Oh, it's not a matter of wanting to pick and choose the data I "like" - if I want (sm)
Posted By: ChuckM on 2009-03-29
In Reply to: Statistics - sm - TechSupport
to see that being done I need only drop down one forum in the list. ;-) Plenty of opportunities to fill that void there, if one chooses to.
No, I'm just not blindly accepting of whatever is proffered as valid data, and must -- as should we all -- consider the possible bias of those presenting same.
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HMR is better - and you can pick and choose
My mother got NutriSystem and most of the meals are unpalatable and I can eat about anything (some were okay). HMR is actually good. Difference is breakfast consists of shakes/cereal.
I have been wanting to do this, but may I ask...sm
Is the measurment taken over your existing bra or other clothing? Being shy, not sure I could go through with it otherwise. It seems like a really good idea, though.
Should have been NOT wanting to work
NM
I have been wanting to try nutrisystem
and like you said it seems to be a no brainer but I was afraid of the expense and someone told me that the food was horrible. Is this true?
I understand you not wanting
to make excuses for his bad behavior...BUT, think of what message that would be sending to the daughter. It would be saying, you don't matter all that much around here. We don't respect you or any of your friends. Would you then expect her to have respect for others? The husband is an adult and should know how to conduct himself properly, if not, learn. I would have pulled out my own money and said, "Buy her what she would like to drink" and then I would have layed into him when the friend was gone. No, I wouldn't let him pull that cr*p around me again and treat my son or daughter with such disregard.
I can't imagine anyone wanting
to be contacted by you.
Wanting to invest but what to do
I would like to get input from others who have money in stocks, bonds and such. have some money that I would like to invest. I would like to find something that is not in any way financially unsound. I know I could put in the bank in a CD but do not think I would make as much on it if I used in other ways. Does anyone have any savings that are more or less safe proof and can you tell me what kind of investing you do. Thanks.
i concur, as far as you said as wanting her as my own doc; however,
I think with all the medical information we are bombarded with everynight on the evening and morning news, she is definitely one to listen to with at least one ear.
I think you are an inspiration for wanting to do this....sm
 I guess a lot of us can relate; I have 2 or 3 people from my past that have moved far away and I have no way of finding them right now, but please believe me, I truly want to do the same thing, go to them and make peace, to say be able to forgive each other and leave things on good terms. Regrets and guilts can slowly eat away, and it is good for your own personal health to do this, you must feel so much better. WE all mess up, we all need forgiveness now and then, or to grant forgiveness. You are a lovely person with integrity, honor, and caring to do this, such a lovely post to read!!!
I've been wanting one of those every since they came out.(nm)
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we almost never eat out. re not wanting to cook,
when i just don't feel like or don't have time to cook, we have something quick, ie soup or sandwich or breakfast, ie eggs or waffles.
Wanting a vacation now
My husband never wanted to go on any vacations. So, when the kids were young, my kids and I went on a vacation every year. We either drove or one time took the train to the Grand Canyon from Chicago. Not once did my husband go with us. We went twice to Disney and had such a wonderful time. My kids are now grown, and I really miss those vacations. My husband missed out a lot.
Of course they choose the most vulnerable--sm
women to prey on. If they chose a stronger woman, their controlling ways would not work. My ex did the same thing regarding the counselor. He went to two visits, said the counselor was a quack, and he would not go back. Anything that was ruined or destroyed during his anger fits were my things...never his.
as far as leaving...I had three kids to take care of, and survival was an issue for me too, but it can be done. Please do not just stick around because you fear not being able to take care of yourself and your kids. You are basically doing that now and you would have less stress to deal with. My kids were small too, two in school and one not. I HAD to do it, or I would be dead today. My ex husband never changed his ways...never. He took his own life when he could not control his last wife the way he controlled the others. I would never say this to my kids, as they were devastated when he took his own life, but between you, me, and the fencepost (Lord forgive me), I feel he was a coward. Rather than change his ways to make HIMSELF happy, he chose to end his *suffering*, with no regard to who he left behind to deal with their own suffering. It is hard. It is a big step to leave, but it gets better with time. Trust me on that. I make good money now and take care of ONLY me. My kids are grown and on their own, all with anger issues of their own, and I worry about that. But please, please, don't stay where you are just because you fear not being able to take care of yourself. God provides. Just ask. and that is the truth. good luck to you. If you wish to email me, you can. God Bless you and yours. May he give you strength and peace. You deserve nothing less.
