Have I done without as a child? Let me think a minute. YES
Posted By: Unbelievable on 2009-02-12
In Reply to: I think you misunderstood her post - fiddlestix
My family was borderline poverty striken although I was not aware of it. My grandmother used to pay our house note and my aunt came in and picked up bills that were due and paid those. I remember my grandmother buying us groceries. My mother never had what you could consider a really good job. No drugs, no alcohol, nothing like that but not enough to really support a family, not much help from my father (although he did pay child support). Being as only 2 children, mother was able to make each feel loved and wanted. My mother's kids were not born back to back so bonding was able to be in force. This mother is talking about doing illegal things and hopefully the courts will step in about the children. I do not think she has the basic common sense to take care of this brood. All she thought about were her needs, not the needs of all these other children. She had enough at home before she started. I read she had to pay $100,000 for the invitro. That could have bought an addition on the home so they could put in more bedrooms for all these extra mouths to feed.
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If it was my child, I would be at that school in a hot New York minute.
Regardless of what is or is not wrong with the child, that comment from the teacher is totally uncalled for and extremely unprofessional. A teacher should know better, period, end of discussion. And I agree with tnmt, ask for a meeting with the principle and teacher.
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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I find it best to take a 15-20 minute nap....sm
when I find myself super-sleepy during the day. It's just enough to perk me back up and works better than caffeine or cold water.
I take a 20 minute nap and that helps when I get like this.
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Can I vent for just a minute?
My mother-in-law called last night to say that we have some relatives in town for the weekend. They are staying with a relative that is not related to my husband's family. She asked if we would like to get together Sat. evening and order pizza. This is what we do every time family visits, unless I offer to cook. My MIL tells everyone who listens " I love to cook, I just don't have anyone to cook for." My wonderful FIL passed away 16yrs ago. My MIL works Mon.-Thurs. in a family owned business that she and my husband run. The business is closed on the weekends. My sister-in-law is a school teacher so she is out of school right now. I am not asking for a huge meal, but I know we could throw together something nice but easy quickly. BTW, for Easter dinner we are going to Outback. I can't have everyone here becuase we just pulled up all our carpets to put down hardwood floors, so most of our furniture is in the garage. I did suggest to my MIL that we do KFC since we always do pizza. Her response "I don't like mashed potatoes." Just felt like venting a little bit ( I don't say anything negative about my MIL to my hubby) mainly becuase she is a very good MIL and a wonderful grandmother. (Sigh) I feel better now. 
Wait a minute...
This bride is 65, second wedding, and I assume wearing white? I wonder. Also I believe etiquette says a bridal shower is not proper for a second wedding and probably especially not for a couple in their 60s ! which poster mentioned. Also, etiquette says the bride and groom or family should pay to put the guests up at the hotel if they have to come from out of town which poster also mentioned.
This old gal is obviously not Miss Manners, herself.
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Such a minute amount but what I was
saying anyone who has a huge amount on their card really cannot stand to take a chance with not paying on time- I am sure would not have a problem having it written off- they love me because 2nd time I have paid off totally and always on time (not this small amount though) and the last time over 10 thou paid off. I will probably call them anyway.
I usually use about 1/2 bag if minute rice..sm
but this is the first time I have used the recipe on the dry onion soup box!! It just sounded so good that I thought I would give it a try and just add the rice since my hubby likes rice in his meatloaf. Hope it comes out okay!!
As of 1 minute ago, here's what they agreed on
If you make at least 3000 but don't pay taxes, you'll get 300. If you pay taxes, you'll get 600. Plus, you get an additional 300 per child. Each couple that pays taxes will, therefore, get 1200, plus 300 per kid, as long as they make under 150,000.
Yahoo news had the wrong numbers posted this morning, but everything has been decided on now and above is the info.
Wait a minute...
Excuse me, but my son just turned 8 and this girl is almost 8. I have since found out that she did this to another boy last year (not as hard) and my son also said she will walk up to him and hyperextend his finger back and twist them, as well as flicking him with her pencil when she gets mad. I know of yet another student that had problems with her last year (an older boy) who felt bullied by her.
