Unfortunately, your scenario is not

Unfortunately, your scenario is not [2008-07-01]
When asked if her insurance already paid the claim and what she would do with the money, she would not answer. She simply replied that putting the $800 in her pocket was not insurance fraud and that the dog owner should not benefit from something that she She also stated that it would be cheaper to pay her the $800 than it would be to have to go through homeowner's insurance. I Unfortunately, I think the poster is trying to take advantage of the situation. She

Vote please on clothes buying scenario for kids...sm [2007-08-25]
Scenario: 15-year-old finished growing 2 years ago, stable sizes. 8-year-old growing like a weed, can It The 15-year-old thinks they should also get the same amount of money to spend on clothes - even though they have plenty to wear in their closet and state they have nothing in particular they wantand make money doing neighborhood chores as well as chores around the house. Also before school began both kids were given $100 to buy their school supplies and clothes.The 8-year-old spent the clothing portion on pants and newsneakers, the teenager spent it on various clothing items. Would you: 1. Do it even though they don 2. Tell them that you Which way do you vote?

Need your opinions. Here is the scenario....this is true and it sm [2007-07-31]
happened today. If you lied to your spouse about something not that big, but you knew that they would flip out if you told them the truth, would you continue on with the lie?I know, you would think this is a no-brainer, but it really isn't. My husband will probably succum to the effects of his high BP because he gets so worked up over really dumbstuff. It The kids spill water on the carpet and he rants and raves and goes running for towels telling them how irresponsible they are. I am not exaggerating. It- even little things because it's slowly killing him by stressing him out. He doesn't even know what it's like to have a peaceful, calm mind. Anyways, he cornered me tonight about something and I flat out lied. It is not really my nature to do so, it just came out! The horrible thing about this: My 5 year old looked at me like, Mom, that My heart broke in two! I can I know I must take responsibility for my actions, but why does he have to act so da** ignorant over little things? It's almost like he leaves me no choice. I could literally just walk out today and not look back and probably not regret much. He makes my skin crawl a lot of the times with his over reacting ways. I would hate to think that I am the one contributing to his awful ways......He did scream in my face and tell me I was the most irresponsible person he's ever met...ahh, the joys of marriage.

What do you think of this scenario? [2007-02-15]
Okay, I just had to have a safe place to share this. Can I tell you a story? Forty-one years ago, when I was thirteen, I got my first kiss. I lived on an American base in Germany at the time. He was a sophomore and I was an 8th grader. I had asked him to the Sadie Hawkins Day dance the next Friday. He really seemed to like me. Then on Friday, at the door to the dance he suddenly decided to go stag. I was absolutely devastated, but for some reason didn I figured it was something I I moved away less than a year later. Fast forward - It I I get a message on Classmates.com that he I email him, say hi - my husband flakes out. I promise I won My curosity gets the best of me and I set up a secret email account and email him. He lives 900 miles away but on the same coast, but the connection is immediate and strong and irresistable. We There But we So now I Half of it is by email, half of it is reality here at home. I Feedback, anyone?

What do you think of this scenario? [2007-02-15]
I agree totally. You will regret this decision. Think about your family - YOUR CHILDREN. Surely you don't want to turn their lives upside down.

This scenario... [2007-02-15]
Looks like you've got lots of good advice. I agree that you need to think of how it would make you feel if you're husband were doing this. You wouldn't feel good. It wouldn't make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside. Do unto others as you'd have done unto you. You shouldn't have this kind of secret between you and your husband. You need to remember what drew you to him in the first place. Remember the man you fell in love with and who has been there by your side for all these years. He deserves better than this. I don't mean to sound condescending either. I'm just hoping to help you steer clear of this because you are married, and you have a committment to your husband to be true. This isn't being true. JMO

I know I mentioned about the gift [2008-11-24]
but it really isn't so much about that but that she can't find 5 minutes to stop by for my shower. It's right by her house. Maybe she invited me to her wedding reception thinking that I wouldn't come and would just send a gift? I don't know. I am just hurt more than upset. It makes me feel like she doesn't even try but I guess the gift was her way of trying and my life is just in a different, more mature, place than hers. Having a baby puts life into perspective very quickly. Thank you for the kind words. I hear this scenario with a lot of people but guess I just thought that wasn't us since we still talk and see each other often. But you are right, I can't let the relationship be one-sided either.

