Absolutely wonderful post. I never thought
Posted By: trose on 2008-02-21
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of that. So wonderful to see so many perspectives on this board.
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Absolutely wonderful advice. nm
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Sounds absolutely wonderful!!! :)
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what a wonderful post. sm
i've never experienced anything you have mentioned, but i think you are a very strong person for what you've been through and turning yourself around. i'm sorry for what you've been through, but i'm glad that you have the faith to overcome. just wanted you to know i was touched by your post. God bless. 
Wonderful post.
You painted such a beautiful picture of your dogs and have a big heart. They need a voice in this world. Yours rings loud and clear!!
What a wonderful post. I truly thank you
for sharing what I know from experience is painful to recall. I have literally turned myself inside out to please my sister, and for months we have been like best friends, and because I forgot to bring an envelope of pictures along with me on Saturday night to her place which I had for one week she screamed at me. I told her she owed me an apology and she never would say it. She said she was not wrong, and that I am horribly irresponsible and the WHOLE FAMILY agrees, even my mom. I hate her right now. I am also a Christian and I know that I need to forgive, but it will take time. I do not deserve to be treated like that. I have done more for her than anyone else. I am alone and she is my only sister. If our relationship is gone and I don't go to family functions, I am totally alone. This is really hard. I feel for you, too. You are very strong. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this with me.
Thank you for such a wonderful post. nm
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Thank you so much for your wonderful post.
To be honest, when I first started reading it, I was like UH OH...and felt you were not recommending the military, but your post was very nice and diplomatic. It's funny how no matter how old your children become you never stop worrying or being a mom. The only thing that gives me hope is that this is the first time in her life that she has been positive about anything and focused. I have to believe, or want to, that this is a sign that there is what she should be doing in her life. We've gone from no hope to something very positive. My heart just tells me it is the right career choice for her. So, thank you again for sharing your story and good and the bad.
Wonderful post.
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I agree with the post above, some lino is wonderful sm
and be clear, there real live linoleum and then there is vinyl flooring. REAL lino looks EXACTLY like anything they want to make it look like. Vinyl flooring won't look like anything other than what it is. I have kids and pets, so I have VINYL throughout the house with washable area rugs. I'd love hard wood or real lino, but sadly both are equally pricey and God knows, we don't make money in this business anymore.
What a lovely wonderful woman you are...not the OP but touched by your post.
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Just wanted to comment on the wonderful quote at the bottom of your post!
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Excuse me? The original post said absolutely nothing about her mother being SM
ill. I knew nothing about anyone's mother suffering because of dog barking. Dogs and pets need to be owned by responsible people and there would be no such problem in any event.
Reading your post it is clear the love you gave this wonderful animal SM
thoughout her life. You were together for many years and you gave her a wonderful life. Please try to always remember that. A woman who cleaned for my mom cleaned my apartment once and when I showed her a dog collar that I have that my darling Westie wore I broke down. This woman knew my Westie and loved her, too. I cried and said I had some feelings of guilt that I was dealing with. This wonderful woman said something to me that might help you now. She said
"Just think of the life you gave her. Now think of the life she might have had if she had fallen into the hands of someone who did not love her." That really helped me a lot. I hope in time it will help you, too. God Bless you.
Who would have thought that your post
would lead to "bad girls". Maybe we don't have stronger laws in this country because some narrow minded people want to blame the victims. I say this as a victim of a child molester. Maybe I have said to much, but I know for a fact I was NOT at fault.
I thought no offshore could post on here.
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Thought the same, just didn’t post it
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Thought I saw a post like yours on the political board regarding grape research
America cannot take care of all the needy in the world, even if they gave the "grape research" money to them. Keep off your soapbox because you are yelling. I know several who use the welfare system. I give to no one on the streets. I don't care what kind of sign they are holding up, will work for ..... I rescue animals and help our 4 legged friends. That is about as charitable as I get.
How wonderful
You have a great brother...and he must feel he has a great sister :)
Have a great Thanksgiving!!!
Wonderful!
You have a right to be proud! Lots of teenagers are really caring and so sensible. Speaks loudly of how he was raised. GOOD FOR YOU!
Isn't wonderful to know there are still some wonderful
teenage boys out there. My son just turned 17 and he sounds a lot like your son. He loves so many of our Christmas traditions, but at the same time is a typical teenage boy. My son loves to cook and loves to help decorate, just don't tell anyone.
Wonderful - thanks
That is wonderful - thank you very very much. I am sending to all my family and freinds.
Wonderful! I have all I need and most of what I want.
