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maybe where you live but here's a sample of ours [2008-09-03]
my son's school lunches:
Hamburger Helper
Tuna Salad
Broccoli
Corn Nuggets
Fried Okra
Garlic Bread
Fruit
the next day
Catfish Fillet
Hamburgers
French Fries
Green Beans
Rice
Mixed Veggies
Hushpuppies
Green Salad
Fruit
Pudding
all that make people look stupid. [2008-08-31]
nm
Not too often, but we live about [2008-08-31]
45 minutes away from one set of nieces and nephew and about an hour and a half away from the other set. I don They are actually spending the night with their cousins, my kids. I
The set that is 45 minutes away stays over about 3 times a year, the other set only 1 or 2 times a year.
Ifyourswant to be at your house frequently, make surethey know that they are responsible for their own messes andhold them to it. It is the least they can do if you are feeding them.
My biggest problem with overnights is that one niece won I have actually, at this point, banned her from spending the night anymore. Maybe IShe wreaks havoc on the rhythm of our house and it takes my daughter a couple of days to recover.
I think it is really nice that they want to be with you.
I moved cross country from Nebraska [2008-08-30]
to Phoenix. It was the best time of my life. I actually lived in Mesa and the cost of living was suprisingly reasonable. I had a really nice condo for around $700-800 a month, 2 bedroom, with it I eventually moved to Scottsdale, but the cost of living there is fairly high, but beautiful. I loved Phoenix because it was just hours away from the Cali so I could visit the beaches on the weekends and also just hours away from Las Vegas. It's a great place to be single and I made so many new friends there so quickly. At the time, I was also single and no kids. It's supposedly the best city for singles. Good luck on your search. I envy you a little bit as I love traveling myself...
Suggestions for moving across country? [2008-08-29]
So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years. They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth
08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long
And now that I The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don Is this a crazy idea? I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move...
Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home?
Thanks for the input
and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :)
This is Allyson Ayn!
I live in MI ... 13,000?! [2008-08-29]
Where in Michigan did you find a house for 13,000? Is it a mobile home?
I don't think the cost of living is especially great here ether (in comparison to the wages earned).
Curious what part of Michigan and what type of house.?
My sweetest sound... [2008-08-29]
is 7 years old and occurs when he falls asleep unexpectedly somewhere and he starts snoring. I can sit there and listen to him sleep sing all night long!
casey anthony taken into company live [2008-08-29]
if anybody finds out why, post please!!!
kid in bathtub-is there any better sound in the world? [2008-08-27]
As I sit here and type, my little guy (who His whole life, he has always made these sweet sounds as he plays with his bath toys, just nonsensical, whimsical noises. I always thought that was the sweetest thing when he was a baby, but now, as a little man, he still does it. It When I point out to him how much I love it, he stops, so I Warms my heart, thought I'd share.
Is anyone watching Gone Country? [2008-08-26]
What do your think about Sean Young?
This may sound crazy and it's [2008-08-26]
What about chiropractic? It might be worth a shot. If he has done this for a while, maybe he has subluxations that are affecting the nerves.
Gone Country [2008-08-26]
I have been watching Gone Country... I didn't see it at all last season, but one of my friends told me to start watching it this season since Sebastian Bach is on it (he used to be the lead singer of a rock band called Skid Row back in the 80s ~ I had such a huge crush on him back then!! LOL!)
What is up with Sean Young?!?!?!? I really doncuckoo like that in real life? Has she ever done any singing before? (it sure doesn't sound like it!)
Life is too short to live it in fear. I'd rather sleep in my car -sm [2008-08-25]
than with someone who mistreated me either physically, OR 'just' psychologically. And even if the kids don't actually see anything happening, you better believe they're still picking up on the bad vibes.
The fact that he mentions killing HIMSELF, in addition to you, is a major red flag. If a person reaches a point where they actually talk about doing something, they're alot closer to doing it than when they were just thinking it to themselves.
Guns in the house. (Guns, pleural!) Not good. I'd have insisted those be gone before the wedding day, myself. (Haha - it'd be in the prenuptial agreement that I'd never get married without!)
