No they don't and you somehow need to make it stop
Posted By: sm on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Husband can't hug - ever - without it being...(sm) - Sad MT
because this is very degrading to you? Has he always been like this? There have to be some 'safe' things he does to show his love/affection, etc., that don't make you feel like the next step is directly to the bedroom....!!!
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Somehow you have to make him stop, for your daughter
My stepdad used to pull the same stunts when I had friends over (he was an alcoholic). It got to the point where my friends' parents would no longer allow them to come to my house. I also got teased at school something fierce because of his behavior. It got to the point where I would not allow anyone to come to the house - still don't take boyfriends home to meet the family! -which meant I was constantly out of the house and spent less time at home with my mother. I'm sure you don't want that to happen with your daughter, so somehow this behavior has to stop.
Anyone have ideas on how to make eye stop
twitching? My eye has been twitching, the lower lid, for the past few weeks and it is driving me absolutely crazy!!! I've been having problems with my eye, macular edema, been to a retina specialist, eye doc. The edema has cleared up, but now it has been twitching. It is absolutely maddening and it is visible when you look at my face. Eye doc says it's from stress and anxiety, caffeine, lack of sleep and didn't seem too concerned. Has anyone had this problem and how did you fix it?? 
Stop talking and make some actions...nm
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Stop! Stop! Memories
Keypunch machines. That's why my hearing is a bit off now. LOL
First personal computer and printer: An Epson and continuous paper printer with DOS operating system. Cost: $3500.
I still have my mood rings and my torquoise jewelry but lost my class ring in the grocery store.It was expensive, $50, black onxy stone and gold band.
Snowstorms that shut the towns down for days on end. Couldn't get out to go to work unless you worked close to home and could walk. Schools never shut down. Five of us walked a mile a day to school with snow up to our hips. Our lessons for the day? Study hall.
My first car was a ི Chevy coupe. Gas was $.27 a gallon and I chauffered 5 friends to and from school for $.25 a week. On Friday and Sat. nights there was a dance with a group that became 'almost famous.' They got as far as the Steel Pier in Atlantic City dance club. It was a big deal to be on TV in those days. On those nights, I would go to the next town and pick up anybody hitch hiking to the dance. (I wasn't allowed to go to the dances). I wired the car with an older portable record player that only played 45s and kept my records under the seat.Worked great except when I would hit a bump. LOL
Bandstand every day from 3:30 to 5:00 EST.
Sleigh riding in the winter on our Flexible Flyer. We did it on steep coal banks. Much better thrill. Then we found out cardboard worked even better. No getting stuck halfway down the bank because the sleigh rails would hit a larger piece of coal sticking up.
Hide-and-seek when it got dark. I missed the pole and hit face first. What a bloody mess, but you didn't run to the ER for it.
Throwing corn at the nasty neighbor's house at Halloween. He called the cops. We ran and hid. I was caught. Where was I hiding? In the neighbor's garbage pile. Today garbage piles are called compost piles.
At that rate, I could make in a week what I make
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yep, so will probably have to stop
reading the posts and get some work done. LOL.
stop it
Stop sitting back waiting for him to do something - it seems like you have to have his approval for everything - even to be upset - Stop waiting for him to change because he probably won't. Some people have suggested that he is abusive - I'm not sure about that because it seems like you ASK for something, he says no and that is the end of it. . STOP ASKING. She's your sister - for most people, this would not be a big deal. . For once, just tell him she is coming and you will be spending time with her. . Maybe his reaction won't be that bad, and if it is, so what?? Are you afraid of him?
STOP IT
quit putting yourself down - Your child will never hate you - your husband will not hate you - You have done nothing wrong.. SOME people today do put too much emphasis on material things -but you know as well as I do that material things are not that important. . Your heart is what is important. . Love your child and husband and continue being the good person you are - Do you think those people are better than you because they have a lot of land? No - they may have more money but they are no better - and from the way they treat other people - it sounds like they are not as good as you. . And the gifts you gave the child were fine - people would be a lot better off playing board games with their kids than letting them play video games all the time.
