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My opinion......s/m [2008-11-16]
It was ok to go to the funeral. But as it caused so much drama, I think it is better for you and your husband to cut contact with all of his ex's family.

This reminds me of an incident a couple of [2008-11-11]
months ago. My parents live 4 hours away and wonlonely people. Now, my parents may not come down but who says we are lonely??? I too went through many years of crying because we didn't have that Martha Stewart Christmas.

Yes, I did (and still do) want your opinion [2008-11-07]
Thank you for posting! I did not expect that everyone would agree with me. As an MT, I respect the thoughts and feelings of my fellow MTs and enjoy many of the discussions on this board, both those relating to the medical field and otherwise. I was really hoping for more of a response, from either side of the issue. There is a pill form (synthetic THC) called Marinol, but from what I understand it is not as effective and/or has adverse side effects (I know, smoking it has adverse side effects too). I have also heard about the possibility of vaporizing it rather than smoking it, but I don't know a lot about how that compares. There have been some studies done in regards to driver impairment issue and, to a degree, I believe that it has been found much safer than driving under the influence of alcohol. Apparently pot smokers tend to slow down and drive more carefully, whereas drunk folks oftentimes donto a degree, I believe there has been some delayed reaction or other adverse findings associated with a significantly high level in the blood. I know I have a lot more to say about this, but just realized I have to leave in four minutes to pick up my son and I am not ready to go, but thanks again for posting!

Thanks for your opinion. [2008-10-19]
Thankfully, it is not my kid I There are a couple of other very troubling things on her MySpace. I contacted my cousin and asked her if she had seen her daughter I gave her my daughter

my opinion [2008-10-01]
My daughters are in their earlier 20s but incidents like this is still familiar. I have called parents and it just made it worse.The parents know what happened since the school called them. See what the school does first. Ask to have your son Yes you should have been called but at least they thought what the little girl did warranted a phone call home and did not ignore it. The school may be giving warnings to the parents of this little girl.

Advice needed - school incident [2008-09-30]
Okay,I will try to make this short. We send our son to Catholic school. We are Catholic but we also love the atmosphere, i.e. safe and a good community environment. He is in second grade. When I pick him up today, he tells me this classmate girl has stabbed him in the arm with her pencil! He had to have an ice pack on it for an hour and it still hurts him. She poked thru his shirt and now it She has a short fuse and apparently was mad that he was invading her space. They have 4 stations at one table, soitcould be difficult for achild to discernwhere onespace ends and another begins. I am pi**ed off about this. 1. The school didnthey did the other mother. 2. The girl's mother (whom I know) hasn't called me about it. 3. I spoke with the principal briefly because his teacher had left by the time I got there, but he is going to talk to the girl and my son about it tomorrow and about personal space. She was in his office for an hour until dismissal today. I know if it was my kid, I would be calling that mother right up and apologizing. I amso ticked off right now about it thatIam worried if I do call, I will lose mycool. The other thing is this:We have always taught our son to respect others and treat others how you would want to be treated. He has a good moral compass. He is also a big and tough kid.We have always taught himto neverhurt others unless itdefense. I feel as if they are brushing this off because he is a boy. I think if the shoe was on the other foot and he did it to her, it would be bad news. All hubby and I know is that we don How do we get our point across? SHould I call the mom and tell her that? My son told me this is not the first time she has done this (poking with the pencil) but it is the first time it hurt like this. She could have gotten him in the eye or hurt someone else altogether! I don The school doesn I am so mad right now I could spit.

My opinion [2008-09-11]
I was in a very similar situation. I've realized over time that my spirit had been broken by that man and my children's spirits were broken as well. We divorced 10 years ago and it's been very difficult. My children have told me recently how glad they were we divorced. Children know what's going on and understand much more than we realize. Please see a lawyer and get your children and yourself into counseling. It won't be easy, but believe me, you'll never regret it. JMHO.

A "Lunch Ladies" opinion [2008-09-03]
I work in an elementary school in Ohio. With a lot of hard work we have pretty much removed junk food from our menus. Just today we served Chef Salads for one of our choices. The kids love them. As one first grader said My mouth is watering just looking at my salad!. We have a lot of freash fruit and vegetables too.Please let your school system know your concerns. There really is no reason to serve sodas and they should be removed. I do serve ice cream, but once or twice a week. We laugh sometimes when they call us their Lunch Teachers. When I ask why, they usually say because I teach them how to eat right. As far as the grandmother who brought home food from the kitchen, I hate to tell you but that is stealing!

