Been there. I met 2 guys on line when I was
Posted By: LA on 2008-03-07
In Reply to: Just back into the dating scene - question (sm) - Anonymous
first divorced. The first one I went out with 3 times, he decided he wasn't interested because he "couldn't spend the night." The second one just totally creeped me out and so I just told him I wasn't interested. No need to let something like that drag on. It took me 2 years, but when I least expected it, I finally met the perfect guy and we have now been together 8+ years. Just keep looking, no need to tie yourself down to the first one you meet. Let him know you would like to remain friends.
I know about the teenager part. My mother who was 60 at the time told me I was acting like a teenager more after I divorced than I did when I was one. Just have fun and someone right for you will come along.
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I would buy it on line
and have it shipped
I am not sure it is so out of line...
I am 30 years old and I shared a bus with high school kids in Kindergarten. We also got two weeks off at Christmas and one week off for spring break. I think that this is fairly common. Also, when I was in sixth grade, the school district began charging a "bus fee" and we had to buy a bus pass or our parents had to drive us to school. I think the fee was $150 per semester. We had minimum days every other Wednesday and teacher inservices once a month. This all seems normal to me, but I understand that different places work differently, but I would not find this so strange.
Along this same line...
With the unemployment rate at 10% where I live I am shocked at the people who DO have a job - poor service, bad attitude, just downright stupid people. If jobs are so hard to come by, why are these people being hired and how do they keep their jobs?
I say that all the guys go and just keep the
ladies. I am so not liking the guys this time. Have watched it every single year and there is not a single solid 100% guy there this year. Hoping the girls will do better??? They have the guys beat every which away. There is really no competition here.
are you guys serious????
having a garage door open during the day on a nice day I would hardly call that out of the ordinary or stupid...once again, conversation taken out of context...
Thanks you guys
I only have Wal-Mart here and have not seen it there, but don't go often because they infuriate me. For Prell, I guess I'll suck it up and drive on over there and check. I miss cork too. I miss soda bottles that you returned to the store (when we were broke we just went to the garage and loaded them up and there we were, had enough cash to buy food until payday). Then we had more money and our son did the same so he had cash for things kids have to have, like popsicles and more soda, maybe a slingshot or a pack of beebees for his air gun. Now, it is sad there are only cans and bottles that are worth nothing in this state, we just leave them out to recycle. Big woop. Kids hardly ever have air guns anymore and you can't trust anyone so don't let your kids walk to the store to take back the bottles to buy popsicles. I can't wait to get some Prell! It is like insurance against color grab on the ends of your hair! All you do is shampoo it up on the ends and let it sit awhile and then rinse. Even color comes back most of the time. It smells like my mom too. Sigh. Have you noticed that there are 80 gazillion types of shampoo on the rack at the grocery store sometimes and none that you want? I still say to try that got2B brand shampoo called Squeaky Clean. It smells like heaven and makes your hair clean for two days and shiny too. I am really into that shampoo and magic erasers. They are two of the few things left that are really useful. It is sad to be so old that Magic Erasers sponges turn you on admission. I guess it beats the alternative to being old. Oh cute, I have the TV on the news and there is a pig named Broccoli who fell into a pool in Tracy, California and the firemen had to get him out. He is so cute! He is black and white and VERY BIG. Hayseed needs to see this. Broccoli's owner is petting him and he is so glad to be alive and saved from drowning! Maybe we need to get ourselves a pig. They look really friendly and smart. Maybe we could teach them how to type. My friend has an English bulldog who skateboards like the one on Youtube. His name is Meat. He is a sweetie, but ate a whole couch once when they went to the store. I guess I will stick to smaller dogs and check out the CC&Rs here in case I get a pig too.
Thank you guys
for such encouraging words. I sat in on the consult today with the doctor. They are going to keep my friend in the hospital for eight to ten days under observation, but they feel he will be fine. 
