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Posted By: XXX on 2007-08-25
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    "take one line from a post and use it against the person" - read your own quote
    nm
    Yes, I read your post, and I just re-read it, and I've copied and pasted for you in case

    you've forgotten your own words! Your post above is 100% different "flavor" to it, now all positive and cheery! Your first post was 100% doom and gloom every which way, including "raining on your parade", and "if you want to go forward"...God, sounds like she's talking about jumping into oncoming traffic! Here is your quote:


    My first boss (the one who hired me as a new grad) gave me some words of wisdom that I haven't forgotten. She said that transcribing at home with small children NEVER works under any circumstance. Either the work will suffer or the parenting will suffer.


    ****


    How can the word "NEVER" in caps be interpreted in any positive way? You took about 8 paragraphs to cover every aspect and completely dash this poor woman's dream.  I'm not blind, I'm not talking about day care at all, I'm talking about the total negativity of your original post! You know exactly what I'm talking about, cause you added some sugar to your second version! And that's much nicer than the first!


    For the person who thinks Codex is no threat. I advise you read



    HON. RON PAUL OF TEXAS
    BEFORE THE US HOUSE OF REPRESENTATIVES
    July 11, 2005

    Henry Lamb- A Great Freedom Fighter Documents how your Dietary Supplements are Under Attack

    Mr. Speaker, I urge my colleagues to read "Your dietary supplements: Under attack again" by Henry Lamb, which I am inserting into the record. Mr. Lamb explains the threat to American consumers of dietary supplements and American sovereignty by the Codex Alimentarius commission, commonly referred to simply as Codex. The United Nations created Codex to establish international standards for foods and medicines. Just last week, representatives of the United States government agreed to a final version of Codex's standards on dietary supplements which, if implemented in the United States, could drastically reduce Americans' ability to obtain the supplements of their choice. Members of the American bureaucracy may be hoping to achieve via international fiat what they cannot achieve through the domestic law-making process--the power to restrict consumers' access to dietary supplements. American bureaucrats may gain this power if the World Trade Organization, which considers Codex "guidelines" the standard by which all other regulations are judged, decides that our failure to "harmonize" our regulations of dietary supplements to meet Codex's recommendations violates international trading standards! This could occur despite the fact that American consumers do not want to be subjected to the restrictive regulations common in other parts of the world, such as the European Union.

    This article is typical of Henry Lamb's work. For almost twenty years, beginning at an age when most Americans are contemplating retirement, Mr. Lamb has worked to expose and stop threats to American liberty, sovereignty, and prosperity. Mr. Lamb became involved in the battle for liberty when, as the CEO of a Tennessee construction company, he founded a state association of contractors to work against excessive regulations. In 1988, Henry Lamb founded the Environmental Conservation Organization to defend true environmentalism, which is rooted in the truth that there is no better steward of the environment than a private property owner, from those who used the environment as a cover for their radical statist agendas. Since 1992, Mr. Lamb and ECO have focused on the threat to economic liberty and self-government posed by the radical global environmental agenda.

    Henry Lamb works to further the cause of liberty by giving speeches around the country, editing an on-line magazine, making numerous television and radio appearances, and writing a weekly column to inform his fellow Americans of the latest scheme to undermine their freedoms. Mr. Lamb is the model of a citizen-activist, and all who wish to become involved in the battle for freedom can learn from his example. In conclusion, I once again urge my colleagues to read Mr. Lamb's article to learn about the need to protect American consumers from Codex, and I thank Mr. Lamb for his tireless devotion to the cause of freedom.

    YOUR DIETARY SUPPLEMENTS: UNDER ATTACK AGAIN (from WorldNetDaily, June 11, 2005)

    (By Henry Lamb)

    The Codex Alimentarius Commission sounds like one of those shadowy, sinister organizations conjured up by one-world-government nuts to scare people.

    Truth: It is!

