On a slightly different night...
Posted By: PAMT~MDM on 2006-10-11
In Reply to: It's Your Home - LinK
...one of our previous pastors was called on the carpet for putting up a few Halloween decorations on his own propery. Not by anyone in our congregation, but by a stranger. They told him he should "know better."
I also don't know what decorating for Halloween has to do with those poor Amish girls, either. Weird. I decorate for fall more than Halloween, especially since my kids don't like to carve Jack-o-lanterns anymore, and Halloween has never been my thing since I was a little kid and the neighborhood teenagers had me scared out of my wits, but it sounds like you have fun!!
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Slightly different perspective.
So maybe I shouldn't post about this since I have not exactly been in your shoes but I think possibly I can lend a help perspective. I lost my father to cancer when I was 19. My FIL is an alcoholic. No I didn't grow up in a divorced family or without a father through my childhood and no I haven't experienced my father being an alcoholic.
What I feel I can tell you is there is such a thing as being too late to say the things you wanted to say, good or bad. If it does come to that, you will never let it go. He is still your father regardless of the choices he has made in his life. You only have 1 father. After seeing my FIL, I believe alcoholism is an illness. Sure people can fight it and get help if they wan, but it takes a very, very strong person to overcome it and it is a constant battle.
From the sounds of your post it seems as though you have some things you need to get off of your chest. Whether that means sitting down and talking to him or putting the past in the past and moving on with any kind of relationship - I think only you can figure that out. Even a relationship that is only on holidays and important events is still a relationship.
Who knows, maybe talking to your mom would help her as much as it might help you. It certainly can't be a short conversation, it needs to be thorough to get through the surface feelings and to the nitty gritty. Maybe, just maybe, your mom could shed some light for you on why she has been able to forget the past to a certain extent and move on. If nothing else, this might make you and your mom even closer and it sounds like no one else (professional or otherwise) would understand better than her.
With my FIL, we do not stay when he is drunk or starts drinking. The entire family knows we pack up and leave, regardless of the situation. It hurts his feelings sometimes I can tell, but he knows the circumstances and we have small children that we will not subject to that. It was difficult at first but over the years it is just "the way it is" and no one says a word anymore and respects where we are coming from.
slightly diverting
Imho is not abnormal to be attached to your spouse.
I also find my own thoughts and beliefs extremely boring and have no desire whatsoever to examine myself I would rather read a book, even a bad one.
Slightly different prediction
I think it could be Adam, Kris, and Danny. I think it's very possible Allison might not make the final 3.
Here's who I think SHOULD make the final 3:
Adam, Allison, and Matt (in that order). I don't care for Danny at all, not all that much for Matt, either. To me, Adam and Allison are the ones with the exceptional talent.
Slightly off the subject but this reminds me
of the headlines about the poor woman laying on the ER floor in California vomiting blood and dying and not having anyone pay any attention to her! How disgusting is that!!!!
maybe a slightly pinched nerve? (sm)
I've had something like this happen before, mostly just took an anti-inflammatory and/or another hot shower to loosen up then tried to work through it...
Good luck!
Almost 2 years. Problem has sometimes improved slightly,
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Slightly hypothyroid, about 6 months ago I found a lump
in my neck, had the whole workup including thyroid blood work and US guided biopsy which was benign. They put me on Synthroid, which has greatly helped my fatigue, etc. I thought I was just getting old and tired, etc. However, the mass is still there, not any smaller, so they will probably want to remove part of my thyroid sooner or later. If it enlarges they will definitely want to remove it. I would think by having thyroid removed you would actually gain weight unless your thyroid medication is adjusted appropriately?
Dillards has nice dresses for older women, slightly
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And Thursday night is safer than Friday night - how?
We used to live in a town that was once in the Guiness Book of World Records for number of churches per capita (which by the way was the worst place I've ever lived - discourteous, Nazi schools, etc.), and they wouldn't let us trick or treat on Sundays. Ridiculous! People can say what they want but celebrating Halloween doesn't make you a devil worshiper! Just my 2 cents!
