Well this is certainly a new one to me. sm
Posted By: Rachel on 2005-08-16
In Reply to: My niece is getting married later this month BUT they are - me
If I were the relative being invited, I would give the nice gift for the wedding that is taking place next month, for a few reasons. First, plans have a way of changing. They may not be able to save enough for a dream wedding next year, and it may never happen. She may get pregnant and won't want to be in a fairytale wedding big and preg, or, may already have a baby by then. God forbid, the marriage may fall apart before the dream wedding next year. As well, I wouldn't want them to have to wait for the "real gifts" for a year. Whatever I would normally give for a wedding gift, I would give at the first wedding. And, I wouldn't feel obligated to give a second gift next year just because they're throwing another wedding (which in all reality will be a renewal of vows, NOT a wedding). As I understand it, engagement gifts aren't required/necessary...a nice gesture, certainly, but not at all an obligation. At most of the engagement parties I have been too, most guests simply brought wine. No need to be extravagant..that's what the showers and wedding are for.
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