Never said I wanted to be boss. I just want to be
Posted By: paid a fair wage for my time. Simple concept, real on 2008-04-03
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your boss and
Unless you make over $250,000 a year, your boss my be taking advantage of you. We are all supposed to get an increase of $13 per week for a total increase of around $52 per month. It was in the stabilization bill just passed.
I'm the boss at my other job. I enjoy the
homemade items, ie. cake, a tin of misc cookies or candies. Very sweet and simple.
Me too. I used to be stressed out because of a mean boss.
My car hasn't had any shop time in almost 3 years. I also can no longer afford contribute to my 401K (as if it mattered anymore). I get the rent paid, but at the expense of eating extremely poorly. (Why is the cheap food always the stuff that's bd for you?) So now my cholesterol is through the roof. I can't afford to take a day off, and if I did, can't afford to go anywhere. A trip to the supermarket is an exercise in how well my antidepressants are working, because nothing is more depressing than not being able to afford most of what's in the store. I pray that my pets stay well, because who can afford vet bills? If my car breaks down someday, I'll be a permanent pedestrian. I HATE being poor, and I've come to detest the MTSO's, AHDI, and the whole MT field.
boss of the ways
Here's one: When my son was 4 we were on vacation, lost, and I kept telling my husband, Go this way, go that way, etc. My son got frustrated with driving around for so long aimlessly had some ideas of his own, and yelled, "Hey, I am the boss of the ways!" He is 19 now and we still use the phrase.
My boss, when I worked as
an MT at a company called Physician Services Plus. She lied, she cheated on my W2 and she stole my credit card and attempted to open an account! When this was all brought to light, she fired me and did her best to withhold my last paycheck. grrrrrrrrrrrr
Eureka Boss is way cheaper and does as well!!
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Christmas Gift for Boss
My other job is a legal secretary. I am looking for gift ideas for my boss that was not too expensive. Any suggestions would be much appreciated! Thanks!
My husband wanted me to pick out what I wanted....sm
I narrowed it down to 2 choices and let him make the final decision on which style/carat size to get.
You are comparing your aunt's boss to someone's child?
Sorry, just an odd response. There is nothing that compares to the loss of one's child. My heart goes out to the other poster.
Tell them, my own boss, years ago no restraining order
for a husband. They could beat you and half kill you and you were considered their property. I know because have been there.
Make sure boss is using biweekly tables
As opposed to the semi monthly tables. That can make a big difference. I had an accountant/bookkeeper do that to me once long ago with a raise. I had calculated it and I knew it was supposed to be somewhere in the range of $50 more in my check and the actual check came and was only $1 more. We went round and round and finally I banged it into her head that she was using the wrong table.
use the link that Tech Support gave you for the IRS tables. Find your state's tax and revenue site and get your tax withholding tables and then add 7.65% for your FICA/MedFICA. Calculate it out yourself with what you think is a fair degree of accuracy and then compare it to what your boss has.
If it's the same, then I'm sorry. If it's not, though, you can go to your boss and ask her to clarify what portion of the table she is using.
She may not be taking you for a ride, so to speak, she may just truly be making a mistake on the withholding table.
I once had a psycho boss at a small community -
hospital I worked at. Our transcription dept. consisted of just 3 of us, and we sat in a far corner of the medical records dept., next to the microfilm guy. The boss ('P'), and I were the only full-time MTs; the other MT only worked half-days, and she and I shared a desk. She worked from 8-12:30, I worked from 1-9:30 pm. This boss gave me the longest, most ridiculous oral 'transcription' test I've ever taken anywhere. Oddly, no typing test. So, I was hired.
The other MT told me no matter what you do, don't do more work than P, or she'll get insanely jealous. ?? So one fateful day, I made the mistake of typing more reports than she did. She changed to several different shades of red and purple, and I never saw anyone's lips get so thin in my entire life! Her mouth became just a pencil-thin straight line. After that day, she made my life a living he11. Always picking apart my work, trying to say I'd skipped out of work early one day and missed the life-flight helicopter bringing patients to the ER. (No, I was there, and I typed their H&P's).
She also had a running feud going on with the entire MR department, and instructed me that I wasn't allowed to speak with ANY of them. I was friends with the microfilm guy, and others in MR, and so I very politely told her that although I wouldn't chit-chat with them while I was WORKING, that what I did on my breaks and my own time was my own business, and that no one tells me who I may or may not associate with.
Would you believe this b___ch would actually feign leaving work for the day (her shift ended at 5 pm), and then would sneak back anywhere from 15 minutes to 5 hours later, just to peep in the window from outside and see if I was talking to anyone? She was a real piece of work, that one.
