let the bashing begin I guess..... -sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2009-05-24
In Reply to: you are one of the lucky ones, ---sm - anon
You are the one who brought up hair....."Would you want someone to force you to be throwing up every half hour and lose your hair???".....direct quote. You presumption is plain ridiculous. I could give a dammmmnnnnn about her hair. Yes it is nice it came back as good as it did, and I have talked to plenty of mom's at the clinic as that is one of their concerns as well, dummbb thing to worry about, but probably more of a defense/denial mechanism I think for all of us who have had kids in this situation, and it is hard for any child to deal with, believe me whe was very self-conscious at times about it. But as I said if her losing her hair was the worst thing to happen I could care less, I was being realistic. Yes, I feel bad for the lady below, not all children live no matter what type of treatment is used, it is a fact of life. I just believe you have a better chance with proven clinical protocols, not natural remedies. I am sure had I refused the chemo all helllll would have broken loose too, but I knew from my work it was a tried and true method and trusted her doctors. A lot depends on the type of cancer and the stage. My daughter is one of the lucky ones, it was caught early and was favorable (another week or two and it would probably been a very different outcome as she had a very aggressive fast growing tumor) and I am thankful for that but also have compassion and feelings for those whose children don't make it. The first thing they gave me when she was diagnosed was this book on childhood cancers, you want to cry your eyes out, read that, it is not all about happy endings. Between my two kids I been in and out of hospitals since 2000, I have seen a lot of good and bad in those years. I volunteer with the local organization at the hospital as much as I can, donate/raise funs for it and Make-A-Wish too. I have been around enough cancer for ten lifetimes between 4 family members and my own child. Chemo helped all but one who had lung cancer and refused to quit smoking after her diagnosis. My dad and FIL are both cancer-free now, one is 9 years out, the other 4-years out now. My SIL's mom came back from pancreatic cancer and has been cancer-free now for 3 yaers, they all told her she was a goner, chemo saved her life. It is a miracle she is even alive. My great-aunt with the lung cancer died the night she was given the results of her evaluation after her chemo was completed, which obviosly did not work for her. I have another friend with inoperable lung cancer, just had radiation and now going into chemo. He has a very good prognosis by some miracle. He still has not stopped smoking but 1 cig a day compared to the 4 packs a day is a pretty good improvement. He is trying to quit that and I am sure soon will. I doubt he will be "cured" but at least he may get a few more years to live. Not all of us are ready to give up at 13. I know chemo works, again more than it fails. Some natural approachs may "work" for a time but they do not cure either and there is nothing to back them up. If the kid was 16, 17 or 18 and chose not to do chemo that is his preogative I would say, but at 13 a child, especially a boy, cannot comprehend the chance he is taking, and undoubtly will die. Yes a miracle could happen, but again that is why they are called miracles, they don't happen very often. ---I have said all I will say on this, bash away, stick a fork in me as I am done.
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Everyone's over there bashing people
that are over here. Talking about being banned for just *tellin' it like it is*. Yeah, not to mention posting abusive rude comments continually...like they wouldn't have been banned with the previous owner. Ugh. Hopefully the rude ones will go over there..though I doubt it because you really have to register to get on that one now. The rude anonymousness is kind of gone.
I'm not bashing that - simply asking sm
if it were your biological child doing the bad things, would you have the same response? Hypothetically, if your daughter was selling drugs or making good money without being generous, would you still be having the dilemma about giving gifts? I am not implying that your daughter is a bad person, just that if the shoe were on the other foot, would it be handled the same way.
No bashing from me....good work. :)
NM
Sick of the stereotyping... Not bashing just venting a little
I am the VERY PROUD mother of a well rounded well behaved 16 yo daughter. She doesnt make all A's but she does well. She has more worked more community service hours in the last year (as well as the past five) than any one we know of. BUT she is given hades by teachers, parents, and just about anyone who does not know her because they can tell just by looking at her that she is TROUBLE. The judge her because she wears gauges (ears only) likes baggy jeans (always wears a belt) and band T-shirts (usually black) and big hoodies or jackets- very similar to the boys in the pic. People are SOOO JUDGEMENTAL her friends have to sneak to be around her because their parents think she is a bad influence yeah my non-drinking non smoking baby girl who was home on prom night by 1030 because the "other kids were getting crazy".
