Absolutely no regrets! sm
Posted By: trose on 2007-06-14
In Reply to: Do regret any of the following - things?
My hubby and I have been married almost 20 years. We married when I was 20 and he 22. I look back now and think how young we were (our kids are 14 and 16)definitely no regrets there, but if either comes to me at the age of 20 saying they want to get married I will say No way in He!!. Not becuase mine is bad, actucally quite wonderful, but I now know the importance of getting an good education. I do regret not going to college.
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No regrets to any of those.
Now ask me about regrets of letting my ass get as wide as it is or not getting braces when I was younger...or not becoming a pilot, or choosing the right Powerball numbers, or not being the inventor of the wheel....
regrets
I don't regret my first marriage or my 3 children through that marriage. They have brought me more joy than I ever imagined possible (I am blessed with great kids). I do regret that divorce though I had no control over it.
I do regret my 2nd marriage(a very short one) - and don't regret that divorce which I initiated. You live and learn I guess. I think at 49 I'm finally starting to get it right. 
not really regrets, but
I can see how much easier my life could have been had I chosen to get married a little later in life (I got married at 18), after having some independence first. I also think it could have been easier if I had chosen to have kids about 5 years or so later (waited nearly 5 years). Then again, I'm so glad all 3 of my kids have been sleeping through the night since I was about 29 years old. I don't know how those who have children later tolerate that part of it. I love my uninterrupted sleep.
Overall, though, I am blessed with 3 great kids and a husband of nearly 21 years. It has been very, very tough, but no regrets. :)
No Regrets At All
I didn't get married until I was 30 and had my last child (2nd) at 41. I wouldn't change it for anything in the world. I'm very happy with my life,my husband and my daughters. It's sad that some people regret getting married and/or having children, although I don't know everyone's circumstances and I don't judge others because of that.
Regrets...
I guess I would say I regret my first marriage (I very young, we had 2 children, but he was a wife beater) but my kids would not be here if not for him...I regret my very short 2nd marriage (very nice guy, handsome, had a great job) he deserved someone better than me, he smothered me too much with love and I could not handle it...but then I would never have met husband # 3 who is wonderful, all that #2 was and more, but I am older and wiser now...this is it, no more husbands for me!
Regrets
Dum-Dum - What a wonderful philosophy! I'm struggling to get to that point myself. I went through two marriages/divorces with the same person - if anything, I regret taking so long to realize he simply cannot be the man I need - not won't, can't. I don't regret having my children, even though my youngest (the one I thought would be closest to me throughout life as she was in childhood) doesn't even acknowledge me now. I'm alone now - by choice - but I'm trying to have faith that doesn't necessarily have to be my situation for the rest of my life.
Minor regrets
The only real regret I have is in believing him when he said he was going to "be a father" and stay home every time I tried to regain custody. The younger boy suffered for this because he was left home more often after the older was grown. No, he didn't try to take the kids right away. I think he waited until he saw I was completely overwhelmed with single parenting and then pounced, two years later. I have ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS about leaving him!!! I never would have my 22 year healthy marriage and two kids with my present husband, who is a honey in every way, had I not left.
Any regrets leaving the Q?
They're getting on my last nerve, but there are those that say that being an MT is pretty much the same everywhere. I hope not; I'm tired of having multiple different hospitals during each shift.
No regrets whatsoever..sm
only wish I could have had it done 5-6 years sooner!
No regrets, chalk all up to experience. :-) (nm)
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Add one more "no regrets" to your list
My fibroids started to grow when I got pregnant and six months after I gave birth they were still huge (about the same size as yours - my doc said my uterus was about 16-week size). I had my hysterectomy at 34 and it was one of the best things I've ever done, health-wise. I had horrible periods since high school. I remember my mom picking me up from school and having to pull over to the side of the road so I could throw up.
Good luck to you. The main advice I would give is make sure you rest the FULL time your doc recommends. My incision actually wasn't that painful until I tried to do too much and pulled a muscle in it. Yeeeeouch!
So rest, take care, and you should be fine!
My best friend really regrets her dentures
She got them at age 45 - finds they feel too big for her mouth - triggering her gag reflex constantly. She had difficulty learning to eat with them - so she takes them out and hides when she eats so nobody will see her, and has had to radically alter what she eats. She told me it was the worst mistake she ever made in her life.
My cousin, on the other hand, loves hers and wishes she would have got them years ago. She was in constant pain and now is not.
Whatever you decide - good luck!