I had lost about 30%. in my IRA. My [2008-11-21]
broker put my money into some type of annuity where I am guaranteed not to LOSE any more money for the next year. If on my anniversary date I am below my original balance, I retain that balance. If I have acutally made a little, I do get that and then am guaranteed that amount until my next anniversary date where the same scenario occurs. It is in lower-making funds, but at least I can't lose any more.

nursing home - hardest decision ever sm [2008-11-09]
I had also made those promises to my folks, Dad was kept home on hospice 14 months, he had suffered brain damage from not being found for hours and was awful to all of us but we managed with a hospital bed, hospice and nurses, however, my whole family fell apart, fighting, etc., until he fell so many times and was so sick, we called 911 one night for help and hospice literally threw us out of the program. You are supposed to call them (in my state anyway) and they will sit with you while you watch them take their last breaths. Could not go through with that. Then we had no choice but nursing home, they took every cent they could get their hands on without touching my momshow up to check on them. Sometimes theyassisted living scenario, and after they clean out the bank book, they put them in a nursing home anyway, so thatsandwich generation between what to do with the parent and if you have kids, what is best for them. Itshow up and if you don it's tough to walk that walk. Take care, hopefully you will make the right decision. In some states you can have her in a nursing home and if she qualifies, you can also have hospice go in there for special care such as you desire for her comfort. Good luck, know we are all thinking of you.

What is your opinion of this? [2008-09-02]
The scenario is...a husband and wife who are limited financially. The husband is between jobs but gets a small unemployment payment each week. The wife works every day. They are driving somewhere and stop to get gas in their car and she asks him how much he is going to put in. He says ten dollars. She hands him $20 and tells him not to just get $10, but to go ahead and put more in, then she thinks about it and hands him $10 more and says just go ahead and get $40, and maybe it will last us through the week. He goes to the pump and pumps in $30!! Because she was looking at the gas pump to see if he was about finished and ready to go, she sees that he only pumped in $30. When he gets in the car, he doesn't say anything to her about the amount he got, and as he starts to leave the station he notices that she is angry! He realizes why and starts to tell her that he decided to keep the $10 to put gas in HIS car at home a little bit later. She feels like he cheated her in some way by taking the 30 and using it, but saving his own 10 (no matter what the reason) because when they originally pulled up to the gas station, he was planning to use the 10 he had and nothing more, yet after she voluntarily offered him the 30, he didn't use his 10 at all, and didn't even tell her that he was going to do it that way. This has caused a really big fight between them that she says is rocking their marriage. They are at the point of not speaking to each other over this! What is your opinion about this story? btw, this isn it's a lady I talk to on another forum (some back ground information on him...he is notorious for getting 5 and 10 dollars worth of gas at a time, and having to keep stopping for gas many times because that much just doesna few dollars worth! She gets really upset with him for doing it this way and says that he should take the total amount that he will be getting in small increments and put that whole amount in at once. She says it will go further)

Please listen up........JMO [2008-07-09]
I had a male family member that went to stay with cousin every summer. His parents would see attitude changes, a little anxiety maybe afterwards, but he was a high strung kid. Years later, around 21 years, he told his parents the cousin molested him. They even had this kid come to their home for summer. Their child never said anything because he felt because he was a family member, the family would be upset with him or cause family problems, even though his parents had always talked to their children about anyone, including family members, that may touch or act inappropriately toward them to come and tell them immediately. It was devistating to the parents. I feel so sorry for them. They can't stand to be around their own nephew but their child does not want anyone else to know. But because of his age, they don't know what else to do but not say anything because he has asked them not to. I don't mean to sound negative, but I would have second thoughts now letting a male child go stay with another male child, especially one a little older. That really opened my eyes to just how things happen under the wire and you don't know, no matter how in tune you think you are with your child. Sorry to turn this into a worst case scenario but just be aware.

Obviously, yes this is just you! These girls have been violated. sm [2008-06-03]
Let me see.......how many teen CHOOSE to have sex with 40 year olds. I am not really meaning by choice but what is ACCEPTED in their culture/religion. None. I live in the dam bible belt and hate it. I am not religious. I am realistic and this whole case scenario was not even realistic. The State of Texas by returning those children made a HUGE mistake. A cult is a cult is a cult but we should protect the children from these types of situation.