We do have a choice. We can choose to keep our
undies on and not engage in sex or we can choose some form of birth control (albeit it fails from time to time). 
CHOOSE not to take it so personally
The key word here is "elderly" - remember she is the one with the ailment - and she's not THINKING this might hurt Kimmie's feelings. She's frustrated with the problem and the fact that what you got didnot work for her - and she's probably being considerate in paying you.
Have you considered that you may be looking for reasons to be offended?
You can CHOOSE to see this whatever way you want. If you feel real hurt was intended then you deal with that directly: Aunt ___ I felt a bit hurt by your response to ____.
COMMUNICATION is a great thing when we do it - and it always takes at least two.
Good luck! P.S. what was the stuff you got her? I might be able to use it!! :)
Whatever it is you choose to wear...
just make sure it compliments the bridal party's ensemble.
It doesn't necessarily have to be a solid color, but if you choose a dress with floral patterns, make sure it doesn't clash too much with the MOB or the rest of the bridal party.
Go here (but in case it does not show) Smarter.com and search mother of the groom dress. It will give you several online stores. At least you can get an idea of what you might want.
http://www.smarter.com/---se--qq-mother%2Bof%2Bthe%2Bgroom%2Bdress.html
We have 9 to choose from, not including
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P.S. as you are divorced, it is YOU who can choose
with whom of your in-laws your children have contact.
Let me tell you what is up with not wanting to see that long lost
A lot of times people feel maybe someone will take their place. I am so thankful I had a stepmom that I truly loved and got along with. I would think most of the time just the opposite. Having said that, the spouse comes FIRST regardless of a long lost child wanting to come into a persons life that they may not be welcomed in the first place. If I had any inkling that someone did not want to see/know me, I would NEVER think another thought about them.
There is a difference in not wanting to be in the limelight and
your spouse not knowing the details of your life. I don't particularly care about being in the limelight, either, but telling my spouse about my education (or anything else for that matter) is not the limelight. That's simply communication with the person who should be my best friend, my confidante, the one person I can always count on. I agree, your tax lady was wrong to imply that he was slow. I'm afraid if my husband hedged about something, it would throw a red flag for me and I've known him since 1977. He might not willingly tell everything that he did in his past, but where he went and how long he went to school is nothing to be secretive about. JMO.
Good job! For anyone still wanting to guess
I just learned today of the second, similar answer. So, keep trying if you like!
I don't blame you for not wanting a woman
I am a massage therapist (not practicing right now), and I know how it can affect guys (when doing normal professional work ... nothing funky). - I doubt your hubby would be too keen on a male working on him though. : )
Maybe you could do a bit of a strip tease for him or even just whisper in his ear about how hot he is.
I'm just doing a simple, sweet card and a $5.00 scratch-off lottery ticket with a big heart on it ... and probably a bit of hanky-panky. Not to promote drinking, but if you are a bit inhibited, you could drink just a bit to take the edge off (a shot or so). We seem to have extra fun when I do that.
I believe we are still free to choose our battles here.
Just because you are an all-or-nothing gal doesn't mean I have to be!
:)
I feel bad for you but did she choose DNR status?
My father died last year and he was a DNR and had a Living Will stating *no heroic measures* - at that point they oinly do *comfort care*.......
Very sorry for your experience!!!!! *gentle hug*
Choose the correct path
You are walking down a road and you encounter a fork in the road and you do not know the correct way to go. There are two men standing at the junction and both know the correct road. One man always lies, and the other man always tells the truth, but you do not know who is the liar and who is the one who tells the truth. You can only ask each man one question, but it must be the same question for both. What is the question that would allow you to get the information necessary to choose the correct path?
You are all so creative! I need help! I will choose the best answer sm
and so I hope you can help us!! My husband and I teach an adult Sunday School class married couples class. We need to come up with a catchy name to put in the bulletins, on-line, on the screen in the sanctuary to let others know about our class. We can't come up with anything! One couple suggested Married Rockstars! How hilarious is that? Of course, my husband and I don't look anything like rock stars. Couples of all ages and personality types come to the class. Can you think of anything?? It's been 2 weeks since we've been trying to come up with something! The ages range from 25-45 or so. Thank you so much!!!!!!!! 
