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I agree. Hand him the headphones to have a listen. And stress how

Posted By: "real" of a job this is. Got paychecks? ..nm on 2007-06-02
In Reply to: I AM SO MAD AT HUSBAND - kittytoes

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Boy, if stress is the trigger, I'm surprised I'm not one big blister. Stress is my middle name
and MT-ing is my game..
Agree, you need a helping hand

When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling.  So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone.  Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing.  If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it.  They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.  


My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week.  In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before.  Good luck.  This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.


 


Agree, you need a helping hand

When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling.  So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone.  Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing.  If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it.  They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.  


My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week.  In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before.  Good luck.  This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.


 


Agree, you need a helping hand

When my sister had her first baby, she became overwhelmed quickly. You sound similar to how she was feeling.  So my mom and I started helping her out here and there, going over and staying with my nephew so she could leave the house for a couple hours, even if it was to grocery shop or run errands, just so she could get out alone.  Or we'd go get him and take him to our house for a couple hours, with instructions to her to TAKE A NAP or read a book, or something relaxing.  If you have family or friends willing to help out, take them up on it.  They wouldn't volunteer if they didn't want to do it.  


My sister's husband was helping out too, but he worked a lot of hours, 6 days a week.  In my sister's case, she was very independent and used to doing what she wanted when she wanted before the baby and I think that was part of what overwhelmed her, the feeling that she couldn't just pick up her purse and go somewhere as easily as before.  Good luck.  This will pass, don't be so hard on yourself.


 


Jewlery making kits/supplies? Can you teach them to knit or crochet? Hand sewing? Hand-made
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Are you using headphones?
You can always plug those into your speaker port on the computer tower.
thanks for reply, but no, not using headphones now.
in fact, i did test the speakers on my 'job' computer and they do work. but i cannot hear sound on a video my daughter sent on my personal machine...so am not sure if i have some settings messed up or if my sound card is gone...or if possibly it is just that video. but i thought i remembered before hearing sounds when you go in and out of e/mail and web pages etc...?? don't want to test for this other job and then find out i have no sound...
Types of headphones

What types of headphones are you all using? Has anyone tried the noise-cancelling headphones or the transcription gear insight headphones? If so, how do they rate? I transcribed for seven years and used the Lanier brand and liked them. I've been a respiratory therapist for the past 5 years and am now getting back into transcription, so I'm looking for decent pair of headphones to work from home. Thanks for the help.


anyone bought NC headphones off auction
sites and felt they got authentic products, in good working condition?  I'd really like good noise cancelling headphones without paying the top dollar. thanks.
Asking you experts - where to buy "wireless" headphones, best price???
This is for a Christmas gift for my husband. He loves boxing and I hate it, so I would rather read in peace, Thanks for your help. Don't want "used." So I guess it's actually my gift to myself, I guess!
Stress when is enough enough?

Wanted to gab to get some feedback.  Right now, it seems like everywhere this MT turns there's stress.  DH going through final hearing for child support his ex won't pay for years, she threatening to take the kids away so he has to pay child support, etc.  I just switched jobs within the last year, and although I am doing well the one I chose, it has been really stressful trying different MTSOs out to find the right one, or the fairest one. Top it off, my 2nd computer in 6 months just died today and my lovebird cage just fell down from the ceiling wrecking the living room, the cage, and scaring me and the birds half to death.  Last week, when my son went for visitation, he wanted to stay home and not go with his dad, he screamed so loud the police chased his dad down in the car, and they came here to make sure he was not a kidnapper. I am not kidding! Look, I am not looking for pity.  It just seems that as I sit here and write this to you (who I don't even know), that since I work at home transcribing 6 days a week, am fully involved with my son at home and step kids all the time (no life outside the house to speak of anymore) I am absolutely at a ridiculous point of stress.  Any happy coping suggestions in response to this sad situation other than, go to the "mental health board," or "get a life..." etc. Thanks in advance for your kind comments. Just a sister MT trying to cope with job and home and trying to find advice from anyone who has "been there." Thanks.
 


STRESS
I am so sorry to hear about your friend (coworker). I cry with you. I hope and pray that you can find someone at your facility that will see what is happening and help you make changes!!!