Suggestions [2008-04-28]
I would like to know if anyone has suggestions for this. It's a touchy subject with my sister so I never bring it up, it's regarding my nephews weight and suggestions to help him lose. I'm not a skinny minny (weight 190 pounds myself so its not like I'm a skinny person offering a just go on a diet suggestion -sis herself weighs about 230 pounds). Problem with nephew is he is mentally retarded (special, slow or whatever you want to call it). He turned 20 years old this past November but he still plays with Power Rangers, watches cartoons, and has the mind of a 12 year old in some ways. He does not have the capacity to think like a regular 20-year-old. So...he is overweight....way way overweight. I don't live back there but sis says he weighs 340 pounds and he eats like a pig. She can control his eating pattern while he is at home but the problem is he eats like no tomorrow at work. He also has his bike andwill ride down to McDonalds. She's had people she knows watch him and when he's caught he tells these people to mind their own business. Sis and her DHhave talked and talked to him, but nothing sinks in. He tells them he is not fat. She got so mad one time because he refused to listen that she told him he was the size of a pregnant woman. . He became very irate and was screaming and yelling he was not. Then proceeded to bang his head into the wall in one of his fits. He has these a lot when he's caught doing something wrong or is upset about a problem. He does not know how to handle emotion so he balls his fists up and punches himself over and over in the head or bangs his head against the wall. She took him to his pediatrician and the pediatrician told her there is nothing wrong. She was livid. I told her to take him to a regular doc and she said he can still see the pediatrician up until 21. I didn't say anything because she gets very defensive but I almost said he may be a child in the mind, but he has the body of an adult now. They adopted him from south america, so not sure what health problems or body habitus people from that country have (some countries have naturally large people - like Samoans and other cultures). He also haswhat could be the onset of early diabetes, although the doc never came out for sure and told her he has it. I told her that the only thing I am worried about is that ifhe doesn't get his weight down or if his diabetes gets out of control hethe worst scenario would be that he could have problems and end up losing toes, foot, hand, or whatever. She said to me, oh sure, that's all we need is to give him nightmares. I told her not to tell him because he can't handle it, but if she doesn't do something she needs to know this is the worse that could happen. She said she was thinking about taking him to weight watchers and I told her I doubt very much he would listen to the speakers there. I've seen these commercials for weight loss pills, but of course am very skeptical about weight loss products advertised on TV. Does anyone have any suggestions. The only thing I can think of is getting him to both a regular doc or nutritionist and also a psychiatrist to help deal with his I'm not fat attitude (I certainly can offer no intelligent suggestions to her as I have no idea how to deal with her situation). However, she can't afford either doc or psychiatrist so wanted to come up with some suggestions to offer her.

Very sorry for your loss..sm [2008-03-29]
You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her. Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention. You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go. You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did. When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there. A scenario I never imagined. I was incosolable because, let It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out. You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out. Please write again and let us know how you are doing. ((((hugs))))

Webkinz Sherbet bunny. UPS just delivered! [2008-03-11]
This MT is silly looking, a middle aged woman, doing a crazy dance, because the SHERBET BUNNY I got my son just arrived from UPS today and I did not pay an arm and a leg! Now I want one! LOL. Just had to share a silly little scenario with you all. This is true... this MT is jumping for joy for that cute Sherbet BUNNY!

Maverick [2008-03-09]
I'm so sorry to hear about Maverick. My son's lab died from parvo just recently. It was the same scenario and very devastating for him and his family. He was told to treat the dog area in the yard with bleach/water combination. Evidently the dog that lived there before died from parvo also.

On the flip side of the coin....sm [2008-02-06]
If he knew this other person and wanted to warn you ahead of time that she wanted to stir up trouble... I'd start asking him some questions. How does he know her and you don't? What proof does he have that she is the one spreading rumors and why would she? Why did he feel the need to warn you beforehand? Just a casual observer here, and not having much info to go on and respecting your desire not to state such info... but what I see is something that resembles a scenario where HE did something wrong and SHE either knew about it or was involved in it and threatened to tell you about it, so he had to ''warn'' you about her ahead of time so as to discredit her so his ''secret'' didn't get out. Just my opinion and I hope for your sake I'm wrong... Hang in there and take the advice from some of the others here... watch closely, take notes, and my additional advice....trust no one. Good luck!

Kind of sounds a little like my situation sm [2008-02-04]
several years ago, not the same scenario but the end result is the same. I worked very closely-40 hours a week- next to a gal and we became good friends. I have severe irritable bowel flare ups and routinely need a small-bowel follow through. Anyway, that particular year we were giving gift exchanges for Christmas. I looked around and found a real cute little fish paperweight and gave it to her. I was off the day she gave me mine and went into work the next day. There was a pretty Christmas bag on the table with an object in it. Guess what was in it? A roll of pink toilet paper with a note that said What else can you give someone with a rapid transit colon? HA-HA! I I was so hurt that someone could poke fun of me like that. When I asked her why she did that, she said she was depressed and needed a laugh. Needless to say, I was very cool to her after that and eventually left that jobjust afew months after that.I still don

I appreciate all of your responses [2008-01-23]
but it seems a lot are assuming that the story came from a child. I was more looking for responses based on the assumption that the scenario described is fact . . . assuming the teacher has already confessed and provided an unsatisfactory (to us) explanation. Thanks again for all replies!