I had the same thing the night before...last night though (sm)
made teriyaki chicken and macaroni and cheese from a box. Tonight is chicken and rice. Tomorrow night is leftover teriyaki chicken :-)
Yes, I used to take 20 mg at night
and this worked very well for me. I also felt a little out of it for the first week or so, but give it time to work as I didn't notice any changes until about 3-4 weeks after taking it. I'm sure you know this, but don't stop taking it altogether without weaning because I actually ran out of it once for about a week and I had really bad symptoms of withdrawal after the second day.
Hope it works for you! It really did help me a lot, and I got to a point where I didn't need it anymore.
Do you take it all during the day or only at night?
I took that 1/2 a tab this morning and fell asleep on the couch after lunch. Ended up oversleeing for my 2:00 shift. Don't want to do that anymore.
I'm sorry about what happened to you. That would be freaky to have someone jump out in front of your car like that.
I only take it at night. I take it about 35 min. before I go to bed. If I were to take it during the
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An Okay night, Me2!
At first when I went to bed I was freakin' out! I did not sleep that well, but them drifted off. I think maybe when Hermie comes home at night (He works at home, but has a job a few evenings second shift) when he check his mail he leaves the front door open. I think that is how they get in! He said he had three in about 5 years!! See my post about Hermie. I'm havin' some unsavory thoughts! HAAAA!
Yes, the party was a smash hit. My precious growled at me when I acted like I ws gonna take her new rope toy. I heard this little ERRRRRR under the table and cracked up. She loves to jump up on my lap about 500 times per visit, but last night those jump-ups were rather limited. She was GUARDING HER TOY! Every time she jumped up I could see her looking to the side with her big eyes watching the toy on the floor! 
I will try to enjoy my day. Some days I am not really up for just being alone and doing errands, but today I am. I need to relax. I have had so much pain lately again. I am glad we are email friends and sure wish we could get together sometime. Do you enjoy watching the agility trials and dog shows? I wish I knew of a place when it gets cooler to do to just take a lawn chair and watch these fabulous dogs perform for the crowds! I don't know if I told you before, but I went to Westminster with my niece and friend in 2006! What a thrill! I wrote a song and sang it on CD and took along and gave it to David Frei. I sure wish you could hear it! About a month ago I wrote another song about a dog show, but I really don't want to go to the expense now to find someone to play for me and put it on CD.
Have a great day, and read my Hermie post. You might smile. IT IS ALL TRUE, so help me TYNE! 
N/T Fan, what did you think about last night?
Loved it, but poor Christian, feeling so left out. But still up to his old ways. I didn't like what he did at the end.
Linda
We did that last night
We had pancakes and bacon.
When I was a kid we did that every Wed. night
That was our FAVORITE dinner! Scrambled eggs, bacon and toast! I still do that now, though not as often. I get hungry just thinking about bacon.
COF night
We do a COF night - clean out the fridge - where we just warm up all the leftover from the meals during the week. Usually was something leftover from every meal or frozen in containers to just microwave as all it takes is adding a bit to the weekly meals. Everyone seems to like it and finds plenty - just get out some applesauce or fruit to add and we are good. Sometimes throw in a batch of cornmeal muffins.
We have it almost every night unless
We've been married for 16 years. I don't know what the average is, but I guess you have to really want it.
AI last night
I was very happy with last night's outcome. I love Adam and I think Allison is amazing for being so young. Not too sure about Chris. I really don't like the way they're doing the voting at all this year, though because I thought there were more than 3 that should have gone through this round and last round. It will be interesting to see who their wild card picks are going to be. Did you know that Clay was a wild card and he ended up coming in second and being pretty successful.
Well, how did you like last night?
I think the final 13 are about the best I have seen in several years now. Started off with a bang. I loved Danny, Lil and dog it, cannot think of the other's names yet. The group really is hot. I am glad to see it back as a contest of singing, hopefully not a contest of who is the most popular. This is a good group to choose from.
AI last night
I thought most of them did an awesome job. I did miss a few, but my favorites so far are Adam, Danny, Matt, Lil Rounds and Alexis, although I do think the judges were right last night and she was a little too over the top. Now what do you think about what they said last night about the big change? I was a little worried at first, but then on The View, Elizabeth was thinking that maybe it has something to do with the way the votes are done this year. She thinks that maybe the judges will have a say this year and not just the voters. If that's the case, I may like it. That way if America votes off someone and the judges think they were wrong, they can keep them. Not sure if this is what it is or not, but it made sense -- don't make it a popularity contest, but a real competition. She likened it to Sanjaya where he basically stayed because he was so popular.