Why can't anyone realize that the stress we face is great?

God Bless You and your other coworkers!!


christmas stress . . .
Due to the high stress nature of my husband's and my parents, we no longer tell them about the children's school events ( I know, sounds horrible, doesn't it?).  My husband's father, whom we see three times a year, and has absolutely NO relationship with our children, called the school and found out when their concert was.   He and his wife showed up last night, sat in front of us, he said two words to my husband (his son) all night long.    When we got home last night and wanted to decorate the tree, my husband blew a gasket.  He cannot handle it.  It bothered him SO much that his dad showed up that he screamed and yelled at us until my daughter and I were in tears and my sons wanted him to leave.  My daughter, lying in bed crying while I tucked her in said "we do this every year, mom".    In order to get a grip on the kind of relationship my husband and his father have I would have to go on and on.  basically, he adopted my husband when he married my husband's mother years ago.  They split up the year we got married.  My husband tried very, very unsuccessfully to maintain a relationship with him over the years and finally came to a point where he gave up.  We have awkward moments and conversation when we are together.  We have nothing in common, they don't really care about the kids, because they are not there to actually spend time with them and get to know them.  We prayed for my husband last night, and my daughter asked me if something happened in his childhood.  How do I get my husband to deal with this so we don't have to go through this every year?????
My solution to your stress
just BEAT HIM. LOL. J/K of course.

I would be upset too. Look for another company to go through. Unreal.
you are in posttraumatic stress right now--sm
go to the ER. Have someone drive you, if you feel you may leave the car running again. They will be sympathetic and guide you as to what is appropriate care for you. I feel your pain! My children's father took his own life on Father's Day two years ago and a cousin of mine took his own life less than a month later. I know the feeling, believe me. You will get better though, trust me. good luck to you and keep us all informed. you need compassionate friends right now, too. {{hugs}}
stress causes it too, my child has it....

and is also on metformin which causes more problems....has been to the GI doc who is really not much help....in this case, stress causes it...child doesn't drink....26 y/o.....


hope you feel better.....google IBS - you'll learn how to cope/deal....


stress, work, stress, work, stress, work
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What do you do for stress relief?

I am having a tough time blowing off steam lately and looking for some stress relief ideas...some for in the moment and some for just routine daily/weekly life stress. 


I am pregnant so moods are crazy and I am just having difficulty letting go of even the smallest of things.  Looking for some pointers, ideas, suggestions. 


My garden tub used to do the trick but now that I work until late at night and have a child home from school for the summer, it is difficult to find the time for that or mani/pedis which I also used to enjoy.


 


stress reduction
My ex-hub wrote some papers while he was doing his PhD in psychology on stress reduction. I typed his papers both before and after we were divorced. It made sense to me. One of the things he said that you work all week to make a paycheck to pay your bills. He said you have to consider yourself "a bill out of your paycheck that needs to be paid" just like any other bill that you owe. You need to pay a bill owed to yourself for hard work in the form of whatever you can afford out of each paycheck no matter what the amount that you may deem to afford meaning a new outfit, pedicure, meal out, movie, whatever makes you relaxed and feel happy. Set an amount aside even if it is just $20-$25. It gives you something to looks forward to. We have been divorced for 15 years, but I still remember this and still do this. It makes me feel good because I know I have to pay this bill to myself and it makes me feel good.
I wouldn't stress.
I had my baby natural childbirth. It really wasn't so bad. By the time it gets to where you can't stand it anymore, it's time to push. When you push through a contraction, you don't feel pain anymore just pressure. During labor I just kept thinking, this time tomorrow I will be holding my baby.

While I was pregnant, friends and family delighted in telling me their horror stories about childbirth. Don't listen to them. Everyone's experience is different. I figured if it was that bad everyone would only do it once, right?

I did take my sister's advice though. She's an RN on L&D and she said the nurses are there to help you, don't get mean and nasty with them or they will go away and only come back when they have to.

