I think that the OP needs to do what she

Posted By: sm on 2008-07-08
In Reply to: I promise I am not trying to start an argument - mtmomof2

thinks is right for her family. There is no reason to justify that or feel bad because her daughter is upset.

When you are a parent, it is not your job to be a friend, it is your job to teach your children what you feel, morally, is right and wrong.

If the OP feels that it is wrong to have the daughter's best friend over, then so be it. It is her house!

This whole talk about family lasts forever is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. So, you're going to let your teenagers do what they want to do, even though you are responsible for them, because you don't want them to be mad at you because they are family????

Granted, that is the way I would have seen it WHEN I WAS 16!!! Now that I am a mother, I do not take for granted that it is my responsiblity to care for them and do my best to teach them right from wrong when they are in my house, whether they like it or not.

I'm off the soapbox now!

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Need to know if we're doing the right thing - sm - New York MT
- Do her parents share your concerns?-nm - Karen
- Personally, I have an 18-year-old daughter - see message
  - I appreciate feedback from all of you! - sm - New York MT
- Am I only the one who sees it differently? - s/m
  - If the daughter's friend spends the night she SM - Me, too
  - according to the original post - mtmomof2
    - best friend is not family - he may only be his - s/m
      - I promise I am not trying to start an argument - mtmomof2
        I think that the OP needs to do what she - sm
        Family does last forever and it's not - s/m
- What do you think? - sm
- your house, your rules - sm - lilly
- I think it's your house and you make the - sm

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