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If my husband died I'd just focus on raising my kids.

Posted By: That would be my #!1 goal. sm on 2005-12-02
In Reply to: My husband just signed up for group life insurance with work which will give him 10x his salary if - Dancin Shoes

And then after they were raised - no, I wouldn't actively pursue meeting someone else.  If I just happened to someday meet the perfect match, fine.  But I wouldn't be out looking.  I think it would just be too hard to adjust to not only the death of your husband, but living with someone completely different.  I'd just fill my life with all kinds of OTHER stuff.


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Your kids come first, not your husband's lifestyle.

I would never work myself to death for any man, no matter what he did for me.  Men are SUPPOSED to be the primary breadwinners in the family.  Paying for your school and your computer.  Pshaw!  I think you've more than made that up already.  Who takes care of your kids while you're working all these jobs?  You're going to regret it so bad when your kids are grown up and all they remember is being in daycare while you work.  Wow, he's got it pretty good with his little indentured servant, doesn't he?  What about what YOU want out of life?  I suppose you do all the housework, too?  You're going to burn out and fry yourself.  How much life insurance does he have on you?  Since obviously money means more to him than his wife and kids' happiness.    Geez, I'd rather be poor, broke, bankrupt, single, and on welfare than working myself to death for any man.


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he was more scared though (baby under 2 at the time). I went to 1 class a week at night. He lived. He still did not take an active part in helping with the kids (since I did not "work" and he did) until we had another child. Then he really had no choice and my 1st daughter learned she had a dad too. Now they are both total daddy's girls and he takes care of them more than I do now.....though I really don't get much time to myself. But at least he is there for me when I need it. Your hubby needs to get his head out of his ___ and help too. You are working too, or did your paycheck slip his notice? I still have a little trouble with that crap (since I don't leave the house) but he would not be happy not to have it, or have his kids in afterschool care so I could work elsewhere.
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I am quite happy. Always have tons of work. I get more PTO than any other company could even come close to, and now we get 2 extra paid holidays. I think they are really trying hard to turn things around. Plus I love Chartnet.
Raising per line rate

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I would appreciate any feedback.


Fantasia is raising her daughter...sm
please get your facts straight...........
I disagree. I am raising 3 children

and have never paid for daycare while working.  I have been doing this for about 10 years and my children are ages 10, 7 and 5.  As I have added children and they have gotten older, it has become more distracting, but there are ways to do it without daycare.


When younger and I only had the 1, I worked in the mornings and afternoons when he was sleeping and finished up my day when my husband came home.  As our family grew and the younger children became older, I dropped the afternoon shifts and worked primarily early morning and nights when the kids were sleeping and/or my husband was home.  Now that they are in school, I am able to work daylight during the school year and evenings/nights in the summer when my husband is home.  If I had to pay daycare, no way would this be a profitable job. 


I would not recommend that you get into this field if you will need to pay daycare expenses.  You're much better off if you can work around your husband's schedule (if married) or if you have family close by that would be willing to help out a few hours a day with childcare.  Now that my kids are all in school, I really do enjoy the freedom this job allows me.  I rarely miss a school function or sporting event and the summers at home are great!


Help with raising food costs sm

While not available in all areas, this is a wonderful program to help out families and communities.  I used it for years when I lived in Colorado and now that I have moved, I am in the process of finding this program in my state. 


The program consists of paying a certain amount for a given box of food (you can buy more than one) on a certain day or days.  Then, you put in volunteer hours in your community for each box you purchase.  You have a volunteer slip signed where you volunteer.  On D-Day, you go and pick up your boxes of food. 


The boxes consist of fresh fruits and vegetables and meat items.  Occasionally there is cheese too.  There might be pasta and/or rice.  There is often a prepared food item.  They offer seasonal boxes for holiday baking, meat lover's boxes in time for summer grilling and Thanksgiving boxes.  The retail value of what you get in a SHARE box is usually at least double the cost of the box, and that has been my experience.  The kids and I used to go and help on D-Day, passing out boxes, cleaning up for our volunteer activity.


http://www.sharecolorado.com/


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Raising hand,,,, I vote Vianeta, too. nm
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...count instead, or raising your word rate. nm
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Raising my child to be self supporting taxpayer.
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You don't have to but I take morgage, etc deduction. Need the help now raising family. Plan on
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I cannot stand the attitude some people have toward raising children!
They don't have to be put in daycare either.

I would say people with this kind of attitude usually don't have children and therefore don't believe in the power moms have to get it ALL done. Just because this is not the situation you find yourself in does not mean it cannot be done! Open your eyes and get with the program - we ARE doing it and doing it WELL - like it or not!
don't count on raising rates yearly as an MTSO.

As an MTSO, don't think you are going to increase your accounts *yearly* (the word you used).....good luck if you're taking that route!!


I have my surgeons for a decade due to they pay very well and I have NEVER raised their rates because then they COULD choose to go elsewhere for less.....just my take.....