My friend had an epidural and suffered from severe headaches for months afterwards. I've heard of women having back problems, leg problems with them. I don't think I would ever advise anyone to get an epidural.
Yes, definitely a stress point in a marriage....sm

As for taking charge, I think we have to as they simply wont.  I mean someone does need to be "in charge" so to speak...it is their place to be "head" of the house, but most dont take that place, they dont want that place, the responsibility that it brings.


I often think of the fact that if I died while my children are young they would have to live with my sister....seriously.  He would not be able to take care of them, and not talking just financial, he literally would not be able to take care of them.  It is sad to feel like that about it.  Just how it is. 


You're not weird. Maybe you can stress that you'd like it to be just old
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They are big-time stress reliever!
I play what my brother calls 'girly' games - Final Fantasy, tetris, etc. I also have a couple murder mystery-type games, but I have to watch playing them when I'm home alone because I'll scare myself! I know it's pathetic but some of those games have things that jump out at you! I guess that's why I stick to the 'girly' games! LOL
Anybody have stress bother them and then get sick?

Ever since I have been stressed over a certain situation in transcription, and my family's budget I have become extremely tired and it is really hard to get my line count. Every day as the pressure builds regarding this my line count gets lower, no matter how hard I try.  Anybody in this situation or ever been, I'd appreciate advice.  I am trying stress busters, exercising, reading books, taking time to go outside, but nothing is working.


Every time I sit down to type, I just get more and more worried and I can't produce! It is like my heart is going on strike against the position I have because there are problems with the situation and it makes my money situation even worse.  My husband is very understanding but this has got to stop. I want to feel good about my job again and my production.  If you say get another job, I understand about that, but what about until the other job starts, what do I do? Arrrggggg. I know life is no picnic but it could at least provide piece of mind so I can do my job! Thanks in advance for any and every suggestion or advice. It will be well appreciated


If she's such a good kid, why stress her more by making her pay
for car/gas/insurance? I think that making good grades and having extracurricular school activities are enough. If she has to work also then something might slip, probably her grades. My girls, now 30 and 33, did theater, choir, drill team and we took care of the car. They did not turn out to be slackers. Maybe taking her siblings to school and running errands is enough of a payment.
Believe it or not, my favorite stress reliever is
SEX.  Seriously. 
Anyone on Lexapro for stress and anxiety?

Do you like it? Is it working for you?


Stress - thanks all for yesterday - got the Bach and the multi-Bs (sm)

Still stressing but feeling much better today.  Didn't get out until 8 pm last night to make my purchases and still had a rough night, but this morning I am much calmer.  Thanks to everyone who had any comments or suggestrions - I really needed you guys yesterday and appreciate you being there!


Emotional upset and stress. Such as reading MT
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I would say that you have every reason to have panic attacks what with all the stress you've SM

been under.  I take Effexor XR for my painic attacks and atenolol to help control my BP and it keeps my heart rate down.  The combination works wonderfully, although I wonder if I've become a little too dependent on it as I sometimes get a little anxious at the thought of being without my Effexor.


I would have periodic episodes of anxiousness going all the way back to my teenage years, but I would always work through it myself.  Then a year ago, in the midst of marital trouble and feeling alone as I lived two states away from friends and family, I started having what I now know to be gallbladder pain while I was at work.  In my mind, I knew I wasn't having a heart attack, the pain was in my right rib cage and radiated around to my right scapula.  But I couldn't seem to convince my body.  My heart started racing, my mind was racing.  I felt dizzy and short of breath.  I went to the employee health nurse who took my BP and it was sky high.  She immediately rushed me to the ER which freaked me out even further.


Long story short, I was having a full blown panic attack and I hope that I never experience anything like that again.  I ended up crying for three weeks straight, was afraid be left alone, was afraid to leave my house, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, would pace the house with my heart racing, not able to calm myself down.


I saw three different doctors before I found a female doctor who listened to me and told me she knew exactly what I was talking about because her daughter had panick attacks too.  She started me on Effexor and set me up with a therapist who taught me breathing techniques and meditation techniques to help calm myself when I feel anxious.  One technique, as simple as it sounds, is something I practice almost daily which is deep breathing:  in through your nose and out through your mouth and as you exhale allow your body to relax starting from the shoulders down.  It seems silly, but it really works.  I noticed that I clenched my jaw a lot and so that is were I focus my mind when I'm trying to relax.  I focus on the tension in my jaw and start relaxing from there down.


