But 8 children, each from a different father? That's gross?..nm
Posted By: a on 2009-05-09
In Reply to: I am on foodstamps, not proud, but without my kids would starve - Tab
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My children lost their father when they were 8,4,3
It is a very tough position to be put in as a parent. My advice for the adults is do not drag these children into what should be adult grief. Several members of my kids' father's family tried to do this to them. They are children and are resilient just the way God made them and thankfully for them! They have a right to live happily and without guilt because they are happy. I'm not saying your family will do this, but on top of everything else, it was hard to watch this being done to my children. I am very sorry for their loss and the loss to your family.
Gross!
I hate them more, but the last time I was there when they ripped me off I noted the same thing. I felt like I was shopping in a Third World Country. It was not a "fun experience" and it won't happen again, I can tell you. Can you imagine having to change an infant's diaper in their bathroom? Never! I only went there because the item I had to have was ONLY in their store in our area and no other store had it. My advice to Walmart shoppers is, "Just say no."
To me this is gross
Rectal exam reveals soft, brown stool in the vault. Eww. It just makes me want to throw up when I hear that.
Oh gross!!!! SM
I HATE spiders! Even the smallest ones freak me out!!! I LOVE summer, but the only part I hate about it is the little visitors we tend to get in our house during that time of year! I'm always afraid that there is going to be something in our bed!
I'll never forget the night last fall when I was in my office working, and one of our cats came in and dropped a half-dead mouse right at my feet and then jumped up in my lap and tried to lick my face after that thing had been in his mouth! Ick!
This might gross some out sm
but I saw this at a baby shower years ago and it was certainly an ice breaker! Gift was a potty chair - with a tiny Tootsie roll in the pot with some yellow jello. It was hysterical. I guess it would depend on the mom and the guests - this was a pretty funny light-hearted crowd and it went over well:)
N/T That was gross
In fact, I have to say that I have a pretty weak stomach and when that particular scene came on I couldn't watch most of it. I ended up changing the station. I think the grossest I've seen by far though is when the people that were harvesting kidneys ended up killing that homeless man and they took everything! That almost made me throw up.
i think it is gross
i saw he/she, which one do you call her/he, and i felt sick to my stomach. YUCK. we were watching the evening news and they showed this picture and the kids were freaking out and thought it was gross.
ew gross
Reminder though, this is a couple. i dont know anything about them, but the girl just emailed me and told me about the town, and she said "i hope you're having a good day". to me that is nice. I emailed her back and said I had several questions. Do you think it is appropriate to ask their ages?
Children having children not a new thing, where do you live?
My son, who is now in his early 40s, told me years ago when in high school about all the teenage mothers that were at his school and said they brought the babies to school, and he seemed to think it was like the girls having playdolls like when you were little. This is not new and apparently folks think alright to have their children sans marriage, be it preteens, teens or adults. I guess my years alone do not make me shocked at anything anymore. Others talk about this job being isolated and your post says some of this if you were shocked at what the son said.
Warning: gross
Sometimes when I've popped a really big one, that night I will dream about little white worms coming out of my skin.
Yuck yuck yuck yuck yuck!
My hubby's dog is gross sm
He's a Golden Retriever with a passion for stuffed toys that squeak. Loves to play with them, squeeze them to hear them squeak, throw them around and then tear them apart til he gets the little squeaker inside. We don't let him have those toys anymore because, well, he destroys them. Stuffing everywhere. Anyway, I went to call in the dogs earlier and, yep, there he was tossing something in the air. Turned out to be a baby rabbit, only about 4 inches long, just the right squeaker toy size. Poor thing, the dog kept chomping on it to hear it squeal. Took me 10 minutes to chase the dog around the yard in 95+ heat. I had to stop working for a half hour to bury it. First time he has ever done this and he knew I was mad. I couldn't look at him for 2 hours.
My hubby's dog is gross
[img]http://bestsmileys.com/sick/9.gif[/img] Awww, poor baby bunny and poor you. BAD DOG!
That is gross!!! My dogs do that too.
Then they come over and try to give you kisses, and they always aim for the lips of course. You think "awww, how cute, they love me", then you smell that smell and you know exactly what they've been eating - cat poo. It's just nasty. I don't see why they would want to eat that, but guess all dogs do it. We call them "cat cookies".
Gross - come on guys!
In the kitchen - where you prep food and possibly eat? How sanitary is that?
The bedroom isn't too bad, I guess, but isn't there anywhere else you can put the things?
And how many cats do you have that you need 4 litter boxes?
I sense a weird *cat lady* amongst us.
Don't buy the canned ones. They are gross.