Last night's AI
I personally cannot stand country music so last night was tough for me to watch but I am wowed by the talent this year. It's hard to say who should be in the top 4. Love the young 16 yo rocker girl and also love Megan. She reminds me a little of Joss Stone.
But it is the next day, was on last Night. NM
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20/20 had a special on E-Bay the other night,
warning about scam sellers - it was actually a repeat though they touted the show as new. On the test buys they ran, all the sellers who scammed them in one way or another had 98% or above feedback. The feedback means nothing, really, as there are lots of ways to remove it - i.e. paying for it to be removed, and also lots of feedback blackmail, where most buyers are too wimpy to leave a negative, as it means they will get one, too. So the feedback system is not valid at all.
I've used it.. best to take at night.
It does make you sleepy but not like out of it or anything. It definitely helps calm you down. I have never taken it on a FT basis as I was scared of being hooked on them as I know they are addictive. I just take them when I'm extremely stressed out.
so who got the boot last night?
Was it the results show? I haven't really kept up with it this year, just can't seem to get into it...but I did see Lakisha and LOVED her!
last night on Nat'l Geographics.....sm
I get what you're pointing out - makes no sense (esp the teacher-child molestation issues)....
On TV last night was a program on the Miami Drug Cartel from the 1970s thru the 80s and into the 90s.....it was so interesting to see how this city was built up......and so much of it was from the drug business, laundering money out of country, and returning it back to Miami in the form of constructing new sky scrapers everywhere and the cigarette racing boats
.......it's going to be on several times this week on Nat'l Geographic TV but worth checking out.......all appeared to be white collar crime too....most of these people (who are now quite elderly or getting quite elderly) were sharing their drug-running stories and not from jail. It was riveting to see how it all came about, how it evolved, and how it changed drastically during the Reagan era....and how *crack cocaine* came to be and how that particular drug has taken down so many from so many walks of life.
Drugs are a big factor in why people make these bad choices that they do - what you were pointing out..........studying, getting degreed, and then thrrowing it all away...and that's what was shown on this TV show!!!
Very sad, indeed!!! 
Signed: Someone who lost a sister to drugs in 1977
did you even WATCH last night?
in Africa and in the Adirondacks in this country and NOLA. This was not the usual american idol - no one got booted off the show and they collected MILLIONS of dollars during this 2-hour special.
Unless you watched it last night, best hold your tongue because you have no clue.......last night was not a REALITY show American Idol -
AGAIN, IT WAS A TELETHON.......
You won't see the bugs, they only come out at night....
when you are sleeping.
Something did occur to us last night sm
At about the same time this started, we bought a small tree for the front yard. We first got a Crimson Queen maple, but it would have gotten too much sun where we wanted to put it, so my husband took it back and we got a wisteria standard instead. He was manhandling these trees (in pots) into the back of his car, and the worst areas of the rash are areas where the pot would have touched him when he was trying to get it into the car. Both pots were dripping water. So it is possible that either there was something in one of the trees that caused this reaction, something in the water (fertilizer, etc.), something in the soil in the pots - who knows? But we're hoping that was the origin as we aren't planning on buying any new trees for a while!
Anyone see Mohammed Ali last night on...sm
I do believe Laila Ali or Apollo are going to win, although Laila toned it down last night because her father and mother were sitting on the sidelines (her mom is always there but first time for Mohammed). He didn't look great but he smiled on one side of his mouth, had that eternal twinkle in his eye, and pointed at someone he recognized.
love Ali, and not bragging or anything but I met him when I was 18 and he was known as Cassius Clay...
ut-oh - age giveaway *lol*
I was very shocked last night...
My DH and I picked Melinda from the beginning to win, so we were very disappointed. Probably won't watch next week.
(5/23) - Apolo WON last night! sm
He was AWESOME. Of course, all three couples were unbelievable, and each deserved 1st place as much as the next. But Apolo's performances throughtout the 10 weeks were consistently good - never any "bottom two" scores, etc. And his attitude is superior, as well. A stellar role model for young & old, alike. So I'm thrilled that he won - he totally derserved it.