If she wants to choose whether or not a baby results from sex
then she better choose to block that sperm from reaching the egg, because if it does, well then, a baby may very well result from sex. I mean, I understand when it's very, very early, but come on, abortion has really been taken way, way too far, to the point of murder of a full-fledged baby, and some people think, hey, that's okay, it's the mother's decision.
We all have a right to choose how we spend our time (sm)
If that makes you happy then fine. That would not make me happy. I am not "simpering" or helpless. Also not a slave.
I would choose the ISS because the paddling is ineffective.
If all the kids are choosing swatting, obviously, they see it as the lesser punishment. Your daughter is very concerned about school, and you described her as a type A personality. So now here's the opportunity to teach her to put things in perspective.
I think ISS is a more appropriate punishment. She was wasting class time by being late to class. I think 5 tardies is substantial. By age 14, she should be able to get herself to class on time and start building up some self-control when it comes to the chit-chat. So, since she wasted time, she should have to pay time back. That comes at the expense of the class she is so concerned about. A lower grade may indeed be the lesser consequence, but is she going to fail out of school and never get into college and end up homeless on the street because of the lower grade in one class at age 14? No. Certainly not!
As a parent, you need to look at things long-term, because kids can't. You also need to steel yourself for the major melt down she will probably have if you don't permit the swatting. This, I think, is the hardest part of the entire learning experience for most moms. Some moms fall all to pieces in these situations. And don't flame me, but from what I've observed, it seems to happen more with mothers and daughters, especially if there's an element of "everyone-else-is-doing-it".
So look down life's road for your daughter, get your nerve together, and tell her the ISS is the better choice. When she falls to pieces, don't play into it. In the end, it will be worth it. The ISS will be the deterrent that will work for your type A daughter in the future. The paddle can never have that sort of influence over her.
you can choose a realtor who uses/lists
with the MLS service. We've moved a lot and never would use a realtor who didn't.
We had luck too before listing in the LA Times or San Fran papers when we had a place in the country/mid USA..had a party fly out to see it, and paid cash. Appeal to what people are wanting, ie, escape the high crime, the crowded city, live surrounded by nature/georgeous trees...good luck!
Because I choose not too...I am not complaining, just said it would be easier.
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No, to date one can CHOOSE one's treatment.
nobody can force a treatment on you.
The mother has the son's trust, otherwise he would have stayed with the father.
Obviously the father wants to subject the son to this chemo, therefore mother & son ran away.
This boy is going through he** durin this chemo treatment and his mother looks for a less aggressive, accepteable one.
I hope they make it to Mexico...
Not wanting to stop for gas and then driving on fumes SM
in hopes of reaching the pumps in time! 
While you wait, not wanting to give meds, he is
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Sounds familiar with hubs not wanting any more
cats around. I had an older girl and hubs brought home 2 young guys (he thought when the older one died the 2 younger would take her place, not true of course but he thought that). The older girl died and before long I spoke with him about another kitty. I have loads of room, work is ideal for pets around, he travels so they are loads of company for me but he said absolutely not. Ok, my housekeeper called me 1 day, said kitty up a tree, she would be over when she got it down and I asked her to bring with her as she could not keep. Instant love, not only with me but hubs. I told him the cat had shown up at my house meowing and running from the dog. Well, that was true- she had shown up at the door and had been running from the dog, just not at my home. Gina, my kitty, is now his best friend, follows him around the home, comes for petting and stays in whichever room he is in. It is kitty love for him now.
Jon Bon Jovi or Richie Sambora, I don't know which I'd choose!
GORGEOUS!!!
You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make
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I guess the difference is people should choose what they want to do (sm)
I do like yard sales but would also like to buy some new things that we need. I think my whole issue is that people should have a choice in what they do and how they do them. No one else should be forcing upon you the way you have to do things. The fact that you enjoy those things is wonderful. If someone was trying to force you to do them even if you didn't want to, that is not so wonderful. For example, I love to cook and I decorate beautiful cakes for all occasions for my family. If I did not enjoy doing those things and someone kept trying to force me to do them, that would be wrong. Do you see the difference?
