Well, I am the parent and I run my house sm
Posted By: I run my household on 2005-08-02
In Reply to: What a lot of these brats need is SM - Hate today's kids
My kids are told to speak only when spoken to, and if they talk back in anyway, I smack them in the mouth. Granted, they are teens and not toddlers. In their teens, they try to push it to the limit no matter what situation. My kids know not to push!
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ok-could be your parent for sure...LOL...sm
32 !!! A mere babe in arms *S* and yes, old enough here to be YOUR MOM!!! Too funny!!! 
I am a foster parent of 3, have been for about
a year and a half now. I would highly recommend you try to place you children with family or a good friend before turning to the state. After seeing how the system works, IMO, it is not a very good one. I would hate to see you lose your kids because you asked them for help. Two of my FC are about to get terminated from their parents, their mother of which put them in care for "help" and is now going to lose her kids.
There are many, many programs out there to help you. I'm not sure how long you have been married or really what the situation is but given the fact that you are considering this for children tells me you are a decent person because you don't want them on the street. Call a family member or a friend and ask if you and the children can stay with them. You might have to consider placing (or leaving) your husband somewhere else until you can get back up on your feet.
Go to your local welfare office, they might be able to get you something short-term. Try, try hard to keep your family together.
God bless you and your family. I hope things turn out and the world seems like a better place. Just know that we are all hear praying for you!
I think she is very much a good parent, and I don't
see how she is treating them as pets.
Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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It's not a parent's job to entertain their children 24/7.
Back in the olden days, parents AND children did chores from morning until night. They didn't play, go to the movies, own electronics or do ANYTHING fun. Chores, chores, chores all day long. The kids worked right alongside their parents. Church on Sunday. They didn't have neighborhood kids parading through the house without an invitation. They might have gone on an occasional picnic or square dance, but that's it. Children aren't supposed to be in charge. Parents aren't supposed to entertain their children 24/7 and give in to their every whim. At least her kids are having fun instead of being left home ALONE with a list of chores to do while Ma and Pa go to town for supplies.
A parent's job is to raise a child but....
I've been in that boat, too. Chore lists didn't help. Taking anything away didn't help. Holding their allowance didn't help. Going on strike didn't help. All I ended up was triple the work.  . It was their job to bring in wood for the stove to keep warm. I left the fire go out one night. That got their attention when they woke up and it was only 50 degrees in the house (pretty warm considering it was 0 outside). Never had to worry about heat anymore, but the other stuff....well...
At that time, I held down 2 full time jobs and 1 job at home typing college books part time. (I was young, so could handle it). Well, one day I sat them down and told them that if they EVER wanted to go out on their own, they would have to know how to clean, wash clothes, iron, cook, etc. I taught them how to cook the basics. I showed them how to do everything else. Well, they still didn't pitch in....didn't know what else to do so I left all their stuff alone. Stopped doing their wash and closed their bedroom door. Ignored them when they asked for something like they did me.
My guys all went out on their own between age 18-21. You should have seen their place. Spotless and they did it all themselves. Now that they are all married, my boys cook meals for their wives at least once or twice a week. They help their wives clean and do all the stuff I wish they would have done at home. But, you know what? That's fantastic. I know I taught them something that stayed with them and all my DIL's love me for it. 
Now, all I have to do is get hubby trained. I'm still supermom to him even though he often states "I don't know how you do it all."
My opinion is not to worry about it. If they are embarrassed, they may do something. If not, then when their friends come around, just mention, "I'm sorry the house is such a mess but since I work 2 jobs, I just don't have time to do everything else." They might get the message then.
Have become a single parent...how to survive
Hello.
First, I want to apologize if this is not on the right board. I wasn't sure where to put it.
Second, I am not looking for pity...just advice.