A very good friend of mine had ablation and no regrets.
She has no more periods. This is just a little over a year, and she was having very serious problems, had to have transfusion twice due to the heavy bleeds prior. She was willing to try this before hysterectomy, and it worked for her.
ABSOLUTELY . . .
If children find out on their own, they think they have figured out the great mystery of life, if someone tells them (especially an adult), they are taking away a precious, magical childhood time. My daughter believed up until she was 11 . . . and now that she and my almost 11-year-old son have figured it out, they think THEY have uncovered a great mystery!!! They think it's funny, actually. My 7-year-old still believes and he will until he is at least 10, if I have anything to say about it. That's like talking to them about faith in my opinion. That's the parents' responsibility
Absolutely..
My stepmother had a TAH almost 20 years ago and has had hot flashes ever since then. Sorry, that's probably bad news!
Absolutely don't do it
Same story here. Sit through sales pitch, very very hard sell, push push push. Then, instead of the "jeweled timepiece" which was the LEAST expensive prize, I got a cheap Timex that didn't even run.
Run run run away from this!!!!!
absolutely I would have said something
What if these kids are in his care a lot?
What if he does this behind closed doors (very likely if he struck out at the little one in public) when mommy isn't around?
What if he isn't their dad (or is) and he's abusing them but she doesn't know it?
As a mom, I would definitely want to know if someone struck my kid. Especially if I was a single mom (which I have been) and this guy was a boyfriend who was responsible for caring for my kids while I was at work or otherwise occupied. I would never leave them with him again, I could tell you that for certain.
Doesn't really matter what their personal situation is. The fact is, the kid was struck for no good reason and the jerk should have been called on it.
If he made a stink or if she made a stink, SO WHAT, follow them and get a license plate number then turn them in!
You-re absolutely right
A few months ago I was at a class I take at the YMCA and one woman was telling us how her daughter-in-law had a miscarriage. She was saying how hard it was and finally I spoke up and said I too had miscarried. After I said that, at least 4 other women (out of a group of maybe 10-12) admitted they too had miscarried. I was stunned. I had no idea how many of us there were. Knowing I wasn't alone might have helped when I was going through it.
On the other hand, if anything good came of it, I think it made me a better mother. I cherished every moment of my children's lives and took none of it for granted.
Absolutely!
Men like that feed off of control. My ex did the same thing. Just pull your boots up! It'll be okay. Talk to your family (parents? siblings?), see a lawyer (don't tell your husband), and look at getting into counseling. I've been exactly where you are and I know what you're feeling. It's awful, but the sooner you get free, the better you'll feel and the better off your children will be.
Did I read that he stays off for days without contacting you?
Absolutely...sm
Any and all prayers appreciated. Thank you so much.
Sorry you went through the same thing. It certainly isn't good at all.
Absolutely NOT!....
You'd better give that to me and I'll take care of it for you.
(I am absolutely staaaving!)
This is absolutely
And surprisingly cute! Thanks for sharing...BTW, did you wear the ones you were given? 
Absolutely
You have the right idea!! Where I live, Hard Rock Cafe had their 10th year anniversay Saturday night. My husband and I and a couple of friends (who are about 5 years younger than I am) decided to go. Rich music history here in my neck of the woods. When we walked in, the young girl standing at the hostess desk looked at us and said "Just to make sure you know it is our 10th anniversay and we will be having loud rock music tonight in case you want to eat dinner somewhere else". I asked her why she told me that because she didn't tell the couple that was in front of us. She said "well, I thought at your age you might not like it." I couldn't believe it. That's why we were there, to hear the bands that were playing.
Absolutely right!
The world needs more kind people like yourself and you are 100% correct about the animal cruelty!
Absolutely!
 I met my best friend in 1975 when we worked together. I tell people I've had her longer than I had my husband (28 years). We have seen each other through second marriages, second divorces, the entire deal. Talk daily sometimes 2-3 times. And yes sometimes "a friend sticketh closer than a brother", in this case anyway!
Absolutely!
How could you do any less for a member of your family? You're not crazy at all; you're a sensitive, caring human being who puts love before money. Take care of yourself; everything will work out.
i have absolutely no
rear end. It's flat as a pancake. :=(
Absolutely
I have a family member with Parkinson's disease. He has the adolescent onset version so he's only now 39 and on disability. He cannot sit all day and work at the job he used to have at an investment firm. He has been in a car accident due to blanking out on medication. The only thing the doctors had left to tell him was take this medication which should work for about 10 years so you can work but after that you'll probably be debilitated. Well having 2 small children at the time, the answer was simple, be able to raise my family or be able to work. So he went on disability. Now he is able to active occasionally but his hands are real shaky and so is his voice. Whenever he has to go to the disability office, he is treated with contempt and disbelief until he hikes his 1 foot thick medical record file on their desk!