Would like opinions about a school/teacher [2008-01-22]
Just looking for outside viewpoints about this scenario: A child with autism, so perception issues, believes that his teacher hates him and the teacher is aware of this. So, a couple of weeks after discussion with the teacher, she states to the class, You know what I hate about ______ (insert child When he acts like I

People get jealous sm [2007-12-29]
If you are doing well, I find people, especially other women, get jealous and mean. I literally knocked myself silly for a neighbor, I cannot tell you how many things I have gone overboard for her because the family was going through tough times. I even lost valuable time working and had to pull all nighters. She called me one day and said, We canVarious other things were said that cut me to the core. I helped her run a fund raiser when she obviously did not know how to do it and it was a huge success and she took all the credit (at church). I was a true friend to her and gave my all. A plain thank you note or word would have done. The worst scenario was when I went in for surgery on my breast and she never called to see how I was. I called her and told her my biopsy was non-cancerous as the first came back DCIS, and she just said, hmmm as if who cares. I'm done with false friends. From now on I only depend on myself or my DH, hurt too many times. She also told me she does not make thousands of dollars at a time, well, you have to work your buttocks off and by the time Uncle Sam and all the rest get paid, it's not always thousands. They are jealous because we are entrepeneurs in our own right, I guess. If they only knew - but they don't!

To wife sm [2007-12-17]
Try some on-line help anonymously for awhile. Just Google recovery or AAonline and you should find some help there. Give him credit and help him. Remove all alcohol from the house, support him and realize it IS a disease, not a flaw in his personality, he inherited this in the gene pool but although there is no cure, it can be turned around with the right support. I know someone who will not admit it and he has lost everything.He thinks beer is not alcohol.So be grateful for the awareness and pay no attention from those who judge. Good luck, it takes a lot of work, it didnIt's not always anonymous. Get some professional advice and get rid of all the temptations. You may have to change playmates and playgrounds. You will figure this out as you go along. Only listen to the positive, ignore all who judge, they know not of what they speak, it's a disease. Just treat it as taking the sugar away from the diabetic, same scenario, help but do not enable!

My advice is... [2007-12-15]
First things first, he needs to be completely honest. Myself, I have trouble with the just kissed scenario. Iokay because there wasnown up to what he has truly done, then there will be no change and he will continue to believe in his own mind he was justified. I have just gone through this with my own brother. In over 30 years, he has cheated on his wife more times than I can count on 2 hands, and each time, he downplays he did anything wrong and actually blames her, if she would have loved me more, gave me more attention Well BS on that. I do believe people can change but they never will until they acknowledge that THEY did this..not you.. Who wants to live the rest of their life with a loaded gun to their head. Talk about pressure. Geez, if one day, you forget to say I love you or pat him on the back, you Luckily, my sister-in-law got a second chance with a man who thinks she is gold. He respects her and does everything for her. My brother was selfish..it was always all about him.. So now..she made it about her.. and so should you if he doesnonce a cheater always a cheater andI know I could never trust again nor live that way with such disrespect and trust issues. Again, I'm so sorry for you..and sorry for such a long note. This hit a nerve after what I have been going through with my brother..

Gosh, it's complicated [2007-12-13]
There are a lot of women who don't mind taking lower paying jobs so they can have the flexibility of running the household. They want it that way. That is a basic instinct and need for some women. Now I'm not saying that's a good thing or a bad thing, but it's not necessarily a matter of how genders behave at work. However, the result is the same and you are right, all women will not be treated the same because of gender roles and because there are still many women who prefer not to relinquish those duties for whatever reason. Obviously that scenario is pretty much reserved for the nuclear family, so across the board, the single mom or the family where both incomes are sorely needed and both have little time to spare for household and kids' activities, are the ones affected most.

Be glad she offers sm [2007-11-20]
My MIL hated the fact I was pregnant, made it known to me from Day 1 she wanted her son back, had a fit at both my pregnancies, responded with the - another mouth to feed, my poor son scenario. Justbe glad you have someone who wants your children to be part of her life. As with another poster, two of mine are brainwashed by their mom, maternal grandmom and maternal aunts that their way is the only way to go. I cannot have a holiday without them asking to go to other grandmastore and help your MIL out by making the visit a win-win for all. Wish I had that problem and did not have to deal with the hatred of a MIL who did not want grandchildren at all! Hope I didn You bet I do, I love them! And she must care for you to want to give you a break once in awhile. She didnyour husband into it. Now THAT's abuse! What you have is over-caring not over-bearing.

