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We have to think positive. [2008-08-29]
and hope that it dissipates. Big hope, I know. I donworst.

Proof positive that time-outs are nothing but [2008-08-25]

When she does something good, PRAISE HER. Reinforce positive behavior with rewards. [2008-07-17]
Lighten up, Mom. This is your child, whom you unconditionally love. Maybe you need Nanny 911 or Super Nanny who seem to be able to see under currents of passive agressive behaviors in parents when it comes to their challenging children. This may be your fight as much as your daughters. I say this because you are so dependent on getting others to be on your side.

Gee thanks for the positive feedback [2008-05-26]
I beg your pardon but I am certainly NOT spoiled. I have been in a marriage with someone who likes to point out all my flaws and correct me constantly, someone who told me I am just average looking and someone who has not touched me in over a year. I am staying for my children and have been staying for the last 6 years I've been miserable. Don't you dare judge me. Have you ever had your self-esteem taken away, your self-worth. A husband should tell his wife and think that she is beautiful, not average my dear.....I feel worthless and hopeless and ugly and hurt so please refrain from calling me selfish and putting me down - have enough of that already. Words of encouragement are needed.

Positive sayings from your childhood [2008-05-14]
What sayings do you remember your parents telling you?Do unto others as you would have them do onto you.

that doesn't sound very positive!! [2008-05-14]
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anything positive come out of this letter? [2008-05-07]
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thanks for all of the positive responses! [2008-05-06]
I did not think i was being negative at all, but here are two responses I got: So you say the only things they do is fight for our country and rights and help out in times of need. What do you think that consists of? How many lives have been given since 1776 to secure and protect those rights? Have you ever looked at the freedoms we have and the wealth we enjoy? What more do you expect the military to do? Wash your clothes. We are the only truly free nation in the world and it is because men and women have chosen to join our military and fight to give you those freedoms that you don't seem to understand. and Ma'am, thanks for giving me a subject for my Memorial Day speech in our community. The subject will be: Americans who have no idea what military heroes have done and are doing for us, thereby humiliating our sacrifices.

Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. SM [2008-04-23]
I hope your son realizes we all make mistakes (including him) and that he finds it in his heart to forgive. Your grandchildren need to know you and vice versa. I truly hope it all works out for you. My dad and I were estranged even after I repeatedly attempted to reconcile and he died without ever meeting my children. So sad.

sending positive thoughts [2008-04-23]
Hope everything works out for you. . My brother and his daughter have barely spoken to each other for over 12 years. . He now has 2 grandchildren. . I hope he will make that same first step you are making to mend fences. . Life is short - it's time for you to enjoy your grandchildren!

Great and positive post. - nm [2008-01-24]
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Thanks for all your positive help, case closed sm [2007-12-23]
I am going to close thisquery now. I have had many wonderful e-mails and help on the board which I can print (well, most) and make a little portfolio for him to get some ideas. His wife has been working double shifts nursingto make ends meet and he has been caring for the kids and doing all to make the holiday reasonably good for them. Heresearching and the company is very impressed with all the research heand are going to travel hereto meet him and work with him to get him started, Everyone is positive and anxious tomake this new innovative product introduction a success.There are no coincidences and paying it forward has been our familyto all who e-mailed and posted positive little hints to ease the transition, we are from a small rural area and am not familiar with that area. ThankGod for good people in the Christmas Spirit. Iname and feel fully rewarded. I will continue to pay it forward myselfand Godbless you great people. We had a death inhis wifefamily over the holidays which we were unprepared for and travel arrangements, funeral plans, babysitting, eulogy, etc.had to be prepared,and youmade our life so much easier and renewed our faith. I will close the subject now, it has been a lesson in life, that God Bless!