    The Food and Agriculture Organization and the World Health Organization created this commission in the early 1960s to set standards for food safety and to ``harmonize'' the laws of member nations. The commission was endorsed by U.N. Resolution 39/248, which says:

    ``When formulating national policies and plans with regard to food, governments should take into account the need of all consumers for food security and should support and, as far as possible, adopt standards from the ..... Codex Alimentarius. .....''

    The Codex Alimentarius Commission consists of delegates from 163 member nations representing 97 percent of the world's population. It meets every two years, either in Rome or Geneva. Between meetings, the commission is governed by an executive committee that directs the activities of its many committees.

    Of immediate concern is the ongoing effort to bring dietary supplements in America under the control of standards set by this commission. Dietary supplements generate a $17 billion industry in the United States, which affects more than 150 million consumers, according to Congressional findings (H.R. 2485). Proposed procedures and standards could virtually destroy this market and deprive millions of Americans of the supplements they want to use.

    The European Union Directive on Dietary Supplements, which becomes law in August, severely restricts the types and quantities of supplements that may be legally sold. Most forms of vitamins C and E, for example, are not available, or are available only in extremely small doses. If current plans proceed on course, American consumers are in for a shock.

    How can this little-known international commission control what consumers buy in the United States?

    An even less-known agency, deep within the bowels of the U.S. Department of Agriculture is responsible for U.S. participation in the Codex Commission and designates delegates to each of the commission's committees. Barbara O. Schneeman is the delegate to the Codex Committee on Nutrition and Food for Special Dietary Uses.

    The effort to regulate dietary supplements has been under way for more than a decade. In 1994, Congress adopted the Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act, which kept supplements beyond the reach of the drug police. In the past, Codex recommendations have been non-binding. Now, however, the Codex Alimentarius Commission is teaming up with the World Trade Organization to bring international enforcement to the dietary-supplement battle.

    Ironically, it was primarily the U.S. that brought the WTO into existence in 1994, as the successor to GATT, the General Agreement on Tarriffs and Trade. The WTO agreement specifically requires that the member nations--including the U.S.--conform its laws to meet the requirements of WTO decisions. Failure to conform results in stiff financial penalties. The Codex Commission and the European Union want the WTO to enforce Codex standards, which fly directly in the face of the Dietary Supplement Health and Education Act.

    Pascal Lamy of France was just selected as director general of the WTO. Lamy served as a member of the French Socialist Party's steering committee and was chief of staff and representative of the European Commission for President Jacques Delors. Since 1995, he has served as a member of the Central Office of the Mouvement Européen (France) and as a member of the European Commission, responsible for trade.

    The Codex Commission will be meeting in Rome July 4-9 to adopt the final rules on dietary supplement use. Dr. Carolyn Dean, president of Friends of Freedom International, will attend this meeting and return to the U.S. just in time to present her report to the Sixth Annual Freedom 21 Conference in Reno, July 14-16.

    The Codex Alimentarius Commission's reach is much broader than dietary supplements. Its committees are also working on standards for pesticide residue, labeling of all kinds of foods, food additives and nutrients, veterinary medicine and drugs, as well as standards and methods for analysis. The function of this organization is to establish standards for all food worldwide and to enforce those standards through the power of the World Trade Organization.

    Few people know that there is such a thing as the Codex Alimentarius Commission. It was created to promote food safety in international trade. It is on the brink of becoming an Orwellian bureaucracy--far worse than the worst fantasies of the one-world conspiracy theories.

    The Codex Alimentarius Commission is neither fantasy nor theory; it is real.

    http://www.house.gov/paul/congrec/c...05/cr071105.htm

    __________________

    Thanks for your post. This person is....
    wicked.  To suggest that I shouldn't have had kids because they go to rec camp during the summer.  They LOVE IT!  It's a huge program and very popular.  Jeez, kids of 10,11,and 12 yrs old have expanded their world just a bit from sitting next to mommy and coloring and playing by her feet.  They want to be busy and with other kids.  Oh well, I guess it takes all kinds.
    How comes this person wasn't reported to the monitor board? I told someone to read the red note on
    I'll probably get banned for writing this, but my comment was much milder than this. I didn't call anyone any names. What's up with this?
    what a lovely post....thank you, QA person!
    nm
    I think this a transparent post by the person
    looking to find a few new suckers.