I have two wonderful children (a 5 year old and a 5 month old) who are my life and because of that I have left there father (verbally abusive to everyone) to make a better life for all of us. I am a new MT (have only been in the business for 4 months now and make enough to pay rent but that is all. With an infant it is hard to work during the day so I start my work around 7pm and work until it is done. I am not that fast yet but am gaining speed and could handle another small account. Can anyone tell me how they have made single parenting work as an MT or have any ideas on how to make it work, please. I am deperate to stay home with them. Honestly, daycare cost would kill my paycheck if I had to work outside of the home and I am trying to stay off of government support.
I appreciate any help or advice I receive.
Thank you.
elder parent care
Of course I feel "responsible", even "obligated" to take care of my aging parents. They took care of me, now it's my turn to give back. However, I'm not in that position right now as my parents are both in their early to mid 60s, so don't require taking care of yet...so who knows how I'll feel when faced with that responsibility. But, I hope that I feel the same way I do now. My husband and I have discussed more than once perhaps buying a larger home with an in-law suite to accommodate our aging parents.
If only more of us would take the responsibility of taking care of our elderly parents, then perhaps we would not hear of some of the horrors that happen to the elderly such as getting bilked out of their life savings, being abused in a nursing home, having accidents while trying to take care of themselves, etc...Thanks for the thought provoking question....have a wonderful day! 
This sounds like a parent talking...
I never want anyone to think I am yelling at them, even if something is a MAJOR no-no.
The above is what the poster wrote. I am not saying that I don't think her approach is good. I am just stating that words like MAJOR no-no are as if she is talking to a child. That's all I was pointing out. I don't like baby talk when it comes to being professional. Do we not strive for professionalism in this business?
So, some of you here like being talked to like a baby? That makes QA so special and great?
A little please and thank you goes a long way. I don't need a QA person to be sugary sweet to get the point. We are adults here.
As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
I don't think it is cruel to admit your remaining parent - sm
into a nursing home. Those that think its terrible are just concerned with appearances I think, that and guilt themselves if they ever thought about it. My mom put her mom in a nursing home after she could not care for herself. My grandma actually thrived there. They got her off all her medication and she was felt a lot better, even got engaged to get married again, but broke it off shortly before she died. We lived in PA and her mom in FL. My mom's (adopted) family thought she was such a terrible person for putting her "mom" in a nursing home. My mom's adopted parents did not treat her well at all, would never tell her much about the adoption when she eventually found out about it in the 1950s (smell of scandel somewhere, this was 1935) and my grandparents never really ever wanted children. Needless to say my mom has a less than ideal childhood but she took care and upheld her "responsibilities". Some people take in their parent(s) because they want to make sure the $$$ if there is any stays in the family (or goes to them). I know that is the wheel turning in my DHs brain about his parents, though he says they would never re-marry after the death of the other. His mom has told me she will not remarry, but you never know do you. I think he is wrong about his dad though, I think his dad would do the exact same thing my dad did, i.e. remarry within a year of the mom/wife passing and say bye-bye to any substantial inheritence on a re-marriage. In my case I will "lose" (my husband's thinking) out on about $140K which my husband deeply resents unfortunately. It has caused a lot of distention in the last 2 years between me and my DH that is. I am cool with my dad, it's his life and money; and I have pointed out to him a zillion times that inheritence is a gift, not a right. But yes, to be honest it is disappointing, but as my DH expects to get close to $1 mil from his parents I think we will survive (in a way I hope they disinherit him). Greed can cause all sorts of problems. Along with responsibility comes motive in some cases. I do not want to take in either of my DHs parents, but his fear/greed will induce him to have whichever one is left move in with us probably in the next 5-10 years (they are 76 and 71 right now). Sad.
I'm a current foster parent in Georgia and...sm
have e-mailed you to contact me so I can answer your questions.
I agree. Sounds like a controlling attention-seeking parent so
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Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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Yes.. In my house! nm
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DQS in-house
I would think this is a dream come true. DQS can be used/bought by independent companies including hospitals and it doesn't necessarily mean that MQ is taking over the account or has anything to do with the MTs on staff at the hospital. Hopefully this is the case for the OP, because that is wonderful.
