Trose, please do not take this

Hi Trose - thanks for the great idea! [2008-05-06]
I think I That should keep me out of trouble. Then I can watch the game at home (alone) and yell all I want at the bad calls!!! Hahaha! Thanks.

trose....How's your son? Everything going well? nm [2008-04-25]

(((((((((((hugs))))))))))) to you trose...sm [2008-04-09]
I'm so glad you took him in. That's a very scary situation, and I think you did the right thing having him talk to someone right away. I'm very proud of you...it must have been hard, even knowing that you had to. About the eating disorder, keep an eye out for signs. I did want to say though that my hubby and all his buddies as well as my son and all his buddies say they're fat all the time. They rip on each other constantly too. They just walk up and say, *hey fat***, been going a little heavy on the cupcakes?* They all do it--no matter how skinny they are. My 12-year-old is 5 feet tall and weighs 90 pounds. Skinny as a rail, but he says all the time, *gotta feed the fat* or *fat guy in a little car*. Now, I don't mean that you shouldn't take it seriously and watch for it (especially if his friends are concerned), but I thought you might like to hear that sometimes boys are just dumb. We (the wives) always say how mean they are and can you imagine if we did that? Oh, hey mt, (doing my best macho tone) still carrying the baby weight, huh? Can you imageine saying that to a friend?!? We'd all be in tears! Please keep us updated, we'll be thinking about you. One more thing--you might be able to take him into the dentist just for his check up. When they are making themselves throw up, one of the signs is the enamal on the inside of their teeth being damaged or gone.

Trose, please do not take this [2008-04-08]
lightly. A few posters thought it was nothing to worry about. WHENEVER someone talksabout being unhappy and suicide....DO NOT TAKE IT LIGHTLY. Yes they may be trying for attention or doing one better than the other...you are doing the RIGHT THING..take him to a therapist or psychiatrist. He needs to express his feelings but unfortunately, not with his parents. Do not feel bad about that...it Keep up with all that you have been doing and even if it turns out to be nothing - YOU ARE GREAT PARENTS....some kids just need attention and not from their parents. Hang in there...things will turn out!!! Good luck, hugs, and my thoughts are with you. You are doing the right thing - don't take this lightly...please.

Thank you Trose, so do I believe it will make a huge difference, NM [2008-04-04]
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LOL trose ! [2008-03-21]

to trose [2008-02-19]
yes, I think Obama actually addressed this saying people were sending out these e-mails and they weren't true -we have to be careful what we read on the internet - everything is not true and you kind of have to do your own research - on another note, I tried the pinapple cheese recipe you posted a few days ago - YUMMY!

You sound like me, Trose [2008-02-18]
I'm 45 and my daughter is 14 and I've been taking her to concerts since she was 6. We just went to a Matchbox 20 concert and a few months ago we saw Daughtry. I think it's great when people don't necessarily act their age, within reason, of course. I think I also dress appropriately for my age. And yep, I wish I was the same weight 20 years ago. LOL. But whatever works for others is fine with me. My neighbor across the street is my age, but you'd never know it. She acts and dresses like she's 60, but she's still a friend. Long hair short hair, it doesn't matter as long as you like it.

To trose [2008-01-09]
No....I was only thanking others for responses.....

Look trose, there are limits to how weird the things can be!! LOL (nm) [2007-11-27]
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yo trose? What is *normal*? Normal means [2007-11-15]
*normal*? that only means one has a preconceived idea of what sanity is.... which I don't - so I have no answer......*lol*

Hey trose - I have A child...one...by choice...LOL [2007-11-15]
Hi trose! I knew I'd do GREAT with one and felt I'd be inundated with 2, especially since the husband was the 2nd child......in age and maturity...*lol*...I felt like I had TWO kids for 10 years.....I divorced him, got the kid, and she's TERRIFIC and close to both parents... Came out nice and well adjusted, considering..........*ROFL* had I had a better marriage, I But one quality child is better than 3-4 ones that can and might (will) run ya ragged. And mine is not all that spoiled, CERTAINLY NOT FINANCIALLY that (on her own now for a long long time but around the corner...*whew*)

I DO get that, trose...and thanks :) [2007-11-11]
thanks for what you said....it I'm fine today but took mucho years of therapy from like 8-28..... And as a result of all that badness, I've been a better parent because of it... out of every bad thing that happens to one in life, something good and positive comes out from that........

Trose, I emailed you back... [2007-10-25]
This time with the right web address I hope. Let me know if the one I sent doesn't work...and I hope you enjoy the site!

above msg for trose..nm [2007-10-22]
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Here it is, trose - Khalil Gibran on Love [2007-10-15]
On Love When love beckons to you, follow him, Though his ways are hard and steep, And when his wings enfold you yield to him, Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you believe in him, Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden. For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun, So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth. Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself. He threshes you to make you naked. He sifts you to free you from your husks. He grinds you to whiteness. He kneads you until you are pliant; And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God For love is sufficient unto love. When you love you should not say, And to bleed willingly and joyfully. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving; To rest at the noon hour and meditate love To return home at eventide with gratitude; And to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips. http://www.maryourmother.net/Gibran.html

Trose -- I saw your post below [2007-10-01]
and just wondering how you are . . . hoping everything is okay. Please let us know when you can.

