My niece was involved in a similar situation..sm
Posted By: Just me on 2005-08-15
In Reply to: inappropriate stepfather - uncomfortable and need advice
This man, my father-in-law, her grandfather recently grabbed her breast and butt and tried to kiss her. We all thought he was a saint and could do no wrong. I find it hard to believe that your stepfather just started this behavior. He may have done things like this before. I told my niece to tell her grandmother. It did not go over well but in the end, she believed her granddaughter. She chose to stay with this jerk, but she also still has a relationship with her granddaughter. The granddaughter does not go over there anymore but grandma goes to see her. We've warned other family members to stay away. Later, it came out that he fondled his stepdaughter when she was 14. We have also found pictures of a neighbor in her bikini on his computer. My niece was 25 when this happened. The incident with the stepdaughter was 25 years ago. That's why you should be very careful about your stepfather. I would just tell your mother and stay away from your stepfather. Don't be afraid of the person with the big mouth. This shouldn't be kept a secret. Tell everyone. My husband's family wants to hide this from everyone because they'll think badly of the grandfather. Too bad for him. I've told everyone who will listen. He at least admitted to it. I think everyone who comes in contact with him should be aware that he's a pervert. I wouldn't even talk to the stepfather. Just stay away from him. Good luck in what ever you choose.
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Yes, but this situation involved falsifying information. The above did not. NM
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I am in a similar situation.
I, along with several other employees, have filed a claim in magistrate court. The company, which was a corporation, has now closed its offices, and are denying that they owe us our last paycheck. We are going to court to fight it, but I am not sure what we will be able to do. The labor board told us that since it was a corporation, and since it is now closed, that they cannot help us.
I had a similar situation at one job.
I was hired with a college degree to do customer service. They hired a guy without a degree to be a representative. I gave my notice because he was sexually harassing me, and they were only paying me $1,300 a month to raise my family of four on with no child support, welfare or social security. They gave me a nice raise of $500 a month plus bonuses, but they promoted him to be manager of another store. Shortly after I finally quit them, he got fired big time and they had to hush-hush everything. He was harassing other female employees, had his drug dealer show up at the store demanding money, and even got his wages garnished for child support on his girlfriend even though he was married to someone else. But hey, ethical and qualified women weren't even given a chance at the job. I've always wondered why I could never get ahead in the business world. I don't know if it's my gender or because I'm too nice and do the right thing.
In a VERY similar situation...
I am actually going apartment hunting soon and telling my husband I am leaving. I am going to tell him we can do counseling, but that is up to him. Right now, I cannot live with him, whether we work it out or not. I really don't think we will be able to work it out because in my heart I really don't love him, I care about him, but don't love him.
We have a 3-year-old daughter and she is the highlight of both our days. I am not truly concerned about this affecting her because he will be very close by and will be able to take her whenever he wants. I know he will be good about that.
I cannot tell you to go one way or another, but with my situation, I am truly unhappy and have been for quite some time. The issues we have today are issues we had when we married. They aren't getting resolved and are not going to go away. I am 29 and have my whole life ahead of me. I'd rather spend that time with somebody who will respect me, listen to me, and make me feel safe and secure. Whenever I am upset and could use a hug, my husband looks at me like a dog. At least a dog will lick my face to make me feel better.
Give yourself a period of time to see how things go. If they are not better by then, you need to move on for you and your child.
I wish you well. You deserve better.
I went through a similar situation.
I had worked for this one particular doc for 6 years. I was very dependable, work was always returned on time. I never missed a day. I vacationed when he did. Then one day I went to pick up my tape and his wife called me in her office to give me my check. As she was writing out the check, she told me that "tomorrow we are going to start something new". He was going to be trying some new digital dictation system. I had no clue whatsoever that was coming. I learnt the hard way, keep business as business. I had developed a relationship with the office staff, the doc and his wife, which made the fall even harder. I will never do that again. Now with my other clients, I make sure it is on a business level only.
Sorry for your experience.
