I would first ask him...
Posted By: tnmt on 2007-10-18
In Reply to: Feeling down, need advice - tiredofthis
why you *wouldn't* want to work fewer hours. I might make it more of a rhetorical question and answer it myself, why you would like fewer hours.
My personal pet peeve and soapbox happens to be the current societal expectation that women carry more than their fair share. Any man under 45 seems to have internalized the Enjoli woman (remember her? "I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan...") and deep within his psyche thinks she's real. So we are supposed to be able to do it all, be superwoman, and if we can't or won't continue doing it, we've let them down. Quite frankly, that's bullcrap.
I make more money per hour than my husband and have for years, but that's no excuse for me to work all the overtime, either. I work part time now and he still works full time, but we both carve out family time out of those hours and at the end of the day, we try to measure our overall contributions to the household, not just the monetary ones. Know what I mean?
You are a good person for not trying to hurt him, but at the same time, it's not good to let him hurt YOU by saying something like that. I hope you can have an open talk with him about your mutual expectations.
Blessings to you.
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