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Listen - most men have more selfish ways than women. sm

Posted By: Happily Married - 19 years. on 2006-05-14
In Reply to: Look, if you are single and don't have a man in your life - be GLAD! - Mad as you know what

I can remember when my teens were small, my husband would moan and groan whenever I took time away from the home and "went out." To be honest, we were young and immature then - mature enough to get married and have children, but NOT mature enough in our married relationship.

Sometimes selfishness disguises itself as insecurity. Maybe, he is a little insecure and not as selfish as you think. It took me a long time to recognize it and I did not recognize it until I "matured" enough to see it.

Just wanted to give you something to think about!

BTW - Marriage is hard work. It is not easy, especially in the first 7-10 years, and it is even harder with small chiildren. You need to communicate, communicate, and communiate some more as well as show each other love and respect, it will become a smoother ride!

Been married for 19 years now and would not want to live a day without my Mr. McDreamy!
Good luck.


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Correction - Men and women cheat - men get caught - women don't

I know more women who cheat than the other way around, and the difference is that no one knows about it unless THEY tell them.


Not Selfish

I am not being selfish, i have two other children in the public school system and that is where they want to be, but for my son Home schoolig has been the best thing for him.


Each child is different and as parents we always have to do what is best for our children for they our the future.


 


Selfish??? Only if...

it's selfish to expect to be compensated fairly  for your hard-won expertise and hard work.  SHEESH!!   However, it may well be called foolish, with the bosses' excuse of "hard times"  for not wanting to do the right thing.


 


 


Again, we agree. Very selfish to think they should have every holiday off, as if they are sm

the only ones with a family or a life.  And yes, when there is a chance to line their pockets, they will be the first to suck the work dry. 


I guess it doesn't matter.   At least I know I'm doing the right thing.  I take breaks and have my family time and everyone understands that is just the nature of the business.   I guess once people quit getting sick at times it is inconvenient for us, we can all take off.


My dad is an immature, selfish idiot.
Entertained himself by making fun of me and laughing at me when I got upset, doesn't know how to carry on even the simplest conversation, has been telling the same tired jokes for 40 years for lack of anything to say and goes to bed at 2PM because there are people in the house and he can't keep up with a discussion like a normal human being. I grew up with no self esteem and married the first abusive, selfish, hateful idiot that I came across because I thought that was all the better I could do.

Thank goodness I saw what was going on with me and why and have been straightening out my life for the past 12 years or so and avoid my dad (and the rest of my dysfunctional family) at all cost.

My dad = a waste of oxygen.
That is not selfish, it is something called LOVE.
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Strike at this time is selfish
I think that during this hard time for the country, anyone who is going to strike, ie. kick and scream till they get what they want, are being selfish. There are SOOOO many unemployed right now and sooo many more running the risk as well. I understand not wanting to take cuts, etc. but face it people, that is what a lot of people in this country are resorting to because they have no other choice. Many, I am sure, would be HAPPY to have a job...and these people want to quit working till they get their way? And these people are the people who preach about patient care? - just my opinion
Women, especially women of childbearing

age (especially this woman) prefer indoor plumbing and a bit of privacy rather than using a port-a-potty.   I met a woman recently, she and her husband built the house behind me.  She is also a master mechanic and does landscaping, all traditional male professions.  She is a bit rough around the edges and I would never have pictured her with the man who is her husband. 


I know a few male MTs and if they aren't gay, they missed a good chance. 


Less than 1 yr, spoiled selfish baby vs confirmed bachelor
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I believe there are many ways
we have benefited from others coming to America. We have a specialist at our Children's Hospital, that is world renowned for rebuidling throats and trachea's for kids after haveing had a trach tube...guess he should have stayed in Africa, in your way of thinking?
That goes both ways, though.
I don't know how many times I set aside an entire day because the company told me there would be work only to sit there all day long checking in every 15-30 minutes for nothing.  There are days when I make $5 and days when I make $200.  If I don't have work within an hour or two of my shift starting, I turn off the computer and leave for the day.  I'm not going to be on call for free just because the companies decided to call us ICs for their own tax break purposes.  The same goes for the cherry picked leftovers.  I'm not working for $7 an hour while someone else is cranking out the lines by taking all the good reports and dictators.
Sometimes you can have it both ways.

I used to work for a Jewish lawyer and received Jewish holidays off (paid), along with all other paid holidays (including Christmas.)


