bully, cmt
Posted By: Carol on 2007-10-25
In Reply to: got worse before it got better - Carol
I meant "I" was no where near ready, not it, sorry, thanks.
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Advice about a bully sm
My daughter is in 2nd grade. She has a "friend" who has been basically bullying her since the beginning of the school year. My daughter has a big heart and still wanted to be friends with her. They have argued every day. They have had play dates and sleepovers, and they have all ended up in arguments. I chaperoned on a field trip with her class and witnessed what I consider bullying by this "friend."
I finally got fed up and told my daughter to play with some of the other girls and that a real friend wouldn't treat her that way.
Well, my daughter told this to the "friend." The "friend's" mom called and left a voicemail stating she was appalled at my behavior and that I am not a Christian for saying it.
I called her back and told her to ask her daughter how she behaved on the field trip. I also told her that the girls have been arguing on a daily basis all year long. The whole time I talked the mom said nothing at all and hung up on me.
I emailed the teacher and told her what had happened, and I plan to talk to her some time today hopefully.
I know I should have said something sooner to the teacher, but I figured these were 8-year-old girls and they would work it out without getting me involved. This "friend" even wrote a letter to my daughter, telling her that she wasn't the kind of friend she wanted, etc. But, my daughter still tried to be friends with her.
I guess this is my first experience with a bully. How do I handle this? I'm so worried about what is going to happen today at school. I'm glad I told the teacher about it, though.
Thanks!
my son had a classmate in first grade who was a bully but lived not too far from us.
First grade B-day party....I MADE my son go as they lived close and I told him if there was a prob to WALK HOME even tho that was not allowed usually. Bottom line is, all the other parents knew he was a bully and would not let their kids go. My son went and was THE ONLY OTHER CHILD THERE! I felt so bad for this kid (poor money-wise). They are all now 25 years old and this kid is locally famous, and both my kids have contact with him today. He is a really. nice. adult. who so appreciates their friendship. Ya just never know is my point. Good luck. I think if she goes, she will be fine.
You're nothinig more than a playground bully. nm
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forget his hair - it's his school yard bully ways
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You're aunt is bully, plain and simple and I would just stop visiting.
but I will tell you this, most mothers are going to voice their opinions to their kids about how they did things compared to out YOU do things. I think it's in the mother by-laws somewhere. :) My mother constantly tells me I'm too soft with my kids and I am. My mother was a strict disciplinarian similar to your aunt when I was a kid. Spankings were routine and generally with the belt or the fly swatter or any other object handy. That's why I'm so soft.
I let me mother know early on after I became a mother, that my kids are MY KIDS. She can give me advice and I'll always listen, but I will make the final decision on how and when to discipline my children and I and ONLY I (and DH too of course) will dole out any discipline necessary. Nobody else has permission to spank my children, EVER!
My mom and I get along pretty good now. I accept that she will be nosy and pushy and she accepts that I will ignore her and not call for a few days when she gets on my nerves.
I would just suggest being honest with your aunt and letting her know that you think you're a good mother, your DH thinks your a good mother and that your kids are doing fine and behave fine and if she doesn't think so, then she doesn't need to see the kids.
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