Once again you are rude

How Rude!!!! [2008-11-13]
Good for you! The fact that she told you to hold on while shefinished texting would have sent me right over the edge! Congrats to you for teaching her a lesson her parents obviously don I have 2 teenage girls and we have made that rule quite clearthat they will lose ALL privileges if they even thinkof texting while driving or talking while driving. The phone must be turned offwhen they drive and we have tested them on it many times just to make sure they are following the rules.

Very rude and childish, MHO...nm [2008-11-10]
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would it be rude? [2008-10-22]
to just tell your family members you are making a christmas dinner and invite everyone over, no presents allowed? We just bought a house and are not in the best financial situation at the moment. I have tried hinting around at doing things like dirty santa or drawing names but no one likes that idea. So I want to scrap presents all together. I am working on Christmas day so that would be a good excuse not to visit anyone that day. We are also in a central location and that would make it easier to have everyone over to our house. What do you think?

My gosh are you rude [2008-09-01]
Donfirst come first serve and sc#w everyone else world. DH and I have moved about 40 times in 25 years. Everytime weI have a prior committment but if you could do it another day I. She didn't say she was his future boss or Queen of England (don't know where you pulled that ignor@nt comment out from) but its with attitudes like that that I'm ashamed of people like you. Moving is a very stressful time - I know and I'm getting ready to do it again and at 48 and 49 years old it sure is not an easy task. A little consideration from other humans, especially one who expects to be your family member is in order. If I were you if your future SIL says anything about your move, just simply say to him No I, then in the future if he ever asks for anything I would also say no, I. Your daughter really should have a talk with him!

Once again you are rude [2008-05-27]
I donhey, so what if your being abused the bruises are not visible, stay in, keep letting him treat you like this, because there is not a visible injury the kids don. You know what. The kids DO care. Kids want their parents to be happy. When the parents are happy they have so much more to give to the kids instead of having to hide the misery they are going through. Sure sometimes its hard in the beginning but kids are genuinely more happy when their parents are happy. And they will in turn learn to treat their spouses with respect. Of course someone should try counseling before just up and leaving, but if you have a spouse that writes you letters pointing out your errors and flaws and then feels they have done nothing wrong that is not healthy. If that spouse will not agree to counseling then there are another alternative and that is to leave. Do not stay in an abusive relationship and keep being abused by a spouse because you have to stay there for your kids. That was what people did in the 60s and 70s and probably before then. This is the year 2008. There are better ways to live.

Is it rude to ask a house guest [2008-04-30]
how long they will be staying. My MIL came Sunday to go to a doctor She does tell us pretty much when she is coming but there is no end in sight. She is super sensitive and cries a lot with you don so I don I just want to know what to expect.

Wow, surprisingly rude response... [2008-04-09]
The original thread was locked for a reason. The discussion was no longer beneficial. There is no need to create a new thread. If the two of you would like to communicate, why not E-mail each other privately? Moderator

I agree that was rude s/m [2008-04-05]
i'm a nonsmoker with a child that has multiple severe environmental allergies, takes shots and is on meds. He cannot dare go into a Waffle House because of the smoking. I detest that they allow smokers to smoke in places children frequent--we do not go bowling or dining at certain places because of this. Hubby is a musician and it chokes me whenever we go to his shows and i have to breathe in that smoke, but i know what i'm getting into when I go and don't complain. BUT your situation however, was totally uncalled for by the rude person you encountered. You are minding your own business, smoking in a designated area. Last I checked this is a free country and you had the right to smoke 10 cigs at once if you wanted. People need to get off their high horses and realize we can that's what makes this country so great!

I think it's rude (and they're jealous) if they tell you to cut your hair due to age [2008-02-18]
If your husband likes it, and you like it, who cares what anyone else thinks! I wish my mom (age 75) would let hers grow a little. She wants it cut really short all the time and I think it looks awful. Also, your ears never stop growing, the older you get the larger they get, so why not keep them covered? LOL

You are so rude....That's all I can say to you. nm [2008-02-05]
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I have never acted like I did on that post with my friend because she has never been rude like that [2008-01-28]
The way I responded to that post was because of the way the person responded. Saying when someone is nice enough to send a card she put it in a drawer cause she didn't want it. That takes a rude person. I wouldn't even tell anyone if I did something like that. The saying I needed to mind my own business really chapped my a**. Concern is not interfering in someone's business especially is I have left her alone as she wants for now. But you have to understand this is a friend who went from talking to me on the phone almost everyday to nothing. She also emailed me everyday. Now nothing. I know her life has changed but she has changed so drastically that I am only concerned.