Try to be more positive sm [2007-12-21]
I am trying very hard to see my cup as half full, not half empty. I hope I can carry this throughout the year. In the meantime, I have only a few days leftto work on it so I shall start practicing. Hope I can keep it up. My husband says I could be president of Worriers Anonymous! I think I can, I think I can - I shall! Happy New Year! Good subject.

positive thoughts for a friend [2007-11-26]
Let me start by saying I can Just when I think I have heard just about everything, something else comes up. My neighbor is the sweetest lady you could ever meet. The whole family is very nice and very giving. I have known them since I was very little and she used to babysit me and my sibs. Three years ago, her daughter was a junior in high school and ended up pregnant by one of the jocks. They dated for over a year but as soon as she ended up pregnant, he would have nothing to do with her (typical huh?.) I might also add that while his family is fairly well off, her family is not as fortunate but they are comfortable. The daughter decided to keep the baby and raise him with the help of her family since she was not getting help from the father of her little boy. I have kept him on occasion too and I just love this little guy. Stacy finished high school and struggled to get her nursing degree, making a nice living for herself and Michael. Last April, Stacy Not a gigantic sum of money but nothing to sneeze at. Let's say its a couple hundred thousand. After almost 4 years of nothing from Michael Of course, he has heard there is some money now! Apparently daddy has cut him off for some recent bad behavior and I won Not only that, his mommy now calls Stacy all the time wanting to see her grand baby. Oh BARF! Give me a break! Michael will be FOUR very very soon and NOW they want to see him? Something really stinks. Please send Stacy positive thoughts. I don He really broke her heart when he just started pretending he never even knew her. He doesn't deserve her or Michael.

Well...have taken 3 different self-assessments & all 3 are positive! (sm) [2007-11-21]
score is about 7 out of 10 on all of them. I don't know whether to be upset or happy. I guess I should be happy because maybe I can get some help with it.

I think it started in the movie Clueless - not positive, but I think [2007-11-19]
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I turned 40 today! Please tell me something positive about it! [2007-10-09]
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I am 50! You are younger than me. How is that for positive??? nm [2007-10-09]
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Thanks you all for the positive posts. [2007-08-30]
I didn't think anyone would tell me not to let him go and that is exactly what I needed. I guess all along I knew I would not be able to keep him here, my heart would hurt too much to see his heart hurt if I did say no. I know I am supposed to just turn it all over to the Lord, but sometimes that is really hard to do. I will continue praying about it and I know that will help give me some peace. Thanks again to all.

Are you positive... [2007-05-25]
you don't have deer?? I have to keep a cage around my roses because the deer think the buds are a delicacy. I just had all of mine lopped off last night by a hungry deer. What makes me the maddest is that they sometimes leave a mess and don't even eat them all, just cut them off. We bought this stuff at Home Depot called Liquid fence. It smells terrible, but the animals won't eat what is sprayed. Your roses won't stink though if you like to cut them for the house.

Thanks for the positive feedback [2007-04-04]
I was just sharing a story.

Daughter was 4 y/o with headaches. Turned out to be positive for Lyme. Never [2007-03-28]
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Results came back positive...I have breast CA. [2007-03-27]
Will correspond with you via e-mail.

Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now! [2007-02-12]
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RE: Has anyone every had positive prenatal testing for Down and then found out everything was fine? [2007-01-30]
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Hubby with hearing and greedy problems [2008-11-30]
Dear NOT Silly Girl, I am a clinical psychologist and now teach medical transcription. I lost my deaf old sweetie 2 years ago. He was incredibly vain about wearing aids and/or his glasses. FINALLY got him to an audiologist in Canada (half the price than here in US) but getting him to wear the aids was another matter. Solved it by training just like dog or horse. Yep! Intermittent positive reinforcement - rewards, treats, smooches, etc. I told him I would only go out to dinner or shopping with him if he wore the hearing aids. Refused to go out of house with him unless he had them on -- and he loved going out! It worked, except then I still had to repeat everything 3 times inside! Many, many frank discussions also helped. Turned out he was incredibly vain and thought he looked old with hearing aids. I finally convinced him that shouting at people REALLY made him look old. He got contacts instead of glasses. As to self-centeredness, that has to be educated out of him, too. All this takes time. Just talk to him about values whenever he acts that way, and when he stops the selfishness, reward him. That is not acceptable behavior in an adult -- and I would tell him so directly. Good luck. Rosie By the way, I would take

Anyone go through a divorce w/younger kids? sm [2008-11-20]
Iit just isn while I have always felt you don't throw around the word divorce unless you mean it. Well, I mean it now. I gave him an ultimatum - straighten himself out or I leave with the kids. I am not going to go through 5 years of this again. It is affecting the kids, and my son is acting out to the point of saying he wishes he had never been born. I am giving my husband until after Christmas to decide what he is going to do, and if he does not value our marriage more than his alcohol, I am moving out of state. This is not to keep him away from the kids but because my parents (divorced also) are in a different state than I am and I have no family at all here. Has anyone had to make a decision like this? I donno other options. He refuses to go to counseling or to see a doctor about what I am positive is depression. Any tips or suggestions? Sorry to dump on everyone like this, thanks for reading.