    I don't even have to go to the site to know it's a fake.

    You've "earned" $60? Or, you've RECEIVED $60 in hard cash...

    Which?


    RIPOFFS - How many others got taken by this person. PLEASE POST HERE. no mess.
    ll
    So far HappyMomMT, you are the only negative person in regards to this post. SM
    I was just telling her my opinion and my experience. My kids were 11 months apart, two girls. They fought all the time over toys and attention. For anyone to say it is not hard to work an 8-hour shift with two kids at home, that is insane. And what's even more insane is to say that we dont care or love our kids and that we have no motherly instincts. Jesus. I love my kids more than life itself. EVeryone is fine and happy now that they are in day care and get to socialize and not be on their own all the time. Of course I was here to help them with their needs but the fact of the matter is, they had to be left alone for every line I transcribed. And when are transcribing 1200 lines a day, that is a lot of time. I am not a kid-hating MT. And I hardly EVER post on this board.

    If I didnt have to work and had my kids home with me I would be a great stay-at-home mom as I do have mothering skills. However, to stay at home and not be able to use those mothering skills because I am tied to a computer, that is not good for the kid.


    I am sure there are a lot of MTs who can work around their kids schedules. I am not one of them. Like I said I was just stating my experience to the poster. I do believe that it is best to place the kids in a place where they can be tended to while you work. I will believe that till I die. That is my opinion. Your opinion is obviously differnet but please, and I dont mean to sound mean or nasty, please dont go and accuse people of not caring or loving their children and call them kid-hating MTs. You sound very immature.
    WHY is this person allowed to post on the equipment board?
    q
    My 1st post was to post about person who has
    z
    no flame here, no problem - just wanted to post information, how a person uses it is up to them...(n
    XX
    The post about the resume bank has been removed. It was discovered that the person
    who made the post was lying and got caught.  Administrator
    Did you read my post?

    First of all there was tear gas canisters thrown by the guardsmen into the crowds and they were thrown back at the guardsmen.  That is documented in articles, (look on line) and by first hand eye witnesses that were there. 


    Anyway, my post was not about what exactly went on at Kent State.  I was using that as an example of how your child could go to college and find themselves in a position of danger.  Serial killers, rapists, what have you.  It was in response to a post about how Natalee went to Aruba and found trouble but that probably wouldnt be likely at a college.  OKAY?????  I never said people didnt have the right to protest or that war was good OR that the gov was responsible or not. 


    I am all for protesting and exercising our rights as private citizens of this free country.  But somewhere along the way from my original post, someone got off on a completely different subject.  this was about natalee.


    Did you even READ my post?
    It's been a great, lucrative career for me. I've loved it from the start and still do. I've mentored and encouraged many along the way. I'm a QA specialist, college instructor and a consultant. I'll exceed 50K this year and have a very flexible schedule. No weekends, no evenings, and take off when I want. Additionally, I've been at home with my kids all this time. I've worked my way to the top and I'm good at what I do. No gloom and doom here. The point I made (that you somehow missed) was that times have changed. It's much more difficult than it used to be and sometimes it's nearly impossible to get a break. I'll repeat myself--I work for a private college. We trained many great MTs. We were FORCED to drop our program because of job market for new graduates is so poor. It's not too difficult to place a graduate in an in-house position (I teach in a large metropolitan area), but few women enter this profession with working in-house as their goal. Tuition at a private college (students could earn a certificate or an associate's degree) is very, very expenstive. No, you don't HAVE to spend thousands and thousands, but many students do. Then when they graduate, many are faced with harsh reality. I'm not SPECULATING on this; I've seen it happen time and time again.

    The daycare issue is a personal choice and has been argued into the ground. We all know it's difficult for an MT to be productive and accurate with a 2-year-old whining in our ear. Some of us make it work; others can't. Making an informed decision requires hearing stories from ALL sides.

