the story, you were done with him when he talked really ugly to you. Maybe you should forgive him and have your family whole, then your life will be even happier!