the separation of C&S is so hyped
Posted By: sm on 2008-02-19
In Reply to: why only Christian? (inside your post)... - no Southern Baptists or Jewish people? sm
that too many don't even understand what it was INTENDED to mean. That intention is focused around the fact that the government can not tell people who or what to worship. You may get just what you didn't bargain for if a Hindu or Buddhist were president...
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perhaps I was a little hyped in my reply,
but it only comes from the fact that I'm there -- I know all about these things because I'm doing them. I don't resent doing these things for my children. The OP hit a real nerve with me because my parents are always on me about how we raise our kids. We're just never good enough in their eyes, but they forget what they were like as parents. My mom worked nights. She wasn't there for me a lot of times when I felt I needed her. She got home late from work (1 or 2 in the morning) and got up to get us kids off to school and then went back to sleep for a few hours in the morning. All the while, my 4-year-old brother was home with her watching TV. He knew to wake her up after a certain show was over, so she could get him lunch. My mom was never a heavy sleeper, so I'm sure if he'd have gotten into something she would have known, but still. My dad coached my brother's sports, but he also berated him at home for not being good enough. My mom yelled at me one day because I brought McD's for the kids when I knew I wouldn't have time to make supper because of an appointment out of town. It was 4:45, and she thought it was awful that I didn't have supper on the table by 4:00 and that I was giving them McD's. My mom worked at McD's when I was growing up. Many of nights, she gave us a frozen pizza for supper before heading to work and then brought us home leftover chicken nuggets and apple pies. We lived for that stuff, but here she was berating me for giving it to my kids. What she was really upset about was that my kids were hungry and they were asking her for something to eat, which she didn't feel like making. She was watching them for me after school that day until I got home from my appointment. But that's the price I pay for asking her to babysit.
No one's perfect, but we try. Criticizing others won't help the situation. I just felt like the OP's criticisms weren't hurtful and not helpful. My suggestions in my original post were meant to give the OP some insight into what the other shoe feels like.
Adam is so hyped. No one has a chance.
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re: separation
Yes, it's definitely possible. I, too, am going thru a separation w/my husband. We have 2 children and have made it a priority to make it as easy on them as possible. The first 8 months was difficult, but now it's very amicable. We actually like each other (as friends). Something we hadn't had in a long time. We still butt heads occasionally (same old arguments) which is why we remain apart. If you are both good people underneath and can put your pettiness aside for the sake of the kids (I don't remember if you said you had any), I believe it's doable.
separation anxiety
Cesar Millan has some great books on dog behavior. He has a web site as well. Google canine separation anxiety and you'll get lots of info. Good luck!
But why not a trial separation?
DH says he'll take me back if I don't like being separated. I didn't ask him that - he volunteered that. A sister got divorced and she's glad she did it. She remarried. I just want to date, not get married or live with a man at this point.
For those wondering about separation
I've been married a long time, but for some of the usual reasons, I've wanted to try separating. It took guts because I've never been on my own, but I found a place to rent (with a roommate) that is reasonable and includes utilities in the price. I found it through Craig's list, and just kept looking until I found a nice place that's only 2 miles from work. I went to the bank and got a separate checking account and my own charge card. DH is amicable (though doesn't want to separate), so I have it easier than most. But I wanted to let you know I'm excited and happy about this change that I had been too scared to make for so long. I think everything is going to be okay and the days of wanting to sleep my life away are over. I hope. But at least I have hope now.
info on separation anxiety
from the same site.
http://www.ddfl.org/behavior/sep-anxiety.pdf
Our great country was based on the separation of
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