I am confident but also overweight and I have the common sense
Posted By: Liz on 2009-02-24
In Reply to: Too tight clothing - Not too confident
to not wear clothing that I look like a sausage in. I have upper arms that do not look good in short sleeves so I do not wear. I do not think it has anything to do with confidence, I definitely am not short on that and admire myself in good looking clothes but I know what and what does not fit properly. Any woman who likes her fat rolls showing, her midrift bulging and several different bellies hanging down all at once does not ooze confidence to me, rather seems like they are insecure and dressing so maybe someone might notice.
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Common sense
I remember in 9th grade, back in the 1970s, we had to give a speech for English in front of the whole class. Mine was on first aid. I demonstrated several pretend procedures on a volunteer. Then my volunteer was suffering from a snake bite, so I was demonstrating the technique that was in vogue at the time, where a knife was used to cute the puncture wounds and so the poison could be sucked out. I pulled out my demonstration knife and my teacher suddenly came on camera to examine my knife. Not being a dummy, I had made a cardboard knife, colored the handle part black, and covered the blade in tin foil. In the back side I had taped a fine-tipped red pen. It looked real on camera as long as you held it the right way. That teacher didn't like me, and he spent a good 30 seconds examining the weapon, during my taped presentation, before he was satisfied he could not get me in trouble for it.
No, I was no dummy.
Use some common sense
Just as women have things they are uncomfortable with, weight, breasts, etc...men don't want an ugly uncircumsized penis, so get over it and do your boy a favor. Not to mention all the health reasons. Sheesh! My son or husband hardly remember the little skin at the top of their penis being taken off. Give me a break!
Most common sense folks on here would know that
some get all riled up when you start talking about moochers! Now, this lady is a plain out and out moocher. She now has 14 mooching babies, of course, through no fault of their own but their mother's greedy selfish ignorance.
I tried to have a rational discussion about moochers on welfare ther other day and for the life of me couldn't get one poster to get her mind wrapped around the fact that there are truly JUST moochers out there, who do not work, do not contribute to societ; they just take,take, take, and do nothing productive. She thought I knew nothing and that welfare was ONLY for those TRULY in need. This is exactly what I was talking about. I see it every day in my community, the baby making factories who refuse to work, sit on their butts, and have more babies, all paid for by the taxpayer. This is a perfect example.....same situation only she had 8 at one time instead of one by one until she finally got to 14.
Maybe the poster will get a picture of what moochers I was talking about and stop acting as if she were being targeted.
Since this lady is on disability, all her 14 children will also receive a monthly disability check. Now, multiply that times ALL the illegal babies here with all their illegal parents also getting assistance and you wonder why this country is going down the tubes and why California is going belly up?
excellent common sense post!
So true! Great post!
Sadie, you either have no self-control, no common sense...
or you are just plain stupid.
i totally agree! common sense says he was with both when they suddenly sm
died of "over dose" and he was the one who gave the pills to daniel. something fishy to the obvious eye, but guess like OJ, you got money, you escape justice.
This is common sense, stop posting this garbage!
The only thing worse than chain emails, is people who pass along chain emails!
Oh my gosh...I totally understand about the no common sense part...
like his brain stopped working when he hit 9 or something...I am constantly telling him "use your brain." But honestly, it is nice to hear other parents going through the same thing, because my husband and I thought maybe it was just our son---LOL...
Try faking it! Pretend you're confident & try introducing yourself to
people and act like you own the room. As long as you're not rude or cocky, people WILL like you! I promise, it DOES work. After that, you will have made some acquaintances and can go from there.
How to Win Friends and Influence People - by Dale Carnegie
Also, see the Self Esteem 4 Women website. Link is below.
All the best!