Stop yelling.
Just because your dog is your best friends, doesn't mean you should bring it everywhere you go. Wow. Try breathing deep and relaxing. I said I don't normally care, but if I had a slipper dog, I wouldn't bring it where it doesn't belong personally.
LOL, me too, also that gum would all congeal and stop you up.
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tell her if she does not stop running she will not sm
get to go with you anymore. Find someone to watch her and stick to your guns. kids need and want consistency. Make it stick.
Trying to stop smoking
I haven't smoked today! I am trying to quit. Have tried several times before, but this time I have to do it! 
Stop beating yourself up....
I have been following since your first post. You asked for opinions, which you got, and you also got a lot more. I wish mothers were more supportive of each other. We truely have the hardest job in the world and I think we have all made choices that we have second guessed or I know other mothers would not have made.
When I was 13 (I am now 40) and in junior high I was "paddeled" while wearing a cheerleading skirt. I was simply in the wrong place at the wrong time and was gathered up with several other students (who really weren't doing anything wrong) and we were all paddeled. I said something to my parents about the fact that I had a couple of welts on my thighs and they told me that was my fault since I obviously did something wrong in order to get paddeled. I got an apology from the vice principal so evidentally my parents realized they needed to stand up for me. My parents now sing a totally different tune. I have wonderful parents (father and step-moter)now, they just made some, in my opinion, wrong decisions when I was younger. They now talk about how they wish they had parented me differently. I am not saying you made the wrong decision...we don't have paddeling in our school system so I don't know whatI would do. Now just move on, it is over with, can't change it, and I can honestly say the paddeling had no lasting affect on me.
Then she should stop going out if she knows the commotion she causes
I realize that the press and photographers should leave her alone. God only knows I'd have a nervous breakdown if I ever had to endure her life, but under the circumstances, if I was just released from the hospital and had psychiatric problems, I would go home and try to keep a low profile for a while to try to heal and try to put her life back in order. It seems like the minute she got out of the hospital, there was was driving all over LA going here and there (or wherever she is in CA with yet another man). Stay home and you won't be followed. Some one on one of the talk shows said she brings a lot of this on herself, and I agree. Someone also said she should just get away out of the country to some little part of the world where she can be secluded and where not many people know her (although I think it would be hard to find a place like that).
If you don't stop crying, I am just going to
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STOP!!!! BETTER TAKE A CLOSER LOOK
This is what I found when researching this:
Just Wondering asked the question; Do the Heat Surge Fireless Flame heaters that the Amish sell really work?
It is being advertised in the local paper (The Herald-Dispatch,Huntingto n , WV ). That it is a Miracle Heater. Saves Money: uses less energy than a coffee maker. Stay really warm and slash your heating bill all at the same time. It uses 1500 watts. It is 5119 btu. My question is. Is this really a Miracle Heater? Should I buy one for every room in my house and turn off the heat pump?
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The ads (which are all over the country) are very misleading.
1. A coffee maker uses a large amount of electricity for about a minute. It's true that the so-called "miracle" heater uses less electricity than a coffee maker DURING THAT ONE MINUTE. But you're going to have the heater running for a lot longer than one minute a day. So it's going to cost you a lot more to operate than a coffee maker does.
The heater will cost you around 12 cents per hour to operate. The average cost of electricity in the U.S. is 8 cents per 1,000 watts per hour, so 1,500 watts costs 12 cents per hour on average. This is true for ANY 1,500 watt electric heater.
2. The ads say that the heater produces an "amazing" 5,119 BTU (a measure of heat energy), but ALL 1,500 watt electric heaters produce 5,119 BTU. If an electric heater was 100% efficient, it would convert 1,500 watts of electricity into 5,120 BTU of heat. All electric heaters are nearly 100% efficient, and this has been true for decades. The "miracle" heater is no more efficient than any other electric heater.