Grapes of Wrath had an accompanying movie sm [2008-11-14]
Tobacco Road - never saw such depressing movies back-to-back in my life, but they were truthful. Saw them in college for history lessons. Can you believe some people are going to put more on their kids by telling them he truth about Santa in this awful time? Talk about depression -- did we come this far to go back in attitude - read some of the above posts - probably born again and saved and we are the lost. I doubt it, I think we have lived it and don't want to see that negative attitude again. Oh boy, flaming, her we come. I am going on a 2-week hiatus. Fight on! Worse than the politics board - too much negativism in what is already a troubled time. Think positive! Geez! Santa, I love you!

good for you, wondered how you [2008-11-12]
were doing. I am so happy for you. The decision you made was a good positive one and that alone would improve your outlook and mood.

Moses sign? [2008-11-12]
Hello, Has anyone heard of Moses sign? Dictated as Moses and Homans Found Homans' sign, but nothing on Moses sign? Thanks!

Let's flip the coin on the holiday talk [2008-11-12]
Share one of your favorite memories, a food that you look forward to on the holidays, someone you look forward to seeing or something you look forward to doing...traditional, unconventional, doesn Share something positive about the holidays. My favorite foodswould be sweet potatoes and pumpkin pie with real whip cream for Thanksgiving and christmas cookies. My favorite memory is for Thanksgiving because that was our side of the families holiday as a child and no one brought presents. It was truely all about family, friends,and happy times. We never had a large family but everyone we knew was invited for Thanksgiving. I also remember looking for something to do after Christmas morning. It usually ended up being that we would go to the movies or K-Mart. Pretty much everything else was closed but I think we went through the entire phonebook every year looking for something to do the rest of the day. I don A few days later I gave her a bath. She never talked again. lol

Thanks for the tip!! s/m [2008-11-12]
I love Oprah, usually watch her every day. I just hope the Oprah bashers on this board are not hypocritical enough to take advantage of this free gift. How could anyone dislike someone who has given back so much and made such a positive impact on the world?

To sky........ [2008-11-11]
I wanted to explain that intelligence should not make us unhappy. If it does, then something is not right with this person. Our intelligence should bring us positive things not negative things. If somebody is highly intelligent and he cannot use it in a positive way, this is also a kind of stupidity or he has an emotional problem. I reject also the opinion that alcoholism is an 'inherited' disease. Whatever all this studies say, I think that alcoholism is a self-inflicted' disease. How can a person who destructs himself be intelligent? And this is also a sin. Nowadays the parents, and ESPECIALLY the mother, are blamed for everything that goes wrong with the children.

Absolutely. [2008-11-05]
As an MT I cannot stand transcribing a social history that states smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day but denies the use of alcohol or drugs and then has a positive alcohol or marij. screen. Why is one of the 3 considered acceptable in society and the others are not? To me, they are all essentially at the same level. They all have addictive properties and the potential for longterm complications, bad decisions, etc. If marij. has the potential of doing some good for anyone then I think it should be legalized. Another good point you bring up is the cost of housing the so called criminals who have use it recreationally and could have just as easily used recreational alcohol and been involved in a drunk driving incident. It's all about education and setting limits. Sure there have to be guidelines but I don't think all should be punished because of the few exceptions.

I made Cinnebons with my bread machine one year. [2008-11-02]
That was the year I heard the most positive comments back. Loved them! Used disposable 8 x 8 tins and wrapped them up pretty with red and green Saran wrap. Over the years I have gotten the plastic trays that are shaped like Santa or something like that and made cookies, fudge, made 1 of the slots mixed nuts and mints. Those also went over well, especially the families with kids.