Guys are just different than us
Some guys are just more aroused in the morning than at night. If I wanted sex (morning or evening) like you are saying you want, I would not mind either time. I know you are probably young and cannot understand this, but there are a lot of people who have absolutely no sex, and I am one of those- not by choice, but my husband has erectile dysfunction because of diabetes and high blood pressure. He has tried so many things he has read about, not like he does not want to- I am in his corner come hel. or high water because I love him so much. We have closeness and I cherish him beyond words. I probably would say not having been married a year, you or both of you need some kind of counseling in order to work through the problems that are coming through. Just being together a year, you should still be in the honeymoon period. Starving yourself, let me say this- a guy does not care if you are skinny or heavy in the bed, they only care about 1 thing and it is not a figure or lack of. I was married the first time, no organism and finally reached 1 with the 2nd marriage. People do not climax each and every time- some people do continuously, everyone different.
old guys
This is so funny. And yes it does sound like a Marine. I can just picture my step-dad saying these very words and he served in the Marines in Nam. Thanks for the smile!
Thanks guys!
Well you guys made me feel a little better. At least I know I am not the only one. Funny thing is we are both very young, he is 29 and I am 26 and we have been married for only a year. I thought we should still be super hot for each other right? Oh well, it is not me, it is him. The things women have to put up with.
ok,you guys, I had 3 of these and one
girl. I do remember people always saying girls matured earlier, and in some ways that is true. But there was a study with MRI's that definitely showed a lack of frontal lobe growth in boys until much later than girls. Don't worry, they will all be humanoid again in their 30's! LOL
Thanks guys
for all the helpful hints. I think you are right. The bottom of my thigh touches right at the chair edge. This is where I feel discomfort at times, and then my foot will fall asleep. I think I am going to try some of your ideas and see if it helps. It is just so darn uncomfortable and it totally drains me. I am exhausted at the end of my shift, more so than just transcribing. Thanks Again!
Thanks, you guys.
I appreciate all of your support, everyone. Do you sometimes feel like you're walking around with a big red D on your forehead? I do. My own church kicked me off the music team because "divorce is a sin, and God hates divorce." That has been harder on me than the divorce itself is. The ex still attends that church, and everybody feels "so sorry for him" because mean ol' me left him. They don't know the reasons I left, and I will never tell them....but believe me, they are Biblical reasons. It's gotten to where I hesitate to tell anyone at any church I visit that I'm divorced! Another thing, how do you cope with the fact that your long time friends (who are all still married) suddenly act like you have the plague? Maybe I'm being too sensitive. I'm sure you're right....it will get better with time.
Wow guys
wonderful responses and so quickly. I hope we can keep this thread going to help each other out. I wrote down these ideas and am going to start implementing many of them right away. Here are some of my ideas:
1. Utilities - We had 2 cell phones, got rid of one, which was mine, and I hardly ever used it. My husband has to have his because we run our own business. We had 2 house lines, one for our house phone and one for a fax machine. We got rid of one line, and kept the fax line, converting it to accept phone calls as well as faxes.
2. We heat our house with corn which in Northwest Indiana is a pretty cheap way to go. It will cost us approximatey $600.00 to heat our 2600 sq ft house for the winter. We would normally pay almost $450.00 a month with our heat and electric if we paid or electric company who has a monopoly in this area; no where else to go. :-(
3. I used to throw a load or two of laundry in every day, no matter how big the load (I have an energy efficient washer), to save time and so the laundry did not pile up. However, I realized that I was wasting soap, softner, and water even though I have an energy efficient washer. So, I am doing laundry only 2 days a week, maybe three if need be. Washing bigger loads at a time.
4. In regards to above, I use my dryer as a time management issue, because I run the office of our business during the day and transcribe at night. I think I will implement hanging my clothes out next summer, because I do not think it would be efficent in the winter right now - - would it?
5. I buy all snack foods at Aldi's. You save $1.00 to $1.50 an item. I shop at the most least expensive store in the area when possible, only shopping at the higher-priced stores if there is a sale.
6. Turn off lights, computer, etc., when not in use.
7. I buy my cleaning supplies and laundry supplies at our area dollar store. They carry name-brand items as well as generic-brand, but quite a bit cheaper.
I am brain dead now. I am sure there are many more.
Please keep them coming. There were many things that you guys mentioned that I never even thought of, and I am sure we can give each other good ideas to implement. I feel we are in a war here, and we need all the ammunition we can get as we carry out our role as our home managers :-)
Thank you guys so much for your
We really appreciate the support.