Anyway, living in fear for the sake of the greater financial 'security' of having 2 incomes is no security at all, in my book. It's a huge sacrifice of your freedom, peace of mind, & safety. The greatest security you can give yourself or the kids is finding a way to provide for yourselves WITHOUT the 'help' of an abuser.
Wrist bands sound great [2008-08-25]
I'm going to look into those.
I think too many people would not be able to wait until the day is over. LOL [2008-08-25]
That would be nice. Maybe on a board like this it would work, but in real life I don Too many people thrive on anger, confrontation, and oh how they do like to judge. I don Myfriends motherfor instance lives in the victim state. Everything is everyone elses fault. She never did anything but all her problems and situation is someone elses fault. The problems she hasare usually herkids fault. If she didn Itfault she had so many kids (she has 6), and its someone elsesfault she never finished college (which by the way her whole college tuition, books, room board, meals, clothes and I mean absolutely everything) was paid for in full and she would have not had to pay back anything (wish I had that opportunity). But after a year she decided to drop out and move away from her home town.Anyway...back to my thought...people just thrive on blame, hate and judgment (among other negative emotions).
Reading the post the first thing that came to my mind was a movie I watched called Demolition Man starring Sandra Bullock and Sylvester Stallone, where he is put in cryostasis and comes out of it in the future and they all talk and end sentances with Happy Happy Joy Joy and everyone is overly polite to everyone. It's an amusing movie and I love it and that's what this reminded me of.
So IMs. National Be Nice and Friendly Day I
I just don't its right to generalize about people.sm [2008-08-24]
Not everyone is in financial straits because they live beyond their means so to speak whatever that means. Sometimes you lose your job. Sometimes you have an illness or an injury. When did trying to pay utilities, rent, food, just basic needs become living beyond your means. I'm living beyond my means I guess because I can barely afford the necessities. What do I cut out? Electricity? Food? Shelter? I don't even have TV because where I live you need satellite to get any channels and I can't afford it. (Don't really miss it though). I need my phone and ISP to bring in the little money I do make. We all don't have a second income to fall back on. Please don't generalize that people are in debt for things you think they don't need.
Why do most people turn Christmas [2008-08-23]
Into such a fiasco? Christmas should be for the little ones who believe in Santa Claus and whose eyes light up when they see the presents underneath the tree. Getting gifts for grownups is ridiculous. You are celebrating the birth of Christ not your family!! Get a grip -
it is wonderful to see how many people have such strong opinions about people in debt. [2008-08-23]
I thought that the purpose of this board was to be able to post without being judged unfairly or have somebody tell you how wonderful their personal life is, and therefore you are causing their life to be less wonderful with your irresponsibility. Well, the saying walk a mile in my shoes is a good one in this case. Since you have no personal information about the person you are lambasting because they are looking for information on their debt, you can feel superior. Had you had personal information about them, you might act in a more human manner. Consider fighting cancer for 4 years, working and being debilitated while you do, suffering the effects of chemo, going into debt to maintain your home for your children and looking for a way out of debt SHOULD YOU EVEN LIVE THROUGH THIS!! Thank you for the kind comments. To the judgmental people I say please take a step back before you judge. You do not know who you are talking to and if you knew the personal information maybe your comments would be kinder.
All of the dips sound great - Tx [2008-08-23]
going to try them all (but one at a time).
Thanks.
Most people teach [2008-08-23]
their children Santa is an actual entity, not the spirit of Christmas.
My mom told me there was a St. Nicholas who gave to others and that Santa was just a way to replicate the wonderful intention of St. Nicholas.
Most people, including myself, lead their children to believe he is a real being, and it can be very disheartening when they find out it is not true.
Any thoughts on that specifically ... anyone?
I agree with you. Too many people.. [2008-08-22]
want all the goodies now and when they are in too deep think they can just file bankruptcy and presto, all is right with their world again. I can fully understand filing because of a medical hardship, but too many people live well above their means, charge everything, never save or plan for tomorrow and then want you and I to pick up the slack because they are irresponsible with their finances. And yes, been there, done that, many, many years ago and learned my lesson, so don't bother telling me not to judge others.