The difference is that Christmas is a FEDERAL holiday, in fact, the ONLY religious FEDERAL holiday where most people are paid regardless of their religious beliefs.  So people of other religious beliefs celebrate the *secular* Christmas, which is supposed to mean happiness, charity, gift-giving and especially tolerance.  Your post gives me the impression that you want to investigate and judge every American's religious beliefs and deprive them of the holiday if their beliefs don't match yours.  This is a pretty scary thought, especially because of the recently discovered practice of the government's illegal wire-tapping and spying of Americans under the guise of terrorism.


So maybe this issue isn't really about Christmas at all.  Maybe it's just about personal freedom, and personally, I find what's happening in this country to Americans almost as terrifying as the terrorists themselves. 


I don't think we can have it both ways.

I didn't see Frontline but have read and discussed the WalMart issue in depth over the years.


As I understand it, what separates WalMart from other large department and grocery stores is their business practices. WalMart dictates the price they're going to pay manufacturers for the goods going on the WalMart shelf. If the manufacturer doesn't cut his price to meet WalMart's demands, the store will just move on and stock a different company's brand. (So maybe Bounty cut a deal to get their product distributed thru WalMart but Marcal paper towels couldn't, for example.) The manufacturer is then faced with having to trim his margins while producing more to meet the higher distribution of having WalMart's business. Some companies are much more able and willing to do that than others.


But there is a mentality there that I just personally have a problem with.


To me it's like the hospital telling the MTSO that they're only going to pay 10 cents a line, period. The MTSO will have to slash her profits and likely the rates she's giving to her ICs or employees in order to keep the work coming in. OR, the MTSO may decide it makes more sense for her to get ICs that are willing to work at a much lesser rate (like those in India) so she can keep her business profits steady. This forces the MTSO's hand in a way that I feel is unjust, as her options are quite limited. No business owner or worker wants to go backward income-wise as the years pass, but this is the kind of thing that WalMart is doing to business people. It sounds to me like many hospitals and physician practices do business the WalMart way, and I think we need to walk the talk. If you shop at WalMart to save a few cents, do so knowing that you're supporting a company policy in the process. I do shop there on occassion, I admit, but I keep it to a minimum because I don't want to contribute to WalMart's success. 


Good opportunity, while I have the soapbox, is to share something that has been on my mind for years as this offshoring issue has snowballed. I think the saddest outcome of all this is the illwill that has been fostered among so many us. Some of us get on a high horse about where we shop and don't shop, others resent that they have to run from to store to store, cutting coupons, just to get by every month and they last thing they want is to be preached at. Often there seems that there's not enough compassion or understanding, and to me, this devisiveness among people is just a horrible outcome as the loss of American jobs.


I also cringe when I read posts that just reek of bigotry toward Indians, Pakistanis, Canadians, etc. who wind up with work because a company thousounds of miles away made a business decision. Everyday working people, whether they're in Bangalore, Ontario, or Erie PA, do what's best for themselves and their families. I hope that no matter where we each stand on this complex issue that we don't allow ourselves to become mean-spirited and bitter people over it.


My DH is nothing like my dad, wish he was in a few ways though - sm
but for the most part I have a pretty good guy, just needs to learn to let the little stuff roll off his back. Both my dad and I are Scorpios and born 1 day apart so we are a bit alike, so I kind of went for the opposite of me which at times can drive you nuts but we have the same fundamental values and goals and that is important.
oh there's ways to get out of it....nm

2 ways
If you can go into Control I, that will show you the number of jobs (not the job numbers), but I don't write mine down with that function, I check frequently and would know if I missed a job.

on the other hand, if you have to go to the Dictaphone site, write down every job #, not that it does you any good because you have a lump dictation #, but if you do 40 reports (that you have written down) you should have at least 1000 lines and if it shows (as commonly does) 700 to 800 lines, then something is wrong, but how you prove it beats me.
Two ways. SM
1. Alt insert to add a shortcut. type in the keyword. Go to the text to type box. Hit Ctrl-K. (The next keys you hit will be assigned the shortcut). Hit Ctrl-B (for bold). Then type the text you want bolded. Do it again to turn off bold - hit Ctrl-K, then Ctrl-B.

2. After you name the macro and go to the text to type box, click on "Record" on the right side of the box. Then type your shortcut exactly like you want it, using Ctrl-B as in Word to start and stop the bold function. When finished, click "stop" on the recorder box. It will close and the shortcut will be saved.