PAY NOW AND SLEEP ALL NIGHT
Once back when the dinosaurs roamed the earth, I bought kitchen appliances from a big company. I had two cards for the big company, a regular charge account and a revolving credit account. I bought them on revolving credit. Someone screwed up and every time I sent a payment they sent it back and said I had no balance. I called and told them I had one. They said they would look into it. I would pay the next month. They sent it back. I drove to the big city 300 miles away (we lived in the sticks) and brought my paperwork from when I purchased them and the papers from delivery. Twelve months or so later they found out I was right and billed me. They wrote off the interest because if I had not told them they never would have found out. I still am glad that I did it. I was worried for all that time about that and after it was settled I could sleep all night!
Just saw one last night that cracked me up ....
The guy and his dad are talking about their circles on the cell phones and the guy realizes he isn't in his dad's circle, just a bunch of senior citizen women. And his dad asks, Do you want me to hook you up? My husband and I couldn't stop laughing. That was so cute.
We also like the ones on ESPN with the Nascar drivers in driving school with the grouchy cop.
BTW, am checking out for the night sm
Thursday is my busiest day and my children alway do the cooking, tonight is spaghettie, YUM! Thanks to all who respond.
Not hooked, but I saw it last night and it was very - sm
interesting. Never really knew that much about WWII. Not surprized the US government lied about stuff back then. Guess some things will never change.
I'm a night person
I'm more comfortable typing between 1:00-3:00 a.m. when all is quite with no interruptions. I hate mornings.
Ruff night!! (sm)
although ugly floor is a good one!!
Last night's leftovers too. nm
I'm in CA and was up all night worried ...
that I might have to evacuate because of the fires here. My kids are scared. My cell service is down so can't call my PS So, I emailed her early this morning to let her know I might have to be evacuated and if so won't be able to work. No answer. Emailed her supervisor. No answer. Luckily, (so far) we haven't had to evacuate, but I am sooooooo tired from staying up all night with worry and from getting prepared in case we do have to leave. On top of that, I feel I have to work since I didn't get a reply. So I'm trying.
So, whatever. Who cares if I get a reply. But then I started thinking, wow, they REALLY just don't care. It's not like I'm suprised, of course, but still, when something like this happens it really just make you feel bad .  I'm just trying to console myself thinking that maybe they are just too busy or both of them didn't get my 2 separate emails.
In comparison, my sister, who works for local huge defense company.....Let's see, her supervisor called HER 3 times already to see how her family was and gave her (and other employees affected) the entire week off WITH pay. I don't expect that much, but even a call to say it's okay to take a PTO day would have been nice.
We emptied out last night..
I have a few science projects growing in the back...ewwww.
Wow! Big snow last night
Have about 16 inches of snow this morning. Sledding anyone?
No, it means you had sex on the same night, 13
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I missed the 1st night but saw the 2nd.
It was hilarious. It is obvious some people are even shocked when they hear their own voices a capella. They have probably only sung along with the radio or in the shower before, but even after they've been rejected they keep trying to make a pretty sound come out, like "where is it?" Uh, this is what you always sound like, but it's been drowned out by the radio, LOL.
It's my one night out and away from the family
I definitely need it. Chicken nuggets is my younger daughter's favorite meal.
He was here in our area last night. sm
I didn't get to go (tears). His opening act is Little Big Town my new fav. band. I am doubly jealous. Hope your have a terrrrific time!
went out last night at 10:00 and couldn't
even see the moon. It was snowing here. I was so disappointed. I never saw an eclipse before. Guess I'll have to wait until 2010 to see the next one.
In the middle of the night?
They'd come in every night, have a noisy destructive party, and leave come dawn. Does the animal control in your area work 24/7? Ours doesn't. We tried blocking all entrances to the basement and they'd dig around it and get in anyway, making it clear they wouldn't take no for an answer. Was I supposed to blast music down my ducts all night, every night? I don't think so, my sleep is more important. IMO its less "cruel" than hunting for "sport". I was protecting my property and my peace of mind. I also have no problem killing bats that get in my house, and trapping smaller animals and relocating them elsewhere. If animals are outside, I don't mess with them. If they come in my house, I have a right to get them out by any means necessary.
Went to see Libera last night
Wow those little voices really are like angel voices! What a beautiful sound.
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