Please before you judge kids think about how you would want others to treat your child. To quote my daughter " I am an individual! Not some mindless twit that just follows to belong!". So just try and remember how you would like your child/teen to be treated before you judge/react to someelses child.
Take care and have a MERRY X-MAS and dont forget to hug your teen.
Aw, c'mon! We're all having fun bashing rug-rats!
O Boy, where do I begin?
First off, I would TELL him she's coming, I would not ASK him. You're an adult, she's an adult...you don't need permission from anyone to see your family.
Second, as other posters have stated, tell the bum to get a job...he doesn't know what he wants to do??? Puhleeze...make money, honey...that's the bottom line of a job, right?
He's the one manipulating you, sweetie...I hope against hope that you don't have kids with this jacka$$...BTW, I'm prayin' for ya!!!
Try the basics to begin with - sm
Get enough sleep no matter what. Eat a healthy diet. Get some type of exercise every single day. Hope you feel better soon!!! 
I would like it that they don't get pregnant to begin with.
n,m,
To begin with, I think the parents of the boy - (sm)
are unusually intuitive, open-minded and understanding to allow their transgender child to live as the gender he or she feels is the right one.
But I DON'T understand why they want him in a Catholic school. Regardless oftheir beliefs, etc., if they've chosen to let him live as a female, it would probably be easiest for him to get a fresh start at a new school - as a female. Children can be very cruel, and in the case of his current school, it sounds like teachers will likely not stand up for him if teasing or bullying happens.
Also, one of my old boyfriends is transgender. Even though I'm in agreement with his decision to live as he wants, since he was a guy when I was dating him, that gender is pretty much hardwired into my brain now, and it's twice as hard to think of him as a woman as it would be if I had known about his transgender right from the beginning. (Does that make sense? It's hard to describe).
I still think this boy's mother is to be commended for standing by her child, but maybe he needs to have a say in what church he goes to, as well. There are many Episcopalian churches in my area that are very gay and transgender friendly. If she truly has an open mind, she might consider exploring other education and religious venues for her child.
The closed-minded congregation at her church sound like losers, but this mom is a real hero, in my book.
does pizza hut begin with the letter D?
nm
me - I begin in January, right after Christmas
begin end time for girls and
write sleepover on the invitations for the boys.
done.
Mildly racy ad, but it doesn't even begin to
qualify as 'porn'! If I objected to the ad (which I DON'T), then I would simply avert my eyes and not buy that brand of jeans.
It's anybody's guess
I hope it's Sanjaya, but three people forgot the words to their songs. My guess is maybe Brandon (one who forgot the words). With the exception of Lahisha, Melinda and Blake, I am not impressed with this years singers at all. It's one of the worst seasons for me.
Just old, I guess :(
x
I guess
...that's why I gave up on Christianity. Jesus' message was beautiful and loving for the most part, but the religion has become inundated with intolerance and condemnation and even damnation. Religion world-wide is too much of a trigger for war and violence and I'm not sure how it got twisted into its present form(s). Well, let me take that back -- it seems as long as there has been religion humans have been fighting and killing each other over it, which is a sad advertisement for a particular religion, unfortunately.
To quote from a favorite folksong, I'm willing to "let the mystery be."
no, actually, i guess i don't. (nm)
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Well, I have 8, so I guess not . . .
and, if I had it to do over again, I would do exactly the same! My youngest will be two in June, and my oldest has two of his own. Yes, we have quite an age spread there.  Our 2-year-old is the joy of our lives. One little laugh or even a smile from him, and everything else seems to pale in importance. He's a great little de-stressor.
As I have always told my children, "Friends come and go, but familes are forever."
I guess it's not who you know, but who you ?
not funny
Hey, guess what???
Still havent called… I asked if anyone else had done this. I don’t live in terror that I will fall over, have my own blood pressure cuff. I can ask if others have done this without showing up at the emergency room....
Guess you were never a kid?
As long as she's smart, then she should be able to stay out. Now if she's going to be all night, she should have the courtesy to let her mother know. I've been in that situation where I had to pay rent to my parents once I was that age. They didn't have a curfew for me, but I was considerate enough to let them know when I'd be out all night or staying with a friend. According to tradition, the female child does not move out until she's courted and then gets married? I think the OP should cut the girl a break and let her make some decisions on her own.
