Thanks for your kindness. (hug back!)
Posted By: Me on 2007-06-18
In Reply to: ((Hug)) - Rad MT
Just having a pity party for myself today. It's just one of those days, I guess. :(
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Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm
right now. I've never been one to have the "victim mentality" although I can see how my post probably came off that way. They never gave me a chance from the start so you hit it right on when you called it a tribe mentality. I think a lot of it is jealousy - as my mom points out - I had that a lot growing up because I tend to get along with everyone - not a jealous bone in my body - and I can tend to irritate those who "don't like everyone" or who have sour attitudes.
When the poster said that she found it hard to believe that all 3 hate me for NO REASON I didn't want to respond because they do hate me for no reason. If you were to ask them why they don't like me or want me around their answer is, "just because I don't."
Anyways, your post was very kind and I am thankful for it. God bless you!
Thank you for your kindness and understanding. I SM
will make a call in the next few days to find some help. I don't usually think of myself, but this has been so terribly difficult.
Thank you for your kindness and encouragement.
I really have no worry that I would act on this. I just don't get any girl time with my friends to talk about these kind of things heart to heart. I was trying to be honest and acknowledge the weirdness of it and I was looking for someone who could say yes, they know what I am talking about, and maybe share their own experience.
Thanks again, you are a sweet lady. 
This is when I love this board. The kindness and
understanding in a situation like this is so valuable. I always try to do the right thing, take care of my family, be polite, be a good driver, etc. I was struggling for a minute about right and wrong, but they come up to you without notice and it is all over so quickly. They catch you off guard and that is their plan.
In case anyone is wondering, God truly did save my life with the other incident I mentioned that happened years ago. I was forced into my car and was told to hand the keys over. He told me he was going to drive and to shut up. I knew I was helpless and called on God out loud in the car. I prayed my heart out, and all of a sudden his demeanor changed. He went from being demanding and in control to being nervous and shaking.
I slowly reached for the door handle without making a sound and he got out of the car and we talked over the roof of my car for a few minutes. Later I identified him at the police department from pictures and he was wearing a hospital gown in the picture. He was just discharged the day he forced me into his car from the psychiatric unit from our local hospital. That night after our encounter he literally rushed back to the hospital and begged them to readmit him because he was going to steal my car and rape me. I asked the police officer if he was going to kill me, and the officer just looked at the floor in silence.
God is good, and so are all of you for caring. To this day my family walks with me to my car when leaving their homes. I cannot do it alone at night anymore. Every time I come home and it is dark I feel someone behind me and there is no one there. You are never, ever the same after you experience something like that.
As far as yesterday, I do believe there was an angel present; just one I could not see.
Thank you for your kindness - i did find a few things on competition sites sm
but they were all pretty boring, lol. we are going to do like you suggested and rent some of those movies this weekend to get that frame of mind going. i coached her little league cheer group and we won first place at competition so she is kinda counting on me for help, but i am brain froze on cheerleading, LOL!
So what you are saying is we've reached our limit? That we don't deserve any more kindness?
That's how you operate in life? You just deem people unworthy of your time, your kindness?
You know, curious girl, isn't asking you for money or a place to live or anything except for a few kind words on a freaking screen!!! How difficult is that?!!?!?! You act like she's knocking on your blasted door and begging you to help her. She's not asking you to do anything but LISTEN!!
My God! You people are incredibly callus. I feel sorry for you.
Yes, God bless Fred, and God Bless you in your kindness and love...sm
We had to put two of our pets, to gorgeous cats that had been our babies for 16+ years, in much the same story, they had gotten to the point where they were suffering and would suffer more. Horrible, heartbreaking decision, hurts like heck, but I do believe there have to be darling pets in Heaven, I cannot imagine how it would be heaven without them, they are so precious and give us so much love and happiness! So sorry for your loss!
Some Random Acts of Kindness (chosen at random)
I'm bringing the Random Acts of Kindness thread back up to the top. Anyone want to join me in committing to do one of these week? More ideas can be found by googling Random Acts of Kindness.
Bake cookies for a neighbor or teacher, just because.
Help an elderly person with yard work or grocery shopping. Many elderly people have a story or two to tell about their own baby that died many years ago.
Visit a nursing home and bring cupcakes. Sit and visit with a few of the residents. You'd be amazed at the loving reception you will receive as many residents rarely receive visitors.
Donate to your favorite nonprofit group on your child's birthday.
Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter or a crisis nursery.
Donate some grief books to the library or a local support group.
Leave an extra large tip for your food server!
Buy the meal for the person behind you at the fast food drive through.