So does my cat. She is overweight. Actually,
xx
Thanks - other than being overweight
He's healthy. He could stand to lose about 50 pounds (but I could stand to lose about 75 pounds) I understand the question of Alzheimers/dementia. I didn't make that real clear in my last post. It's not stories that he repeats over and over, its just what he wants to do. Like he'll come out and say he thinks we should move to another location (larger town where there is more work), then he'll come in 5 minutes later with all this stuff he found on where he thinks we should move to, then about a half hour later he'll come in talking about the same area, and 1/2 hour later comes in telling me more stuff about the area. To me it's a repeat over and over and over. This is all while in the middle of me trying to work, then he gets mad and says I'm not interested cos he's the only one finding the info and I have to be involved blah, blah, blah. So, it's not really a repeat of stories like that, just more of a discussion of the same topic over and over and over. But I understand exactly what you were thinking. If it could only be that easy. I've had close family members (an aunt had dementia, and a grandfather had Alzheimer's) and I helped family take care of them and I'll tell you...that was a lot easier than this is. It's probably harder because he doesn't have them and he thinks he's sane and this is normal. I did tell him once, fine, lets pack up everything up the following week and move and then he got all p!ssy at me and told me forget it if I was going to have that attitude. I said to him all I keep saying is lets take a drive there, lets do more research, then make the move wisely and not just jump. As for the other issues of doom and gloom and end of the world scenarios...well I told him life has to go on and that's what I told him. I always hear people say prepare for the worst and hope for the best (think that was in a movie), but I just can't live like everything is going to end in the next couple days. There has got to be some hope.
Being overweight. I'm not
happy with the way I look or feel & am very self-conscious about it.
Being overweight sure is a choice, just like sm
smoking cigarettes or doing drugs is a choice. If you are making the right food choices, exercising, drinking water, or even following a Weight Watcher's plan, you will lose weight, unless you have a problem with one of your organs where you retain "water weight". I, quite frankly, am tired of people sitting around asking "how do I lose weight" when they are not making good food choices and not staying active? If you have trouble with arthritis, then you can do aqua therapy (get in a pool even if it is heated). Anything that gets your heart rate up is exercise. The "government" is not at the grocery store holding your hand or at that fast food restaurant making you buy those burgers. I'm sorry, but that is JMO. 
Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight.
Pay more attention to who he is checking out/drooling over on TV - bet it isn't Roseann Barr or Camryn Manheim! lol
I'm not overweight or a smoker,
and since I'm not an addict, I can see clearly. Smoking makes no sense, which is why people are trying to educate children, who then assume you don't understand the risks and try to educate you. Logic states that if you understood the problems tobacco causes, you would not smoke. That is why kids are kind to you and try to educate you on the subject.
I have a very overweight beagle....sm
She just went to the vet the other day and he didn't seem too concerned. She weighed 40 pounds. She weighed 30 before being spayed. I told him she barely eats much. There is no way the weight can come from overeating. He said she is fixed right? I said yes. He said well that happens sometimes. They gain a lot of weight due to the hormone changes. I knew it had to be that cause she didn't get like that until we had her spayed. So I figured that was it and it is. So he said not really much you can do. She is very lazy though. My husband said put her out in the backyard and make her get some exercise. Well the backyard is fenced in so I put her back there and she lays out in the grass and looks at me after going potty. I said come on get up and play. She just looks at me like I can be lazy inside or lazy outside but I am going to be lazy. LOL
I was "only" 65 lbs overweight with 2nd pregnancy...
but I was so horribly ill with 24-hour morning sickness that I walked out of the hospital 12 pounds lighter than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy. I certainly wouldn't recommend that method of weight loss! I was in and out of the hospital the entire time of my pregnancy for dehydration and IVs. Every moment of that pregnancy was a struggle with food; thinking about it, trying to keep it down, worrying about the baby.
In the end, it worked out. He was born 2 weeks early and was 8 lbs, 2 ozs. Within 24 hours I was eating like a horse again, and I was great while nursing for 6 months. But eventually, the glory days of eating and not gaining weight were gone. Now, 17 years after that pregnancy, I'm 80 pounds overweight. Sigh.
Why do very overweight/obese women
wear tops that show all the bulges and fat rolls that they have. It does not look good and I just do not get it. It looks like the tops are about 2-3 times too small. Any answers on this?
Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
I agree, depends on face shape....I'm not overweight
but I have a fat face! lol
I agree! Many kids are overweight, lazy and don't want to work hard for anything!