Exercise is another great technique for relieving anxiety and stress.  All the experts say that, and it's true.  Just getting outside and walking can clear the mind.


Well, I've rambled on and on.  Sorry about that.  Let me just add one more thing, if you decide to try medication, my advice would be to be patient.  Sometimes it takes a few different trials of medication before you find the one that fits.  My doctor explained to me that panick attacks are caused by an overactive fight or flight response in the brain and so SSRI antidepressants like Zoloft or Celexa won't do the trick.  You have to have a NRI (norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor) to calm the response.


I'm not saying you need medicine, but I am saying that you may want to get a handle on it now so you don't have to go through what I did.  I can't even explain how horrible it feels to have your mind spinning of control.  I felt like I was genuinely losing my mind. 


Well, anyway I feel for you and I wish you well.


I'm one of the few Grinches here who agrees with you. Enough w/the stress & extra calories in the
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I think finances and stress ALL play a huge part in this. nm
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Definitely stress. Cops said once that Xmas eve with alcohol & money
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Stress to vet office this is urgent or call emerg. vet.
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Get some B-stress vitamins, Bach Rescue Remedy spray (sm)
Valerian Root to help you sleep. If all else fails ask the doc for something temporary for stress. I have been so stressed out before I couldn't stand it. Best wishes to you! I hope things get better soon. Take a day off!! A mental health day! Be lazy, take a hot bath, take a long walk.
Yes this is getting out of hand....
it is getting out of hand by some of the posters who are disagreeing with others. I am the OP and I was only looking for opinion's from others. No fights, no trash talking...just honest opinions. I have received lots of comments and I have thanked everyone for their comments. Each and every comment gave me new insght to consider. It is really sad how posts from others makes me look like I am looking for a fight here! I have said in an earlier post that I appreciate all the comments and I am just going to write this one off as an extra-personable customer service experience! I do have a sense of humor, ya know! I am not looking to sue anyone! I was simply asking for input from others as to whether or not this was a big deal or not! I got mixed answers, but I am shocked at how out of hand that this has gotten! Please read all of the posts from the OP only if you would like to make an assumption on what my intentions are, which I think that you will see that I was only looking for opinions.

Thanks for your input.
On the Other Hand

If you never let up and the pictures don't work, she will do anything in her power to hide it from you.  My mom has nagged me since the day she found out and that made me go to great lengths to keep it from her.  My brother's wife did the same thing to him and he would smoke at work and not at home.  Then, when he came to visit, he would take me to the store so he could smoke on the way there. 


I know she is only 16, but if she doesn't want to hear what you have to say about it, she'll just keep hiding it and keep smoking unless you two come to an agreement.


Good luck.  I do hope she quits.


Off hand
I can only think of Susan Lucci, Barbara Walters, Suzanne Sommers ... many who are getting up there have better looking arms than I would expect. Of course, they probably have other tricks too.

I think the surgeries are a bit touchy ... it seems often certain things will look better because of it and others worse. I had my nose done (for instance), and my profile looks better, but I liked my old nose from the frontal view.

Another thing that scares me is it seems there are so many infections from hospitals nowadays. I think one has to really think it over for sure.

Thanks for the info! : )
But, now listen to this
the mother has been held in contempt of court 12 times so she is not an angel either. Things are not hunky-dory on her part either.
Listen to your PCP sm

See my message above re yoga breathing. I have a friend who has adult-onset ADD. Yes, it can happen - or maybe she had just found ways to compensate all these years until she was diagnosed.


You might want to check into it further....


Thank you...do you really think they will listen to me (sm)
in this situation? I assumed they were only there for people who are being physically abused. Which he did a few years ago, but has not done since. I should have left then...but of course I didn't.
I'm sure they would listen you...
dont know where you live but they also have laws regarding what you can keep on your property, i.e., live pigeons,etc. There is also a law on how many ducks you can have in possesion at one time, meaning the dead ducks in his freezer. You can get into some hefty fines for that though so think hard about it before you start down that road.
I did listen when I was a kid either.