I also know of someone who was on disability that actually worked for the MT company I used to work for (this is hearsay mind you). Evidently she was using her husband's social security number to earn a paycheck! Whenever I meet someone or hear of someone cheating the system, I want them to meet my family member and explain to them why they think they are entitled to take money out of his pockets and his children's pockets. Makes me so mad!
Absolutely not. nm
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ABSOLUTELY!!
I posted above about my Canadian boyfriend. The taxes to pay for their universal/provincial healthcare are outrageous!!
Absolutely.
As an MT I cannot stand transcribing a social history that states "smokes 3 packs of cigarettes a day but denies the use of alcohol or drugs" and then has a positive alcohol or marij. screen. Why is one of the 3 considered acceptable in society and the others are not? To me, they are all essentially at the same level. They all have addictive properties and the potential for longterm complications, bad decisions, etc. If marij. has the potential of doing some good for anyone then I think it should be legalized.
Another good point you bring up is the cost of housing the so called "criminals" who have use it recreationally and could have just as easily used recreational alcohol and been involved in a drunk driving incident. It's all about education and setting limits. Sure there have to be guidelines but I don't think all should be punished because of the few exceptions.
You are absolutely right, he
could have done any of a number of things to cause A PIT BULL dog to attack and kill him. He could have yelled at the TV. He could have stepped on one of their feet. He could have fallen down. We don't know what happened, but the point is that no pet should ever be capable of killing a human with whom it shares a home. Other breeds recognize their master and other humans in their living space and take their rightful place. Most good, smart companion dogs would have recognized this man's special frailty and give him a wider berth. The instinct of these dogs to attack overcomes them and they can't turn off that instinct. This breed should never be kept as pets.
You should visit the web site I posted and click on the tab about pit bull owners. I find it very interesting that you have used the same phrases that most owners use to defend the breed.
Can you name one desirable character trait that a pit bull has that you cannot find in any other dog?
Absolutely!!!
I just met the love of my life 1-1/2 years ago, and I have a daughter in college, so I don't believe happiness is rendered elusive after a certain age.
After my man and I got together in what is indeed a story for "the grandkids," we discovered we had been at the same time/same place on multiple previous occasions, almost like fate kept dropping us into one another's paths until we finally interconnected. I had always held out and refused to settle, and I've ended up with the most wonderful man who treats me better than I had ever imagined. And, most importantly, someone who can make me laugh no matter what's going on around us.
I used to be a total skeptic about "love" and all that it entailed; however, once I met "the one," it totally changed my perception of love and just how life-changing and wonderful love can be. My friends say *glow* since I've been with him, and even his mother has seen a huge change in him since we got together. As corny as it sounds, I feel "complete" for the first time in my life.
Don't give up hope...Use your head to get yourself out of a bad situation, and then use your heart to follow your dreams. We ALL deserve happiness in life, and I'm a firm believer that fate will eventually have its way with us, and we end up right where we're intended to be.
You go, girl...grab that golden ring and don't let go!!!
You are absolutely right.......... sm
I found myself in a similar situation several years ago. The man, whom I loved very much and still do, decided that it was not within him to have a relationship with me because of religious beliefs. I do still love him very much and always will but I have come to understand that we are to never be together and I have moved on with my life. Hardest thing I've ever done, but I feel much healthier for it. My suggestion to the woman in the original story is that if she does love this man, then she must respect his decision and the sooner she does it, the quicker she will heal from the pain.
Absolutely not!
If it happened even just once, I'd be out of there in a flash.
absolutely and I think he is too! sm
My husband and I have been married for 13-1/2 years and were best friends for 4 years leading up to that. The single that I love most about him is that if I'm having a bad day, I can tell him that. I can say I need a hug cuz I'm having a really bad day and he's there for me. He listens if I want to talk about it and if not, he just holds me.
As for the groping thing, we always do that. Sometimes it turns into something more and sometimes we just end up giggling. We have 3 kids, so we've had our ups and downs. They range in age from 6 to 11. I think the biggest thing for us is that we're friends, first and foremost. I love him because he makes it easy for me to smile.