Also, regarding the demographic field, she is probably familiar with the little things of the hospital that sometimes MQ MTs struggle with, especially those of us with multiple accounts, like who dictates for whom, doctors who put in their wrong IDs, who gets copies and who doesn't, etc.
I hope MQ doesn't mess with the account too, because she, IMO, has the perfect set-up because DQS is really a pretty decent program and to be able to work on ONE account, in-house, would be my dream come true, anyhow! :-)
Oh, but maybe she should be warned that DQS is a speech recognition platform...
in-house
they are sending the supervisors or "workflow coordinators" (as they are referred to now) to work at home also. Those of us who cannot achieve the line quota are "offenders." I feel like I work for the devil himself. Not a good feeling :(
I do, my house is about as big as (sm)
a bachelor apartment. It benefits me in the long run.
Get out of the house once in a while.
I get depressed, too, but I've got kids, animals, and everything else running around underfoot making messes. Do you have any friends or family you can get together with for coffee? What about puttering around a bookstore for a while?
Is this your first house?
If so plenty of programs available through Fannie Mae or FHA for first home buyers. If not look for a "rent-to-own" deal, usually sold by investors. You pay an "option" of usually about 5K to rent out the house for a year while you work on qualifying for a mortgage. Then a percentage of your rent each month is put towards your downpayment. The house is yours, and after a year if you qualify you have your home. Great program for those who have some bucks but not many of us can afford 20% on anything!!! Good luck.
Yes, but who does them in-house?
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House
I think House is very loving. I think he realized that Mark loved and needed Stacy more than Stacy loved and needed Mark, that Stacy really didn't know what she wanted and would regret it if she left Mark. Finally, the fact that Stacy had left him, House, before and now just wanted to keep him in the wings made him realize he had to put it to rest.
I think will free House up for someone else - hopefully not Cameron, she really needs someone her own age. It was creepy to see them on their date last year - looked a Dad with his daughter.
No. If in-house - yes! nm
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We had them at our first house
We didn't plant them, but they were probably about 5 to 10 years old when we bought the house. We sold the house about 8 years later. A couple of them at that time had already died, and they all died within a few years after that and had to be cut down.
They are very nice to look at and grow fast. I did not have any problems with "sucker shoots", they all grew upwards. The trees also do take the wind very well, never any broken branches, etc. If you need a quick fix, I would certainly recommend them. Only downside is that they are not very long-lived.
In-house MT job - sm
I would like to take a part-time in-house MT job. Unfortunately, there a few jobs out there. The local hospital has an ad for a full-time MT position. I had applied there many years ago and withdrew my application. The pay was quite low and the hours were not flexible at all. For example, one hour for lunch meant one hour for lunch!
I wondered if I should apply and tell them I am only interested in part-time, not full-time and see if they are interested. Or should I just assume that they are still very rigid in their thinking? I don't want to waste their time or mine but really would like to go in-house a few days a week at this point.
What do you think? TIA
Either it's your house or it's not.
Do not do any work to it at all until it is yours, in your name, and you own title. Period. Until that happens they are free to do what they want with THEIR house. They haven't cared about the condition of it thus far, so why should you until it's yours and you will reap the benefits of whatever money and elbow grease you put into it. They are not giving anything away until someone else's name is on the title. Don't let them continue to manipulate you. If their house isn't worth it than don't bother. If you can afford to put money into their cra!py old house you can afford to put money toward a new one of your own. They sound like truly selfish people and they are not going to change at this stage in their lives, are they? You seem to have the brains of the bunch. Put those brains to use. Get your own game plan to take care of you and yours and forget the rest. I speak from experience. You cannot change the pepole around you, only how you react to them.
I do not want an in-house job
I was only inquiring as to how companies hire employees and those employees may work more than 40 hours/week and not have to pay OT. I think for the most part the ? has been answered.