You can do this with any Word function - italics, etc.
There are a few ways to do this. sm
Under Settings, Incoming you can specify the location where you want the files to be loaded from. Hit Add and chose either the folder on your computer or the FTP location. Check the file types you want and how you want them to load (manually or automatically). If you choose automatically, you can specific how often you want the program to check for new files. If you choose manually, you can use the Load Now button in the toolbar. This method will only load file types ES provides for selection(.dct, .wav, .mp3, and .aif file types). This will not work if you're working with .dss files (and is very frustrating to me).

The alternative method is to click on the Load button in the toolbar and go to the folder where you files are located. Hold down the Shift key, click on the first file, then scroll to the last file and click on it, while still holding down the Shift key. This will select all the files. Hit load.
Are you going to be looking for ways
If DH could "claim the income and I could be his "employee"? Really! You just want to type unlimited, have the money go to DH and then he just pay you the limit of $900.  And you dont see how this is wrong?  I would not want to hire you, would be afraid you would always be looking for way to cheat me, too. 
two ways
I work part time and in one of my jobs we use VPN which is easy and fine.

On the other we use DocShuttle which is also very easy. These are both pretty small operations.

There are ways
without having to depend on the employer to give you a raise - we all know that's getting harder, if not impossible. But someone asked about actual salaries below, so here's mine - I get 1.10/report for radiology, employee status, transcribe about 140 reports per day, work Monday-Friday and cover on Sunday afternoons for about 80-100 jobs on the understanding that I get to it when I get to it! (I do this so that they don't have to hire another person to cover this, thus possibly having us run out of work during the week.) So this comes to $3400-3500 a month.

When I first started on the account, though, I despaired of ever producing enough to pay my mortgage and car payment - UNTIL one day I kept careful track of how much was actually nose-to-the-grindstone transcribing and how much was getting up and down for snacks, coffee, water, restroom, laundry, meals, and other countless distractions. I was quite shocked!

So I made it a point to sit down and type for 1 hour. Then I signed off, went and did whatever I needed - a 3 to 5 minute break that could include a quick phone call, restroom, water, etc, etc. Then I sat down for another hour and repeated throughout the day. My productivity zoomed! In addition to the obvious reason of only allowing one distraction an hour, that 3 to 5 minute break also cleared my head, was guilt-free, and made me ready for another hour of productive transcribing.

The other point that I wanted to make was that I make it a point to actively think about what repetitive motions I make, like between every job or shortcuts within the job, that could be done faster or more easily.

For instance, since I work off a C-phone and have to log the job #, physician ID, etc, I have an Excel spreadsheet that I set up with columns for Doctor, Patient ID, Job #, and Time (in the order that the "voice" reads them - those of you who do this know what I mean). At the top is a freeze pane that has today's date, today's job count, today's money made (job count multiplied by rate of pay), and then total made for the pay period (a running total). Then, although it seems so obvious now, I discovered ALT+tab so that I didn't have to lift my hand from the keyboard to go from the job log to the platform - back and forth with minimal motion.

Little time-savers like that really add up when you're talking 140 reports a day.

And there there is your Expander program. I still add to mine on a daily basis. I have 1 or 2 doctors (bless their pea-picking hearts) that say the same thing over and over, and those are the ones I build normals for. The others aren't worth it - too much editing. But I do make shortcuts for their favorite phrases (for instance, *no fracture, dislocation, or subluxation*, and another one for *no fracture, subluxation, or dislocation*). Any words that aren't caught by autocorrect and which I continually misspell gets either an abbreviation or a spelling correction.

So anyway, even if your boss doesn't cooperate and give you a raise, keep an eye out for more productive, faster ways to maximize each keystroke, each hand movement, each report, and you may find your income growing (my own personal estimate is by about 40%).



Two ways
I copied this from the Instant Text MS Word board. The link no longer works there so I think it's okay to copy it here.

Adding "-year-old" and "cc:" in AutoCorrect

The method for adding "-year-old" depends on your version of Word.

In Word 97, enter -year-old in the With box, enter yo (or whatever short form you choose) in the Replace box. Type 4yo to expand to 4-year-old.

In Word 2000/2002/2003, enter -year-old in the With box and precede your short form in the Replace box with a punctuation mark, such as a semicolon. Type 4;yo to expand. The punctuation mark backs up and replaces the default space AutoCorrect inserts in later versions of Word.

To keep Word from capitalizing cc:

Put cc: in the With box and type ;c (semicolon c) in the Replace box as your short form. The punctuation mark backs up and replaces the space (or letter) with the first letter of your expansion. In this case, it also tricks Word into not capitalizing the first letter of a sentence when you have that option turned on.

A punctuation mark after the Replace entry eliminates the space at the end of the expansion.

You can use other punctuation marks, however, the semicolon keeps your fingers on the home row keys.

