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Guess you NEVER advise your children, do you?

Posted By: DUH. NM on 2005-10-28
In Reply to: He is employee or IC? If he is IC, the work begins sm - nm

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I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
Thanks for the advise...

I appreciate the good tips about the company board, but my situation is unique. I currently have more than enough work to keep me busy; however, I may be interested in getting a business license and picking up a few more clients and having my cousin (who just graduated as an MT) work under me where I can supervise her work.


If I were to start my own small business, I would like some sort of website and would need a method for my clients digital files to be sent back and forth which is HIPAA compliant (my MD now insists on using email, which I have told him is not secure).


I emailed sitefever earlier today and they showed me an online demo of this file management system they have under development, which they said should get released before Jan 2006. It seems really easy to use, and it is designed for MT's and their digital files. They said the cost is only $60 per year, which seems like a really good option. And, best of all, it's HIPAA compliant!


So, just sharing with you all some things I learned today just by asking a simple question!


You should never advise someone
I agree that she should get proof if she can. However, I think it's very irresponsible of you to tell her to "push his buttons". What if he fatally harms her this time? You don't know this woman and neither do I. If she is a person who normally does not instigate things, by her suddenly doing so could possibly REALLY set him off.

I say if he abuses her on a regular basis, the next time it happens, if she doesn't leave before, to call the police and make sure that photos are taken. You really need to calm down.
My advise to you is

I learned the hard way years ago out in my garage with no AC on a Royal typewriter, stacks of black carbon paper, a typewriter eraser, the aid of a good medical dictionary plus a kleenex or two to wipe the sweat off my brow and you know what?  I'M STILL TICKING!  I have so many accounts and doctors screaming to sign up I can't find girls fast enough but I would say to you to save your money and time about school.  Invest in a good computer, a medical dictationary, learn to use google as a backup and for any questions but ..... DO invest in a good AC unit!  Hee Hee!


Best of luck to you,


Old timer in Arizona


I would advise this -
Do not change anything right now. Keep working and spending like always. Let it sink in and then make responsible decisions with that money. I am not even sure how many people I would tell at first. The people you hear about who have nothing left a short time after a big windfall are nearly always those who quit their jobs and began spending like they were Bill Gates.
Fed up - Going on my own! Advise please!
Ok, I've had it!  I'm going on my own.  I need advise about how to find local clients, what to charge, simple dicatation systems, etc.  Essentially, I need to know everything about starting my own business.  I'm confident in my skills and am tired of being put up down and told when and how much I need to work.  I'm dependable to the point that I have been tottally taken advantage of.  I know there are better ways to make money doing transcription than what I'm currently doing.  Please Help!
best advise is to go to Help on the start
menu, type in copy as the question, and then follow the directions.
Would respectfully advise you to do some SM
serious research before you choose a school. CS may not be the school you need.
I have worked for him and would advise you to look elsewhere. sm

If you are asking because you were approached about a job please feel free to e-mail me for details of reasons not to do it.


advise to atty
To begin with, a GOOD attorney is going to ask another doctor where mistakes are made, not us. The person who takes a deposition is the one who may ask for interpretation of the transcrtiption because most of them are not able to accurately transcribe medical dictation and our opinion is only worth what we interpret from listening to the doctor's tape. We are not medical experts but we are considered experts in interpretation and transciption. Belive me, I know. I've been in court twice relating to transcription and interpretation of a "tape" NOT making a judgment call on something that is only transcribed and has no tape to back it up. We are not allowed to make diagnoses. A good court reporter will ask for assistance in cases where this are problems with an ESL or similar. I have several that I assist with this part and since I am certified and have many years' experience, I am able to hold some weight with the court as an "expert". This is also part of our job and it has nothing to do with a Transcriptionist working against another transcriptionist, so your attitude is way out of line.
I would advise a little caution

First, send your grievances to your employer in writing. Give them a chance to rectify them. (Yes, I know you may already have done this, but there is a procedure for these things.)


Sever people have mentioned starting blogs. That would be a good place to share the answers everyone receives (if any) from the employers. THEN would be the time to talk strike, if the employers' response does not address the issues.


It's easy to get carried away with enthusiasm, but you don't what to shoot yourself in the foot.