Similar situation
I know what you mean. I have the same problem with arthritic fingers. I have so many keyboards trying to find the right one. I am still looking. Years ago Compaq made light touch keyboards, now they are all made the same as other keyboards.. One job, we didn't have assigned desks and everybody would look for those keyboards at work. I saw one at office max but you have to buy the computer with it. Also, thinking of purchasing the flexible keyboard like another poster suggested. You might want to try mini keyboards with flat keys. I use a laptop for that reason. The keys are easier but the laptop is uncomfortable in other ways. Today is an extremely painful day, and the fingers still hurt to type even this small paragraph, so sometimes it just doesn't matter about the keyboard. Another suggestion is to invest in voice recognition software, then just re-dictate the reports to save your fingers. I have that also for painful days, otherwise an Expander is just as fast.
regards,
me
I had a similar situation...sm
If it still feels like it's stuck then drinking liquids will help it move on down. You may have scratched your throat when it got stuck.
When I had a similar event happen to me several years ago, home alone, I slammed by back into the wall hard while waiting for the 911 operator to figure out that I couldn't talk and needed help (they're asking "are you ok and can you speak" doesn't do any good if you can't talk!) After 2 whacks into the wall the stuck food dislodged and I was able to tell them that I was finally fine and to cancel rescue. Sure scared me!!!
Similar situation to yours
My daughter was a patient at an oral surgeon's office. I asked the doctor who did their transcription. That was 13 years ago and I have been doing it ever since. They asked me what I wanted for an hourly rate. Luckily for me, I am considered an employee. I am on their payroll, they do my taxes, and I get benefits, including annual raises.
The office manager is my contact person. I do my work over the internet, so no pick up or drop off. I am the only Transcriptionist for the practice.
I have no TAT. I usually get it back to them the next day, but if I don't no one says anything to me. Then, again, when I return from vacation and days off, I have to catch up the typing from those days.
Good luck to you in your new venture!
Similar situation
Similar situation in my family. My brother works a full-time job for the government, a part-time job on Saturdays and Sundays for a tourist attraction in the area, and then he does every odd job he can after his regular hours on Monday-Friday while my dear sis-in-law sits on her behind (which is getting bigger every day) when she isn't out buying $400 purses and $300 pairs of shoes. This woman has a teaching degree, but it seems she was only focused on getting her MRS degree because she has never taught a day in her life. They eat out every night of the week because she doesn't cook at all (and know you know why his total cholesterol is 800+ and triglyerides are 1500+ in spite of medication). I don't know what she is going to do when my brother kills over dead from working himself so much that he can't take care of himself. Not only that, he has to ask her for spending money. He is as much to blame as she is for not putting his foot down, but it is hard to sit back and see that going on. I don't understand why some people can't realize the rewards in doing something for themselves.
similar situation
My husband is just lazy period. He has no disabilities. He just has no respect for my work, even though MY income pays the majority of the bills.
I finally resorted to taping hanging a poster board on the back of my chair that says, "QUIET PLEASE. I AM WORKING." Then underneath it in smaller but still highly visible letters "If you can't find it, can't reach it, don't know where it is - you DON'T need it."
The kids were much easier to train than the husband. Occasionally I have to point to the sign. DUH!
similar situation
AMEN sister!
My husband had a three day weekend because of Easter and what do you think he did ALL day EVERY SINGLE day? He laid in bed and watched television, slept, and did absolutely NOTHING else.
I worked Saturday AND Sunday on my days off because the accounts needed extra help. I also made dinner both days, cleaned the living room, did 12 loads of laundry since nobody else can seem to figure out how to do laundry, even after showing them all numerous times.
I also had to do all of the dishes, dusted, and then HE has the !alls to come out yesterday evening while I was finally able to sit down and relax for a bit and ask me what was for dinner.
I made dinner for the kids and then the dogs got the what was left over. He got nothing!
I've been going thru similar situation for the last
3 years. Don't be too sure that the person does NOT want to be found. Nobody is that stupid, especially after this amount of time. My person ended up being a criminal - in and out of jail, and still lives in my township. Her car is still registered at my address with motor vehicle - police come by regularly for one reason or another as her kids are criminals as well. I still get all her mail, all her bills - now obviously in collections, etc. I have been to the Postmaster, filed formal complaints with the state head post office - Newark, NJ in my case, and even gone to the police for their help. I DO NOT WANT this person's mail. Same as you - I get nowhere. I either throw it out or leave it in box with a note on it. I also have "accidentally" opened up some mail and called the collectors to tell them wrong address. It is NOT against the law as long as it is accidental - believe me, I've checked with the PO and a lawyer and police - as long as I give no details about her. Just that this address is not valid. It may seem silly to other's reading, but it is a very frustrating situation to live with. I feel your pain!
Similar situation, my take on things.