I also worked for nat'l services for years and they rarely raised their rates to their clients, as they, too, never wanted to lose any accts.


Good luck to you, whichever way you go!!


Raising hand. Let me be the first to apply at DisneyWorld Transcritption. nm
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Yuppie parents today raising a bunch of big babies
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm

When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?" 


Him: "No."


Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"


Him: "No."


Me:  "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"


Him: (shrug)


etc., etc., etc.


Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)


I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!!  You know exactly what you said.  You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed!  You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT.  Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you.  Why have kids at all?  Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked!  Give me a break!  Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT.  Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.

I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.

So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.

Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.

I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary.  How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 


I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)


But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    


We see that you only focus

On the negatives!  What about the children who were born into this poverty through no choice of their own?


You take the negatives only in this tragedy, what a very closed mind you have


Anything to help you focus?
I am very distracted by everything while I work.  I don't think I have ADD.  I hope not anyway.  I just cannot focus for more than 20-30 minutes at a time.  Is there an herb or over-the-counter medication to help you focus?  I have tried Ginko and it seems to help a little.  I just want to be more productive during the day rather than going back and forth to the Internet and taking breaks constantly.  Thanks.
Focus

I have worked at Focus for just over a year now as an IC and I really like it there.  Everyone is very pleasant and helpful.  Any problems or concerns that I may have are addressed right away.  I have plenty of work to keep me busy.  They offer benefits if you are employee status, but you can also choose to be an IC.  They also have direct deposit.  I do transcription only, but they also have VR if you want to do that (you don't have to if you don't want to).  I work on the Dictaphone ExText platform but I know they have other platforms as well.


The bottom line is that they are a great fit for me.  I have had a really great experience with them.  No complaints at all.   


FOCUS-sm
  Thanks very much for the info. 
LOL!! Focus, focus, focus!! nm

focus, focus, focus--sm
and a strong work ethic that does not have you hopping up from your chair every other minute to do laundry, dishes, take out the garbage, or answer the phone. I have caller ID and use it constantly to screen any calls. If I do not recognize the number, I do not answer it. This saves a lot of time, as far as I am concerned. I know a lot of the work at home moms have kids and that has to be really hard, and I empathize with that. I don't have anyone at home, except my two kitties, to distract me from my work. I have no tv on and no music, nothing. I have had a lot of medical terminology classes and pretty know most of my doctors most used words, so I do not have to spend a lot of time researching. This also takes a lot of time, time we are not paid for. Then, of course, there are the two things you mentioned, staying in your chair constantly and shortcuts. I have pretty much the same doctors every day and know them pretty well. this makes a big difference too. I only use autocorrect as an expander, as I never could get used to IT or some others, where I spent more time looking at the bottom part with all the different entry options than I did typing. I also had many years of typing classes, as well, and I rarely need to look at my keys to know what I am typing. I watch the copy I am typing and can see any errors I make right away and correct them right away. I rarely go back and look through it again after I am done. I also rarely hear from QA about anything either. If I do, it is usually an address change or something. But I do have a habit of putting two periods .., at the end of a sentence. but I pretty much catch those too.

My last suggestion is that you have to WANT it, more than ANYTHING else in the world. Not having a spouse, or anyone else to help provide income is a HUGE motivator, as far as I am concerned. It all depends on how badly you want to pay your bills, eat, and have some extra for emergencies. It is all priority, as far as I am concerned, but that is just me. Everybody elses situations are different. but this works for me. JMO.
Focus

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The flexibility at Focus can't be beat.  I don't have to get permission to change my schedule to fit my needs.  Whenever I have a question, someone is available via IM, email, or telephone.  The pay on my favorite shift (third) is better than I've been offered anywhere else.  I also have 5 accounts, so if one doesn't have any work, I can generally find work on another.  I am an IC, but they do offer the employee option, last time I heard, and the premium for health insurance for a family was less than $400/month. 


My only fear is that they are sharing the work with so many other companies that I'm afraid of what is going to happen to the individual MTs like myself.


These are my experiences and my opinions, and are not open to debate.  But, I am happy to share the good, the bad, and the really UGLY about any experience that I have had with any MT company in the past 2 years.  Overall, it has been a true temporary nightmare, but I am very happy now at Focus, and have decided to stop searching for greener (USA-based) pastures; I'm not so sure there ARE any.


 


Focus
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Focus
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focus? What's focus?

Focusing and not getting distracted is my toughest chore.  When I'm on point and working, I'm a great producer.  It's the getting there and staying there that's an issue for me.


I found a clock chime program that chimes every hour.  I initially got it to remind me to get up and stretch so I couldn't get so stiff, but it helps me stay focused, too.   When I want to get silly and I let myself get distracted, I know that I'll have 5 minutes coming with the next clock chime, so I get myself back to work a little bit easier.


Don't focus on them. Or if you do, move your
mouse up and down really, really fast to see if it gives you motion sickness. LOL
Focus Infomatics Inc.

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