There are 4 5 a year at my daughter's HS. It's become commonplace.

dear husband, dear daughter, etc... [2008-09-05]
xx

My daughter has always eaten in the cafeteria [2008-09-03]
She's in 9th grade now. The lunches they serve are better for the money than what I could give her for the same amount. They have a large selection. She's a vegetarian and they have healthy salads every day. I give her a check for $20 and it lasts for about two weeks.

I use BMin for about a year now - similar problems to yours sm [2008-09-02]
I have broken capillaries on the cheeks and find that I still need a light base coat of foundation on those areas, then use the BareMin on top. Works PERFECTLY if I pre-treat like that and lasts a lot longer. I'm almost 50 and people say my skin looks like I'm in my 30s. I love it.

Had mine done a year ago in May.... [2008-09-02]
and I would do it all over again. I was severely nearsighted, couldn My cornea was too thin to do the traditional Lasik, so instead I had something called E-Lasik, where instead of a flap, they just take that layer off and it regenerates. I had more pain with that procedure, but it was well worth it. I am now 20/20 in my left eye and 20/15 in my right! It did cost about $4000, but when you think about the price of contacts, solution and glasses it all evens out. If you are anywhere in PA I can give you the name of a GREAT surgeon who did mine, he's probably the best in the state! Good luck!

Your daughter is in for a baaaad life if she [2008-09-01]
Selfish jerk

Does her daughter know how she feels? [2008-09-01]
If her daughter doesn Hope they never have kids together.

Well if your daughter knows how you feel [2008-09-01]
Hire movers and ignore that jerk. There are plenty of college kids that would be willing to help out for next to nothing. Also check with your local churchs.

My 8-year-old still sings and does silly [2008-08-28]
things when he is alone. I love listening to him, it warms my heart. My 13 and 12-year-old are past that stage so I am definitely hanging onto this!! He still likes it when I wash his toes for him and does this little piggy, or this little snowflake, depending on the season!!! He still comes up to me and hugs me and says I love you mom. Yea . . . hang onto that and never forget those sounds.

there is a reason and why would you consider sending an 8-year-old to a home? [2008-08-26]
nm

i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age. [2008-08-25]
nm

My daughter has a gameboy advance [2008-08-11]
with some of the old style atari games like pacman, pole position and galaga. We Once I get halfway decent at the game we

Why don't you be a mom and take care of your daughter until she is an adult? sm [2008-08-07]
Boyfriend, spoiled, blah, blah. You are her parent. You need to provide her a place to live until she is old enough to do so herself. I would either allow her to move in with you and your boyfriend or I would rent her a place to live. She is not old enough to be expected to find a roommate and pay all her own bills yet. If you had done your job to begin with she wouldn't be spoiled or having such issues.

Trouble with daughter [2008-08-07]
Sounds like the girl is crying for help, butmom is shacked up with her boyfriend and doesn't want her daughter to mess up her meal ticket. How sad.

Troubles with 17-year-old [2008-08-06]
I am having some troubles with my 17-year-old daughter. She lives with her dad. She is going to be 18 in December and wants to move out. She wants me to move in with me, but I live with my boyfriend and it would not work out for. She is very spoiled and does not follow rules. She wants me to get an apartment and move in with her. I really do not want to do this as she really knows how to push my buttons and I feel we would be arguing all the time. Also, if I move out of my boyfriends, he would probably lose the house if I were not helping out with bills. Has anyone else been in this situation? Any suggestions would be appreciated.

Problem with 5-year-old and dog [2008-08-04]
( Before asking this question, just to make sure, I am not paid for this message so typing errors will occur.) We have three dogs, weiner dogs. Bear who was first, sister, then almost a year ago, Bob. My 5-year-old has started for a little while now, pulling his ears, tail, legs, anything he can or wants too. he will walk by and kick the dog. He covers him with blankets and lays on him. He will step on his tail. I have actually spanked his bottom more than once with no reactions and my common and everyday saying is leave the dogs along. I am tired of this behavior. I saw a special Dr. Phil show that said somehting about killers hurt animals first?!! I need some great advice to keep him and the dogs, mostly the dogs, safe from harm. I believe to some extent it has something to do with having the I am bigger than something/one power trip. He has an older brother who is 12 and has been gone most of the summer to his fathers house. When the older is here they argue and fight about little things like kids do but I have a no hitting or hitting back policy and a I take your toys away policy. Still doesn't phase the kid. I know he is only five but my next step, I am considering taking EVERY TOY away. This may be tough for such a young age but I don't know what else to do next. ANY SUGGESTIONS? I NEED HELP!!! PS He is also getting into this habit of doing something bad and saying he didnlies happen and he tells me I am not a chicken. I have done this calling him chicken little twice. He will be going to kindergarten in about a week and I have tried to tell him that kids don The dogs still want to play with him too.