That is terrible. [2008-10-28]
I come from a family where there are a few members that leave a lot to be desired. Usually the person on the other end of the conversations receives hurtful comments such as yours. My mom puts up with it but I donwrong but them. I think it is a wise decision to just avoid them for a while. It's very sad but your husband will be better off without more hurtful comments eating away at an already difficult relationship and situation.

to the lady with hot hands [2008-10-22]
Sorry I have not responded. Been busy for a change, lol. Thanks for the kind words. I actually am not on any medication right now for the RA. I switched rheumatologists a few months ago, and because my bloodwork was so very mildly positive and because I am hypermobile, they decided to see what would happen if I were taken off my Plaquenil. Proud to say I stiffened up after a few months, but my blood work is still not showing much inflammation, even though my rheumatoid factor has increased. I also decided to not try any of the other medications. I know, it sounds risky and perhaps even stupid, but I just got off some harsh medications for another condition and I am kind of bucking the system. Because I have not had a flareup (that I am aware of, and i think those are hard to miss) since I stopped the medication, I am going to play it by ear, see what happens. I did find out last week that my thyroid has finally tanked, and have started Synthroid for that. Poor thing was tested so many times and never came back abnormal. Anyhow, I would talk to my doc if I were you about all the autoimmune disorders, have them run some blood tests and see if anything shows up. Here is another tip I have just learned- both with thyroid and with RA - even if your blood work shows up negative, if you have all the clinical symptoms of disease/disorder/syndrome x, they should consider treating for it. I waited at least three years for a diagnosis on the RA, and my main symptom was the feeling yucky and sick but not sick all the time. It just had not shown up in my bloodwork until about a year ago, and by the time it had, I wasted a lot of time being tired. Oh, also check your vitamin D. Sorry so rambly. Good luck HC

Christmas gifts will be practical sm [2008-10-22]
Fortunately, was able to start today but bought warm, fuzzy clothing, will put a little something to play with in with that to lessen the blow of clothes! I have grandkids and they don't want clothes. Kohls had some great lounge pants at 50% off, Guitar Hero, Mario Bros., etc. Used another 15% coupon off. The grownups are getting warm PJ's,etc., working DIL will get something to wear to work. I was poor as a kid, and I can remember getting a 16-color paint set and thought I'd hit the lottery. I went to Michaels Craft Store and bought some craft kits instead of toys today with coupons. I don't think I'll be too popular this year but I'm being practical. I know it isn't what the holiday is about and think many are going to be suffering. I can remember my mom rooting plants early on, buying white cotton cloth, and every grown up got a beautiful plant and a home-sewn apron. I know what it's like to have lean Christmases and if you can start now, you can come up with something basic if possible. I hope the house of cards does not blow down any further for us. I feel for those struggling to make ends meet, everything is affected. I will probably spend much less. Church bazaars are good for some things as well, every little bit helps. Gift for transcriptionist? HoMedica's heated rolling massager on sale, helps with the back problem and husband uses it also,best gift I ever received (aside from home made cookies and brownies). I hope some positive change is in the air for everyone so no one goes without this holiday season, especially the children.

Don't Enable [2008-10-17]
You need to nip this in the bud, literally, right now while you still have the opportunity to reach your son. I had the same parenting style you did. I too hid my sonall teens try it. I too had a husband who would have kicked my son out of the house to teach him a lesson. How I wish I could do it over. My oldest son is now addicted to meth and just got released from prison after 8-1/2 years. Buy your son a home drug kit and test him immediately. Continue to do so (especially after weekends). Sit your husband down and decide TOGETHER how tosave your son. If he pops positive, get him into treatment immediately. Drugs are absolutely destroying our children's lives. Get on top of the problem while you still can. Being a Mom is not a popularity contest. It is a serious responsibility that means a lot of uncomfortable decisions. My oldest is lost to drugs. I learned from my mistakes and my other 4 children didn't dare even try drugs. Learned The Hard Way