I eventually took another job (with a service that she occasionally sent our overflow work to). The new boss didn't want me telling her where I was going (which I wouldn't have, anyway - she was a very vindictive person), so when she asked where I was going to, I made up a doctor in the city - an impossible to pronounce, Chinese-sounding name. I told her it sounded sort of like 'Chiaong', but I had no idea how it was spelled. I also told her that because of his very thick accent, he was going to pay me twice what I was making at the hospital. Boy, did she ever turn dark RED when I told her THAT!
A few days later, my other co-worker (obviously on instructions from P), was trying to squeeze the name and address of the new 'doctor' out of me, but I just told her I knew where the building was, but that I'd walked there from an underground parking lot and didn't know the address, just that it was on the 9th floor. I just KNEW P. wanted to find this doctor and try to get the job for herself (which I learned is how she got the MT job at that hospital). So, I'm sure she spent hours perusing the downtown phone book, looking for Dr. 'Chiaong'!!! I also wouldn't have put it past her to go off in search of this mythical medical building I made up.
Sometimes mean people can be fun to jerk around. ;)
No, it was me. I wanted to eat more and did so
I pushed and pushed until I was able to pretty well eat normal again.
This was my failure.
Thanks - I just wanted to be sure! (sm)
I suggested it and then kind of got worried about it! We use it too
My son never wanted one, but DD
got hers actually at WalMart. It was around $100 and very pretty with her birth stone and she wears it every day. Might not after she graduates, but that's up to her. Younger DS probably won't want one either, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
I did get the brochures from the jewelry stores at the mall, but they were unbelievably expensive.
Thanks, that was exactly what he wanted!
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Is that all you wanted?
Just have someone agree with you? You said you will never post anything about yourself again. Well, you still did. I have a 17yr old and he will always have a key to my house unless he gives me reason to think otherwise. I still (at age 40) have a key to my parents house (why wouldn't I) what is the big secret? Really tired of this thread. Don't want to offend anyone but this seems to have really gotten out of hand. Just give him the key or don't!
You wanted to ask, but you did not?
For crying out loud, you should be MUCH more ready to forgive him his abusive language and "disrespect" if he was on drugs. Good grief. It sounds like you expect everybody to be perfect except you.
If he is clean now, he would probably be ashamed of how he acted. How many years have you let this rift go on, anyway?
That is exactly what my BF said, he wanted to know
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Just wanted to add one more (sm)
thing. If your daughter does leave home, you MUST report her as a runaway to protect yourself.
You didn't mention, but are there other children in the home? If so, this is definitely something to take into consideration. If they are and they are being exposed to the constant "turmoil" this can be perceived in the eyes of social services as a form of "abuse" so you'd need to tread carefully.
Right now, take the emotional part out of it, take back control and know that a couple of years from now you will (hopefully) look back at this time and you and your daughter will have a few laughs. I remember when we hit that point and I just smiled silently thinking "I remember someone told ME back then I'd make it through this." You CAN handle this!
I always wanted to use one of these
when I have my own place, check it out.
http://www.purrfectfence.com/
I just wanted to thank you!
To the person who posted to informed us of the free photo books at snapfish.com sponsored by Oprah, I just wanted to thank you! I ordered one and my mom ordered one for herself too! They turned out great. I did a wedding photo book as I got married a year ago and still hadn't done a wedding album yet. It turned out amazing!!!
Did anybody else take advantage of this amazing offer?
You have done what you wanted to do - sm
so I would leave it at that. It is never to late to say you are sorry about something. I did the same thing, broke up with this guy badly, he was so in love with me and I always felt guilty about it, especially since he stayed single and did not date for about 12 years. He knew I felt bad about it though as my BF told him years after our breakup that I have always felt guilty/bad about how I handled things. But I was a stupid 16-y/o so what do you expect. Sometimes have regreted it as he is now a successful architect, but then again something just did not click, hence the breakup. He finally met someone and is married now about 8 years. We exchange Christmas cards but that is it. I never formally apologized to him but I know he knows how I feel/felt.