To me it just seems there is a pattern here that is only getting worse. It could have been his eye. Would you say it was no big deal then?? Where is she getting this behavior from?
And yes, I think she needs special help in the classroom if she has behavioral issues. This is way different than kids fighting over a ball on the playground. This is a private Catholic school and they don't have the funding for extra programs for behavioral and special needs. In addition, their code of conduct that they recite everyday after prayer and the pledge of allegiance is that they will "uphold the sanctuary for themselves and others."
Wait a minute. She's only 7-8 weeks old...sm
You've only had her a week, and you expect her to be housetrained already? And you're already thinking about giving her up because she isn't? WOW!
Boy are you in for a surprise - if you keep her, that is, which at this point I'm not sure is the best thing for her, unless you're willing to adjust your expectations and do a bit of a 'crash course' in puppies/dogs. And please be honest with yourself, because if you don't keep her, it's much easier to find her a home while she's still young.
First of all, it's totally unrealistic to expect no 'accidents' from such a young puppy. She is *very* young. In fact, it sounds like she's doing remarkably well for being so young!
It isn't *physiologically* possible for a puppy to be 100% pottytrained until about... 4 months of age, if I remember correctly. They don't have the muscle control to hold it more than... 4 hours, I think it is? (I'm going by memory, so I'll have to look that up.)
So, my next question is, how long does she have to stay in the crate w/o a potty break? Because it is extremely unusual for dogs to soil their living area - unless they either have no choice and can't physically hold it anymore, (or if they came from a puppy mill/pet store where they had no other choice but to go in their cage and so get in that habit), OR if her crate is so large that she can go in one section and then go off to another section and be away from it. (If that's the case, you can use a crate divider.)
But as young as she is, she probably just can't hold it for more than a couple hours at a time. I had a great site for potty training stuff. Let me find it and post again later. It does s/l you're doing everything else right as far as keeping her on a regular schedule. For now, I'd suggest that she commes out of the crate for a potty break at least every 2 hours, or immediately if you see her start to sniff around in her crate or otherwise act like she's going to go in her crate.
BTW, she should have stayed with her mother and littermates until *at least* 8 weeks of age, which tells me you didn't get her from a reputable breeder if they let her go so young. That's a shame, because a reputable breeder would be available to mentor you and answer any and all questions you might have along the way (for life), like about crating and pottytraining. A rep. breeder would have also asked you a lot of questions and would not have let you have one of their pups if it would not be the right breed for you and your family, or if you're maybe just not cut out to be dog owners. (That kind of screening saves everybody a lot of heartache, rather than getting the puppy and then not keeping it, having to find it a new home, etc.) But that's neither here nor there at this point. I just always recommend a reputable breeder, rescue, or a shelter. It makes me angry that people will sell a puppy to someone and then just "leave them hanging" so to speak, because it's the puppy that suffers. Okay, enough of my ranting.
I'd have dumped the vet the minute she mentioned the
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It's 30 minute circuit training SM
on very easy machines. It's actually fun and everyone is friendly.
Only problem is, you don't really lose a lot of weight, if that's your goal, and, at least where I live, it costs $40 a month. What with rate of pay dropping, I had to quit.
If you don't need to lose a great deal of weight and just want to stay in shape, it really is good.
There is one from the 10 Minute Solutions group.
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And you can get thrown off this board for just what you said a minute ago
that being correcting me about how I structured a sentence. I was talking about a situation outside of this board and outside of work this morning and you are calling someone to task about my being rude? In a nice way I can correct and usually do. I can see where your name comes from.
I can't believe you would waste a minute of time obsessing about this.
Unbelievable!
Guiding Light since it was a 15 minute show
 I'm old.
Wait a minute, so no gift, meaning nothing?
nada? No money in a card either? I can't believe what I am reading. LOL.
Here is how it works.. for a shower they usually want a gift off the registry which just about everyone has these days. If not registered then about a 30-50 dollar gift depending on how close you are or gift card, etc.
And for weddings, wrapped gifts are always tacky mostly because they are awkward, much harder for the bride and groom to take care of at/after the wedding (have someone collect the gifts and deliver later?, collect themselves which is tacky, receive yet another item they don't need and/or want), and so ALL brides and grooms expect MONEY.