My daughter's 3rd grade teacher requested 100 mechanical -sm [2008-08-02]
pencils. Now can you imagine the needing 100 mechanical pencils (or even regular pencils for that matter) in one year. It is mechanical therefore refillable. I can see maybe a dozen, but 100???? A friend suggested a typo....I ended up buying two packs of 24 at 5.50 a pack. There was no way I was getting 100, what am I supplying her kids too??? Or all the kids whose parent won't buy any supplies? Or is she reselling them on ebay. I am definitely asking the teacher about that one or the school, definitely nuts.

My daughter and I bought our laptops during the tax-free, sm [2008-07-30]
holiday doing it online. We told them we were from TN and their accounting took care of it. No crowds, but well worth the savings.

update on 16 YO daughter. sm [2008-07-28]
Well, here is the latest. She saw the therapist on Friday and the therapist recommended that my husband and I be on the same page about what the limits and boundaries are, but that my husband be the one to take over the disciplining, be the one to have the conversations and explaining the expectations, compromises etc. with her. She recommended that we make it very clear what the limits are and make sure she understands them. She recommended that we stay calm and try to avoid threats, but rather try to communicate with her calmly and positively. That does not mean that she can do what she wants, it just means that once she understands what we expect, then how she makes her decisions will guide the consequences. So I have basically pulled myself out and told her that anything she wants to do she must get permission from her father and work out the details with him. He is much better at this than I am and I am hoping that she will develop enough respect for him/us to be willing to do her part. Time will tell. For now, she is still here and it seems to be working positively so far. We still have a lot of work to do and I am sure it will be a long, bumpy road, but if we can get her through these next couple of years and be successful in keeping her interested in going to college, that is my goal. I would hate to have her give up on that. However, on the other hand, if things don't work out and if she continues to be defiant, then as I have told her, she will have to live with the consequences of her actions. The end result will be up to her and she is well aware of that. Thanks again for all the support and great advice. I do feel relieved that I am no longer carrying the burden by myself. I still hurt a lot and I am sure that pain will be with me for a while. This is very hard for me, but at least now whatever happens, I am not alone and my husband is in it with me 100%. That in itself is helpful. I am hoping for the best, but I won't be surprised about anything at this point. Bottom line, I do know that we are doing everything we can. The rest is up to her. Thanks again.

Daughter... [2008-07-23]
I agree with BeenthereBefore...she Now is not the time for nicey-nice, now is the time for toughy-tough! Just remember, this too shall pass (words of wisdom from my mom). Lay down the law under no uncertain terms to her, and that is the way its gonna be, no discussion. Also, are you paying for the phone? If so, I'd snatch it right back...no reward for making your lives miserable. She threatens to leave? Open the door for her...kick her butt out! She has no right to take away the peace and sanity of YOUR home. Don Let her get a dose of the real world...she'll come screaming home probably willing to kiss your feet if you asked her to. I have a teenage daughter too, though not to the extreme that you do, and for that I am grateful (for me) and sorry (for you). It feels so unfair that we give and give selflessly to these children and then they turn their backs on us, but I guess that She has no concept of *reality*, she thinks its like the Real World on MTV...I hate that channel period!!! One more thing, PRAY, PRAY, PRAY! You need more strength right now than you have...don't even try to do this alone. I am sending good thoughts and strength your way...