I wanted to share a picture of Chewy with you . . . I had wanted to get a picture of the five of them, all lined up getting treats from Daddy, heads turning in unison watching his every move . . . 
Where are you guys?...
I have a vacant house in Port Orchard and wonder if I need to be concerned.
Thanks you guys. I can't tell you how much I appreciate
this place and the ability to vent and have you guys listen unconditionally. And thank you for being so kind with your advice. I know what I did wasn't good and almost immediately regretted it. But you all are right, what's done is done, and I should just focus on my family and friends who do want to be part of our lives.
Just a followup, in case everyone was wondering about reaction to my email, I've received two responses. One from a daughter-in-law of my FIL's wife who offered her ear and her prayers and also told me that she has always wanted to say the same things. The other response I received was basically "shame on you for airing your dirty laundry" and told me I sounded like a bitter disturbed person which I guess I am.  For right now anyway.
Thanks again, you guys are the best!
I think guys like this should be PUT DOWN.
Come on, you guys....sm
Please review the annals of crime. You'll find plenty of horrendous crimes that have been committed by women.
This one thread has two very sexist remarks in it. One poster signed in "what is it with men, anyway", and this poster opines that women would not commit crimes like the subject of this thread. As a male on the board, I find such remarks objectionable, and rather odd considering that the news has been rife in recent years with the Anthony story, female teachers being arrested for raping their students, and women being arrested for cruelty to animals. Before that, we had the woman who ran a boarding house for older men and poisoned them for their Social Security checks.
Please! You wouldn't tolerate this if it ran the other way.
you guys! that is exactly what i say.
i sure do. when you say up north, what do you mean? LOL. out west we use it too :)
haven't picked up on the ya'll. and even if i say it, it does not come with your cute accent. haha
plenty of people love your accent like you love English accents though! :)
Thanks a lot guys!!!
still hurts like crap, but at least it is healing!!!
Crossing the line...
I don't think so. What age should we start teaching our children responsibility? I said she forgot her lunch ONCE...and she never forgot again. (Besides, she eats about 2 bites of it anyway, so it's not like she was starved that day. And she had morning and afternoon snack provided by the school.) I'm a tough mom, but I'm not about to neglect my children's basic needs.
Needing a coat in blizzard type weather...well, here again I'm sure we will differ on opinion. You go from the heated house to heated car, from the heated car to heated school building. (And I'm sure my child would be resouceful enough to find antoher coat/sweater/jacket that she might have around to wear.)
No, I do not forget things. I make lists to make sure I never walk out of the house without something I need. I do not have time to be running back and forth for something I forgot, our family has a very tight schedule and return trips home are not an option. If, for some reason I ever do forget something, I'm sure I'll survive and move on wih my day and life.
Our children are all straight A students (all 3 speak/read at least 3 languages, even the 4 yo.), they two older ones are honor society members, they all belong to competitive atheletic teams, and they are contributing members to our Temple and our community, so I think we have done pretty darn well them.
I dropped you a line by the way, and yes -sm
you can email if you'd like. Probably a lot of guys out there like ours.
We have a life line
We have a life line you can get through your local hospital probably. There is a "base" connected to the phone. She can wear a necklace or a pin. If she needs help, she pushes it and believe me you will hear it, it says, "help call in progress, help call in progress". Someone will pick up and ask if you guys need help. You can answer, no we have it now, or yes we need help. It is approximately 40.00 a month. This is also good when you want to go out and she has to be alone.
My DH glances at it now and then on-line - sm
but he does not troll the sites much, he certainly does not take care of any business while on the computer, though he does have video tapes I know he uses now and then on the rare times he is home alone. A friend of his gives him Playboys and Penthouse as well about 2 x a year (lives in another state and saves them for him), again he does not "use" them, but does look at them. I have never felt threatened by them, they are not physically with him, I am, all they are are 2D pictures. As for the lesbian thing, that is a fantasy I think just about every guy has, being with 2 girls/lesbians, you get the picture. They might fantasize about it but if the opp every came up I bet 95% would run, I know mine would. If your BF has lots of it though on his computer he may have a problem he won't admit to though. You can always ask him about it but be prepared for him to explode at what he will see as you snooping on his computer, which you appear to be guilty of. I never look on my DHs computer unless he asks me to check or do something on it and he stays away from mine as well. I presume you will have to talk to him about this and I hope it goes okay for you.