Weddings are very expensive. Mine was over 10000 a while back and if all 60 or so couples brought me a "gift" I would have been VERY upset. Sorry but it's true.
I think most people who bring gifts are the ones who don't want to spend much or don't want people to know what they spent but that's just my opinion. Otherwise, why wouldn't they just put the money in a card and give them something they can really use?
Even if you don't have much money, 25.00 is better than more crystal champagne glasses or yet another picture frame that so doesn't match the decor.
Okay, done. Sorry......I was on a roll.
LOL
TY for replies/advice - see "wait a minute" below for
update. I plan on talking to principal and teacher today and go from there.
our kids have a 2 minute walk from school and
they have already been heckled by meaner kids, they even threw a beer bottle at my 5 year old. I stood behind a fence one day and stepped out in front of him just as he was rounding the corner and told him that if he ever even so much as talked to my kids again I would follow him home and tell his parents exactly what was going on. I told him that I would also talk to the principal, who I know on a first-name basis as i am VP of the PTO. I put the fear of God in that child but I still do not trust him or his little band of siblings he walks with. I almost fear other children more than I do strangers!
The 5-minute Chocolate Cake for 1 Person
The person who sent me this says it really works.
5-MINUTE CHOCOLATE MUG CAKE
4 tablespoons flour
4 tablespoons sugar
2 tablespoons cocoa
1 egg
3 tablespoons milk
3 tablespoons oil
3 tablespoons chocolate chips (optional)
A small splash of vanilla extract
1 large coffee mug (microwave-safe)
Add dry ingredients to mug, and mix well. Add the egg and mix thoroughly. Pour in the milk and oil and mix well. Add the chocolate chips (if using) and vanilla extract, and mix again. Put your mug in the microwave and cook for 3 minutes at 1000 watts. The cake will rise over the top of the mug, but don't be alarmed! Allow to cool a little, and tip out onto a plate if desired. EAT!
Wait a minute, Pinky! It takes two....sm
...to conceive a child, unless you're the Virgin Mary 2000 years or so ago. Calling the young woman a sl*t, a very shaming label, just clouds the issue. And yes, adoption is a viable option if the girl and her parents are neither willing nor able to keep the baby, financially and emotionally. But it has to be their choice. I hate abortion, but that's not what we're talking about.....anyhow, shaming labels don't help the discussion. I'm too old to even remember having the natural and normal desires of youth, LOL, but these things happen. Even back in my day, some young couples, as we put it, "had to get married."
Wait a minute, "What is wrong?". sm
These are hard, hard times, and there are always two sides to every story. She was asking for good recommendations, and she got some. That's what a support system is all about, you know. I'm delighted to see all the good and practical suggestions here, not the criticism.
Whoa, wait a minute, there! I was in MN last week and had the best bagel sm
I've ever eaten in my life! It was actually a breakfast sandwich with ham and cheese. It was amazing!!!
And I'm FROM Upstate NY! haha LOL
I gave birth to twins, and I have to say they were not born the same minute.
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I agree; that isn't feasable cuz they can't be born at the same minute, even with C-section it
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Aren't they just TOOOO adorable? Ours is a laugh a minute! That sm
collar would be STUNNING!!! 
twins nor triplets would be born at same minute. must be split personality, LOL! nm
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i know it is wearing on you but the recommend amount of timeout is 1 minute for each year of age.
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Yes, with my second child.
He is now 13 and has never had any problems. Just pray, God will work it all out for you and I will keep you in my prayers also.
Tell me a little about your child, please
Thanks.
Thank God. Having your child taken would be the
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As a child...
I never sucked my thumb and never had a pacifier. I had crowding of teeth as an adult because of wisdom teeth pushing on them. It really is the size/shape of your mouth/palate that determines crooked teeth, and that is determined by genetics.
More than one child
We were planning on only having one child, but 10 years later (she's almost 4 now) we did have a second one which I of course don't regret for a minute. The only thing I can say is don't listen to those that say you have to have a second child. That's all I heard for years. How can yo just have one, and on and on. It's nobody's business but you and your husband.
Yes, have gone since I was a child.