Absolutely
Better to agree to disagree than start a fight which is all too prevalent on the board. Have fun watching tonight. My daughter and I are always screaming at the TV when it's on. I definitely agree that most of the women were off last night. The girl you're talking about, I think you and I are thinking of the same one. That second guy I don't remember at all from the auditions.
Absolutely
Funny, when kids were spanked at home, they behaved at school. Now it's a crime to spank your child and the schools are filled with rowdy uncontrollable children who they now control by medicating them. Funny how no one had ADHD 40 years ago.
Absolutely...
I just hate that it always seems to be the fruit that I have to give up. When apples were 6 bucks a bag last year, I left them right in that store. A couple of weeks ago, the week right after V-day, strawberries were 4 bucks a pint, Seriously? The day before they had been 2 for 5. They stayed in the store. Grapes are expensive always it seems but my local grocer packages them smaller so I'm not paying as much, not getting as much but still it gives my kids a good snack for at least a day. S A D!
I have had this and it can be absolutely
terrifying. One time I felt like someone was sitting on the bed next to me and I was the only one home. I have had it happen 3 or 4 times.
I have had this and it can be absolutely
terrifying. One time I felt like someone was sitting on the bed next to me and I was the only one home. I have had it happen 3 or 4 times. You feel totally helpless.
You are absolutely right
From the start, this whole argument has been skewed, saying Bush banned stem cell research. Not exactly. It was not banned, it was NOT FUNDED by government money. What has actually been lifted is the funding issue, which simply means there is another way for government to p*ss away our money. (Like they haven't found enough ways already!)
Absolutely.
I moved about a year after high school. Had to get away from my dad who told me I belonged to him until I got married and I had to do what he told me. Well, since I had no desire to get married yet I took off and moved 1000 miles away. Best thing I ever did for myself. Had a blast! I look back on those days between high school and marriage as the best learning experience and the most fun I ever had.
Oh absolutely!..........
It's a gotcha kind of thing. After all, whose is going to bury your loved one? What you need to remember is to look for those that sell caskets wholesale in your area. The funeral home industry tried to shut them down a while back, but the law said they had EVERY right to sell caskets without operating a funeral home business, which of course they do. This country is supposed to be based on "free enterprise". Now, of course, the funeral homes hate this because they make LOTS OF MONEY selling those same coffins you can get for wholesale prices and thousands less!!
We just buried my brother in law and my husband said up front he was not going to fall for all those bells and whistles because we were his guardians and we were NOT going to let the funeral home take what little he had less and could hopefully leave something for his son. Well, my husband told them what he wanted, basically part and parcel, instead of the "package deal" they give. I told him they would have him either way because they would charge way more for the piece by piece method instead of the package deal and sure enough, they did!
By the time you paid a separte charge for transportation of the coffin to the burial site, the separate burial charge from the funeral home (which by the way did NOT cover digging the grave....what a joke!), setting up the chairs at the graveside as a separate charge (are you kidding?), carrying the flowers out to the graveside (separate charge), and dozens of other "separate" charges, they had you nailed!
It ended up being cheaper with one of the "package deals" though we did try to keep the cost of the coffin as low as possible.
No matter what the economy, the funeral business is a "recession/depression proof" business!!
Absolutely
I couldn't have said it better. Look where Chris Daughtry is, though. I think whether Adam wins or not he'll have a great career.
Absolutely!! sm
That way he learns life is not free and has some concept of budgeting. I think it will also give him a sense of pride knowing he is pulling his own weight.
Absolutely
My mom did it to all of us when we graduated. She was very clear. If we went to school she would continue to pay all expenses. If we chose not to go to school, then we would need to get a job and contribute to the household expenses. It never made me resent her and it never made me feel like I couldn't go back home for any reason. It wasn't a large amount, either, but it was just enough to let us know that we had obligations.
Absolutely not!!
We have to set high standards for our children, they are our future and we are their examples. Draw a line and don't cross it. Teenagers still need their parents and will greatly appreciate that line drawn, it shows them you care and love them (even if they act like they don't like it, they do like boundries.)
No, we are absolutely positive about where and when -sm
it was left, I will be checking the schools L&F though just in case the guilty party returns it to there to escape detection.
Absolutely, and she should be fired...!
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It absolutely is because he voted.....
In my small town, everytime you vote, you can pretty much guarantee you will be called for jury duty within the next year! Maybe it has something to do with smaller towns.....Merry Christmas!
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