I know 2 people and it has to be a life threatening [2008-08-22]
NM
Believe it or not we live off those tips. [2008-08-19]
DH gets 2 bucks an hour. He gets none of the surcharge, nothing for gas, nothing for delivery fee you all pay. He gets stiffed, he gets 2 bucks an hour. That is our spending money. Since I am an MT and you know these days what that means, and I watch the kids, he works at the post office and with a church, and the only way to make bills stretch is to live off his tips on pizza. So, we eat mostly the discounted (not free) pizza he gets from work (the left overs people don't pay for or are deadbeats). So next time you tip the pizza guy remember these truths. Our 3 kids depend on the tips, and so does this MT, whose 2 jobs typing goes to bills and growing kids clothes.
in the country [2008-08-19]
at my husband's great uncle's house out in the woods in Ruston, LA - on a Sunday - the preacher came to the house. . we wore jeans and wouldn't allow any family other than the great aunt & uncle and a cousin. . we were strange. . We did let some great aunts bring punch and cake later.
Is it hard to find considerate people these days? sm [2008-08-18]
seems like no one is considerate of anyone else anymore. I dropped a few friends because of it. A recent friend is being inconsiderate also, husband wonders why I still do things with her. Well, you know, you can People are late, don The way of the world these days I guess.
I would get it checked out. [2008-09-05]
Even without more symptoms I would urge him to get in to his regular doctor to get looked at. I have heard of people being nauseated, sweaty, short of breath with the pain of a heart attack but I also think it can be an individual thing and different with everyone.
breakfasts for dinner! [2008-09-05]
mmmm yes love those :)
I didn't take into consideration people's home lives.
I dont have kids... just two dogs! So that is why I just have a boring routine! :)
and my boyfriend doesn't eat breakfast. Man, i dont know how people do that!! :)
Sorry I have no ideas for breakfasts, im very picky as well as boring! LOL
I NEED my sleep! [2008-09-05]
I've gotten by on less than 8 hours of sleep, but it's not a pretty sight. I'm like a zombie and can barely keep awake in the afternoon. But I really like to sleep, too! I like the feeling of drifting off, and I love the feeling of waking up after UNINTERRUPTED sleep. And there's the rub! Hubby snores, and he wakes me up. Or, because he goes to bed before me, he's already snoring when I come to bed, and that keeps me from falling asleep. Ear plugs don't do it for me. Now that I have a son in college, I've taken to sleeping in his room when he's away, and I get much better sleep. I've been able to train myself to sleep less in the past, perhaps just 5 hours a night. But I couldn't sustain it longer than 2 or 3 weeks before I'd just crash and burn. I think some people can do it, but I'm not one of them.
I use a timer [2008-09-04]
so My mom got me into this... when I was home visiting she sat a timer in front of me so I couldn't search the internet until I worked a full hour, or 30 or 45 minutes, whichever I chose. Then I could search for a little while... and then right back to turning the timer on. Maybe you could get up and walk around, or watch some TV or something in your break time. It sounds silly and childish, but it actually works. I'll tell you what thogh, some days are just BAD. I promised myself to try to earn $100.00 every day... I was doing great the first three days of the month and now today im worn out. LOL. plus i blame it on politics and me wanting to follow that stuff... and discovering this board... etc.
I hope it gets better for you! and I am not a morning person AT ALL, but if you went to bed earlier do you think it would help? It takes a little while to get on that schedule but im seriously in bed by like 10 and up at 6... i get tired in the middle of the day... but once i got past the first couple with no naps, im finding it easier to get up.
Good luck!
PS how come so many people view posts but only a few answer!?
You have a lot to deal with here. I suggest (SM) [2008-09-04]
you take 1 issue at a time. You have a good list started...prioritize based on safety and legal issues. Re the will, POA, etc., download some forms from the internet or buy some...they are widely available. Fill out one of them as a draft, leaving blanks where he needs to give input. Then take it to him, go over it with him, and ask what he wants in the blanks. Then compile a final for him to sign and take him to have it notarized, if needed. Then move on to the next thing on the list. I wouldn't make a big deal out of anything, just make dealing with one thing part of your regular routine when you visit him.
