Have you ever tried to do a good deed
Posted By: I'm ticked and hurt on 2005-12-20
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and have it come back and slap you in the face? I tried to do something, at a significant financial consequence to me, and now I'm the bad guy and I've got a complete stranger e-mailing me telling me everything I did wrong. I know I should just blow it off, but I can't. I trashed the e-mail and then deleted it from my trash and I don't store them on the server. I didn't feel like I owed this person an explanation, but then I wanted to tell them nicely that they don't know the whole story and I made the best decision for all parties.
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Certainly have - been there and back many times. I think everyone has, except for a few very self-absorbed people I am related to who have never lifted a finger to help anyone in their entire lives.
When I had to work through the emotions you are feeling now, I just let myself fantasize about what I would say to the people involved. It helped me work through the hresentment and hurt I felt, but I didn't do or say anything to another person that could have just made things worse.
doing a good deed
I can't believe you did all that for her and she didn't even thank you! She must be a piece of work. I cannot believe how she can be so selfish not to realize all the work and expense you went through for her. And to then keep it up by not wanting you at the baby shower? She is one sick person. God help her husband and future children esp. if she treats them like she treated you. YOU are the HERO in all of this; just remember that. I cannot believe how greedy and rude people are becoming any more. Scarier, they continue to multiply. Life is hard enough without having to deal with people like her. Drop her; she does not deserve your friendship at all. What is the matter with WalMart? It shouldn't matter where you got ANYTHING for the shower.
But once the deed is done...
The single mom takes on the brunt of the responsibility. It's not the kid's fault his mom made a mistake when picking his father. Sometimes it is the best thing for the children if the home was unsafe, etc.
Name on deed
Are you on the loan? Are you prepared that is something happens, divorce, or death that you will have no equity in the house, no place to live and will probably have to move immediately? So if you are paying anything towards the payment even with working and paying other bills, you are not entitled to anything should you split or he dies. So be prepared for that. But again, I could be wrong so I would definitely check with a lawyer but I would think that if your name was on the mortgage loan, then it would have to be on the deed and vice-a--versa if there is a mortage loan. May I ask why you don't want to be on the deed????
Deed
But if you are on the deed with "right of survivorship" all of it goes to you and it does not have to go through propate.
contract to deed
Not sure but think it means the seller has to give 15 days notice in writing and able to prove default in payments and a date is set for closing shortly thereafter for settling the mortgage. If the buyer cannot come up with the financing to purchase from the seller, the seller by law is allowed to keep all monies paid thus far and the buyer's only recourse at the point is court.
I may be wrong but I think this is how it goes. Good luck.
Put your name on the deed, just not the mortgage
talk to a good loan officer at a bank about the difference.
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Sorry.. I meant DEED... I guess we are all a little
slippery with our fingers tonight.. "dead", "greatful"...
My response was to "deeply saddened". There are a lot of reasons to be sad in the world today; it's the thought that counts. To say that a company should never reduce their bonuses is unrealistic. It happens in all industries. My husband used to get a turkey at Thanksgiving -- now nothing. He also used to get a huge bonus at Christmas - last year he got laid off.
Home deed question. sm
Hubby and I are moving to a house. I have reservations about putting my name on deed, which I would care not to go into. Don't know if I'm giving away any rights or not to house.
Wonder what are pros and cons if I put name on deed versus if I do not. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.
Since when is it name-calling to call a bad deed? Let the scammer take YOUR lines and
see how you like it.
Cheating -- it's what people ARE not just what people do. It means they do not believe the rules apply to them and they ignore them for their own personal gain.
I could care less what you think if you're wanting to pat her on the back and say, "It's okay; we won't say anything ugly to you for your ugly actions." You go ahead and play Sunday School teacher. That's fine for you.
A cheat, a jerk, a scam artist, a THIEF. That's what a cherrypicker is, PERIOD.
Go on to Sunday School this morning...hope you feel better.
In some states, if buying house and married, both names are legally required to be on deed. (nm)
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Gift of gab is a gift in deed. Not having it has cost me dearly.
I became an MT because of my interest in medical field, fascination with the work and yes, a lack of social skills. I really did think that my work would speak for me.
That is a good offer. Pay is not that good at UIMC. Good luck! nm
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I heard good things about Knockout Rose but they don't smell too much like traditional rose. Supposedly blooms all season.
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Good for you! You sound like a very nice and generous person and you deserve all your good luck! nm
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Agree with other poster.. good price..good service
I definitely think they are one of the best out there. We also have been talked through issues over the phone and also had a warranty in which they came out and fixed it right at our home. My only complaint..and I am sorry for saying this.. but... when you call their customer service 9 out of 10 times...you get someone who barely speaks English and I just hate that. I think that is true of a lot of customer support centers these days, ironically they are rarely American anymore. I am not prejudice at all. I just find it frustrating to call in for help and the help you get barely understands you and you do not understand them, thus making the experience very frustrating..
Expensive is right -- around $300 per credit hour! But they do have a good rep. Good luck! nm
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Maybe try to find a good web site to refer to! Good luck NM
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Good for you. Sounds very interesting and a good chance of pace - sm
but I live in the northeast and not much need for that where I live. I also live in a small town so that limits my options. I have spent the last couple of years as a substitute teacher to supplement my MT job and just completed 4-1/2 months as a long term sub which I enjoyed and was a change of pace from MT. The only problem is as a sub or ed tech you only get paid during the school year so I would have to keep my MT job for summers and school vacations. With the way things are going in the MT world I hate to rely solely on that. I don't want to find myself without any job whatsoever.