Just call me - Gimpy


SPi "strongly advise against"
All the tech folks I've spoken to at SPi (also the Cymed tech people before) strongly DIScourage anyone from installing Vista. Everyone I've spoken to has said that it will cause major problems. (We use Chartnet platform, btw)
Advise needed

I really enjoy reading the posts here.  I am getting back into transcription after being in for over 15 yrs and out for about 2.  I have a new (1st) grandchild that I love to death and babysit quite a deal for my son.  She is 16 months old and loves me to spend all my time with her.  Now that I am going to be busy transcribing; how do those of you with small children keep them busy or balance working around them.  This is my main concern with coming back to transcription; how to let her know Grandma cannot occupy her every waking moment now.


I can advise her from here. Don't go on television and dog the people who are looking for
your daughter and investigating the people who may have seen her last.  Wipe off some of the makeup and go grieve.  Hire a private investigator.  Let your Aruban attorney versed in the laws and possibly with more knowledge of what is going on in the system speak for you.  Go help the searchers from Texas.  Be more like your ex-husband.  Maintain a low profile and quietly go about your business and don't second guess anyone who has more knowledge than you. 
Advise you discuss this with your doctor. Soon.
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Need help, QA says no to type-2 diabetes, please advise????nm
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Yes, i advise my "children" he is an adult now. sm
He accepted the job as it was and can quit or accept the terms. my dh and i run a construction business. he runs around and spends 2 hours a day just picking up help. we do not pay travel time. you either choose to go or you don't. we do, however, buy their lunch when it is a longer than usual travel. when they are ICs as usually with any manual labor field, labor law and travel time doesn't constitute for their positioning. turn the situation. if someone was coming to your house to do some work, would you be willing to pay every person on that crew travel time? probably not because that would significantly raise the price which you probably already think it too high to do the work you need. you have to realize they are ICs as we are and have all the expenses of trucks, tools, gas, taxes, etc. and have to cut their prices because foreigners are taking over the manual labor fields as well and working for pennies just as transcription is doing but manual labor isn't going to overseas, overseas is coming to the US for pennies. i would have him ask the man he works for about it but it the guy accepts either live with it or quit. i doubt he will get it as with 18yo he can't have a lot of experience to constitute the extra pay, etc.
When people put "please advise" at the
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I would advise you to continue teaching! nm
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Advise on important questions to ask on job interview
I have applied at a company and they are to contact me. I'm really not sure even what to ask. This is a new experience for me. Any help would be appreciated. Any warning signs to watch for?
I would just advise to present your situation clearly w/o 'whining' (sm)
as my DH went several years back and there was a lady who worked on her farm picking crops, her husband was disabled, and she sold at market on the weekend - the judge actually bought from her - and judge refused to excuse her and said it was a 3-day trial, was her civic duty and would be over soon.. DH did QA at the time and didn't say anything after that :(
Laptop user question... please advise...

Well, it's time to put the old one out to pasture and get a new one.  Computer, that is.  I really want a laptop so I may travel with husband to clinics and now follow games and a daughter (cheerleader) going to college.  But my primary use will be at home.  Do any of you laptop users have any trouble with the monitor going out from over use?  I was told it would be best to hook up to another monitor (already going to hook up another keyboard) for everyday use at home. 


Any feedback on this would be great!  Thanks


Any IC charge late fees? Please advise.
I have been contracted with a hospital for almost 13 years and never had a problem with getting paid every two weeks.  I email my invoice on Monday and receive check via mail by Thursday or Friday.  Within the last three years I have had a little trouble, not often, but usually critical times for me, with receiving payment during that time.  Does anyone charge a late fee and if so, do they pay it?  I thought about putting at the bottom of my invoice "Payment is due within 5 days or a late fee of $ will be charged. 
Need advise/guidance from experienced MTSOs. See inside.
I am an MTSO currently using a call in system for docs to dictate.  The transcriptionists also use the call in system to access their work and the call in system is becoming rather congested.  Want to save the call in system for the docs and put the transcriptionists on the internet.  Can someone give me advice/guidance on how to go about this?  Thank you in advance.
Off topic but need STAT ADVISE on deviled eggs

Hi,


I need help as I don't want to make anyone sick LOL.  Baby shower tomorrow night, my co-host who was making the deviled eggs along with other things broke her wrist this morning...soooo, I am in a time crunch and would like to know if I can make these things tonight (36), just boil them tonight, maybe do the prep just fill them tomorrow??  I usually make them & take them or serve them, but don't know about preparing them this 24 hrs ahead of time.