She needs to get out of the house...
and make some friends in her new town. Maybe part-time preschool for the oldest, if not old enough for school, and she could meet some people that way. Or check out different churches. Or She definitely needs to meet new people near her. Until she establishes some kind of life where she is, she will continue to pine for the old life she left. Has she met any neighbors yet? Maybe visit a garage sale, even if she doesn't need anything, just to be out with people?
and when she is done with your house
send her over my way! That is wonderful. I wish I could get, and stay, that organized myself. ![You](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_32_7.gif")
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When I am in-house
Yes, I have to answer phones, take care of nurses, reception, billing all bringing me questions or requests, research doctor's addresses, phone numbers, splice tapes back together that have broken (yes, we still use tapes and work on WordPerfect 5.1!!), fix computers when they go screwy, etc. etc. At home it is soooo much more peaceful and stressless!
When I was in-house sm
I transcribed reports on friends, coworkers, people I knew in the community....I tried to keep my mouth shut as much as possible. But when you learn that a friend has breast cancer....it's hard.
going in house sm
Make sure you know exactly what you are getting into and have it all in writing. I had given up a very successful IC position to go into one of my hospitals. As an IC I was treated well, but when I went in house I was treated like I came to steal the silverware. I was promised there was a need for me and they would be pleased to have me. I did not get this in writing. The insiders hated my guts, had the job posted and and all the night shift and weekenders scooped up the hours, leaving me with only weekend hours and holidays. I went through the mill that year because I made such a wrong decision. Be sure you know what you're getting into. I hate to scare you, but be armed with backup in print, in black and white, before you give up your home office. You are used to working alone. I did not know people could be not only so mean-spirited but they were not of my caliber concerning professional behavior. Be prepared to deal with the witches of the world should you have to. I was not prepared for the change. Perhaps you will be more fortunate than I. I made a terrible mistake and gave up a lot. I had to leave and start all over again. It was not easy and not worth it.
new job in and out-house
Well, I did it! I start with SoftScript at the end of the month. Although there are fears and all that, I have done the right thing getting out of the unhappy in-house job I was in. It's a big gamble, but I feel right about it.
I'm posting here to tell you if you want an in-house job, check the job board at a certain hospital in Central Illinois, near Morton, IL. A big, Catholic hospital. I think there are actually 2 Transcription jobs open. The benefist are great. The rest of it is OK to absolutely unbearable. You'll see. I don't think I'm allowed to name the hospital. But the job is on the job board of the hospital web site. Good luck, I guess. Pray for me, as I will for everyone who gave me advice.
in-house
I have found that working in-house for a hospital usually pays better than working at home for a service.... in some ways. The hospitals I have looked at pay a decent hourly wage, but if you are a seasoned Transcriptionist and work on accounts that you are familiar with you can make more being paid by the line. I have always worked by the line and when I first started out I didn't make crap. I expected this though. And now I don't do too bad. I actually make more than I would if I worked in-house at one of the local hospitals and I have the benefit of being at home. I save money on gas, "work" clothes, etc.. So I guess what I am saying is that maybe you should try to find something in-house for a while to have that guaranteed hourly wage. Just a suggestion.
in-house
You're right - in-house is wonderful pay - but the downside is giving up the comfort of home. I made $19.00 an hour at a hospital job, but don't like working in the same room with other MTs - usually can't get your work done unless you are a die hard. You get the urge to chit chat and the hospitals do require a quota. Don't get me wrong.. it does have its good points.
in-house pay
It depends on so many things. I worked "in-house" (was actually working at home for a hospital that had in-house MT dept). Got paid by the hour, so depending on your production, you might make more by working in-house (if you produced less), or more at home (if you had higher production). It depends, too, on the hourly pay scale -- the hospital I worked for I think was pretty much known for lower pay, in all professions, at their hospital
However, with working at home, I always factored in $$ I was saving by not spending $$ for gas, etc., and since I did not drive, I did not have a separate car either (insurance, etc.), so this helped "raise" my salary. Also, at home did not have to spend money for "work clothes", could wear my jeans, etc., again saving $$.
