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No ruffling here, just a confused person

Posted By: Speech editor on 2007-09-17
In Reply to: did not mean to ruffle your feathers...sm - about..........absolutely love it!!!...sm msg

So I think I am understanding, you are saying this belongs on another board instead of here. If that is why, don't mind. I just knew was something seen discussed all over the place, maybe just not on gab, got it now. Guess Hubba started here.


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    I am sad and confused
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    sad and confused
    I have not been through that situation but can honestly say I know of moms who have had ultrasounds showing one thing or another and in the end, the baby came out fine. One of my friend's was even told her baby had Down Syndrome, but the child was born healthy! I would try not to worry too much and wait until you see the genetics doctor or have another ultrasound.
    I'm a little confused.....
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    sorry, I confused the two
    nm
    I'm a little confused...sm
    As to who the dog actually belongs to and who is responsible for the dog's care. I say that because you wrote: *I had sorta adopted the dog....no place to keep a dog around here.*

    So, I guess my question is this - do they see it as your dog too and they just agreed to keep it at their house, or is it their dog as far as you're concerned, and you were just willing to help out initially? (Which is what it sounds like, but maybe your friend sees it the other way.)

    At any rate, now you're starting to resent it and it's affecting your friendship. So I think it's time for a heart-to-heart talk with your friend about what you are and aren't willing to do for the dog (and who the dog belongs to, and does the dog need to find a new home). I'd try to leave the son and his drug problem entirely out of the discussion. I think that's a whole other can of worms.

    Also, are you sure it wouldn't work for you to have the dog? Our Rottweilers have all been sweet, gentle creatures (despite what you see in the media all the time) who have been indoor dogs who were fine with small animals. OTOH, they are big, strong dogs and need a firm owner. They can certainly be too much for some people, so I don't want to sugarcoat it.

    It depends on the dog of course, but a lot of Rotties and other big dogs are pretty low energy and do fine in a small home/yard (as long as they get enough attention and exercise). Just a thought.

    Personally, I'd want to extricate myself from this 'drama' and just take the dog. (Though I'm a Siberian Husky person - the Rotties are my hubby's love.)
    To confused
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    More confused
    Well I have to admit I had to look up the word disinfranchised. I've heard it but never new what it meant. So what do you think I found as the meaning of Disinfranchised? It means To disinfranchise. HA HA HA. Needless to say I had to keep searching and I'm finding meanings all relating to the revocation of the right of suffrage (the right to vote). So unsure how this fits to me because I can vote if I want to. My main point is that you can't trust what comes through the tube each day. Just when I said I was going to "curb" my tube input I sat and watched the debates and screamed at the TV, then screamed at all the news people. Then I heard a little voice in my head say... "you've got to get your priorities straight". HA HA. So I learn to take everything with a grain of salt. I still probably will not vote (even though I can if I want to), but if there is a replay of the NH primaries why bother. Thanks for the new word though for me to learn. It went right along with my word I had to look up when I wrote my friend and told her I would give her my "pithy" comments. HA HA HA
    I'm confused too, but have never seen so many
    xxx
    Well, I got confused. Sorry.
    nn
    I think you have me confused with someone else...

    Calling ME a religous nutcase?  I'm not even religous!  Hence why I think these sickos need to be prosecuted for what they are doing under the guise of religion.


    And why on earth would I want Harry Potter banned?  I love those movies! 


     


    I'm confused --

    Let me see if I got this straight - You're married, the guy you've been seeing is married and has a girlfriend in addition to you.  Woe is your husband and his wife!


    I'm confused on whether or not

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    I'm confused. If they....
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    "Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (Hebrews 4:16)

    "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:28)

    "Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." (Psalm 55:22)

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    "Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord." (Acts 3:19)

    "I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted." (Isaiah 43:25-26)

    "There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus ..." (Romans 8:1)

    "Come now and let us reason together," says the Lord,
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    "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away, behold, all things have become new." (2 Corinthians 5:17)

    "In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace." (Ephesians 1:7)
    Jan, why are you so confused?
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    I was confused because SIL can also
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    And exactly, your SIL IS a legal heir from her father-in-law through her marriage to your brother.

    You should try to find them and give half of it = $ 350.000.-- to your SIL and your nephew.

    Maybe this will turn his life around. Put him into a rehabilitation clinic!

    Then you will have peace of mind and will sleep better.

    How did your niece die? So sad.


    Confused?
    QUOTE FROM ORIGINAL POST:

    ...when I hear someone talking and their use of a word is completely wrong AND THIS MORNING in a subtle way did a correction.


    Okay, JMT...make up your mind. Did it happen this morning as you originally indicated, or did it happen two years ago as you later indicated in an attempt to defend not asking about the woman's aunt?

    Enquiring minds want to know....
    Oh, really confused, thought they were 1
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    To confused wife...

    It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT.  The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS.  It probably will not matter what you change about you to him.  If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.


    Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't.  Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.


    And your child is being hurt by these outbursts.  She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time.  In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.