    Oh my!! I think we should all NOT read the new post at the top! Looks like another
    flamer to me! Now its gonna spin into birth control issues and world over population!  I'm not mad at anyone! I am happy! Please be happy, too!!  I will try warm milk, but just in about 6 hours when I'm hitting the hay!
    Are you the OP? Yes, I read your post.
    I didn't even say anything about "correcting their wrong crap." (Nice structure, by the way.)

    The question was "Why go to MT School." I answered it.
    1. It gives you more flexibility/choices in employment.
    2. You learn relevant aspects of medical terminology. I didn't learn "perineal" vs. "peroneal" in K-12, nor did I learn that 125 mg of Synthroid is an incorrect dose.
    3. You get experience in hearing what was said and transcribing it accurately. Many MTs lacking an adequate MT education have difficulty separating "what they hear" from "what they said."

    I read your post below, thank you and....

    As for above I should say people do need "protein" in their diet, NOT meat, especially not like this.  I've also been trying to slowly get it out of my diet the past few years and after seeing the images, knowing and hearing those sounds I don't think I could physically eat it.  Its unbelievable to me.  We need people like you out there spreading the word, these animals have no voice so they need us.  Do you know if putting pressure on them by PETA has brought about any changes??


    Do you have ADD? Did you read my post? sm

    I have work now that pays me well and it's more than 10 cents a line (which is considered an "excellent line rate.")  I do not need to "start my own company."


    However, if some companies can charge 18 to 20 cpl (which I have read on this board), why can't they pay quality MTs more than they pay newbies? 


    This is a MUST READ post, the 20 yr exp...etc. nm
    x
    Of course I read your post.

    I can comprehend that you are a WEE bit prone to exaggeration and apparently it is making your life miserable.  If you look through this website you will quickly see that many posts do not concern MQ. 


    My take on this is that right now there are many more MQ posts because of the looming change in our jobs/status/benefits and it's got many of us worried.


    If you want an edited MT forum to your liking I suggest you open your own site.  Otherwise live and let live, please.


    when I read your post...
    I get angry that as transcriptionists we have somehow found ourselves in a no-win situation. There should be no reason you are having to work yourself to death to learn a new job. Only in our profession does one NOT get paid to learn. Any other job you go to, you are paid while training for the job...no matter how much you know the work, places are different and everyone has to learn the routine. And in transcription, this can be VERY, VERY hard to learn a new company and all their account specifics, rules and guidelines and systems!  I feel for you. I understand your feelings about your son. I raised my son alone on my sole salary and worked from sun up to sundown ... but I did stop long enough in between to take care of him. I went to ballgames, I went to school functions, I helped with homework and projects, etc. and when he went to bed at night, I started working again.... well into the night. It was not easy, but I got to be with my son and participate in his school and curricular activities while he was growing up. I would not take ANYTHING for that time and wish I had more of it now. I did what I had to do. Thank goodness in your situation, you have a husband who can share some of this responsibility with you. It's a matter of prioritizing... and it's not easy. It means giving up certain things. I sacrificed a lot over the years .. I don't drive fancy cars, I don't live in a fancy house and I have a very functional wardrobe. I don't compare myself to others. I find that I am much happier than others I work around now who have all those things. My son is much more well adjusted than many of their children also.I am very blessed. We have our children for such a short time, it's not until we get older that we realize exactly how precious every single minute of it was!  I wish for you the best and hope you can make the right decision for you and your family.  May God Bless you.
    I did read the post
    I think she means the virtual money that the MTSO would be pocketing if they had no QA. The money they would not need to be paying to QA if all of their MTs were "up to par" and did their jobs, or the "reality" of a company needing fewer QA personnel when they have more MTs that need less/no QA.