3. The website of the heater's manufacturer (Heat Surge, a company in Ohio that has nothing to do with the Amish) is much more honest than the ads. It states clearly that the way the heater saves you money is if you turn off your central heat, buy one heater, use it to heat one room at a time, and move the heater from room to room as you move around. This is called "zone heating." See the Saves Money section of the website (www.heatsurge.com).
This is true, but it's also true for ANY electric heater. The problem is that a lot of people don't like to have just one room of their house warm while all the others are cold.
You DON'T want to heat your entire house by putting an electric heater in each room. That would cost you far more than central heat. Gas central heat, for example, would cost around half as much as having an electric heater in each room. (The exact amount varies depending on what part of the country you live in.)
If you want to get one heater and move it around with you, that would be cheaper than central heat, but you can get a lightweight 1,500 watt / 5,119 BTU electric heater with a fan for under $100 at your local hardware store, while the "miracle" heater costs $350 including shipping. The heater at your local hardware store won't have the Amish-made mantle and the fake flames, but it will work just as well. Make sure to get one with a fan, since it will warm up the room faster, although fans can be noisy.
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I just wish they would stop saying a "man" sm
was pregnant. I mean, come on, the person was born a woman and female internal organs or else this wouldn't be possible. If they did a DNA test, it would show XX not XY. To me, this is no different than lesbian couples doing artificial insemination or IVF. It's only getting publicity because one of them has had surgery to appear male and lives as a male.
Got hit from behind at a stop sign
Got out of the car and went back to see that the car that hit me had lo more damage than mine. Went up to the car and nobody would roll down a window, three guys all on their cellphones (at that time anyway) so I stood there, got out my cellphone and called the police. Tapped on the window then and found out none of them spoke English. Told them in English not to move. The police came and went back to them, came to my car and said they were all illegal immigrants, was not their car, driver didn't even have a license and was driving a "friend's car." AND of course, no insurance. His pen was flying as he was writing up those tickets in his car and as I pulled out I saw squad cars surrounding the car and I bet INH was on their way too. Didn't feel one bit bad but sure would have if I had damage to my car.
may stop a slimeball
When I was single (before the invention of the cell phone) someone followed me home to my apartment. I stayed in my locked car. He pulled up next to me and started honking like he was waiting on someone to come out. Well, I knew for a fact, none of my neighbors would tolerate being "fetched" by a honking horn, so I stayed put.....for about a half hour. He never got out and drove off. I went into my apartment safe and sound.
I love locked cars.
I can't stop laughing....
Do you have any idea how much you will be paying in taxes if tobacco and alcohol are made illegal? Who do you think pays for the sin tax - the users of alcohol and tobacco. If they want to abuse it, fine by me as it does not affect me. Once it is made illegal, it affects me big time with taxes.
Sorry, but I think I am going to stop watching this
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Okay, you guys have got to stop - sm
Posting these delicious-sounding recipes! I want to try them all, but I also want to be able to fit into my chair. 
As soon as you stop enabling them - sm
They will figure out they need to do things on their own like the rest of society does. You are NOT helping them by giving in. What you are teaching them is if they press somebody hard enough and wear them down, they will eventually roll over.
When did you stop believing is Santa?
When did you stop believing is Santa?
If you have kids old enough, when did they stop believing?
How did you/your kids find out?
How did you/they react to the truth?
If kids don't find out on their own, what age do you think they should be told?
vaccine doesn't stop one from getting pox.......sm
as I know it, vaccines don't stop you from getting a disease - vaccines help in that you get a milder case of it, and in this case, chickenpox......
Hey Regina. STOP EMAILING ME.
Geez.
I would stop sleeping in the same bed/room as him
Tell him that you can't stand the stench because it can't be good. Not taking care of/repairing your teeth is as bad as not taking a shower/practicing basic good hygeine. It's pretty gross.
It won't stop legitimate breeders, who will - sm
pay for a license. But hopefully it'll help to shut down lots of the irresponsible backyard breeders, puppy & kitten mills.
Husband should have put a stop to this years ago.