What is your opinion of this? [2008-09-02]
The scenario is...a husband and wife who are limited financially. The husband is between jobs but gets a small unemployment payment each week. The wife works every day. They are driving somewhere and stop to get gas in their car and she asks him how much he is going to put in. He says ten dollars. She hands him $20 and tells him not to just get $10, but to go ahead and put more in, then she thinks about it and hands him $10 more and says just go ahead and get $40, and maybe it will last us through the week. He goes to the pump and pumps in $30!! Because she was looking at the gas pump to see if he was about finished and ready to go, she sees that he only pumped in $30. When he gets in the car, he doesn't say anything to her about the amount he got, and as he starts to leave the station he notices that she is angry! He realizes why and starts to tell her that he decided to keep the $10 to put gas in HIS car at home a little bit later. She feels like he cheated her in some way by taking the 30 and using it, but saving his own 10 (no matter what the reason) because when they originally pulled up to the gas station, he was planning to use the 10 he had and nothing more, yet after she voluntarily offered him the 30, he didn't use his 10 at all, and didn't even tell her that he was going to do it that way. This has caused a really big fight between them that she says is rocking their marriage. They are at the point of not speaking to each other over this! What is your opinion about this story? btw, this isn it's a lady I talk to on another forum (some back ground information on him...he is notorious for getting 5 and 10 dollars worth of gas at a time, and having to keep stopping for gas many times because that much just doesna few dollars worth! She gets really upset with him for doing it this way and says that he should take the total amount that he will be getting in small increments and put that whole amount in at once. She says it will go further)

your opinion is again inappropriate, as you do not support yourself. [2008-08-22]
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You should get a medical opinion [2008-08-09]
just to be safe. I have Bellfull feeling on the left side of my face with numbness and tingling, and my left eye was twitching like mad and the center of my tongue was numb for several days. The following afternoon, it was full blown. My mom isa massage therapist and she said that having a vigrous or deep tissue massage can definitely get blood flowing and so this may be a side effect of that, but to definitely seek a medical opinion just to be safe. Good luck!

Need opinion on hardwood floor vs linoleum [2008-07-10]
We hope to put new flooring down in the house soon. I really like the look of linoleum in the kitchen. We are having a hard time deciding on a carpet color. A light neutral color or maybe a lightergreen would be nice but any lighter color will show everything I We have a really dark burgundy carpet now. Although I don We thought ofputting hardwood floors down but not sure if we want to put it in the kitchen too. Icarry the hardwood floor throughout the house--including the kitchen--but Ireally wouldrather have linoleum there.How would the hardwood floor (probably the medium color--not the real light or the real dark) looknext to a kitchen with linoleum? Would that be tacky? Thanks for the opinions. I really can We know we will be looking at it a really long time so wewant to be satisfied with our decision.

My opinion, No. [2008-07-06]
Go with your gut on this one.

In your opinion, is there a benefit to forcing children to [2008-07-03]
My son is at camp for a week. Last night was family night. He cried and begged me to take him home but my husband and his leaders refused and said it would be a big mistake. My husband was an Eagle scout and doesn The places they were sleeping were these three sided buildings with open fronts. They were full of bugs, spiders, bees, etc. They did not have a campfire to scare any critters away. They have see stray cats, racoons, etc. But my son He wasn About half the other boys there in his room (of about 8) cry themselves to sleep every night. They are not homesick like we are told, they are miserable. I don But I don't see it.

Just my opinion - see message [2008-06-18]
I think I read some place (like Ann Landers) where it is in really poor taste to have multiple showers for multiple marriages. I tend to agree. If the couple already has everything they need then the point of the shower is to just get even more stuff? I certainly would not bring a gift if they were tactless enough to register for something. The same goes for *money only* bridal and baby showers. Guess that is just my opinion, you asked...

Wondering about your opinion . . . SM [2008-06-16]
I just read a story that one of the Charles Manson followers (female) who was involved in the Sharon Tate murder has brain cancer and is asking to be set free, 37 years later. What do you think? She claims of course that she is a changed person. I say she should finish out her sentence regardless. Just wondering about other's opinions.