Talking with a nonChristian about Jesus [2008-10-17]
I have been reading this and I just wanted to offer a few thoughts: 1) No, you cannot go up to someone and say YOU ARE A SINNER! REPENT and expect a positive reaction. I think that God will give you opportunities to talk to people. When those opportunities arise, you ask for their permission to speak with them about it. If they say no, you drop it. I believe that God will open the hearts of those who are ready to hear it. If they do give you permission, you donYOU are a sinner because I saw YOU lying to so and so, I heard that YOU were sleeping with so and so and you At the moment of witnessing to someone, you better believe Satan is standing right there waiting for you to slip up so he can turn it against you. I think a better thing would be to say Well God tells us in the Bible that WE are ALL sinners no matter what we do. That is why we need Jesus. 2) Back you're claims up with Bible verses. That way no one thinks you are saying this in you're own words. Some good Scripture for witnessing: Romans 3:23 - For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God Romans 6:23 - For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord. John 3:3 - Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily I say unto thee, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 14:6 - Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. These are just some to get you started. If the person you are talking to has opened their heart to hearing you, I doubt they won't want to hear the verses. 3) If you get a positive reaction, don't leave them to figure out the rest by themselves. Support them, invite them to church, introduced them to other loving Christians. Look, our nation is at war, but we are in a much bigger war. Satan is wreaking havoc in our nation and for to long we have sat by and let him. But just because the situation is dire does not mean we can just stand on our soap boxes and start proclaiming out loud that everyone is a sinner and they must all repent now. It requires personal connections with people. All throughout the Bible you read about Jesus having a personal connection. He spoke to people one on one. He allowed them to discuss the issue with Him, to question Him. One of his disciples even doubted Him! I know many of us, myself included, probably questioned all the way up to the aisle before we gave our lives over to Him. It is our nature to do so. As much as we all pray for a revival in this nation and in our churches, I doubt it will happen. Any of you who have studied and believe in the Bible know the time is drawing near. It is also said that every nation will turn against us before He comes. It's time to come together and be ready to support one another, because times are going to get tough. If you are sitting on the fence, you better choose a side, because Satan owns that fence. Call me crazy, call me fanatical. But I KNOW that my Lord is the living Christ, and I know that he will come back, and I am much more concerned about what He thinks about me then what YOU think about me! :) True Christians love everyone. We just hate sin. I hate that I sin everyday. But I thank God that I can ask for forgiveness and He gives it. All this mess about oh you Christians hate gay people, hate abortion supporters, hate blacks, etc is simply not true. I have friends who are gay. I love them just as much as I love my Christian brothers and sisters. I just don't love the sin. Abortion is a sin. And I'm not sure why you say we hate black people unless you're saying it's because we don't vote for Obama, but black is just another color and Jesus doesn't pay attention to color, therefore neither should we, and I believe most of us don't. The ones that do are sinning and will have to ask for forgiveness. If anyone is seriously interested in discussing this or just wants to talk, please email me. If you just want to be hateful and bash, please, just save it.

Government has nothing to do with this particular [2008-10-16]
were 'banned'. This teacher isn't teaching 'strong political views'. She's just including her class in a positive experience. There's already far too much negativity taught in school, church, and at home.

Paul Newman [2008-09-27]
I feel Paul Newman was/is a man with much integrity and has done so many positive things in his life. I can relate to the blessing of having a long-time marriage (I am half his age but have been married over 20 years to a wonderful guy). I must have seen Cool Hand Luke dozens of times in my life. Paul never had to push himself towards others to leave a provoking and lasting impression on the positive side. I am glad he is no longer suffering. Now, heaven is able to enjoy those wonderful, full-of-life blue eyes.

If I suspected that my child was being [2008-09-24]
dangerous with driving - for any reason (drugs, alcohol, whatever), I would take the license. Not sure if that's an option in ur state, but I did it here. One of my sons let his friend drive the car while they were all drinking - result? License gone for 6 months. As far as the drugs, can you talk with your daughter? My children were always pretty upfront with me. Didn't really like some of the things that they did, but at least I knew what was going on. I took them to the PCP and had them drug tested - neither of them came up positive, but one did tell me that he had been smoking pot. In my experience (and my sons are now 21 - twins), taking away things that mean something to them is the best and only punishment at that age, but you canfreak out. Take the car and any other privileges away from her and tell her she can have them back when she earns them. These things - car, cell phones, t.v., stereo, any other toys - are not a right they are privileges. Hope this helps.