Last year we bought a bag of potatoes, and didn't use them before they started to sprout. Then I baked all of them and froze them in freezer bags. Took one out of freezer and thawed in microwave when we wanted one. Delicious. I just put butter on mine.
Kind Of Gross
A Co worker/friend mentioned to me today that she had an embarassing problem, but wasn't sure if she needed to go to have it checked out. She said she occassionally had an odor in her belly button. She treats it by applying peroxide to it nightly.
I think her problem may be an infection of some kind anyway I suggested she have it looked at. Another co worker said it was a common problem & no big deal, I personaly never had the problem, the other co worker said she gets it all the time & that all it is, is lint trapped in there & then gets irritated. What cha think?
This may seem gross or morbid...sm
But has anyone ever gone to a wake or funeral of a person who was in an accident and they were disfigured from the accident but it was an open casket? I went to my first such wake last night and I have to say that is disturbing when you see someone in that condition and especially when they are young as this girl was. I honestly don't know how the family can take it. I feel for them. I was just kind of surprised that the casket was left open. She had major head trauma. Has anyone else experienced this? Just wondering.
Ewww gross...
Big yuck. I got nauseous just looking at that junk.
LOL - that is gross I would not have bought ice cream from him
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Re: Matt - I agree - that was gross (sm)
Don't know what I think about Julia. Is this the last show of the season, cause they didn't show any previews. Best show on TV, I think.
Acceptable? or Just Plain GROSS?
link below.
I need your opinion. Kinda gross.
Okay, we have had a problem with mice. H set some traps and we caught some but everytime I cooked something in the oven it stunk. So, I have not used the oven. H finally had time to remove the top part of the stove and found the problem. On top of the oven, underneath where the burners are, (that part) there were dead mice. He said babies. The insulation on top of the oven is gone. He doesn't know really what to do. He tried to get insulation from the hardware store, but was told that insulation that you use in houses won't do. He went to a place where they fix stoves and sell used ones and they say that if it smells like mice, they chunk them. I asked H if they were just saying that to sell us one of theirs. He said he did not know and he did not want think he can eat another meal cooked on that stove. We cannot really afford payments on a new one and he said not one of theirs is below $200 used. I told him well, maybe we should just rely on the crock pot and the microwave for a while. I can also can fry eggs on my waffle iron. Man, I have got cakes, bread, cookies that I so wanted to bake. H wanted to make a pizza but when I reminded him we did not have an oven, his face fell. It is missed terribly.
He did find some holes in the wall behind the stove where they (Mice) gnawed through the wall and is getting some foam as we speak, write...
What would you do? Right now, I am trying to think of things I can sell.
News flash, most of us have had S-E-X. Nothing gross about it.
What are we, in kindergarten here? Geez, the OP was simply celebrating the fact that she had a millineum baby. There was nothing graphic about her post. She didn't give a blow by blow description of the conception process. I'm sure a lot of people ring in the new year in bed.
I think it's time for you and your parents to have THE talk! 
GROSS doggie question.
Bruiser is 14 months old, Duke is a year old. Bruiser licks Duke's behind a lot. We've only had Bruiser for two months, and I've noticed the licking just within the last couple of weeks. He also licks Duke's eyes and ears.
I don't think Duke's anal glands need expressed. He doesn't drag his butt or anything like that, and his stool is fine.
What's up with this behavior, anyone know?
You must pick gross men in general...
Let's just call you stinky girl
A gross subject, but I gotta ask --
My son is 11 and the last few days has had a few "wet farts" -- there's no color to it, but enough to soak through his jeans. He didn't even notice it, said he didn't feel wet, but we noticed it and so did another child at school. At first, I thought he just sat in something wet, but when he came home from school with it, I took a second look at his jeans and noticed the position of it was more in line with "an accident." He says he doesn't remember passing gas. There's a slight discoloration to it and a slight odor.
I've never had this happen to me personally except when I was getting over diarrhea. Has anyone else had this happen without being sick? Any ideas on what could be causing it? I'm hoping it's not a rectocele or IBS.
Head cheese, it's so gross.
My dad used to love it and told me he would give me 5 bucks if I tried it. I did and I hated it. I got the 5 bucks though, even though I threw it up. I gag whenever I see it.
I agree, a 2-1/2 year old is gross, period.
But a blanket over the toddler? The kid would probably start playing peek-a-boo and winking and laughing. How about that for a visual. Ick! lol
And sniffling and gross nose sounds
It always seems like ENT doctors have the worst allergies and sinus problems.
need help with puppy - Kinda gross post
I just got a 4 month old min-pin about 2 or 3 weeks ago. She was eating Iams puppy food from the person I got her from. I don't like Iams foods, so I switched her over to Royal Canin puppy (dry stuff). Well somewhere along the lines she got the runs and at first I thought it was from switching food, but it has continued and started to have blood and mucus in it. So I called the vet thinking it may be worms or something wrong. Well I took in a "specimen" and they said there was nothing wrong. They told me to do the hamburger and rice and give pepto. Well I tried that, and it cleared up at first, but now it is back even on the hamburger and rice. I don't know what to do now. Any suggestions?