No, he wanted them because he - sm
was/is tired of the withdrawal method to be blunt about it. As I said he's only used 2 in maybe six months though (with me). Believe me I questioned him about it....and am being aware. I check all the email as he hates dealing with it, and the bills, he has no secret accounts, etc. He is pretty much an open book. His phone is a company phone and they would fire him if he used the phone for anything other than work or calling me, same with the company car. He is a real germaphobe as well, my kids call him Mr. Monk as a joke, he is not that bad, but sometimes it is, and I don't think would put me in the position of possibly getting a STD. He is also one of those men who would confess if he cheated as the guilt would eat him up. His honesty and fairness can be a pain sometimes, he won't even haggle when it is possible to like buying our house, and some property we have, did not even try to get it cheaper, same with our cars. I have to tell him to be quiet and let me handle the negotiating when I can. He has always been straight with me. Supposedly he cheated the 2-3 x because his wife used sex as a weapon/reward, and just was one of those women who really did not enjoy it....whether this is true of course I will never know. But I am not blindly stupid about his past, but do have faith in him that he won't do it again as we do have a good marriage, two great kids, and a good life together (and still a great sex life after 14 years). He has seen friends divorce and knows what it is like and does not ever want to go through it again, and he knows I am serious about making his life a living *ell if he ever did that to me. ---But the OP up there as I said before just needs to keep her eyes peeled. I would not let the letter wreck my marriage but I certainly would not blindly think, no my husband would never do that, foolish to think that way but it is a fine line to walk and you need to protect yourself but not let it wreck the marriage in case it is just a nut job out to cause trouble, like kids mailing them out to one house on each street in their neighborhood, who knows.
thanks!! Just wanted to be sure sm
So many recipes look so good, but I just don't have the time. I've been wanting them lately too. Kids coming home from college this weekend, so I wanted to make something special for them... but I have to work for a while until they get here... so I could't get too involved.
Thanks again!
Well, if I'd known what he REALLY wanted
Snip, snip! 
Just wanted to say thanks
I had some nice responses when I posted last week about having a really nasty UTI and being in excruciating pain. I had a fever despite analgesics, pelvic pain and generalized agony. They did a KUB and 2 CAT scans, with and without contrast. I got the results yesterday. I have at least one kidney stone. They think I may have passed more. I will NEVER go back to that NP again. My PCP has a NP, PA and himself. The PA is fantastic and my doc is wonderful. I can't believe they made me wait all weekend for the results when I had a stone, and let me suffer in pain. A few Vicodin may have helped. Also, the NP had told me I'd be feeling better in a day. I got progressively worse over 3 days. Now, I am finally starting to feel back to normal but there is still a 2 mm (small) stone lodged in my kidney. I just wonder if it is going to cause problems if and when it goes on the move. I was afraid to go to the ER for 2 reasons: 1. I didn't want them to think I was there for a wimpy reason. 2. They have so many people who go in there seeking narcotics, even though I never have, I was afraid they'd treat me like I was one of those.
Again, thanks to all that cared!
I have always wanted more than just
to sit around and do nothing. I just wanted more in my life than to stay stoned or be an alky. My best mind is not the best so if I fool around with other substances I am in a world of trouble. I have always wanted to work and be able to buy what I wanted, take vacations where I wanted and I hate, hate, hate to count money to find out if I have enough to buy a candy bar. If I had to work more than one job to have what I need, then that is what I do. I want to keep on working until I just go kerplunk out of my chair with my fingers on the keyboard. I just hope that is no time soon. I probably love making money more than I love spending it although spending runs a close second.
Just a little ego there. It's a guy. She probably just wanted to sit with someone familiar.
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What's your passion? If you could do anything you wanted to do, what would it be?
Snorkel in the Caribbean.
He did say he wanted to hold off since my dog sm
is young, only 1-1/2 years old. I'm a wreck from trying to keep on eye on him as much as possible. Then, when I get comfortable after he hasn't had one for awhile, another one occurs. Just 3 weeks ago we had 15 inches of snowfall and I let him and our other dog out to potty. Well, I called them in and found the little guy in a snowbank and the ned of our lot shivering with the endings of a seizure. I ran outside in my barefeet and got him out of the snowbank and carried him in. It just tears me up to watch it. LOL--it probably IS worse on us than the poor poochies.
advice wanted
i have typed radiology for about 6 years now. i use to work inhouse, but about 2 years ago i decided to work from home, thinking i could make more money. well, i was hired to type radiology, but naturally i did not start off doing that, they had me typing clinical notes. then finally they put me on a radiology account, but that had very little work. in the mean time, they were waiting for this new radiology account to get up and running and told me how great and easy it was and all that stuff!!! i ws sooo excited about this account, thinking YES!!! i can finally make some real money. well, here it is a year later and this is one of the most difficult accounts and i am not sure what the problem is. the doctors are not difficult to understand, i have macros and all of that good stuff, but i tell ya what....it is all i can do to get in 1000 lines, which is pretty pathetic being that i am use to getting in alot more lines than that. i do not believe it is me, but rather this account.
so i am not sure if i should look for a different job, and if so i really am not sure who i should look at. but like i said i have only worked from my home for about 2 years, and 4 years in house and would appreciate any advise from all of the vets that are out there, or anyone else with some good advise. i do not like being mislead, and being told an account is "CAKE", when actually the turn over of mt's on this account is great. 