Thank any of you experts in advance for your opinions..this is so much easier than trying to call Betty Crocker


For the person who thinks Codex is no threat. I advise you read



HON. RON PAUL OF TEXAS
BEFORE THE US HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES
July 11, 2005

Henry Lamb- A Great Freedom Fighter Documents how your Dietary Supplements are Under Attack

Mr. Speaker, I urge my colleagues to read "Your dietary supplements: Under attack again" by Henry Lamb, which I am inserting into the record. Mr. Lamb explains the threat to American consumers of dietary supplements and American sovereignty by the Codex Alimentarius commission, commonly referred to simply as Codex. The United Nations created Codex to establish international standards for foods and medicines. Just last week, representatives of the United States government agreed to a final version of Codex's standards on dietary supplements which, if implemented in the United States, could drastically reduce Americans' ability to obtain the supplements of their choice. Members of the American bureaucracy may be hoping to achieve via international fiat what they cannot achieve through the domestic law-making process--the power to restrict consumers' access to dietary supplements. American bureaucrats may gain this power if the World Trade Organization, which considers Codex "guidelines" the standard by which all other regulations are judged, decides that our failure to "harmonize" our regulations of dietary supplements to meet Codex's recommendations violates international trading standards! This could occur despite the fact that American consumers do not want to be subjected to the restrictive regulations common in other parts of the world, such as the European Union.

This article is typical of Henry Lamb's work. For almost twenty years, beginning at an age when most Americans are contemplating retirement, Mr. Lamb has worked to expose and stop threats to American liberty, sovereignty, and prosperity. Mr. Lamb became involved in the battle for liberty when, as the CEO of a Tennessee construction company, he founded a state association of contractors to work against excessive regulations. In 1988, Henry Lamb founded the Environmental Conservation Organization to defend true environmentalism, which is rooted in the truth that there is no better steward of the environment than a private property owner, from those who used the environment as a cover for their radical statist agendas. Since 1992, Mr. Lamb and ECO have focused on the threat to economic liberty and self-government posed by the radical global environmental agenda.

Henry Lamb works to further the cause of liberty by giving speeches around the country, editing an on-line magazine, making numerous television and radio appearances, and writing a weekly column to inform his fellow Americans of the latest scheme to undermine their freedoms. Mr. Lamb is the model of a citizen-activist, and all who wish to become involved in the battle for freedom can learn from his example. In conclusion, I once again urge my colleagues to read Mr. Lamb's article to learn about the need to protect American consumers from Codex, and I thank Mr. Lamb for his tireless devotion to the cause of freedom.

YOUR DIETARY SUPPLEMENTS: UNDER ATTACK AGAIN (from WorldNetDaily, June 11, 2005)

(By Henry Lamb)

The Codex Alimentarius Commission sounds like one of those shadowy, sinister organizations conjured up by one-world-government nuts to scare people.

Truth: It is!

The Food and Agriculture Organization and the World Health Organization created this commission in the early 1960s to set standards for food safety and to ``harmonize'' the laws of member nations. The commission was endorsed by U.N. Resolution 39/248, which says:

``When formulating national policies and plans with regard to food, governments should take into account the need of all consumers for food security and should support and, as far as possible, adopt standards from the ..... Codex Alimentarius. .....''

The Codex Alimentarius Commission consists of delegates from 163 member nations representing 97 percent of the world's population. It meets every two years, either in Rome or Geneva. Between meetings, the commission is governed by an executive committee that directs the activities of its many committees.

Of immediate concern is the ongoing effort to bring dietary supplements in America under the control of standards set by this commission. Dietary supplements generate a $17 billion industry in the United States, which affects more than 150 million consumers, according to Congressional findings (H.R. 2485). Proposed procedures and standards could virtually destroy this market and deprive millions of Americans of the supplements they want to use.

The European Union Directive on Dietary Supplements, which becomes law in August, severely restricts the types and quantities of supplements that may be legally sold. Most forms of vitamins C and E, for example, are not available, or are available only in extremely small doses. If current plans proceed on course, American consumers are in for a shock.