She sounds as rude as some on this board, get rid of her! [2008-01-22]

the rude thing was to ask if he was slow and to compare him to her "sorta retared" (sm) [2008-01-22]
grandchild - and to call her grandchild sorta retarded is rude too! I think maybe she's the one who is slow!!

I agree, tax lady was rude but you should know all about person you are [2008-01-22]
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I think she was rude and obnoxious but not racist (sm) [2008-01-21]
She just sounds ignorant in general to me. I would have someone else do my taxes just because this woman appears to have been raised in a barn.

At the risk of sounding very rude, I think you are the one who [2007-12-22]
needs to step away. This is a mother who wants to help her son. I don If I live to be 102 and he I They help their kids. My children are now 25 and 26 and I would turn myself inside out to help them if they needed it. That's called love.

I hope I didn't come off as being rude... [2007-11-21]
that is not what I was trying to do. I didn't think you were judging me...I was just relating my experience with people who did pass judgment on me and my decision for meds...Everyone is different. I am truly sorry you had a horrible circumstance, but I am glad God pulled you through and you are here to share your thoughts. I am sorry if I sounded like I was defensive...It is hard to project your feelings on a medium like this...Yes..God does work in mysterious ways...am I am grateful for my second chance.

Is it rude to ask to stay at someone's house (sm) [2007-11-01]
My husband wants us to go to Orlando and stay with his old work buddy and his family (me, him and our two children) to go to Disney. He hates to spend money on a hotel. I have not seen these people in about 10 years - my husband still talks to the guy occasionally on the phone. I barely know the wife. They did not invite us, my husband just wants to call and ask if we can all stay there a couple of nights. I am really uncomfortable with this and said no and he is mad because he thinks it is perfectly acceptable. Is it??

Short answer: Yes, it's VERY rude. Long answer inside. [2007-11-01]
I wouldnguest then complains to everyone else in our social circle that we are cheap, mean and unwelcoming. Tell your husband to crack open the wallet and pay for a hotel.

No. I think it is rude. [2007-11-01]
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I think it's rude...if they ask okay, if not no way!!! [2007-11-01]
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Eeewwwww....you're sooooo rude.... [2007-10-20]

Didn't mean to be rude [2007-09-07]
I guess if I had read the previous thread it would have made more sense. It just seemed so random though.

How rude. I always get thank you notes for baby and [2007-08-06]
Maybe its where you live or something. Old customs are dying and I think it is sad. Like when someone passes away, we always take food to the family. The last time we did this, my daughter noticed there was no other food there. It was sad, because food is the laset thing you want to have to worry about or plan when you have a house full of people and a funeral to plan and attend. Sorry, got of the subject there!

Better hope DS doesn't marry her; their kids will be rude too :( [2007-08-06]
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Bring ads from other stores. Most pricematch..sm. [2008-11-22]
So you donThus eliminating running all over town in a mad rush. All you have to do is get to the sale item at that store first before it It makes it sooo much easier and a lot less stressful. I hope I worded that so it makes sense. I'm tired. Or, get together the day before with a few other people who are going.Each of you is designated a different store and picks up what the others want at their designated store. Then meet for breakfast afterwards to exchange the purchases as well as horror/humor storiesfrom theadventures.Thus, again, eliminating the rushing from one place to another. I think I I heard you can do that for theblack friday sales and some store will even let you buy online and pick up at the store. (later, after the rush and madness is over!) Forthe virgin poster, beware, some people can be downright mean, nasty,rude and even violentthat morning. Seriously.Oh, and NEVER leave your cart unattended if you were lucky enough to getone of the limtedamounts per store items. People will literally take them right out of your cart if you And keep your purse in sight at all times. If you bring a purse, have it hang in front of you and not on your side. I like to just keep my money and/or credit card tucked snugly in my front pocket of my jeans and not even bother with a purse.