Good luck to them in the working world...how many do you think will actually do well? It's a scary thought.
We have something in common
you and I have the same ansswer for number 13. My daughter will be 18, how old is yours? Isn't that a really special thing, I love that her birthday is near Christmas.
These are very common...
most are bought earlier in life, but you are not a bad person. These are actually very interesting enhancements to an already "spicy" time. We enjoy these, not every night, but on occasion. They are a blast!
it is common --
when people take sleeping pills or narcotics, esp in combinations, they can wake up somewhat disoriented, forget what they've had, or believe they need more...and can result in accidental overdoses.
We have a lot in common when it comes to TV
Love Y&R and boy it is heating up right now. Really enjoy Ellen and am also a Foodie!!!! I never really watched Old Christine althought I think Julia Louis Dryfuss is incredibly talented. In the evenings I tend to watch reruns of Will and Grace, sex and the City, and then I do a 180 and also wathc The Andy Griffith Show. LOL!
it is common,
and a bother, but not usually a representing a problem (per my daughter vet).
It sounds like you sure do have a lot in common.
I believe everyone has a soul mate, in case that matters. Best wishes and have fun, fun, fun! 
Common questions that men ask
Questions that I've been commonly asked in the "dating world" since I'm single.
"Why arent you married"
"Do you want kids?"
"Why hasn't someone snatched you up"
"Do you date?"
or when the guy states...
"I'm a really nice guy"
"I'm a great catch"
"I've always been too busy to meet someone special until now"
Another thing..for some reason, I find divorced men who have kids living with their mother to be a turn off.
I feel that they made their families and now they are dating while the brunt of child care is now on their ex wife.
Maybe it's ignorant of me, I don't know. I really admire men who LIVE with their children or I'd prefer to date men who didnt have children at all.
I guess the purpose of this post is mostly a rant..anyone identify with any of this?
It is rude but common.
I guess you can assume the non-responders will not be coming but it is not uncommon for people that do not respond to show up anyway. If that happens, embarrass them loudly when they arrive! :) I found that including an email address on the invite helps, some people are just weird about calling, especially if it is to tell you that they can't make it.
welcome to my world...we have so much in common.
we have 14 kids in 6 houses on my street. all under age 10. the kids are all staying home all summer. i did put my 2 in summer school but its only 4 hours in the morning. we have been going through this for way too long. our rules are that my kids have to stay in my yard,,,they can have friends over, but they are not to get out of my sight. sick of having them bullied, and then myself bullied when their parents find out i have yelled at their kids....lol, i had a post a few days ago about my trashy neighbors and they bad kids...the topic went on for a while.... long story short...we are selling our house and getting out of here.
These must be common dreams
I have the same ones with my teeth falling out and I'm always dreaming of being in school either forgetting my combination or not been able to find my classroom.
A common effect...sm
According to the Ohio State University Extension, it is because there was excessive preheating--longer than 5 mins. I assume they mean while the tomatoes were being heated prior to being placed in the jar. From experience, it does not affect the taste. As long as the seal is tight, they should be fine. Just shake the jar before opening. Welcome to the wonderful world of canning! Did you get tomato bits on the ceiling like I do every year? 
Your husband and I have a lot in common sm
I have decorated my house on thriftstore and garage sale finds, ultra cheap sales or hand me downs. Far from being tacky or old, it is cozy, comfortable and inviting. People come in and don't want to leave.
I am a cheapskate and I admit! I love being the way I am. Now, of course, I have my exceptions, like owning $20K in sewing machines to practice my craft...
Sewing is NOT free and it is NOT cheaper, not all the time. The difference is that if I sew a coat I will have for 20 years (have one I have had for 16 right now) rather than 2 or 3 years. I can put better fabric into something that is important, or needs to wear a long time. I have a closet full of interfacing, zippers, rick rack, hem tape, thread, lace, ribbing, trims, ribbons, buckles and assorted junk. When I go to sew, I go in and pull out what I have that I can use and often I have everything I need. THAT saves some money if you don't mind storing 50 zippers for which you paid a dime each. I can also makes pants to fit my strange behind. There is a lot of joy in it for me too, or I probably would not mess with it.