Hoping for some words of encouragement on 16 YO daughter. sm [2008-07-22]
Hello everyone. The saga continues. We have had her grounded since Friday and I saw her Psy.D. yesterday who gave me some advice. She said the best thing to do is to try to be nice and try to work with her in a positive manner, but in small steps. She said that if she decides to leave, there's nothing we can do about it, which I already knew. She said to voice that to her and let her be the one to make that decision, but supposedly that would take the power away from her. She also said that it was useless to try to keep her away from her friends, as she would do whatever it took to be with them. So I came home and told her that I loved her, did not want her to go, but the ultimate decision was hers. I gave her the cell phone back and told her that for her to be able to keep it, she needed to be civil so we can keep a civil atmosphere in the home and no more call me names and cursing at me. She agreed. That was yesterday. I told her that we would take things slow and she would have to earn back her privileges. Well, that's just not good enough for her. She wants it all right away, her way and when she wants. Wants to go out as many nights as she chooses and since it is summertime it is not fair that we don't let her go out. Unbelievable. I told her that we were unwilling to do that and the grounding stood through to the end. After that we would see how it went and start with one night out a week. She can't seem to grasp the concept that at 16 she cannot make these decisions. Bottom line, I think it will be inevitible that she will at some point leave. I made her an appointment to see this Psy.D. on Friday, but we'll see if I can keep her here long enough for that and whether she will be willing to go. I am at my wits end. The counselor said I needed to be patient and to continue to be nice. I think that would be easy to do if I saw that my daughter was willing to do her part, which she is obviously not keen on. I almost feel like I am wasting my time and I am so discouraged by her lack of wanting to participate in this. I guess I have to prepare myself for the worst. This is so hard. Thanks for listening.

My daughter gets $10 a week [2008-07-21]
She watches her younger sister while I work, and she loads and reloads the dishes and is supposed to keep her room clean. On Saturdays she'll help me by doing various cleaning chores.

latest update on 16-year-old daughter. [2008-07-18]
Well, I did it. I told my husband. He had a good stern talking with her about how what she is doing is not good and will not be tolerated, and told her that the rules were expected to be abided by. He grounded her for 2 weeks and we took away her license and car keys. She is beside herself and of course hates me more than anything because I betrayed her to her dad. Go figure. Anyway, now she states that there is no way she will stay in this house and will just run away. Or she will get a job and as soon as she can get some money together, she will emancipate herself from us. My husband told her that if she runs away, the next step will be something like military school. What a mess. He says we have to be tough or she won't get the message. This is so hard for me. I feel like I lost her. She wants nothing to do with me. I just hope and pray that someday she will understand that I did what I think is best for her. At least now he knows and he can help me handle it. If she does run away, at least now he knows. I told her I love her more than life and I am doing this for her own good. She just reiterated how much she hates me.(sigh) Thanks for all the good advice everyone. Please pray for me and my daughter. I never thought being a parent could be this hard.

Your daughter was me 4 years ago... [2008-07-17]
I am only 20 years ago and your daughter sounds exactly like me 4 years ago... I agree with the above-mentioned posters that you need to get dad involved. I too knew that I could manipulate my mom but was very afraid of what my father would do. It She's just saying that to manipulate you. AS FOR THE DRINKING: Do not allow this to be acceptable behavior. I drank as a 16-year-old and my parents tried to ground me, keep me home, etc. and I still went out and did it... guess what, I got a DUI because kids do not use smart judgement when drunk. I guarantee there is no safe ride because she is with other kids who are drinking, and she will never call you for a ride. My parents were very against teenage drinking and I got into big trouble, I can JMO The best thing that happened to me was the DUI because I stayed home for 3 months (had no license) and I learned that I did not have to go out every night, that I really wasn After that, I didn Maybe the best thing to do is have her stay home for month, only let her go out during day or for a short amount of time and then after that month allow her to go out once a week until she comes home drunk, past curfew or you found out that she was somewhere she was not suppose to be and then have her stay home for two months, then let her go out again until she abuses it, etc. Eventually, she will either get into trouble and she'll learn that way or she'll learn that she does not need to be out all the time. Oh, as for her swearing she isn My friend in high school was valedictorian, honor student, everyone thought she was so perfect and even she had sex in high school. My sister is younger than I am, her friends are your daughter's age, and they were almost all sexually active by 15, sad huh :( Good luck to you. I promise it will get better. My father and I had the worst relationship when I was 16 and now we get along great� there is hope for you and your daughter!