I am so fustrated I am in tears...sm [2008-11-15]
Ok here goes...My husband has hunting beagles. He has about 5 of them. I love dogs and I love beagles. Well he drives an 18-wheeler and is gone a majority of the time. I take care of the dogs daily, i.e. feed them, clean their kennels, and put fresh water. It is a chore, but I love the dogs so I do it. It is for my husband anyway, and we are supposed to help each other. When he is home it is his chore. Well he has a buddy down the road who lives about 10 minutes away. They take their beagles out together and let them run rabbits. Well his buddy is bad about leaving his beagles over here and not coming to get them in a timely manner, and I have to take care of 5 more dogs. Food isn Well you have to make him come get them. A couple of weeks ago his buddy went on a hunting trip in Tennessee and needed someone to care for his beagles. Well I didn I was fustrated to learn though he brought them and left them in the kennels and left no food for them. I had to feed these dogs of his out of our food and there was 5 of them. I mentioned to my husband that I thought that was rude. I was nice enough to care for his beagles while he went away. He should have brought food for them. I felt taken advantage of. Well he came over last weekend and I thought good he has come for his dogs. Well he leaves without them. I said oh here we go again. I had forgotten to mention anything to my husband because I got busy working among other things. Well today when I went to feed the beagles I got really fustrated because he STILL has not come and got his dogs. So got downrightticked and called my husband. I said you call your buddy and tell him I am not in the kennel business. He can come get his dogs. I said first of all he is back in town and has been a week. Why hasn I said you should have made him before now. I said I was not asked do you mind taking care of these dogs for weeks. I said you should not allow your friend to take advantage of my niceness. He said well I just figure that if you are taking care of our beagles then why can What difference does it make? You are already taking care of these so what is so hard about putting a little more food out. I said I will tell you. It is twice the dogs to feed. I said he did not bring any food. It is twice thesh** to clean out the kennels, which is done, by the way, by spraying it off the concrete floors with a hose with a spray nozel. I feel like I am being taken advantage of and I think my DH should stick up for me to his friend.

I need some advice [2008-11-15]
Ok this is the story: My husband is still friends with his first girlfriends family. This does not bother me. She did a couple of things to really disgrace her family when she was dating him but after a period of time he still kept in touch with them as we live in a very small community. When we met and got engaged they were all very kind to me and the mother even did the cake and flowers for our wedding. The ex is never around much so no big deal. Well this past weekend her great grandmother passed. My husband had known this woman for sometime and the mother asked him to come to the funeral and told me I was not to feel like I shouldnI. To which the ex rolled her eyes and looked at her HUSBAND. So we walked away. To tell you the truth, we didn't really care. Well we get a phone call about an hour ago from the exum we aren Well, knowing how immature the ex and her husband are, we knew they were behind this (plus we could hear them in the background). So my husband told the boy Look, it Well a few minutes later he gets a text message from the brother saying my mom can (which obviously is not true since we saw her Wednesday night and Thursday afternoon and she was obviously not mental). So my husband sent back a message saying Look, whatever issues your sister has with me and your mom having an ADULT friendship, she needs to take those up with your mom, but quit trying to start drama. Well a few minutes later the phone rings. My husband handed me the phone. Knowing how mad he was at the moment, I answered. It was the ex. She asked if she could talk to him, and I said No. This needs to stop right now, it She said well my mom is really going crazy and she can. She went on for about five minutes and I said fine, we won I'm just so angry right now! I mean this is high school drama! What would you do? I know the mom will be absolutely heartbroken if my husband and I just stop coming to see her and talking to her (since her lovely daughter never comes home). I mean except for the funeral, we never go around if she is going to be there, and we don't sit there and talk bad about her or anything. I honestly think she knows she screwed up by messing around on him SIX YEARS AGO and is just upset that he's married and happy and it sounds like her husband is a jerk.

