length vs loss

Wear it as you want it and the heck with others. 

Just a warning, though -- The women on my mother's side of the family lose their hair.  My mother was BALD.  So I try to keep what I've got.  It's very fine, shoulder length in the front and longer in the back.  I look hideous when it is down.  I use a hinged thing (forget the name) or a scrunchie thing to keep it up out of the way but keep it loose, no pulling.  I can't go short because too much scalp shows.  At 56, it is still mostly chestnut with a little gray mixed in.  Never dye it, never use rollers, perms.  Nothing.  Let it dry by itself and only use dryer when I must.  Gotta save it and these things can harm it (or so I've been told/read).

I wrote this because in researching how to preserve your hair, it says that length pulls on the roots and in older women this causes hair loss so that's something to keep in mind.  If it gets much longer than this, I can feel a pull and out come the scissors.

I also wear it in a French twist in the back when I want to get dressed up with combs in an upsweep on either side of my face.  This is easy on the hair and draws attention upward with the combs and away from my falling face!  I also use only Castile soap (from pharmacy) on it.  That's all my great-grandmother used and she's the only one who had a full head of hair in old age.  I don't need a conditioner with this and it feels clean after I wash it and not coated or soapy.  It is bar soap and hard so a bar lasts a long, long time.  Costs about $3. 

• Hair length and age input appreciated sm - No kid
  • I had heard somewhere - bjpnc
  • I say, 'Let it grow!' And under no circumstances - - Longhair Person
  • length vs loss - anon
  • Sounds age-appropriate to me. - Me
  • My opinion is whatever hair style makes you happy...sm - Becky
  • keep your hair. - - people are the fools- n/m
  • Another grandma here and I admire people who have the patience (sm) - Also retirement age
  • I've always kept my hair long..sm - cat
  • 37 y/o and I still have long thick blond hair to my bottom! sm - Love my hair
  • love my long hair - not going to cut it - sm
  • Don't listen to the neighborhood cats! (sm) - Shoulder length
  • Hair - Patti
  • Hair length - trose
  • There's little in this life we have control over - cat of Eric
  • Long hair.... - sm
  • For people our age I think - Age on me too
  • Personally I don't plan on becoming one of those - sm -
    • I think it's rude (and they're jealous) if they tell you to cut your hair due to age - deb
    • Sally Field - jlynn
      • I think it's up to you. - former long-hair

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which equals about 5 weeks or 6 weeks behind in length.  And you said you were told something like 2 or 3 weeks behind.  I wouldn't worry.  You may just be having a small baby who may be a short person or maybe your dates are a little off.  There are so many variables in pregnancy.

Both my kids measured below the standard for femur length on ultrasound (about 2 weeks behind), but I'm 5 feet 2 inches and my ex-husband is 5 feet 4 inches, so my kids weren't going to be big.  My son always measured in the 5th percentile and was always of the smallest kid in his class.  Now at age 14, he's taller than his dad and is probably going to reach about 5 feet 9 inches!  My daughter is still in kindergarten and she is the smallest in her class and measures in the 5th percentile.  I've had doctors say things like "we need to watch his/her growth closely" blah, blah, blah.  I'm little, my ex is little, and consequently, my kids were little. 

Best advice, DON'T WORRY!  When you're pregnant there's a tendency to worry about every little thing!  I would suggest talking to the genetics doctor and going from there.  Do your own research and have questions ready when you go.

Good Luck!

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jm

Sending cyber hugs.  Believe me I know how it hurts.  I'm sure kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy, healthy and full of life.

A friend of mine and former boss lost her husband very suddenly in a work accident when they were both in their early 30s - 5 years ago this week actually.  I think she might have tried the online way for awhile, but I know she ended up going to a grief counselor in person eventually, which really helped her.  She took her 2 small kids for a few sessions as well, if I remember correctly, and when she was about to remarry, her finance went as well. 

I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to, but have you considered seeing your doctor for some sort of antidepressant?  You sound very depressed, which is understandable.  And people that tell you it's time to snap out of it can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned.   Everyone grieves differently and at different paces.  One step forward and 2 steps back a lot of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something goes haywire.

((((hugs))))

You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her.  Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention.  You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go.  You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did. 

When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there.  A scenario I never imagined.  I was incosolable because, let's face it, 17 years (18 in your kitty's case) is such a long time to have someone in your life. There is a website that helped me through the grief--www.petloss.com.  It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out.  You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out. 

Please write again and let us know how you are doing.  ((((hugs))))