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Mare stare has a whole boatload of farms that offer live cams in easy to navigate list format. Usually in the spring these cams are trained in on mares who are about to give birth--which is incredibly cool (and sometimes scary!) to watch.
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Oh stop that!! We'll have none of that here Missy!
I'll have to stop in and say Hi next time
we go up there. LOL. Yes, lots to do too. What part of the NJ shore?
I also love the ocean but do not get to go there much. Just too much traffic for me to handle. I like Point Pleasant. That is about 1-1/2 to 2 hour drive, depending on that darn traffic on the lovely Garden State Parkway. Love Cape May too but way too far.
I have not read but others wrote yet but you just need to stop - sm
you have done all you can do and have bent over backwards to help. Your guilt will be your downfall. I don't know how to tell you to stop feeling guilty, but you really have nothing to feel guilty about. You have done way too much for her and she has just taken advantage. She is 19 more than old enough to take care of herself. She wants to be homeless and can adapt as you say to any situation, then let her. I would just tell her the gravy train stops now and she has to learn how to take care of herself. Get some names of some shelters to give her, the YWCA, etc. and if she really wants to help herself she can start there but she is going to have to do it on her own now. If the worsed happens you know you have done all that one person can possibly do; but if she does not want to help herself (and it is obvious she does not) then there really is nothing you or anyone else can do. You need to steel yourself not to give in and basically cut off all contact until she proves w/o a doubt that she has cleaned up her act which will take at least 6 months if not more I would think. If you don't have caller ID then get it, otherwise let your answering machine answer all calls and just don't take hers or return her calls either. Good luck.
I have things to do and they don’t stop at sundown
I live really close to a city of 5 million. I bought a ticket to see Johnny Mathis (husband working) for Friday night. I went, had a wonderful time and not worried about driving home. I am in my 60s and I have other places to go that I would hate to be tied to not being able to go. My husband keeps me a really good car that I have the knowledge should something happen before 50 thousand miles, they come to me so I feel very safe. I do not go to strange places of a night though, most places very familiar with.
you need to stop asking him, and start telling him.
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Isnt this when you stop going to McDonalds?
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Stop with the expensive gifts.
Do gift cards and such, but don't knock yourself out.
JJ says stop and smell the roses...sm
and congrats to his "cousin" for the win!
Count your blessings and stop...
the complaining. Like previous posts have stated, at least your daughter calls you. You should be glad to have a daughter who thinks enough of you to call you and cares enough to ask if you are upset. It may annoy you now, but what will you do when she stops or isn't there to call any more?
Yes, you can "take care of you" and let this be "your time," but your kids will always be your kids. You can take care of you and still have time to pick up the phone or return a phone call.
My father used to tell the same stories over and over again. Did I always like hearing the same stories? Of course not. But you know what.....I've give anything to hear one of those stories from my dad's lips again but I can't because he passed away last year. The things that annoy us today may be the very thing that we miss later. We just don't stop and take the time to be thankful for what we do have.
Be thankful that you have money and are content with your life. Be thankful that your daughter still cares enough to call. When you count your blessings and focus on the good things, petty things like this won't get you so upset.
Please stop spreading rumors
Imagine that you have pancreatic cancer. Imagine that you are hopeful you will beat it because you were fortunate enough to have it detected early. Imagine that you're undergoing chemotherapy, radiation therapy and any other holostic therapy you can find to battle for your life. Then imagine seeing your face plastered on some gossip magazine with the heading "your name Only Has 5 Weeks to Live" What do you think that would do to your will to fight?
Then imagine your spouse's face as he/she reads it. Then imagine your kids when they come home from school to tell you that so-and-so just told them that you're going to die in 5 weeks, is that true?
Now instead of using your energy to fight your battle with this ugly disease, you are spending it to console your spouse and children. I'm guessing next week the gossip columns will show him in a casket. Will you spread that rumor? Where's your compassion?
I cannot stop laughing! You mean you actually expect me to SM
keep the SAME PICTURE??? LOL! At least if I endure this today I have a slight CHANCE of a better one!! 