    You all need help, even the child.  Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help.  Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right.  Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate.  Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...


    confused wife
    It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
    I'm confused. Who is the father?
    x
    they must have been confused and thought
    because stimulus checks didn't start going out until Monday:


    http://www.irs.gov/irs/article/0,,id=180250,00.html

    OMG - My apologies. I am sorry....I do have you confused....
    I am so so sorry. I DO need to be more careful with my posts. I thought you were the one saying that the children should not be reuinited with their family. I guess I was just stunned that someone thought that way and all I could think of was what if the shoe was on the other foot. How would they like if their child was grabbed up from them without solid evidence and not be told why. From now on I will be more careful and make sure I don't post anything to the wrong person. Again I am sorry. I am not a religous person and I have been judged too many times by my "religious" family members (some of who believe the Harry Potter books be burned). I love the Harry Potter movies too and it takes me away from reality for a short time. Again - I am truly sorry. I
    Sorry got a bit confused there, not a watcher -sm
    of How I met your Mother.
    I thought it was the aunt. I'm confused now.
    What did the grandmother do?
    Apparently so many confused on this issue!!
    His aunt, who died, knew him by this name. His brother does not respect his new name and has been asked to call him this PRIOR TO ANY FUNERAL. Friend apparently does not think silly after having asked before to be called that - numerous times, not just now. Most women when they marry have a name change- would most of them want to go by their old names? Most, underline that- so it is not taken out of text, would want to have their new name. Why is it different for a man?? His family comes around his new stepdaughter and son-in-law and calls him by his old name which they stepdauhter and SIL DO not know him by. Those are his wishes and here in America, I think most of us want our wishes to be observed. Oh about who cares- he does.
    No doubt you're confused! I don't know what's

    going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.


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    I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking.  It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type.  So I stopped taking it.  I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.)  A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.


    As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well.  I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.


    Thanks so much for your post and your input.  I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get. 


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    My downies vary a lot in size, which confused

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    I have at least 3 red-breasted nuthatches this year.  I just looked out and there were 2 on the tree eating suet and one on the wire watching the other two.  They are so cute. 


    It probably varies from person to person (sm)

    With me, first child I was out of the bed seriously within 5 minutes of having him.  I didn't tear or have to be cut, he was 7 pounds, 3 ounces.  The doctor did some type of vaginal massage on me though while I was in labor and that was supposed to help loosen the vaginal wall?


    Second child, same experience.  She was 8 pounds, 1 ounce and within 5 minutes of having her, while they took her to the nursery to get cleaned up and all, I walked downstairs with my husband to the cafeteria to get a drink and stretch my legs.  I had already put my regular clothes back on as well.  My doctor who delivered her was walking in my room as I was walking in and he was stunned a second and said he thought I was a visitor, LOL, not the patient.


    I don't think you have to have bed rest in normal cases.  With my son I went home within 24 hours with him and with my daughter we went home in only 20 hours.


    No, I am not that person...sm
    Nor am I trying to be ugly...I think YOU come first in this situation.  If not, you'll get in deep trouble with your health, then what? Your family needs you...take care of yourself, and make your husband pitch in...that's all I'm sayin'
    Who is this person?
    I have no clue who this person is. 
    I saw a person having 1 of those 1 day
    and they could do like all the other people around, just ignored it. I was in a public building, guy down and frothing at the mouth, not a good scene but totally ignored.
    What do you think causes a person to be --sm
    unable to show feelings/compassion for anyone else?  I have a friend?? who shows no emotion at all.  Says it is the way she was brought up and her family are not talkers.  I shared some devastating news about my son with her last night and she has shown more sympathy to her dog after it was spayed than she did to me.  Just do not understand how someone can see a person as broken as I was last night and offer absolutely no comfort.
    I think that person needs more than just a
    xx
    Perhaps you could help me tell if this person is just like you or not?
    If not that is fine, but you could probably use your "talent" to help others, like a PI or something.
    Are you the same person who

    posted a month or so ago having sent an e-mail to your husband's family regarding your husband's brother who is in jail and the father's apparent favortism?   Just curious if this is the same family we are talking about.  I remember that husband was bipolar and alcoholic.


    I don't know the legalities of the situation but you might have to go through the garbage of calling the police, the dramatics and the ER one last and final time.  But then be done with it.  He's not choosing to get better and you can't make him.  Change the locks. 


    Be strong.  Hugs to you.   


     


    Mom of 3 you are one nasty person...
    I hope your children dont take after you. Teaching them responsibility is one thing but pure nastiness is another.....
    What a Wonderful Person
    I wish I knew more people like you. It's too bad that some people are like this, but unfortunately the world is so much different thatit used to be. Keep doing what makes you happy.
    The person who last had our number...sm
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    how condescending can a person be?

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    The next time you think having extra weight is a choice, let me invite you to pay the $600/month I pay for medicines to control my GI tract issues. 


    I usually tip 15% because I also tip the shampoo person.,,,,
    But if the hairdresser does it all, including the shampoo, etc., I tip closer to 20%.
    I would say either try a contact person where the
    contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state.  Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare.  I would look in the phonebook under government agencies.  I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction.  I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover.  I am not sure if this is state-by-state though.  Hope this helps.  Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance. 
    To The Person Who E-mailed Me

    The calling card is yours if you want, but I didn't receive a reply address; the "From" field was blank for some reason.  If you could resend, that would be great! 


    I think it depends on the person....
    xx
    It seems to me the person should be talking
    to the person they are having dinner with and not someone on a phone. And as posted below, they usually have to talk rather loud and I do find that annoying.
    To the person who e-mailed me...
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    Thanks again for the warning! Hope your cat is doing better now.
    Take it seriously and report to the person
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    U must be a wonderful person....
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    This person is not a friend

    You could use all kinds of psychological terms like "codependent" and "enabling" but the fact is, she is a mooch and you are a sucker.


    Harsh, I know, because you were trying to be nice and help someone. But there are some people you just can't be "nice" to. They will walk all over you. Obviously, she is one of those people.


    If you're angry at anyone, you should be angry at yourself for taking so long to figure this out.


    But that would be a waste of time. Chalk it up to experience and move on. Cut your ties with this person as much as possible, and if on occasion you have to see her for whatever reason, practice saying "No. No. NO."