I think you must tell your mother why you're pulling away from her. sm
Posted By: just my 2 cents on 2005-11-07
In Reply to: re: inappropriate stepfather - sm
It can't be fair to her that she does not know why you're treating HER like this. She's done nothing wrong. You need to tell her how you feel but point it to the fact that for your emotional health and safety you can't be in situations with your stepfather. Talk to her about keeping close to her without him and if she's doesn't want that, then you'll not be seeing her for awhile. I don't believe your mother is not strong enough to know the truth and it could possibly kick you in the pants in the end. It certainly may feel like a "darned if you don't, darned if you do" situation, but why make your mother feel that she's done something wrong, point that finger where it needs to be pointed, you're uncomfortable with him.
I say that about her being strong enough, but in an entirely different situation where my dad kept secrets about my brother, after my dad died my mom found out about these secrets which my dad felt she was not strong enough to handle, and it caused great harm to the relationship between my mom and myself. I can only hope that one day she can get over the deception that she feels we all pulled on her, even though it was at my dad's request because of her health. I truly wish I had told her a long time ago to save myself the mess that I deal with now by myself because my dad's not here to take the blame for us keeping secrets from my mom.
Why distance yourself from your mom without it being for the truth? Is it really not that important? You'll have to decide. My best to you and yours.
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Of course you can't help worrying, you're a mother..
but as long as her behavior continues as you have described, the black clothing is nothing more than a "fashion statement", just as she said. She wants to distinguish herself from a crowd she does not admire, probably more for their behavior and attitudes than for their clothes. She sounds like a wonderful daughter. Rejoice in the good job you've done raising her and enjoy your time with her. She will be all grown up and on her own in the blink of an eye. Don't let this time with her become a bad memory of conflict over what appears to be nothing. As long as she continues to be the daughter you know and trust, let her dress as she chooses. Personally, I think it's a good thing that she doesn't want to follow the "in" crowd. It shows she chooses to think for herself. That should make it less likely that she could be persuaded to do something she was brought up to believe is wrong. I think she's going to be all right.
You're right. I have a wonderful family...Happy Mother's Day to you too!
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I think she's pulling your leg sm
what she is claiming is next to impossible! Sorry, I don't believe you! 
lol, not pulling your leg (sm)
I really did try the avatar months ago with no luck. However, this time I did go into edit my information so maybe it "reset" something. Glad you can see my butterfly wings............
Hair pulling day
Same doc on two notes. Left 26 blanks total.
RE: Pulling my hair out
I have had 2 people working for me for almost 5 years and have to repeatedly check over their work. Should I get rid of them or is this is the norm.
RE: Pulling my hair out
I have to read over each report that they send me because of careless errors like putting the month of June on the notes instead of July. Of course, blanks are always going to happen from time to time, I realize that. I am referring to the careless things that happen with the incorrect spelling of medications, etc. Why I still pay keep them I guess is because I am too nice, but it is wearing off very, very quickly.
Pulling my hair out
Yes I do give them very good feedback and every time these errors appear I am in contact with them all the time. This is an easy account with clear dictators and it is the same account they have worked on for some years so it is just time to do something. I have tried being patient, correcting, but I will do the next best thing and alert them that they are on probation; if they don't straighten out then I will either start deducting for these careless errors or lay them off.
Again, I am pulling for you. Please dont let me
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i think the little guy is pulling out his hair!!
Interesting post. I thought it was just me, after MTing so many years. First of all, i was told 30+ years ago to try and sit off-center from the keyboard and see if it helped my accuracy -- it worked wonders!! I tend to sit a tad to the right of it and angle the right upper corner of the keyboard up a bit too. I find i have less arm fatigue and less strain on my carpal-tunnel-feeling nerves to be closer to the board. Sometimes i even put the keyboard in my lap -- and it really does seem to help the comfort alot, just a bit of a bother to situate my keyboard when i get up and down from the desk tho. I also find, contrary to smart-people thoughts, that i do better with my keyboard low enough that my arms are not at right angles to it. we MTs are a bit finicky eh?
Are you pulling in templates? If so,
you will have to check and make sure they are set on 100%.
OMG! Pulling my hair out here! Venting...
I have an ESL who speaks very fast, but when I slow him down, he sounds like a very drunk ESL. He tends to speak rather softly until the last 3 or 4 words of his dicatation, when he actually speaks into whatever he dictates into and I can hear those few words very well. This guy has been a pebble in my shoe for far too long!
Ok, venting over. Ignore the crazy lady. 
Your mail carrier was pulling yer leg
jokes on you!