Because that it just the subject line..sm
you are supposed to use the message space for the entire message, not the subject line. duh.
line counts
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I met my husband on-line...sm
We were matched through eHarmony.com. We were married last June and he's definitely my perfect match!
You know what, I just read on line that this is probably what is sm
going on. I can't believe I haven't caught on before that he is jealous. At least now I can find a solution to this problem.
I did talk to him about it again tonight in a very respectful and helpful manner and told him not to be embarrassed. He said he just likes to pretend to be a baby again....My husband isn't home right now, but when he returns later we will discuss this problem. Thanks!
Have you heard the line about how
you should take care of those things in the morning before you come to work? I've had to explain that not everybody's body works like clockwork. How convenient when it does!
When I was little I was appalled to hear that some people went every day. I wondered how in the world they could stand to have all that pain and spend 30 minutes in the bathroom every day. I had no idea that normal people didn't take that long or have all that pain that you do if you only go once a week.
A penny per line does add up! (nm)
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The man in grocery line who said anything to me
would have not liked what he heard from me then. I am way past the age of caring what I say and whether I would be offending and would have used, probably the F word, (yes I do use that when I get that ticked off)when he had such nerve as to say something when I was trying to feed my babies. I have never had anyone that rude to state unsolicitated remarks to me regarding them but they would really get an earful if they did. I might be kicked out of the store, oh well....
Goin' to the end of the line!
How they handled Roy Orbison's passing in that video was so tasteful.
Okay, you Bob Dylan fans, here's a vid for you. This is the one my little girl likes because he looks "mad" when he sings.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aKu31q9SBbA&mode=related&search= (I'm not sure how link it!)
And my husband is the first in line
Every year he goes out shopping in the early morning hours to pick up something that's on sale. Me, I'm sound asleep. When he comes back I'll get up and then we'll go shopping later in the morning. It's tradition for us.
its hard to tell enough on line, but not all
men who have anger and other problems are serious abusers; they are men with their own baggage that affects their behavior. Mine was one. The first 10-15 years were pretty rough, but these last 10 and esp the last 5 are great -- he's in control, learned to be considerate, etc etc. I agree how bad it is for the children. But our 2 daughters have turned out fine; one married to a wonderful guy with well-raised children of their own, and the other has graduated professional school, working a dream job and going for several years with a great guy. A woman has to make her own judgment calls as to the true nature of their problems/relationship/safety and whether there is hope or not. I just don't think you can rubberstamp these marriages as all doomed.
bottom line
The bottom line is the rules. We all have rules. We all have choices. There are consequences to our choices. That is life. Whether or not you agree to the rules and/or the consequenes is irrelevant.
If one does not like the idea of a teacher getting his/her jollies out of paddling a female student, then one must keep that in mind when choosing to break a rule.
There were 2 choices of punishment here and, one of which was not corporal, but IMO missing class would hurt your daughter more in the long run. I do think she made the right choice and I also think it was wise to tell her that next time she'll have to miss class.
It's so easy as parents to set rules and consequences and not follow through with the consequences, but in an environment with hundreds and sometimes thousands of students, teachers/administrators must follow through or there would be no education.
I'm not saying the punishment fits the crime here, but after the fact is too late.
It's obvious that you completely understand the above because you are not arguing the unfairness of the punishment, but anxiety over your child. Any good parent would feel that way.
I'm just posting this in response to the posts that argue against corporal punishment. I don't agree with it either just for the record. There are laws I don't agree with but guess what? In the real world, I break a law I don't agree with and I get punished.
I hope you slept well and all went well today (Monday). Please post a followup.
Did you try Kohl's on line? nm
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Your last line made me
And I really, REALLY needed to laugh today...Thanks, Hayseed! BTW, I bet you'd be an AWESOME mom (you can adopt me if you want!)
Can you renew on line?