My kids also go, ages 20, 17 and 15. It fills my spiritual tank for the week and our pastor is so wonderful and uplifting and we have a fabulous congregation. I don't feel right if I miss a week.
No H is an only child LOL.
That is probably what the problem is too. No other children to dote on.
A dog is not a child and has different
needs from a child. But even a child is put in a bassinet to sleep in when they are small to control how much they roll around. Then later they are put in a crib. Is that a cage for you too? Or do you put the child on a full-size mattress and hope for the best? No, you carefully listen to all the rules about safe mattresses for infants and how soon pillows can be used and what position is safest for an infant.
For dogs, you need to get to know them before you give them free reign of the house. Otherwise they might get into something we didn't think of to put up and die. This dog is in the age range of 12-18 months. We can already tell he is inquisitive. We don't know how much time he has spent in a house because he was abandoned at the shelter. We will observe him and train him and grant him more freedoms as he proves himself ready.
Dogs in the wild use dens. You are misinformed, probably by PETA folks who would have you release your Yorkshire terrier to the wild to fend for itself if they had their druthers.
I was 29, he's my only child
before I had him I had two miscarriages in the same year (when I was 28). He is almost 13. I'm in downstate NY and at his school school (it's a Catholic school) many of his classmates' parents are at least as old as I am. Hope to get married soon but probably too late for another..
of course he is my child
I have his age wrong though. He is 31. How on earth can I or should I stop him from stating his own opinion? It is certainly not unusual for an 18-year-old male to use the word, even when talking about his evil GM. He was 18 when dear G'ma died. I'm telling you, the woman was evil, evil, evil!!!! Even my ex-DH (is there such a thing) didn't like her. The only reason my older son liked her was because he was the first grandchild and she worshipped him. When my SIL had 2 kids, they were okay for a while, then she didn't want to mess with them either. She liked dogs and cats more than people. And, by the way, I am really relating to all of you out there who go to your MIL's for all the holidays and not your mom's. I did that also, because I dearly loved my FIL and my SIL, BIL, etc. If I had it to do over again, I think I would have shared a little more. My mom is only 70, but no one is promised tomorrow. We do all holidays together now.
Right - I don't think they should take the child because (sm)
no matter what, children love their parents and would be traumatized to be taken away from them, so unless they are being terribly mistreated, I don't think they should ever be taken. Children who go thru life in foster homes are rarely ever happy. But Social Services could go in and help them get things cleaned up if that is why. It may not be, but in my case that was the problem. I eventually at about age 11 or 12 went out and bought bug spray and sprayed my hair and brushes and sprayed my PILLOW regularly to keep the bugs away. I am sure that was horrible for my health but I was desperate.
Because he's still YOUR CHILD, and he still needs to know he is welcome. nm
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child with SVT. sm
Hi. My 16-year-old son is suspicious for SVT. Anyone else experience this? I had made an appointment for March, and now the doc is calling me and wants to see my son next week. He has already had an echo and an event monitor. Don't know if I should be freaked out or not.
Yes, first child....nm
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Would you have said anything about this child?
I was at a very big market (international) this morning and as I exited the lunch room to retrieve my cart, saw a very young child alone in a cart with no one around. I stood there not moving for several minutes wondering where a parent might be. I could not even see a person in front or back of him that seemed to be paying attention to this child (probably around 3 or 4 years of age). The serving line in front does have glass so I could see the people buying their lunches. Finally I noticed a man that was looking around frequently at the child and finally he got through the line and came and picked the child up. I approached him to say how it is so easy for a person to snatch his child (John Walsh's on AMW had his young child snatched and killed in similar, only taking a second) and this man looked annoyed and said thank you for your thoughts and hurried away. Clearly child endangerment here but would you have said anything or just let it go?
How do you know it was actually his child?
That's what's scary.
I have a child like this...
(This turned out long. Please stick with me.)
Like your son, it started in infancy. He could throw a fit that could go on for 30 minutes. If it was related to going to sleep, he would cry for hours no matter what I tried. (Yes, i did have him ruled out for medical causes.) He just could not calm himself down and he wanted what he wanted when he wanted it. It started to feel like a war zone and the other kids were not getting the attention they needed because I felt like I had to deal with his bad behavior all the time.