Leave a bouquet of flowers on someone’s front door step.
Bake goodies and take them to the police station, fire station, or hospital.
Pay a local teen to mow an elderly neighbor’s yard.
Crochet a baby’s blanket and take it to the hospital nursery. Premature babies can always use tiny booties and caps.
Buy a balloon bouquet and ask the nurses the children’s hospital to deliver them to a child.
Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
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Back-to-back black swans that look like (sm)
a giant moustache. My MIL painted it for us and put our last name on it and my DH nailed it to an outside storage room door. It looks ridiculous, and when the kids have other kids over they always ask why we have a giant moustache on our door!
Hayseed was back a few weeks back
But we haven't heard from her since. I miss her too. I hope she's doing okay.
Well, I'm going to at least try to take it back...
...and if they don't believe me, I can't really blame them. Several years ago, they had someone return a computer and get another one, and when they opened the boxes later, they were filled with wood and rocks, etc. I'm still looking for my receipt, but not holding my breath.
My dad used to work at Lowes and he said they kept finding empty nail boxes behind the full boxes. Turns out, people were combining two boxes of nails and only paying for one. I didn't realize nails were that expensive. Who knew?
thank you so much for having my back.
for a little bit was beginning to think i was crazy/
i havent said anything to her yet, but i have to many parents and one of them spoke to teh principal who laghed it off. teh teacher, when that parent talked to her about it, said that seh goes thru this every year with parents and that teh children wanted to talk about it. i told my mom adn let me tell you, she is PO'd to say the least. tonight is our christmas program, my mom said she was going to talk to her, i think i'll be standing right next to her. i cant wait. i wish i was more vocal, adn wasnt so scared that if i did make a fuss she would treat my daughter differently. just dont know what to do here, i feel like screaming, but am too scared...isnt that silly.
MTT, you just took me back to...
that baby sweet smell of Dreft that I used when my kids were little!
Back at ya!
Sorry took so long! Chickens rock!
Could it be your back...sm
Causing the pain in your foot? Up until just recently, I had that electric-shock feeling in my foot when I would turn it a certain way. It was excruciating! But it would only happen if I turned my foot at a certain, odd angle, like when I was stretching, so I just tried not to move it that way. It lasted for a good 2 months, then finally went away on its own.
I'm certain this was caused by whatever is going on in my back, though. In the last few years, I've started to have a lot of problems with my back. My doctor thinks it's because I have scoliosis, the degree of which is considered mild, but they're finding out now that even mild curves can cause severe pain.
Mostly my pain is from muscle spasms, but there is also definitely some "pinched nerve" type stuff going on at times. Lately I've been feeling an odd sensation almost like something is encircling my big toe on that same foot that had the shock-like pain, but it's very mild.
Anyway... maybe you could see a chiropractor? I went to one in the past, and I could really tell a difference. If I missed an appointment, I'd start to feel that sciatica-type pain down one leg. Also, a physical therapist might be able to help with exercises and tips. Insurance will usually cover that, but they don't always cover chiropractic care.
I got a TENS unit through my PCP and that helps relieve the pain, and I do stretching and strengthening exercises (I even have a DVD for yoga exercises specifically for the back and scoliosis that I *really* need to start doing.)
Anyway, just throwing out some ideas for you. I hope you can find a solution. I know that "shock" pain is horrible!
thanks - got it back
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No. I don't think they are trying to win back--sm
their customers. This particular company has had negative reports about their products for years. Personally, I would never give this pet food to any of my pets even prior to the tainted pet food scandal just because of the negative reports about their food. They are going to be faced with a number of law suits anyway, in regard to the tainted pet products, as are probably some others. I don't think their giving away free pet food is going to win back anyone, who has a lick of sense in their head and true concern for their pets. Actually, being a pet owner, I think I would stay away from any and all of the pet food manufacturers involved in this tainted pet food business. I would no longer trust their products to be safe, no matter what the conditions after the fact. The *quality* pet food manufacturers are not on the recall list, so I would stick with them, for now. but then again, this is just my opinion.
I just got back from looking.
It was awful. As far as the chickens and the sheep, that really did not bother me at all. I grew up on a farm. They had had a party a few months ago and never cleaned up. It smelled of urine. I still have that awful smell with me. GAG. The place looked trashed. There were holes in the walls. I know you are supposed to look beyond that and I tried and tried. The fact that they knew since Monday that we were coming to look, I think they should have made an effort to make it look presentable. Even the realtor agreed with me on that. I don't feel they took us seriously. The realtor said they already came down from 130k to 125k so the potential buyer could put in new carpet or steam clean it. I tried not to make a face but Dh said I had rolled my eyes. My cousin, who knows the owner, said these people do this for a living. They buy houses, live in them for a little while then sale them for profit. I don't think they have a clue about their business. IMO.