I have a a circle of friends where I cannot abide by one of the people who is affiliated with the group. Personal reasons, but significant ones. In the same situation, though I'd love you, I'd not want to see anything that belonged to me or mine on "her." You need to respect that, and you need to make the choice whether to keep clothes for you and not pass them on, or not take them at all. It's not easy.
in similar situation and am buying her out for the account
I am in a similar situation but have a very strong noncompete clause. I took over the account, and we are negotiating a price for the takeover. She promises she will be fair. I consider the money as paying for a business consultant, as I still can learn a lot from her and borrow her transcriptionists for overflow. This makes everybody happy-the client, the service owner, and helps me. It also keeps my integrity, as I did not "steal the account."
I agree. Just thought someone might have been similar situation before. nm
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I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I got divorced. nm
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I totally agree and had a similar situation.
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I had a similar situation last year I "adopted" my dad's dog - sm
when he remarried. His dog, a beautiful male husky, and my dog, a choc. lab, got along already but wrestled a lot, could look pretty nasty but they were rough playing, at least when I visited up in PA they did this. Down at my house in VA, during a visit they did not "fight" so much. We also had a 15-y/o schipperke at the time (has since put her to sleep). The husky has become a bit more aggressive, which is unusual for the breed, but only towards other dogs. He is fine with our lab though. The two of them would gang up sometimes on the schipperke but she was a fiesty dog and could take care of herself even though she was a 1/4 of the size of the other dogs. They eat in the same room though on opposite sides, they have fought over treats, bones, so I try to be careful and aware. The husky used to be a super picky eater and now eats well with no fussiness anymore since he has competition. I am glad we have never had any major problems (the husky does want to eat the cat and almost did, luckily I was right there and got the cat out of his mouth before damage could be done). Your dog is probably just trying to show who is the boss. Dogs had a pack order, and top dog is the boss. I suspect your dog is trying to establish that. They can get pretty nasty with each other in establishing their pecking order. We have had 3 dogs usually most of the time over the past 10 years, and it is interesting to watch the dogs around the one "in charge". We had 2 schipperkees originally, and the older one was the boss, then we got a husky (who has since died) and she put that dog in its place and the husky was actually scared of the sckipperke, even though the husky was 2-3 x the size of the other dog. If she does not get better, you will probably have to separate them, no fun for your dog, but if she can't not be aggressive towards them she should not get near them. We gate the dogs in the dining room/utility room (joined together) at night so the husky can't eat the cat, and when they are in the house we make sure that the cat is in a safe place so she doesn't get killed by the husky. (the lab and the cat are fine together, the lab will actually bathe the cat, funny to watch). It makes like interesting, of course it would be better if they would all get along but they are animals and following their instincts. Good luck.
You can also visit the new forum WAHM for folks in a similar situation, too. nm
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My niece does this
My 14 year old niece does this to me, I finally blocked her from my incoming list and she doesn't know the difference.
get yourself on the phone now. your niece will thank you later. MUCH later probably, but oh well.
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I wish my niece would read this...
she has a Sheltie that does NOTHING BUT BARK, at every pin drop, every car that goes by, every shadow that passes. It truly is enough to drive you nuts.
Would your niece be interested ...sm
in talking with one of the agencies that works with pregnant women that really goes in depth with her about the options? If you know anyone who had an abortion try to have her talk to them because I've not known any woman who had one that didn't wonder about the baby and what the child may have been like if they hadn't aborted it, and despite what the abortion doctors try to say - it is a surgical procedure and ends the life of a child and there are emotional implications from that. She should also talk with women who have given up a child for adoption as well. If she's serious about not wanting to keep the child then she should consider adoption and realize that there are resources out there to help her through the pregnancy, including the pregnancy bills, and alternatives that will give the child to a loving home instead of a dumpster.
pregnant niece
I had a similar situation and my niece was 19 at the time. She was not sleeping around, was with 1 guy but not using OCP or anything else because it was her sexual relationship and she thought she "couldn't get pregnant." She had sex ed and was told better, but apparently she listened to her stupid friends instead of her teachers.
I'm a little more hardened than you - I would have told her that I was taking her advice and minding my own business.
I'm not opposed to abortion. I think it is much more of a sin to bring a child into the world when you cannot support s/he and do not love s/he unconditionally.
Your niece made a mistake, a big one, but she should not have to forfeit her chance at a life because of a sexual encounter. If she can't remember to take the pill, she needs to get a patch. But she should be using a barrier method of some kind to prevent STDs.