I understand you - thanks for your post [2008-09-18]
It is a hard thing to go through (both for the person going through it the and person who lives with the person going through it). I think its at this time we ask ourselves - is there more to life, what is our goal in life, etc. You do sound like my DH. We have talked many times about left-sided and right-sided brain people. I think you are probably like him (artistic, sees things in picture form, and doesnlive a certain way (that is get the job, build your retirement, buy a house, have kids, etc, etc and headaptable. I go whereever and make things work. I have the attitude of whatever happens happens, nothing is forever, and adapt. I guess maybe because Iis this all there is to life, I doubt it was a crisis - if so probably the shortest midlife crisis in history (lasted about 5 hours). HA HA HA. On the positive side of it we have talked extensively and I know herock for him. Yesterday he told me I'm lucky becauase I know what I wanted and stuck with it (MT school and MT jobs). I told him the job does get very tiring and there are a lot of times when I don't think my fingers will type another word (yeah, so I come to this website and type more HA HA HA). Today he joked and said maybe I ought to go back to school and get retrained doing something else because at least I stick with it. Anyway...hopefully he'll find something. He did start going over his resume so it may be a step.

I forgot to tell you bout mine [2008-09-17]
Sometimes I feel like Iwhen he grows up. Heblasted by him for about an hour telling me how negative I was and how is he ever supposed to find something he wants to do if I'm so negative. He's talked about wanting to go back to school to learn a trade but we don't have the money for him to do that and thanks to the way the country is going, what he used to do is not around anymore. BTW - For all those who will just blast me with just tell him this or just tell him that), you cannot just tell your DH to quit whining and get a job - does not work. :-) Anyway...just wondered if this is male menopause he's going through and how much longer its going to last. I haven't even started my menopause yet and I would at least like him to be through his before I go through mine (that will not be a pretty sight). :-)

Research [2008-08-27]
I think one would really have to research this to get a decent handle on it. I believe some have said that global warming will actually end up causing an ice age ... all that cause and effect stuff can seem so nonsensical sometimes. Even if it is happening on its own, I'm sure what we do affects our planet. How can it not? Everything has consequence. It seems that it is better to do what is positive for the environment regardless of if it would prevent abnormal global warming or not. Why not err on the side of caution? For those of you who read the bible (and take it literally) ... I think people made fun of Noah when he built the ark, too.

Nope, not me [2008-08-25]
I'm just little ol me. I've worked for the same company for 3 years and love my job so I wouldn't be able to give any information (useful or not useful) to anyone. Also for new MT questions...I leave that for the QA or more experienced MTs to answer. I do try to stay positive. In fact one time my SIL told me that my attitude on life is way too positive and wondered if I ever get mad. :-)

What's inappropriate to some... [2008-08-24]
is dead on the money for others. Some become uncomfortable when posts hit close to home, resulting in bashing of others.In a nutshell, we donThere are others outthere who agree with me,believe it or not. A lot of you here just wallow in your self-pity and poor me attitudes. No wonder the other board is so much better, there are positive attitudes over there.

thanks, all, for your input sm [2008-08-22]
i found a message board birth control pill forum and the experiences these women have had with BC pills is interesting. there were a lot more negative complaints about Yaz than positive. i'm really skeptical about taking pills that mess with hormones. i'm considering not taking it at all. i've had this pms stuff for years, just tired of the bloating feeling. mostly when i'm ovulating, when i bloat it feels like pressure on my bladder and i pee a lot more when i'm ovulating. sometimes i wish i didn't have my uterus any more. as far as weight gain, everyone is different. my dad's side of the family gais weight soooooo easy. my mom's side they can eat whatever they want and the don't gain weight. unfortunately, i took after my dad's side of the family. i gain weight really easily and i know it's about controling what i eat. but i can't help but think there are other factors in weight gain too. people with diabetes tend to gain weight easily. i think some of you are being a little harsh on us weight gainers. there can be other factors other than food. when i was in my early 20s and went on the pill, i gained weight. but i have to say, i have to work harder at my weight (eating better and exercising) so i don't feel like a lazy person. i do feel like i'm a healthy person, but i just have to work harder.

My husband works in retail and just [2008-08-19]
won a shirt at his store because 25 customers took the time to fill out positive customer service feedback cards about him. That's a lot of people to take the time to write a note!