16-year-old daughter - need help from all who have gone through this [2008-07-16]
Just found out that my 16-year-old, good kid, honor student, has been leading a double life for the past two years. I found out through some snooping and confronted her. She fessed up to drinking and smoking but swears no drugs. The times that I thought she was sleeping over at the house of her friends that I knew, she was apparently sleeping at random places with a bunch of other kids that I dondoing nothing wrong. She swears she has not had sex. She apparently has a lot of guy friends and most of them I don't even know and did not even know existed. She feels that now that she has come clean, I should be okay with this whole situation and allow her to continue to live her lifestyle that she simply loves and is unwilling to give up. We have been fighting daily. I have not told her father about this, because he is european and would definitely come down hard on her and I don't even know what he would do. She tells me that she will definitely leave if I tell him. She demands one day a week that she can sleep out whereever she pleases and I should be okay with that. I am not. I am at my wits end. She swears she will leave if I don. My rules are simple: 1. Home by curfew (11:30 friday and saturday) and 10 weeknights in the summer (but I don't feel she needs to go out every night and she disagrees). 2. I no longer let her take the care whenever she wants, as I don't trust her. 3. She can socialize with her friends and I will pick her up and drive her within reasonable distance close to home. 4. I can even learn to live with the drinking, as long as she gets home safe by my picking her up or having a safe ride home. 5. I don't want her sleeping out any more. She is fighting me tooth and nail and is swearing she will leave the house if I donleave her alone. We used to get along so well or so I thought, and now I find out she is a complete stranger and not at all the daughter I thought I had. I am so depressed and don't know what to do. I don't want to have to tell my husband, but she is leaving me no choice but I am scared to death that she will leave. The worst part is that she knows my fear and is using it to get to me. I desperately need some good sound advice. Thanks and sorry so long.

Some thoughts from a daughter of a permissive mother [2008-07-16]
Do not be permissive, not about the drinking, not about the unknown friends, etc. Take it from someone who had a permissive mother. My friends all thought I had it made when I was a teenager. I smoked and drank and my mother looked the other way. I went where I wanted when I wanted and had no parents tracking me down. What everyone didn anger is power. Your daughter should NOT be more powerful than you. Also, you really should tell her father. He has a right to know.

Bring him in. My BIL had this a few weeks back... [2008-09-05]
went in, had cath done and had two 70-75% stenosed arteries, CHF, 10% function and may need a transplant. They stabilized him with meds and he is at home with a cardiac vest. He has not felt well for the past year, but kept putting the doctor visit off. Of course, they told him that had he come in sooner it wouldn't be this bad. Good luck.

Take it as a sign of things to come... [2008-09-04]
but don't make a big deal out of it with either of them or hold a grudge. He will probably treat your daughter just as badly if/when they are married, but she has to figure that out for herself. If you need something done, just pretend she doesn't have a boyfriend at all, and get things done on your own henceforth...and don't give them POA when you are old!

If it is ringworm, [2008-09-04]
watch out! My daughter got a barn kitten and didn't know it had ringworm. She got it. The doc and dermatologist treated her her wrong (thought it was psoriasis) and she ended up covered from head to toe ... and I mean everywhere!!! She still has scars. It is highly contagious.

The news does tend to be bad, true. Put your head back in the sand then. [2008-09-04]
However, see if you can stomach this....2 yr old toddler disappears for a month as her mother appears to party like a 22 year old with no children by the camera's eye. When grandma finally realizes something is amiss upon discovering her daughters abandoned car with the smell of decomposing human tissue in the trunk, the 911 calls begin. Casey Anthony is a deeply disturbed young woman who by all appearances seems to have done away with her beautiful little girl by means of a shovel and gasoline. The truly unfortunate person here is the child, Caylee, whose mother is a monster.

Fleas!!! help?? Any less toxic solutions? sm [2008-09-03]
We have three dogs - two outside and one inside. About two months ago my husband babysat his friend Apparently they had fleas and infested our dogs kennel We have tried every flea shampoo we can find and cleaned their sleeping areas thoroughly and sprayed for fleas...but they keep coming back. And now our inside dog has gotten them....we keep bathing him with flea shampoo as well. But now - the worst!!! They are in our house!So we have used flea powder for the carpet and washed everything and sprayed what cannot be washed or vacuumed. I feel like our whole house is toxic. And I am not convinced we are done with these little critters!! My daughter actually went to school the other day with flea bites on her (all bugs love her)! The rest of us have not been bitten but have found one or two on us at times.Is there a solution??? Please help if you have any ideas! Thanks

School lunches - [2008-09-03]
Child is entering middle school this year. Came home today with a lunch menu. Among the standard lunch are ala carte items including sports drinks, soda, pretzel with cheese, nachos with cheese, breadsticks with sauce, ice cream, etc. All of these items run abotut $1.50 a piece and of course the school encourages that you fill the student Of course we will talk with him and let him know what is expected but was wondering if any of you have gone through this already? Do you find that its a problem? How did you handle it? Personally, I don It is a very good district but this has totally rubbed me the wrong way. I cannot believe they are offering this to 10-13 year old kids.

You should be complaining to the school.. [2008-09-03]
Our SENIORS in high school were complaining at least 3 years ago about how much they hated the fact that they couldn't even have a single soda all year in school. Our vending machines only have sandwiches, lowfat pretzels, baked chips, juice and Propel (the Gatorade water). I think your school needs to be making some better choices.