Re the house, spend some time making a safe, clean space in it for him to live his daily life...kitchen, one bathroom, to start. Get and install any grab bars or other equipment he might need. Get him a medical alert necklace for his birthday. I found one at WalMart that doesn't require a monitoring service...it dials 9-1-1 in an emergency.
This is just a start, but that is what you need to do, just start. I hope some of these suggestions are useful.
How do you psych yourself [2008-09-04]
I I find myself constantly coming to this board. Sometimes I just feel I can I just got my first cup of coffee so that will help, but how do you psyche yourselves out to begin working a full day of typing, typing, typing, and more typing, and if you don I So I have to work. I have no choice. But I am so so tired. I I do like my job compared to others I have had, but I think I just feel so burnt out and wonder how other MTs begin their days. PS - I am not a morning person at all. I have tried, tried, tried to get up at 6 am to begin with a walk or some type of exercise but I can Is there a vitamin or something that would perk me up maybe?
My thoughts [2008-09-04]
It literally makes me ill to think of what has happened to her and that there is actually a human being on this planet that would do such a thing. I do believe she is guilty. I don't think many people have any doubt about that. Just trying to understand why someone would harm her and what was going through their minds at the exact time they were doing this. I can't understand it. I remember years ago that Susan Smith (think that's her name) some other poster mentioned her, but I remember when that happened I thought if parents can't handle having kids don't they know how many people would love to have kids. I thought if you can't take having kids anymore then please bring them to a shelter so they will be safe and other families who cannot have children (like me) would be able to adopt these. I don't get why people don't do that.
We read and hear on the TV all these very strange things happened. Seeing as I type all day DH reads news and stuff and tells me bout these cases. Some young guy was driving down the road pulled over took his infant son out of the car and either beat him or just killed him. Someone saw this and the guy was saying something about the kid being posessed by satan. Another case some guy through his child off a bridge, some lady drowned her five children, and the latest DH told me about was some guy who was let out of some psychiatric hospital (I think), but went on a killing rampage. Walked into a store and shot a bunch of people, went somewhere else and shot some people, killed a P.O. and others. To bring it back to the story of Casey Anthony and what her mother has done (or not done maybe), but with all the very weird things going on does anyone have any idea why these things are happening. I sit here as a regular person wondering what is happening in the country. I've lived in other countries and sure they have crimes but not like here (as many or as horrendous). Is something going on that we don't know about. I read about the chem trails and wonder what in the world is in the poison that they are pouring on is. Is this what is making some people to absolutely lose their minds. What is wrong with our society.
yup it is excellent and dependable [2008-09-04]
Never had a problem with it in the three years I've been using it.
Oh you wouldn't believe all the free stuff that is available. Whenever I'm looking for something there seems to always be something you can get for free that is equal in comparison (well except a foot pedal and head phones that is. HA HA)
Here's another funny fact - has nothing to do with MT, but DH just found a website and you know all these courses they teach at the big wig universities - you can watch the classes online for free. These are courses from MIT and really expensive universities. So if you were interested in getting your degree completed you could watch the courses, take a test and get your degree for a tenth of what it would cost you to sit in the same lecture class at a fancy university.
That is one thing I love about the internet. There is a wealth of information and knowledge all for free. Talk about living in a great country!
My mom had a dog that lost its hair in a patch [2008-09-04]
and it was s/l main-g, not sure on the spelling, and not sure if this is something cats get or just dogs but i'm sure you could google. She had to put some peanut butter looking cream on it for quite a while.
Could you maybe call (if you don't know) and ask the vet if they did any blood work or anything to confirm the ringworm? In people ringworm is a fungal infection. If it's confirmed maybe they could advise you on OTC creams to help. My mom's vet would often suggest OTC human meds in place of a doggy prescription as she could not afford it.
According to ask.com I'm 66 miles [2008-09-03]
from Lewisburg. I It Small the world, huh?
Lewisburg is an easy drive for me. Would you please email me the name of the surgeon?
no she was the manager there [2008-09-03]
out the food that would go bad so it was allowed. They were also allowed to order food to bring home that they paid for themselves, such as single serving pizzas. This was also many years ago, i'm sure things may be different by now, depending on the people in charge.