If US MD's were pulling stuff back into US pay would be going up. It's going down.
because of offshoring and because of other replacements for MT (VR and EMR), pay is going down. Face it. There are cheaper alternatives for US MTs. The quality is not as good, but it is good enough. Yea, yea, yea "lawsuits, bla, bla, bla." Nice theory but ain't happening.
My MTSO recommends not pulling up more SM
than 3 documents. For reports in storage, I found that's about half a minute or less total to pull up 3 of them individually, scan, and move on. Google searches somewhat more but not more than a couple minutes at most to find an answer or realize it's hidden and move on. The point in this case being that they want a conscientious effort made to produce high-quality documents with few blanks but haven't found it cost effective for us to spend more than a minute or two on filling a blank.
Timing an actual minute while you to a search is revealing; it's actually a pretty long time that you could be using to churn out...what? 160+ lines with the help of your expander?
30 years and I'm still pulling my hair out sometimes
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no but these remote companies have a habit of pulling the
Tell you one thing and do another once youre under lock and key. I don't trust them anymore, so I'd rather stay right where I am.
i'm not an editor pulling my hair out or hollering at anyone. You are.
what a joke. you think you are superior but when i make $25-30 an hour with no sweat, no problem, no hollering, no pulling my hair out, and you are left hollering with BP in the too high digits, who is dumb? bwwwaaaaaahaaaaaaaa
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Yes, as mother's we should take the
responsibility. Whether they were married or not is not relevant. Everyone makes poor choices in life. Everyone, married and unmarried, might need help at some point in their life. What difference would it make if my sister in law was married? The courts wouldn't enforce the order anymore than they are now. You say you are all for going after the father, what difference does it make then? They are not held accountable by your government, but you think it is okay to speak against any woman needing help only momentarily because they made a poor choice in life?
I'll give you another example. My mother who was married to my father for 10 YEARS had to get a divorce and take all 4 of us kids with her. My father after 5 years of MARRIAGE started beating her. He then put guns to my brother and my mom. He raped my sister many times before she was ever not scared enough to tell someone. She left as soon as she could get out and took all of us with her. Our government that she paid taxes into her whole life did not once honor the restraining orders, did not honor the court order for child support, and would not provide my sister with counseling at no charge or reduced rate. Do you know why? Because a member of the family committed the crime. Even though the man told my mom that he is aware that most all sexual assault cases occur in the family, but according to the procedures laid out to them by our government, you cannot get assistance if the act occurs in the family. My mother worked 3 jobs. We had to get her out of bed with a broom because she would come up swinging. She drove us all many, many times to counseling and did not get sleep to go to her next job. If our government would have pursued the child support order, if they would have offered her free counseling for my sister so she was not having to pay out of pocket, just a little help for a short period in her life, then she would not have had it so rough, or us so rough during those times. I am sorry, but it is our responsibility to take care of ourselves. On the other hand, our dollars do not go back to our people in the right way. If you think they do or you think that the government should not be held accountable for their lack of assistance or overseeing of the assistance they do give to make sure it is used properly, you are fooling yourself. If you think it is about all for yourself, never have to depend on the government at all in your life for anything, then give us our money back and we surely could do that.
Mother's Day
My birthday is on Mother's Day this year. I got myself a present, a ticket to see Rob Thomas in concert in PA. I usually get a combined birthday present/Mother's Day present from my husband and two daughters.
My mother's day
First thing when she got up, my 5-year-old asked "Is it Mother's Day?" When I said yes, she went to her school backpack, pulled out a little brown bag that says "I love mom" on it, and took out a little sculpture of herself that she made at school. My 18-year-old son spent half the day sleeping, a few hours at his girlfriend's house, stopped at home and gave me the top half of a carnation. I think he pulled it off of his girlfriend's mom's bouquet or something. My 21-year-old daughter called at 8 tonight and said "Happy Mother's Day. I didn't get you anything. I can get you a card though." I think she basically called to let me know she works tomorrow because I watch my 1-year-old grandson when she works. Oh yeah, my husband and I got in a fight. I'm so close to tears. I can't wait until everyone is bed so I can have a good cry. Am I being too sensitive about the older kids? I don't expect them to spend a bunch on me but they both work, and a $5.00 little flower, an annual or something, or pitching on a hanging basket or something, or even a card..whatever..would have made my day. I don't know. Maybe it's just PMS.
Mother's Day
I'm sorry about those 2 self-asorbed older kids. Just think how much the little one loves you - when a 5-year-old remembers Mother's Day, that's special!
As one of the other posters said, remember this on your kids' birthdays. Turnabout is fair play. If you keep giving to them and doing for them, they will get the message that they can treat you anyway they want.