How can this little-known international commission control what consumers buy in the United States?

An even less-known agency, deep within the bowels of the U.S. Department of Agriculture is responsible for U.S. participation in the Codex Commission and designates delegates to each of the commission's committees. Barbara O. Schneeman is the delegate to the Codex Committee on Nutrition and Food for Special Dietary Uses.

The effort to regulate dietary supplements has been under way for more than a decade. In 1994, Congress adopted the Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act, which kept supplements beyond the reach of the drug police. In the past, Codex recommendations have been non-binding. Now, however, the Codex Alimentarius Commission is teaming up with the World Trade Organization to bring international enforcement to the dietary-supplement battle.

Ironically, it was primarily the U.S. that brought the WTO into existence in 1994, as the successor to GATT, the General Agreement on Tarriffs and Trade. The WTO agreement specifically requires that the member nations--including the U.S.--conform its laws to meet the requirements of WTO decisions. Failure to conform results in stiff financial penalties. The Codex Commission and the European Union want the WTO to enforce Codex standards, which fly directly in the face of the Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act.

Pascal Lamy of France was just selected as director general of the WTO. Lamy served as a member of the French Socialist Party's steering committee and was chief of staff and representative of the European Commission for President Jacques Delors. Since 1995, he has served as a member of the Central Office of the Mouvement Européen (France) and as a member of the European Commission, responsible for trade.

The Codex Commission will be meeting in Rome July 4-9 to adopt the final rules on dietary supplement use. Dr. Carolyn Dean, president of Friends of Freedom International, will attend this meeting and return to the U.S. just in time to present her report to the Sixth Annual Freedom 21 Conference in Reno, July 14-16.

The Codex Alimentarius Commission's reach is much broader than dietary supplements. Its committees are also working on standards for pesticide residue, labeling of all kinds of foods, food additives and nutrients, veterinary medicine and drugs, as well as standards and methods for analysis. The function of this organization is to establish standards for all food worldwide and to enforce those standards through the power of the World Trade Organization.

Few people know that there is such a thing as the Codex Alimentarius Commission. It was created to promote food safety in international trade. It is on the brink of becoming an Orwellian bureaucracy--far worse than the worst fantasies of the one-world conspiracy theories.

The Codex Alimentarius Commission is neither fantasy nor theory; it is real.