Also, his FRIEND would help for $200 [2008-09-02]
It sounds like he is not charging you, but he is going to need help and his FRIEND wants compensation. I mean, for someone that doesn't know you personally, to help for only $200, I wouldn't be complaining. Also, if your daughter knows you don't like him, most likely he knows you don't like him. He isn't going to jump at the snap of your fingers to help you if he knows you don't like him. I am sure he will set the furniture where you want it, but he isn't going to unpack all of your things and keep moving furniture around so in other words, you better know where it is going before he gets there. I have moved many times and I have had the same experiences. I don't expect someone to help me design my house for me. Just be appreciative that he said he would help because he could have just said he was too busy PERIOD. If I were you, I would stop being a meddling mother-in-law and let your daughter have a good marriage with this man if she loves him, or you may be a contributing reason they divorce. Let your daughter be happy! I wouldn't say anything to your daughter if I were you.

MIL-SIL relationship has nothing to do with [2008-09-02]
SIL's feelings for the daughter, just like MIL's feelings for him have nothing to do with her feelings for her daughter.

It's nothing new......sm [2008-09-02]
but that doesn't make it right. We have a lot of teenagers in our community (and it's a very small one) who are pregnant, one in my oldest son's class and some as young as 12 years old. The one in my son's class was the head twirller last year and has really raised a ruckus because she wants....no, DEMANDS...to be head twirller this year, nevermind the fact that she will be 7 or 8 months pregnant at the time. A lot of kids have quit band because they refuse to stand behind her at football games and in parades, which I think says a lot for some kids. Another girl that is currently pregnant has had as many as 3 abortions in the past, and she is barely 16 years old, if that old. In my opinion, there are too many options available to unwed teenage mothers these days, and there is no repercussion for their err in judgment that landed them in this perdicament. When I was a girl in school, pregnant students did not attend school under any circumstances, let alone participate in extra cirricular activities.

I'm in complete agreement with you. SM [2008-09-02]
I talked to my daughter about the facts of life and my stepson, when he lived with us. They understood exactly how easy it was to get pregnant or get a girl pregnant. It amazed me when my daughter told me some friends from school didn't know menstruation was a cycle. They thought it just happens! I don't care if a parent is conservative or liberal, you must talk to your children and discuss sex with them and explain how their bodies grow into adulthood. If you want to stress abstinence, fine, do it, but by all means talk to them. Give them the facts, then have trust they will do the right thing and getting pregnant at 17 is NOT the right thing. I believe this all has to do with the total dumbing down of America. And we wonder why things are so bad.

Lack of help from future son-in-law [2008-09-01]
Please tell me if I I I My daughter is getting married in November. I only have about 3 rooms of furniture and a lot of it is already boxed and in a storage room. I askedmy daughterif Bruce,her fiance,and his buddies could help move me, as I am single, with no father, brothers or friends who are able-bodied any longer (I She asked him and grudgingly he said something to the effect that he could,but we would haveload the truck the night beforeand he would have to be finished up before noon the next day, and his friend would help for $200(!). The last straw was he told my daughter to tell me not to expect to have boxes, furniture placed or set up, because heHAD to get to the Mud Bog by 12:00 sharp. Is this any way to treat a future in-law? He knows I don I did get a couple of co-workers and their husband/brother to help, thank goodness, but I'm really worried about the future with this boy--respect for me, priorities, selfishness--thanks in advance.

I do not think you are overreacting at all. . . [2008-09-01]
He sounds like he is very young and immature. I have a problem with people who are not willing to help, especially when it is family. It sounds like you did a lot of the work already. Does your daughter know how you feel? If so what is her opinion? It does not sound like he is putting his best foot forward fora good start to this relationship either with you, or with your daughter. Best of luck to you.

3 now... [2008-09-01]
...used to live with a roommate who was very germophobic, almost to OCD stage, but she did have a point about some things. I probably was a 1-2 before. After working in a hospital, I Reminder notes everywhere! (Side note: I grew up on a farm and drank unpasteured milk, ate home-raised honey that was only strained, both of which my daughter thinksare unsanitary; ate lots of fruit right off the tree and never washed, but none of us were ever sick from eating these. I think my parents and grandparents were scrupulously clean in preparingdairy productsbeforethey went into the refrigerator.)