My opinion... [2008-06-09]
I disagree with you. The child is deliberately being nasty. His father should correct him and teach him not to talk to other human beings that way. And why did you say she was some weird lady? Of course he is going to be jealous of her,but she is not some weird lady, she is the wife of his daddy and he should be nice to her. To the OP, respond to his taunts very sweetly and redirect him, for example, Oh, you got a slushie, yum! Your daddy makes good slushies doesn I Then give him a smile and walk away. That will help him see that you two are not in a competition.

My opinion . . . sm [2008-06-08]
THIS IS JUST MY OPINION -- NOT A JUDGMENT! I think y'all probably got into this marriage way too fast, especially with a child involved. At this point, if you want to salvage the relationship, DEMAND the 3 of you (and possibly the ex) get into family therapy. Y'all are not going to be able to fix these problems on your own. If DH refuses to consider therapy, you need to consider getting out. I personally don't see things going well if y'all don't get help. His temper scares me too and he has blinders on. I can understand that he loves his kid and doesn't want to put him thru more stress (i am a divorced mother of 2 with a new husband too), but he is bending over backwards so much that his behavior is going to cause lasting problems in that child. Good luck!

Yes, in my opinion, you have every right to be and I wouldn't be doing ANY favors. sm [2008-06-04]
Friends and family just don't morally do things like that to each other.

just a personal opinion... [2008-05-08]
I think this can be a little tricky with kids. Children's imaginations are developing and they are learning so many new things, not to mention they do not always know the meaning of things or understand reasons for the way things may be done. Adults on the other hand, I think their dreams do mean something. I think it is their subconscious talking to them. Things they regress coming to the surface. I know I have had some kooky dreams before and they seem to take place when I am struggling with something. I wouldn't put too much into it with an 8 yr old, I have a child who is 10, sometimes they just have bad dreams at that age. If it is something that happens regularly or your heart tells you your child is struggling with something emotionally, it might be worth looking into therapy.

What is your opinion on these women getting [2008-04-17]
dfs

Everyone has own opinion. My is, it [2008-04-11]
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Maybe in your opinion, but maybe not others. [2008-04-11]
You know that button that says report message? What do you think it's for?

sorry but I don't recall asking for personal opinion [2008-03-30]
no offense, but I was just asking those with experience on the subject.

Yes, I did, I am not 53. You asked opinion on age, [2008-03-30]
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apologies [2008-11-16]
I just wanted someone When I was young and stupid I broke someone We were best friends. I have been thinking about this person a lot lately. They moved on to get married and have a family, so that is great. I recently sent a letter saying howsorry I am for being so terrible and asked for forgiveness. I did not give my number or put a return address on the envelope becuase I did not want anyone to think I was wanting a reunion or anything. I just really wanted toapologize and maybe get some sort of closure. Do you think there is a statute of limitations on saying I'm sorry and asking for forgiveness?

I say forgive, of course, but forget, NO WAY......sm [2008-11-16]
To be a true friend and truly care for someone, you first have to respect them and honor their dignity....how can care for anyone, friend, lover, or whatever, if you cannot be TRUTHFUL? How can you say you respect someone whiile blatantly lying to them? As a Christian and hopefully good person, I belive we always have to forgive, but to forget as if nothing had happened, that is impossible, I would think. She betrayed you by lying, not by seeing your ex, that is HER problem if she wants a second-hand loser, but friendship is a sacred bond, I am sure you can forge some newer, better friendships, can you ever feel any confidence in this woman again? Just my firm opinion, I had this done to me many years ago when very young, and although we tried, the friendship was never the same, for obvious reasons. God bless in your decision!

for sky..............sm [2008-11-11]
It was not me who defined these 3 points of intelligence, this is taken out of a study. I have no attitude. Why is is that one gets immediately insulted if one says something that is not readily accepted by the posters? We were talking about IQ scores and not about the complications that hinder people to take full advantage of their intelligence. There are so many excuses brought up if somebody is not able to take full advantage of one's intelligence. This is either a sickness of some sort or also a kind of stupidity. I disagree with the suggestion that the smarter people are the less happy they are. Why should intelligence make us unhappy? This borders on sickness. This should not be, then they should consult a psychologist or psychiatrist. I do not want to go into a deep discussion about this issue because I do not want to make myself the target of insults which is so common on this board in case people disagree with one's opinion. Why should I do that?

for abc [2008-11-11]
One of your attitudes I am referring to is the one you exhibited in your post entitled for...to be an MT, when you referred to another poster as stuck up, stupid, and a liar about her IQ percentiles. Now you say - I do not want to make myself the target of insults which is so common on this board in case people disagree with one Why then did you disagree with that person in such a manner?