    Do you really think that MTs who send work to QA to save themselves time rather than looking it up and finding it on their own deserve to be paid the same as the MTs who take pride in their work and ensure quality work is sent in by them rather than having someone else complete the job?
    Wow! I have read every post, actually, all day. While
    I did truly feel sorry for you, by night's end I am honestly thinking that you are needing to step back and calm down. This morning you were more "owning" your part in it - that you were late several times, had warnings, etc - by now you are going on and on about contacting the doctor, about some other lady who did so, yadda, yadda. I feel your pain - been there done that - most of us old MTs have, but you need to calm down, still own your part, and be rational. If you want to freak and contact the doctor, then just do it, but I believe every single one of us who posted have advised against it, and given you valid reasons to support our opinions. You ASKED for opinions - that's why you are posting, so though you don't like what I have to say, it is my right as well. Again, your tone has done a huge turn around from your original post, and I can now honestly say I empathize with the MTSO who does not want to keep communicating with you, whether via email or IM. It happens - we get fired. Why not look at it that she gave you another week to earn some $$  - I don't know. Again, you admitted your part in this earlier, and you have been advised many times how unprofessional it is for you to contact HER clients. You did NOT work for the doctor(s) - you worked for the MTSO, like it or not. And never believe what some other fired MT tells you she/he did - I don't know 1 single doctor who would give a hoot about a fired MT, nor who would want to get involved with a 10 foot pole. That's why the doctors use MTSOs - they don't want the bother. So while you may think you are going to get sympathy, and/or revenge, it will most likely backfire on you. Good night! Its late, and I am out of here!
    You should read your own post over again...
    You were the one who attacked me and yes, I got on here for support and advice so I came looking for it. I am not saying that I am going to contact the doctor, only that I feel that angry to do it. I have had my own accounts before, typing directly for doctors, I know what that is like. I have also helped other MT's to try to learn the business and for you to get on here and post that I am obsessed and that you are passing judgment without even konwing a person, wow, you have some problems. This forum is for support and yes, opinions too. Why don't you quit worrying about how many times I am posting? I can post as many times as I would like, on any board that will allow posting. By the way, doctors don't just use MTSO's, there are also doctors who use MT's and have contracts with them. Not all of them hire big companies, I think there are still a few MT's around who have their own accounts. I know I did. I wanted the opportunity to not have to drive around and print and have my work more readily available, so I decided to work for an MTSO. Excuse me for not getting my work in on time a few times, due to a storm or two knocking out my power, a sick child to take to the doctor, a death in the family. Whatever the case may be, let me bow down to the MTSO and beg for forgiveness, is that what you want? I have stated my situation here and you have turned it into your own power trip. What a shame. Who asked for the MTSO to KEEP communicating anyway? They never communicated to begin with!! Would you feel upset if your paycheck were taken away? I guess not. Maybe you have a lot of friends you can call or family you can talk to and get support from. Excuse me for looking for some fellow MT's for venting. Sorry to have upset you!! Are you an MT? I highly doubt it.
    Please read ALL of my post
    I stated that I intend to work as an MT in the evenings and do real estate during the day.
    read my above post....you are right...sm

    You nailed it....and to Itsy Bitsy's post.....if this woman does something horrible to herself, it's not the OP's fault.  Seems to me her neighbor has a long history of this crud......this manipulation, this attention seeking behavior. 


    So, if something horrible does happen....to the OP - not your responsibility, not your fault - do not take her problems on your shoulders.  We are neighbors, there to help.....but not with the bogus.  I'm not saying the neighbor doesn't have head/emotional problems, I'm merely saying her problems DO NOT BELONG TO THE OP......you, JD. 


    Go on about your life and live it to the fullest.  We are not responsible for neighbor's who cannot pull it together and it's interesting that she can pull it together to go on a *fancy cruise* - so it seems to me her problems are used SELECTIVELY by her.


    *steps off soapbox*


    Read the post!

    She said she was behind on her mortage.   


    Unless she's got a very low mortgage, I seriously doubt holding a garage sale and making $500.00 is going to make a dent.  She probably needs to talk to her mortgage lender.  They have all types of programs now a days for people behind in the mortage to help them get caught up so they won't lose their home.  The last thing a mortgage lender wants is a foreclosure on their hands!