What is the big deal??? They had to have [2008-09-02]
gas and he said he would put in 10. He did. When he gets gas for his car is his business. If he wants to stop every day for gas, how does that affect her??? If they fight over little things like that, doesn't sound like a good marriage to me.
She should BLOW IT OFF sm [2008-09-02]
However, men who are out of work have some strange ideas and thoughts. They seem to get miserly on one hand and spend thrifts on the other. I am not sure that most men *get* the whole money thing away.
I had a friend whose DH was out of work. They had usually had a gas station automatic car wash about every 2 weeks. In the interest of money, she gave this up, but he stepped up his washing to weekly. What is the big deal? It was $5 a pop. She was ever worried about every dime and he was saying what is $5. He would decide that $20 was okay to go spend having beer with his band members (he always played with a rock band after work), but would get after her for buying the kids $1 hamburgers at the Golden Arches. It became petty arguments over every minute money issue.
I think that men and women view money very differently and Suzie Ormand agrees. She says that women can't deal with anything they don't have a relationship with, and most of have a dysfunctional relationship with money. Umm this is a man who does too.
I keep thinking SOME PEOPLE, but I have had a husband out of work who felt that while being out of work with no unemployment that it was the perfect time to start shopping for the house and bought an area rug and lamps for the living room he never used, and that expense didn't change a thing.
I use BMin for about a year now - similar problems to yours sm [2008-09-02]
I have broken capillaries on the cheeks and find that I still need a light base coat of foundation on those areas, then use the BareMin on top. Works PERFECTLY if I pre-treat like that and lasts a lot longer. I'm almost 50 and people say my skin looks like I'm in my 30s. I love it.
Need advice again - Dementia (sm) [2008-09-02]
Hi all. I just want to start off by saying that whenever I post on here I always get kind responses, and I may not always get a chance to say thank you. Wanted to let you know that I do appreciate it.
Here is my latest challenge. I have an uncle who is in his early 70 I grew up watching my grandmother, his mother, go through the stages of this horrid disease. I have a pretty good grasp of what we are up against. Thing is, I was a child when my grandmother started her decline, and boy things are different when you are an adult. I honestly don
Here is what complicates the situation. My uncle is divorced, has been for some time. He has no children. He has three sisters, my aunts, living. One is in her 80s, one is two hours away and not in great health, and the third is 12 hours away. The oldest cannot help, given her age, the one that is two hours away has told me that she really doesn
It gets a little more complicated. My uncle is a hoarder. He also has been notoriously bad about managing his finances for many years. His house is in a very bad state of disrepair. He is at the stage where he really needs someone to look over him, not live with him but maybe go in once or twice a week and help him with bills, meds, etc. However, his house is so bad that I truly fear it is going to fall down around him.
My questions: I know that he needs help, but I also know that he has to ask for that help (up to a certain point, which would be where we would then go to court and ask for a conservatorship). He is not at that stage yet. If something happens to him, no one has legal medical proxy, he does not have a will, he does not have an advanced directive. We have talked to him about the importance of doing this, but he does not want to listen, even though he admits he needs to do something. He also has not been formally diagnosed. I think he is afraid to get confirmation that he is suffering from the same disease as his mother. How do we help him? What should we do? What is the procedure here? I honestly am at my wit I donand have him thinking that we are wanting anything. I don It is his. But something has to be done. I want him to be taken care of when the time comes.
Any advice would be appreciated, as always. Thank you.
HC
Autism Speaks [2008-09-02]
Hello,
I'm doing a walk for Autism Speaks on Sep. 20th in Mn. If you'd like to check out my page it's: http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian
Any donations are greatly appreciated in this battle for a cure or even info as to why this is happening! Let your family, friends, or anybody you can think of know of this great cause and you can help just by getting the word autism out there and educating people person by person.