Wow! Tha't's gross! I hope she kept her mouth shut?..nm
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cheerios. taget practice might sound gross but it has always worked for me.
I have taken care of and have potty trained a lot of little boys over the years all starting before 2 and the best thing I found was putting cheerios in the toilet and having them try to shoot the cheerios, like target practice. I have also used fruit loops and made a game of which color they could hit. Anything that floats and is flushable is fair game. They love the game and always want to go potty.
If it is warm where you live a few days going pee outside works too. They can go when they want, do it themselves and learn how to control their urges quickly.
On the other hand, #2 for most boys I have found is harder. They usualy hold it for too long and need to get their bowels on a regular cycle. I have had a couple boys up until 4 hold it all day long and then go home and their mother would put a diaper on them so they would go and then want to be changed right away. As soon as the mothers stopped that though the child went to the potty fine. I would recomend talking with his doctor if that happens.
Good Luck!!! It will happen when he is ready.
I should mention that I am 42, have 2 children and done with having children. nm
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You must a) not have children or b) your children are young
I don’t see them as being spoiled- I see lots of kids in the age group of one (30+) who are totally in the me scene, not just the 1 I have- she married and her husband same - a me type person. The other not spoiled but just got nasty when he did not get the money left to me and he thought he should. Just to think, this was my chosen 1 if I had to choose. Oh well, live and let live is the way I see things now.
I think she said the father did not want her around
so really she should take that same stance. I think you just cannot sometimes may an enabler understand what they are doing wrong. My deceased husband, I talked to him about his enabling with his daughter and he told me he would do until his last breath and he did. She was a total invalid after that, did not have a clue (at 30 something) how to make her way. Oh well, glad I wasn’t the mother.
You ask about my son's father?
The father came around after the son grown and now lives with him. No money ever from him while my son growing up, not a penny, nothing. I have nothing against the father, just always thought he basically did good to take care of himself but not a father figure at all for the son. He was able to work, chose to live on the streets and finally got too old to be out there and my son and his family took him into their home. I was there but people have to understand what money does to people, especially if a lot of money, thousands and thousands. My son was upset about my inheritance and that is what happened. It is sad but not my fault he would choose the love of money over his mother. Wish him well.
your father
This is a touchy subject. Yes, it sounds a little like he may be trying to "take the easy way out" but really, what he is doing is self degradating and really desperate. I believe he needs help. Of course, he is not going to see it or admit it himself. That's WHY he needs help. He has threatened to take his life and spoken of wanting to die. I think you should call 911 or see if your town has a crisis team and tell them that he has said he is going to kill himself. Have him taken by ambulance or let the crisis intervention team figure out the transportation. Once he is at the hospital professionals will evaluate him and decide whether or not he needs to be committed against his will or long term treatment. They will give him counseling and even point him in the direction of how to start managing life again. The worse that could happen is that they say hes fine and send him home (which they will not do without at least providing him with information for outpatient treatment and other local agencies that can help him).
However, how will you feel if, God forbid, he does hurt or kill himself while you thought he wass just bluffing?
And even if it doesnt go that far...he will continue to harass you and your mom.
He needs help of some kind and as his daughter I think you should find a way to help him.
How do you know her father was
there for her? You are assuming that. As far as writing him off, it might be the best thing for her. Toxic people are very dangerous. Obviously you had a story book childhood and until you go through something like that, it is impossible to understand. Because it is a parent, it does not mean you have to put up with emotional and mental abuse.
Father in law
My father in law is an ok guy. One problem. He likes to come to our house and watch TV. On Saturdays and Sundays, I am off work, and I like to relax on the couch in Pjs and watch my TV. My husband drives an 18-wheeler, and a lot of times when he comes in if it is on weekends his dad will come over that morning and sit here ALL day long. My husband said last time you know I love dad to death and like for him to come visit but after a couple hours it is time to leave. Well now my husband isn't at home and he comes over to visit my son who is 11, and tells my son lets watch a movie or something. Well this is my weekend to relax and lay on the couch and watch TV. I feel like I can't relax in my own home. He doesn't have satellite at his house so he wants to sit here and watch. I am so fustrated. He needs to go home. I think he uses the excuse when my husband is gone to come see my son so he can sit here and watch movies. I would like to watch my own TV. URRRGHH! Any advice?