Are they all like that? I guess that's what I really want to know
x
LOL - I guess they run out often!!
I guess it should go to you, then, b/c you know what
Ahhh, the arrogance. You should be careful! lol
You said yourself so I guess sex at 16 ok
your daughter was 17 and this relationship going on over a year. Sorta sounds like 16 to me but hey, if you are alright with letting your daughter live like that, oh well.
Sorry, I guess this has already
been posted. I got it as an email from someone.....It is really cute for Christmas...
my guess is...sm
Wagons East  Cat
my guess is .......
My Cousin Vinnie?
I guess I was probably
a bit of a Nazi then because my kids opened one at a time, they took turns handing out presents to those who were there, and we recorded each one and made them actually look at whatever it happened to be that they opened and smile and say thank you grandma or whoever...
I guess I too, was trying to be brief....
Ablation was never an option for me. Besides the adenomyosis, I had a septum inside my uterus and was told this prevented me from ever having any kind of ablative therapy.
Guess I am the only one who DID. LOL! SM
You probably know it is a musical. I loved the time period, etc. Yesterday I checked on the price of a the Sweeney Todd CD and can't wait to get it. I was very low in money, but just checking to see who had it. The song I was referring to is acutally "Not when I'm Around" sung by the young boy in the film. What a voice and what a beautiful song. Let me know if you see it, Cat. I warn you . . . not for the faint of heart! LOL.
LOL. I guess that's what I'm saying
I swear I have a four year old and a 14 year old (on 2/10) and they act like they're both four. The older one can't get that all she has to do is walk away from her sister. I let my husband deal with that one a week. LOL.
Let me guess again
You're the same who has been arguing the same nonsensical points for the last 2 days. Three words for you: LET IT GO...breathe...LET IT GO. Nobody cares!
We all second guess ourselves but---sm
Keep up the great work. My daughters are 19 and 23 but I had the same standards you have. They did not get cell phones until high school, they could not wear tank tops that their bras would show. They had curfews. My 19 year old still does when she comes home from college 1 a.m. She hates it but I want to sleep at night. I went to all of their activities even though I could have been doing my own thing because they were my children and that is what we are suppose to do. That I always knew where they were, did not let them get involved with children that we knew the parents were drug addicts etc. They have recently told me that were glad that morals were instilled in them That they now know what is right and wrong because so many people they meet in college have parents who realy dont care and have no morals.
Someday your children will tell you they appreciate the way you brought them up.
HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
We can only guess, and
one possibility would be a stressful home situation that has her so stressed out that her immune system is failing. One yeast growth gets out of control, thinking can get very fuzzy. She needs relief from the stress and somebody to take care of her physical condition. That's supposed to be her parents, but something is going on there.
Just my guess.
guess what
That makes us even - because I am having a hard time believing you! If there was a significant bite, something would have been done. Been there & done that.
Again, concentrate on what your child needs, not what you need to make yourself feel righteous.
Well then I guess I know someone just like you nm
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Tx - I guess its just sad (sm)
When you realize your own relatives think of you like that. DH says if that's the way he feels then fine he can just sit down there (where they live) and think whatever they want of us and they can all praise each other and tell each other over and over how intelligent they are. Then DH said "maybe he'll get some medication for it". :-) Anyway...we've got too much going here and from now on if his family calls they get voicemail. Just is sad - couldn't imagine my family saying things like that.
I would guess so, but I don't think you
can have as big a hard drive, memory, etc. Also, the screen would be soooo small.
I guess
A lot of schools are even cutting art programs (which is too bad because they keep SPORTS!)
At least the self-satisfaction of having a degree is a plus!
I guess 47 or 48.
I had tried a LOT of SSRIs but none of them worked. Effexor is an SNRI, which I guess is what made the difference. I was on a pretty big dose, 75 mg twice a day, for about 1-1/2 years. Very recently this has started to feel like too much...I'm not sure if my brain chemistry has become permanently "unscrambled" (which would be nice) - or if it's because I'm completely through menopause at this point -- but at some point a few months ago I started to feel "wired" and to have very bad nightmares. I've started cutting back VERY slowly. I don't know if I'll end up getting off it altogether. For the moment 37.5 twice a day feels okay. I took more than a month to wean this down, & even that might have been a little quick for this drug.