I offered an explanation [2008-11-11]
I did not say every smart person has substance abuse problems or mental issues, I merely gave my opinion on how or why this may be so, since you seemed to think such scenarios were impossible.

To sky........ [2008-11-11]
I wanted to explain that intelligence should not make us unhappy. If it does, then something is not right with this person. Our intelligence should bring us positive things not negative things. If somebody is highly intelligent and he cannot use it in a positive way, this is also a kind of stupidity or he has an emotional problem. I reject also the opinion that alcoholism is an 'inherited' disease. Whatever all this studies say, I think that alcoholism is a self-inflicted' disease. How can a person who destructs himself be intelligent? And this is also a sin. Nowadays the parents, and ESPECIALLY the mother, are blamed for everything that goes wrong with the children.

LOL My son is about this age [2008-11-10]
and I dread this day. lol I would run down to the nearest best buy and see what they offer as far as packages with updates. I know they have such things. Haven't bought one myself but know of people who have. Then, I would sit down with him and let him know that it's normal for a boy to be curious but that he needs to give things a little time. I would also discuss the dangers of the internet. i.e. purchasing things you don't want to purchase, crazy weird people, etc. 9 is very young in my opinion but kids are exposed to so much these days it doesn't really surprise me. He will be learning about these things in school very soon, not the way he wants to lol, or maybe suggest that you can get some videos for him to watch if he is interested. Usually the school will allow you to check them out and sometimes they are available through your library. I know this because our son's school mentioned it if the parent's wanted to view the same video as the kids or wanted additional resources for kids with questions. Around that same age my son started asking a LOT of questions just because of commercials and things he picked up on television. We had the talk and told him that he could talk to us any time, write a letter, make an appointment with a counselor or his pediatrician, or whatever he wants if he is embarrassed, etc. Since he has continued to ask questions openly. I think most of it is that the parent's don't make it weird.

Heat Surge electric fire place [2008-11-09]
I posted a few weeks ago about an article I saw for a Heat Surge electric fireplace with a wooden mantle built by the Amish. Well I received it about 1.5 wks ago and I must say that it is absolutely beautiful! It is virtually noiseless, I seriously cannot hear it running at all. The brightness of the flame is adjustable and it has a low and a high heat setting. Best of all, it works! It does exactly what I had planned on and keeps the back of my house at a reasonable tempurature during the night so I do not have to worry about keeping the wood stove in the front going full blast all night. The kids turned it on one evening when they were playing pool and they actually ended up turning it off because it got to warm. So in my opinion, if you want something that is beautiful, well built, safe, and does provide more than enough heat for a room or two (mine is between the family room/kitchen which is all one long room) then it is absolutely worth the money.

Heat Surge electric fire place [2008-11-09]
I posted a few weeks ago about an article I saw for a Heat Surge electric fireplace with a wooden mantle built by the Amish. Well I received it about 1.5 wks ago and I must say that it is absolutely beautiful! It is virtually noiseless, I seriously cannot hear it running at all. The brightness of the flame is adjustable and it has a low and a high heat setting. Best of all, it works! It does exactly what I had planned on and keeps the back of my house at a reasonable tempurature during the night so I do not have to worry about keeping the wood stove in the front going full blast all night. The kids turned it on one evening when they were playing pool and they actually ended up turning it off because it got to warm. So in my opinion, if you want something that is beautiful, well built, safe, and does provide more than enough heat for a room or two (mine is between the family room/kitchen which is all one long room) then it is absolutely worth the money.