How about pay a mover? [2008-09-01]
Why on earth do you think that he should have to help you just because he He doesnanswer to everything. How about respecting the fact that he has a life and he Gee whiz... I hope you donnot marry him. You are his future MIL, not his future boss, or the Queen of England for that matter. Yes, I think you Hire a mover!

No, I don't think I'm a Queen (SM) [2008-09-01]
I donand my daughter knows this. I did look into a traditional moving company and it was over $1200. I I in fact, helped her get into her house. I suppose I did hope she would remember these things, explain to Bruce, and theywouldbe sympathic tomy predicament. Thanks for your reply.

It does speak to his character......... [2008-09-01]
Others can try to sugar coat it or find excuses, but it does speak to his character and what he deems important. Did your daughter speak up and say anything to him about this or did she just sit idly by? I have had the same situation and it does speak volumes for both.

Does her daughter know how she feels? [2008-09-01]
If her daughter doesn Hope they never have kids together.

If you want to let us all know your [2008-09-01]
whereabouts, maybe somebody on this board can help out. I know I would be willing if you were close by me, and my 17-year-old would be glad to help and recruit his buddies, too. Moving is such a stressful thing, but it can be fun when everybody pitches in with a good attitude.

Yes, she knows I don't like him-- [2008-09-01]
-- he I think he tries to tell my daughter what to do too much. Shedefend him--all his friends say he I have advised herat least itmightbe a good idea to get a prenup-type agreement to protect her and herlittle girlinterests, including the house. She didn His mother and fatherapparently abandoned him, and his grandmother, who he says he does love, raised him. My experience is that most grandparents are indulgent, especially with a boy in that situation. Maybe I'm reading too much into that--just cautioned my daughter to be careful and go into it with her eyes open.

a different point-of-view [2008-09-01]
If you don Is it possible you If so, then I can see why he wouldn More than likely, he feels like he If he's not good enough for your daughter, why is he good enough to help you move?

Thanks for your reply-- [2008-09-01]
-- if you can You may be right, he probably knows he would not be my first choice for my daughter and no one is really--she and my granddaughterbeen hurt enough--I want to tell him (and may yet) that I would die for those girls and I hope he would as well. But he makes them happy, I can accept it.

no, you are not over-reacting [2008-09-01]
This young man is going to be family. He should be willing to help. Actually, he should be willing to help even if he wasn't. What is wrong with people nowadays, anyway? What ever happened to helping people just because that's what we should do? This is one selfish society we live in, and I for on think it stinks. It is part of the continuum of life, to help others and receive help when we need it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help when you need it and expecting people to pitch in. And your daughter should let him know he is WRONG. why would she want to be with a man who wouldn't help someone who needed it, no matter who they are? If he truly has important plans for the day in question, perhaps he could help on another day. All these selfish people who aren't willing to pitch in...I'll bet they will be the first to p___ and moan when they need something and no one does it for them. And i would worry about my daughter, too, but not just because of his actions but also because she doesn't see his actions as a problem. Hope she doesn't expect much from him because it doesn't look like he will be one to come through.

I agree with the poster below [2008-09-01]
Just because he is your future son-in-law doesn't mean he owes you anything. It sounds to me like you want to cause problems between him and your daughter because of this when you say you think she should have talked to him. This is between you and him. You asked for help, he told you what he could offer, take it or leave it. It sounds to me like he made the comment about not having things placed or set up because he expects that you would want that. I certainly don't know your relationship with him or your daughter and do believe there are always 2 sides to every story and feel like we didn't get the second side to this story. I don't say any of this to make you feel bad in any way. Your situation reminds me of my own mother. Except that she will do whatever she can to get things resolved before asking either of her son-in-law's to help and they are more than willing to do anything for her...she just knows that they work full-time, have a family, and life is hectic. When she does ask something she asks them directly (not through the daughter) and asks for bare minimum - she usually gets much more than that on the son-in-law's own accord not because he is obligated.

My gosh are you rude [2008-09-01]
Donfirst come first serve and sc#w everyone else world. DH and I have moved about 40 times in 25 years. Everytime weI have a prior committment but if you could do it another day I. She didn't say she was his future boss or Queen of England (don't know where you pulled that ignor@nt comment out from) but its with attitudes like that that I'm ashamed of people like you. Moving is a very stressful time - I know and I'm getting ready to do it again and at 48 and 49 years old it sure is not an easy task. A little consideration from other humans, especially one who expects to be your family member is in order. If I were you if your future SIL says anything about your move, just simply say to him No I, then in the future if he ever asks for anything I would also say no, I. Your daughter really should have a talk with him!