For what it is worth, you are right on target sm [2008-11-15]
For one thing, this didn't come from the ex's mom, it came from the ex. You are 100% right in saying if she calls or comes to your home, you will not be rude to her or ignore her. Since you are included in things with the ex's mother, I doubt she is carrying any kind of a torch for your husband and her daughter. I think she is well over that, but thinks a lot of your husband and wants him to be her friend. It sounds like the mom takes people into her life as she finds them, which is a mature attitude...then again she is an adult and you and your husband are also adults. The ex is acting like she never graduated from high school! SUCH GAMES! You handled it with much more grace than I could have. My hat is off to you.

Has This Ever Happened To Any Of You Here? [2008-11-13]
This was unreal...I had made a trip to the store for cat food (before I became cat food LOL!) and while slowing down behind a car that was turning, I got hit in the back. No real damage, just a scruff on the bumper of my Subaru Forester, and a bit of a blow to my ego, but the dang kid who hit me was texting her boyfriend while driving and obviously not paying attention to the road. She was only 19 years old! Holy cow! I got out, she got out...still texting. She said, Wait a minute, and continued texting. I couldn't believe it. I have that hands-free voice-activated cellphone setup in my Forester that DH set up for me, so I got back in and called the police department. If she hadn't been so rude, I might have let it go, but when she pulled that, I decided to teach her a lesson. She was horrified to learn that I called the cops while she was texting. She actually yelled at me, saying, My Dad and on and on. I just stood there and looked at her. The cop got there, threw the book at her: failure to yield, following too closely, texting while driving (it's a law here now -- you can't do that) and she has a nasty fine and her insurance is definitely going to go up. She was horrified. Maybe she'll think twice before texting while driving again...before she causes real damage and people get hurt. So thatHang up and drive! Has this ever happened to any of you?

That stinks. [2008-11-10]
I'd be mad too. I know my friend's who text and those who don't. I also know some of my friends use their cell for everything and others only for emergency. I would call them according to their preference. If we were all in the same hotel, I wouldn't think of a cell phone but would think of the room phones and/or knocking on the door if you were in the same hallway. Personally, I think its rude to be tied to a cell phone when you are with other people. Everyone knows that if I am busy (that means even just eating dinner at home with my family) I do not answer a cell phone. If its important they will leave a message or call back. If I get 2 calls back to back, I will answer. I think it's disrespectful. Unless of course you have kids but even so my kids would know not to call me to ask where the peanut butter is while I'm out with a friend or at work. It better be a real emergency. With all that said, I think this is becoming a problem in society in general, not just your group of friends. I went to dinner with several friends recently and they all had their cell phones out. One was taking calls and/or calling those who were missing to see where they were. I was the only one who apparently turned their ringer completely off and left it in my pocket. When I excused myself to the bathroom I checked to see if I had any messages, otherwise things can certainly wait 30 minutes to an hour.

Not all of us ENJOY being cellphone maniacs sm [2008-11-10]
I have gone to a friend's house for coffee. Yes, I carry a cellphone and yes, I text frequently. I talk some too. Where I live we all have to have Verizon because nothing else works. If you don't have a Verizon cell, no one will talk to you. There are only about 15 land lines in a town of 1400 people. I carry it with me and I have a tone for the text messages so I know the difference. Do I enjoy this? No! It is necessity and I consider a cellphone a necessity, but not a toy. Back to the story...at this friend's house, her daughter is there and so is another adult. That is 4 of us. During the hour I was there, each of them had more than 2 calls and many texts. They interrupted our conversation for EVERY SINGLE CALL AND TEXT. I found it very disruptive and RUDE. Your so-called friends were RUDE. If they really wanted to include you, all they needed to do was actually call you and ask you to come to them. Instead, they tried to show up by using a text when you are not a texter. When I add a new friend to my cellphone, I ask if they are text capable because you'd be surprised how many people are not. They don't understand that no everyone is a fanatic about texting or technology. So how many times did they interrupt conversations for the stupid cellphone? One way to turn off people from texting you is to use all your Expander shortcuts and all the weird stuff they use on IMs and texts. R U hom? hv u got cof on? cmg ov nw. Gets them every time!