This method also works for symbols (such as the degree sign).

Sleeping......no two ways about it! NM
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Have heard it both ways! - nm
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Loyalty goes both ways
How loyal is the company to you if they pay you peanuts, and how hard would they cry if they decided to "down size" and let you go?
set in their ways, not with God complexes...nm
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It can be done both ways. There are platforms out there
that you can download the sound files, transcribe them, then upload the documents. This would be like an FTP site for upload/download and Word/Express Scribe (or another wav player) to type/listen.

There are also platforms that work "realtime" over the Internet with servers. Some places have you log into their secure system to listen to the sound files and type in a Word-based platform.
let me count the ways
Terrific money! Set my own hours, take off when I want to(obviously I am IC), satisfies my interest in medicine and keeping my mind actively learning every day..
By putting up with him and his ways
you are just enabling him.  Sounds like not only are you doing most of the housework, you're providing most of the financial support.  I think he has got it pretty good and as long as you don't give him an ultimatum why should he change.  You're young yet and there sure is better out there.  I'd cut my loses.  I'd rather be alone than with someone like your SO. 
Sorry in lots of ways.

Through the crystal vision of hindsight, I now shout at the top of my lungs to any newbie even CONSIDERING getting into this field to run, fast and far!!!    The flexibility you get does not, in my opinion, outweight the mediocre pay and the total lack of respect that are given to someone who has achieved a certain level of expertise.  People who have attained their own levels of expertise in other fields do get a commensurate amount of pay and a certain level of respect; we, on the whole, simply do not.  No, girlfriend, I am pursuing leaving this dead-end field and I tell everyone I know how crummy it is and not to even CONSIDER doing this work for a living.  That is just my life experience opinion. 


Blessed in many ways here as well.
If we sit back and count the many good things that have come I would have to agree they far outweight the "bad" things.  My kids were off all this week from school.  I went to pick-up work and the office manager says to me "Your children are off all week from school?"  I said, "Yes due to the holiday on Monday and then conferences all week."  She says, "Well I guess that's okay for you since you DON'T WORK" as she's handing me a stack of "work".  She goes on to say "But what about all of the other mother's who have to work?"  What do they do for daycare?"  I said, "Well, I guess it puts those mother's in a very tight spot?"  Hmmmmm.....  Funny the perceptions people have of us work-at-home transcriptionists.  It is almost like if you do it from home it cannot possibly be work.  Let it be known that I love what I do, but I still consider it very much contributing to society.  By the way, thanks to your sister that factory stays doing what it should be doing, and thank your sister for ME personally for putting in the time and showing that she cares by going to work each and every day no matter how tired she gets!  Thank you for sharing....
There are 2 ways, see inside.

Unless they have been deleted by error, you can go to programs and look for the program folder and find it there.  For example, if you have Yahoo IM, go to the program folder for Yahoo messenger and look for the little happy face icon, drag on drop on the desktop and you will get your icon back.  You can look also in the remove/restore desktop icon in the desktop manager as below and restore them.


To remove unused desktop icons



  1. Open tshared.chm::/shortcutCold.gif>Display in Control Panel.
  2. On the Desktop tab, click Customize Desktop.
  3. Under Desktop cleanup, click Clean Desktop Now.
  4. Follow the directions in the Desktop Cleanup Wizard.

tshared.chm::/note.gif> Notes



  • To open Display, click Start, click Control Panel, click Appearance and Themes, and then click Display.
  • The Desktop Cleanup Wizard displays a list of the desktop icons that have not been used for 60 days or more, enabling you to remove those icons that you don't want on your desktop. You can retrieve icons you have removed by opening the Unused Desktop Shortcuts folder on your desktop.
  • Clear the Run Desktop Cleanup Wizard every 60 days check box if you don't want the wizard to run automatically every two months.
  • You can remove an individual desktop icon by right-clicking the icon and then clicking Delete.
  • To add or remove the icons for My Documents, My Computer, My Network Places, or Internet Explorer, select or clear those items under Desktop icons.

Two ways to find it. sm
The quick way is hold down the Window key on your keyboard and type E.

The second is to open it from the Start, Programs menu. The icon looks like a blue lower case e.