Trose I wouldn't let it go at that (sm) [2007-09-25]
I haven't chimed in until now, but I would go to the school and talk to the principal. My daughter is 7 and I can't even imagine someone doing that to her. Our kids are at the mercy of their teachers unless their parents stand up for them. They have no recourse against adults who treat them badly, unless we help them. It is not a matter of being overly sensitive. I wouldn't just hope that she gets reprimanded, I would see to it. I would request a meeting with her and the principal. I had to do this once when a teacher made my son clean feces off a bathroom wall - he reported it to her and she told him to clean it up. It wasn't his!! He would never have done something like that. So my son had to clean sh*t off a wall that wasn't his and be exposed to who knows what. I think it is good that you sent her an e-mail first, because that is documentation, which she knows, and that is why she did not respond to you in writing. You go mom! Keep your cool and remain calm but let them know it is unacceptable! I let too many things slide when my kids were even younger that I already regret. No more!

Trose: Update on swimming class [2007-09-24]
Funny you should bring this up again. I sent the gym teacher an email the night of the 19th and she never responded until today, AFTER I sent her another email with a copy to the district office asking her why she had not responded. She basically said that she didnsimple suggestion was too direct for someone who was apparently over-sensitive. Offered no apology, nothing. Her reply was not copied to the district office so I replied to her with a copy to the district office so her response went to them also. Since this incident last Wednesday, I have learned that this is certainly not an isolated incident but the kids were basically too scared to say anything about it. They feared that if they complained, she would fail them and has apparently threatened to do so. Basically, it is still unresolved. My daughter is back to swimming today so we will see if there are any further comments tonight when she gets home. I hope the teacher is at least reprimanded by the school district and maybe given some training on how to handle delicate situations with young girls going through the beginnings of puberty.

Hey trose, I've had many yard sales over the years and have [2007-09-04]
seem some pretty surprising stuff go on, only to watch people battle off and jump in their fancy cars. Iquarter? over and over and over trying to buy two folding lawn chairs and I kept saying, NO. She finally gave up and left. Ifancy cars and take off. Ifamily of Mexicans pile out of a very nice van and converge upon my yard sale with one person trying to keep my attention while their family members steal whatever they could from me. When I saw a one of the kids stick an X-Box game in his shirt, I told him he had to pay for it and he tried to walk away. When my husband came up on the boy, the father tried to start a fight with my husband. My neighbor called the police and when they arrived they had the adults and teens in cuffs and the children in the back of a unit. Turned out they were illegal and were arrested and hauled off and then a tow truck came and got the van. I haven't had a yard sale in a long, long time.

For Trose... (btw, this is my day off :) [2007-07-30]
If you want to know what you're going to be like in Heaven, what your Heavenly body is going to be like, it's going to be like you are now, only much more Heavenly, eternal, beautiful, wonderful, thrilling & glorious! (Phi.3:21) When the Lord created the cycles of butterflies & moths, He was illustrating resurrection. They hatch from eggs into little worm-like caterpillars. Then they wrap themselves up in a cocoon called a chrysalis, almost like a coffin, & it SEEMS they die! BUT THEN: Spring comes & suddenly the coffin splits open & out comes a beautiful butterfly or moth! Once it was just a little crawling worm, the most despised of all creatures, & all of a sudden it breaks out into a beautiful butterfly that flies in the heavens! -- One of the prettiest creatures! Like the difference between the grain of wheat & the full-grown, full-blown stock & head that comes from one grain, or the flower that comes from one tiny seed, that's how much better your new Heavenly body is going to be! It will be so much more wonderful, it will be like the difference between the seed & the flower! (1Cor.15:35-38, 42-58) You're going to be like the Angels of God! (Lk.20:36)

Trose - Heaven [2007-07-30]
Trose, I love the creativity of this site.. go down the page for the beautiful animated graphic, and oh the words underneath are awesome. http://www.angelfire.com/la2/OurAngel/Links.html

Trose - would love to hear what happened at your SS class. [2007-07-29]
nm

Trose, I don't believe in heaven, but I would teach SM [2007-07-29]
heaven to small children, until they are older and can grasp death in the reality of truth. Hmm,did that make any sense? It's late.

I too felt as you did. [2008-04-06]
I wanted to address the part about being a hypocrite and eating meat. I felt the same way as you do about this. I was a huge carnivore until I was 38, but always dreamed of being animal flesh free. I then went to an animal rights conference and forced myself to watch the undercover videos of the slaughter houses and that is what it took for me to stop. It was hard but so worth it. I once heard Alicia Silverstone say something to the effect if you can only eliminate one meat at a time that would be a way to start. But if you can't then you try to help the animals in other ways such as fostering as you tried. Fosterers are heros, I can't do it as I have huge issues about letting them go too like your daughter. We all just need to do what we can do. I haven't given up wearing leather shoes, though want to, but I say I am doing my part and when I can I will. I also still do dairy and hope to one day be totally vegan. Just know that if you are trying and helping to be a voice for the animals that is all you can do and try to move towards a more humane way of life in all areas of your life as you are able. When people say to me, well the dairy cows are the most cruely treated, why are you eating dairy, I say I am doing what I can for them at this moment, in the future when I can do more I will, but I am doing my part by eliminating meat. Good luck to you Trose, and thanks for helping the animals.