Thanks!
how long would it be approprite to wait [2008-09-01]
heater? I live in a rented townhome community. I called last night and was told they would be in today because the answering service had no notification of them not being there today. I said, that I called at 8 and the answering service said the office personell did not come in today so they paged the maintenance person. It is now 10:00. I'm not trying to be impatient, I know that this is his day off but what is a reasonable length of time to wait before I call back?
I do not think you are overreacting at all. . . [2008-09-01]
He sounds like he is very young and immature. I have a problem with people who are not willing to help, especially when it is family. It sounds like you did a lot of the work already. Does your daughter know how you feel? If so what is her opinion? It does not sound like he is putting his best foot forward fora good start to this relationship either with you, or with your daughter. Best of luck to you.
3 now... [2008-09-01]
...used to live with a roommate who was very germophobic, almost to OCD stage, but she did have a point about some things. I probably was a 1-2 before. After working in a hospital, I Reminder notes everywhere! (Side note: I grew up on a farm and drank unpasteured milk, ate home-raised honey that was only strained, both of which my daughter thinksare unsanitary; ate lots of fruit right off the tree and never washed, but none of us were ever sick from eating these. I think my parents and grandparents were scrupulously clean in preparingdairy productsbeforethey went into the refrigerator.)
So $200 is a bargain wouldn't you think? [2008-09-01]
I am an independent woman and I don't care what age I am, I am not going to ask anyone for help unless I absolutely need it. If they say no, then I am not going to hold a grudge. If you are an adult, you can take care of yourself. Don't rely on other people your whole life. Too many people in this world think everyone owes them something. Yes, and people have their own lives.
That is work; he is your future son-in-law [2008-09-01]
It sounds like you were lucky to get the offer you got and since you have no one you
You certainly can If you can come on here and post about your future son-in-law
What are you trying to prove here? He said he So what
no, you are not over-reacting [2008-09-01]
This young man is going to be family. He should be willing to help. Actually, he should be willing to help even if he wasn't. What is wrong with people nowadays, anyway? What ever happened to helping people just because that's what we should do? This is one selfish society we live in, and I for on think it stinks. It is part of the continuum of life, to help others and receive help when we need it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it and expecting people to pitch in. And your daughter should let him know he is WRONG. why would she want to be with a man who wouldn't help someone who needed it, no matter who they are? If he truly has important plans for the day in question, perhaps he could help on another day. All these selfish people who aren't willing to pitch in...I'll bet they will be the first to p___ and moan when they need something and no one does it for them. And i would worry about my daughter, too, but not just because of his actions but also because she doesn't see his actions as a problem. Hope she doesn't expect much from him because it doesn't look like he will be one to come through.
My gosh are you rude [2008-09-01]
Donfirst come first serve and sc#w everyone else world.
DH and I have moved about 40 times in 25 years. Everytime weI have a prior committment but if you could do it another day I. She didn't say she was his future boss or Queen of England (don't know where you pulled that ignor@nt comment out from) but its with attitudes like that that I'm ashamed of people like you.
Moving is a very stressful time - I know and I'm getting ready to do it again and at 48 and 49 years old it sure is not an easy task.
A little consideration from other humans, especially one who expects to be your family member is in order.
If I were you if your future SIL says anything about your move, just simply say to him No I, then in the future if he ever asks for anything I would also say no, I.
Your daughter really should have a talk with him!
A way to help orphaned children in Africa sm [2008-09-01]
http://www.godsgoldenacre.org.uk/ - I read a book this weekend called God which is a biography of a woman, Heather Reynolds,who started a program in the South African province of Kwa Zulu-Natal, in the valley of a 1000 hills.She helps children who have been orphaned primarily due to their parents dying of AIDs. Right now I have children of my own who need me, but when they are adults, if I am physically able, I want to go over and do as much as I can - I am very happy because for the first time, I feel like I know what I am meant to do in this lifetime. In the meantime, they ask people to donate if they can or at least to make people aware of them by posting the link to their site.I grew up very hungry, right here in America, and help came from many sources throughout my childhood. I distinctly remember one group of women from a church who came in and literally filled our cabinets with food. Although the name of this organization is God you don
pups [2008-08-31]
Hello, Where do you live? We just lost our Big Boy of 12yrs & are looking for another. Let me know.
Thanks
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