Don't let him choose. If you do the cooking, you plan the menu!
At my house, my kitchen is not a restaurant. You eat what I make or you fend for yourself. Now of course I know my family's likes and dislikes and I do take requests, but if you're going to turn you nose up at everything I suggest without offering anything up, you get what you get!
maybe should choose a grounding option other than a wedding.
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Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress
like a prostitute, or someone proud of their anus hairs - lol. I've obviously struck a nerve with you though... Don't worry, you'll grow out of it someday and realize you're worth more than that.
very common for anyone wanting a life, LOL! i have one and my DH is kinda jealous of me using it so
agree, sex toy parties are great fun and there are actually a lot of things for men there too for themselves or to use on you also. tell him he ought to be thankful it is a toy to enjoy and you are out playing the field, lol. but FYI, get a brief case and lock it up!!! i have had my kids find mine too and it was a double header so it was really, really embarrassing. DH bought it years ago and i only used one end but it was still great.
All this food had me wanting to share something quick for you for a spread. sm
A GREAT sandwich spread. I was at my local deli the other day and they were making ham and swiss sandwiches on whole grain with a sweet, perfectly tasting spread on it. I asked the lady behind the counter what that "spread" on the bread was and she said she just mixed honey mustard and mayo (equal amounts), stirred it up in a bowl, and spread it on the bread. I've been using that recipe all week. I immediately came home, made me a batch, stored it and now use it. My 5 year old son LOVES his sandwiches now. It's a different taste, a little sweet, and wonderful!
I am in total agreement. 13 years old and wanting to date - no way!!..
One of the problems is, as a previous poster write, is DRAMA. Some girls live for the DRAMA (i come from a family of six girls). These kids (but not all) want to and in some ways are forced to grow up too danged fast and it can lead to life-long problems if they do not have a strong mom/dad or just an extended strong family support system. The media has played and contuinues to play a role in the evolution of our teenagers as well (MTV, etc). That is why it is important to keep these kids busy and involved in activities because it is helpful,. JMO..
People don't choose their face...plus she's kind of pretty! sm
Sometimes the shallowness of people overwhelms me. Why can't we just give credi where it is due and admit the woman has a great body, especially for her age, or just say nothing? Why do we need to insult her? I do have a very pretty face and I do need to lose weight but I don't feel a need to hurt anyone else to make myself feel better.
I am MY property. If I choose to use my assets for money, that is MY business!
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Wanting to suggest a few movies this season. Right now the kids are watching sm
The Chronicles of Narnia and it is such a GOOD movie. Highly suggest this. Also, Elf with Will Ferrell is cute.
Polar Express is great also. With 3 little ones at home, anyone have any suggestions on good "holiday" type movies that won't bore a 4 year old? Thanks!
If wanting to teach my son our own family values makes me a bigot..then so be it. sm
I will gladly wear that label. Flame away if you want.
I will NEVER let some school teacher try to foist her own opinions on my child. And to do this on school time??
The bible flat out says that man should not lie with man or woman with woman. If that school district is an example of what passes for family values in SF, no wonder Michael Savage calls it San Fran Sicko. I have to agree with him. Pretty dress or no pretty dress.
Ladies, are you wanting long, lush lashes, listen up
I just heard on our local news channel yesterday about what people found out when they used Lumigan (used for glaucoma) was that their eyelashes got longer and longer and lusher (is that a word??) the more they used. They said when applied to the base of the eyelashes, tops and bottoms, they grow so long that people think you have extensions, even going up to the eyebrows if continuing with the applications. Now, this is not inexpensive- saying 100-125 dollars a month but if you can afford and you have straggly looking eyelashes, how many would go for that? Ah, the price of beauty.
My married daughter is wanting us to move real close to them. (sm)
Right now we live about 3 hours away. She has been married 4 years and just bought a house in a beautiful mountain area. We had always talked about retiring in the mountains but have another 10 years to work. I have 3 other married kids. Just wondered if anyone moved next door to their kids and how everything worked out.
Why not give him some rings to choose from and let him make the final decision?
Some guys want to say they picked it out. Makes them proud to say they did so. Ultimately, it is not really about the ring, the wedding, or any of that. It is about how you two will live your lives together. Congratulations!
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