I'm sorry [2008-11-08]
I didn't mean to make you feel like your opinion wasn't wanted or valid. Like you said, I believe the OP wanted both sides, just discussing an alternate view point and really looking for more info on your point of view. It's good to have info from people that have different ideas. Something like dosing is not something I have thought about and it completely makes sense. I believe as part of the vote it stated that growing it yourself, for medical reasons, would also be legal - unless I am remembering incorrectly and someone please feel free to correct me. That would bring a valid point of dosing and if you have family members whose to say they aren't going to take a little here and there without medical necessity. Overall I am basically just speaking from experience of watching a family member die of cancer and take all the meds possible without relief and often wondered if this would have been a viable option for their comfort. Had I known where to get it, I probably would have gotten it for them illegally - but I would have had no clue where to begin with such a search. Yes, that's a lot of emotion going in to a big decision but I think emotion is a big part of medical treatment too.

There's always abuse [2008-11-07]
of the system. Making it illegal doesn't stop that. There are a lot of drugs out there that are, in my opinion, worse than marijuana as far as addictive qualities and doctor's prescribe those drugs routinely and easily for things such as back pain which is not life threatening but can be debilitating. I think it would be much easier to hold standards to legal medical use marijuana than it would to criminalize alcohol and the numerous other prescription drugs that are out there and abused.

They always say [2008-11-07]
That parents try to give their kids what they didn't have. Since her husband doesn't have hair, looks like they are letting their son have hair. Ha ha I actually have no problems with men/boys with long hair. I looks like a fine boy too. I don't particularly care for Celine but that's just my personal opinion and wish her the best for her wishes.

Absolutely. [2008-11-05]
As an MT I cannot stand transcribing a social history that states smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day but denies the use of alcohol or drugs and then has a positive alcohol or marij. screen. Why is one of the 3 considered acceptable in society and the others are not? To me, they are all essentially at the same level. They all have addictive properties and the potential for longterm complications, bad decisions, etc. If marij. has the potential of doing some good for anyone then I think it should be legalized. Another good point you bring up is the cost of housing the so called criminals who have use it recreationally and could have just as easily used recreational alcohol and been involved in a drunk driving incident. It's all about education and setting limits. Sure there have to be guidelines but I don't think all should be punished because of the few exceptions.

Why do they say...sm [2008-11-03]
Why do they say that it is taboo to talk about politics with people? Why can't we just DISCUSS our opinions and not get mad at the other person for having their OWN opinion. I have never been able to figure out why people can get mad at someone else for having their own opinion. Wouldn't it be nice if we could just sit down and have an intelligent conversation with other human beings without worrying about offending them? If everybody thought the same it would be a very very different and boring world AND if we could DISCUSS and not ARGUE I believe a lot more issues would get resolved. **sigh**

I get that as well... [2008-11-03]
Usually I get someone chopping up a medical term and I tell them well was it blankety blank? and they seem impressed. I sometimes laugh and say i know how to spell it but don just like you. The majority is asking me about doctors in the area and whether they are a good doctor or a bad doctor. How should I know? This comes from working on-site for 17 years in the community though. OP: Just remember that nurses get that same flack from doctors, so she may have wanted to pass that attitude on to you. I worked with a vascular tech that woudl refer to himself as Dr. such and such, and he got written up for it. He was calling nursing homes and calling patient transport companies and acting like he was a doctor. Too weird in my opinion...

Do you claim all your donations [2008-10-21]
I do not claim what I give to church. I just don't think it's right to use that ... MY PERSONAL OPINION ONLY! I haven't ever claimed what I give to goodwill or anything like that.

I know it is very harsh...the thing is I have asked her so many times (sm) [2008-10-21]
and the things she says are hurtful to my children. I am not petty and it is not over something small like candy or just having a difference of opinion. The things she says to them really scare and upset them. She let them watch a woman giving birth on TV once when they were very young...I had not explained yet to them exactly how a baby gets out...they were both very upset. She also has told other family members that she believes my husband is a child molester and that he has made my son, who is 11, gay. My husband is not a molester. My son likes girls. He has no idea she ever said that, but if he ever heard that she did, it would probably be very devastating to him. Each time I have sat down and tried to explain to her that we donoh, yeah, that She kept the kids while I was gone overnight this past weekend and I specifically asked her not to say anything that would scare them. She let my daughter invite a friend to sleep over. She told them all about ghosts and demons and how she once saw a demon in her closet. The girl sleeping over got scared and cried to go home at midnight. My daughter called me on my cell at midnight crying because her friend was scared and going home and she was also scared. At what point do I draw the line?