My father in law tried that with his indoor cat
and once they got outside the cat totally flipped out like a crazed wild animal. It was a very scary experience from what he described. So just be careful.
I do not live in 1 but my father had 1 and
when you pull the carpet up as I did when I got the trailer it only had cheap plywood underneath it. Having said this I was going to rent it out as eventually wanted to sell for the land it was on (6+ lake front acreage) so we put down linoleum (spelling?). A trailer is mostly made from the very cheapest you can get, thus the cheaper prices most of the time than homes. We took inexpensive commercial carpet for some of the bedroom floors and hubby put that down. These are about the cheapest you can do, don’t think your idea of a faux finish will work with the plywood but then you can always check on that. By the way, do you have to tar the roof of yours? Most trailers require this- did not know until after I had in possession- the only difference is a regular roof was put on this 1 - most are flat on the top and require tarring.
Actually he is a wonderful father...
who takes time out of his sleep schedule to be with them, eat dinner with us, go to kids' sporting events and the usual things people do without missing a beat because everything works out for their schedule. People who sleep during the night have no clue how hard it is to sleep during the day when it is light out, loud noises outside like lawnmowers, snowblowers, leafblowers, construction and more than you could realize. Nobody schedules meetings at 1:00 am so you have to get up after a few hours. Going to church on Sunday with your family and having family day requires less sleep because he works Sat. and Sun. night.
I feel sorry for you that you can't have an open mind enough to see that not everybody has the same life, same feelings, same jobs. If I can make him more comfortable including having a dark bedroom then I will and I asked for help in achieving this goal, not to have someone who doesn't know him or our family come on here and insult us. Not once did I say this was something he told me to do or makes me do..I am doing it because I love him. If he gets home in time in the mornings he gets the kids ready for school. Marriage is about give and take.
Your father was a 1 in a million.
A lot of men would have left being walked on and demoralized but your dad didn't want to leave you to suffer it alone. Usually, even when a mother isn't fit to raise a goldfish, mothers still get custody of the kids, and that's sad. There are a lot of great dads out there and they really need to be given the praise they deserve. What a great dad you had. I can see why you cherish him so much.
From what I can gather, he has only seen his father twice ....sm
in his entire 11 years. I think his great-grandmother raised him and also raised his mother (which would be her grandmother). Well, I think this lady just recently died and the child came to live with the mother and mother's boyfriend. The mother's 5-year-old lives with his father and I have noticed that the mother has him every other weekend. All of the kids except for 1 are from single-parent homes, including my own. I have been divorced for 5 years. I do not think that should be an excuse though. I am a very involved, hands-on, in tune, on top of things mother and I work my butt off to have what we have. My daughter sees her dad every other weekend sporadically. Yes, it does put a lot of responsibility, worry, etc., on the custodial parent but that is our job, not the neighborhood's job. There is another single mother who lives here and her husband is in jail. Her 2 sons are very well behaved. Then there is this mother and the single mother of the 2 girls who just suck at parenting. You rarely ever see them and they both take "nerve pills" and "sleeping pills." I've just never been that type of person and I have hard time understanding how you can bring children into the world and not take care of them. I don't expect the rest of the neighborhood to raise my daughter. Am I wrong to feel this way?
Father-Daughter
I don't know that one. Now I'm curious and have to look it up and hear it!
Can you talk to your son's father about this?
Can you discuss this amicably if you are on good terms, perhaps approaching it from the angle of what's best for your son.
father/daughter
My take on this whole situation is they are playing us. They probably both knew they were going to be in the house, so I would not take it too seriously.
Child should have father's last name SM
and should see father, unless he was abusive. No matter what a woman may think of the guy, it will be disservice to child to not let him/her see father.
A divorced woman can keep name or change back to maiden. Doesn't matter. I kept my married name, since I had it for 30 years.
My father was also child #5 and
12 years younger than the #4. He was always told he was not an accident but a suprise. I watched Jesus Camp and don't agree with that way of "religon" at all.
You did not mention if a father of your son
is around or involved in any way. I think your first attention should be towards your son, not the BIL because apparently your child is doing some acting out and it tends to escalate. When parents of young children oohing and aahing about them, I think about how it turns like your story now a lot of times. I had somewhat similar bad behavior (although never went against my telling no), some drugs involved. I just told my son would send to my daddys home- would have been worse than prison for him and I knew that- ole timer- early to bed and early to rise, take no junk type person. My son turned around because I always told both my children I did not have time for crap- I had to work and make a living for them and I would never put up with backtalking, walking away and doing what they thought they could so, swearing, hitting or the like.
My father-in-law after many years
was able to figure out his trigger and it is citric acid. He has to read every label because it is a common ingredient.
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