My parents were just a bunch of dumb hard azes that all they wanted to do was prevent me from having any fun.  Well, the older I got, the smarter they got. 


I am now going through it with my kids and I sometimes wonder how they ever kept sane.  LOL.  I have a smart-alecky mom that likes to say "payback time."


Please listen up........JMO
I had a male family member that went to stay with cousin every summer. His parents would see attitude changes, a little anxiety maybe afterwards, but he was a high strung kid. Years later, around 21 years, he told his parents the cousin molested him. They even had this kid come to their home for summer. Their child never said anything because he felt because he was a family member, the family would be upset with him or cause family problems, even though his parents had always talked to their children about anyone, including family members, that may touch or act inappropriately toward them to come and tell them immediately. It was devistating to the parents. I feel so sorry for them. They can't stand to be around their own nephew but their child does not want anyone else to know. But because of his age, they don't know what else to do but not say anything because he has asked them not to.

I don't mean to sound negative, but I would have second thoughts now letting a male child go stay with another male child, especially one a little older. That really opened my eyes to just how things happen under the wire and you don't know, no matter how in tune you think you are with your child. Sorry to turn this into a worst case scenario but just be aware.
Listen, you.
I work for a large, world-class teaching hospital and I do pediatric endocrinology.

It's a very small percentage, but it's not nonexistent. Thinking that it only happens to someone else is one of the more stupid things I've heard in a long time.
raising my hand too..sm
and personally, due to the amount of money involved in ALL professional sports, I cannot help but think that most of it is one big set up and the public is being ripped off by feeding in to it, sort of like the professional wrestling teams. that is just a thought though, and not meant to stir up any one's irrational emotions about sports. I also think they are TOO competitive and families are pushing their youngsters into sports WAY too young, just to bring in the big bucks later in life. Part of my work is for a pediatric orthopedist and a youngster of 3 years old suffering sports injuries, in my opinion, is WAY too young!
second-hand smoke

With any luck the weather will be good and the party will be held outdoors....If not, take her out to  lunch or make a special lunch/dinner at your house just for the 2 of you....perhaps get your hair and nails done together or just piddle around in the consignment shops...do something that the 2 of you enjoy.  If you've known her since Jr. High or thereabouts, she knows how you feel about smoking and I don't think she would be offended.  The 1-on-1 time together would proabably the best present she gets....and you get to catch up everything without interruption.


I know, I did it yesterday...Made chicken and dumplings from scratch and sauteed squash and a light fruit salad, watched a video slide show that my friend made on a Mac laptop of renovation of the log cabin that her mother was born in (narration, music and all).....Her daugter's wedding is coming up in 3 weeks and the young lady wants it to be at the cabin.  Then we tried on mother-of-the-bride outfits she'd brought over, we critiqued, exchanged jewelry that would match.  We talked for about 3 hours non-stop and coulda gone on for another coupla days just reminiscing and trying to work out the kinks of the wedding and chowin' down on comfort food.


Just an idea....Hope this helps. 


               


I have to hand it to Lee C. Bollinger,
President of Columbia University. I listened to his speech and particularly liked:

 

“Let's, then, be clear at the beginning, Mr. President you exhibit all the signs of a petty and cruel dictator.”

 

And his ending:

 

I am only a professor, who is also a university president, and today I feel all the weight of the modern civilized world yearning to express the revulsion at what you stand for.  I only wish I could do better.

 

Mahmoud Ahmadinejad called Bollinger's introductory remarks insulting,  (Well, duh!)  What, did he expect....to be handed flowers and a key to NYC?

 

      

hand quilt
A baby quilt is not too large, so I would hand quilt. If this is your first, do a very simple pattern such as a window pane about 3-4 inches apart top to bottom, then side to side, or quilt around design. Get a good beginner's quilting book. It will really help you learn. Happy quilting!
Thanks to all. I think I will try hand quilting. Seems
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T hand signal
Wow, way back when I was in high school, if a student was doing this, he was probably on a basketball court and wanted a time-out called. What's next....