I have had the pleasure... [2008-11-09]
....of working in several nursing homes as a CNA and nurse before coming to medical transcription. It's hard work and usually staffing is sometimes paltry, even in the good homes, but we really do care. Really. Every place has bad eggs, the hospitals, home care, etc., but everyone usually has to have some sort of heart to work in a nursing home. First things first...I always would check for jobs with this litmus test, and I recommend anyone do this. This is a make or break kind of ordeal. You look for the state inspection report. It HAS to be placed in a prominent place in the facility. If you cannot find it readily, ask where it is. If there is anything going on with hiding these documents, you leave and never come back. The other thing is to smell for stale urine or strong air fresheners. If you smell either of those, leave. (Do not check for BM smell--the smell often radiates and may be new, for lack of a better term.) Look at the residents. Do many of them seem content? Do you see aides with gait belts around their waists? Do the nurses look terribly stressed? Please also do not judge by tones of voices in the direct care staff. Often the staff must talk very directly, succintly, and abruptly--it sometimes comes off as harsh, but it's not--for particular residents to hear and/or understand. If you go in a facility in the evening, often the place is chaotic, particularly if there are demented residents. There is a condition known as sundowning that is very, very real. The ones with dementia who are sundowning may give the impression that care is not being given due to the chaos and behaviors brought by the condition. It's not the case. Usually these residents are kept in common areas until they are calm enough to retire for the night. If you go in the nighttime, often there is one night nurse for about 65ish residents. If you are so inclined to come in at this time and do not see anyone at the nurse's station for some time, know that the nurse may be tending to a medical issue and the CNAs are tending to personal care of the residents. If you ever see nurses eating a sandwich in one hand and writing in another hand while sitting at the nurse's station, this is sometimes the only break he or she gets. It's not out of disrespect that this is done. It is so that nurse can care for the residents as best as he or she can. What you are describing in your original post, unfortunately, is quite common, from what I have seen. Two people who are married a long time will often pass not too far apart. It seems people often do decide when they will go. As a nurse, it's one of the more incredible things I've seen. When I saw it happen, I always had the sense there is an extremely strong bond between the spouses that absolutely nothing could break. I'm not trying to say anything is amiss with your mother. I'm not. It doesn't always happen that way. I hope I don't come off that way. I'm sorry you are going through this, because no one wants to send a loved one to the nursing home, yet caring for an ailing parent is one of the most stressful things anyone can experience. I have never been in your position, so I hope I don't come off as too forward, rude, or presumptuous, but I wanted to tell you a little more about what you may be getting into. If you live in Iowa, I'd recommend you to a great one that has the best nurse I've ever met working there now. He has cooked up oyster soup in our kitchen when a resident stopped eating because the resident loved oyster soup. He has taken residents fishing for the heck of it. He wears a scrub shirt with chickens on it because many of our residents were farmers and like the shirt (and because my husband has a silly sense of humor and a wife with a sewing machine). I've known CNAs who buy (with their own money) residents pop and even steak just because the resident wanted it and could have it. Shoot, lots of us do it, even when we don't have a lot of money to our names. I loved to sing with the residents that had dementia (music seems to be retained) and chat about life with the residents who had their faculties. I promise it's not all doom and gloom. Sure, nursing homes could do better, but if you find the right one, it may just work out. All my best to you and your mother.

I am glad things are going well for you but sm [2008-10-26]
The debt is not my main issue. My marriage is. All of the other problems are a result of the marriage being bad, and working at home in isolation. The problem is I feel I have no choice but to work at home because of my husbandnight fishing one night a week, leaving straight from work and getting home about 1 a.m., on a work night! He is very rude to me all the time and acts like he doesnI wonder what my life would be like if something ever happened to you mom. It wouldn My daughter I worry about too though not as much. I donhis and daughter is mine even though I regularly remind him that we are both parents to both children. So yes, the debt is there and it does worry me but just showing my husband my debt is not going to solve my problem. If anything it would put me more under his control and anger than I already am.

how about this [2008-10-25]
I hate hearing the word ignert for someone who is rude. That one really kills me.

NO! Great idea and this is sm [2008-10-23]
I think it is VERY RUDE to expect people to take their hard earned money and be EXPECTED to go out and BUY you something!!!! I think it is shallow, selfish and certainly NOT in keeping with intent of the season. The intent of Christmas, in my book, is to be with people you love and celebrate that love. I can't think of a more lovely way to bless the season and those you care about than taking the time to make a lovely meal and a setting for memories...the greatest gift of all.

what? get in your face? that's why i started with HAHA [2008-10-11]
i suppose this is the trouble with typing you canin your face and i thought my last paragraph about you never know was not derogatory or rude or anything im sorry if it came off that way, not intended.