When he was very young (infancy to about 3 years old), I would let him throw his fits and try to ignore them. After about 30 minutes, I picked him up and rocked him and he always seemed to be relieved and would start to calm down. I did not give into his demands. It just was a way for him to know that I loved him even when he acted bad.
But you know what... A few months ago (he is 5 now), he was acting up yet again and I tried to talk to him. I told him that I knew he was a good boy and that he was just having a hard time with his anger. He was totally blown away that I thought he was a "good boy." In his head, he thought he was bad. This was an eye opener for me.
Because I had my own issues with frustration, I decided to work on me first. I was sick of the war zone. That is still a work in progress, but I feel a lot more calm when dealing with him now.
I explain things to him up front. If we are going to a store, I tell him that I expect him to stand still by me. If he wants to look at something, he can ask me, etc. Then I ask him what he thinks the consequence will be if he does not mind. Sometimes he answers, sometimes not. Then, I tell him exactly what will happen. No favorite TV channel or no playing with a favorite toy, something like that. Just so he knew exactly what would happen if he makes certain CHOICES. I also don't argue. It only gets me wound up. I put the onus back on him. Counting 1...2...3 gives him a warning to change his behavior or deal with consequences.
I also communicate a lot about other's people reactions to when he "acts good" and "acts bad." How the things that happen to him are often influenced by his CHOICES. "Other children may not want to play with someone who ...only wants their way ... does not share ... hits." "If you share your toy, your friend probably want to share his toys with you."
I praise him when I notice he has done something "good", like brushing his teeth without being reminded. I tell how much I appreciate it (Because I do. When you have 3 kids, its a really help when they can do something for themselves.) Someone knowledgeable told me the ratio of praise to discipline is 4:1. I doubt that I hit that ratio, but I do look for things my kids do right.
None of this is easy for me. I feel like I am talking myself blue in the face. I am naturally quiet and not always willing to communicate verbally. I'm praying the more I communicate now, then eventually I won't have to talk so much later. Or at least, we can talk about more pleasant things.
I will say though that my son is starting to understand that he will not always get his way, and if he cooperates with me, I am willing to cooperate with him. There has been good improvement since I started with this in April.
from a child
My son used to say mazagine and hangaburger instead of magazine and hamburger when he was about 3. I loved that. Not common to most people but it was common to him. :)
If this was MY child??? sm
I would be working my way up the food chain at that school. Who in the he!! at that school thinks they know what my child needs or doesn't need? The last I knew, raising children is up to the parents; not the school, not the state, and CERTAINLY NOT A LESBIAN TEACHER!! I was so upset when I just READ the story that it was all I could do to stop myself from sitting down and writing a letter to the school and giving them a piece of my mind.
To any and all parents in that school district...the threat of recall is an extremely potent weapon. Use it!!
I only have one child, a son..sm
so that helps. I usually spend about $300 on my son, but this year I have spent $400 already on a playstation 3 he has wanted ever since they came out last year. I can't just give him that so I have to buy him some other little things to open. My mom and mother-in-law and sister-in-law are going to buy playstation 3 games because after spending $400 on it I can't buy the games too, which are about $60 each. So I still have to buy some small things for him so I will probably spend about $500 on my son this year. The most I have ever spent on him and he is 10. Like I said it is usually no more than $300. I try to spend no more than $100 on my husband, but this year I know he has said how he would love to have an ipod. So I am going to buy one for about $150. I have my dad to buy for and mom. I know I will probably spend about $50 on my mom. My dad I am not sure yet. In-laws are usually about $20-25 each. My sister about $25. My brother in law about $20. My 2 nephews about $20 each. I also have a niece I will spend about $20-30 on. I try to spend a little more on my niece because my sister in law spends a lot on my son. So you see I have a lot of people to buy for. I don't even know how much that is all together but it ain't cheap. And the people I buy for I have to cause they do for us.
Your child isn't doing bad if he AM
is receiving dental care and has a Wii already. Why are you hell-bent on making money off a fluke? You certainly aren't setting an example your child should follow by selling it and I hope they DON'T give a gift receipt. 
How old is your child?
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