Also, even though I worked at home, and had "set hours", there was some lee-way in there, so if I felt tired, I could easily take a break and rest for a while -- much more relaxing.
Actually ,yes I do own a very nice house and car.
because I'm good at my job and make good money. Why is that so hard to believe?
Not at my house it isnt!
lol
any suggestions how to get them out of the house?
We've had our house professionally sprayed inside, outside, and entire yard 2 times already this month. This morning I got up to about 80 ants in my shower, and the other day I killed well over 200 on my desk while I was trying to work! Anyone have any ideas?
Let them live in YOUR house then (sm)
I don't want them in mine.
In house transcription
A friend of mine recently left MQ and went in house too with benefits paid by the hospital and starting at $17.00/hour, however, in my area there are no hospitals that have in house transcriptionists, so I either have the choice of traveling more than one hour each way on heavily traveled freeways each day or staying at home and working. I choose to stay home. If the two hospitals in my area ever go back to in house, you bet I will be the first in line for an interview.
I do now and then, mostly stuff about the house but have been looking
for additional $$. Know what I want to do and currently researching finding suppliers, preferably here in the U.S. I'll be happy with an extra few hundred, but if it takes off...... I'll take that too!
I wish I could go back in house
I worked in-house in Florida and we made a base of 14 (this was back from 1997 to 2000), with $1 per hour more for everything over 500 lines per day to a top of 18.00 per hour PLUS 8 cpl for anything after 1000 lines per day. I made 1300 biweekly take home plus another 1500. monthly bonus. You could get up and stretch, talk to coworkers, etc. Now the circulation in my legs is shot, my hands are nearly non functional, and for nothing!
sounds like my house
I have a lab, husky and shepherd mix. The lab would be sitting on my lap if I let him!
When I bought my house....sm
one if my requirements was that there had to be a room that was decent enough to use for my office. In order to qualify for the IRS home office deduction you can't use your office as a bed room or anything else.
I have the best view in the house in my office - I can see outside to the flower garden and also see the road so I can watch the people and cars going by during the day.
It is HIS house, I do the moving
He owns this house. It is too expensive for me to live here. It is an older home, needs work, expensive to heat. I work 5 pm to 2am. So evenings and nights. He puts kids to bed. I and kids wake up at 9am. Kids go to bed at 10pm.
And, there is nothing...I say N O T H I N G to rent in my daughter's school district (I've already moved her twice) and I am staying in this district til she graduates or if I am settled, for the duration of little kids' schooling.
Nope, don't have any interest in being Radiology Director of a 300+ bed hospital. Sorry.
Thanks for post.
Me too! It's so gratifying, fun, and gets us out of the house!
:)
It has not been long since I was in house
There were five day time MTs, all female. Two were Jehovah's Witnesses, one Seventh Day Latter Saint, one wild N crazy seeing a married man, one living with a guy who was cheating on her. The air was thick with gossip. Each of them looked at each others numbers and concluded they were goofing off or chosing easy work. Some refused to take part in collections for b-day cakes and xmas holidays but would snack on the food when no one was looking. The paranoia was unreal. The meetings were finger pointing. The only happy time of the day was when the 5 o'clock whistle blew. Until then, your coworkers listened for your keyboard to stop making clicking sounds, watched the clock while you took a break, monitored how logn you were at doctor's offices. Any failure to do somethign or appear to not do something ended up with somebody going to the supervisor anonymously. It was HELL.
I wish kids came to our house...
but we are at the end of the road, several blocks from the last house before ours. For many years I bought candy, and the kids just didn't come. :( I love to see them all dressed up cute - especially the ones from about 4-8 or so. I never even buy candy for Halloween now.
Does anyone pay someone to clean their house? sm
If so how often do they clean for you and how much do you pay them? What size home do you have? i.e. 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, living room, dining room and kitchen?
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