Thanks for all the responses.
8 is NOT good if never going any higher - good to get the rust out in the short term though
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Is the dictation quality good, are the dictators good, are you
a newbie and you still have to look up lots of words .... The very first day I typed, with absolutely no education way back when, when you didn't have to have a degree/certificate or previous experience, I typed 665 lines. This was without an expander and I was not a fast typist. I can do 1000 lines in about 4 hours now on average.
LOL! Well, good! I've done ONE good thing today, then. NM
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You have a good, realistic attitude about it. Good luck to you. nm
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So? Take the good will and good wishes and smile. When the first day of Hanukkah comes up, SM
have a doughnut and a latke on me. I'll wish you Happy Hanukkah then. You know we spread Christmas out over a month!
Good money? Can we ask how much is considered GOOD in your books????
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Especially for Iowa, that is pretty good. UI can get good over time, but that's because of the u
No I did not sit here all day and wait for you. I have a good job that pays me a good wage for an e
I am sure MQ will change their policies now because of the actions you took. Congrats.
Yep, a good MTSO will get rid of the crappy doctor, not the good MT...sm
unfortunately, there aren't many MTSOs out there who will confront a poor dictator and nip it in the bud to begin with.
In the old days we used to do this all the time. A doctor was put on report and told to shape up and if he didn't he would either be charged more because they had to pay an MT more to do his lousy dictation, or he was always given the option to do his own reports if he wouldn't comply.
Believe it or not, almost every physician my former company did this to straightened up their act became good dictators and found that it was actually less stressful and less time consuming for them too!!
The MTSOs just don't have the guts to do this anymore... and they should. I can make more money on good dictators with a lower line rate than crappy dictators at a higher rate, and would rather have the better dictators and lower rate than the other... it's a win-win for both the MT and MTSO because the MT is making more money per hour and the MTSO gets to pay less for her MTs and make a better profit. I can't believe the MTSOs haven't figured this one out.
This is not a good choice. There are too many good schools
that have proven their worth. Andrews, MTEC and even Career Step, but I would not choose a school that has spammed the internet in every crack there is as the one you have mentioned. Find some graduates and see what they have to say. Go to mtchat.com and do a search of this school.
Thank you too! A good laugh is a good thing.
I really wish you good health and good luck!
I know that what you are doing is a major undertaking. Just remember that this is what you want and that you CAN do it! It won't be easy by any stretch of the imagination, but once you have accomplished it, you will truly know what you are capable of. I think you are very brave. Please know that all of us are pulling for you and are here to help you if you need it. Go to the hospital if you are feeling at all unsure or unstable. Don't give up because the reward will be great. Please let us know how you are doing.
Pulling for you!
good for you; you'll get more from it, with good socialization,
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Very good...very good answer. Right on the money! (nm)
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Without too much effort?! A good yard sale takes a good deal of effort, IMO.
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Company newsflash: THOSE WHO RETAIN GOOD STAFF RETAIN GOOD CLIENTS
Hight staff turnover = high client turnover if you don't pay attention.
The good old days were not so good for me. sm
Transcribing from tapes on a Selectric typewriter with 3 or 4 carbons and white out, no spellcheck, no expansion program, no internet for research.
I agree! To be a good MT we must take the good with the bad!
It sometimes takes longer to learn ESL docs and is a pain in the butt, but all that does not kill us makes us stronger!! I don't love doing ESL docs by any means, but if I want a job - I need to do what my employer asks of me. Take the good and bad - or find a new job! I applaud you for working with your MTs, but you really shouldn't have to! I have only been an MT for two years and I cannot imagine telling my boss that I am not willing to learn something. How rude!
Oh, that's good! Cruel, but good! LOL!
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Good for you. Good enough reasons for me, too!
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Good for you. Good luck in whatever you do next. nm
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did every one have a good 4th. I did, but it was
 hope you have a good one!
Good for you!
Glad your puppy is okay. Keep that girl away!
Good for you!
There's a reason kids are cruel to animals and it is never the animals fault, but usually something in the environment of the kid.
I am so glad you had the camera running, but I sure wouldn't leave that pup outside alone when you are not around. He doesn't deserve to pay for the poor parenting that kid has to endure.
bad cop/good cop
Dude, did you not see training day.... Even a step behind Denzel, who I love, Ethan Hawe is gorgeous in a scruffy, need a shave way.
many thanks! have a good one!
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I know you are doing good for her....
my neighbor was to the point of crawling on the floor, could not even walk...she had three dogs and did not take them outside so you can may only imagine what the inside of her house looked like and smelled like!!!! I talked to her for about a week and she said she wanted me to be her "power of attorney", etc., etc. We never signed any papers. One morning I went over there and found her passed out at the top of the stairs, totally unresponsive and then, while passed out started throwing up. I turned her on her side and called 911. They concurred with me that either she went to the hospital immediately or they would call the Sheriff and they would take her. Yes she was really ticked off but, again, she now says I have saved her life but I told her I knew she could make it. Sometimes all it takes is just another person to pull us up. One more thing, I am not a busy-body. I have never done anything even close to this in my entire old life; but this I had to do or watch her die. The doctors agreed. So do what your heart tells you to do, I know it will be right.
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