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Posted By: question on 2008-11-21
In Reply to: No I live in the boonies. In Nothingville. SM - blondie_1147
Sounds like a good time to call mom and get some tips.
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Just my observation..........sm
First of all, I noticed you said the baby was just born 8 days ago, but also said the husband took off for 2 weeks. Are you positive he is back to work by now? I really see where she could be withdrawing due to the clubbed feet and embarrassment as the others stated, but at the same time she knows you know about that so why would she avoid you because of it? She is experiencing some extreme let down that her baby is not "normal" in the life we know of having a good, healthy, non-malformed baby and wanting to share and show off our baby; not that her baby isn't normal in our eyes, but in hers her baby is not perfect and that is very upsetting and embarrassing to her until she learns to deal with it and accept it. Just FYI in case you don't know though, clubbed feet is very common in Down syndrome; is that a possibility? I would say the news or the site that her baby has clubbed feet in itself could definitely set in postpartum depression. I would suggest and talk to her mom about it who is closest to her. I would call and ask to speak directly to her and not leave a message for her to call back. If you get no where with that, either cook a meal for them and take it over hoping to get a chance to see her and baby or pick up a gift for mom and baby and take it by and try to visit with them. If you don't want to do those, definitely send her a card letting her know you care and hope she is feeling up to a visit soon. I also wonder if maybe she wonders why you haven't called in the 8 days to check on her? Maybe having the baby is more important than the normal of you not calling when her husband is around and she wonders why you haven't called. Just my 2 cents.
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