DH looked into the attic. He said he could move the beams with his hand. He did put his face on the wall in the living room, he said it was crooked. DH said that our house is better built. I noticed cracks between the ceiling and the baseboard in the loving room but I thought maybe just the baseboard needed to be renailed. DH thinks that is an indication the house is sinking.
The only thing we liked was the living room, sun room and that shop outside. I liked the backyard but the master bedroom was too small. The one I have now is small but it is bigger than that. I want bigger, I don't want to downsize. The other two bedrooms I thought were too small as well but we could live with those if we had to.
I guess the reason they did not take us seriously and did not put out an effort was because I had already told them that 125k was too high for that neighborhood. THe realtor lady said that they had come off but evidently that 125k was their comming off price. I don't think I would want to pay 70k now, not even 50k.
Just getting back to you but the dog
had foot surgery- I saw it prior and had like a lipoma removed from its foot (have seen it since also). Apparently the dog has problems with being mobile as older dog, heavy dog (the guy fed it scraps from the table)and thus the reason for the mother giving it drugs for pain, sorta like I take ibuprofen daily because of fibro. Anyway, I appreciate the post- got email from her again this morning, about nothing really, but once I answer know it will get back to the doggie issue. Several people associated with her have sent her books, items, etc. about her enabling, so she tells me, but she will continue. I have a now deceased husband who did exactly the same- you would never have made him understand it does not help. He told me he would go to his grave and not do any differently and he did. I am not sorry for paying for the surgery but now have decided no more doggie medicine money. Thanks again!
Hey, I just got back from there
and was at the Belliago and I sure did not have freebies. Don’t you have to be one of the big rollers (or they think you are going to spend a lot at the tables) to get deals like you are talking about? Regardless of what places give away free, too spoiled to stay anywhere else now since my stays there.
I back you in everything you have said
and people who think you can ask nicely are probably the ones who have the problem children. Some kids just do not like anyone older saying jack to them. Sorry some people want to hide their heads in the sand. Their children probably don’t know how to behave either so they think youre asking/telling the kids to go was wrong. The kids would have responded the same way to either asking or telling. Poor upbringing.
No, not at all. I'm 37 and am going back SM
to school to be an ultrasound technologist. I started this path back in 1993--graduated from rad tech school in ྛ. Then I had kids and never worked in the field. Went back to school in 2000 to become a medical Transcriptionist and have been working as an MT ever since.
Now, I'm finally working toward finishing my ultrasound degree. I'm really excited about it. I sometimes worry that I'm too old, but I'm not going to let that stop me.
You can do it! 
Chickadee
I'm 60 and going back - nm
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I think I would think back to before it went bad (sm)
The last time you knew he was happy, and find somewhere you can spread them. A place you know he enjoyed or something like that. Before things went downhill.
Just came back and saw something
it was close to where Depends are kept, urinary incontinence supplies- for people who may can not wash their hair and it is a dry substance you put on and comb out, I believe. I have seen other things like this before also.
He should have to pay it back somehow, but (sm)
I know that doesn't help you when you have to fork over $100. Hope it all works out for you, and that he never does it again.
Oh, please, go back to bed or something (sm)
Have you ever been to NYC? I used to live about 30 minutes from there, and spent a lot of time on subways on my way to Columbia Presbyterian where DD had appts. Believe you me, it can be very confusing until you get the "lay of the land" and she sounds like she is trying to help.
No - if it comes back to your son
he may hesitate to confide in you again.
It all comes back to you
Congratulations!! and yes it does all come back to you .....I am a mother of 3 with 6 years in between each (I think I kept forgetting how it happened!) Mine are 18, 11, and 5 and each time I felt like I was going through all the nervousness for the first time!
does anybody know how to back up
save it to a disc maybe?
TIA
Of course it will come back if...
you go back to eating lots of bread, potatoes, and other high-carb foods. It is a way of living, not just a diet. I have been on it for over a year now and have lost over 20 pounds. I was not overweight, just needed to lose those last few pounds. I have my cheat days where I will eat whatever I want, maybe once or twice a week. If you love steaks and can stay away from the french fries, then it is a fairly easy diet. I don't count my carbs anymore, I just stay away from those high-carb foods and if I notice my weight going up, I will go back on induction for a few days and it comes right off.
To the original poster, the ketosis will pass. I had dizziness and shortness of breath but it passed. If you are concerned, I would consult a doctor though. If you have certain medical problems it might end up hurting you.