    At first, when I read your post...
    I thought maybe you were overreacting but now I'm not so sure. I guess I would play it cool for now but I don't get why your husband wouldn't give you this woman's number? And why would this woman need your husband's cell phone number? To get a hold of his friend? How would your husband be better able to get of him than she would? And, why is he hanging out with this so-called friend who's involving you both in this situation? That is no friend. I say dump the chump. You know too much already, and it could only get worse. Believe me, I've been there.
    Read the post below.
    Take your own advice. How much of a mea culpa do you expect? You don't have to make someone feel bad to make yourself look good.
    I read the whole post sm
    You tried to make me feel back in your original post. Practice what you preach. You could have said what you said in a different way.
    Read the post again - I think it said
    huh, make a loan from someone to tide her over. I think that falls under advice.
    Where to post....please read.

    We seem to have a lot of new posters, which is great.  Welcome everyone!  We also seem to be needing to move a lot of posts so others don't have to wade through them all.  So, below is a general outline of where to post what. 


     


    Main:  Questions/comments regarding MT work. 


    Gab:  Things to chat about, games to play, etc. 


    Company:  Questions/comments regarding specific companies. 


    Medquist:  Posts pertaining to MQ or between MQ employees.


    Word:  Help with terminology, words, s/l. 


     


    That about covers the main ones.  Keep in mind, it's always best to post on the correct board because when we move the post, you may lose some good responses. 


    If you have any questions, please don't hesitate to ask. 


    I think you'd better re-read my post

    who doesn't get it.  I specifically stated I feel for those who are in a situation where they simply can't make enough money to even just live.  I also stated, I don't have new vehicles and sometimes don't get to buy what I'd like because I don't have the money. 


    What I didn't put in was the fact that we just lost our house and the bulk of our posessions to a catatastrophe, so I do know what it's like for things to happen.  You're scathing post was out of line.  How dare YOU judge ME?


    Do you even READ before you post??? (sm)
    The OP CLEARLY states that she has applied "SO many places" in her post.

    Do you even take the time to freaking READ people's posts before you fire off those rancid pearls of wisdom???

    Geez, people like you are what's wrong with society today...a complete lack of compassion or empathy for anyone other than yourself.

    Maybe one day you'll be in the OPs shoes. With any luck, those who reply will offer you just about the same amount of sympathy, decency and basic courtesy you offer others - NONE.


    You know, I read your post...

    I am also an IC that works from a pool.  I have two accounts on my own.  Part of being an IC is the flexibility.


    I would say dig in early in the a.m. if that's when you are most productive.  If the kids have a question, then lend an ear but if it is a matter of you having to leave your workstation for whatever reason, then either tell them to find an alternative this minute or you'll be able to take them at such and such a time. 


    Here's what happens when you go from what you are currently doing to trying to work a schedule, you can't stay focused.  You are so used to the interruptions that once it's quiet, it's hard to stay focused.


    I am feeling ya' and a lot of people will post here that you should only be working and not doing other things, but "other things" are part of life and what makes working at home "work."  A little play on words there, but I think you get the idea.


    I get hugs from my 8 year old and questions from my 14 year old and quite frankly sometimes I don't know if the 14 year old is inside or out, but he's so used to me being here, that I know he's fine and making the right decisions. 


    I think you should read the post again..

    "And now doesn't want to pay."


    OP never stated that they didn't want to pay.  You really jump to conclusions.  She has not worked with this physician before.  It most likely was a simple mistake.  Why jump straight to the idea that they are expecting her to work for free or will "burn" her?  Do you really believe that this office will now go around and "tell everyone that Lisa works for free?"  Do you really believe that?  There is a difference between working for free and giving someone the benefit of the doubt when most likely they made an honest mistake.  And, no, it has nothing to do with being a doormat.  Here is that definition:  One that submits without protest to abuse or indignities.  Every person who has responded to her post has, at a minimum, suggested that she make it very clear that she will not accept this scenario again -- that would be protest.  I'm sorry that you have been burned before, but that's a big stretch at this point in this particular situation. 