Shoot, 20 years I ago I charged $22.50 an hour for my sewing skills. Your husband needs to wake up on that score. If I were your friend, I'd happily do his stuff...for my going rate of $30 an hour today! LOL he'd love that.
Its so weird, but this is common for these families
with BPD members - when a new person comes along who is actually healthy emotionally, they are always "blamed" for everything. I wish I had more time to share some of this fascinating data, but I have to work...and there are probably those who aren't interested. When you experience these sick games for years, and then actually read the exact same stuff in medical/psychiatric journals, it is just mind blowing! You realize its NOT you and you're not imagining this stuff. Very enlightening. I wish you all the best.
This is very common for men after this type of surgery....sm
I would see this a lot when I worked for a group of cardiovascular surgeons. Make an appointment for your husband & yourself with his surgeon so that they can first off assure him that this is normal. Some hospitals have post-CABG support groups and if your hospital has this, go as that will help him. Men especially have a hard time post-CABG because the male ego is "I can do anything and won't get sick" and it crushes their ego to have their heart become diseased. Continue to try to get him involved in things without nagging. The doctor may also place him on an antidepressant short-term if they feel it is indicated. Good luck!
Of course they're common! Now just show him how to use it so he can get
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I think that's probably a common and rational fear (sm)
I can't stand it and I imagine most people, especially females, but also males, don't like it either.
I heard the name Hogg is quite common in the
xxx
The common date here in Oz is 1 December,
and then everything down on 6 January. I can't imagine not having a tree until Christmas Eve.
Quite common terms in the South. We
call everyone something like that, whether we know them or not.
My point was that it was common for everyone else's kids...
to be there. The day before I left, one of the VPs was having a pizza party in the break room for her daughter and some friends...not even relatives.
Seizures are fairly common in Springers.
But what is the age of onset? Usually if age of onset is after 5 years, it is something other than epilepsy. But in a very young dog, it probably is epilepsy. A friend of mine has a Australian shepherd (named Major) that was having multiple grand mal seizures a day. Medicine helped, but what made a big difference for her was changing the dog's food to Canidae. Of course it's not in place of medication, but the dog went from multiple seizures a day before medication to 1 seizure a week with medication (may have had to add a second med, not sure), but then changing to Canidae improved him to 1 seizure in 6 months! She also has a Pembroke corgi (named Minor) who alerts them to each seizure before it hits their Australian shepherd.
She named her dogs Major and Minor - what a nut. :oD
It is very common in the south to keep your maiden name as your middle name. But, I sm
was talking about not taking your husband's name at all.
my point is I would like people to be aware that it is common (sm)
so there is not such a stigma about it. I don't think it is as big a deal as people make of it.
very common for anyone wanting a life, LOL! i have one and my DH is kinda jealous of me using it so
agree, sex toy parties are great fun and there are actually a lot of things for men there too for themselves or to use on you also. tell him he ought to be thankful it is a toy to enjoy and you are out playing the field, lol. but FYI, get a brief case and lock it up!!! i have had my kids find mine too and it was a double header so it was really, really embarrassing. DH bought it years ago and i only used one end but it was still great.
I live on the East Coast where this is extremely common
for "older" women to be having babies. As long as you're healthy, I don't see it should be a problem. I was WAY too young when I had my daughter (19) and really wish I would have waited until I was in my 30s. The biggest problem I see here with women in their 40s having babies is that a lot of them are so focused on their careers that they don't spend enough time with their kids. I would think 39 would be okay, but you really are greatly increasing your risk of complications/birth defects if you wait much longer.
In Europe, bringing pets into stores is quite common and has been
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No, probably not to someone with a sense of
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A sociopath in every sense of
the word. I don't know how he can live with himself. Doesn't he have any remorse or guilt?
it actually makes no sense
to sell a sound, healthy horse at auction for a fraction of the price that can be sold outright. If the horse is too slow to race ont the track they can and are used in other disciplines. Its hard to believe that practice is widespread. When a horse finds its way to auction there are other underlying reasons..
Okay, that does make more sense.
Thank you.
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