The fact that she is not responsible enough to use birth control should be a clue that she is not responsible enough to raise a child.
My niece is a product of IVF (sm)
I remember only too well my sister-in-law's tears as she and my brother-in-law (husband's brother) struggled to have their first child. Finally, they tried IVF and had their first daughter, my niece and my Godchild. She just made her First Communion a couple of weeks ago. They had two more girls after her, both through IVF. (They are 7, 5, and 3). I know those 3 little girls are so adored. Mom and dad are going to be paying that debt down for quite a while, but I know that they, and I'm sure everyone who has gone through the same, will say that it was worth it.
WRONG - my niece does it and you can
only have so many parties before your friends and/or relatives are ready to choke you. LOL. It's really a pyramid and good if you get in at the beginning. Not a good time to sell it now - it will be a thing of the past very soon.
I really have to clarify that my niece..sm
really isn't the kind of girl who would send anything suggestive.
I despise ain't! My niece says it sometimes and
She's way too smart to talk like that, and my kids spend a lot of time with her, and now I've heard them say it a few times too. grrrrr. I'll have to tell them that little riddle - they'll love that!
My niece is getting married later this month BUT they are
actually only throwing themselves an engagement party as their BIG wedding and reception will be next year. They are really getting married this year, I wanted that clear, they just have to save for their big fairy tale wedding. Anyway, we're invited to this little ceremony this year along with the "engagement" party. What is an appropriate gift for this kind of occasion? I'm not a cheapo but want something appropriate as next year are the big doings and of course the gift then should be bigger and nicer, or go with the nice gift now and the appropriate 1-year anniversary gift next year. Any ideas ladies or gents? Thanks.
It's rough. I have a niece who's having trouble. sm
The sad part about being a newbie is all the hype the MT schools throw at you about "You can work at home! You can make $40,000 a year!, blah, blah, blah!"
I have a niece going through the same thing. She paid for school, graduated with top honors and couldn't find a thing for months.
What a lot of the MT schools don't tell you is about the real world. The big companies are looking for turnaround time and making money. "Newbies" (and by the way I hate that word) are a risk.
I just started working at home after 15 years in the medical field, but had to start as a receptionist after spending 8 years as a legal secretary/paralegal. It didn't take long for the docs to realize that I could spell and I could type and I offered to try and type their reports. With a lot of help from the docs I found I loved doing MT. I took on a part-time MT at home job at nights 1 1/2 years ago for a local person, took a medical terminology class and then took the "plunge."
So anyway, (sorry to go on so long), my advice to you is to try to find something locally, if you can, even just signing patients in at a local hospital part time and offer your MT knowledge and typing ability to human resources. Once you have even 6 months of experience, I'm sure you will be taken more seriously.
My niece did eventually find part time work and is working at home, but she's getting paid 5 cents a line.
Best of luck to you.
A co-worker of my niece took in a family
When she went to work, they cleaned her out, including her kitchen utensils!!!
My niece was born at 4:16 this morning.
My sister in law gave birth to my niece at 4:16 this morning and I am sure that people will raise their eyebrows everytime she tells someone her DOB.
my niece is an ultrasound tech and has sm
been for about 8-9 years. When she went in there was a shortage of ultrasound techs (kind of like the MT profession). I think her schooling was 2 years. She had to take some pre-requisite stuff that she didn't have in highschool. She makes great money. But she told me that there is getting to be an overabundance of US techs now. Use to be you had to go through the whole radiology program just to even think about being an ultrasound tech. Because of the shortage they took the US tech out of the radiology program and started programs independently. I am wondering if US is going to go the way of MT and there will be so many of them and not enough jobs.
On the positive side of it, they have many options available. There are traveling US techs that go from state to state or just facility to facility. Go for it!
I would think you'd make lots of money. My niece had her sm
eyelids and eyebrows done a few years ago, and I don't know what the final cost was, but the DOWN PAYMENT was $800!!!
Good luck! 
I have a niece studing to be a PA. I told her to call me when she starts dictating sm
I told her to be sure to ENUNCIATE, spell difficult names. I hope that will give us one PA that will be clear. LOL
I am involved, but that
has never kept me from seeing all sides of any issue. Getting a CMT may not be for you, but it is worthwhile if you feel you want to do it. I think that the nastys you see here are only an opinion and that people should research the issue .. whatever it might be .. and make an informed decision. Having a CMT has worked for me and I know as many MTs who are very proficient at what they do who do not have one for whatever reason they chose not to test. I do not get in their faces about it nor do I expect them to get in mine. Some days I think we forget to respect each other as professionals.