    Don't read this post unless you really want to cry...
    ... I have a local account, a small one unfortunately (one doctor, short dictations, only sees patients 2 or 2-1/2 days a week) for which I get paid 25 cents a line as an IC.

    At my full-time job for a national, I make 8.75 cpl plus benefits.

    I make about one-third of my monthly pay on the local account, and I am very glad to have it, because I live in a very high cost of living area, and if I didn't have the local account, I would not be able to survive on what the full-time job pays me.
    Do you currently post on MT Daily or read it?

    I was thinking about paying the $48 but then I thought there are only limited amount of people who will pay so probably not as good as MTStars.  It was fun though before they started charging and if they only charged half as much they would draw more people.  $48 is way high when other boards are free.


    Please read the post at the top of page by
    See Msg.  You will love it.  It has quotes by all your liberal friends.  Pass it around.
    Sorry, I vented above before I read your post. nm
    nm
    I think YOU NEED TO SLOW DOWN AND RE-READ THE POST .
    Cherry picking is being done by the ROUTERS not you. CALM DOWN!
    read the thread. then post.
    i'll be editing and tell you what to do next. i hope you listen to me because i will make your life 100% better with my advice. i know everything if only you will listen.
    My post was not to you! I know how to read than you very much. It was to MQLOVER
    Now, you learn to read and figure out where my post was posted! She/he responded. You apparently cannot figure out who is responding to who!
    ok I went back and re-read your post.

    You have 2 toddlers who need daycare.


    You have a teen (the childsupport)


    You have $350 roomie but that + disappears with his costs of living there.  and I would be scared to count on it.


    You have $9500 CC bill which that payment is probably about $200 a month.


    At $42,000 that is not solid money - it is PT monies. 


    1.  Can the BF come up with his probable court-ordered child support of at least $1000 a month? 


    2.  Do you make car payments?


    3.  How much is your student loan payment - and for how much longer?


    4.  Do you have a degree in something?  Should you stay in transcription? 


    5.  Can you make the house payments if the BF finks out on the child support in 2 years if your 16 yo moves out and gets married and doesn't attend college?


    6.  You will be at an expensive time in your life with the 1 and 2 YO/ who will then be 3 and 4 years old by then and still needing day care.


    7.  A house is expensive upkeep.  And much energy.


    I agree with the others.  Don't jump the gun here.  Take care of one thing at a time.  Get yourself into a situation where you won't be stressed if there comes a blip in the road - like you break your arm - or the car tears up - or you need an emergency root canal - one of the kids breaks a leg and you need to stay home.  There are a million things. 


    I would rent, move BF out, get childsupport started from him to see how that goes, re-look at the budget.


    when the FT job comes around, and if you feel it is the one for you and they are good for the money, then look at the house.  You must live for you, not the 16 YO. 


    By then you will have your FT monies coming in, the child support coming in, you will know what your extra income is, you will have all your insurances in place and leave time built up, and a house may be good by then.  Also, the market is overvalued right now.  They are saying people buying right now may be buying things that won't be worth what they paid for them in a year. 


    Do you have any family you could stay with at all for 6 months.  You need some breathing space, girl. 


    Again, good luck.


    Never mind. Just read your post further down.
    Glad to know they gotta go.
    I just re-read my post ROFL !
    I am laughing so hard I'm crying. I'm a stickler for misspellings and I typed the word "tole" instead of "told"!!! Am I suthern or wut?? Egad!
    I read a post on here recently that one MT
    rooms in her house (I think a guest room and office) and moves from room to room with different accounts. If you have the $, I think that would be neat!
    Why don't you read the post before you blast it?
    ???
    That pic is too distracting, had to read the post twice.(nm)
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    Did you read Paulette's post below?
    Sorry, I don't think you're going to get sympathy here today. Brace up and good luck honey.