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I think the friendship indeed is still there... but

Posted By: you both have grown apart. on 2008-11-24
In Reply to: What would you think? - Best Friends Forever?

That is all there is to it. I am sure in her heart your friend loves you as much as you love her. It is just that, unfortunately in my experience, it is difficult to keep a friendship life-long to the same degree it was when you knew each other and lived closeby. The same thing happened to me and my best friend. We were BFF through first grade until after high school. I lost touch, but eventually visited her at an event after college, but we barely talked. I thought after we did not have the same friendship anymore, or she did not feel the way I did as in BFF. But, looking back, I realized we just grew apart and grew up. I still think of her often, and we have indeed lost touch, but I know to each other we will always be each other's best friend in memory and in our heart.
Just let go a little bit and please don't blame her or you. Please don't dwell on if you gave each other material items or not or if she did not think enough to give you something up to your expectations.
The fact is you have given each other something priceless, a memory in your heart and mind which will last forever and you can't put a price on that. If she is moving away in life, or by the things she does, please don't feel bad. It is not you. It is life. Enjoy the fact that you have not lost touch. And even if you do, after you let go of any expectations, still continue to love her as you always have. Because you and she I am sure will always have what you had and nothing can change that. Now go and enjoy your baby, and your marriage and your life, and keep your feelings the same tucked away in your heart. Don't let time moving on ever ruin that! Just my 2c. All the best to you!


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She had a tattoo right in the area and when she took pictures of the "bite" for her attorney, it was very, very hard to see a mark at all.

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I got divorced 7 years ago.  Started out as a "friendly" divorce and then I started dating a man that my ex did not like (because he is black) and we quit speaking at all.  Then, one of my very good friends started backing off from the friendship and I thought it was because I was openly dating a black man.  Well, 4 months later, I heard that she was dating my exhusband.  I called her and asked her about it and of course she denied it, could not believe I accused her of that, she would never do that to me..... on and on and on.  To make a long story short, of course 2 months later I found out it was true, they had bee seeing each other for about 6 or 7 months.


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Was not suggesting donning the cap of friendship
rather here, on the forum. I agree with everything you said, but fact remains that if Suzane wants to find her lost husband, she may want to try looking in all the places. She probably won't find him behind a closed door in the bedroom.
I do not think that the OP was referring to this kind of friendship
because the OP put the focus on 'very' close relationship, so it implies something more and slightly different.
My aunts always made friendship bread.
Not sure exactly, but they would get a "start" from someone and always had a little left to use to mix up the next loaf, so on and so on.