Maybe she just wanted to let the tattoo on --sm
the back of her neck be seen. ?? But, in my opinion, aside from her extreme behavior, she is one of few women who could go *bald* and still look decent. I think she looks good that way. maybe it was a prerequisite of the rehab center. just a thought.
No advice really. I just wanted to say
have fun on your vacation! I would love to get away for 3-1/2 weeks! :O)
If she wanted to leave she would have done so
It sounds like it's drama she is posting.
She is a grown woman and could have easily left him during church, while he was sleeping, at work, ect if she *really* wanted to leave.
If you wanted DS visitation bad enough, you WOULD get
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Just wanted to share...sm
I worked at a physical rehab center for 5 years. As another poster stated, the amount of improvement depends on a lot of things. However, I saw people leave or return for appts with no noticeable residual, others who still had deficits but were independent. Those who were permanently impaired learned to adapt. There are some really cool gadgets out there! One thing I learned from working at the rehab center was determination really *can* pay off. It was inspiring working there.
IF your dad needs extensive therapy, the hardest part for YOU may be keeping him motivated. So, best of luck to your dad, you and the family. Let us know how things are going.
Just wanted to say Congratulations! nm
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I wanted to watch but...
Ol' big mouth Oprah won't let anyone else get a word in...she thinks she knows it all.
My SIL wanted a divorce until
he got accepted into medical school. Then things changed rather quickly. The person he is married to now he met in med school and they graduated together and work together at the same hospital. She encouraged him and motivated him the entire time he was in school. He didn't start med school until he was 31 so it was a big decision on his part. Am so proud of him.
I know you are tired of me, but I just wanted to say
the pictures both of you sent are beautiful. The cat looks like one of my niece's. Lisa had a tonsillectomy Monday at age 45 and I am going over today on my day off to help her and to feed and care for the two cats! What a day this will be. The red one comes up to me and stares at me with those big yellow eyes and actually puts his nose against mine! I try so hard not to laugh, but I lose every time.
 
Wanted to but we decided on sm
The Phantom (have front row seats), Blue Man, and Etta James is going to be there on Friday and my friend HAS to see her. We're only there 4 nights and the first one we get there at 9:30, so we just didn't have enough time. Next time!
Opinions wanted
Ok, I am going to try to make this a short story. Last night, my 7-year-old and another kid were playing. I was watching them, and they were playing tug-of-war, so to speak, with a shoe, but they were both laughing and playing. Well, the other child got hurt and when we tried to figure out what was wrong, we found that the girl had recently had surgery on this particular finger and it had gotten hurt while they were playing. Fast forward to this morning - the child's finger is fractured. I am in the process of getting the mother's phone number so that I can call her. The child was under the supervision of my sister-in-law at the time, a friend of her daughter's.
So, my question, would you offer to pay the copay for the emergency room visit?
Thanks!
Wanted to share
My friend who is the companion to Sophia who I pictured in lower thread just made this video, she is an amateur, it brought tears to my eyes. She rescued Sophia from the woods behind her apartment building. She and others just got through rescuing another backyard chow too, she will be beautiful one day like Sophia too. Enjoy!
I always wanted to be short in HS, like
most of our little cheerleaders were. Now I see my height as an advantage, and i have to admit that even my freakishly long arms do come in handy. Funny how priorities change ...
No recipes here, just wanted to say...
 Glad you're gettin' in the spirit and feeling better!
I wanted to get antlers, but the only ones
I could find around the stores here were the small ones and I needed the bigger ones. I will look for them for him next year. How old is your boy?
Maybe if you wanted it to grow sm
I'll fight Hayseed over it any day. LOL.
I just wanted to say I feel bad for you.
I cant really judge what is going on b/c all situations are different, but the ladies below have given good advice and I think you should get important papers together and in a safe deposit box and open your own account. It cant hurt and you will feel empowered by being proactive instead of reactive. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon. Do what is best for you and your kids, not just what is easiest and makes the least waves. I did that for years and it only escalated.
Hugs.
My husband had always wanted...
to fly an airplane, so 1 year I bought him an hour's worth of flight time with an instructor. He loved it. I'm not sure how much you are willing to spend, but that hour cost me about $100.
If he enjoys food, does he like to cook? Sometimes local shops offer cooking classes. If he likes music, would he appreciate an IPod or something like it? Or a Bose radio (might be too expensive)?
Just throwing some thoughts out there. I have times when I have absolutely no idea what to get my husband, too, and then sometimes I get an inspiration.
Just wanted to thank you for your help yesterday. SM
It honestly has helped. When you said don't think of the whole amount to start with, and losing a little is more than gaining has really helped. All the comments I received were so nice and so many people can identify with this problem. So far I am doing good. Wish me luck and thanks again!
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