My main symptoms during menopause were (nice to be able to use the past tense) SEVERE, debilitating anxiety, almost a physical sensation of dread, a lot like extreme stage fright. There were days I was afraid to get out of bed and literally stayed in bed until 10, 11 in the morning, terrified, with the covers over my head. And explosive anger. I can't tell you how many nasty e-mails I fired off because some innocuous thing someone said made my head explode. Then I would be terrified to look at my e-mail for a week. This was all very tough. I did my share of mopping up after myself, but I did not tell anyone what was prompting my behavior. Maybe it would have helped, I don't know. At the time it felt like that would have been making excuses, but it's possible people would have understood, or maybe I would have gotten help sooner if I'd been able to articulate to myself -- out loud -- what the problem was. Adding to this was the resistance I have always had to using "female problems" as an excuse for anything -- not because it wasn't warranted from time to time, but because of the stereotype of women being less, what...reliable? level-headed? because of hormones. I didn't want to feed into that, even though Heaven Help Us, testosterone is a hormone, too, & a lot more dangerous than estrogen, from what I can see in the world around me.
Anyway, I know there are people who breeze through menopause. I was not one of them. I'm very glad it's over.
guess i'd
buy some sanitary pads and maybe have some Midol on hand. I've seen things about what we are doing (eating?) that is thought to create early puberty in young women, but can't remember what it is...might also have some hot cocoa on hand (warm drinks soothe)to help with cramps, encourage moving/walking if she gets too uncomfortable. Just let her know to tell you what she needs, and where supplies are...
Well, guess you could say same for why do I want my BMW
But, my husband buys for me and he says just wants to get me what he considers the best. I do not know what they cost and I do not know what he pays monthly just that he buys them for me.
Just a guess . . .
He gave you something very rare and special, the $2 bill represents your son.
I guess we can see where she got it from...
...if her mother didn't do anything about the situation, that's pretty indicative that she is a bully herself.
At least your mom tried. You gotta love her for that :-)
I am glad that you are an adult and no longer being bullied. What an awful thing for a child to have to go through.
my guess
My guess would be that she is in heart failure, but all the fluid in the lungs looks like pneumonia on the x-ray.
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A little bit I guess
I never really thought we looked like each other, except the way we talk our mouths are similar (loud - ha ha, actually our mouths move alike) but the last time we were in a store the cashier looked at us and asked if we were sisters. We said yes and she said "aren't you two the cutest together" - and we were 48 and 46 at the time. It was a nice compliment. But I look at pics of me and my little sister (who died when she was little) and we most definitely almost looked like twins.
how did you guess?....
:D
I guess
that Adam will be the winner. At least he should be.
Second best: Kris
Third: Danny
I do not hear anything special in Danny's voice or performance.
He was better at the beginning, kind of washed out.
Allison was much better than Danny and even better than Kris.
I bet on Adam.
my guess
ovary is misfiring.
you will need to get that checked to make sure there is nothing wrong with the ovaries.
I guess I'm the odd man out
Under certain circumstances, I might allow it. I don't agree with the 21 drinking age anyway; I grew up able to drink at 18 and somehow managed to avoid getting any DWIs nor am I an alcoholic now. In Europe, they seem to go right from the breast to the wine glass. So I would not have problems so much with the drinking as I might with who and where the drinking was happening. If there were adult supervision and it was a couple of girlfriends who are celebrating the end of the school year with a glass of champagne, I'd be okay with that. If it was a BBQ with adult chaperone and they're having a couple of beers, I would be okay with it. I would also have to know the family where it was going on so that I could confirm the adult presence. Of course, there would be strings attached- no leaving the house/yard, no driving, no getting in a car with anyone else who has been drinking no matter how sober they may seem, etc.
The fact that your child asked you is a good sign. Had she wanted to, she could have gone off to spend the night with Tiffy with you none the wiser. Even if you do end up saying no, it provides an opportunity for you to explain appropriate behaviors and the responsibilities and risks of alcohol use.
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