NM
Wonderful!
Thanks for the tip. I'll have to watch for it.
This is wonderful.
I forget the man's name right off the top of my head, but he has a book about this; ironically enough you can "charge it on your card" to purchase! So, kind of funny there! I checked out the book at the library instead, figured out what to do, and still have not gotten around to it. I need to get it all down on paper, and I've asked for $200.00 a month extra from hubs for what he gives me towards bills (he pays our entire mortgage) and I tend to to take care of the rest. However, he does put his own gas in the car and treats us for different odds and ends, fast food, movie night, day at the beach, you get the picture...
The only problem I see with this is the way I get paid. I am an IC. I only have one online company that truly pays me on time. My other accounts I bill every other week but they don't always pay right away (could be a week lag sometimes) and another I only get once a month. Also, the work fluctuates. So, I may make $1.400.00 a month with one account but if the docs go on vacation, that can bring it down to say $600.00 a month.
So while your plan, I agree, is wonderful and yes it does work, and yes I'm going to give it a try, doesn't always pan out "budget wise" income wise for me personally being an IC and having fluctuating work. I might add the online company I range anywhere from 14,000 to 20,000 lines a month given the work is there, I work from a pool; no line quotas, and no set schedule. So, I need to be on my toes to grab the work. I do have a lot of accounts to choose from, but when I go out twice a week to pick-up work, I am away from the computer, hence losing some of those jobs I could have grabbed. I check all day long until 11 p.m. to make sure I take all that I can.
Sorry this is so long, but I think that's where I am so "floundering" on this "budget" thing where I am never sure if I'll have "my end of the budget" every month. I don't have a set income, but I would not trade this profession for anything; been doing it 20 years, and love it and love being at home with the kids (school age), but still...
You tat - how wonderful
When my mom was alive she told my her aunt tried teaching her how to TAT but she would go so fast my mom couldn't keep up. I've got the tatting needle, shuttle and "tatting for beginners" book but I just was never able to get it. I do like to knit, though I have to admit the last time I knitted I was in 4H in school and made slippers.
I do cross stitch too.
Wonderful!
What an amazing testimony to God.
How wonderful, congratulations and wish you the best !!!!...nm
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Wonderful news
What great news! I'm so happy to hear that you have a healthy baby. Good luck. It's too bad your first doctor had to scare you like that.
What a Wonderful Person
I wish I knew more people like you. It's too bad that some people are like this, but unfortunately the world is so much different thatit used to be. Keep doing what makes you happy.
Actually he is a wonderful father...
who takes time out of his sleep schedule to be with them, eat dinner with us, go to kids' sporting events and the usual things people do without missing a beat because everything works out for their schedule. People who sleep during the night have no clue how hard it is to sleep during the day when it is light out, loud noises outside like lawnmowers, snowblowers, leafblowers, construction and more than you could realize. Nobody schedules meetings at 1:00 am so you have to get up after a few hours. Going to church on Sunday with your family and having family day requires less sleep because he works Sat. and Sun. night.
I feel sorry for you that you can't have an open mind enough to see that not everybody has the same life, same feelings, same jobs. If I can make him more comfortable including having a dark bedroom then I will and I asked for help in achieving this goal, not to have someone who doesn't know him or our family come on here and insult us. Not once did I say this was something he told me to do or makes me do..I am doing it because I love him. If he gets home in time in the mornings he gets the kids ready for school. Marriage is about give and take.
What a wonderful tribute!
Not only to your husband, but also to your daughter for being able to express those feelings to him, and to you for having raised such a loving daughter.
I'm tearing up myself here....
U must be a wonderful person....
to have two such beautiful people in your life. Sounds like you have a great family!
Thank you all for the wonderful suggestions. sm
They are making me cry but they are good tears. Note to Lilly- my mother's grandmoter was named Lilly and my mother was especially close to her. If I had another daughter that would be her name.
You Did a Wonderful Thing
There should be more people like you. I'm an animal lover and would have done the same thing. If people can't care for an animal they shouldn't have one. Unfortunately there is so much animal abuse around. I think they need tougher laws. I'll say a prayer that the dog makes it through, but you should be proud of the fact that you took a stand to try and help.
Have a Wonderful time!
Thanks so much!
Sounds wonderful.
Do you know what the style of the house is?
I love HGTV. I wouldn't use purple or red, but other than that, I'd definitely use some color in the paint. I guess carpeting is cheaper than wood, and it's certainly comfey, but wood sure looks homey and high quality.
I'm sure it is going to be very satisfying for you. Tune mom out when she talks like that. :o>
That is a wonderful idea!