http://www.house.gov/paul/congrec/c...05/cr071105.htm

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You can't go wrong with Suze and take her advise, cut up cards but do NOT close accts. Just don&#
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Speaking of rip-offs, anyone have any advise on how to get back money paid for a product you never
received?  I needed a Dictaphone C-phone for my job (was using a loaner) and put a note on the equipment board pertaining to this back in May.  A woman contacted me stating she had one for $100 (I only needed the phone, power supply and phone cord).  She said she was going away for 3 weeks and to Western Union the money to her that night and she'd send it out the next day.  I did not like the high pressure and was still shopping around anyway so I told her I'd wait the 3 weeks and contact her then.  About a week later she emailed me stating she cut her trip short but was going away again that Friday (It was Tuesday), I had by this time decided to buy her phone.  I mailed out that day via Priority mail a M.O. for $100.  She was very anxious for the money, and thought I'd sent it Express Mail, which I of course informed her I did not.  She stated that it should be there by Friday and if she did not see her mail that day that she'd have her mom check the mail and then mail the C-phone to me.  After 2 weeks I emailed her as I had no phone as yet, no response.  A week later still no phone, emailed again, no response. Then I called her (looked it up) and she claimed her email was "broken" and she had not received my emails but would email me back as she was on her way out the door to a baseball game.  I asked her how can she email me back if it was broken??? So then she backpedaled and said she'd call me.... I held my breath at that point.  So the next day by some miracle I get an email from her stating her mother had mailed it regular mail, no way to track it, etc.  So supposedly it is lost.  I emailed her back which it appeared she did not get as she did not respond to my questions but she did email me again saying she'd return my money.....again I am holding my breath.  That was 8 days ago.  She is in OK, I am in VA.  If she sent me a refund promptly it would have been here by now.  Now when I call her, she does not pick up, and no answering machine either.  I am planning now to mail her a copy of her email and my response to getting my money back.  I am assuming at this point that I was taken for a sucker and was obviously too trusting.  Right now I don't have $100 to burn (who does?) with my drives to the hospital (60 miles round trip) for my daughter's chemo, doctor visits, etc, on top of only making about 1/2 what I used to make due to the changes in my life right now.  In the meantime I got kicked off the account for which I needed the C-phone for (add insult to injury here) due to problems at the company I was working for, so that does not sweeten my disposition any.  So does anyone have any idea how I can squeeze her and get my money back?  Contact the police there for fraud? Small claims court in OK?  I am a persistent pain in the butt and will keep at her until I get my money back, if it is fraud then she picked the wrong person to screw with, if it is on the up and up then it is unfortunate but she should have insured it to cover her own (and mine) butt, and sent in with a delivery confirmation too....but you know what they say about hindsight.  Any ideas???
If it's different for each report, my guess (only a guess)
would be no. I think the macro would work if it was the same each time, but not sure if it will if the documents are different each time.
Line rates in the Northeast - can anyone advise as to what the going rates are in the NE part of the
country? Specifically Connecticut. I want to make sure I am on target here. Thanks.
Both of my children, now 23 and 24,
bought their own cars and neither of them had a new car. I don't think it hurt them, either. They both were proud of the fact that they did buy their own cars and I was proud of them, too.
Wow that's a lot! We have 4 children and
we probably will not spend that much on all 4 of them. Glad you can afford it.
May you and your children have the
Merriest Christmas ever!  As the Christmas carol sings "God is NOT dead nor doth He sleep."  I am so happy your children will have Santa Claus this Christmas, and that you feel loved!! That's what Christmas is all about. I thank you...  Merry Blessed Christmas to ALL!
I have 5 children and have had many a
I agree, something for myself would have been neat. My absolute favorite thing was when someone brought me something special, like something they made or had made for my baby. Those are really the things I remember when thinking back on my showers, and the things I still have today.
32/F, three children
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And what did your children get?
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I definitely think having children has something

Does she have other children who can help
relieve some of the care? Does her insurance pay for ANY nursing care? I know what you mean. We were all on shifts as well. Is there a GOOD home she could go to? Even one that isn't a nursing home per se, but adult foster care? My grandmother lived in one. It was very nice and had less than 10 residents and people with various types of needs lived there. My aunts and uncles decided to do this (it was self pay) because they figured if she lived with any one child, that the responsibility probably wouldn't end up being shared by all, and this way they were all responsible for her even though she lived separately from them. Is there a hospice/nursing agency that can offer free or cheap respite care? How about through their church? Even if they could get an evening or a few hours away together, that's a start. They need to preserve their marriage too.
think of your own children if you have any....sm
Would you want them to have to care for you?  All I want for my children is to be happy.  I would never want to put that burden on them and, believe me, it is a burden regardless of how you feel about your parents.  Caring for an ILL elderly parent can be a nightmare.  Caring for an elderly parent is totally different.  I've had to do both and, BTW, so did my parents.  My mother, when in her 50's, now 92, made me promise to never try to have her live with me.  I have done the same with my children.  I do everything I can to help her including bringing her to my home to care for her when she is ill or has had recovery from surgeries.  I don't think the "Waltons" is a realistic plan in this day and age.  If you want to destroy your marriage and stress your children, move your parents into your home. 
If you have children under a certain age...
...you can be excused for years from jury duty by submitting a copy of their birth certificates to the court.

Currently, I'm a single parent with 2 kids in elementary school. I have been excused from jury duty twice now; once when I lived in PA and both kids were just babies and again recently excused from serving or being called to serve here in NY for a few more years by submitting a copy of the birth certificate.

The courts will not force a primary caregiver with minor child(ren) to serve as long as you provide them a copy of the birth certificate.

I would think this also applies to anyone who is a sole caregiver of a chronically ill or elderly family member, but you would have to call your courthouse to find out for sure.
We are not children and by that I mean...

we don't have to go crying to the moderator whenever we feel someone is being mean.  I think MT30+'s biggest sin is she's just blunt.  Personally, I appreciate straight forward people.  I don't have time to pick through all the fat to get to the meat.  And, of course, I am one of the blunt people.