Sad reports sm [2007-11-13]
I have worked on many cases which were extremely sad. Iwas alwaysa very caring person and when I started transcribing some of these sad cases, I wanted to quit.My supervisor said, You can I thought she was a horrible person. After many years and many sad stories, I found I got hardened but not without telling myself that I was actually helping the patient by giving them an accurate, caring record to accompany them on whatever journey they took.After becoming an independent contractor, I also worked on oncology for years when pick up and delivery were part of the scenario. I saw beautiful people disintegrate before my eyes and die. One was a beautiful young woman who got married during her treatment and died. When my own younger sister was diagnosed with lung cancer, I was able to answer some of her questions to the best of my ability, talk about her funeral, etc., as she only had 18 months.Years ago, I would probably have had a breakdown just at the news. Did I become, hard hearted? No! But I matured in some strange way. My hubby in later years took over some of my deliveries to the oncologist and could not tolerate seeing patients in the waiting room. It was only then that I realized how I had grown and matured. I am sure some of my family wondered why I did not turn into a crying machine at family funerals, etc. What I did do was have the ability to go to the funeral home, arrange for burials, funerals, etc.,in a professional manner.I do not understand it myself, as I was always a crier. I just have to tell myself that I have graduated, matured and have gotten to the point where I can help others without falling apart. Who knew?? I think I have been given a gift and my responsibility is to carry on with grace and dignity. I call it grace in the bank. Never thought I would see the day when I could handle my own bad news, i.e., You have cancer, you have breast cancer and that breast has to come off! (My answer: When? Doc: Last week.) My action - 2nd and 3rd opinions. Outcome - I kept my breast, was told by 2nd and 3rd opinions that after tumor board consults, there was only a question of cancer, DCIS changed to atypical cells.Seven years later, I am still here, no sign of cancer, no mastectomy,no drugs or radiation --just atypia. Since then, watchful waiting and 6 month visits. How did all this come about? Maturity, just mature decisions and a clear head. So hang in there. Whatever doesntaking away custody of a child from two retarded people who had married and conceived a child. They were not taking proper care of her through no fault of their own. She was crying while she dictated and so was I. Life is not easy. Just remember you are in the helping profession and if you donstress now; it will pay you back in the future. Hang in there.

You responded to someone re my post below (sm) [2007-10-29]
Thanks - I am in the same sort of situation. Same thing with the ratio of his money to mine, and not having any family support. Even though there are a lot of nice people on here it is hard for many people to relate to the no family at all to help scenario. I think our husbands prey on us for that reason. They look at us and know they earn 5 x as much as we do and that we have no family to support us and they feel very superior to us because of that. I would really like to talk more with you if you are interested in e-mailing.

I was one of the lucky ones...she's home now [2007-10-27]
but most of the kids have to stay with their abusers. Iat least 2 weeks). They are asking to Supreme Court to review the lack of/shoddy evaluations of abuse cases overall. The pendulum is slowly turning, though. The US Supreme Court agreeing to hear Titleman is a major step toward being able to protect kids from family members. These were also issues in the Winkler case in TN where she killed the dad. I can't see a good outcome in any scenario had I to do it over. BTW, mine came home concurrent with bankruptcy procedings, but she still has to visit overnight and unsupervised with him. I'd be more knowledgable and would make fewer mistakes if I had it to do over, but don't think it would have changed anything.

You won't like my blunt advice... [2007-10-26]
but you are a single woman, he is a married man...what is it that you don take that as a plus and now wake up to reality....this guy can and will say anything and it seems you will believe it. Give it up, grow up and maybe get some counseling. You need some help!

Vote please on clothes buying scenario for kids...sm [2007-08-25]
Scenario: 15-year-old finished growing 2 years ago, stable sizes. 8-year-old growing like a weed, can It The 15-year-old thinks they should also get the same amount of money to spend on clothes - even though they have plenty to wear in their closet and state they have nothing in particular they wantand make money doing neighborhood chores as well as chores around the house. Also before school began both kids were given $100 to buy their school supplies and clothes.The 8-year-old spent the clothing portion on pants and newsneakers, the teenager spent it on various clothing items. Would you: 1. Do it even though they don 2. Tell them that you Which way do you vote?

Squirrel Crossing [2007-08-01]
I need opinions here. This is the scenario. I absolutely love squirrels. I know a lot of people think they are a nuisance, but they happen to be my favorite backyard animal. I have feeders for them in my front yard so I can see them from my office window. Now Itake its course?