Thoughts [2008-10-10]
Ithe one and marriage being FOREVER if it is the right person. My parents never had any problems and if he was still alive, they would still be married. No, I don't want to see my mother lonely but she could have friends without being married and giving me a stepfather replacement. I'm not saying I would be rude to this new person, but I would keep my distance and make it known that I don't agree with the marriage. Just trying to provide a different point of view. I'm sorry you are going through this...like I said I would never be rude because its not the stepparents fault but I can understand where the difficult feelings would come in for a child with a deceased parent...even an adult.

That's what this board is for, to share gripes and happiness sm [2008-09-24]
and whatever else is bothering us. it there are a lot of pros about working at home, but i have to say, i miss being around people, leaving work at work instead of it staring me in the face all the time. i have two young kids who are in school and they are my main reason for working at home. i want to be there for them when they need me instead of growing up in a daycare. you maybe you need to get out the house a while.

Actually the one I was referring to is, indeed [2008-09-13]
still on the show and now in the top 10. The one you are referring to got voted off by the judges. Hewas rude and argued when they gave their opinions of his performance. The only I was referring to is Neal Boyd. He is wonderful. I love Donald Braswell, too! When he sang the Music of the Night from the Phantom of the Opera this week I actually had tears in my eyes. My favorite opera and what a tremendous performance on his part. Thank you for answering my post.

I FREAKING KNOW! [2008-09-10]
Please don't correct people on these boards. It's rude.

Kindergarten teacher [2008-09-10]
My little one just started kindergarten this year, and already I am getting flak from the teacher. She called me to tell me that my daughter is having problems putting papers in her folder, and that it seems like her hands get flustered when shes trying to do tasks like this. She also tells me that I need to make her do things around the house, like clean up her toys, take her dinner plate to the sink, etc. (all of these things that she has been doing for a while now!), so of course I just say okay, not wanting to seem like a smarty pants by telling her she already does these things. After I got off the phone I gave my daughter papers and a folder and told her to put them inside. She did, without a problem at all. Well, I was dropping her off this morning and I was walking her downstairs to her class and I had her lunch box in my hand from when we got out of the car, and they have this basket that they put the lunches in that sits outside of the door. So as I am walking out I just put it in the basket and go to leave, and the teacher (who was heading towards the classroom) makes it a point to stop in front of me and tells me that I need to let her do these things on her own and not to do them for her. It took all I had not to explode in her face! If I happen to be carrying her lunch box and just put it in the basket myself, I see no problem with that. Its also the demeanor of this teacher that I dontries to be helpful and nice but is actually condescending and rude. I wanted to say, Lady, why don't you get your nose out of my business and go teach the class? UGH. She just drives me up one side of the wall and down the other!!

My gosh are you rude [2008-09-01]
Donfirst come first serve and sc#w everyone else world. DH and I have moved about 40 times in 25 years. Everytime weI have a prior committment but if you could do it another day I. She didn't say she was his future boss or Queen of England (don't know where you pulled that ignor@nt comment out from) but its with attitudes like that that I'm ashamed of people like you. Moving is a very stressful time - I know and I'm getting ready to do it again and at 48 and 49 years old it sure is not an easy task. A little consideration from other humans, especially one who expects to be your family member is in order. If I were you if your future SIL says anything about your move, just simply say to him No I, then in the future if he ever asks for anything I would also say no, I. Your daughter really should have a talk with him!

It wasn't so much that you disagree with giving adult gifts....sm [2008-08-23]
It is more the way you approached the subject, which was in my estimation very rude and hateful. That said, I do agree that a lot of people go frantic trying to buy gifts for other people who may or may not appreciate them. However, there are ways of giving that won't bust the budget. I know that I give, not so that I will receive a gift in exchage, but rather as an expression of my love for those close to me. To me, that is part of the spirit of Christmas and is representative of the first Christmas so long ago.