I don't know if he's ever said anything to the other kid [2008-10-20]
I didn This boy, however, is actually my son When they were younger his mom used to make the BF include his brother in the the things he did. As far as letting his parents know, I asked my son if he thought I should tell them (just to see what his opinion was) and he said no.For the life of me I cant remember his reasoning. I asked him if this boy was afraid because I said I was going to talk to his parents and he said he was.So I told him I would talk to the kid myself first before I spoke to his parents and take it from there. I think sometimes it I I would want them to let me know if it were my son.

It isn't my business what they do...sm [2008-10-17]
But I personally don't agree with it. I think it is just disgusting but that is my opinion.

Gays march for their rights to be involved with their long-time partners [2008-10-17]
health care should a drastic decision be made. It is usually a family member...even though we are the ones who take care of our partners when they are sick or dying. We fight for the right not to be thrown out of a shared house by the partner's parents. We want to honor our partner's wishes when they die as we are the ones who have spent years with them - not the family. These are just a few examples. As far as your comment that we influence young people - that is absurd. All we want is to live our life and as pxmt said, be able to walk down the street without abusive comments, being assaulted, ridiculed, etc. The school system is not segregating gay children - they are making it gay friendly and teaching tolerance. Suicide is very high in gay children because of the parents who teach their children that it is evil and it is okay to bash a gay child. These schools are just trying to save the lives of young children. As far as your comment that Christian's homes and churches are burned, sorry but I cannot recall one incident that I have read or saw on the news. Temples yes. As far as being assaulted for your beliefs, could it be because you stand in front of abortion clinics and gun down the doctors and nurses that come out or go into the clinic? Could it be that you bully the 15 and 16-year-olds who have been raped and want an abortion? Sorry to say this, at least we (gays) are not violent and just want to be left alone.

Bad idea... [2008-10-16]
What about the overweight kids that get picked on...what about the dorky kids that get picked on... what are they to do? Put up with it? Get counseling? No, just because homosexuals get bullied doesn't mean they are that much more at risk for dropping out or other consequences as the other kids who get bullied. They can't segregate from the real world, and IMO, this world is much, much more tolerable toward homosexuals today than ever before. I won't go into the rest of my opinion regarding this subject cause I don't wanna open a can of worms, but in a nutshell....NO no gay-friendly high school! I'd be super upset if my tax dollars were going to pay for this!

Unfortunately, the schools stick their nose in many things that should be the parents job (sm) [2008-10-16]
my children have had teachers give one-sided views of politics, whether they should be democrats or republicants, who their parents should be voting for, etc. For some reason, some teachers don We don't pay them to teach their opinion.

Tolerance [2008-10-16]
This is my personal stance, my personal opinion and I am allowed to have it as much as anyone else is allowed to have theirs: I do not have to, nor will I, be tolerant toward behavior that I believe to be fundamentally wrong, anti-God, anti-Christian and morally corrupt. It is MY RIGHT notto like it, not to tolerate it, and not to put up with it. I do not punish or shun those who practice lifestyles that I am morally opposed to; however, I will not ever say that I agree with such. Thank goodness my children are grown now but it is still the right of every parent to teach their child the moral principles they wish to instill. It is not the school's right, not the government's nor any self-proclaimed group's authority to act on to ensure they are accepted equally. I don If we are going to pressure-cook the minds and morals of everyone regarding alternative lifestyle tolerance, we might as well exercise the same toward other groups with somewhat alternative lifestyles such as criminal behavior, etc. How and what we think as individuals are our God-given and government-protected right.

Perfect example... thank you for supplying that [2008-10-16]
This is exactly what my post was about. I did not once try to conform anyone to my beliefs. I was simply stating what I know/believe to be true. So, why just because I am quoting the Bible and talking about Jesus am I all of a sudden trying to conform someone? Why is it that whenever a Christian makes a STATEMENT, someone comes along and accuses them of forcing their opinion on someone else. You got on here and freely placed your opinion about the Bible and if I post something that goes against that, the world considers ME wrong.

what? [2008-10-16]
That is a lame way of parenting in my humble opinion. Teaching your child right from wrong and what God requires of us is not sheltering them. It is building character, a functional person that can add something to society, a God-fearing member of this world. Your attitude is exactly one of the reasons why our youth is the way they are today. I guess just anything goes these days.