Personally, I would call them on this, but that is just me. I wouldn't be watching that grandson, I can tell you that.
Mother-in-law
Oh gosh! Don't even get me started on mine --- that is another book! lol. Oddly enough the one thing she does approve of is me being here for her son and our children. She has opinions (her own-- not always bright) about everything else I don't do the way "she" would.
my mother-in-law always said
it costs nothing to ask... so give it a shot... susan
My Mother said it does. She said it did not last sm
for her too long, however, it has been almost a year for me, maybe even longer with these palpitations etc. Some days I am great, others not so great. I was walking with a neighbor until she got pregnant but has had the baby now and I think exercise does help the whole situation.
Thank you so much. Please keep my mother in your
prayers. She is a very sick lady.
mother ill
If I were you I would move her to Georgia. I would just tell her she needs someone to care for her and I didn't want to uproot my family.
Like a mother, eh??
My mother.
She was the transcriber (that's what we were called back then) for a 10-man (yes, they were all men) multispecialty group. She needed help, so the summer I was 16, she dragged me in kicking and screaming and made me help her. I could type and spell and I had passed high school biology; what more was needed?
I just saw mother on Dan Abrams
It sounds like her Aruban attorney is embarrassed by her outburst, in particular calling the two brothers who were released criminals. They are saying it was "an emotional outburst" with no information to back up the accusation. In the meantime, Beth Twitty did not forget her shiny pearlescent eye makeup, under eye cream and false eyelashes for the press conference in which she had the "emotional outburst" asking other countries to disregard facts that the Arubian government had no basis to keep these brothers in jail and released them and not accept these "criminals" (emotional outburst no facts per attorney) in their country.
Someone should take Beth (eyelashes) Twitty home and get her a nice antidepressant and a Southern Comfort cocktail.
Saw my mother-in-law's couch LOL
not her mother's choice
Glitter eyemakeup? False eyelashes? What channel are you watching? Maybe you should put on a pair of glasses, and maybe then you would have seen her crying. I think the arubans investigation stinks and so does their goverment.YOUR THE LOON, NOT BETH TWITTY.
many people can be a mother sm
but it takes someone special to be a mom! Don't sacrifice yourself because of her. Take a break, you're worth it! God bless you! 
Toxic mother
I had to distance myself from my mother too. Don't feel bad. Think of it as doing something nice for yourself.
Now that I have grown daughters I have a problem I don't know how to solve. I don't want to be negative or judgmental towards my children, but they dress in sloppy, slutty clothes and I overhead some people joking about them because of it. I want to tell them to be more presentable but I don't want it to sound like I'm criticizing them or rejecting them. What do I do?
Mother volunteers is NOTHING new at all....
I was a child in the 1960s/early 70s and in grade school almost ALL mothers were at home. I remember half the school walking or riding their bikes home for lunch. We always had a room mother and mothers were involved in all sorts of things like PTA, fall carnivals, library, etc. However, they probably weren't the overbearing "my kid can do no wrong" type of parents we have today. In my childhood the world was different, you could ride your bike, skate without body armour, climb trees, and fall down and bust your arm in your friend's yard and your parents didn't sue them (happened to me at age 9). It's just a different worlds now.
I still use the old standby my mother always used--
Vick's under the nose every night before bedtime. My sinuses are so clear the following morning. I don't even need cold tablets anymore. I sometimes use it during the day, too. Helps with that dang drippy post nasal drip and tickly throat that makes me cough.
With the help from a mother who is a nurse. nm
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Don't do Mother's Day as birthday is May 3rd
Kind of combine the two. Dinner tomorrow. Yee hah! No dishes.
Hubby and kids (that are still young enough to be home) cook and do the dishes on mother's day, so it's always been a nice week for me.
AND I'm a grandmom too.......... X 3.
Don't ask. Still going uphill so far, though not far from the crest.
My mother went to school at 47 to become
an RN. She is so glad she did it and I am very proud of her. She is now working in the OR and is still going to school to get her Masters so she can specialize. She turns 50 this year.
GO FOR IT!!
A Mother's Day poem
Don't think of her as gone away
Her journey's just begun
Life holds so many facets
This earth is only one
Just think of her as resting
From the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort
Where there are no days and years
Think how she must be wishing
That we could know, today
Now nothing but our sadness
Can really pass away
And think of her as living
In the hearts of those she touched
For nothing loved is ever lost
And she is loved so very much.
Anonymous
that's right - get off your mother's computer..sm
Some of us are probably old enough to be YOUR parent.....
we do not need or want spelling/grammar police here PER THE MODERATORS/ADMINISTRATOR or can you not READ and comprehend?
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