I live in PA. . . not sure of my options, but I'm headin' for the mirror right now to FIX STUFF!!! 
Stop judging people who you do not know
Four-way stop sign - what is the rule? sm
Every day when I take my son to school I have to stop at a 4-way stop....some days when in my opinion it is my turn, someone pulls out in front of me! It drives me crazy!! What is the rule? I should probably know this but I don't! Thanks
what snack can you not stop eating?
I like snacking but these animal crackers from wal-mart i can NEVER stop snacking on... The only reason I keep buying them is cause they are low in fat and I would be snacking probably on chips or something worse for me if I didn't have them!!
They are what i snack on late night too!
I have stuff like granola bars and I like peanut butter on rice cakes... but i mean i just keep digging handfuls and handfuls of these little critters out. They are delicious! And I'm bored...
When do you stop inviting family over to sm
celebrate your kids' birthdays? my mom-in-law says 12 y/o is a good time to stop throwing them a party. i'm not talking huge parties. right now my kids are 10 and one is going to be 7 in three weeks. i normally invite my parents, in-laws, sis-in-law and her family (which is 4) and a couple of friends for my birthday son. i just can't imagine not having anything for my boys when they have a b-day. i think my parents would always want to come to a birthday celebration. afterall, when my parents or in-laws have a b-day, we make a big deal out of it, buy a cake, get them presents.
i don't know, maybe i'm taking it the wrong way. i told my husband, we just won't invite them if she thinks 12 is when you stop. 
curious as to what you all do.
thanks
I would definitely stop this expensive gifts, but
I think that your son/daughter is either spoiled or maybe really depressed.
I would try to get closer to him/her and 'shake' him/her up to get out of this lethargy.
You did not explain much how your relationship with your son/daughter is in general?
If he/she is maried, children, etc....
talk about not knowing when to stop...
maybe someone should unplug your keyboard for today.
re: your first post before things got worse:
quote - If you knew about the possibility of having dementia in your mother and possibly subjecting you to same, why in the world would you ever think about having another child and running the risk of the child not having a mother by the time they are a young teen? That is sad in the fact of you writing a note just in case you are not in a mental state as she ages so she could understand. How old was your mother when she had to be put in a facility? unquote
First the writing the note part was a joke -sort of- and was written with tongue firmly planted in cheek. That this went over your head is sad. Secondly, it was not my pregnancy, it was unplanned, the child has already lost her birth mother, hence being my change of life child as I was not willing to lose the child to stranger adoption and I changed my life for a child I did not give birth to. Still standing by your original post?
Lastly, the child is almost 6 years and my mother went from independent living and driving to being institutionalized in less than 6 months, with her admission to a facility Oct 2008 (8 months ago)...meaning the child was already older than the age of 4 years and in my care before my mother's decline. My mother is 78. Am I still unqualified to be this child's mother? Should I have tied my tubes before having my two older children because my grandmother had dementia? Should my mother have tied hers and ergo avoided my birth? By the way, the child is able to understand much more than most (meaning you) about what happens to many elderly people by having watched the process and knowing the person my mom was before the dementia was so severe. How's that original post tasting about now? Welcome to the world of the sandwich generation. Oh yes lest I forget to say later, thanks for your support.
Sometimes it is better to be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
Stop living in your little bubble world....
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Oh stop it! You guys are makin' me salivate!
Fridge is empty except for condiments and I can't leave until tomorrow morning to go shoppin'. Hmmm....I wonder....do you think I could take a "biopsy" from my pet pig Ellie here (pictured with me) and then suture her up and have it grow in?
Oh now that is just nasty but oh I do love ham---especially the way the poster suggested with pineapple, cherries, brown sugar and cloves! Oh it just smells and tastes like heaven!
"Oh Ellie Bellie, come see memma for just a second..." 
Totally ridiculous, now everyone should stop buying it.......
don't ya think? But they won't. Never believed in it anyway. The real SECRET is those people are getting mega-rich!
Good, does that mean I can stop paying taxes? - nm
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