I don't know how I can cut back any more....sm
I'm cut to the bone as it is. I only have my 2 sons and my mother and brother in my family to buy for. However, I do have a couple of friends that I buy for and my pastor and his wife.
My youngest son wants a bow and arrow set at Wal-Mart that costs $97. I don't know how I will afford that, much less anything else.
I definitely am not going to back down.
And let them know that in no uncertain terms. I worked at this facility 35 years ago when I was in high, and the work is what inspired me to go into the medical field to help people. I know this unit supervisor personally, worked with her 35 years ago as nurse's aids together, so I don't want to think that she had anything to do with it. It is not like this was personal property just lying around for the taking. Whoever took it hard to work pretty hard to get it off her finger. It makes me so sad that people can be so duplicitous.
why fly back at someone sm
telling you the truth. Sounds like you just want to argue now or want sympathy. GET OUT! You are doing a disservice to your kids. Don't say you can't get out because you can. This is from teh voice of experience lady. Dont bite back at those who tell you the truth because you don't like it. Sounds like you want someone to tell you its ok to stay. Why would you listen to cop who gave you the advice that he did? This is 2008, not 1958!
If he's so sure he can pay back the IRA, let him use HIS. nm
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you did right, don't look back.
God would never want anyone to put themselves in danger to "help" IMO. I too have been a crime victim, and way before that was dumb enough to pick up 2 guys at a time and give them a ride. They were nice, but even they said, "how do you know we are not going to rape or murder you." If you have children or family, you could "help" and risk leaving them without a mother, a daughter, a wife, etc.
Yes, that was me. I let him come back after he was
released from the psych hospital and of course nothing changed. Well, it changed for about a month.
Pat on back for you. You said it all. nm
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AI....She's back!!!!!!!!
You've got to be kidding me!!!
(Can you guess who I'm talking about?)
Let's back up here....sm
My original post said that we must protect the embryos. You want to protect them preimplantation, postimplantation, or in the test tube, that's fine with me.
We weren't discussing IUDs or spermicides or vinegar douches. It seems inevitable that whenever anyone comes to the defense of the embryo, sooner or later someone will come along to try to conflate that issue with every other issue related to birth control, and as a matter of intellectual honesty I don't appreciate the fact that this only distracts from the real point that they didn't like - namely the protection of the embryo.
Well you could always go back
and keep on typing and working hard while you're with him. Save all the money you make (other than fixing the toilets and windows and prettying the place up a bit). Nobody says you have to lay around all day, smoke dope, or shoot pool to be with him, right? That's what his guy friends are for. You're a woman. Work hard, save, kick back and have fun when you feel like it. Make sure you are his insurance beneficiary, and buy him another pack of cigarettes.
It happens every day.
Glad she got it back. Nm
:-)
Are these the very best or what? Tried Gingerbread but went right back to PS! :)
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I would not move back, either--sm
It is nice to help and it sounds as though FIL may need it, but with the others there, you would be *caring* for more than just your FIL and that would be too much stress. Perhaps, if it can be afforded, a home care nurse for a while, until he is back up to caring for his own needs. It is up to him to remove the others from his house, but I surely would not move in there...until they were gone...JMO. Good luck
She will get her money back
I had my money back within 24 hours when it was fraud. You go to the bank, fill out the forms, and while it is being disputed you get the money. They will reissue you another debit card but I kept the same account. Then in 60 days they said it was resolved and I could keep the money. So unless she made the charges and just does not want to tell you -- she should not have a problem getting her money back and still keeping the same account.
You looking to cruise there and back or fly right in? nm
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Oops let me back up
apparently the judge saying she can be buried in the Bahamas beside her son.
Just got back from HOURS in the ER.
I don't understand why ER visits take so long. There were only two of us in there and we came in together. I was there for 3 1/2 hours.
Anyhoo, after my doctor stopped laughing, I was diagnosed with a flu-like viral illness, second degree ankle sprain, an award winning black eye and dehydration. I do normally have lower blood pressure around 100-110/49-70 and it was about 98/49 when he first saw me. He thinks I was just super talented and passed out from the stomach pain/nausea and sitting on the pot. I have an Aircast to wear for the next few weeks and told to just take it easy. He was more concerned about the chronic nausea I've had since my gallbladder surgery last year, but I think my body just misses all that lovely bile it produced.
So for now I'm pushing fluids and taking it easy.
i got it back -- thanks all!! (dingbat)
sheesh. amazing after years on the computer, i can still have these kind of problems...
Maybe she's back on heroin? lol
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