Try 12 cpl and no sweating involved. LOL
I'm happy.
I'm not allowing myself to be taken advantage of at all.
What a sucka** attitude you have.
I don't think much talking is involved, if ya know what I mean.
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hi, i'm not involved in this argument, not trying to be mean
in? Congrats on getting a degree, I think thats wonderful! A lot of hard work.
There is no equipment involved.
I use my own computer. I don't use any of their stuff.
I wish I could, but it would implicate others who don't want to be involved
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Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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There are several factors involved
I believe the average line rate is anywhere from 100 to 200 lines an hour. The software platform you are using, what type of report you are typing, whether you have templates you can use, whether you have an expander, all factor into this. If you type letters only and have no expanders, for example, expect the lower range. Those with many standard templates and heavy use of Expanders can expect to type much more than that.
The other poster is correct in that a lot of the national companies expect 150 lines an hour.
Get him involved in either a hobby, or doing
volunteer work. Let him do for those less fortunate and maybe his life will seem pretty good. If he feels needed that may change his whole attitude and everything else with just fall into place.
He might also need some adjustments in his meds. It s/l there is some depression involved, but it could just be situational and the counseling will help with that. Meds could possibly diminish his libido and it would be worth talking to his doctor to see if that could be the case in his situation.
Maybe you could make him a list of little things to do to help out, or plan the meals and have recipes on index cards so that he can actually prepare the meal. If he is home all day he needs to at least be doing the daily chores.
Because of all the variables involved, sm
I think it's ridiculous that your team leader would post such a thing. Every MT's situation is different--different accounts, shifts, work types, hours, etc.--and a team leader should know that. As far as working for a national goes, I feel less "communication" is better. Why stir things up? These companies ought to just let us transcribe and keep their silly emails to themselves. Don't they know the old saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt?" Maybe your team leader needs more real work to do. Don't let it bother you. Just do your part and forget about it.
One time I told a national bigwig (because my opinion was requested) that if I were asked to draw a cartoon which described this company's relationship with its MTs, I would draw the MT in a cage, sitting at her computer, with a (particular) "suit" poking the MT with a big stick, saying "They produce more when they're angry."
Fortunately now I am a happy IC with a very nice company that treats its MTs with respect. Ya have to kiss a lot of toads in this life, ya know?
Just what would be involved in copywriting our
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LOL There is alcohol involved in that
message. Lucky girl.
There is a lot of training involved.
I'm not sure a 16-year-old would want to go through that much training. I know I wouldn't have. Are you a transcriptionist? I could be way off base here, so please don't be offended if I am, but I'm wondering if you believe some of the hype that a person can just sit down and do medical transcription. If you've been misled that way, I apologize, as it is much more difficult than that. It's a very common misconception that it's an easy job.
There are so many variables involved that you
really can't compare things. A lot of the people making that money have their own accounts or are working many hours. You don't know if the person making 60,000 is an IC and has to pay their own taxes. IC positions generally pay better than an employee position. One acccount may not pay for spaces or headers. You might actually be doing the same amount of lines, but they aren't being counted.
At one time it wasn't that difficult for someone to make that amount of money if all the variables were favorable. These days it is harder because line rates are overall lower and companies are always reconfiguring how to count lines in their favor.
If you are pleased with the amount of $$ you are making that is all that really matters and I would not feel that you are inadequate.
the wifey involved is always, always
and I mean it. Every time I've had contact with an office and the wife works there, things are not as they should be. They like to hole the money up as if they'll miss a shopping spree they could take on that cash or something! It's sooo true!
These physicians are loaded, and the wives don't take kindly to the money flying out of the window or at least that is their perception.
I'd leave that sucker like he was yesterday's trash.... He deserves nothing and didn't even deserve the cut in rate.. what a jerk!
Yes,, I know that there is no 'plastic' involved!
Geez!
Are you a naive blonde?
I meant 'plastic' is short for 'plastic surgery'.
BTW in this 'face lift' the sutures with the 'hooks' are left in place.
It is very seldom that the surgery or lift or whatever the expected results are achieved.
Either no results are seen at all or it is so obvious that one can spot the 'plastic' miles away.
I would NEVER do it.
Are you so desperate to improve your looks?
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