I think some need to simply grow up.  You can't spend your life kissing your perceived boo boos and tattling on the "bullies."  Momma always said the only way to get rid of a bully, is to stand your ground and take your lumps.  And don't hold a grudge.  Just move on. 


children and nitwits
You still don't get it. No matter how old they get, they are still your children but I no longer have the right to make their decisions for them. If your comprehension was good enough, you would have known that as they left my home and started their own lives, I had no further voice in what they did, but until that day, I did have a voice in what they did as far as consequences of bad decisions is concerned. If I am paying for the roof over your head and the food on the table, I do have a say. And being 18 does not make you an adult, nor does 30 or 80. When your child can make good sound decisions about their life and how their decisions impact on others, then you've done a good job. Your silly little cartoon characters in your messagee show that you do not have a command of the English language and I am done with this discussion because it is too complicated for you to understand. I think you probably had your nose and ears pierced too many times and too deeply.
Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM

I dont expect day care to "love" my children.  Geez.  I expect them to care for them and watch them when I cannot be there. 


I do have to say, however that the day care my kids are in is a close-knit community.  The staff is very friendly and really get involved with each kid individually to some extent.  Everybody knows everybody, even though it is a fairly large day care.  There is a younger toddler room, an older toddler room, an intermediate room, and a pre-K room.  As well as a big room for before-school and after-school programs for the bigger kids. 


All of the kids in my children's classes are really close.  We all celebrate B-days together and even get invited to Christmas parties and all kinds of nice things.   They throw lots of events around the holidays.  They even have a mom's night out at the day care once a year.  It is like a little community.  They have lots of safety speakers coming in and educated the kids on what to do during an emergency.  I dont see why my kids would not benefit from being a part of something like this. 


It is a great thing to be a part of.  They treat you like family.  I do understand that not all day cares are the same.  I went on a lot of tours of local day cares and I picked this one because I could pick up on the vibe that this was not your oridinary day care.  They are just such great people.  I can honestly say that I love them all.  I love the friends that my kids made and I have grown to love their families and also the teachers.  They are all truly a wonderful bunch. 


So I don't care for my children because I
choose to work my job. Because I choose to be done with work at 5 and not have to work all night as my children play at my feet. Your absolutely right! That makes me a horrible mother. I mean wanting to give them the social graces, the ability to interact with other children and spend the evening with them without my computer in their face--what a bad mommy I am!
I was trying to be nice. Even to children like you

I was only asking an honest question.


I didn't realize there were children posting on this board.


My son is only 15, but he is fortunate enough to have parents that want to help him so that he will not end up being an eternal bitter child, such as those whose parents obviously haven't bothered to realize that there was a possibilty of their child becoming a total waste of time.


And speaking of wasting time, I'm doing just that. And you should be going upstairs to check on your parents.


I believe it is important for children too..
That does still does not mean that since you made a mistake in your life that you are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Could've, should've, would've. We can point fingers and tell people what they should have done, but the fact is, they have rights like everyone else. Of course you tend to do better financially when you do things in the right order. Life does not always work like you want it to though. I myself got pregnant while on BC with a man I had been with for 4 years. I had my son before I got married. We got married when he was less than a month old. He was our only witness. We have since had another child. I have never been on assistance, but I am lucky enough that we have been able to work out our problems and keep our marriage intact. If I could do it all over again, I would have waited, of course. We have struggled quite a bit by having kids so young. Life just doesn't always work out how you want it to though. I want my daughter to get married first and then have children, as do all mothers. Those are things I will teach her too.
Sorry, that should be heard Jen did not want children yet. nm
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my children are minorities
my children are interracial, black father, white mother.  however, they dont know the first thing about Kwanza.  They are raised to believe that Christmas is about the birth of Christ. 
For children, it's best to let them decide.
It can be healing or traumatic. I do think I'd have her go to the funeral home once, set it up so she only has to be there a short time, help her understand it's time to say goodbye and let go (whether close or not). I've been through a Catholic funeral and don't think I'd force a child to be there. It's good that neither you or DH are forcing one way or the other. Talk with your daughter and help her decide what's really best. Just don't let her hide from the fact that she needs to say goodbye to grandma, close or not.
26 with 2 small children.
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GOD BLESS YOU with 5 children!!! *S*...nm
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