I am going on the trip for 2 things 1) the animals and 2) the scenery and loving animals as I do, will try my best to work the zoo in. Thanks!
I think it's a wonderful idea
I'm sure they'd love it.
I am getting a visual of that and it is just wonderful!
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Wonderful casting! NM
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You sound like a wonderful
pet owner and it sounds like she has had a nice long life...Be prepared...It is so hard...Best wishes.
No snoring- wonderful
Lots of people do not know snoring could be a BIG sympton of sleep apnea and when my better half would snore, especially when tired, sounded like a train going through. The machine calmed all that down. Total bliss now and his health is not in jeopardy due to the sleep apnea.
oh goody...that's wonderful...
looking forward to it..NOT
We did have a wonderful Thanksgiving
Day Celebration - yesterday - Turkey & All The Trimmings -
Our son headed back to Hawaii where is he based, leaving for 6-month deployment in Iraq on Sunday. Again, Have a Blessed Thanksgiving Everyone!!
How wonderful - going to try and remember
for next year - kind of a little hint of what's inside!! :) LUV IT!
wow that's wonderful. Maybe if we can get a dem in office
:)
Thank you. Yes, she has had a wonderful life.
She knows she is loved, but still so, so hard. Just very difficult today, but as time goes by it will be easier.
I too have many wonderful memories of my
grandparents houses, silly little things like the smell of my nana's soap, her chenille bedspread I thought was so cool, my other grandmother owned and operated a store that had everything from fresh meat which she butchered and feed for animals and lots of penny candy in big glass jars. Point is - memories are made at their houses more often than not. It is part of the mystique. You never said if you took the kids to the grandparents or you expected them to come to you - just wondered.
That is some wonderful information - sm
I am in a similar situation, though a lot more in the hole, about $80K between the 2 of us, unfortunately my DH is the one that has no idea. I am to the point where I have to tell him too. I will call all my CC companies though and see if I can negotiate a better interest rate, only behind on 1 account and this was this month, just did not have $650 to make the payment. I need to see a lawyer first though before I "confess" in case this goes the divorce route, want to know where I stand and if it is possible I would lose my kids over my financial irresponsibility; I know he would fight me for the kids though he cannot deal with having them so he would probably do it just to spite me and make the kids miserable in the process. I am trying to figure out how to tell him, in a note, in person (however I am afraid of him as he has threatened me before but has never physically harmed me--afraid this might send him over the edge as he has undiagnosed depression), I am leaning toward a note, take the kids out for the day or several hours, come back and discuss the solutions I have mapped out in my head. In our case staying together and working togehter is the best plan I think, though I would proabably walk off debt free in a divorce because of the splitting of assets, he would actually end up with debt, so it would be to his advantage to stay together. I still love my DH, but I do put up with a lot of crud. I am just afraid of change I guess and for myself and my kids. My friends are scared too, my family knows nothing of this nor does his family. Anyone have any good advice on how to tell him w/o ending up getting killed in the process?
Thank you for your wonderful insight
I'm just sorry that it's coming from personal experience. So much of what you say does sound like my son. I have definitely zoomed in on the impulsivity of his actions. I had brought that up to the child psychologist and he said that it's something to watch to see if he grows out of it. I'm not expecting that to happen. I manage the best I can and it's from day to day. When we go places, sometimes its good and sometimes not. It seems when we all go together, it doesn't go as well. I'm guessing because he's not getting as much of the attention as he would like.
I'm curious how you feel about the injury your son is doing to his siblings. I feel so guilty and sorry for my son's actions towards my other children, but how do you deal with that? I don't want him taken away from us or locked up, but yet I know I need to protect my other children. He doesn't act out all the time. In fact, this week is the worst he's been all summer.
No alkies on either side of the family (thank heavens for small blessings). Although, I do believe there is some bipolar or other type of mental illness on my side of the family (aunts, cousins). I got some real kooks for relatives. I've mentioned this to the child psychologist also, but he doesn't seem overly concerned about my son's actions. He almost acts like it's something he will outgrow or something that can be changed through behavior modification. I'm not that optimistic. I personally think it's just my child's temperament. He's always been difficult, even as an infant.
Well, I can't deal with this anymore tonight. I'm off to bed. My son is having a sleepover at his great-grandma's tonight and I'm sure he'll be fine. She says she "don't take his sh!t and he knows it" I wish he felt that way about me. At least I can count on a peaceful morning tomorrow! Thanks again for letting me know I'm not the only one. It helps more than you can imagine.
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