Here's How I Let a Friend Know It Didn't Matter To Me [2008-03-27]
TRose asked about this. One of my dearest friends has been living in the closet forever, as she feels it About 15 years ago it became apparent to me that something just didn She constantly talked about being in love with Jonathan, then somehow Joan would get thrown in the mix. For some reason I never got to meet Jonathan or even see a picture of him. There was always some reason why it didn't happen. One day as we discussed our love lives, I told her that it sounded to me like she That was my way of telling her I knew and wouldn I simply wanted her to know that she shouldn She was relieved. That Maybe something like this can work for you, too.

Being caucasian has NOTHING to do with it. [2008-01-07]
Like trose our family generally tries to look at old-age passings as a time to remember the person with gladness, be grateful for the amount of time they had with us, etc. Yes, we are sad and yes, we cry, but we donwallow in it the way trose is describing this family doing. And trose, I think you are doing what you can to help these people, the key word being DOING. It sounds like you are being a good friend to them. I wouldn't know what to say either and would probably just err on the side of saying little to nothing and patting people on the back.

My fellow transcriptionists..for tomorrow (sm) [2007-11-27]
I challenge one of you to come up with something very interesting for us all to talk with...co-workers we are, shooting the breeze. I have gone out on a limb and told you about my strange sitings...now someone else come up with something tomorrow - please? Hayseed? Trose? Some other interesting MT? :-)

Hey trose - I have A child...one...by choice...LOL [2007-11-15]
Hi trose! I knew I'd do GREAT with one and felt I'd be inundated with 2, especially since the husband was the 2nd child......in age and maturity...*lol*...I felt like I had TWO kids for 10 years.....I divorced him, got the kid, and she's TERRIFIC and close to both parents... Came out nice and well adjusted, considering..........*ROFL* had I had a better marriage, I But one quality child is better than 3-4 ones that can and might (will) run ya ragged. And mine is not all that spoiled, CERTAINLY NOT FINANCIALLY that (on her own now for a long long time but around the corner...*whew*)

thanks for update [2007-10-01]
Hi Trose, Glad you called your brother and went to your doc today....ERs on the wknd are rough. Hope you get feeling better soon.Keep us all updated. Cat

possible infection [2007-09-30]
Hi trose, If you Cat

swim class [2007-09-24]
Hi trose, Thank you forbeing so thoughtful and asking aboutswim class....Many responded, gave some great ideas, shared personal experiencesand were still concerned about the outcome.

Wednesday works [2007-09-16]
Hi trose, Wednesday will work...ya gettheinfo from the beginning of the week and what their plans for the wknd are. A relatively new tradition.....On Wednesdays, my mother (who is 70 years young) and my sister J (46) and her daughter Pricia - short for princess Patricia (3) all have a sit down dinner at J I remember theteenyearswith the boys....art shows and portfolios,the football, track and baseball practices and games,them trying to get dressed in the back seat of the carwhile trying to shove something down their throats and the part time jobs....I kinda miss it. Cat

quilt [2007-09-06]
Hi trose, Cherish your friend and the thoughts of herwhen you wrap up in it.....Quilting is becoming one of the lost arts. Iandstill have some works in progress. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7KLnCni68M Cat

addendum [2007-09-06]
Sorry, Happy MT....I was responding to you,.not trose.....ya get kinda blind at my agewith all this small print and fine stitches....your hands also start looking like claws. Cat

re: son's trip [2007-08-30]
HI Trose, I just want to say that this opportunity just might be what God will use to show your son where He wants him in ministry or use it to call him to the mission field. I know it is hard to let him go especially after what happened, but remember this....God will not allow that boy to die before his time and God is in control of his life! If your son is a strong christian, like my 17 yr old son who also wants to be a missionary, then He has given his life to the Lord and he wants to serve Him. Do not get in the way of the Lord using your son....Trust Jesus...He will protect him and guide him and direct him in all his ways....He goes before Him and is his rear guard....you can't help but allow him to be used of the Lord. My son is going to Thailand on his spring break this year as he is also a senior and loves the Lord and wants to serve Him on the mission field somewhere. We love him and want him to do what the Lord is calling him to do. It is hard to let them go, but Jesus is in control! God bless you and your son! IN HIM Jan

Trose - Heaven [2007-07-30]
Trose, I love the creativity of this site.. go down the page for the beautiful animated graphic, and oh the words underneath are awesome. http://www.angelfire.com/la2/OurAngel/Links.html

What do you do when husband... [2007-07-02]
Ditto totally trose. Permanently CLOSE his door except when dealing with/talking about children. Work hard at your job, totally concentrate on YOUR life and family. God is your refuge..will keep you safe and won't lead you wrong. You are strong (else you wouldn't be an mtmomof3) ... you can do this. Will remember you in my prayers.