After plugging in the recorder and waiting until the computer recognizes it, open Explorer and locate the recorder. Double click on the recorder and it should show you the files that are in there. Highlight them and drag them to the folder where you want them to be.
A couple of ways...sm
Most of time, I use a pedal bar that my husband constructed for me -- I use my ankle to start/stop the pedal.  Sometimes, I use a foot pedal and place it on an angle so I use my foot.  Just play around with it -- it is really worth it. 
There are ways, if one is *creative*, to
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there are ways to afford it

I had the offices to pay for some of it, such as their own recorders.  But if it works for you on tape - you have advantages too like the personal contact on pick up/delivery that breeds loyalty.  Being on tape makes them harder accounts for people to take from you too. 


There are a couple of ways....

1.  Try installing an anti-adware program (and of course turn on your popup blocker).


2.  Go to control panel, add/remove programs and then check to see if there are any unwanted adware programs that have mysteriously installed themselves on your computer. I do this at least once a week just to keep my PC working properly. 


Hope this helps!


i've done it several ways.
the pillow doesn't work for me -- makes it too high and too hot on my legs.

my fav way now is to fold a small lap blanket in a strip across my knees and put a piece of that rubbery shelf liner under my keyboard on top of it. that puts it at the right angle and it doesn't slide.

sometimes i just get close enough to my keyboard tray to buttress the keyboard against that and it works fine too.

I also have a thin piece of wood (like weatherboard siding) that i use on my lap sometimes, but after awhile it bothers my knees.

i'll tell ya tho, i have almost no prob's with my arms if i get that board in my lap. but i still revert back to the tray because i don't like having to move stuff to get up and down...
A couple of possible ways...
... either select all, copy to the clipboard, and then paste into your WordPerfect document; or SAVE AS and then select the drop-down box and choose WordPerfect as your document type. Or you can save it as an RTF file; I think WP can probably open those. You might lose some formatting, though.
women, sorry - nm
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Its because men R better than women!
HAHAHAHA
You know how when women are together they get their
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Yes, my husband and I have the same ideals, but are different in many ways too - sm
It's good of course to have the same basic beliefs, i.e. how to raise the kids being the most important one, wanting kids if you do have them. I am the calm one and handle stress well, he gets nuts and basically falls apart, good thing I am not like that too. When our daughter was hospitalized in October for a couple of days (they thought she had an infection in her Port-A-Cath), he ended up cancelling a business trip at the gate of the plane basically due to Jen's fever bouncing up and down like a yo-yo, then coming to the hospital on day 2 (I'd been there 30 hours straight at this point), and was a nervous wreak. The doctors now understand why he never comes to the Oncology Clinic with me for Jen's checkups. This whole cancer situation has been unbearable for him. He just can't handle it....guess that is why we're the "stronger" sex, LOL.
There are all kinds of ways to prevent
a pregnancy, not the least is abstinence.   Why people are so irresponsible is beyond me and then an innocent life will suffer because of her stupidity. 
The field is changing in a lot of different ways

this is one of them.  I agree that the doctor is responsible and that it is not my job to make him sound educated. Years ago, it might have been different.  There also was better pay and respect.  Now it is all about TAT and price reduction.  There has to be a balance. 


If one of my regular docs messed up, sure, I'll fix it.  With this type of dictator...nope.  Respect for the patient?  It has to include the doctor too.  If it involves vital information then I'll indicate in the note that the information needs to be verified.  Maybe HE is in the wrong field...not me.


 


oh please - there's lots of ways to get illegal

Tips, found some ways sm
- tips, on the other board, under the Andrews School section, Redpen's tips. They sound good.
If the doctors actually change their ways,
My company has talked to certain doctors and it never does any good. We get told from the clinic that the doctors have been talked to and they are working to resolve the issues, but yet we keep getting the same crappy dictation. It does no good.
Autocorrect can't do that -- you'd have to enter it both ways.
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they are just looking for ways to get hold of our work
I actually got a phone call from a guy with an Indian company looking to do work for me. He got my numbe off of Monster. I had my resume posted LOOKING for a job, not looking for someone to do my work for me. He actually had the nerve to ask me why I didn't start my own business so I could give work to him. Needless to say, I was not very nice by the end of our very short conversation.
Couple of ways to get file into ES.
You can open ES and open the folder that the file is in and then click and drag that file over to ES (drag it to the top white box). You can also try right clicking on the file and selecting "open with" and then choose ES. You should then be able to play the file in ES while working in Word. If this doesn't work, you may need to also check the file extension and make sure ES is set up to play that file type.

As for settings, select "control" from the menu at the top. In the playback tab, you can set the speed it rewinds and fast forwards and set the auto backspace. Click on the control tab to set up your pedal, if you haven't already, or set up hotkeys if you prefer to use the keyboard to play the audio.

Hope that helps at all. Let us know if you still can't get it to play. Good luck!