I just learned that even here in podunk Maine, we can renew on line so long as the last time we had our picture taken it was done in digital format. Since mine was only 4 years ago, it was! I was stoked to say the least. I just logged in to the registry site, punched in my license number, paid with my bank card, and got my new license in the mail in about a week! Same picture as 4 years ago, which is fine by me, and I'm good to go for another 4 years (or maybe it's 6 now...I've forgotten already). Far less traumatic if it's available to you. Or maybe it is and you just like the masochistic punishment of going to the DMV.
Go on-line to JMS - Just My Size sm
great selection, comfortable, plus they have workout clothes.
I hope I'm not out of line by asking this,
but would it be possible for you to watch them 2-3 hours after school? Or even just your grandson? I'm so scared for both of them right now. I have an 11-yo, an 8-yo and an almost 6-yo. The only 1 I ever leave alone is my 11-yo and that's only to run errands in the town we live in. I also make sure that he has my cell phone # and I tell the lady next door just in case. I never leave him more than an hour. There's no way I would leave my 8-yo watch my 6-yo. He can't even wipe his own butt, let alone take care of a 6-yo. What are these parents thinking. Saving money is not worth the possible disaster that could happen.
I think, no matter how hard it may be, that you need to tell them that they need to get a babysitter for these children. If you don't intervene, something terrible could happen to either 1 of these children. I would probably address this with your son (I'm assuming he's in a relationship with the mother of your 6-yo GS).
If they refuse to do so, then I would definitely report them to social services. If they threaten to keep your GS from you, you do have rights. You could take them to family court. I know it would be hard to do, but I think it would be even harder if something happened to your GS because you didn't report it.
I'll be praying for the safety of these little ones while you sort things out with the parents. I hope nothing happens to them in the meantime. Take care.
I would give it all to the guy who let me in line.
If he offered to share a little or buy me a nice steak from the store, etc., I wouldn't refuse. But he should have gotten it, and so it's his, IMO. I didn't come into the store expecting to have $500 given to me, so I'm not out anything.
If you're not using your line sm
When I don't want to be disturbed, I just dial my own number and they get a busy signal. They know I'm home but can't be disturbed for one reason or another. If he's truly suicidal then you have to get his doctor involved, I guess, that's a tough one. If you're using your line for the Internet as well then that's another story. Sounds like a desperate situation only a medical professional can deal with and they can only do so much. I think a man-to-man with your husband is in order, if he'll do it. Good luck with it, it must be very hard for you.
I use H and R block on line
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Have you guys seen the news...
about the alert and info on the 9-month-old? People just blow my mind with some of the things they pull these days!!!
You guys are killing me...LOL!!!!
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HEY, THAT'S BOB AND TOM!!! Great guys sm
We get them here 6 days a week from 6a to 10a. What a couple of nutcases they are! Funny as heck. Their website is www.bobandtom.com if you want to see what they really look like. Go check them out and no, I don't get referrals or anything like that for sending you to their site. They are just the funniest people I have ever heard. I mean, really, get paid to laugh on the job? That's all they do. They have the best jobs ever.
Were you guys close before this? I just
cannot believe this has escalated into this now. Even if she couldn't pay for it, she should have just admitted that they were at least partly responsible. To physically attack you though...I mean, this is your sister!
Good luck with everything and keep us updated.
I just think it is funny that you guys
call it "pop". We call it soda in our state! All that I can say is, drink water and exercise. Try to cut back on portions. Even when I did Weight Watchers, I halfed-it, and this allowed me that piece of cake, although I'm not big on sweets, but I loooovee potato chips! Even if you're not in a formal program of exercise, try doing some extra laps around the house. Put one dish away at a time and walk across your kitchen. I know it sounds silly, but I do this, and it seems to help. I only had trouble with my weight after giving birth to both of my children.
You guys are brave!
Those IUDs give me the heebie jeebies. They look like fishing lures. Oh my god, remember the ones from 30 years ago that looked like razor blades with teeth?! Not much grosses me out (I could watch surgical videos all day!), but those things make my stomach roll for some reason.
How do you guys get your backs
if you use it all over the body? I could never figure that one out.
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