I usually give $5, or 20% depending on how much I order. [2008-08-16]
I know they work hard for their money, and believe it or not, there are still a lot of people out there that NEVER tip so I try to make a small difference. I know people in my family who have NEVER tipped and do not feel like they have to. I think it's rude consider wait staff usually never makes minimum wage and something like $3.35 plus tips, so, they are very dependent on tips to make a liveable wage.

barking [2008-07-31]
Our inconsiderate neighbors let their two loud labs bark constantly. Visited them and asked nicely if they would bring them in within a reasonable amount of time or at least yell 'shut up' out the window. Things would improve temporarily, then back to the noise. Animal control was not very helpful -- said they would have to drive by and catch the dogs in the act, but then wouldnt even come out. What finally helped was calling and Emailing both the mayor's office and several city council members--Two councilmen contacted these rude inconsiderate neighbors and kept following up and putting pressure on them until it finally dawned on them that their dogs were their responsibility and their unfortunate neighbors have a right to enjoy their house in peace. Unbelievable how inconsiderate and irresponsible people can be.

Am I only the one who sees it differently? [2008-07-08]
I think your daughter has every right to be upset. You just took in a stranger (and let Is this 18-yo working or still in high school? Did his parents ask you to house him or did he move in because he didn't want to go with his parents? If this 18-yo is working and didn Your daughter comes first. At 16, I had girlfriends staying over almost every weekend. Why should she have to give up her childhood because of this stranger. Perhaps this 18-yo can visit his parents on the weekend, so your daughter can have her friends over. As an aside, if this 18-yo continues to stay there, then you should sit both the 16-yo BF and the 18-yo down for a long talk. It I think there It Good luck to you!

It depends [2008-07-06]
I think it really depends on who the boys are and how well you know them. When I was a kid, I only had guy friends so there were no real sleepovers with the girls and my guy friends would never have dreamed of doing anything rude or anything to me to be afraid of. I am only 30, so it wasn't that long ago. I think it would depend on the girl and if I knew the boys she hung around with. Obviously, you wouldn't want her to do that with boys she didn't know or couldn't be trusted, but I never had friends like that I was close to. I know a 19-year-old who is the same way and is the daughter of one of my good friends. She has a several best friends who are boys and my friend never had to worry about them sleeping over or camping or going out of town. I wouldn't say no if you know them and you know your daughter. it would be different maybe if she was going camping with her boyfriend or with strangers.... then I might have to think about whether or not that was really okay with me as a mother in your situation.

See message..... [2008-07-03]
Well, I have to say he definitely isn't thoughtless. Matter of fact, it seems he over analysis and thinks things out waaay too much. My daughter just rolls her eyes at it. What we felt for our SIL was not aminosity. We thought a lot of him at first, and felt he always had our daughter's best interest at heart. What we do know to be true, however, is that after the engagement the person we saw changed into someone who became manipulative, overbearing, and controlling. He just manages to do it in a way that seems harmless enough, but there's just something about it that doesn't feel right. Our son saw the same thing and he spent way more time around them than we have. He does come from a family in our community where some believe they are right up there with God, but unfortunately never have had to deal with them one on one. We have asked ourselves the same thing....why has our daughter not seen this. Our son tells us he has seen her chew him out before but never where she thinks anyone can hear. He's waaaay to interested in her girlfriends, as we have come to know, since they have been married. He thinks her girlfriend's problems/situations are his as well,as if he should be involved. We have just overlooked many many things but I have to say, we have done it for our daughter. We have been nothing but pleasant around him but he can be very rude and pompous acting. So if that sounds like we wish we had a different SIL, we just wish we had the one we saw before the marriage. His dad said he can be a little too over zealous about things, which may be the case here, but this just isn't thoughtful at all. Oh well, I guess we'll see tonight.

maybe it's you... [2008-07-01]
who is pathetic. This person is simply expressing an opinion and you are being extremely rude. that no respect for another opinion. And I agree with them. what good will money do to alleviate your daughter's fears? Perhaps a more calm and reasoned approach would be more effective instead of aggravating the situation by engaging in battle. By law, hospitals have to report animal bites and the animal has to be impounded for a period of time. If none of this has happened, i find it hard to believe there was any significant injury. Chill out. Help your child and forget the legal battles. Do not be a part of the problems of this sue crazy society.